Chaim Walder & the Cover-Ups in Our Communities
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Thank you yy jacobson for not fearing to talk the truth! I was raped as a young girl, I believe that the place where I am today, is only because hashem gave me strength through my hardships to seek the truth! I found hashem on the har habayit! I feel so much happiness, fulfillment, love and joy from hashem! I couldn't imagine my life being any better ( I hope and pray for a geula shleima, so all the Jews should feel and see hashem's greatness!)
I was abused by my father as a child and none of my family believe me thankfully he is no longer alive and therefore I find the healing easier because I no longer have to see him but the pain of having to keep it inside myself is so great almost as the abuse itself I pray to hashem that I should let go of the past and move forward in my avodas hashem with brochoh vahatzlochoh
You are not alone. My wife started SOVRI (support of orthodox victims of rape and incest) 40 yrs ago. Helping others is a powerful cure.
I have found healing in somatic therapy. It's a real healing of removing the pain and trigger from the body
Chazak chazak, you are not alone.
Me too. My earthly father is Satan and then every man after resembled him. I feel the man never loved me. He took from me instead. I can only pray that the Jews will see the world needs their love like a man to a woman. That brings Him here on Earth and then our prayers will be answered 💗
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As a community we can't remain silent. Every child deserves to be safe, seen and heard. Every victim deserves to heal.
In my healing journey my rage and anger towards perpetrators is slowly turning to compassion and prayer. G-d loves each person regardless of how far they go. And he waits and accepts the return through the process of teshuvah. For the victims out there, may you find the capacity to heal, you deserve to be freed from the shackles of pain, depression, unworthiness and any defense mechanisms you've taken on to survive. And for any perpetrators out there.....its time you heal, from the drive to perpetrate, its time you face your struggles and turn that drive to a positive outlet. Its time you protect yourself, and your future victims by putting mechanisms in place to ensure that you don't hurt another human being. And its time you heal your wounds so that you can face yourself, you can apologize to your victims if confronted and assure them that you have repented and mended your ways. Because a victims primary concern and solace is knowing that their perpetrator is not hurting others. So you owe this process to your victims and more importantly to yourself.
Sadly, for some reason this sin is almost never repented of. Why is that? The perpetrators even use sympathy to commit more abuse. I think, like Pharaoh, the sin of abusing children sexually comes from a very hardened heart. A person has to cross many lines to get to the point where they can do that, and by the time they can commit such a terrible deed they have hardened their heart to the point where they are like an addict. They have to use a lot of deceit, they have to be willing to hurt the children of parents they are close to in the community and to knowingly cause that child deep psychological and physical harm, they have to use hospitality, positions of trust and cunning to commit the deeds they do. These acts do not happen spontaneously, and the perpetrator knows they are doing something very evil, but they've convinced themselves that their lusts are more important than anyone elses' well-being. They've willingly given up self-control. The focus needs to be on preventing further abuse and helping the victims. Perpetrators must face consequences and use that-if they choose-to turn to HaShem for healing. Only HaShem can heal such a corrupted heart. Sure, you should forgive, but forgiveness means cancelling the debt they owe for the harm they've done, not looking to them or letting yourself live in bitterness and anger. You give them to Hashem in your heart. Our compassion for them only encourages them to keep feeling sorry for themselves, which they are already pretty good at. People who commit these things have already told themselves they aren't responsible, its not their fault. Let HaShem handle them.
Finally someone is saying what should have been said!!!
The right words!!! The truth!!!
Finally someone real is caring about the victims who deserve the support!!
People have been caring for a very long time
@@surikatz123 there isn’t always rabbis sticking up like this
@@surikatz123 if they have been, there wouldn't be fear to come forward
@@malkaleahschwartz3716 that's true. Not enough so called rabbis call out evil. They're stilll busy blaming our problems on the internet.
Malak Leah Shwartz.Wow.After the horse has bolted.Rabonim are not stupid.Many know full well the creepiness that permeates our secretive society but won't do anything about it till it's too late.
The perpetrator had good PR. The victim never had good PR. Perfectly put.
It also concerns me how many teachers and principals kept quiet when victims had the courage to tell the truth. On discussion with a friend who is a teacher, she did confirm that when she had her own concerns about a pupil her principal negated the issue. Many leaders in our community are more concerned with the competition with other institutions and not the individual.
Best quote at 1:10:
"Real Jews have compassion for everybody, even a perpetrator. Nobody understands the deep demons. But when I see that there is more compassion to a perpetrator than a victim, that drives me mad!"
So well articulated!
HaShem should bless Rabbi J, with more of this love for the Jewish people and the courage to defend it always.
and incourage the victims to have the courage to denounce the perpetrators just to stop their conz error continous violations. Even it concerns rabbis and teachers.
Thank you, Rabbi, for standing up for the victims.
It’s so sad!!! I feel so sorry for the victims! It’s time for our community to stop protecting abusers!!
א גיט מארגן מודה אני
and all our jewish communities should not have mercy for the perpetrators ab and denounce them as in the ancient biblical time these ^perpetrators were condemned to die. Think of the kids violated and the great trauma that they got. NO MERCY AT ALL
Correction: holy rabonim not 'tannin. 'What' not 'eat'.
This is the time of coming the real Mashiach, all truth is coming out around this planet inhabitants. Baruch HaShem! I have a lot of respect for you Rabbi, I am grateful to be able to watch your videos. For so long I wanted to learn everything about our people, the Torah of Moshe, I was an ignoramus because my parents never told me our ancestry, my mom's parents were from Spain, my dad was Dominican, but also descendant of Jewish people, all Sephardim. Thanks to HaShem blessed is He, I found out by researching, but HaShem revealed to me first about my ancestry. Ever since then, now about 12 years ago, I have been trying to learn. I understand a little Hebrew, but wish I had started earlier in my life learning Torah. Thanks for your kindness in teaching us.
It's never too little, it's never too late. Hashem is always holding the door open for us.
MUST MUST MUST WATCH
wow!! the last few minutes he explains why the Parasha speaks about breathing!!!
"they won't be able to breeth"
right before Gueula!!
That's Geula right now in our time after all those craziness of Covid !!!
Thank you for saying the truth!
You cannot fully rid yourself of this addiction! Because that is what it is. They have to remove themselves from all the temptations! But they would have to always be watched and monitored!
It is a shame that people live in denial. Everyone shouldn't be warned about these things especially kids in school and boys who live in dormitories. ABSOLUTELY NOBODY CAN BE TRUSTED AND NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO TOUCH YOU! very sad for people who don't understand or they just want to live in denial.
Should be warned sorry for the typo.
Yaffa Donath.Yeah!!! Don't trust anyone.What a healthy lifestyle.Don't get married either.Comes with its own risks.
thank you Rabbi Jacobson for bringing clarity to such a dark world. I think also that it is very important to teach children about this danger. My mother would always talk to me about this thing that happens and she gave me tools to know what to do. It's important to teach children to not keep quiet and to not be vulnerable.
Please share the tools she taught you. May be helpful for other parents.
@@shermarie2876 she would first of all tell us that our bodies are private and the belonged to us. She explained that it is not ok if someone touches our private parts. That if any adult told us to go with them, unless she had told us before that so and so was to pick us up, we should go with no one. If a teacher wanted to talk to us after class in private, we had to tell him or her that we would do in the school office but not alone in the classroom. If we went to any therapy she would always stay around.
She used to work as a volunteer in a children's hospital and was exposed to the horrors of child abuse. Sadly there are very evil people and we should teach our kids to sense when someone wants to harm them, or give them the what to do to not fall into this type of situations. And yes, tell them that they can always tell you if someone is harassing them. Hope this is helpful.
@@LiveaLittleHigher What a blessing is a mother like that! Thank you for sharing.
My husband's grandfather when a widower and was old found himself at home with a caretaker. He refused to stay at home with her without the presence of one of his children at all times. When questioned by his daughter that he need not worry of yichud, he related the above story related by Rabbi YY Jacobson, of the poilisher tsadik and added his punchline: I'm not afraid of the yetser hora, I'm afraid of the shulchan aruch!
Thank you Rabbi Jacobson for being our voice of truth, decency and morality! Thank you for decrying that which is evil, on all levels. Alei l'maala alei!
1:09:23 That's the point! "Real Jews have compassion for everybody, even a perpetrator .... but when I see that there is more compassion to a perpetrator than a victim, that drives me mad"
Ruth Winkler.If you have evidence Walder did this,and you made no effort to stop it and you're SO convinced he's so evil bear in mind you are guilty by association.Or maybe you don't have evidence? So be quiet.
Hold your horses. Ruth doesn’t even live near him and not even in his country. I know that cause I live in the same city as her. It’s not about walder or not. It’s about ALL cases in the world. Things are happening and sometimes our community just looks away with an „ they will survive „ attitude. And this older day attitude doesn’t work anymore.
@@Tali5899 G-d forbid you or your daughter ever get abused, but if you do, I hope there will be a Ruth sticking up for you shadings the people that like you are trying to shush the victims. CW was found guilty by a qualified beit din after reviewing testimony of 22 victims and listening to CW's admission and after CW refused to appear in front of the beit din.
J-lo.I sincerely hope if anyone gets raped that they will have the good fortune to have the number of an honest and upright community leader who will support them and have the backbone to publicly denounce the rapist.errrrr, preferably Before he kills himself or flees the country or threatens ppl with clout in that community to keep silent.I wonder if this applies to marital rape as well,or only when an acclaimed and respected figure is brought to is knees and we can take him to pieces to spice up our monotonous exisence?
Just as rabbi said. It drives me mad as well. This is the biggest tragedy in my mind. That people justify the murderer, who killed himself and blame the victims.
My frum father-sexually abused me ever since I was a baby, my teachers In yeshiva should have noticed something was wrong.
I used to sleep in the back of the classroom with my coat on every day.
I would like teachers to recognize and help children.
I’m no longer frum and I believe Hashem will forgive me.
I have my own private galus
This resonates with me very strongly. Why didn't my teachers see that there was something so obviously wrong... It's a life of fighting internal death.
Your amazing. How you are is perfect
@@leeorelirone8540 thank you
@@chanabennett9138 I hope you find some inner peace
Thank you so much
I kept asking the Rabbis who defended Walder why no one is going to the police, but they ran away from the question every time. So gross. They don’t think the law applies to them. It’s that simple. Period.
From 57:45 is where it gets REAL
What about Avi Kahan from New City and all the people he victimized in the Monsey community? Why don't you also talk about him?
You are a very understanding man Rabbi. Our people, all through the ages have suffered so much, but HaShem is with us, always have been and will be. Sometimes I feel frustrated and loose out, but then I am able to understand. My family was very poor, we suffered hunger when we, 7 children, were growing up, but we were very naive, innocent, there was no evil in any of my siblings. B"H
as usual, fascinating perspective on the parsha, another reminder that Torah is timeless and not limited to a particular era
Correction: The source of the Nile River is Lake Victoria, Uganda. It flows through Ethiopia, which has rainy season July-August. It swells and travels through Chad and then Eygpt
It worries me that if the victims cannot heal sufficiently they may not be able to nurture their own children in the future and their own pain is perpetuated.
How do you spell mattos or “stick”? I don’t know Hebrew or Yiddish. I’m brand new to Judaism
The desire to discredit victims and protect the predator is cult behavior: 101
There is saying as well, 'If you drink water of the Nile, you will return to Egypt'
This is astounding. Thank you Rabbi from NC, USA. Baruch Hashem.
The great and wonderful rabbi y y:
As always, straight-forward honest and true, clear cut ant to the point.
"THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS PREVAIL" Every1 should remember that, live it study it and preach it to 1selv'es and others, SO EVERY1 CAN REST IN PEACE AND ETERNITY, חותמו של הקב"ה "אמת"!!!!!
How does one explain the rabbis who personally endorsed him?
They obviously didn’t know. It’s not like he told them what he is doing and the cover he presented didn’t show any signs of deciet. They knew him personally but not his demons and if not the victim’s stepping forward neither would anyone else have an idea. Regardless of his personal endorsements it’s the parents job to make sure thier child isn’t alone with someone. It’s also that parents need to learn not to trust anyone even if they have a good reputation to be alone with their kids. If he needs to talk to a child because of a story let the parents go along or make sure someone else will be present. I don’t agree with graphic descriptions to a child to protect him. I do agree with generally saying and enforcing that a child not be alone with an adult in a room and not accept any goodies or treats from an adult. To tell their parents if anyone tries to get them to go along with them or offers them treats. And then confront that person with hey! I’m aware and I don’t approve. Please back off. Because sometimes it may be innocent but better safe than sorry. If a perpetrator knows parents are present involved and aware they do not target those children. The best protection therefore as parents is to be close to your kids and involved and have a strong home. Your child should know about strangers even if they have all the religious signs and are respected people.
Star.I'm so sorry my reply to you was deleted bc I stated something about tannin phishing ppl when it comes to sexual abuse Being the tzniusdik moral ppl they are this is only discussed when someone died then we can smear him all over town instead of dealing with it b4 it gets worse.Rabonim,you must understand also have their livelihoods and reputations to think of....this whole article is a farce and a kind of joke actually.Albeit a sick one.Why and How did 22 women suddenly feel strong enough to come forward randomly after so much time?! Verrry odd.Will I be deleted? Time shall tell.
''correvction: 'rabonim shushing'
@@leahblau3333 this entire saga is a chillul Hashem. It’s very sad If it’s true and if it’s not. There are no winners. All a person can do is try and be a good person Themselves and try to protect thier kids whether something is going on or not. The best antidote to these issues is having a strong home life.
Thank you for this......I think it would be hard for the victims and their families to see this as "good thing." I am going to quote a piece of a letter from a Passaic Rabbi and would like a response, if possible. "Rav Shmuel Eliyahu, Chief Rav of Tzfas, went personally and spoke privately to CW and pleaded with him to stop his pernicious ways. CW responded with intimidation and threats.
The Gaon HaRav Yehudah Moshe Silman - the head of the most respected Beis Din in Israel, the Beis Din of Rav Nissim Karelitz Zt”L, teamed up with Rav Eliyahu, and he also pleaded with CW to cease and desist. His pleas fell on deaf ears." How is this good? Why are these Ravs not held accountable? Why did they not go to the authorities immediately? How can you hold such titles and let this happen? They pleaded with him to stop? Seriously? This is so upsetting. I'm sorry but they bear some responsibility. I was shocked to read this and even more shocked that others aren't saying anything about this. (Unless I haven't seen) If rape is akin to murder, then absolutely the police should have been brought in. "CW was spoken to multiple times in attempts to avoid a public Chilul Hashem." Too late for that - and these Ravs just made it worse. My heart goes out to the victims and their families. The community should have much higher standards for its leaders.
Devora Peretz.We Have much higher standards for our leaders but they are failing us grandly.R'YY here has done a great job....only years to latte and now that nothing can be done about it.Are we meant to thank him?
I think it will be a real challenge to address this in this community. The doctrines of loshan hora, daas Torah and kivod ha'rav, mitigate against the community pooling information about bad acts and responding effectively to them when the actors are also venerated by the community as leaders.
Any person who knew and did nothing will be held accountable in the next world
Dana Druion.😥im afraid that from reading all these comments from people who know nothing about the subject or the people involved that they are not very worried about being accountable in the next world- if they believe in a next world at all that is.Which judging by the abundance of slander here ,is highly doubtful.👍
@@leahblau3333 - do you think the community has to change certain norms, beliefs and values to try to prevent such things from happening in this world? If so, what specific changes should there be?
The lecturer of the עקבתה דמשיחה!
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1:14:00 A rabbi says "OMG".
What a metaphor to compare this to all the victims coming forward and the Truth was ready to come out!
The question now is, how is this explained to the young children, and how can we help the wife and children who are now suffering?
Just wondering: do you 'explain' Every public scandal to your children?! Yikes. Are they personally connected to the Walders?
Maybe their kids are asking questions…
BK.mmmmm.Time for us adults to stop talking in front of the kids about stuff that we can't explain easily ,isn't it?
Can someone pinpoint the time where he speaks about Walder?
57:45
@@naphataliheimann9281 Thank you!
It's interesting but what about when paroah commanded both Jewish and non Jewish baby boys
Thanks for this Tanya.
Gives me an understanding
Of a person who seems to b trying to climb in Yiddishkeit n is acting like a rasha in business
Well said. Shkoyech. 1:10
I love the jews and I wish I was one.
I have a question…
Right now it’s not לתועלת to know if and what happened, cuz he can’t harm anyone anymore.
If he hurt anyone, my heart goes out to them!
But I don’t think that the way it was dealt with was right.
An article , recording of conversation etc… I think it should’ve been dealt with police, courts, something real and then if they think he’s dangerous, then post to stay away..
If a person sined and cheated , even though it’s really horrible! They don’t get thrown from work and community, their marriage usually falls apart… here, he lost everything. I think he did a lot of good to ppl. I’ve heard from ppl that were in his camp how much he cared for each kid, and if they got bullied by others he helped them. He did have good qualities… it’s so sad to hear the he fell so bad…
Rav Edelstein said that he was murdered. He said that המלבין פני חברו ברבים אין לו חלק לעולם הבא, and that what he did he does.
I don’t know what to think.
Who to listen to anymore.
It’s גדולי הדור.
What am I supposed to do? Am I wrong?
Everything is so confusing 😥
If I may, did you know that out of every 1000 sexual abusers, 975 walk free?
310/1000 are reported to the police
50 of those reports lead to arrest
28 of those result in a felony conviction
and only 25 are sent to jail.
Does that change your perspective on police and courts?
Also, keep in mind that beis din did convict him and the police were notified and were beginning their investigation.
He didn’t allow that to continue.
22 individuals came forward, many of who were assaulted as children.
You also why they didn’t come out earlier? Imagine you were abused by a popular community leader when you were 12. Would you tell your parents? Would they even believe you? Would you tell anyone after he had groomed you and convinced you of the harm that would be caused by you telling anyone?
He is guilty. And us staying silent gives him underserved rest. We need to wipe out the abusers from this culture and we need to stand up for the victims.
You ask about Rabbi Edelstein, I assume he doesn’t know the full story and when he does he will retract his words, assuming he’s actually a gadol.
Sorry don't know why 'history' popped up.
@@ydubin I agree, when I see something in the news, I tell myself “let’s wait to see what the court decide”. That’s the best we can do. Based on all the testimonies and him not putting up a defense, we can assume that he did it. When one party doesn’t show up, they loose the case. This is the best we can do, now we need to focus on the victims. Case closed.
NO!. WE HAVE TO SPEAK OUT PUBLICLY!! ABOUT THIS. SO THE PERPETRATOR!! IS SHAMED!! FOR ETERNITY!! AND WITH THAT WE HOPEFULLY DISCOURAGE!! OTHERS!! FROM COMMITTING THE SAME HEINOUS!! ACTS!! AND PERHAPS IF THESE "MONSTERS" DON'T CARE ABOUT THEIR "OWN HONOR" MABY🤔 THEY WILL CARE ABOUT THE HONOR!! OF THEIR FAMILY!!
Edit Cohen.It's nice to read some people have still got their head screwed on and aren't carried away on a stream of Lashon hara that we really have no idea if/how true or not and if true is really totally not relevant as he's gone and no one is doing this to help victims or to prevent it again!
As always You are crystal clear in your description of the horrific situation. Than you Rabbi YY.
Thank you for this video
Yishar koach
To the lady at the end, listen to yourself. You are in absolute denial. You can’t even listen to Rabbi YY while he’s speaking to you.
There was funny battle where Persians brought chariots of cats and that's why they fear the cat it's interesting check it out
^today we are living in a corrupted world and if we have not a sincere honest relationship to haShem we can fall down affected by a destructive temptation secondary orth. parents should with diplomacy and love explain to the kids the danger of rape and sexual violation but sometime the strict orth. parents have not the courage to speak about a very delicate situation and explanation. The communities should not cover the perpetrators and defend the victims expecially whn errore when it concerns kids.
@Maria Wolf.If the issue is with strict orthodox parents,why do liberal modern or even(broad minded of course) non Jewish parents have 're same problem in their siocieties? Lets leave racism & hate out of this for a while now,yes?
There is no such a thing as a white lie- a lie is a lie
Lucky is the person who connects to truth and nothing but the truth!!!
Please change the title to not state his name. I believe the man left a huge lesson to be taught but now that he isn't here to defend himself it's seems wrong halachacly or not to point at him and not the situation overall.
אין מקבלין עדות שלא בפני בעל דין, ואם קבלו אין דנין על פיו:
חושן משפט כח טו
So true Rabbi, the Torah pulls out the dross, Baruch Hashem! A Divine separation.
There are some out there whose sole soul mission is to remove DIVINE one's from physical
Want stargazers involved?
Wasn't *
The women arguing after the shiur to show rachmanus to Wadler are disgusting.
I agree, I wish those comments had not been included.
If those women who are defending him ever get raped I hope that people show them the kindness of defending them rather than being the brazen brats that they are presenting themselves to be..
B b. Haha wow you are doing a Great service to women who have been abused by commenting on here and gossiping about an alleged peep who is no longer amongst the living! You are just as bad.You're doing nothing! Go ahead of I care!! Help one of the victims(if Anyone knows who they are) get therapy,get involved in an org to help he next person....noo ooooo....righteous indignation is so much less effort! Correct?
@@leahblau3333 Please don't equate a comment with sexual abuse and manipulation. I think your views are far more triggering to victims than the support shown here.
I'm presently turning video off at minute marker [22:24] They have been guided to the good words; they have been guided in the path of the Most Praised.
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🚨 Matthew 10:28
“Don’t be afraid of those who can kill only your bodies-but can’t touch your souls! Fear only God who can destroy both soul and body in hell.
It is possible that the writer you are talking about has been a victim of a false accusation.
And (G-d forbid!) each of us, including you, can become the next such victim.
Don't blame when you can't be sure.
Naturally, I completely agree with you about the importance of observing the laws of modesty, and in particular "Yichud"
1:15:30
@Alexander Kaper good try
22 People at least have been reporting him, is that not enough of an evidence that there was something clearly happening here? Why are you defending a Rapist? That is disrespectful to every single one of the people who have been hurt.
@@judithfrohwein7846 It's just hard to beleive it, he was very respected. He was the first author who wrote children's boooks to help children express emotions. He was a well-known educator who mentored children with learning problems. 22 witnesses came forward to testify against him. The Rabbi who was heading the Beis Din said he couldn't get through to him. He said He saw how he was adddicted to this act
@@חבדדגןגרומך It's so Sad. It's sad that these things are happening. We need Gd to bring the Geula and so much healing to this world.
What a disgrace
Using such a painful story to get popularity
What a Shande Mr YY
simson.sweat not,fret not.he's just deleting all the dislikes and any anti comments! As corrupt as the rest....watch this space.
Rabbi YY is not commenting on this painful story for "popularity," but because he feels it is a terrible thing for a perpetrator to be given more understanding than his victims. People are acting as if the victims were the ones who harmed the immoral rabbi, and not the rabbi himself with his bad behavior. Rabbi YY knows it is very hurtful for other victims to witness such harassment of victims, and makes it less likely that victims will speak out, so Rabbi YY is speaking out in hope of encouraging people to stop acting like a cover up would have been more helpful.
He is saying what so many other rabbinic figures are afraid to. Yes, it needs to be said. G-d willing, this way, parents will start to believe their children and we can stop the rampant abuse going on in the frum world. Enough destroying souls.
Yo Jacobson: Bad PR for yourself! Speeches don't make you greater! Leave it up to the Gedolim!
The קטן you are doesn't know who the גדול is.
None of you know the truth so just in case you got it wrong, just shush.We were very happy reading Walders books till things went sour.Everyone thinks they're a victim of abuse nowadays of one type or another.Yes,obviously abusers are wrong but this harping isn t helping them anyway,you guys just love to be righteously indignant over a juicy story but what are you doing to make sure it never happens again? Nothing. And by next week you will be busy dissecting the next scandal.Till they come to get You.Ha.
Oh, is that how this works? We are doing this for fun? We are demonstrating our support for victims everywhere. Our community needs to start taking sexual abuse seriously. This is how change is created.
@Yisrael Dubin.Can you imagine a rov saying "let's call the police together and I'll stand by and back you"?! Duh.Joke.They say, "Sure,call the police" and then run as fast as they can.oh yes...then they say"but don't quote me!". It's easy to talk the talk.
Uch you’re a monster
“Everyone thinks they are a victim of abuse” WRONG!! Sexual abuse has a very clear definition. Sexual abuse is a HUGE problem in our society. WHY? Because perpetrators think they can get away with this. WHY? Because many still believe that abuse is no big deal, but accusing an innocent man is a big deal.
HannaPyrkh.There's quite a long list of problems we have in 'our society' ,or had you not noticed? Many serious issues that are causing widespread devastation,misery,grief.There's a lot of work to do and things to fix.Get busy
The private discussion between YY and that woman at the end was the most powerful part! Wow!
That is exactly where the tension, shame and pain is in real life.
The threat not to tell- or else- the pressure to cover up your experience so that, “ you” don’t “ruin”the life of the perpetrator- a person who who is well- respected and honored.
It’s distorted thinking , as Rabbi YY mentioned- 22 women lying? Or immense pressure to avoid the very uncomfortable Truth?
This willingness to overlook the “ flaws” of powerful people is so intense.
The base Truth is that the person who harmed the children is responsible for, not only “ruining” their own life- but creating pain confusion and shame in so many others lives.
I commend YY for being Brave. It’s extremely difficult to be in the position he is in to face this very uncomfortable subject.
I understand that the families of the perpetrators suffer greatly as well, but it is part of the collateral damage of the acts that Hashem condemns- because of all the pain it causes.
Brave talk and I thank each one of you who had the courage to listen and to feel.
We must provide some way for those struggling with thoughts of offending to have a safe place to talk about it before they act on it.
Prevention starts with facing this ugliness. Well done.
To each one who was able to get through this discussion, with all of the triggers in ourselves it brings up- I thank- you and know that more darkness was replaced with Light in our beings because we were willing to be present before Hashem with this pain.
May you each experience more freedom and healing because of your willingness to see.
As a victim trying to survive; thank you Rabbi. This is so validating.
BK.What has he done or said that is really going to prevent this from happening tomorrow or the next day? Zero that's what. Talk is cheap.Let's see the rabbonim implementing change so people like you don't suffer in the first place.haha good luck.
@@Tali5899 So this is what BK needs to hear now from you ? Oh, "....don't suffer in the first place". Genius! He's still healing. Read his comment again. You get a kick by fanning the flames, which are seemingly/finally taming down with some hope; by seeing & accepting some validation in a positive way from Rabbi JJ?.
PS: Talk is cheap? Sometimes. But it definitely is, when you intentionally make it cheap, when BK did NOT perceive this as such. Please, next time consider commenting responsibly or don't comment at all. Thanks, God bless & heal all
Tali.Yes! Let's see change!
May HaShem by you I wish all the best for you and try to defend the victims by denouncing even rabbis and teachers or your brothers and I hope not your father.
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Finally someone stands up. Y’all rabbis been too quiet for too damn long.
As always, giving over that which will actually be helpful for applicable healing. Is it possible I actually heard someone at the end with the conversation...standing up for him?
Every word truth! So deep
[15:86] Your Lord is the Creator, the Omniscient.
[15:87] We have given you the seven pairs, and the great Quran.
[20:15] "The Hour (end of the world) is surely coming; I will keep it almost hidden. For each soul must be paid for its works.
[20:16] "Do not be diverted therefrom by those who do not believe in it-those who pursue their own opinions-lest you fall.
[20:17] "What is this in your right hand, Moses?"
[20:18] He said, "This is my staff. I lean on it, herd my sheep with it, and I use it for other purposes."
[20:19] He said, "Throw it down, Moses."
[20:20] He threw it down, whereupon it turned into a moving serpent.
[20:21] He said, "Pick it up; do not be afraid. We will return it to its original state.
[20:22] "And hold your hand under your wing; it will come out white without a blemish; another proof.
[20:23] "We thus show you some of our great portents.
Hi, rabbi Jacobson,
Just watched your video about chaim walder, and I'm totally shocked what you said, I don't know who rabbi aliyaho is, what I know is, that the way he dealed with the story, even if it was true is a shame, yes, I'm a son of a rabbi, and I know what's going on on the world, and I'm not denying, that if it's true all the story's, he needs to be confronted and stopped from his job, but since their was no evidence, and all they're saying was 22 girls what ware "anonymous" because he is a bad person, and the evidence you say, was a recording??, come on, I'm shocked, that you don't realize in which world we live, when everyone can make recordings with a voice changer,
And taking it on TV, and on a פרייע magazine, this is the way of Torah?????, its a shame, I'm embarrassed, that there's so called רע-בנים, with this way of life, we all know, that the news reporter, was walders biggest שונא,
So pls, before you talk, make some research, and don't copy paste the media, I know that people that are doing wrong, needs to be hald down, but it doesn't make sense few things, where whare they till now?, and if they're afraid of שידוכים, why didn't the girl that comited suicide this week, come up in front of people, she was פריי with pantz, she wouldn't have any problem of שידוכים??,
Anyway lots of hatzlucha,
And before you talk, pls make sure to go over every detail, you should not be considered as one of the רע-בנים, that are paskening shalos with their feelings and not with the Torah.
BM. be careful what you say.They will delete your message soon.I have been watching the comments and every dislike of Jacobsons evil gossip is being deleted along with comments he doesn't like.Which tells me maybe he's not so honest as he makes out! How a Rav can speak against a dead person so can't defend himself is sickening.This whole thing feels rigged.He should go and save Chabad from all their perverts if he really cares! Let's see how long my msg stays on here now...
What nonsense you spew; & so badly.
Now they say it is a voice changer🤣🤣