"Call me a Coward". Hell no, Ford. You came out here to share your story with hundreds of thousands, the amount of balls that takes to be this vulnerable and in front of this many people is insane. You are no coward, you're an inspiration
This is the kind of life coach and motivational speakers we need!! His vulnerability and willingness to share the realness of his struggles brought me to tears. Go Ford!
I am definitely one that attended your lectures in NYP around 2012-2014. Mr Ford Lim!! Back then you were the most confident and most charismatic speaker❤ I vaguely remember you do 100km Ultra runs~ Happy to see you in the TH-cam space! Be kind to yourself! You are super charismatic. Also thank you for sharing your deepest struggle. I am rooting for you!
No wonder !! At the end of his story, I learned that he gives talks in schools, etc. He is extremely articulate, faultless grammar( vocab, expressions….). I also think that his size now is perfect . Kudos to you, Ford👍
Thanks Ford for opening up and sharing your struggles with eating disorder. The recovery journey is long. May you continue to find strength to keep fighting one day at a time. I can relate to some of the struggles you shared about your eating disorder. It is tough to open up to others…
I appreciate this episode so much. I hope Ford will find his inner peace someday and be comforted by the fact that regardless of everything, he's doing (and looking) great. I personally struggle with body dysmorphia so thank you for this episode. I really really love it.
Thank you for sharing, Ford! I relate to your journey, thoughts & emotions even though I didn’t suffer or have an eating disorder. You put into words some of the things I felt/thought! Recalling that made me grateful to be where I’m at today. I grew up a fat kid. When I was 12, I became more conscious of my body image & weight. During school holiday, I started puking wtv I ate because I felt guilty eating (to be fair, I used to eat wayy too much haha). Found out that inducing vomit was very easy for me - I could just bend over on the toilet bowl & puke. Even found out that drinking water just before vomiting prevented sore throats after 😅. Like you, the sensation after puking was really great. I lost over 5kg in over a month. I didn’t puke that often & wasn’t malnourished. I stopped puking when I realised that my mom knew that I vomited after eating. I also felt guilty for wasting money, food & her efforts. I felt so bad because her food was delicious & me puking made it seem like I was lying about it. One of the reasons why I was fat was because we had a lot of food & usually didn’t want to keep leftovers. After I stopped vomiting, I would just eat enough. We made it a culture in our house to save leftovers & not force ourselves to finish all the food we had for lunch/dinner.
This was a toughie for me. Having gone through a similar route but with different habits....he couldn't have articulated it better. Kudos to you indeed Ford for coming out and speaking so candidly. You're truly so courageous for that. And to admit to yourself everything, it's so painful.
Hi Ford, thanks for sharing your story. I have also been struggling with emotional eating since I was 12, and I am 32 now. My late dad passed away because of emotional eating too. At first he did it as a form of revenge for his childhood’s poverty. When he had enough money, he chose food as an outlet to feel satisfied about life-financially. Then, when he had problems, he ran away from the problems (or you can say it’s toxic masculinity because he probably thought it’s too weak to seek help for his depression) with food. He always treated food like he never ate it before. Like there’s no tomorrow. He became overweight, eventually got strokes multiples times.. then he got dementia and alzheimer’s symptoms. Those were the hardest times. I often blame myself if only I know how to save him.
Hello Ford, you're incredibly brave! Thanks for being so vulnerable to share your journey with us. I was also in the humiliating TAF club and I have family calling me Han Bao Bao (hamburger) and round. Baby steps. Like you said, one sunset at a time. Jiayou! You can do it!
bro its scary how much i relate to this dude. Kudos for speaking out. Thankfully with alot of research and articles out there i didnt purge too much unless i really ate to the brim. Sometime i eat till i can barely breath... Just needed that food high
You’re such an inspiration! Salute you for sharing your past life -you stand with your head held high - your articulation reflects your confidence. Congratulations!
being a bodybuilder myself, i struggle with body dysmorphia as well , not purging wise but always constantly dieting and trying to stay 10% bodyfat year round
I can relate. I was diagnosed with malnutrition. Not the one that u see from fat and dying to become thin. Nope. Im the opposite. Im thin and im dying to be fat. Same like him, it all started with the constant bullying and name calling etc at school. Thats where it all started. I would eat so much with no care in the world that it become so unhealthy to my body. I would force eating even though im totally full. I know it is enough but i still choke it down. To the point where i got really sick one day and go to the doctor and i got hypertension, pre diabetes and hyperlipidemia ( high cholesterol) even though im still physically thin and i am only 23 that time. Imagine at that age i have so many diagnosis. All this while i was thinking oh if i eat alot i will gain weight. Fruits and veggies is forbidden in my diet. Never eat them at all because i believe it will help me lose weight, which i dont want to. So i consume more meat products more processed food basically all high in proteins. Choke down on fast foods, soda all the way, snacks on alot of chocolates and big bag of potato chips and so on. Without knowing all these affect my health really bad. Then i get to know from my GP that i just have high metabolism and it is normal for me to eat like an elephant and still look physically thin. But the bad thing the GP was telling me is that all the unhealthy food i have been eating for one year plus, had to start to show up. That is where one by one my disease start to come in. My kidney almost shutting down and almost required dialysis but thank god i still able to reversible it before it comes to that stage. Now i began to eat healthy with more balanced diet and start to have a mindset of Hey its ok if u are stick thin or what, who cares? What is important is im healthy on the inside right?
I agree with Ford that be very mindful of one's words as it carries alot of weight especially to the one receiving it. I find it very unkind of how people judge you on the body size once they meet you, "Oh you have put on weight or you look fat". Unkind words can unnecessary and uncalled for as you never know one's struggles.
First warrant officer in history of MINDEF to hat-trick best in performance for 3 leadership Army courses back to back to back 🤯 My honour to be same cohort and you have done our syndicate proud! 🏆🏆🏆 medals and achievements dont illustrate his glory. We let the emblems tell his story. Congratulations on your inspirational journey, SM! Families of veterans you have helped are very thankful for all that you do for charitable causes ~ god bless, thankful for the highest on our bond My brother ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ
its really hard for men to share their weaknesses or vulnerabilities when they are young because of the social stigma. The societal mental health is geared towards women and girls, even psyhciatrist methods of dealing with mental health are unconsciously geared towards feminine side. Instead of having mental health solutions specifically for men, society is now expecting men to change towards being more "feminine" in order to suit the psychiatric methods of counselling.
I feel you bro. I grew up a fat kid too. Always been in TAF club, always being made fun of (by "friends" and family), always having an insecurity about physical appearances but never daring to verbalise them. Girls I was interested in growing up just knew me as that fat guy who's funny but always getting friendzoned. It really hurt. Today I'm powerlifting and no longer (that) fat. I found strength sports the perfect cure for loving food. While others struggled to bulk up, I actually enjoyed it haha. Maybe those who are struggling with similar problems can give it a try. Thanks for sharing your story.
Calling someone names because of there struggles will never make anyone the best or a role model if people like you for your bulling they are scared of you and they really don’t like you
Thanks for sharing your story Ford. I hope you can find a good clinical psychologist and find some peace and create your own safety. It’s personally changed my life 😊
I experienced the same when I was in primary school too. Some people called me “bra boy” simply because I like to wear an inner sleeveless shirt inside my uniform (it’s just a habit somehow). When I was in secondary school people call me a guy with man boobs. I never knew how it affected me only when I realised that… I like to wear a tshirt inside my shirt. Cause I don’t want my moobs to appear. Or how I like baggy tshirts too 😅 Please don’t call yourself a coward, Ford. I salute and respect your courage for sharing this with all of us. 🙏🏼💪🏼
It sucks to have body dysmorphia but let's be objective. On the other end of the spectrum we have the woke body acceptance movement. At least with body dysmorphia it's a matter of adjusting one's own chase for perfection. While body acceptance individuals have zero self awareness which is key to fixing any issues.
Hello Ford! U are so handsome lor! Attractive & Stylish! Please! Treat yourself better! For your younger brother and especially for yourself! U Can Do it!!! 🦾❤️👏🏻 *加油*!!! 👏🏻 TOTALLY agree with what u said about even Family need to be careful with their words with others. Doesn’t mean u are blood-related mean they can shoot their mouth off without thinking. I was underweight, and sad to say.. My own mum always talk like this 💔 Sometimes we need to set boundaries with them even if they are our family. Keep a distance to live our own life more happily! Keep away from people who wound our souls, put us down and are toxic to us. Wishing you a lifetime of Happiness, Good Health + Your soulmate soon 😊💘 Believe in Yourself!!! 💖
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"Call me a Coward". Hell no, Ford. You came out here to share your story with hundreds of thousands, the amount of balls that takes to be this vulnerable and in front of this many people is insane. You are no coward, you're an inspiration
Kudos to this man for surviving the past trauma and willing to share his struggles:)
He's a real resilient guy, the fact that he voices out such deep and real struggle really says a lot
You're very self-aware, reflective, and articulate so well. It was very helpful hearing you share your experience with all the insight.
everyone of us have our own demons to overcome. Kudos for having the strength to share.
This is the kind of life coach and motivational speakers we need!! His vulnerability and willingness to share the realness of his struggles brought me to tears. Go Ford!
I am definitely one that attended your lectures in NYP around 2012-2014. Mr Ford Lim!!
Back then you were the most confident and most charismatic speaker❤ I vaguely remember you do 100km Ultra runs~
Happy to see you in the TH-cam space! Be kind to yourself! You are super charismatic. Also thank you for sharing your deepest struggle. I am rooting for you!
No wonder !! At the end of his story, I learned that he gives talks in schools, etc. He is extremely articulate, faultless grammar( vocab, expressions….). I also think that his size now is perfect . Kudos to you, Ford👍
Mental resilience is so so important. We cannot eradicate bullying totally but I hope children and teenagers have the channel to get help.
"I wish i was kinder to myself" :'((( ahhh u got this Ford!
Thanks Ford for opening up and sharing your struggles with eating disorder. The recovery journey is long. May you continue to find strength to keep fighting one day at a time.
I can relate to some of the struggles you shared about your eating disorder. It is tough to open up to others…
I appreciate this episode so much. I hope Ford will find his inner peace someday and be comforted by the fact that regardless of everything, he's doing (and looking) great.
I personally struggle with body dysmorphia so thank you for this episode. I really really love it.
Thank you for sharing, Ford! I relate to your journey, thoughts & emotions even though I didn’t suffer or have an eating disorder. You put into words some of the things I felt/thought! Recalling that made me grateful to be where I’m at today.
I grew up a fat kid. When I was 12, I became more conscious of my body image & weight. During school holiday, I started puking wtv I ate because I felt guilty eating (to be fair, I used to eat wayy too much haha). Found out that inducing vomit was very easy for me - I could just bend over on the toilet bowl & puke. Even found out that drinking water just before vomiting prevented sore throats after 😅. Like you, the sensation after puking was really great. I lost over 5kg in over a month. I didn’t puke that often & wasn’t malnourished.
I stopped puking when I realised that my mom knew that I vomited after eating. I also felt guilty for wasting money, food & her efforts. I felt so bad because her food was delicious & me puking made it seem like I was lying about it.
One of the reasons why I was fat was because we had a lot of food & usually didn’t want to keep leftovers. After I stopped vomiting, I would just eat enough. We made it a culture in our house to save leftovers & not force ourselves to finish all the food we had for lunch/dinner.
This was a toughie for me. Having gone through a similar route but with different habits....he couldn't have articulated it better. Kudos to you indeed Ford for coming out and speaking so candidly. You're truly so courageous for that. And to admit to yourself everything, it's so painful.
Feel like giving him hugs 😍 It's not an easy journey but he's grown stronger and he's good looking too ❤
Hi Ford, thanks for sharing your story. I have also been struggling with emotional eating since I was 12, and I am 32 now. My late dad passed away because of emotional eating too. At first he did it as a form of revenge for his childhood’s poverty. When he had enough money, he chose food as an outlet to feel satisfied about life-financially. Then, when he had problems, he ran away from the problems (or you can say it’s toxic masculinity because he probably thought it’s too weak to seek help for his depression) with food. He always treated food like he never ate it before. Like there’s no tomorrow. He became overweight, eventually got strokes multiples times.. then he got dementia and alzheimer’s symptoms. Those were the hardest times. I often blame myself if only I know how to save him.
Ford, u definitely not a coward. just onward word RESPECT!!! being a man and speaking out your struggles indeed a heroic act. Salute!!!
Hey Ford, you’re incredibly good-looking and your vocabulary is really impressive!
Love what he said "one sunset at a time".
Eating disorders are so tough. We need to still have a relationship with what we are addicted to 😢
Hello Ford, you're incredibly brave! Thanks for being so vulnerable to share your journey with us. I was also in the humiliating TAF club and I have family calling me Han Bao Bao (hamburger) and round. Baby steps. Like you said, one sunset at a time. Jiayou! You can do it!
thank you for sharing with us part of your life Ford. May you one day realise fully - you are ENOUGH just as you are
bro its scary how much i relate to this dude. Kudos for speaking out. Thankfully with alot of research and articles out there i didnt purge too much unless i really ate to the brim. Sometime i eat till i can barely breath... Just needed that food high
Thank you Ford for sharing such an inspirational story! I will definitely try taking life as one sunset at a time!!
Salute this bro !
You’re such an inspiration! Salute you for sharing your past life -you stand with your head held high - your articulation reflects your confidence. Congratulations!
being a bodybuilder myself, i struggle with body dysmorphia as well , not purging wise but always constantly dieting and trying to stay 10% bodyfat year round
You didn't deserve any of the bullying you received, Ford. Am sorry it happened to you.
What a beautiful man, inside and out ! I hope one day he is able to let someone in. He deserves love ❤
Thank you Ford for sharing, you inspire us all
I can relate. I was diagnosed with malnutrition. Not the one that u see from fat and dying to become thin. Nope. Im the opposite. Im thin and im dying to be fat. Same like him, it all started with the constant bullying and name calling etc at school. Thats where it all started. I would eat so much with no care in the world that it become so unhealthy to my body. I would force eating even though im totally full. I know it is enough but i still choke it down. To the point where i got really sick one day and go to the doctor and i got hypertension, pre diabetes and hyperlipidemia ( high cholesterol) even though im still physically thin and i am only 23 that time. Imagine at that age i have so many diagnosis. All this while i was thinking oh if i eat alot i will gain weight. Fruits and veggies is forbidden in my diet. Never eat them at all because i believe it will help me lose weight, which i dont want to. So i consume more meat products more processed food basically all high in proteins. Choke down on fast foods, soda all the way, snacks on alot of chocolates and big bag of potato chips and so on. Without knowing all these affect my health really bad. Then i get to know from my GP that i just have high metabolism and it is normal for me to eat like an elephant and still look physically thin. But the bad thing the GP was telling me is that all the unhealthy food i have been eating for one year plus, had to start to show up. That is where one by one my disease start to come in. My kidney almost shutting down and almost required dialysis but thank god i still able to reversible it before it comes to that stage. Now i began to eat healthy with more balanced diet and start to have a mindset of Hey its ok if u are stick thin or what, who cares? What is important is im healthy on the inside right?
This video really gave a lot of insight to ED disorder, especially since it's my 1st time seeing in men. It's a great video, producers :3
MOE really need to apologise for creating TAF Club , every kid enrolled in this program was made fun of !
it wasn’t even effective, i think that was the worst part
Thanks for sharing your story! I believe you, sharing vulnerably has impacted many already. ❤️
I agree with Ford that be very mindful of one's words as it carries alot of weight especially to the one receiving it. I find it very unkind of how people judge you on the body size once they meet you, "Oh you have put on weight or you look fat". Unkind words can unnecessary and uncalled for as you never know one's struggles.
Thanks for being so open and genuine...
He is very articulate and speaks so well. Hope he would always be doing well 🎉
one sunset at a time! yess thank u
I am sorry for what he is going through . He is so brave To speak at here . And he is good looking ! ❤
First warrant officer in history of MINDEF to hat-trick best in performance for 3 leadership Army courses back to back to back 🤯 My honour to be same cohort and you have done our syndicate proud!
🏆🏆🏆 medals and achievements dont illustrate his glory. We let the emblems tell his story. Congratulations on your inspirational journey, SM! Families of veterans you have helped are very thankful for all that you do for charitable causes ~ god bless, thankful for the highest on our bond
My brother ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ
I love your "keep your world small"
You are enough no matter what others say, be joyful always as none of us are perfect.
Thanks for sharing… beautiful man. Gentle and strong.
its really hard for men to share their weaknesses or vulnerabilities when they are young because of the social stigma. The societal mental health is geared towards women and girls, even psyhciatrist methods of dealing with mental health are unconsciously geared towards feminine side. Instead of having mental health solutions specifically for men, society is now expecting men to change towards being more "feminine" in order to suit the psychiatric methods of counselling.
I feel you bro. I grew up a fat kid too. Always been in TAF club, always being made fun of (by "friends" and family), always having an insecurity about physical appearances but never daring to verbalise them. Girls I was interested in growing up just knew me as that fat guy who's funny but always getting friendzoned. It really hurt. Today I'm powerlifting and no longer (that) fat. I found strength sports the perfect cure for loving food. While others struggled to bulk up, I actually enjoyed it haha. Maybe those who are struggling with similar problems can give it a try. Thanks for sharing your story.
Ngl, TAF club just gave people anxiety ++
As a male who used to suffer from anorexia, thank you for representing us. 😊
Thats was me when i was young where i puke everytime when i eat until i grow up and i realise i dont have to impress anyone. i just have to be myself.
you got this man!!😌🔥
I admire your courage to speak up and so proud that you are looking very healthy now
Great guy. Thanks for sharing your experience and advise.
Calling someone names because of there struggles will never make anyone the best or a role model if people like you for your bulling they are scared of you and they really don’t like you
It’s unfortunate his parents failed him. He’s been very resilient and strong.. very admirable. I think he should go for therapy.
Thanks for sharing your story Ford. I hope you can find a good clinical psychologist and find some peace and create your own safety. It’s personally changed my life 😊
I experienced the same when I was in primary school too. Some people called me “bra boy” simply because I like to wear an inner sleeveless shirt inside my uniform (it’s just a habit somehow). When I was in secondary school people call me a guy with man boobs. I never knew how it affected me only when I realised that… I like to wear a tshirt inside my shirt. Cause I don’t want my moobs to appear. Or how I like baggy tshirts too 😅
Please don’t call yourself a coward, Ford. I salute and respect your courage for sharing this with all of us. 🙏🏼💪🏼
yes. dont bully OR nickname any
I hope he can find healing. And also realise he's actually damn hot.
Thank you for sharing. Can try therapy. You’ve got this!!
U r actually good looking Ford!
u remember who the guys are who bullied you? let me know their linkedin accounts, ill give them a good time.
lol pathetic
@@freemovementthey’re just trying to
help
2:20 sorry I laugh a little bit.😁
8:53 🤗👍
Thank you for sharing your story.
I thought it was an interview with Chew Chor Meng. This guy resembles him!
It sucks to have body dysmorphia but let's be objective. On the other end of the spectrum we have the woke body acceptance movement. At least with body dysmorphia it's a matter of adjusting one's own chase for perfection. While body acceptance individuals have zero self awareness which is key to fixing any issues.
Ford, Jesus loves you!
why he look like that mediacorp actor??
Chor chew ming? Thought so too!
Origin of disorder Sounds v weird - but nonetheless u looked good ,almost actor kind of handsome level. Hope u will gain ur confidence soon
what about it sounds weird? O_O
Bullying in schools are not taken seriously by teachers, what’s so odd about that
I wish I had his body :-))) and also his confidence :-))) very cool guy to be proud of, so I cannot relate to his low self esteem, sorry.
Everyone fights a different war. We all wear different masks
can i have his IG
🫂🙏🏾
Ford Lim, crossfitter guy. Should show his old pics so we can see how he looked like
be careful of females. Glad u are getting better....... take care of ur mental health n bro n family n health
. TREASURE...GOD BLESS
i tot chew chor meng....
My gay radar is going off!!
what does that have to do with the subject matter?
@@firdaus125 agreed
Tasteless comment
1st world problem... jz send urself to Ethiopia... and see how fortunate you are no matter what upbringing you face...
not thankful enuff definitely... look at how good-looking you are... head full of hair.. cool tattoos... not thankful enuff...
Hello Ford! U are so handsome lor! Attractive & Stylish! Please! Treat yourself better! For your younger brother and especially for yourself! U Can Do it!!! 🦾❤️👏🏻 *加油*!!! 👏🏻
TOTALLY agree with what u said about even Family need to be careful with their words with others. Doesn’t mean u are blood-related mean they can shoot their mouth off without thinking.
I was underweight, and sad to say.. My own mum always talk like this 💔 Sometimes we need to set boundaries with them even if they are our family. Keep a distance to live our own life more happily! Keep away from people who wound our souls, put us down and are toxic to us. Wishing you a lifetime of Happiness, Good Health + Your soulmate soon 😊💘 Believe in Yourself!!! 💖