Narcissists Abandon You. Therefore, You Must Leave, Go No Contact And Understand The Difference.
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Narcissistic abuse looks like:
Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.
Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:
Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.
Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.
Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.
Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
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You can’t help or save them because, really, you already did. You offered them the love, acceptance, peace and security that they’ve looked for all their lives, and you would have never given up on them. You saved them! But they can’t make any use of those things. They live in a world of suspicion, blame, deception, anger and rage. And if you press them or hold them accountable, they can quickly and explosively become psychopathic and psychotic. You did your part - you saved, loved, helped. A normal, loving person would value and savor that for eternity. But not them. You did right. Now let it go...
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Thank you, i did my absolute best but got discarded anyway, she told me she was unhappy, there is no winning here.
💯 Beautifuly said
Yeah but you can really heart yourself because you are a human also
I so needed to read your post❤️ I’ve helped my sis her entire life, through drug addiction, pregnancies ( adopted and raised her daughter), her violent outbursts towards me...ect. I’ve taken her back into my life countless times only to be bitten and attacked over and over. As a Christian I did all I could do, gave her love, grace and direction. But I’m letting her go now. I’m 65, she’s 61, this has gone on since she was 13! I love her and pray for her..but I’m done being her raft and punching bag😢
Cutting contact is the only option. They don't care, they will never admit their own wrongdoing, they'll pin the whole thing on you, and they've already jumped into bed with your replacement.
This is what happened to me month Ago. She found someone else, told me she never Wanted to be with me in the first place , and its all my fault. We have been together for 5 years. I dont remember her being nice to me. 😢
@@katarzynaukasiak3927they are evil
@@katarzynaukasiak3927I hate to sound like a victim blamer here, but IF it took you 5 years to figure that out, you have to take half the blame here. (Why in the world were you there for 5 years when she was "never once nice"?!)
@@GuitarMatt we don’t know why. But thousands do the same. It’s called cognitive dissonance. It’s a reaction to the love bombing then the abuse and discard.
Yes
I FEEL NO REGRET GOING NO CONTACT!
I THANK GOD FOR PLUCKING HIM OUT OF MY LIFE!!!!
Garbage takes itself out Carrie,I thank God
Amen! Ditto
Absolutely.
I feel like God said "this is enough."
AMEN AND AMEN!
Yes, this resonated with me. In a nutshell, narcissists are like fleas -- they jump on you when you're available and suck the lifeblood out of you -- then they jump off when they see another source. After they've sucked the other source dry, they jump back on you just as you're starting to heal from those wounds. They also give you fleas!😖🦟(Darn, I don't have a flea emoji.😕)
They give fleas a bad name. Lol
Peace Joy or a tick who gets bigger and bigger the more they suck the blood out of you.
Lie down with dogs.
Lol! Love that! Flea emoji's, lol!
Great Analogy!!!
My ex-husband abandoned me brutally way before the divorce. He neglected me, and despised taking care of me when I was sick. I had to take care of myself. Long story short.. I finally had enough of the abuse and filed for divorce. Life hasn’t been easy but God has given me more peace than I’ve had in many years. Thank you JESUS!!!
I feel you my husband did almost the same I’m still trying to put the pieces together 🙏🏼
This is why I have been no contact for 2 and 1/2 years. I don't think I will ever contact him ever again. I am doing well. No stress. Just enjoying my best life.
Hallelujah!,,, isn’t this the truth !,,,,,FREEDOM!!!!!!🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Good for you.
@Mr. Happy yes, I know. Still it's very sad that people have to treat each other that way.
Same here. Bye 😈
Don't. Mine tried to hoover me at the 2 year mark... unsuccessfully. Less than 3 weeks later he was back to the one he discarded me for. But not before he trashed her name to me during hoover attempt. They really never change.
"No contact" is a spiritual fortification.You Must hold your ground.Not out of anger,vindication or even cloursure.Just for you,You have the high ground now,Take it,It belongs to you.
Thank you
Amen.
Thank you
YOU HAVE ONE LIFE. TAKE YOUR POWER AND LIVE OUT YOUR DESTINY.
Its difficult to get over the fact that I allowed them to use and abuse me. I dont know how to reconcile that in my heart.
I struggled with this too bc I worked on myself for years after several narcs and got duped again with another bc he was so fake. But I found the “cracks in my boundaries” and I should have walked much sooner. Don’t be hard on yourself: it’s all a learning process
Dawn, The best thing that has worked for me; is that I had to forgive myself. I forgive them as JESUS commands, yet forgiving yourself let's you understand that you are human and they are masters at what they do. It's not your fault. Forgive yourself 🤗♥️GOD BLESS YOU 😇
Dawn you're not alone, I never heard of narcissism and now realized I spent yrs with a narcissist and in hindsight after watching tons of videos, this was all about me being the raft to him. I kept getting upset, then I saw a video about narcissist mothers/ fathers and bingo ...this guy was damaged to the core by these 2 ppl. It's gonna take time to get stronger. It will happen.
Be safe and enjoy your day.😊
If You Can Have Compassion For The Devil....Surely You Can Have Mercy On Yourself....That's What Forgiveness for. People Give Forgiveness To The Wrong Ones Who Could Careless And Won't Change NEVER!
@@Eg-jd9zt Exactly! I had to face myself and see the cracks in my former boundaries too. After the fact. (I finally got so fed up that I finally discarded once and for all)
Narcissist discard is the best gift from the narcissist but the way they do this is so humiliating.
@@mira99ist yes it is but for some the discard is to murder you. If you get out alive you are lucky. Just like all the other stuff they do sneaking behind your back, they can just as easily be planning your murder. This is how absolutely cold and evil they are.
Trust me. Its a blessing in disguise.
Even Marriage is Temporary, it is only for financial gain. MONEY makes the MASK Slip!
More than money. The whole thing with Narcissists is to keep a facade to the people they use to supply them with telling them they are still a good person. They use marriage as a way to gain small supply from the spouse while they look for new better supply or quick highs. Then when they think they have found a better supply they discard you but use you to make it appear they were the ones abused and that they had to get out. That way when they bring the new supply the people close to them won't judge them as much because they will believe their facade. The money is just extra gains if they get it.
Zachary Kassner you are correct but they do need the money.. my going to Cheater wife who was caught will get 50% of my hard earned money. When I saw her emails to the lawyer she even wanted money from my woodworking tools? This gentleman is bang on? She was exposed and the new supply left her after using her! She came back and I did forgive her but my PTSD kicked in and I had flashbacks and I said stuff to her! I’m still paying for her apartment and everything?? I need to stop and put an end?
EXACTLY 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
MONEY + others gains
@@rakeshbhansali4907 Yes !!!!!!!!
Yup that is why it is wise to marry someone who is devoted and loves God because as Jesus says you can not serve both God and money. You will hate one or love the other. You will be devoted to one and neglect the other. Someone who loves money looks at people really shallow and as objects and something you can do for them because they see in perspective to how money makes them see the world but when you love God you love the things God loves which is people and not money and materialism but righteousness and love, humbleness. These things are life but money can not produce the things of life that only comes from God.
Highly UNSTABLE people
They are a mess
One minute they love you, the next they dont
Natalia Oksztul oh no.. they NEVER loved and don’t know how to... narciss fell in love with his own reflection... we are the water or the raft :-)
Nope, they're going to reject that to you or me because we DARE to challenge their DOGma of worshipping themselves (while pretending not to at the same time)
Yes they are sick
Your message is GOLD to someone with any sort of intelligence
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Beware of Narcs!!!! Absolutely true, better get it soon before you become another "victim" of their evil personality. Manipulation all over the place, don´t believe a single word, its only lies, lies, lies, run as long as you still can. And be aware of the trauma bonding, really dramatic, don´t underestimate.
Abandonment and rejection never felt soooooo good!😊
Yep, they also bully and abuse their rafts when they are riding them
Yea definitely bullies
Lisa Schofield I've noticed that not all rafts are treated equal, so to speak, though, as I've been abused before, or more than others. 🙁
They jump off, usually when we need a friends support the most. So true.
The hardest part is dealing with character assassination and flying monkeys afterward.
You will never ever figure them out. Trust me. Give it up. Life is short and precious and you have so many more rewarding things you could be doing for your own life and for the lives of people who deserve your love ❤️
@@annclairepahlavi7622 100%! I wasted so much time trying to figure him out so I can help him. Only to be hated more and thrown out like garbage. What a waste of time. You can never, ever win.
i’ve never felt so understood, reassured, and connected when it comes to this topic. SOMEONE gets it. thank you so much, sir. wow.
I made the important link that because I was attracting Narcissists it meant I was wounded and groomed to take abuse by my family who I realized were narcissists. Find this out, it's the beginning of making sense of it all.
Yes ,, I’m finding this out now ,, it’s all so clear !
Totally the way of it! It’s shocking at first and a bitter pill to swallow. You in NO WAY deserved, provoked KNOWINGLY any ill treatment for yourself! You were TRAINED to take IT!
You might be interested in Toxic Parents and Mothers Who Can't Love by Susan Forward.
very true
No we don't attract narcissists; narcissists attract us.
Note: the raft is a great metaphor. But it's a little more like if they are clinging to you, they are on TOP of you. So they will desperately try to get that sweet oxygen, while drowning you in the process. They won't even check to make sure that you're breathing, as long as they're ok.
THEY ONLY THINK ABOUT THEMSELVES AND DON'T CARE HOW THEIR BEHAVIOR AFFECTS YOU.
They are bullies on an adult playground. They do not deserve any of your time or attention or anything at all. Get out there and make a good life for yourself, you certainly deserve love kindness fun respect❤️. Take good care of you❤️
Amen, you are absolutely right
I was used by a Narcissist for ten years. Yes she abandoned me twice. She was toxic. She used me & totally abused me. I have now left her. I have severed all contact with her. I’m done. She has no empathy, sympathy, respect, understanding & she wants total control. She’s cold, cruel & downright selfish. I’d not be surprised if she tried at some point she try for a third time to try to woo me back again... 😡😡😡
I like the simplicity of these videos. No music, no pictures or (annoying and irrelevant) video scenes. Just you and the camera. Insane skill you have. Good job Kevin. Simple, to the point and fresh.
You nailed it, your presentation is excellent, is exactly like you said. I lived with a narcissist for 8 years, I was the happiest person, because he made me feel like a Queen, nobody treat me better than he did, until he didn't. In my case I left him before he jumped out of my draft. He was dangerous.
Second time around is worse did that and I regret it broke into my home and robbed me NEVER TAKE THEM BACK THEY'RE NOT HUMAN!!!!
SMART!!! TRUE,TOO.....They are NOT human....they are demons from their ‘father, the devil’. Their life is hell and their mission is to drag you there with them. “To seek, to kill and destroy “is their goal John 10 version e 10 BUT!!! The rest of the verse says “god came to give us life abundantly” 😊😊 CHOOSE HIS OFFER AND LET THE EVIL ONES GO‼️🥰 Ask His Help & protection🥰✝️☮️
Oh, my goodness! This describes my husband !He comes back and forth but it is only beneficial to him. When things get rough; he bails. Then if things go downhill with someone else; he wants to come back. I am always left holding the bag. He is always ahead of the game.
I am the raft.
Its true.. in all the videos I've watched so far regarding NPD, there's just no good news in relationships like this. It all leads down a road of destruction. No future.. we're all here because we were once victims. No More. Let go and Let Jesus handle it. We attract what we are. God bless y'all take care..
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Best description of my experience in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. Thank you!
Certainty equals boredom for them. They get bored w faithful trustworthy people. They’re truly disordered. Good that you know now so you can leave and create a life for yourself that’s fun to wake up to every morning.
They are disordered
It's hard when you're left abused by these monsters. Then you have to deal with the emotions of being used. My Mother, husband, brother etc. You said it Kevin, "Taken for a ride." As I look back and now know I was just a Raft, Wow! I have thrown these suckers in the water, sink or swim oh well. Not my business,not my problem. JESUS has called me to a life of Peace, Joy, Prosperity and Health. No more free rides!!! GOD BLESS YOU KEVIN😊
My husband desecrated every area of my life. ...then proceeded to abandoned myself and our 3yr old twins, running off with one of his numerous mistresses, without batting an eyelid.
You are EXACTLY right. My mother did this as my Father was dying. She kicked me to the curb AGAIN in favor of my evil sister in law. There was no room for me at the family table during the funeral dinner and I was not told there was going to be a gathering at my family home after the funeral. I found out that my mother was moving to Florida to live with my brother and his evil wife. Who now BTW is emotionally abusing my mother. ( Actually she's not letting her get away with all the drama she's creating. SIL is trying to make my mother accountable. HA good luck with that!) But I went no contact after the funeral and have not responded to my mother's guilt pleas for being rescued from her toxic living arrangements that she insisted upon. So....ya made your bed now lie in it!
I'm glad I found you on here. I'm going through this with a narc. He says we don't get along, but wants to still be my friend. He's got that right, we don't get along. He stays angry with me because he can't control me.
The bad thing is I've been friends with his mom for 20 year's. That's what gets me.
Shirley Spencer,You deserve better 🙏
I’ve watched oh so many videos on narcissism. This is hands down one of the BEST. This helped me so much. 🙏🏻💙
"...Period. End..." That part
Raft analogy was 🔥
Perfect analogy. I was his raft for 23 years. Thank God, Not Anymore. I’m grateful, I’m blessed and life is beautiful.
I'm listening to this for the third time. The guilt of leaving was so overwhelming. But, now I understand the tough decision between saving myself and trying to save someone who is determined to drown.
Thank you for this video, I met my ex wife when she was living paychecks to paycheck i was skeptical talking to her, but when I met her daughter my heart melted.she is mentally disabled because from what she told me a former boyfriend beat her child badly she will never be able to function on her own.I helped her thru nursing school she never had to pay any Bills why she was in school. Constantly cheating on me I once ended up with chalymidia, Because of her all the things I lost being with this person. All the it was either a guy from her past or the weed connect, even though I didn't smoke weed. Always would add new males to her facebook page once she became a nurse treated me like shi@. I am glad I am away from her my life is in a better place now
Well said brother I have never heard anyone put it like this. I have just awaken to narc abuse as a man. I feel like I'm in a zombie movie and waking up just to realize, all along I am the light and they been feeding off me but wat they don't kno is that I am on a mission to destroy them.
great analogy, it also applies to those people who abandon you even if they are only slightly narcissistic
It’s crippling when it’s your mother especially when they get old because you really are leaving them for dead it took me a long time to realize, Honor your mother and father, if I were doing it to my kids I would want them to honor me and not follow me into the fire 🔥🙏🏻
You might want to check out Mother's Who Can't Love by Susan Forward.
Yes , he was going through one of those abandoning phases . So, I left and have cut him out of my life .I am ignoring him . And that is how it's going to stay.
Great way to describe this. Unfortunately, I let narc back in several times through my life. Didn't know about narc and that they were a narc, seriously text book narc! Thank you for your teaching. Blessings and love and peace to all
easily the best analogy to date
Thanks for sharing your thoughts....so comforting words...👍👍👍
I'm still being stalked and afraid to share my pain
@@deeptyawasthy4156 If you are being stalked, talk with a police detective. They will advise you.
I know the difference because I had no choice but to run. There is this feeling that they make us like them when you hear such things as " you can not be authentic with the inauthentic " and grey rock them etc. But these tactics are life and soul saving. Good video.
This was very helpful. Thank you. For many reasons it is very hard to identify and hold onto the understanding of what is really happening when you engage with someone who demonstrates high narcissistic tendencies... first of all they don't self- identify as narcissists so it's not a matter of discovering a secret they are consciously holding from you. Very consistently confusing situation to be in especially if you are a giver.
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"You don't get to just invite yourself into and out of my life anymore like you used to." -the best line ever I heard a friend use towards an ex-wife. I need to use this towards the flying monkeys they recruited out of my social circle by my EX-family.
I'm on this channel for the same reason that Kevin probably formed it: lousy EX-family (they're still alive, but they're dead to me)
I knew it.....Rose on the Titanic (narc) should have moved over on the door......Jack🥶!!
Lol I thought the same with his analogy.
Wow I woke up this morning thinking about that scene 😱😳
Liz did you scoot over?
What a great way to explain it! I was in a 14-year hell relationship
Susan Servin,Hope you are not with a narcissist.....
A great analogy and truthfully great analogy of how narcissistic people function and all of it is true every syllable but you spoke is truth. Thank you so much for all of this love this TH-cam channel.🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
I have family members that do this. I want to be there but not enable. They need me, I don't need them. Love God, love each other.
Such a kick ass analogy thank you man 🙏🏽💯
As someone who has developed co dependency from early on as a child. This is something that is painful and difficult to do!
I'm sure she noticed this behavior in me from early on and I was just too willing to do whatever it takes to make
This relationship work. I fell in love with her beauty, her sex, her smile. We've had amazing times but the walking on eggshell times outweigh them. I pay for the vacations, meals and am constantly buying her gifts because I love to spoil the person I am with. I see it for what it is. It hurts but I will move on! Thank You!
I like what you said about the shame and guilt you are left with. Loving the Bible study!
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good analogy soon as they get supply or validation or realise you are not as good as their other supply they just ditch you
Just discarded for the 2nd time. Promised desire to change. Asked me to hold them accountable...I tried, they ultimately distanced from me, said nothing was wrong and I was told I think negative thoughts about them by saying that something must be wrong and I need to change and stop bringing up anything negative, then walked away 2 months later via text after 6 years together. These people can't handle real life outside what they think and want..they will take you for a ride for sure!! Starting to heal...again
They are intolerable - leave and don't ever let them back in!
Yes, I had a long distance relationship and was dumped anytime they wanted too until, I did a background check and found him out. He never answered his phone and a female answered.
thanks, i now understand who she is, she has made my life hell, no contact and i feel good and i don't want her back!!!
It feels good, but in my situation I still know he’s around with his new supply/victim at work that’s a harsh reminder, plus his friends I see them pop up. I will continue to mind my own business and ignore them, after all I don’t communicate with the DEAD!!😵 💀
Kevin, you are a Godsend. Keep up the great work of opening closed hearts and minds.
Maria Castillo,Hope you are not with a narcissist....
Yes this message is GOLD it is the most help I have received. I have been abandoned and destroyed many times by the narc in my life, this made me see what’s happening and do something about it. Forever grateful to you.
oh dear.....did I NEED this message today!! Thank you.
This was a great explanation that I needed. Thank you.
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Yes you are so right. I am no contact. No more free rides
Thank you. This is exactly who I have been for 3 decades. Done
Thank you so much for the insightful explanation, Kevin. It's the clearest analogy of the world we have been dealing with. God bless you.
My G.F of 6 months took her mask off 2 months ago. She broke up with me 3 times... She hoovered me 1 month ago with a really sweet apology.
1 week ago - she moved out of state in the middle of the night without telling me. After she was being the sweetest I've ever seen her.
I'm crushed - Leave these people before they leave you. Trust me
Yes I have had five of them, thank you for knowledge
Many for me. Im glad you survived. Take care of yourself. Hopefully that won't happen again
This is hard for me to accept, but I needed to hear it, and I needed to hear it in those exact words. Mostly because as i was listening to this...I always view HIM as the raft. He comes along and "rescues" me from the choppy water right before I drown in it... The ride is nice, and way calmer than when I was drowning... Until I get bumped off again...and then made to feel like it was my own fault for not hanging on tight enough. "Do better next time."
I am working on building my own raft. And one day when he bumps me overboard, and then circles back around to pick me up (right before I drown, and therefore am thankful for his rescue of me)...I won't be there.
But I'm not there yet. I'm still hanging out comfortable in his raft. Except...maybe along the way, I forgot that it *is* my raft afterall, and he just stole it from me. That definitely changes the game a bit.
Happy I found your channel. I look forward to seeing what I might learn about myself.
If no ones has told you this, you are more powerful than you think ❤️
I don't know how sincerely to type this...but...THANK YOUUUUUUU!!!
HA, 38 years of being a "raft" and finally i've left the stream
Oh shit. This made the most sense to me. I wasn’t wrong, I definitely see the narcissist in him now.
Hi Kevin! I really appreciate the content you so passionately share with us all. It is needed like life support! It is doing wonder for me. I was feeling like I was in the middle of the sea without any help.
Beautiful analogy - artful, accurate & spot-on! Thank you!
Your visual language really helps to understand what happened. Thank you.
excellent explanation and analogy. i understand a lot. thank you sir. now i''m in the stage of try to heal myself as an ''abandoned raft''
A person I know did the same thing. I told her the truth and she didn't take it well so she told me to leave her alone and I did. They texted me the other day but I'm standing my ground and not falling for it again. Be strong people 🙏
What I don’t really understand why do these narcs he/ she keep people they claim are not interested in around. The one I met it was doomed before we even hung out or have sex. I knew something was off the first couple weeks . Long story short he rudely basically told me he didn’t want me and he was talking to another girl at our job . I was feeling down and doing the whole what is wrong with me , but low and behold last month he slithers around at work on the floor I was on and made a point to get my attention, the audacity!! I will never understand.
sleep well tonight empaths. whenever you're in the middle of intense combat and the bullets really start flyin. the narcissist will be right behind you...every step of the way.
Are you a Narccissit?
Yes, using you as a shield.
@@dddd4731 exactly
Throwing you into the line of fire
Yeaa of course where you think the bullets coming from?
@@Mrs2cupz101 malignant narcissists are our sworn blood enemy that's trying to destroy us firing the bullets alright, but only the most naive would be foolish enough to believe the hobgoblins have not infiltrated our allied forces and are deeply entrenched and infested in our own encampments at night... ever hear of a traitor named judas?
Praise God for wisdom
It perfectly resonates with me right now...when I just received the THREAT OF LEAVING NOW.
Kevin, I am so glad... Thank God! To come across your videos! It's a life saver for me. 🙏🙏
I loved this analogy…powerful! Thank you!
Moving on.
Distancing myself i do look back to see where I was wrong. So I can improve. I loose co trol when someone I care about. Rejects me, or throw me away or blames me. After listening to myself & your video. I am looking ahead with achievements and proud to be me. I see the games, or the love was fun & games. Not in rhe soul or heart. I am like a child looking for true love. But question is. Will I e er be happy. Even if I find it??? No. Is because I crave total atte tion. At all times...oh oh. I said it. Lol. Love is not that!!! Lol
Yes
Look up borderline personality disorder
Married to a narc for 12 years and still with him with our 4-year old daughter 'til now...it was only for over 2 months I realized I am actually and have been suffering from narcissistic abuse since 2010...I know am not stupid to see the abuse but just didn't know what kind of mental issue he has, so I started to search about abusive relationships...
Being abandoned happened a lot of times to me:
-my daughter and I had COVID and he left us from the hospital and went home
-countless of instances ESPESCIALLY when I needed him the most, that is when he abandons me...
Recently he talked about leaving our relationship since I started show no interest, showing him flat emotion, not engaging, not playing his game any longer..
Please pray for me that God continues to protect my daughter and me, this narc husband abused me physically a number of times and my prayer is that he would leave without going explosive aggressive in his rage...
This is the most helpful video I have viewed and I have viewed a lot. Thank you again
She admitted that she had used me at the end of our relationship.
Everything was wrong and nothing were authentic when looking back.
The raft is a good analogy. The branch is literally their other children in the family tree, another great analogy. Thank you so much.
Thank you for your words helps me with the pain in all my life with this situation
THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!
Great analogy!! This is soooo true! Thank you again because I needed to hear this. You are greatly used of the Lord.
"This is my new branch
..ci cing... " i like to hear this one... its true they dont genuine feelings, so everyone is choose base on useable subject
This is the best explanation of a narcissists/ BPD mindset
Nailed it. Perfectly.
Keep elevating my standard and health
Kevin, does this also apply to narc parents who abandon their children? Are we devalued & abandoned because we don’t provide them adequate supply???
Yes. A narc is a narc is a narc. Sadly, their own children are just home grown sources of supply.
Yes, I guess. My mother abandoned us so many times throughout life, usually whenever she found a new man. Now, in old age, she desperately clings to me and, because I have compassion and love for her, I STILL feel responsible for "carrying" her. It's so very sad and difficult to deal with. I imagine it's easier to leave a toxic partner than a mother :(
Yes.
OMG 😲 I CAN So resonate with what you’ve just said good thing is I’ve just pushed him off the raft ... you see hr only tries to communicate with me when he needs money but in between he’s out there with his so called new branches. So over it !!! But I think im finally there. Thank you you have been a great help at the same time..🙏🙏🙏🙏😊
After abandoning me, he’d come out of the blue into my life to say he misses me and loves me and I believed him. But this last time he left me again and told me he wanted to move on.. threw me away like I was trash, again. Thank you for this video, gives me a new perspective.
Great teaching we need thank God for you for sharing
This wisdom with us👏🏽👏🏽👍🏽👍🏽❤️❤️
I💚this......friends and family have hopped on & off for decades.......going to put a hole in the life raft😃