I am a single mother. Widow with two kids. Perfectly explained the situation of single parents. Yes very true no self imposing majburi. Allah has given clear guidelines. Beshak single mother ke ooper Allah ka dayan haath hota hai. I am always under Allah's protection and direct help. And true k Allah khud teachers, mentors aur helpers designate karta hai for single a mother.
Me too I'm also a single mother of 4 little children. But I am so glad that Allahs help is with me always. My kids sometimes say things that tells me that they wanted to share their achievements with their father but they can't now as he passed away.
I m also single mother with two young girls for last 10 years..... and I cant say anything you all know hows conditions majboriyan family and society pressure which has no end but phir bhi we all alone in our trauma. How painfull it is that no one understand this condition. All kind of fears we bears just all alone.
I’m also a single mother with 3 kids. When you have a daughter at home you cant move forward and get married Bcz that man with whom you get married would be a نامحرم for your daughter.
its in a sense k Allah ne aurat k liye zyada security rkhi hy dunia mein , agr ap dekhen to Allah ne mard ko dunia mein sb kaam krne ka zima dia hy aur aurat ghar mein chaar diwaari mein reh k sb kregi security k sath , usko pardah ataa kia hy kiun k wo khud ko protect kr sake gheron ki nzr se, Prophet Muhammad pbuh ne bhi apne aakhri waqt mein aurat k baare mein dhikr kia tha
@@s1d33q الحمدللہ 💞 صحیح ، لیکن ، دیسستانی معاشرے میں ، خواتین کو اتنے حقوق میسر نہی آتے ہیں ، جو اللہ سبحانہ تعالیٰ نے ان کے لیئے رکھے ہیں ، خلافت قائم ہوگی ، باذن الله تعالٰی ، تو ہمیں اتنے حقوق نصیب ہوں گے ، باقی اللہ سبحانہ تعالیٰ کا دایاں ہاتھ ، 😍 تو مجھے ساحل عدیم بھائی پر نظر آ رہا ۔
Father of our kids was never available for our kids and was indulged in wrong social habbits and addictions therefore ince my kids turn 7 and 9 and they started observing what I was for long time so I divorced him. Tried to remarried for many times but always men had same issues that they didn't want me have my kids with me, on top they want me to give 100% of my time to serve them and ignore kids. Been single mother for 23 years and still raising them single handedly as they both are in University. Sahil sir your advice is good about getting remarried but remember the nature of most of the men, they like others wives and their own children but they hate others children. If a man wants to merry a women who have young daughters, he is mostly eyeing for daughters. This is very very common issue. It's best as a women to control you desires, work hard raise your own kids but DO NOT LET YOUR CHILDREN BE VICTIMIZED BY SEXUALLY HUNGRY MEN IN OUR SOCIETY.
Single mother ke bohat se mahaz hote hai, bachon ko financial support, emotional support, physical support, apne emotional problems, social pressures, aik lambi list, but just think Allah is so powerful, lamehdood qudrat wala, lamehdood shaan wala, lamehdood sifaat wala, lamehdood rehmat karam aur fazal wala, maker of this universe just by only thinking and saying kun, socho toe zara rabb ki power ko, phir us ke liye koi mushkil nahin hamen aur hamare kamon ko sanbhal lena. Wohi chala raha hai azal se sab, wohi chalae ga abad tak, so no single parent should worry, khush rahen abaad rahen kher se rahen. Allah ki amaan main rahen.
Exactly yhi pressures hum ko le kar bht gaee hain MashaALLAH such a beautiful deen but humko in chezo ka aj tak nai pata . Jiski talaq ho jati isko to muashra ghar vale bhen bahi mujram smj bhttte hain ❤But the point is this k y sab koch achank change nai ho sakta humko apne oper kam karna hai firstly apne apko momin bnana hai ye sari abilities aeein gi to hum deen k descions le sakte hain … har ak mard agar apne apko self anylasis kare k 2 dfa momin ho sakte hain kia hmara y level hai … Wallah agar hum deen p chlain to humare lie zindagi kitni assan ho jaee ….
Bhut behtr sana....u r absolutely rt ....yahan dur dur tk na toh koi mard ,mard e momin h r na koi aurat momina....mardon ko ek Ghar wali ek bahir wali chaiye,kabi sunny leone toh kabi hijabi......r ladkiyon ko darhi wala ya sanolo rangat ka shauhr ni chalega....Paisa Kam hua toh shadi k baad b dusra koi paise wala pasand aa jayega....yahi humare muashre ka haal h.....
I am raising my 9 and 11 years kids alone. Rabb ap ke dukh samet leta hai, ap ko sanbhal leta hai, ap ko apna bana leta hai, time lagta hai sanbhalne main, lekin rabb ap ko help bhejta hai different ways main, different logon ke through, different sources se, ap ko beyaro madadgar nahin chorta, ap ke hath thaam leta hai, rabb ap se shadeed mohabbat karta hai, ap bhi rabb se ishq karen, he is always there for you, no need to get depressed and worried, jis ne ap ka life partner lia hai wohi sab sanbhal le ga, stay happy and energetic, give sadqa on regular basis in your husband's name, get connected to aulia, sufia, Allah ke dost and Allah ke piyare, help others, stay positive, love Allah.
Im so so relieved to read comments of single mothers here.they are going through this time so bravely. I myself is single..lost my best half 6 years ago.. we all had and still have same experiences. I feel like uniting in a group where we can support and guide each other. Is that possible? Anyone willing.. pls let me know. I would be glad to be the initiator.
I am a single parent from last 7 years having 2 kids. I want to get married so many times prayed in namaz but still couldn't get the right person to marry. Raising my kids alone without a single support except Allah. And only 37 years old A BIG EXAMPLE FOR ALL THE LADIES.
ASW Sir . Men like how you described are a rare thing in Pakistan, this is our majboori . If a man can not support me and my kids financially , emotionally etc in good living alone ! Being a single mum myself a mother of 2 sons 8 yrs and 10 . Divorced due to a troubled marriage with a narcisst. Thank you for your comforting words of strength and honour .
@@ambreenakram4644 marad apny bacho ki zimdari se bahg rhy hy kha 2d wife k pely bacho ko dekhu gy.apni zadgi me 3 mard dehy hy Ak Indian hy or do pakitani mujju ne patan deen in ki kitne pata hy lakn biwi pely bachoo ko boath ache se rkha
I'm a single mother of 3kids and i hear these words for the first time for a single mother no one felling battles as a single mother even our own mothers who living with husband in old age my father supports her in upbring kids and other responsibilities but she always said to me why you are distressed sick your are not anohki or akeli i sacrifice these these and in my life and every married women traying to feeling they are victims and they have more work to do with husband campartivly you are free you have not husband its mean you are most free and farig women on this planet jiski zindagi bhout asaan he kuch bhi nhi krny ko jinky husband hoty hain kam to wo ourtain karti hain felling honor❤
Asalmu alyikum sir men apki bohat Bari fan Hu.. follow krti Hu apky all lecture 😊sir AJ tow apny Dil ki dukhti ragg ko touch Kiya ha.. sir Zindagi Ka most of time Bachow ko Diya ha....bohat young age sy...abhi still abhi tak b Bachow ko hi deykh rehi Hu....working b Hu or Ghar ko b or Bachow ko b deykh rehi hu
Literally shed to tears 😢😢😢😢 jazakallah khair kaseer really enlightening speech u have always been my hope may Allah pak grant ease in our lifes sir whenever I walk early inthe morning I remember ur words it just gives ma strength
Sahil Bhai. Jazak Allah.. bs ye topic dekh kr he mujhe Laga k Allah ne ghaib se Bheja hai.. I lost my husband last year .n have 2 daughter .. 2 year. N 7 year.. bs mai bht paresham thi
In second marriage for a woman, second husband don’t look after her children. Woman are told to leave their children behind. That’s why woman don’t get married because of their kids. But men do get married either way.
ساحل صاحب یہی تو سمجھا رہے ہیں کہ جو عورت کے بچے سنبھال نہیں سکتا وہ اس قابل نہیں کہ اس سے عورت شادی کرے وہ اسلام کے احکامات کو رد کر رہا ہے تو وہ کیسے سیک اچھا مسلمان ہو سکتا ہے ایسے شخص سے شادی نہ کی جائے اس سے شادی کرے جو اللہ اور اسکے احکامات کو مانتا ہو اورُبچوں کی کفالت کا ذمہ لے اللہ تعالی ہمارے اکستانی مردوں کو اسلام سمجھنے کی توفیق عطا کرے آمین
Bilkul sahi kaha myny bhout qareeb se shadi dehki jismy hamari realative hain unki divorce beti with 3kids shadi hoi or us insan jo kiya bacho ke sath or bv ke chor diya usy divorce di na zimmydari uthai pehly se married tha pehli bv ki zimmydari uthai or disri shadi doari bv or bacho ko torcher krny ke liye ki
It’s almost impossible to find the father for a children of single mom. If you don’t believe go check the profile of divorced men. Unfortunately it’s hard to find the match for divorcee or widow, if someone is looking for divorcee then they don’t accept the kids. Another problem is the reaction of your kids. I heard that the kids get angry and it’s hard for them to accept another parent. Especially when the kids are mature.
Bchy kr lety hn accept... Eventually... Just they need is more connection with real parent..... I'm single mom... I'll definitely marry if I find someone trustworthy... It's upto me to make my son mentally prepared to. Accept a man in my life.
I am single mother True Meri gaibi madad hai Mai ny apny bachon ko kehti key Mai hi app ki mother aur AP ki father hon...but it's very difficult putting tears in my eyes every night....Dua in front of God give me strength....
Kiya baat hai aap ke Afsoos bare dair lage aap sonay main Es mashray kay liay bare himat ke hai aap ny Aisay sokhanwar bohat dair say aaiy. Pher bhi shukar aay tu Keep it up❤
Brother I admire you and respect you a lot. mera sawal yeah hae k aisa kon single parent hoga jo khushi say single reh kar akelay Sara bojh uthana chahay ga. Society k jis pressure ki aap baat karray hein woh ab taareeban purani baat hogai hae, ab buhat kam log hein jo is type k pressures mei atay hein k log Kia kahein gae. Actual problem toh hamaray characters hein Jin ki wajah say koi ek doosray par trust nahi kar şakta, especially ek bar dhoka khanay k baad. Aap nay toh khud he apnay sawal ka jawab dey dia k momin hona Chahiye, toh phir momin dhoondna aajkal chand par janay say ziada mushkil kaam hae. Momin k bhes Mei mostly shetan he aas pass ghoom rahay hotay hein, jesay ek aap k program Mei abhi zahir hua tha, aur propose bhe momin say pehlay shetan he kartay hein (momin k bhess mein); Allah ka deen toh buhat simple hae, mushkil toh sari hae he kam imaan ki wajah say.
Bilkul theak kaha apne...... Aik trf trust nahi rehta aur dusra single mother ko trauma se heal honay may b time lgta hai, lekin agr usk bachon ki well being ko khatra ho to wo akelay lar leti hai
@@ayeshakhurram9672 esa mard millna namumkin hai,max to max esa admi mill sakta hai Jo aurat ki khubsurti dekkar mutasir ho jaye aur sadi kar le lekin bacho ki jimedari na khud udayega na biwi ko udane dega. Koi aurat jaan bhuj kar akele rah kar ku dhuk sahegi boj bhi aur biological need bhi hoti hai vo bhi insan hi hai. No
Bilkul sahee Bushra....aapne bhut sahee baat kahi....kuch log aise hote h k jinke bare me ye kahna zada saheehoga k Hain kawakib kuch nazar aate Hain kuch ..... Dete hain dhoka ye baazigar Hume......
It is nothing new , it is only real qur'an and seerah Sir sahil is only reviving the nabawi era No one should be surprised It is only truth he is telling❤
Very well explained,hr aham kaam sy phly istakhara kr lain but khud krain kisi or sy ni,in sha ALLAH jo haq mai acha ho ga wo rasta ,wo insan asan ho ga
Yay bilkul sahi hy k maa aur bap dono ka hona bachon k liay zarori hy lykin ager kisi wajha sy dono alag ho jaein chahy divorce ho ya deth ho gaai ho lyky bachon meinahsas e mehromi rah jata hy mager Allah pak pal deta hy Aap ko duaein salam
Most Men in our society are never in a mood to take care of Thier own children .. they never ever want to take the responsibility of someone else's kids
@@mathew1812 kon kah ra h k farz h...dusron k bachchon ka theka Mt lo.....kya baat h...Islam me yateemon k bare me kya hukm h tukhe ni pata..nahi pata toh yaad rakho agar tumhare jaise ghudgarz log islam ko badnam krte h...agar tumhari bahen ya beti ya bhanji ya bhateeji jiski shadi 20 saal ki umar me ho gayi ho r shadi k 2 saal baad ek saal k bachche ko chhod kr uska baap accident me mar Jaye toh ya toh wo 22 saal ki bewa ladki yateem bachche k sath Puri zindagi mayeke me baap bhai ke rahem o karam pr guzar de ya phir khud established ho kr tumhari khudgharzi ka behtareen jawab de......
Sahil bhai u r too good to know pakistani people... Although u know them but u must realise our people are not momin enough to be good sotalay spouses/parent
Asalmakm Sahil bhai ! I am from India……I follow you from long time…..and agree with you on most of the topics. Trying to do best for my children but not able to source more areas to develop their skills. They waste time on phones and it’s painful. I am trying to reach you but not able to. To take some guidance regarding preparing children for Islam’s cause. Please guide. Jazakallah khair.
I m also single mother last 18years i have 3 kids now mu son is engineer & elder daugter is dr the little one is student of mbbs mashaAllah so ap ko Allah ki madad ho jati ha
MashAllah! Most satisfying answer. I also a single parent but still feeling fear and hesitation. Moreover I have announced in family not to marry again .
It's almost impossible to find a suitable and supportive man for a single woman with kids in her late 40's. What should she do if she's struggling in raising her kids? Pls advise.
Salaam Sahil sahab…. I am a single mother since 20 years, but very true that 2 rupey ki society mein no momin stepped forward to marry me, but a shaitan did and left me with a fraud of 9 million in 2010. Unfortunately this is how i self imposed to be a single mother fir ever.
Asalam O Alaikum Sir, One question from this topic, Kiya is muashry mai wakai sotaly bap ya sotali maa opsite partner k bachoun ko accept krty hain? Mostly difference tb Ata ha jb un. Parents k apny bachy ho jaty hain, to pehly k mojoda sotely bachoun ko ignore r bad behave ko face krna parhta ha? muashry mai iska kiya asar hota ha?
😅😅😅. Very well answer Jo mard apny bacho ki take care nahi kerty woh duseroo ke Bachy ki take care kiya kare gay . Born male and be a man . Two different things. Bandhy ka puter koi hai nahi aaj kal . Maa ka jazba aur maqaam aisay tu nahi milta . Jannat Qadmo main aisi tu nahi rakhi Allah ne. Jo shareef aurat hai usko misuse kerty hai rishto ke naam par . Bewaqoof banaty hai mard . Allah PaK sub ke liye asaniyaa fermaye . It’s not easy to get into another marriage With kids to do experiment .
Sahil bhai exactly 💯...my husband is praying 5 times prayer but a serial player...its been 22 years he is cheating ,having outside affairs and my both family always suppressed me due to my two children to compromise
The women are afraid that if they re marry with a girl child, that man can touch her and these men are a pain in the neck , too much burden on the poor woman, also it has been proven that the man only loves his own children 😢very sad situation, because of their thinking…. You are doing a great job
Good may teen bacho ki mother hon aur shoher k hoty huway ekeely sufer kr rahi hon mery husband kio responsiblities nai lyty kehty gai Allah khud paly ga bilkul aesa hi hai may bhut taff time sy guzar rahi hon bhut kio help nai hai aur single mother ko ye tension hoti hai k us k bad us k bacho ka kia ho ga aur fanicial problems hai is k liye parshan ho
Aj kal ke Step father se bheter hai’ banda single hi rahe’ kisi ki bat mat son na’ bacho pe dehan du’ kam karo bache bade hojiynge’ insha ALLAH🤲 baki hamre sath ALLAH hai’ alhamdulilah
Asalamoalaykum Sir, you were absolutely right that everyone should get married again if they get the opportunity, but I'm sorry still u didn't not explain that if they couldn't get the chance to get married then how can a single parent do that?
He actually mentioned that if not married then it will be challenging all the way long. We can still raise kids, and the teachers and mentors who can possibly teach many life skills will come along from Allah. I just take a lot of duas, literally on many occasions in one single day. As if my connection with Allah is getting stronger every single day many times. Alhamdulillah
He is correct, right but idealistic., as practically finding such step father is close to impossible . And even if in the beginning the man can convince himself and others that he is a good Muslim and can be a good father for someone else’ kids ., but in years to come they can be dangerously bad for their step kids especially girls. And then leaving him and looking for another new husband who will be more affectionate to kids can be psychologically damaging for children. Accepting someone in a father’s role is difficult.. on top changing the father again and again ., can be more damaging.
It is rare where a man wants to marry a divorced woman without kids ...so woman having kids or divorced is very very difficult and shadi kar bhee len tu de never own or completely take responsibility
Phir bhi wo admi galat ho to, usko chhod kar example set karein apne achcho ke liye ke, sach aur sahi ke stand aise lete hain, Allah ko direct report karne wali qoum hain hum
I am a single mother. Widow with two kids. Perfectly explained the situation of single parents. Yes very true no self imposing majburi. Allah has given clear guidelines. Beshak single mother ke ooper Allah ka dayan haath hota hai. I am always under Allah's protection and direct help. And true k Allah khud teachers, mentors aur helpers designate karta hai for single a mother.
Assalam o alikum Sehar . I am also (widow)single mother . And you saying right kay Allah ka Dayan hath hota hay . Jazak Allah .
I am also single mother almost 10 years i look after alone my kids
Me too I'm also a single mother of 4 little children. But I am so glad that Allahs help is with me always. My kids sometimes say things that tells me that they wanted to share their achievements with their father but they can't now as he passed away.
I m also single mother with two young girls for last 10 years.....
and I cant say anything you all know hows conditions majboriyan family and society pressure which has no end but phir bhi we all alone in our trauma. How painfull it is that no one understand this condition. All kind of fears we bears just all alone.
I’m also a single mother with 3 kids. When you have a daughter at home you cant move forward and get married Bcz that man with whom you get married would be a نامحرم for your daughter.
" عورت پر الله تعالٰی کا دایاں ہاتھ ہوتا ہے " ؟
الحمدللہ
ساحل عدیم بھائی !
دل پر سے بوجھ اترا ۔
its in a sense k Allah ne aurat k liye zyada security rkhi hy dunia mein , agr ap dekhen to Allah ne mard ko dunia mein sb kaam krne ka zima dia hy aur aurat ghar mein chaar diwaari mein reh k sb kregi security k sath , usko pardah ataa kia hy kiun k wo khud ko protect kr sake gheron ki nzr se, Prophet Muhammad pbuh ne bhi apne aakhri waqt mein aurat k baare mein dhikr kia tha
@@s1d33q
الحمدللہ 💞
صحیح ،
لیکن ،
دیسستانی معاشرے میں ، خواتین کو اتنے حقوق میسر نہی آتے ہیں ، جو اللہ سبحانہ تعالیٰ نے ان کے لیئے رکھے ہیں ،
خلافت قائم ہوگی ،
باذن الله تعالٰی ،
تو ہمیں اتنے حقوق نصیب ہوں گے ،
باقی اللہ سبحانہ تعالیٰ کا دایاں ہاتھ ،
😍
تو مجھے ساحل عدیم بھائی پر نظر آ رہا ۔
@@FatimaQuadri-jv3je👌khilafat yes
Father of our kids was never available for our kids and was indulged in wrong social habbits and addictions therefore ince my kids turn 7 and 9 and they started observing what I was for long time so I divorced him. Tried to remarried for many times but always men had same issues that they didn't want me have my kids with me, on top they want me to give 100% of my time to serve them and ignore kids. Been single mother for 23 years and still raising them single handedly as they both are in University.
Sahil sir your advice is good about getting remarried but remember the nature of most of the men, they like others wives and their own children but they hate others children. If a man wants to merry a women who have young daughters, he is mostly eyeing for daughters. This is very very common issue. It's best as a women to control you desires, work hard raise your own kids but DO NOT LET YOUR CHILDREN BE VICTIMIZED BY SEXUALLY HUNGRY MEN IN OUR SOCIETY.
Exactly.....hardly men with good intentions marry widows n accept their children wholeheartedly.....very rare.
Allah madad karey in mothers ki....bachon KO Naik rakhey
Single mother ke bohat se mahaz hote hai, bachon ko financial support, emotional support, physical support, apne emotional problems, social pressures, aik lambi list, but just think Allah is so powerful, lamehdood qudrat wala, lamehdood shaan wala, lamehdood sifaat wala, lamehdood rehmat karam aur fazal wala, maker of this universe just by only thinking and saying kun, socho toe zara rabb ki power ko, phir us ke liye koi mushkil nahin hamen aur hamare kamon ko sanbhal lena. Wohi chala raha hai azal se sab, wohi chalae ga abad tak, so no single parent should worry, khush rahen abaad rahen kher se rahen. Allah ki amaan main rahen.
Thankyou jazakaAllah ap ka comment parh k anusu behisab a gye hain bht hosla mila hai
I m also but so difficult to spend life Allah ka shukr hy
Exactly yhi pressures hum ko le kar bht gaee hain
MashaALLAH such a beautiful deen but humko in chezo ka aj tak nai pata . Jiski talaq ho jati isko to muashra ghar vale bhen bahi mujram smj bhttte hain
❤But the point is this k y sab koch achank change nai ho sakta humko apne oper kam karna hai firstly apne apko momin bnana hai ye sari abilities aeein gi to hum deen k descions le sakte hain … har ak mard agar apne apko self anylasis kare k 2 dfa momin ho sakte hain kia hmara y level hai
…
Wallah agar hum deen p chlain to humare lie zindagi kitni assan ho jaee ….
Bhut behtr sana....u r absolutely rt ....yahan dur dur tk na toh koi mard ,mard e momin h r na koi aurat momina....mardon ko ek Ghar wali ek bahir wali chaiye,kabi sunny leone toh kabi hijabi......r ladkiyon ko darhi wala ya sanolo rangat ka shauhr ni chalega....Paisa Kam hua toh shadi k baad b dusra koi paise wala pasand aa jayega....yahi humare muashre ka haal h.....
I am raising my 9 and 11 years kids alone. Rabb ap ke dukh samet leta hai, ap ko sanbhal leta hai, ap ko apna bana leta hai, time lagta hai sanbhalne main, lekin rabb ap ko help bhejta hai different ways main, different logon ke through, different sources se, ap ko beyaro madadgar nahin chorta, ap ke hath thaam leta hai, rabb ap se shadeed mohabbat karta hai, ap bhi rabb se ishq karen, he is always there for you, no need to get depressed and worried, jis ne ap ka life partner lia hai wohi sab sanbhal le ga, stay happy and energetic, give sadqa on regular basis in your husband's name, get connected to aulia, sufia, Allah ke dost and Allah ke piyare, help others, stay positive, love Allah.
❤❤❤❤Ma Sha ALLAH
Yes .jazak Allah
Thankyou sahil bhai. No doubt Allah is the ultimate protector and most merciful. 🙏
Im so so relieved to read comments of single mothers here.they are going through this time so bravely. I myself is single..lost my best half 6 years ago.. we all had and still have same experiences. I feel like uniting in a group where we can support and guide each other. Is that possible? Anyone willing.. pls let me know. I would be glad to be the initiator.
Awsome , I have been looking for such a group for very long..although it's been only 6 months since my husband passed away.
Yes plz i want to be a part of that group as i am a single mother too
So what should we do
I agree
Kya decide Kiya hai ap logo ne kya karna hai
I am a single parent from last 7 years having 2 kids. I want to get married so many times prayed in namaz but still couldn't get the right person to marry. Raising my kids alone without a single support except Allah. And only 37 years old A BIG EXAMPLE FOR ALL THE LADIES.
ASW Sir .
Men like how you described are a rare thing in Pakistan, this is our majboori . If a man can not support me and my kids financially , emotionally etc in good living alone !
Being a single mum myself a mother of 2 sons 8 yrs and 10 .
Divorced due to a troubled marriage with a narcisst.
Thank you for your comforting words of strength and honour .
In everywhere not only in pak
@@mobeenakhan3630 if you are looking for Pakistanis , everywhere they are the same ! Allah help everyone . Ameen .
Sister it is the situation all over the world.
@@ambreenakram4644 marad apny bacho ki zimdari se bahg rhy hy kha 2d wife k pely bacho ko dekhu gy.apni zadgi me 3 mard dehy hy Ak Indian hy or do pakitani mujju ne patan deen in ki kitne pata hy lakn biwi pely bachoo ko boath ache se rkha
I'm a single mother of 3kids and i hear these words for the first time for a single mother no one felling battles as a single mother even our own mothers who living with husband in old age my father supports her in upbring kids and other responsibilities but she always said to me why you are distressed sick your are not anohki or akeli i sacrifice these these and in my life and every married women traying to feeling they are victims and they have more work to do with husband campartivly you are free you have not husband its mean you are most free and farig women on this planet jiski zindagi bhout asaan he kuch bhi nhi krny ko jinky husband hoty hain kam to wo ourtain karti hain
felling honor❤
Asalmu alyikum sir men apki bohat Bari fan Hu.. follow krti Hu apky all lecture 😊sir AJ tow apny Dil ki dukhti ragg ko touch Kiya ha.. sir Zindagi Ka most of time Bachow ko Diya ha....bohat young age sy...abhi still abhi tak b Bachow ko hi deykh rehi Hu....working b Hu or Ghar ko b or Bachow ko b deykh rehi hu
I usually have disagreement with your opinion but this was best answer and guidance you gave in this video MA SHA ALLAH
do you "usually" have differences,
Or any criterion?
Aslam u alikum me bhi sahir adeem Sy bàt krna chti hn pr ksy krn
I am 49 and now listening to this thinking differently. My kids are big masha Allah
You are 100% right but it's mission impossible to find man with such attributes
True
Reality
Yes
اللهم ارنا الحق حقا وارزقنا اتباعه
I think everybody should listen to him he is a true gem for islam..... How clearly and impactfully he exposes our pseudo muslim identity...
Awesome answer MaashaaAllah 👍🏻💕 He is the Real Gem
Nic
😢😢 beshak Allah sath h.
Literally shed to tears 😢😢😢😢 jazakallah khair kaseer really enlightening speech u have always been my hope may Allah pak grant ease in our lifes sir whenever I walk early inthe morning I remember ur words it just gives ma strength
Sahil Bhai. Jazak Allah.. bs ye topic dekh kr he mujhe Laga k Allah ne ghaib se Bheja hai.. I lost my husband last year .n have 2 daughter .. 2 year. N 7 year.. bs mai bht paresham thi
Same situation may Allah paak help us
I have seen many of your videos but this was extraordinary truth with clarity
آپ کی بات بالکل درست ۔اللہ کی مدد ھے ھمارے ساتھ۔الحمدللہ
In second marriage for a woman, second husband don’t look after her children. Woman are told to leave their children behind. That’s why woman don’t get married because of their kids. But men do get married either way.
ساحل صاحب یہی تو سمجھا رہے ہیں کہ جو عورت کے بچے سنبھال نہیں سکتا وہ اس قابل نہیں کہ اس سے عورت شادی کرے وہ اسلام کے احکامات کو رد کر رہا ہے تو وہ کیسے سیک اچھا مسلمان ہو سکتا ہے ایسے شخص سے شادی نہ کی جائے اس سے شادی کرے جو اللہ اور اسکے احکامات کو مانتا ہو اورُبچوں کی کفالت کا ذمہ لے اللہ تعالی ہمارے اکستانی مردوں کو اسلام سمجھنے کی توفیق عطا کرے آمین
@@saamph2383Aisa mard e momin Kahan h....yahan dur dur tk na mard e momin h r na momina.....sb nafs k Ghulam h naam k musalman h...
Bilkul sahi kaha myny bhout qareeb se shadi dehki jismy hamari realative hain unki divorce beti with 3kids shadi hoi or us insan jo kiya bacho ke sath or bv ke chor diya usy divorce di na zimmydari uthai pehly se married tha pehli bv ki zimmydari uthai or disri shadi doari bv or bacho ko torcher krny ke liye ki
I also agreed👍
💯 my sister is also a single mother it's really very difficult
Bilkul Allah tala in k le asni kry
ALLAH sab ki madat karay Ameen❤
Mae BHI single mother hoon.Allah aur mere Ghar Walon Ka bohat Saath Raha hae.
میرے دل سے اللہ نے دنیا سے ڈرنے کا خوف نکالا ھے الحمدللہ مجھے دنیا سے ان بے تکے کاموں پر لڑنا آتا ھے۔ الحمدللہ
کیسے سیکھا اپ نے یہ سب
It’s almost impossible to find the father for a children of single mom. If you don’t believe go check the profile of divorced men. Unfortunately it’s hard to find the match for divorcee or widow, if someone is looking for divorcee then they don’t accept the kids.
Another problem is the reaction of your kids. I heard that the kids get angry and it’s hard for them to accept another parent. Especially when the kids are mature.
Ggg dear sister ap ny boht hi achy se describe Kya he appreciate you
Rightly said..we live in modern Era...men r not poius
It's true . Practically it's impossible. Bachon ko koi nahe accept karta .to Kya bachay chor dain is bereham dunya Main.
Bchy kr lety hn accept... Eventually... Just they need is more connection with real parent..... I'm single mom... I'll definitely marry if I find someone trustworthy... It's upto me to make my son mentally prepared to. Accept a man in my life.
Agreed 💯
20:15 after a short silence .... You really blast but brutal reality
Agreed on the "brutal reality" part
My mother raised me and my brother alone Allah on ko hmary srr pr salamt rekhay aur hm is kabil hon k on ko sb khuhsiyan dein ameeen sumameen
I am single mother True Meri gaibi madad hai Mai ny apny bachon ko kehti key Mai hi app ki mother aur AP ki father hon...but it's very difficult putting tears in my eyes every night....Dua in front of God give me strength....
Barakallahu feek dear Sahil Bhai -for this important reminder and eyeopener
جزاك الله خيرا
شيخي الكريم !
Kiya baat hai aap ke
Afsoos bare dair lage aap sonay main
Es mashray kay liay bare himat ke hai aap ny
Aisay sokhanwar bohat dair say aaiy.
Pher bhi shukar aay tu
Keep it up❤
Alhamdullilah for the man like you who is trying to guide so well
Sir, I understand Islam from your single words .... Thanks Sir, JazakaAllah khairun kaseerun 🎉🎉🎉
Which word? For the enlightenment
It's mean that I more understanded Islam through Sahil Adeem lectures.
جزاک اللہِ خیرا
Bless you for this enlightenment
How much i always agree with you ❤ respected ustaad e mohtarram
U r blessing to humanity.. allah apko sehat day
Brother I admire you and respect you a lot. mera sawal yeah hae k aisa kon single parent hoga jo khushi say single reh kar akelay Sara bojh uthana chahay ga. Society k jis pressure ki aap baat karray hein woh ab taareeban purani baat hogai hae, ab buhat kam log hein jo is type k pressures mei atay hein k log Kia kahein gae. Actual problem toh hamaray characters hein Jin ki wajah say koi ek doosray par trust nahi kar şakta, especially ek bar dhoka khanay k baad. Aap nay toh khud he apnay sawal ka jawab dey dia k momin hona Chahiye, toh phir momin dhoondna aajkal chand par janay say ziada mushkil kaam hae. Momin k bhes Mei mostly shetan he aas pass ghoom rahay hotay hein, jesay ek aap k program Mei abhi zahir hua tha, aur propose bhe momin say pehlay shetan he kartay hein (momin k bhess mein); Allah ka deen toh buhat simple hae, mushkil toh sari hae he kam imaan ki wajah say.
Bilkul theak kaha apne...... Aik trf trust nahi rehta aur dusra single mother ko trauma se heal honay may b time lgta hai, lekin agr usk bachon ki well being ko khatra ho to wo akelay lar leti hai
@@ayeshakhurram9672 esa mard millna namumkin hai,max to max esa admi mill sakta hai Jo aurat ki khubsurti dekkar mutasir ho jaye aur sadi kar le lekin bacho ki jimedari na khud udayega na biwi ko udane dega.
Koi aurat jaan bhuj kar akele rah kar ku dhuk sahegi boj bhi aur biological need bhi hoti hai vo bhi insan hi hai. No
Nic
Bilkul sahee Bushra....aapne bhut sahee baat kahi....kuch log aise hote h k jinke bare me ye kahna zada saheehoga k
Hain kawakib kuch nazar aate Hain kuch .....
Dete hain dhoka ye baazigar Hume......
Momin ke bhes me propose shetan hi karty hain 💯 and mark my word momin ke bhees me kbhi bhaosa nhi krna. Kisi pr
It is nothing new , it is only real qur'an and seerah
Sir sahil is only reviving the nabawi era
No one should be surprised
It is only truth he is telling❤
In today's era, "a taboo".
Comments mai mojud tamam single moms ky liye boht duae'n Allah kare Aapko behtreen insaan naseeb ho or Aapky bachon ky liye asania aai'n.
But how can a mother make sure that the step father will not be cruel to them? The only concern is the behavior of the step father with the kid.
Before selecting a man find out about his character, his father's behaviour towards his children and wife.
Is leye dusri shadi k leye orat ko khud bol diya hea k apni marzi say kar lo janch kar
Very well said as always ustaad e mohtarram sir sahil ❤❤❤
27. Min. I agree 100 percent.
Very well explained,hr aham kaam sy phly istakhara kr lain but khud krain kisi or sy ni,in sha ALLAH jo haq mai acha ho ga wo rasta ,wo insan asan ho ga
Awesome advice 👏
Thanks a lot Sahil bhai
Bless you
Ameen
Starting point totally agree k Allah khd madad krta hai i am single mother and can relate to it
Yay bilkul sahi hy k maa aur bap dono ka hona bachon k liay zarori hy lykin ager kisi wajha sy dono alag ho jaein chahy divorce ho ya deth ho gaai ho lyky bachon meinahsas e mehromi rah jata hy mager Allah pak pal deta hy
Aap ko duaein salam
Most Men in our society are never in a mood to take care of Thier own children .. they never ever want to take the responsibility of someone else's kids
Yup u r rt...
So true.
that's how it should be , why would he take care someone's child. theka ha kya.. fardh nahi ha islam esa bojh lena
@@mathew1812 kon kah ra h k farz h...dusron k bachchon ka theka Mt lo.....kya baat h...Islam me yateemon k bare me kya hukm h tukhe ni pata..nahi pata toh yaad rakho agar tumhare jaise ghudgarz log islam ko badnam krte h...agar tumhari bahen ya beti ya bhanji ya bhateeji jiski shadi 20 saal ki umar me ho gayi ho r shadi k 2 saal baad ek saal k bachche ko chhod kr uska baap accident me mar Jaye toh ya toh wo 22 saal ki bewa ladki yateem bachche k sath Puri zindagi mayeke me baap bhai ke rahem o karam pr guzar de ya phir khud established ho kr tumhari khudgharzi ka behtareen jawab de......
Weldone.. superb! You are explaining actual Islam not traditions.. Allah bless you
Jazak Allah for sharing
MashAllah as always u spoke my heart out❤❤❤❤❤
اللہ تعالیٰ کامیاب کرے
Sahil bhai u r too good to know pakistani people... Although u know them but u must realise our people are not momin enough to be good sotalay spouses/parent
Sahil bhai ka ye jo natural style hy kamal hy❤ ,
Jazak Allahu khairan kasira sir
Thank u so much
22:00
Ameen sum Ameen AlhumdulilAh ❤
Best answer ever❤
Sahil adeen sir l like you allah hamare bachu ko aap ke jisa banai mere yahe khuwahish hain aameen😊
Asalmakm Sahil bhai ! I am from India……I follow you from long time…..and agree with you on most of the topics. Trying to do best for my children but not able to source more areas to develop their skills. They waste time on phones and it’s painful. I am trying to reach you but not able to. To take some guidance regarding preparing children for Islam’s cause. Please guide. Jazakallah khair.
How can I reach you???
There are already many videos posted in the past related to these kindof topics. Try checking them out.
@@ulfath1790 what is the age of your children, I m from India too.
I m also single mother last 18years i have 3 kids now mu son is engineer & elder daugter is dr the little one is student of mbbs mashaAllah so ap ko Allah ki madad ho jati ha
MashAllah! Most satisfying answer.
I also a single parent but still feeling fear and hesitation.
Moreover I have announced in family not to marry again .
Sir I'm a single mother I have 2 girls can I trust a person will give me my kids the security we need as the circumstances around us about step father
Thanks for your reminding word...
It's almost impossible to find a suitable and supportive man for a single woman with kids in her late 40's. What should she do if she's struggling in raising her kids? Pls advise.
Nothing is impossible
sabr. only that
Yes v difficult but not impossible. Keep praying. Any option will appear automatically
Àameen sum Aameen ya Rab ul A'aLameen jazakillah khairaa kasera
Salaam Sahil sahab….
I am a single mother since 20 years, but very true that 2 rupey ki society mein no momin stepped forward to marry me, but a shaitan did and left me with a fraud of 9 million in 2010. Unfortunately this is how i self imposed to be a single mother fir ever.
U are right but its very difficult impossible , no one trust worthy
Asslamualikum mashallah buhot izat dy Allah Allah khushrkhy ameen
Asalam O Alaikum Sir,
One question from this topic,
Kiya is muashry mai wakai sotaly bap ya sotali maa opsite partner k bachoun ko accept krty hain?
Mostly difference tb Ata ha jb un. Parents k apny bachy ho jaty hain, to pehly k mojoda sotely bachoun ko ignore r bad behave ko face krna parhta ha? muashry mai iska kiya asar hota ha?
Barakallahu feeki liebe Rabia für diese wichtige Frage ❤
😅😅😅. Very well answer
Jo mard apny bacho ki take care nahi kerty woh duseroo ke Bachy ki take care kiya kare gay . Born male and be a man . Two different things.
Bandhy ka puter koi hai nahi aaj kal .
Maa ka jazba aur maqaam aisay tu nahi milta . Jannat Qadmo main aisi tu nahi rakhi Allah ne. Jo shareef aurat hai usko misuse kerty hai rishto ke naam par . Bewaqoof banaty hai mard .
Allah PaK sub ke liye asaniyaa fermaye . It’s not easy to get into another marriage With kids to do experiment .
💯
Yes v true
Behatreen baat….👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Sahil bhai exactly 💯...my husband is praying 5 times prayer but a serial player...its been 22 years he is cheating ,having outside affairs and my both family always suppressed me due to my two children to compromise
The women are afraid that if they re marry with a girl child, that man can touch her and these men are a pain in the neck , too much burden on the poor woman, also it has been proven that the man only loves his own children 😢very sad situation, because of their thinking…. You are doing a great job
Mehrum hogi apki beti to that man... Ask Allah to give u a nice man... Allah zroor help krein gy... Us hath sy.. Jo hum jesi ortoon k oper ha
it's in men's fitrat that he loves his own child. nothing to do with thinking
My husband passed away last month, inna lillahi wa inna alaihi rajioon. Pray for me and my daughter. May Allah give us strength.
🫂 same boat
Allah aapki her traha se madad kare Aameen
Now a days mens runs away from taking care of their own kids can't expect why a new father will take that responsibility on their head .
Good may teen bacho ki mother hon aur shoher k hoty huway ekeely sufer kr rahi hon mery husband kio responsiblities nai lyty kehty gai Allah khud paly ga bilkul aesa hi hai may bhut taff time sy guzar rahi hon bhut kio help nai hai aur single mother ko ye tension hoti hai k us k bad us k bacho ka kia ho ga aur fanicial problems hai is k liye parshan ho
True
Beshak ❤
Aj kal ke Step father se bheter hai’ banda single hi rahe’ kisi ki bat mat son na’ bacho pe dehan du’ kam karo bache bade hojiynge’ insha ALLAH🤲 baki hamre sath ALLAH hai’ alhamdulilah
Asalamoalaykum Sir, you were absolutely right that everyone should get married again if they get the opportunity, but I'm sorry still u didn't not explain that if they couldn't get the chance to get married then how can a single parent do that?
He actually mentioned that if not married then it will be challenging all the way long. We can still raise kids, and the teachers and mentors who can possibly teach many life skills will come along from Allah.
I just take a lot of duas, literally on many occasions in one single day. As if my connection with Allah is getting stronger every single day many times. Alhamdulillah
Shahil Bhai ,
you r good nice personality,
allah pak apko sehat tandrusti atta farmaye or apko dawat k kaam mei apki maddad farmaye
aameen
Ameen
Allahumma ameen
As a woman I also respect you sahil sir
He is correct, right but idealistic., as practically finding such step father is close to impossible . And even if in the beginning the man can convince himself and others that he is a good Muslim and can be a good father for someone else’ kids ., but in years to come they can be dangerously bad for their step kids especially girls.
And then leaving him and looking for another new husband who will be more affectionate to kids can be psychologically damaging for children. Accepting someone in a father’s role is difficult.. on top changing the father again and again ., can be more damaging.
Love you Sir!
Kash har admi aap ki trah ho to koi aurat single mother na ho
Sir ma inti muskil ma guzr re ho likn apko sunti ho sukon milta hai
You are real hero 💪💪 ❤❤❤❤
❤❤❤jazak Allah ho khairan kaseerah ❤❤❤
Ameen summa ameen
Exactly 💯
It is rare where a man wants to marry a divorced woman without kids ...so woman having kids or divorced is very very difficult and shadi kar bhee len tu de never own or completely take responsibility
24:09 very true
💯 % true sir ya sub kuch ho raha lekin
پیوستہ رہ شجر سےامید بحار رکھ 🎉
I agree to everything you said but what if you have been through a scary prior experience in marriage???
Dua and deen dar insaan dakhy
Phir bhi wo admi galat ho to, usko chhod kar example set karein apne achcho ke liye ke, sach aur sahi ke stand aise lete hain, Allah ko direct report karne wali qoum hain hum
Agree! 26 years with my ex,
lm a disable person and single mother as well with 2 daughters so how can l do?