BTW...I did end up reselling my Barcelona ticket! I snapped out of it just in time lol. Anyway, Please feel free to share your ✨good✨love stories below! Women, men, anyone! If you've got something to brag about, I wanna hear it! Also, a note about the look and feel of this video, I am in "experiment" mode and playing around a bit, the next videos might all look completely different aesthetically whilst I figure out what style I really like. Anyway, thanks for watching 🤗
I am a dark skinned Kenyan girl from Kenya who actually was never that bothered to date given how much I deviated from the standard of what men want. Actually I did have a Kenyan bf who treated me so well but we just didn't work out. I was naturally focused on dating very dark Kenyan man as a result of this relationship. However my type wanted the light skin or the curvy girl. I was so never interested in or understood why ladies loved to date interracially because it was just not the standard in my environment. All I heard also was horror stories when ladies dated Caucasian men. Oh how wrong I was. I will leave that at that. I am grateful that I am affirmed daily and my well being someone's priority that his race is not important. In short, love who loves you is my Motto now for life!! ❤❤❤❤
@@anonymousone9699 if i was famous y’all would never see my kids. bc it’s so ridiculous. plus you can’t shelter your children from everything on social media and i would hate if my (future children lol) saw things like that at such a young age. i couldn’t imagine how that would affect them.
I feel the same way about people’s obsession with North West (the child, not the direction). It should be illegal to take pics of celebrities’ children. The paparazzi are evil.
i had a Persian work friend who was from Iran; everyday for 3 years at work, he purchased my coworker and I lunch, would buy us gift cards for our birthday, would always volunteer to drive and pick us up if we had to have car work done during work hours….he did all of this for us, as friends. I have never had a BM do those things for me, that was not related to me. I have experienced this time and time again with other races, it’s time for me to step out of the box I’ve put myself in.
My partner is a white Canadian. My God...I have never been loved this way. It's the way he cares, treats, talks and protects me. He's healing me and I'm learning to love and beloved. I've been lucky and I pray all my sisters experience this❤
If you look at the numbers the most successful interracial marriages are between a black woman and white man. Some people say it's because we're more similar than many would expect.
@@lauren6509No. That's based on old numbers with bw who already healed themselves and didn't interracial date to get back at bm. What's happening now is hurt women bringing their hurt into relationships that will look just like the blck ones they were running from eventually.
I had to learn to go where I am loved. I’m a BW who just celebrated 12yrs married to my tall Polish husband. Spoils me with lobsta, pasta and wine. He taught me to love myself in all my natural state. Protects me n our babies. Trust him with my life. 😊
I was so use to being constantly “humbled” by men that didn’t want me to expect much that I almost thought that’s what masculinity was…”humbling” women. A good guy became more important to me than color and I’m so glad I get to experience love that makes me feel like “the prize”…and let’s me feel so safe all I want to do is reciprocate that to him ❤
I love the way you explained it “A good guy became more important to me than color” ❤. That’s exactly what it is. You’re not searching based on race but character.
I'm a 20 yr old black woman in a happy interracial relationship. Started dating when I was 19 and he was 20 🥰 My lovely man is Lebanese. He treats me like a queen. Never looking back.
I’m a BW and I’ve been dating a Lebanese man for the past year and a half, and my experience has been life changing. Initially it was difficult for me to detach myself from the “black love” narrative that I had placed on a pedestal all my life, but overcoming that mindset has been one of life’s greatest lessons for me, not only in terms of romantic relationships but just in general. It has taught me to not limit myself to familiar or comfortable experiences, that love can be found with anyone, and that you need to experience things for yourself. I cannot stress this enough, GO WHERE YOU ARE LOVED, CHERISHED, and RESPECTED. Princess treatment has been the norm for me since we started dating, and he refuses to have it any other way.
@@sirenonland3454 my friend was dating a cowboy from North Carolina who she thought was the one - unfortunately he didn't have any interest in getting to know her college aged( black ) twin sons .
The younger black woman have caught on. My daughter who 18 keeps a white boy around. I've accepted I'm not getting grandkids that look like me and I'm ok with that as long as she happy and treated better than I was. I found black love but it took 20 years of single parenthood. I didn't get love until my 40s which is sad and I'm glad my daughter doesn't have to wait.
You grandkids will look like you. They have your genes despite not having deeper skin color and you never know they might. I am sorry but this what makes me mad about BW and interracial dating is that we are more concerned about a skin color and not happiness.
@@D13vest that’s can occur with any man of any color. BW need to experience dating outside and inside if they choose. Let’s keep it a buck, there are more advantages to dating outside (and inside if one choose) then disadvantages especially is the women want a partner. That’s more chances to meet their mate then sticking to the inside. Now sir or ma’am (whatever you want to call yourself) kindly leave women spaces with fear mongering and trying to instill doubt. These young girls deserve the world and they are getting it.
I am experiencing Princess treatment, my man is Black but a different ethnicity to me. He is respectful & polite, a great listener and emotionally intelligent. He just took me on holiday for my birthday, it was a complete surprise he planned the whole thing and it was 5* all inclusive and fantastic. If I'm not able to/ don't want to drive, he drives me or pays for my Ubers, he pays for my PT AND he washes the dishes when I cook for him or even if I've only cooked for myself! 🖤🥰
Wow. Of all the powerful prose you have during your videos, when you just said “if I can’t add to the narrative of black women being treated with love, then I’m on mute”, I felt you sis. That hit different. Much respect for being the change you want to see 🙏🏿❤️
I wanna say I love the ‘Renaissance’ your channel has undergone. The intro, the background, the thumbnail, your hair and makeup. It’s all so great! I hope this new version of you takes off 🫶🏿
I’m not a bw but I am black girl 😅 however once I started to be more open toward the non black guys at school. And I remember I met this one Filipino guy and he treated me really well from helping when I was struggling in class and coming to my performing arts events I did around school. Even though we don’t talk nowadays, it still makes me smile to how sweet he was and how this starts from simply a seating chart!
And to add, I loved how it felt like my race wasn’t a huge factor. It felt like a one of those episode and wattpad stories? Like I could just be in a cute little romantic bliss without having to question “oh does he like black girls.” (Omg that correction saved my my og point 😭)
I’m 40 and have always gone the appreciation route and am so glad the bw are getting it! I’ve only dated white, Asian and Latin men because I only date men who show an interest in me and that’s who did. And not a “good enough” interest, but a lobster and pasta interest. If you set standards and project that energy you can find the right person for you. You just have to be open to it. My partner now is Mexican and he jokes that I wouldn’t date him if he didn’t own property and he low key knows it’s not a joke.
I have a Chinese boy on my roster and let me tell you, it’s GIVING. No 50/50. No stress. No worries. QUEEN treatment. The experiences I have had being with him have been top tier. Travelling, new food, financially stable.. the list goes on. Leave these emotionally unavailable, non protector men alone.
I have a 6-year-old daughter, and I've steered away from teaching her to aspire to marriage. I've been teaching her about seeing the world, becoming a figure skater, or whomever she wants. I am a happily married woman experiencing black love, but I know this isn't the reality for a lot of black women, and I want her to know that there are other forms of purpose and happiness outside of a man. I'm hoping that passing the torch to her this way will prevent massive trauma or disappointment if feces are still in the dating pool by the time she comes of age.
Just a suggestion, I hope I’m not overstepping but a lot of black women have shared that they weren’t taught about how to attract good men and that made it easier for them to end up in unsavoury relationships, I think you’re absolutely right with not making marriage the end all be all but also telling her and showing her what real love looks like and what standards she should have and teaching her how to interact with men when she begins dating might help her navigate that better as well, love is a big part of life too I hope she gets the best of everything this world has to offer her, you’re doing a great job as a mother 🥰🫶🏽
When she starts dating I would think about dating with intention to prevent meeting men with no future. I would go as far as to search for proper suitors for my daughter like arranged marriages but more modern. She would be in control of her choice and even if she met someone else he can join the pool to compete for her. No losers and no baby daddies! Loyal Husbands only need apply.
@@Tiredttttttt You're not overstepping at all! This is a very important conversation. 🥰 I do want to clarify that I am not going out of my way to discourage her from marriage, but rather just offering her alternatives. I have mixed feelings about teaching girls how to attract good men. A lot of Black women I know (including myself) were taught to go to school because good men want smart girls, and stay in shape because if you want someone physically attractive, you have to be physically attractive. Love the Lord because good men love God-fearing women, etc. The issue I find with this is that this generation of men no longer value these things. Some even weaponize education and say women are too independent because of it. Also, I find telling girls things like, "stay in shape to attract a man" is problematic for so many reasons. I 100% agree that it's important for me to teach her how to navigate the dating scene in a healthy way, and prepare her for "watch outs" and how to keep her standards high. Overall, I think that teaching her to always strive to be the best version of herself she can be will ultimately help her attract all the good things in life, including the mens if that is part of her journey. 🙂
@@Giggles50 100% agree on encouraging her to date with intention, and to steer clear of hook-up culture! I don't know if searching for suitors is necessarily my mothering style, lol. To me, that's putting too much focus and expectation on her to feel like she HAS to marry when her life path may be something different.
@@prixfixeparty Yes I agree, avoid hook up culture. Most people desire a partner. I know there are exceptions. As long as she doesn’t pick a dusty if and when the time comes lol 😂 The stats are scary. It’s time for a different way.
The main ppl triggered by my NON BLACK husband were sadly black men. But 13 years and 3 kids later I can say he has treated me to copious amounts of pasta and lobster lol. Go where you are appreciated 🎉
@@Maggiebenjee no, I think I was just irritated that black women are always portrayed to be “bothered” when they date out when I personally have never cared. Yet, I was getting that treatment from them for dating out.
My family FLIPPED OUT when I dated and married Black men in the diaspora. My husband and I have been together almost 20 years and he still loves me to pieces. Go where you are appreciated, no matter their background. You are only coming through here one time, why not be happy?
@@icomeinpeace3756 I started dating men in the diaspora because the Black American men in my area weren’t, and still are not interested in Black women. My Jamaican husband treats me very well and he always has. I’m glad I appreciated him as an individual instead of assigning characteristics to him because of the dusties in my past.
After a long term marriage, I took (and still take) time to heal but started opening my dating options. I’ve since found someone that has my heart and very much gives me the princess treatment. Early on the difference in our race had me on edge but I’ve since relaxed. I love being well loved, validated, and cherished. I am happy and that is all that matters for me and ANYONE seeking a partner.
Once I started dating Interracially , it was the BEST decision ever! I want us to go where we are CELEBRATED. I've Divested and I'm NEVER going back. We love it here!💞😻
I love to see it as well. I recently started dating out and although I have not engaged in anything serious yet due to my hectic schedule the experience have been fun. I have a Russian friend that drives 2 hours to meet me for hikes and dinner and most time we get ice cream after because he knows I love it 🤣🤣. The last time we went out I wanted to treat him to dinner because he has been paying for everything since we met. When I did the energy was weird and I asked him if he was alright. He said "not really I feel weird, I don't know if I like you paying for dinner". Just to hear that was shocking and also adorable lol. I haven't paid for anything since. After doing some work on myself I am officially in the dating pool that is my temperature. I love that the younger women are doing better from the beginning.
I admire your willingness to admit when your mind has changed, even just a little. Also, you said it used to be hard for you to be happy for others. I struggle with that, too, but I'm getting better and better. Being grateful for what I have, not dwelling on what I don't have, and taking active steps to be there for family and friends helps me.
The stuff about Blue Ivy made laugh. Really? People are out there expecting a huge professional musical performance from a literal child? People really have no life
I felt like I watched you turn a page symbolically when you spoke about changing the type of material you want to post from now on...I have enjoyed watching your perspectives change and grow over these past years.
I’ve found that in dating men who give you the princess treatment - a lot of them aren’t doing it for you, they are doing it for themselves. They feel important, powerful, successful, etc. in their ability to influence the emotions and lifestyle of a woman; it multiplies when it’s an objectively beautiful woman
As they should do. You’re right, when a man takes care of you it’s as much for and about HIM, as it is for you. As you long as you make that man feel respected, valued and loved… your good🙏🏿🤣❤️💍
Off topic... but your personality and speaking voice is effortlessly dramatic- and I absolutely love it. You're committed to communicating your thoughts yet mindful that you may change your mind so you posture yourself in humility. Not sure if this is intentional but it's admirable of you! Also, I like this new set up.
My husband is Jamaican (black). I know Jamaican men tend to have a bad rep, but he treats me SO well. When we first got married, I moved to Jamaica to be with him, and I didn't have no damn money, lol. This man not only worked long hours to make sure we were good, but he'd come home and literally give me his pay. I don't think he even opened the envelope. The first time we had sex (which was also my first time), I was concerned that he'd leave me. He held me and told me that he cherishes me. I have never in my life been loved like this by a man. One of my sisters is married to a white man who treats her so well. He's so affectionate, always looking out for her best interest. There are definitely men out here who know how to show love. I'm glad more black women are no longer tying themselves strictly to the notion of black love. I'm glad that they're accepting love wherever it's given.
Even tho ! It’s not my season YET!! Steph I can’t wait until you’re receiving all of your hearts desires! You deserve pastas, lobsters and those pretty green grapes, some women are being fed 🩵
Side note: You are gorgeous 😍 😍 Your skin is glowing and I love that orange yellow color on you it's complementing your skin so well💗💗💗💗💗 I'm also loving the look of this video with the background behind you and the perimeter of thid video💯💯💯
I have been attracted to boys/men outside my race since I was in elementary school. I am waaaaaaay overdue to the world of pasta and lobster. And Big Ups to Queen B! Love that she is allowing her daughter to experience her own lane of potential success.
All my years in America, 10 years. I have been heavily pursed by white, Asian men. I mean heavily. lol. I never even knew men were asking for 50/50 on dates or those mess people experience. They drive hours to take me on dates, they always pay, pick me up. Treat me really nice. I haven’t had any bad dates Or relationships. I am the one that just didn’t want to settle down and was pursuing my career. I’m 28 and African. Currently talking to white guy now hoping to settled down soon.
I married a latina woman and am now a stay at home wife building my own business. I get coffee in bed in the mornings and foot rubs at night. If I want it, she gets it. She’s also my best friend. I thank whatever being put this in motion everyday.
I dated outside my race and while I did get the “pasta and lobster” treatment, the relationship ended the same way it does with the men of my race. I just had a more luxury experience. With that, I have decided to just go with who actually wants to treat me well because they actually love me, and not a luxury treatment. As my dad says, someone with stickability. Now I’m in a relationship with a black man and I’m being loved well. Basically, I just want people to release this idea of materialism and build a life with someone who you do not have to question cause they show up with good character, integrity, patience, kindness, etc. If all that comes with luxury then great. What I’m saying is don’t look for luxury and then you’re eating pasta and lobster with someone with terrible character who would care less if you were in their life or not. Princess treatment does not equate to someone actually willing to go the distance with you.
Very true! I think "pasta and Lobster" is a more of a metaphor. That's why in the video I say "find whatever that looks like for you." Some people might have a gluten and shellfish allergy lol, so they gotta think different. But you're exactly right, materially satisfying relationships don't always equal to loving relationships. Absolutely correct.
Thank you for saying that. All races of women are all over tik tok explaining how horrible ALL men are to them and bw are online praising men's skin color ...YET AGAIN...this time just instead of bm it's now nonbm. Basically the same blck male worship just swirl edition. Thank you for telling them the truth. Same for me. Men are men. Focusing on skin color means nothing.
I agree with you. I know Stephco actually advocates for all types of love which is great. But this movement of materialism just reminds me of the femininity movement. It's scary how online mindsets create communities which just consists of people only looking at the pros of something and not the reality or the full picture. For example a lot of swirling communities online only consist of women who have had 100% top notch treatment from non-black men and everyone co-signs this and anybody else who has a counter point just gets bullied or called a 'mammy'. In real life I know personally know bw who've been in dv relationships with wm- but god forbid I say this online in certain spaces. In reality there's good and bad with all men, though I understand the overwhelming issues women have with bm. But these fads and trends of how we should live is scary to me, because we don't really know what people's lives are like. They could be eating lobster and pasta and behind the scenes that man is emotionally abusive or dismissive. I'm not saying we shouldn't have standards, just that we shouldn't be so quick swoon over the lifestyles of people on social media. In a few years time, just like people are doing with the red pill community, and femininity movement, people will start to see how this focus on materialism also has it's cons. Lifestyles shouldn't be fads.
I’m 27 and I met my bf in 2017 in the army. It’s been something I never thought I could experience. I’m lucky to have found him. At first family did (subconsciously) treat me like I betrayed them but they loved him once they met him.
I’m definitely liking this pasta and lobster video, but I will say part of the reason I flocked to your channel and binged all of your content when I first found you is because we have a lot of similar dating experiences. Sometimes it’s nice to know that you’re not crazy and experiencing all of these weird, negative dating experiences. I like we have enough influencer/content creators that try to forcibly shove happiness and positivity down our throats. I appreciate the realness and raw truth of your stories.
My husband is mixed Puerto Rican and black, and he is awesome, we are 50/50 (well maybe 70/30) on bills, but he spoils me. We just had our honeymoon in Japan, all paid for by him. He took us to Puerto Rico our first year together. He took us to Pennsylvania for snow boarding and skiing. He spoils me for Bday and Vday and Xmas...whatever I want he got it...I just don't go over board because we both make near six figs and I don't want to take advantage. He is very lucky because a lot of women would exploit his generosity and kind heart, and apparently his exes did on a small level, he was military so it wasn't like they were getting bags lol. But yes good men are out there that will love you and cherish you as a blk woman.
Loved this video and the intent behind it! Balance is beautuful. I'm a very optimistic person by nature & nurture (Life will life & unseen forces will steal your light if you let it. Regardless thinking positive helps shape your reality & how you respond to things. Including ppl mistreating you or treating you very well. Its very hard to go back to struggle love after being treated like a Queen/Princess, I encourage all women to experience being treated like a Queen by the best man who fits the qualifications & nothing less.
Loove this video, Steph. So excited when I get a notification of a new drop. I laughed, I smiled, I cried! Love the pasta and lobsta analogy and all of the content. 2023 is our year!
I was born in the 1970s...one of my biggest mistakes was not giving this Pakistani guy a chance; instead I picked a BM who later cheated on me & refused to commit to marriage! 😏😒😏😒
Girl, I love my Dominican man. I have had a few marriages and many relationships in my 47 years and I surprisingly fell in love with him…He is my Beloved and I am glad that I opened my heart to the possibility. I encourage all women to be open to other love possibilities.
Also let me kindly and humbly suggest that you may thrive better in another area. You are a beautiful intelligent successful woman and it's so hard to believe there aren't throngs of men trying to get you!! Would you ever consider moving? Obviously not just to meet a man, but just for overall mental and physical health... Be well sis
My college aged Black daughters have been unilaterally mistreated by young Black men. Or the better young Black men don’t choose them, they choose non-Black girls. Or too many young Black men want my daughters to be part of their harem or to do the friends with benefits foolishness. It’s frustrating and dispiriting. My daughters have had enough. One has been in a relationship with a Korean guy for two years and he treats her like a queen. The other has been dating a White guy and he also treats her like a queen. They both have had plenty of lobster and pasta. These guys are both accomplished and thriving. It’s young Black Gen Z women’s new normal. Less Black struggle love for them like what happens/happened too often in previous generations. As for Blue Ivy, too many small minded, broken insecure Black women have made such cruel comments about Blue Ivy’s hair as a baby. Then they made bizarre rude comments about record-breaking Olympic medalists Simone Biles and Gabby Douglas. I’m sick of it. These Black women think that Blue, Simone, and Gabby are “embarrassing us” with their hair and “their edges.” However, these Black women criticizing their hair instead of applauding their revolution for Black athletes are the ones embarrassing themselves with their baggage and their cruelty.
Beyoncé really is the only person we see as a “star” not a person 😂. We just like 🤩🥹. I think it’s because she’s not too vocal (no pun intended) so she lets us have our imagination about what she’s like
I think she’s great at maintaining her brand and letting us know what she wants about her. Almost thirty years in the industry and basically all we know is she used to like Popeyes, she went vegan, and she married Jay Z lol.
As a proud member of the Beyhive I love what she represents. Everyone says the same thing about her, she’s laser focused and a hard worker. It shows because the work she produces uplifts the community in a way not many black celebrities care to do. She’s a person but a very inspirational one. Her presence is so powerful you can feel it even through the screen. If I ever met her I might have to recover from tears.
When I saw Blue going hard, everytime I see it on Twitter I cry. Lol. I’ll be at the Tampa show in the 100s section. SOOOO EXCITED. Ticket was about $420 with insurance
Im all for bw opening up their options, but I'm seeing too many on here talking about i r dating like flowers and rainbows. A man is a man is a man. Vet wisely.
Come see B in Chicago; I'll be there. LOL And I personally think the concerts in the US will be much better than they are currently in Europe. B knows she's got to show up and out for her own folks, so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything with her European tour, and honestly I have avoided all pictures and video footage because I want to be totally overwhelmed with all things Beyoncé when I see her in the Chi. 🐝🐝🐝🐝
I have been with a Hispanic boy for 3 years and next year we plan on getting married. And in a year in a half we want a baby( wish us luck with trying) And I pay for NOTHING not the rent the food not even my own period products. I am slowly healing the little girl who used to be bullied by black boys because I was too dark and not pretty.
I’m (full) black, and married a man of no color. He’s very generous/not stingy at all. A bit too generous actually lol. Was raised to be a provider. I don’t pay bills, sprinkle sprinkle ✨ On the mother daughter story: I’m glad I had a son instead of a daughter because girls and women go through soooo much in this world. I feel boys fair better than girls and women in this patriarchal society. Of course there is nuance.
Love it when you post! You are intelligent, beautiful, unique and interesting. Love how you convey information and the expressions of your face as well as the sound of your voice.
I feel like I've been uniquely fortunate in my relationships. I've only had two, seven years apart, but in both cases I was spoiled and adored. Honestly, my first boyfriend ruined dating for me because he set the bar so high. After meeting my husband, I think I'm ruined for life.
BTW...I did end up reselling my Barcelona ticket! I snapped out of it just in time lol. Anyway, Please feel free to share your ✨good✨love stories below! Women, men, anyone! If you've got something to brag about, I wanna hear it! Also, a note about the look and feel of this video, I am in "experiment" mode and playing around a bit, the next videos might all look completely different aesthetically whilst I figure out what style I really like. Anyway, thanks for watching 🤗
I am a dark skinned Kenyan girl from Kenya who actually was never that bothered to date given how much I deviated from the standard of what men want. Actually I did have a Kenyan bf who treated me so well but we just didn't work out. I was naturally focused on dating very dark Kenyan man as a result of this relationship. However my type wanted the light skin or the curvy girl. I was so never interested in or understood why ladies loved to date interracially because it was just not the standard in my environment. All I heard also was horror stories when ladies dated Caucasian men. Oh how wrong I was. I will leave that at that. I am grateful that I am affirmed daily and my well being someone's priority that his race is not important. In short, love who loves you is my Motto now for life!! ❤❤❤❤
@@LynnPinski It's honestly the only way to live. Life is too short.
I've been to run the world tour in Barcelona. Ammmazing experience
People attacking blue ivy her whole life and her being 11 is psychotic
It’s terrible.
Oh my gosh, yes. So strange. She’s a preteen! Many of their shoes are older than her. It’s gross
It's absolutely disgusting
@@anonymousone9699 if i was famous y’all would never see my kids. bc it’s so ridiculous. plus you can’t shelter your children from everything on social media and i would hate if my (future children lol) saw things like that at such a young age. i couldn’t imagine how that would affect them.
I feel the same way about people’s obsession with North West (the child, not the direction). It should be illegal to take pics of celebrities’ children. The paparazzi are evil.
i had a Persian work friend who was from Iran; everyday for 3 years at work, he purchased my coworker and I lunch, would buy us gift cards for our birthday, would always volunteer to drive and pick us up if we had to have car work done during work hours….he did all of this for us, as friends. I have never had a BM do those things for me, that was not related to me. I have experienced this time and time again with other races, it’s time for me to step out of the box I’ve put myself in.
My partner is a white Canadian. My God...I have never been loved this way. It's the way he cares, treats, talks and protects me. He's healing me and I'm learning to love and beloved. I've been lucky and I pray all my sisters experience this❤
If you look at the numbers the most successful interracial marriages are between a black woman and white man. Some people say it's because we're more similar than many would expect.
@@lauren6509No. That's based on old numbers with bw who already healed themselves and didn't interracial date to get back at bm. What's happening now is hurt women bringing their hurt into relationships that will look just like the blck ones they were running from eventually.
@@lauren6509 As a divested woman, I agree.
She is clearly responding to the video if you don't agree move to the next comment
You and me both. We just celebrated our first wedding anniversary 🥰. I hope we can all find someone who loves us in the way we need.
I had to learn to go where I am loved. I’m a BW who just celebrated 12yrs married to my tall Polish husband. Spoils me with lobsta, pasta and wine. He taught me to love myself in all my natural state. Protects me n our babies. Trust him with my life. 😊
I was so use to being constantly “humbled” by men that didn’t want me to expect much that I almost thought that’s what masculinity was…”humbling” women. A good guy became more important to me than color and I’m so glad I get to experience love that makes me feel like “the prize”…and let’s me feel so safe all I want to do is reciprocate that to him ❤
I love your comment! Blasian love!
@@kristinccha thank you 😊
I love the way you explained it “A good guy became more important to me than color” ❤. That’s exactly what it is. You’re not searching based on race but character.
I'm a 20 yr old black woman in a happy interracial relationship. Started dating when I was 19 and he was 20 🥰 My lovely man is Lebanese. He treats me like a queen. Never looking back.
I’m a BW and I’ve been dating a Lebanese man for the past year and a half, and my experience has been life changing. Initially it was difficult for me to detach myself from the “black love” narrative that I had placed on a pedestal all my life, but overcoming that mindset has been one of life’s greatest lessons for me, not only in terms of romantic relationships but just in general. It has taught me to not limit myself to familiar or comfortable experiences, that love can be found with anyone, and that you need to experience things for yourself. I cannot stress this enough, GO WHERE YOU ARE LOVED, CHERISHED, and RESPECTED. Princess treatment has been the norm for me since we started dating, and he refuses to have it any other way.
Lose the idea of having a type. I never thought I'd fall in love with a country boy but here I am. Thank you for sharing your perspective!
Same! Marrying a cowboy next year and he’s the sweetness, gentlest, most generous man I’ve ever met. Wish I discovered them country boys earlier 😂
@@sirenonland3454 my friend was dating a cowboy from North Carolina who she thought was the one - unfortunately he didn't have any interest in getting to know her college aged( black ) twin sons .
The younger black woman have caught on. My daughter who 18 keeps a white boy around. I've accepted I'm not getting grandkids that look like me and I'm ok with that as long as she happy and treated better than I was. I found black love but it took 20 years of single parenthood. I didn't get love until my 40s which is sad and I'm glad my daughter doesn't have to wait.
When I tell you Gen Z looked at all of us waiting and struggling and said, “No.” amazing. I love that for them 👏🏾👏🏾
@@hellostephco84 I did! I saw my mom struggle with black love and noped out of there
You grandkids will look like you. They have your genes despite not having deeper skin color and you never know they might. I am sorry but this what makes me mad about BW and interracial dating is that we are more concerned about a skin color and not happiness.
@@D13vest that’s can occur with any man of any color. BW need to experience dating outside and inside if they choose. Let’s keep it a buck, there are more advantages to dating outside (and inside if one choose) then disadvantages especially is the women want a partner. That’s more chances to meet their mate then sticking to the inside. Now sir or ma’am (whatever you want to call yourself) kindly leave women spaces with fear mongering and trying to instill doubt. These young girls deserve the world and they are getting it.
Move on son. You’re preaching to the wrong crowd.
I am experiencing Princess treatment, my man is Black but a different ethnicity to me. He is respectful & polite, a great listener and emotionally intelligent. He just took me on holiday for my birthday, it was a complete surprise he planned the whole thing and it was 5* all inclusive and fantastic. If I'm not able to/ don't want to drive, he drives me or pays for my Ubers, he pays for my PT AND he washes the dishes when I cook for him or even if I've only cooked for myself! 🖤🥰
I’d like to know how to find one of those?
Anyways, congrats🎉 ♥️
It warms my soul to hear of black women being loved the right, and correct way.
Same! ❤🎉
Love this for you sis! You deserve it
@@rosedalinevaletine6931 they are EVERYWHERE…
Same!!
Wow.
Of all the powerful prose you have during your videos, when you just said “if I can’t add to the narrative of black women being treated with love, then I’m on mute”, I felt you sis. That hit different. Much respect for being the change you want to see 🙏🏿❤️
I wanna say I love the ‘Renaissance’ your channel has undergone. The intro, the background, the thumbnail, your hair and makeup. It’s all so great! I hope this new version of you takes off 🫶🏿
This is both honest and warm!
I agree!
Same!!
I’m not a bw but I am black girl 😅 however once I started to be more open toward the non black guys at school. And I remember I met this one Filipino guy and he treated me really well from helping when I was struggling in class and coming to my performing arts events I did around school. Even though we don’t talk nowadays, it still makes me smile to how sweet he was and how this starts from simply a seating chart!
And to add, I loved how it felt like my race wasn’t a huge factor. It felt like a one of those episode and wattpad stories? Like I could just be in a cute little romantic bliss without having to question “oh does he like black girls.” (Omg that correction saved my my og point 😭)
@@bougie_pink this is so wholesome 😊
@@PortraitofAsha thank you!! 🫶🏾
What a sweet and lovely story! It’s really great that you’re able to reflect and smile - you deserve that young lady! ❤
LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS FOR YOU 🤗
I’m 40 and have always gone the appreciation route and am so glad the bw are getting it! I’ve only dated white, Asian and Latin men because I only date men who show an interest in me and that’s who did. And not a “good enough” interest, but a lobster and pasta interest. If you set standards and project that energy you can find the right person for you. You just have to be open to it. My partner now is Mexican and he jokes that I wouldn’t date him if he didn’t own property and he low key knows it’s not a joke.
Only people on social media drugs will believe this nonsense you wrote
I love this for black women, we deserve this love and treatment❤❤
I clicked in a heart beat. You're one of my top 10 fav youtubers
Same 🥰
Same!
I have a Chinese boy on my roster and let me tell you, it’s GIVING. No 50/50. No stress. No worries. QUEEN treatment. The experiences I have had being with him have been top tier. Travelling, new food, financially stable.. the list goes on. Leave these emotionally unavailable, non protector men alone.
May the best man/men win! Love to hear it!
Roster? Girl!! 😂
@@kettiacharles9101 Oop no no no. No roster girl. I was just following the song lol.
love that for you 🥰🥰😊😊😊
Love to see it! I'm dating a Chinese guy, too, and he loves cooking for me, and last weekend, he treated me and my family to Dim Sum. ❤
I have a 6-year-old daughter, and I've steered away from teaching her to aspire to marriage. I've been teaching her about seeing the world, becoming a figure skater, or whomever she wants. I am a happily married woman experiencing black love, but I know this isn't the reality for a lot of black women, and I want her to know that there are other forms of purpose and happiness outside of a man. I'm hoping that passing the torch to her this way will prevent massive trauma or disappointment if feces are still in the dating pool by the time she comes of age.
Just a suggestion, I hope I’m not overstepping but a lot of black women have shared that they weren’t taught about how to attract good men and that made it easier for them to end up in unsavoury relationships, I think you’re absolutely right with not making marriage the end all be all but also telling her and showing her what real love looks like and what standards she should have and teaching her how to interact with men when she begins dating might help her navigate that better as well, love is a big part of life too I hope she gets the best of everything this world has to offer her, you’re doing a great job as a mother 🥰🫶🏽
When she starts dating I would think about dating with intention to prevent meeting men with no future. I would go as far as to search for proper suitors for my daughter like arranged marriages but more modern. She would be in control of her choice and even if she met someone else he can join the pool to compete for her. No losers and no baby daddies! Loyal Husbands only need apply.
@@Tiredttttttt You're not overstepping at all! This is a very important conversation. 🥰 I do want to clarify that I am not going out of my way to discourage her from marriage, but rather just offering her alternatives.
I have mixed feelings about teaching girls how to attract good men. A lot of Black women I know (including myself) were taught to go to school because good men want smart girls, and stay in shape because if you want someone physically attractive, you have to be physically attractive. Love the Lord because good men love God-fearing women, etc. The issue I find with this is that this generation of men no longer value these things. Some even weaponize education and say women are too independent because of it.
Also, I find telling girls things like, "stay in shape to attract a man" is problematic for so many reasons. I 100% agree that it's important for me to teach her how to navigate the dating scene in a healthy way, and prepare her for "watch outs" and how to keep her standards high.
Overall, I think that teaching her to always strive to be the best version of herself she can be will ultimately help her attract all the good things in life, including the mens if that is part of her journey. 🙂
@@Giggles50 100% agree on encouraging her to date with intention, and to steer clear of hook-up culture! I don't know if searching for suitors is necessarily my mothering style, lol. To me, that's putting too much focus and expectation on her to feel like she HAS to marry when her life path may be something different.
@@prixfixeparty Yes I agree, avoid hook up culture. Most people desire a partner. I know there are exceptions. As long as she doesn’t pick a dusty if and when the time comes lol 😂 The stats are scary. It’s time for a different way.
The main ppl triggered by my NON BLACK husband were sadly black men. But 13 years and 3 kids later I can say he has treated me to copious amounts of pasta and lobster lol. Go where you are appreciated 🎉
Why "sadly"? Were you waiting on their approval?
@@Maggiebenjee no, I think I was just irritated that black women are always portrayed to be “bothered” when they date out when I personally have never cared. Yet, I was getting that treatment from them for dating out.
My family FLIPPED OUT when I dated and married Black men in the diaspora. My husband and I have been together almost 20 years and he still loves me to pieces. Go where you are appreciated, no matter their background. You are only coming through here one time, why not be happy?
Lol diaspora black men are the same. There's no difference, just the original dust.
@@icomeinpeace3756 I started dating men in the diaspora because the Black American men in my area weren’t, and still are not interested in Black women. My Jamaican husband treats me very well and he always has. I’m glad I appreciated him as an individual instead of assigning characteristics to him because of the dusties in my past.
Love that last sentence
@@suchaclassylady AMEN!! Glad it worked out for you.
@@suchaclassylady may I ask who’s the bread winner in your marriage?
I agree, black women lets give EVERY race of men a chance. Lets stop being scared of the unknown.❤
I dated Black men from other countries (married a West Indian) and 😅 the spoiled life is gooooddd! I want this for us! ❤
After a long term marriage, I took (and still take) time to heal but started opening my dating options. I’ve since found someone that has my heart and very much gives me the princess treatment. Early on the difference in our race had me on edge but I’ve since relaxed. I love being well loved, validated, and cherished. I am happy and that is all that matters for me and ANYONE seeking a partner.
Once I started dating Interracially , it was the BEST decision ever! I want us to go where we are CELEBRATED. I've Divested and I'm NEVER going back. We love it here!💞😻
Divested?Isnt that a bad thing or not?I see this on twitter
"It makes me feel good to see people being treated well" you're awesome girl, me too me too
I love to see it as well. I recently started dating out and although I have not engaged in anything serious yet due to my hectic schedule the experience have been fun. I have a Russian friend that drives 2 hours to meet me for hikes and dinner and most time we get ice cream after because he knows I love it 🤣🤣. The last time we went out I wanted to treat him to dinner because he has been paying for everything since we met. When I did the energy was weird and I asked him if he was alright. He said "not really I feel weird, I don't know if I like you paying for dinner". Just to hear that was shocking and also adorable lol. I haven't paid for anything since. After doing some work on myself I am officially in the dating pool that is my temperature. I love that the younger women are doing better from the beginning.
I admire your willingness to admit when your mind has changed, even just a little. Also, you said it used to be hard for you to be happy for others. I struggle with that, too, but I'm getting better and better. Being grateful for what I have, not dwelling on what I don't have, and taking active steps to be there for family and friends helps me.
It’s your growth for me ❤❤❤
It’s work! Everyday! Lol…but it’s worth it. 😊
I was thinking the samw
That's great that you have become self aware ❤
I'm not entirely there yet but I'm motivated by you being there.
And don’t forget the wine! THIS SUMMER IS LIT! I love that for us 💕
Just wanted to share that you've been a really good entertaining channel and I love to see your growth... Keep it up
The stuff about Blue Ivy made laugh. Really? People are out there expecting a huge professional musical performance from a literal child? People really have no life
I'm low key rooting for the black woman that switch teams. Thanks to KS I now see black men in a different light.
Those red pill guys are a different breed
@KeelyB2318 Do you realize how you sound, smh
@@H20X Do you realize the hate and trauma that man created?
@@KeelyB2318because he was telling bw the truth like what
I felt like I watched you turn a page symbolically when you spoke about changing the type of material you want to post from now on...I have enjoyed watching your perspectives change and grow over these past years.
I've been OBSESSED with the Blue Ivy clips! So proud of her!!! 👑
I’ve found that in dating men who give you the princess treatment - a lot of them aren’t doing it for you, they are doing it for themselves. They feel important, powerful, successful, etc. in their ability to influence the emotions and lifestyle of a woman; it multiplies when it’s an objectively beautiful woman
A real man simply takes pride in being able to provide for his lady, and make her feel special.
You both make good points 👍
As they should do. You’re right, when a man takes care of you it’s as much for and about HIM, as it is for you.
As you long as you make that man feel respected, valued and loved… your good🙏🏿🤣❤️💍
It's all about appealing to their ego.
Or they could actually live your life and enjoy making you happy.
Off topic... but your personality and speaking voice is effortlessly dramatic- and I absolutely love it. You're committed to communicating your thoughts yet mindful that you may change your mind so you posture yourself in humility. Not sure if this is intentional but it's admirable of you! Also, I like this new set up.
Thanks mommy 😂I needed to hear this advice you’re the best and your positive energy radiates and it’s very encouraging 🥰
My husband is Jamaican (black). I know Jamaican men tend to have a bad rep, but he treats me SO well.
When we first got married, I moved to Jamaica to be with him, and I didn't have no damn money, lol. This man not only worked long hours to make sure we were good, but he'd come home and literally give me his pay. I don't think he even opened the envelope.
The first time we had sex (which was also my first time), I was concerned that he'd leave me. He held me and told me that he cherishes me. I have never in my life been loved like this by a man.
One of my sisters is married to a white man who treats her so well. He's so affectionate, always looking out for her best interest.
There are definitely men out here who know how to show love. I'm glad more black women are no longer tying themselves strictly to the notion of black love. I'm glad that they're accepting love wherever it's given.
Even tho ! It’s not my season YET!! Steph I can’t wait until you’re receiving all of your hearts desires! You deserve pastas, lobsters and those pretty green grapes, some women are being fed 🩵
Side note: You are gorgeous 😍 😍 Your skin is glowing and I love that orange yellow color on you it's complementing your skin so well💗💗💗💗💗 I'm also loving the look of this video with the background behind you and the perimeter of thid video💯💯💯
I have been attracted to boys/men outside my race since I was in elementary school. I am waaaaaaay overdue to the world of pasta and lobster.
And Big Ups to Queen B! Love that she is allowing her daughter to experience her own lane of potential success.
Me too
All my years in America, 10 years. I have been heavily pursed by white, Asian men. I mean heavily. lol. I never even knew men were asking for 50/50 on dates or those mess people experience. They drive hours to take me on dates, they always pay, pick me up. Treat me really nice. I haven’t had any bad dates Or relationships. I am the one that just didn’t want to settle down and was pursuing my career. I’m 28 and African. Currently talking to white guy now hoping to settled down soon.
I married a latina woman and am now a stay at home wife building my own business. I get coffee in bed in the mornings and foot rubs at night. If I want it, she gets it. She’s also my best friend. I thank whatever being put this in motion everyday.
Lucky you 👏😍👍
😭😭😭 it’s so hard to see others living your dream but I’m so happy for you sis you deserve it
@@Giraffe27 thank you so much 🥹
@@Laquia thank you so much 🥹
Me and whooo
I started singing the Kali song as soon as I read the title 😂
Me too
But why did my original recording include me rapping the lyrics. I had to take it out I was ashamed.
@@hellostephco84 POST IT 😂😂😂😂
@@hellostephco84 you should've left it in!😂
Hey Steph! I loved this video. I've been with my amazing boyfriend for 4 months and he treats me just like a princess.
Get the best man for the job who shares the same values. That's what matters more than anything!
I dated outside my race and while I did get the “pasta and lobster” treatment, the relationship ended the same way it does with the men of my race. I just had a more luxury experience. With that, I have decided to just go with who actually wants to treat me well because they actually love me, and not a luxury treatment. As my dad says, someone with stickability. Now I’m in a relationship with a black man and I’m being loved well. Basically, I just want people to release this idea of materialism and build a life with someone who you do not have to question cause they show up with good character, integrity, patience, kindness, etc. If all that comes with luxury then great. What I’m saying is don’t look for luxury and then you’re eating pasta and lobster with someone with terrible character who would care less if you were in their life or not. Princess treatment does not equate to someone actually willing to go the distance with you.
Very true! I think "pasta and Lobster" is a more of a metaphor. That's why in the video I say "find whatever that looks like for you." Some people might have a gluten and shellfish allergy lol, so they gotta think different. But you're exactly right, materially satisfying relationships don't always equal to loving relationships. Absolutely correct.
💯 Men are basically the same and people show you what they want you to see.
Fck that, I want the luxury and the love ❤️ both
Thank you for saying that. All races of women are all over tik tok explaining how horrible ALL men are to them and bw are online praising men's skin color ...YET AGAIN...this time just instead of bm it's now nonbm. Basically the same blck male worship just swirl edition.
Thank you for telling them the truth. Same for me. Men are men. Focusing on skin color means nothing.
I agree with you. I know Stephco actually advocates for all types of love which is great. But this movement of materialism just reminds me of the femininity movement. It's scary how online mindsets create communities which just consists of people only looking at the pros of something and not the reality or the full picture. For example a lot of swirling communities online only consist of women who have had 100% top notch treatment from non-black men and everyone co-signs this and anybody else who has a counter point just gets bullied or called a 'mammy'. In real life I know personally know bw who've been in dv relationships with wm- but god forbid I say this online in certain spaces. In reality there's good and bad with all men, though I understand the overwhelming issues women have with bm. But these fads and trends of how we should live is scary to me, because we don't really know what people's lives are like. They could be eating lobster and pasta and behind the scenes that man is emotionally abusive or dismissive. I'm not saying we shouldn't have standards, just that we shouldn't be so quick swoon over the lifestyles of people on social media. In a few years time, just like people are doing with the red pill community, and femininity movement, people will start to see how this focus on materialism also has it's cons. Lifestyles shouldn't be fads.
You are that person!!! I’m loving the growth and direction of your channel. ❤❤❤
I’m 27 and I met my bf in 2017 in the army. It’s been something I never thought I could experience. I’m lucky to have found him. At first family did (subconsciously) treat me like I betrayed them but they loved him once they met him.
I’m definitely liking this pasta and lobster video, but I will say part of the reason I flocked to your channel and binged all of your content when I first found you is because we have a lot of similar dating experiences. Sometimes it’s nice to know that you’re not crazy and experiencing all of these weird, negative dating experiences. I like we have enough influencer/content creators that try to forcibly shove happiness and positivity down our throats. I appreciate the realness and raw truth of your stories.
I'm here for the love stories 😍. Y'all give me so much joy and hope 🫶🏽
I like everything about this video Steph. The aesthetic, The editing and your hope for love❤
I love pasta and lobster lol! 😉 one of the best experiences of my life!
I pray for all of us who have lost that warm fuzzy feeling.
Girl I've had a white boy on my roster for the last 8 years. We're getting ready to celebrate our 7 year anniversary. Luv ya, take care.
My husband is mixed Puerto Rican and black, and he is awesome, we are 50/50 (well maybe 70/30) on bills, but he spoils me. We just had our honeymoon in Japan, all paid for by him. He took us to Puerto Rico our first year together. He took us to Pennsylvania for snow boarding and skiing. He spoils me for Bday and Vday and Xmas...whatever I want he got it...I just don't go over board because we both make near six figs and I don't want to take advantage. He is very lucky because a lot of women would exploit his generosity and kind heart, and apparently his exes did on a small level, he was military so it wasn't like they were getting bags lol. But yes good men are out there that will love you and cherish you as a blk woman.
Lol, we knew you had to add in the "mix Puerto Rican" part first. Black women hate their own image
Definitely gave me some hope. I’m going thru a time where I’m can’t stand the thought of dating so it gives me some inspiration to get back out there
Honestly,loving your new content.Please post as much as you can!!Always looking forward to your videos.
Loved this video and the intent behind it! Balance is beautuful. I'm a very optimistic person by nature & nurture (Life will life & unseen forces will steal your light if you let it. Regardless thinking positive helps shape your reality & how you respond to things. Including ppl mistreating you or treating you very well. Its very hard to go back to struggle love after being treated like a Queen/Princess, I encourage all women to experience being treated like a Queen by the best man who fits the qualifications & nothing less.
Way to go Steph! I’m loving this new found inspirational content. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
OMG this look 😍
Absolutely gorgeous, the hair, the eyes, the hoops, the nails, the color ❤️❤️❤️
The 💄!
I clicked so fast that my thumb hurts now…damn😂
Agreed. Dont pass an epigenetic baton of negativity.🎉
Change the record.❤
This summer been lit! Got pasta and wine all through Europe. Just got back from an amazing trip, already planning the next.
I'm JEALOUS! No, that's gonna be me next year lol I can FEEL it. Happy and safe travels to you!
Loove this video, Steph. So excited when I get a notification of a new drop. I laughed, I smiled, I cried! Love the pasta and lobsta analogy and all of the content. 2023 is our year!
I saw her is Paris 🎉 when Blue came out they were screaming so loud I thought Kelly and Michelle came on stage lol
Same. I was SCREAMING 🤣
Love the title. I INSTANTLY knew what the topic was gonna be👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I was born in the 1970s...one of my biggest mistakes was not giving this Pakistani guy a chance; instead I picked a BM who later cheated on me & refused to commit to marriage! 😏😒😏😒
So glad you started posting again! Love your background in this video. Definitely summer vibes ❤
Girl, I love my Dominican man. I have had a few marriages and many relationships in my 47 years and I surprisingly fell in love with him…He is my Beloved and I am glad that I opened my heart to the possibility. I encourage all women to be open to other love possibilities.
I too am glad to see black women being treated well
It's the evolution for me! Yes, let's change the narrative!!
LOVING the new background decoration!
Also let me kindly and humbly suggest that you may thrive better in another area. You are a beautiful intelligent successful woman and it's so hard to believe there aren't throngs of men trying to get you!! Would you ever consider moving? Obviously not just to meet a man, but just for overall mental and physical health... Be well sis
I love this video!! We need more positive imagery and discussions, Stephanie. More, please!💖
This was such a beautiful / thoughtful commentary piece! 🙏🏽✨✨✨
This video was needed. I’m taking this as a sign. Idc.
Excited for the next video❤❤ You never miss it disappoint in this house.
I have a mini me. She loves her mama and wants to be just like me. Its the most ❤❤❤❤❤ feeling in the world, and they show it each performance
Steph 💕💕 I want this joy, love for you so much!!!
This was a great video and I think it’s okay to change your mind and even better to allow yourself to admit it. Best of luck in dating Steph !
My college aged Black daughters have been unilaterally mistreated by young Black men. Or the better young Black men don’t choose them, they choose non-Black girls. Or too many young Black men want my daughters to be part of their harem or to do the friends with benefits foolishness. It’s frustrating and dispiriting.
My daughters have had enough. One has been in a relationship with a Korean guy for two years and he treats her like a queen. The other has been dating a White guy and he also treats her like a queen. They both have had plenty of lobster and pasta. These guys are both accomplished and thriving. It’s young Black Gen Z women’s new normal. Less Black struggle love for them like what happens/happened too often in previous generations.
As for Blue Ivy, too many small minded, broken insecure Black women have made such cruel comments about Blue Ivy’s hair as a baby. Then they made bizarre rude comments about record-breaking Olympic medalists Simone Biles and Gabby Douglas. I’m sick of it. These Black women think that Blue, Simone, and Gabby are “embarrassing us” with their hair and “their edges.” However, these Black women criticizing their hair instead of applauding their revolution for Black athletes are the ones embarrassing themselves with their baggage and their cruelty.
Beyoncé really is the only person we see as a “star” not a person 😂. We just like 🤩🥹. I think it’s because she’s not too vocal (no pun intended) so she lets us have our imagination about what she’s like
I think she’s great at maintaining her brand and letting us know what she wants about her. Almost thirty years in the industry and basically all we know is she used to like Popeyes, she went vegan, and she married Jay Z lol.
As a proud member of the Beyhive I love what she represents. Everyone says the same thing about her, she’s laser focused and a hard worker. It shows because the work she produces uplifts the community in a way not many black celebrities care to do. She’s a person but a very inspirational one. Her presence is so powerful you can feel it even through the screen. If I ever met her I might have to recover from tears.
@@evaphillips2102 I met her in 2017! Sweet, soft spoken, respectful - essentially what she portrays! 🥰
When I saw Blue going hard, everytime I see it on Twitter I cry. Lol. I’ll be at the Tampa show in the 100s section. SOOOO EXCITED. Ticket was about $420 with insurance
I too break down in tears every. single. time.
I’m so happy for bw ❤
Im all for bw opening up their options, but I'm seeing too many on here talking about i r dating like flowers and rainbows. A man is a man is a man. Vet wisely.
💯
Because they went from worshipping bm to now worshipping nonbm
And nonbm about to play them like a fiddle.
@@Maggiebenjeenah y’all can stay over there
Blu Ivy criticism could be a standalone video
I love you, and these types of hairstyles look so great on you!❤
Oh Stephco, loving the edits for this video 😂❤
Love the title
Come see B in Chicago; I'll be there. LOL And I personally think the concerts in the US will be much better than they are currently in Europe. B knows she's got to show up and out for her own folks, so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything with her European tour, and honestly I have avoided all pictures and video footage because I want to be totally overwhelmed with all things Beyoncé when I see her in the Chi. 🐝🐝🐝🐝
Love This, very nice video !! And I pray good treatment For everyone and specialy who also gives it ❤
I have been with a Hispanic boy for 3 years and next year we plan on getting married. And in a year in a half we want a baby( wish us luck with trying) And I pay for NOTHING not the rent the food not even my own period products. I am slowly healing the little girl who used to be bullied by black boys because I was too dark and not pretty.
I love your hair Steph!
I’m (full) black, and married a man of no color. He’s very generous/not stingy at all. A bit too generous actually lol. Was raised to be a provider.
I don’t pay bills, sprinkle sprinkle ✨
On the mother daughter story: I’m glad I had a son instead of a daughter because girls and women go through soooo much in this world. I feel boys fair better than girls and women in this patriarchal society. Of course there is nuance.
Love it when you post! You are intelligent, beautiful, unique and interesting. Love how you convey information and the expressions of your face as well as the sound of your voice.
I feel like I've been uniquely fortunate in my relationships. I've only had two, seven years apart, but in both cases I was spoiled and adored. Honestly, my first boyfriend ruined dating for me because he set the bar so high. After meeting my husband, I think I'm ruined for life.
Attacking children let’s us know that people don’t care if you are a child or grown if they deem you unattractive!! Simple as that
I love the ending encouragement!
Damn. I needed a spoiler alert lol I hateeee seeing the show before I actually go 😩
Lovely video. Thank you!