It’s been four years since my mother passed and I’m finally almost done rehoming her things. She kept everything thinking her kids would want her stuff and the reality is at most each child only wants one or two items to remember her by. I’ve learned through this experience and am rehoming things I’ve been holding onto. Better someone else use an item now than have it wind up in the trash 30 years from now never having been used at all.
That is so interesting and I’ve heard that a lot through helping family this past year as well (children not really wanting things that were left for them) I think that these days young people are getting lighter with what they keep too. I’m glad that you’re almost finished with the rehoming. I know that my mom and MIL have had a tough time with that. I hope you were able to find that process therapeutic.💛
April, do you sense from your experience that the “keepers” are older? My parents were raised in the Depression and WWII years and I’m wondering if that has had a big impact, generationally. My contemporaries hold onto things quite a bit but I don’t think it’s as prevalent as it was in our parents’ generation. Have you seen trends along those lines?
Katie: I can relate. As the family party planner, photographer and historian- I have taken it upon myself to create albums (photo, memorabilia, etc.) and hired a professional to digitize. I spent three years with the process of going through a lifetime of paperwork, notes, photos. I was stuck contemplating with who is going to want these (heavy, cumbersome) albums? Now- upon my demise- it will be 1.) organized, 2.) in albums (if wanted), 3.) digitized for future generations. Next project are: getting the art, objects and jewelry appraised. If no one wants items at least I will know the dollar value. Great job.
I'm trying to go thru my mom's things now. She is still with me, but has dementia. She doesn't want to get rid of her things, so I have rented a storage shed to put them in. Every nook and cranny in the house is full. If something happens to her, we can unlock the storage shed and have a garage sale there at the unit.
@@tashainjena Tasha: An idea for in the house items: Do you have the ability/time to organize (like items with like items)? Then your mom can have her things and the house won’t appear as full. Good on you for taking care of your mom.
Look at your mum, the hand-behind-the-necklace-TH-cam expert! She was really in her element!!! Love this video. It makes me sentimental, wishing I'd spent more time with my own mum, sharing these moments together x
This is so realistic. They simply have too much stuff for their space, but it’s so understandable how it happens because modern life just brings stuff in. It can really bog down life! I’m starting to see the light on my decluttering and my success is only because I take time to watch these types of videos every day. So inspiring!
I'm so happy to hear that and you're so right. You must be feeling so much lighter now!!?! I'm so happy to hear these have helped give you some motivation!
This episode was so satisfying. A lot of times “decluttering” videos are mostly cleaning or organizing or styling a space. It was very refreshing to see your Mom just sit down and do the heavy lifting and make the tough decisions that will ultimately bring peace to her daily life (and help locate the missing earrings). Very inspiring!
When you were talking about how helpful it is just to have someone else there, that’s a technique called “body doubling.” It’s highly recommended for people with ADHD to help them focus, and it’s why people like to work in coffee shops and libraries instead of in a room at home alone. The other people provide a level of comfort and support just by being there that we might not be able to access on our own.
My husband and son have ADHD, and while hubby gets distracted by people, my son needs someone there. Nonetheless your comment is very helpful, because these little changes can make the difference between getting it done or not even getting it started!
We all got some baggage💛... it's so easy to judge people but when you sit down and talk to everyone you realize that we're all just humans trying to do our best and at differnet statges of life. Better to just be kind and help each other.
It's so great to see your mom getting better at judging which things bring her joy and which might make someone else happy. With all her commendable activities and aspirations, a decluttered home will make her life easier and calmer so she can keep her focus on what's most important to her 🧡 so proud of that jewelry declutter!
Your Mom’s dedication to visiting your Grandparents after work left little free time to organize the house! Greatly admire her generosity and selflessness.
My dad passed almost two months ago. It was very sudden and unexpected and we’ve been going through his stuff on and off. I’m very grateful to my dad for not owning lots of stuff and knick knacks. He didn’t care about things like that, and has had huge clear outs over the years so we wouldn’t have to deal with it. But he had some sentimental items, photos, hiking and fishing gear etc. The glasswear and crockery etc that he and my stepmother owned are things I remember from my childhood. It’s such painful process because these things are all that’s left of him…they existed when he did and he used them, touched them, wore them. I still have the trash bag I was going to throw out the day he passed. I’m just not able to throw it out yet. I see that it’s a symbol right now and at some point I will be able to put it out in the bin, but for now it’s sitting in my guest room
I’m so sorry to hear this. I cAnt imagine all the emotions you must be going through. I’m sure that as more time passes you’ll feel a little more ready each day, but you’re right… just be patient with yourself. The fact that you’re already so aware of this, to me, says that you will process and sort everything when you’re ready 💛
@@SpaceMakerMethod Thank you 💙 and a big thanks to you and your mum for sharing these videos. I am very aware that I get connected to items in that way and when someone is gone it’s just that much harder to let go. Watching your series feel so supportive and I am reminded to be gentle with myself and respect my own emotions when going through this process. For now I have two plastic bins with albums and sentimental items that belonged to my dad and at some point down the line I will revisit them and see how I feel ☺️
@@ronjakh A viewer of April's posted about the loss of her father too. She had kept a hat of his sitting on an upper closet shelf for the past five years. She said seeing the hat gave her comfort. (I guess it was like a visual entry point to all her memories of him.) She wrote that she could feel the pull and the power of his hat fading now. And believed that the time would come that it would revert to being just a hat, and that it would be okay to let it go.
Oh Dirk, what an old sweetie. It was so exciting and encouraging to see clear spaces emerge in this episode. And you made space in the closet for your suitcase. That was a big win!
April, doing this with your mom but also for your mom and seeing you not being pushy but encouraging and letting her set the pace without forcing her speaks volumes to the fact that you obviously know that this will make an enormous difference to your parents but how you get to the end results without causing emotional stress or gulit along the way is just as important. So good job April, as always! And seeing you tear up in explaining how the depression room came to be, makes it visible that this might also be a source of healing for you as well. And touching on the issue of keeping stuff from family members that have passed, I have seen what a toll it can have on family members that need to not only sort and go through everything but make smaller or bigger decisions in a time of grieving often with a certain time restrain. That being said, I wear my grandmothers little stud earrings almost always and I am immensely happy to have them as a memory and connection to her.
I remember that stage in my own decluttering. After that go, I got a massive burst of energy and went full speed ahead. What a great thing you are doing for your mother. I did it all on my own, and I am in my 60s
I have been hoarding for a number of years, it has gotten worse this past few years. Family and friends have come to help me, but they're inclined to push me to throw everything away. My home is dusty and untidy, nothing like the hoarders I've seen on TV. If I don't do something about it now, I could very well let things get to that point. It's just so overwhelming, I love to see your mum loosening the grip on a lot more of her things. I wouldn't want anyone to get to the stage I'm at now. I appreciate that you only want to nudge her, and don't push her to do something she's not ready for. I will declutter at least one box today. Thank you.
Do you follow @ahoardersheart here on TH-cam? She knows how it is and encourages people to just take baby steps in decluttering until they are ready to take bigger steps. I wish you all the best!
@@rebeckamattisson5083 Yes I do, thanks. Ms Heart has been going to therapy to help her deal with her issues. Unfortunately, I don't have access to a therapist with knowledge of hoarding. Thanks again.
@@songbird3094 do you listen to podcasts? Dana K. White has more content in podcast form than on TH-cam, and she had two amazing episodes that dealt with hoarding: 1) A man who does hoarder home emergency clean outs and who also happens to have his own hoarding tendencies; and 2) A woman who works in mental health and is a hoarder. She said that in all her schooling, she never found anything as helpful as Dana’s decluttering method. Her story is especially interesting as they seem to hint that she received help cleaning out her home on a TV show and even the therapy she received as a requirement didn’t help her as much as Dana’s method. I don’t remember which episodes those were, but I was in the middle of moving so I was primarily choosing ones with “overwhelm” in the title. Her podcast is titled, “A Slob Comes Clean.”
I’m so sorry to hear this. A box a day sounds like one of those small, approachable victories that can really motivate you to keep going! Maybe you could start with a box a day in a small section of the home?
You girls are making incredible progress. That is a tremendous amount of loss during a extremely difficult time in our human history. I’m so glad you have each other and are doing this together, you can practically feel the healing take place watching this. The paint isn’t the only thing in the room that is lighter and brighter. Hugs to you both ! 🤍
This is one of my favorite series! At 79 my husband and I are downsizing so I understand how tough this is on your Mom. You are an angle to help her! Great job
When you were talking about “not judging the mess because we don’t know what people are going through”,it also applies to weight gain.(and extreme weight loss). My husband and I were at a large event once and saw some friends from afar. The older parents,middle age son,daughter and daughter-in-law had ALL gained weight since we had last seen them a year ago. We weren’t able to catch up and talk with them but on the way home,I told my husband that something serious had happened with them. ( I gained 100 pounds taking care of my bed ridden mom for her last five years and then my dad with dementia for his last five years) A few weeks later my husband said “you were right,the mom has breast cancer and is not out of the woods yet”. (I can’t tell you how many obese,young people I have met who were molested,big surprise.)😵💫😖
Very true! My mom gained after her mom died from cancer, and continued to gain as she cared for her dad while he was dying. I also had a friend in high school who I met through work, and she was a big girl. When I went to her house once, I saw all her school pictures hung sequentially on the wall. She went from being skinny to obese in the span of one school year, which happened to coincide with when she told me she had been gang raped at a party. I met her after the fact and went to a different school, but I don’t imagine that her family’s refusal to believe that she was raped helped matters.
If you have jewelry that isn't in good enough shape to donate, don't trash it. Take off any findings, beads, charms, etc., that aren't damaged, and put them in a ziplock bag. That can be donated to make new jewelry or craft with. The less put in the landfill, the better.
I don’t think you even need to take them apart. I’ve seen grab bags sold for crafters. Goodwill seems to have stopped selling jewelry in store, but I think Savers still does.
After my step-dad passed towards the end of last year, I went to help my mom. She was keeping boxes and boxes of papers that she just didn't need. Stuff from houses and apartments and appointments from when my sister and I were kids. I spent a couple days just going through and organizing. I think we ended up with 2 full bins of paper that we burned. It was very cathartic and helped my mom keep track of the things she needs to reference.
Very inspirational. My husband passed in August and now I am decluttering his things. It is very hard, but I can do 30 minutes at a time. Keep up your great work.
the jewelry part hit hard. my grandma was my soulmate, my best friend. she was also a HUGE jewelry wearer and always super stylish with her lipstick and hair done, too. she passed super suddenly at a relatively young age in a motorcycle accident when they collided with a deer and it was all right before covid hit. my family still hasn’t gone through all her clothes and jewelry because it’s just too hard for us all and those items hold so much value to us. thank you for sharing this, April. ❤
When you are ready to go through the jewelry there is a charity called I Have Wings that will take any and all jewelry, and you can donate by mail. It’s hard to donate such personal things. So sorry for your loss.
Wow that was so satisfying! I love that your mom is so in to decluttering now! And that closet is actually usable now! After you have left maybe your mom could use the Dana k white method for decluttering…. It’s much slower but not at all overwhelming. You just open a box (or a cupboard), then look for trash, then anything that has an already established home (and you take it there right away), then things that are obviously donations. And you can basically keep as much as you like, as long as it fits in the container you have for it. I like the way she says “where would I look for this item”, and “if I was looking for it would I remember I had it”! I think that’s really helpful in getting inventory down to a level where you can remember what you have!
Dana also says that if you come across a picture or wall art while decluttering, you need to hang it up right then and there because that will help you realize whether you’re actually willing to do the work involved.
@@SpaceMakerMethod you definitely should check her out! She is really different to you, but her ideas are really great. She comes at it from the point of view of a messy person who isn’t going to naturally put stuff away in the right place, and gets overwhelmed by pulling everything else out to sort. She doesn’t talk about interior design like you do, her channel is just about getting a house under control when you are very busy and don’t have anyone to help. She is very in to “container method”……. Basically you can keep whatever you want but it must fit in to the container (ie the cupboard or drawer, or box), and that’s how you know to get rid of more stuff. Also about clutter threshold…… which is basically the maximum amount of stuff that you personally can manage without it getting out of hand and not putting it away….. for some people that’s loads of stuff, for other people you need to get rid of half your stuff. She is well worth a watch
Thank you, April for reminding me to be kind and nonjudgmental of those that like to keep "stuff". I become very reactive with cluttered spaces. You're teaching me a very important lesson. LKMH
A friend of mine donated all her old jewelry to a school so the children could take the Neckleses and earrings apart and reuse them in making new ones out of the old.
Thank you for showing that decluttering takes more than one pass. Sometimes five passes! It's not as easy as a lot of people make out, it's not once and done. It's, as you rightly said, flexing those decluttering muscles and it takes time, sometimes a lot of time. Appreciate you showing that kindness and understanding with the rest of us, showing that compassion and care is needed in these projects. I'm a borderline hoarder and it's taken me years and many passes to be able to let go. I'll be no minimalist but I don't think everyone should be, keeping things of value to you while living in a space that feels right to the person that lives there is the most important thing. I appreciate the emphasis you put on that, not on getting rid of as much as possible. Ps. Going through all the jewellery with your mother was the sweetest thing, i hope you treasure a lot of this time and keep the many clips that weren't show on camera.
Just an FYI, tarnished items doesn't always mean junk. I have silver that needs to be airtight and if not requires rubbing the silver to a shine again. :)
Your mom has become a decluttering champ👊🏽. I’ve been a declutter my whole life EXCEPT for papers 🤦🏽♀️. I felt for your mom through series 1. She’s inspired me! I need to have a pal help me to get over the hurdle and do a first round and a second. You are a great daughter, April helping both your parents and Jackson’s.
I completely understand why so many procrastinate with papers. They’re so overwhelming! Hopefully that friend is willing to help, even if just to watch and cheer you on! It really makes such a. Difference!
Thanks so much for what you do! Thanks for stressing the importance of kindness. Not just with clutter, but with all kinds of other behavior, too. You never know what burdens someone is carrying or what they are really going through. Always be kind. I just love your channel!!
I looove jewelry! Her collection is great :) i also struggle with what to donate vs throw away because crafters can do so much with random pieces. I sometimes take apart old jewelry and salvage what's good like saving the beads for other projects.
I try to put similar small items together in a bag when I’m getting rid of them so it’s obvious that it’s grab bag contents rather than single item sales. That does sometimes mean hanging on to the donations for a while, it for small stuff I don’t mind.
I’m really grateful for your videos. I’m currently on my decluttering journey of my family home. Both my parents died just before the pandemic hit and it’s really been a struggle. I like watching videos like yours to give me the push or inspiration to continue on. The progress has been really slow but I’m getting there. So, thank you so much 😄
It’s wonderful to see how great your mum is doing with decluttering. I imagine everything feels so much lighter having all that unused stuff gone through. 💕
Mahalo for the second season! “Decluttering takes 2,3 passes before it’s done.” I’m encouraged to continue on my journey of decluttering as I downsize my home.
It's so nice to see those rooms becoming usable again! PS For CDs, you can take them out of their packaging and put them in Tyvek or polyethylene sleeves (less than $10 per 100 at office supply stores). The CD booklet will fit in the sleeve behind the disk. Without the jewel cases, all of the CDs on that shelf would fit in a shoebox.
You have such a lovely discussion throughout your videos about the challenges of and reality of decluttering. I really appreciate you taking the time to talk about the emotional side of this process.
Tarnished silver jewelry can be polished with a special cloth, it doesn't need to go in the garbage. I have one of these cloths at home and they work great. Broken stuff can for sure be thrown out but tarnished and not-to-your-taste items can still be donated (someone else might like it). Working with someone else on these hard to start tasks is always so much easier! I have learned that about myself too. Once there is someone with me, I can pretty much start and complete the job on my own. I just need that company. I learned that it is called "body doubling" when I learned that I have adhd! It was so nice to learn that I'm not the only one that experiences things like that. Paperwork is so hard to go through! I don't blame your mom for putting it off! It is so tedious and there isn't always a satisfying before and after because it can often be piled up in unseen places (filing cabinets and drawers). BUT, it's amazing the weight that it clears from your mind when you do go through it. During the summer I finally went through my filing cabinet and the pile of paperwork I had on top of it and shredded, recycled, and filed what needed it and it felt so good! I am so looking forward to seeing the next episode! Your mom is doing great!
It’s so fun and inspiring to watch these videos. Your mom is a real trooper! She’s been through so much, as have you, April, and yet you both keep going making your lives and spaces feel freer. I’m helping my parents in a similar way right now, as they’re in their 70s and need to move to a one level house soon. But it is HARD for my mom especially to get rid of things. I know she has a lot of emotions, including grief over time passing and kids/grandkids growing up, tied into her possessions. It’s hard to let go, but the feeling of freedom and having clean spaces you can breathe in are so worth it. I tend to think of letting go as recirculating, so that others can use the things when they need them. Yes it’s sad to be in a later season of life, but we can welcome other people and new experiences so much better when we’re not holding into stuff. I can’t wait to watch more episodes!
14:00 I inherited all of my MIL's jewelry. She had that necklace in light bead colors. I'm thinking about having them restrung as bracelets - I could see that one done that way, too! I am loving the "multiple passes" genius, because it's really the only way to do it (with the harder things, especially).
Your Mom is a dear. Her house looks absolutely amazing! She deserves a potterbarn jewelry box for Christmas! Im obcessed with mine, and did one for my sister and neice. I love how you talk thru it all and encourage all of us. I'm obcessed with organizing and decluttering. But I know it is hard for people. You make it less scary. I had to declutter my father's things when he passed. It is so hard when emotions are attached. I did a huge photo project with photos. Got an entire bookcase and scrapbooks down to one photo storage box and everything on my hard drive and flash drive.
@@SpaceMakerMethod I used a local organization company but still did tons of the work with them. I took 4 months to complete. I was very expensive, but so worth it since we had tons to preserve. You are so awesome, I am literally hooked on your chanel!
Although difficult, I imagine going through the jewellery together was very cathartic for you both. We all hold so much emotion in our things, you're lucky to have each other for this process
I'm proud of your Mom. I'm going thru my stuff and she's so right , going thru stuff and memories attached is hard. I've got my room , closets, dressers cleared out. Bags of donations, some to sell, summer boxed up and winter brought out. Feeling less depressed. We took out a dead tree today, cut it up for firewood, and cleared the limbs and crumbs to the burn pile. 🔥 I've been in a funk before I started cleaning and now, I just want to get it all done. Can't wait for next Sundays video.
Your mum seems so soft spoken and lovely. Excited for her craft room especially as it's such a dramatic change from before. That must have taken a huge amount of bravery 💙
Wow the amount of stuff ye went through in a day, I’m wrecked just watching ye 🤭😂 I definitely get overwhelmed with paper and I bag it and box it to deal with later which never happens and I continue procrastinating. It’s brilliant to see you do a season 2 and better again you’re back home with your parents. Tell your mam take a bow 🙇♀️ because she’s amazing. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏👍💪🙏💐🐕🦺
Wow! This is one of the best de-cluttering videos I have ever seen! Fun, satisfying, fast-paced (in the showing anyway LOL) and effective. Your mom and dad are so lucky to have you helping them. Their house has come such a long way. Mom's attitude toward her stuff and de-cluttering has really changed for the better (we're going to work on Dad LOL). I am so looking forward to day three. P.S. I did not comment then, but I watched the entire Miami series and it was fantastic. Thanks for all you do.
The progress on both the room and your mom's decluttering muscles is amazing! Congrats to both of you on your beautiful room, so excited to see what you do with the room next!
I just love love love your cleverness, your emotional and mindfull capacities to be respectful with people and their spaces as much as you are an organizations-talent. It is so sweet how you mark the safe space you want to create and that discouragement or judgment is not what your work is about❤ I also enjoy seeing you in your parents house a lot and I will follow it many rounds more :)
Thank you 💛 when I first starting doing YT, the comments could be so hurtful to the other people and I quickly realized that’s not the community I wanted to create, not would it encourage others to open their homes to us. But the truth is, we all have our baggage and we’re just trying to do the best we can 💛
First I saw the season with Dany, then with Tracy and now Season 2 with your mom.... I love it. The living room has become so beautiful... and how your mom always holding your senior dog in her arms... just a great series. You are super personable, empathetic, funny, smart and simply wonderful. Best wishes from Switzerland.
Mama April! We do not hide away boxes of stuff from the camera! Tsk! 😉😂 Thank you so much for coming back to do another pass through for Mama April. It's beyond satisfying and I'm loving the process - so thank you thank you thank you for sharing this with us out here for motivation and just plain enjoyment. Little Pup is ever a privilege to spend time with as is your adorable Mama and I love her home so much.
I entered Christmas trees from vintage jewelry. A friend has one her uncle made from her grandmas jewelry. There are flower bouquets in vases, all made from jewelry. I have watched people make it on TH-cam as well.
LOVE being back for season 2 of this declutter. It's so cathartic even though it's not me or my things 😂😂 also great choice of background music - super calming but happy
Such a great decluttering series, well done to you all. It's a tough road to travel sometimes but making progress is so satisfying. I'm thinking Dirk is sensing those who have passed, very much a 'thing' with many animals. Lovely how he didn't want to leave your mum :)
I hadn't really thought of that about Dirk and the jewelry, but it would make sense bc he was acting so weird. And he refuses to leave my mom's side. 💛
My paternal grandmother was a hoarder. I was a level one hoarder and I am constantly going thru my things now deciding what I really need. I just want simplified not minimalism.
I know it is so hard to move on when something in your life happens that you never dreamed it would. I agree don’t judge because you could be in that place one day! I am in that place now and it hurts so much. Prayers for us all that are going or have been in that place🙏🏼🙏🏼
Especially considering how hard the jewelry was even to consider doing in the first pass, it was super impressive how willing and ready your mom was to sort and get rid of a lot! Well done!
I think she had the months in between the first series and 2nd to really think about it which was so helpful. Instead of pushing her, just letting her come around in her own time was really beneficial.
April, I believe I found your decluttering videos when it was the tail end of Season 1 of the Texas Declutter. Yesterday, I spent the best part of a day decluttering and reorganizing my mother’s basement storing space. It is not the first time we go through her things (with my sister), but this was by far the most enjoyable, and I totally believe that my new frame of mind going into it was set from watching your videos for all these months. Thank you for your open and understanding approach. As for the storing space, we went through every object of every box, separated things to trash from those to donate and those to sell, and organized it so that it will be easier to reach things for my sister and I in the spring when we’ll rotate fall/winter to spring/summer items. And the initial plan was only to put the AC in and get the winter stuff out! But things started so well, that my mom became open to decluttering! Thank you!
@@carrie3206 thank you! It was only a little that was decluttered, but as April says, one good experience can motivate for a second or more pass! We had very bad experiences in the past, but this was much better!
Thank you for taking the time to share th is. It makes me so happy to know that these videos expand past TH-cam and can inspire change in someone’s life. I’m so glad you’re experience was better this time and that you made some serious progress! I hope each round gets easier and easier. Thanks for being part of the space makers💛
Good Lord!!! What a job, this is definitely micro decluttering and that's the hardest because it takes a good while to see progress. I'm so happy your parents were on board for this because it does make a difference in your mental wellbeing even if you don't think so. Now, my question is, does your dad have a garage full of stuff? And how is your parents bedroom faring? The kitchen is getting there, the living room is done, the guest room is done and now the craft room is almost done. You are a miracle worker. 😘💖😘💖😘💖😘💖
That’s actually something I am going to look at more when we get to the closet. It’s difficult when you both have different ideas of how things should go or if one person is more ready to declutter and organize than the other.
You are a kind and amazing daughter. I went through my house in Alaska 3 times. We lived there 45 years. THEN we moved to the Lower 48 in ONE Pod. I am SO thankful my daughter will be free from doing my mess as she is a neat nik and it would be hard on her.
The blue beads could be sodalite or lapis lazuli. I’m guessing sodalite… The crystal looked like it might be selenite, but I’d need a better look to be sure about both. Love your videos!
Your mom takes such good care of her doggo. It warms my heart every time I see her carrying him around or sitting him next to her. It's the sweetest thing ever. ps. I feel like Goodwill (being a business that profits entirely off of donated items) shouldn't comment on how selective they are to be honest haha
@@SpaceMakerMethod Maybe equally as much? haha It's clear he needs to rely on her more and more and it's precious to see her create space for him to do so. Definitely a lot of love there!
Yeeeesss! I have been inspired and motivated to go through my “stuff” again and again. How it creeps in over the years and brings with it so much emotion. Thank you for your honest videos. That was weird when hey dog wanted to be in the middle of the jewelry. ??? Well done you two.
And it really does creep up over the years if you don’t stay on top of it. I’m always amazed at what I can accumulate in just a year even. …and I know 🐶.. we couldn’t figure out what he was doing
Our dog always reacts like that when we work on a project down on the floor. I'm 65, and it's getting harder for me to get down on the floor (and back up again), so the times I do that are fewer and further between, so it's always a curiosity for the dog when we're down on her level. She has to join in, get in the middle of things.
Wow, what a great way to bond with your mom. She is blessed to have you.
It’s been four years since my mother passed and I’m finally almost done rehoming her things. She kept everything thinking her kids would want her stuff and the reality is at most each child only wants one or two items to remember her by. I’ve learned through this experience and am rehoming things I’ve been holding onto. Better someone else use an item now than have it wind up in the trash 30 years from now never having been used at all.
That is so interesting and I’ve heard that a lot through helping family this past year as well (children not really wanting things that were left for them) I think that these days young people are getting lighter with what they keep too. I’m glad that you’re almost finished with the rehoming. I know that my mom and MIL have had a tough time with that. I hope you were able to find that process therapeutic.💛
April, do you sense from your experience that the “keepers” are older? My parents were raised in the Depression and WWII years and I’m wondering if that has had a big impact, generationally. My contemporaries hold onto things quite a bit but I don’t think it’s as prevalent as it was in our parents’ generation. Have you seen trends along those lines?
Katie: I can relate. As the family party planner, photographer and historian- I have taken it upon myself to create albums (photo, memorabilia, etc.) and hired a professional to digitize. I spent three years with the process of going through a lifetime of paperwork, notes, photos. I was stuck contemplating with who is going to want these (heavy, cumbersome) albums? Now- upon my demise- it will be 1.) organized, 2.) in albums (if wanted), 3.) digitized for future generations. Next project are: getting the art, objects and jewelry appraised. If no one wants items at least I will know the dollar value. Great job.
I'm trying to go thru my mom's things now. She is still with me, but has dementia. She doesn't want to get rid of her things, so I have rented a storage shed to put them in. Every nook and cranny in the house is full. If something happens to her, we can unlock the storage shed and have a garage sale there at the unit.
@@tashainjena Tasha: An idea for in the house items: Do you have the ability/time to organize (like items with like items)? Then your mom can have her things and the house won’t appear as full. Good on you for taking care of your mom.
Look at your mum, the hand-behind-the-necklace-TH-cam expert! She was really in her element!!! Love this video. It makes me sentimental, wishing I'd spent more time with my own mum, sharing these moments together x
I love this second pass series. It just goes to show that de-cluttering isn't a once and done process. Thanks April and mom.
Absolutely! And honestly, she may even need a third pass when this is done!
This is so realistic. They simply have too much stuff for their space, but it’s so understandable how it happens because modern life just brings stuff in. It can really bog down life! I’m starting to see the light on my decluttering and my success is only because I take time to watch these types of videos every day. So inspiring!
I'm so happy to hear that and you're so right. You must be feeling so much lighter now!!?! I'm so happy to hear these have helped give you some motivation!
This episode was so satisfying. A lot of times “decluttering” videos are mostly cleaning or organizing or styling a space. It was very refreshing to see your Mom just sit down and do the heavy lifting and make the tough decisions that will ultimately bring peace to her daily life (and help locate the missing earrings). Very inspiring!
It’s definitely the less fun part if decluttering, but arguably the most important!
When you were talking about how helpful it is just to have someone else there, that’s a technique called “body doubling.” It’s highly recommended for people with ADHD to help them focus, and it’s why people like to work in coffee shops and libraries instead of in a room at home alone. The other people provide a level of comfort and support just by being there that we might not be able to access on our own.
Yes. I have ADHD and I use this a lot. Its hard to get motivated a lot for me.
My husband and son have ADHD, and while hubby gets distracted by people, my son needs someone there. Nonetheless your comment is very helpful, because these little changes can make the difference between getting it done or not even getting it started!
Oh I love this insight! Thank you Rebecca. I’m going to catalog this away to remember!
I learned about it from The Minimal Mom - th-cam.com/video/REzoalxiIYI/w-d-xo.html
@@SpaceMakerMethod I think you realized this with Dani. She was just a decluttering master she just needed help starting and staying on task
That is so true not to judge someone’s house. So much clutter happened during so many traumatic events in our lives. I am so happy there is a season 2
We all got some baggage💛... it's so easy to judge people but when you sit down and talk to everyone you realize that we're all just humans trying to do our best and at differnet statges of life. Better to just be kind and help each other.
It's so great to see your mom getting better at judging which things bring her joy and which might make someone else happy. With all her commendable activities and aspirations, a decluttered home will make her life easier and calmer so she can keep her focus on what's most important to her 🧡 so proud of that jewelry declutter!
She is definitely getting better at identifying that and being able to voice it. I noticed that same thing when I was there!
I think Dirk knew emotions were running high and he was trying to keep check on you both and provide comfort. Bless him!!!
Another great video!!
Such a sweet doggie!
I bet if Dirk knew your Nana, he could also still catch her scent on some of the items, sweet pup😊
Your Mom’s dedication to visiting your Grandparents after work left little free time to organize the house! Greatly admire her generosity and selflessness.
She was the caretaker for my Nana and went to see her every single day. You are spot on.
My dad passed almost two months ago. It was very sudden and unexpected and we’ve been going through his stuff on and off. I’m very grateful to my dad for not owning lots of stuff and knick knacks. He didn’t care about things like that, and has had huge clear outs over the years so we wouldn’t have to deal with it. But he had some sentimental items, photos, hiking and fishing gear etc. The glasswear and crockery etc that he and my stepmother owned are things I remember from my childhood. It’s such painful process because these things are all that’s left of him…they existed when he did and he used them, touched them, wore them. I still have the trash bag I was going to throw out the day he passed. I’m just not able to throw it out yet. I see that it’s a symbol right now and at some point I will be able to put it out in the bin, but for now it’s sitting in my guest room
I’m so sorry to hear this. I cAnt imagine all the emotions you must be going through. I’m sure that as more time passes you’ll feel a little more ready each day, but you’re right… just be patient with yourself. The fact that you’re already so aware of this, to me, says that you will process and sort everything when you’re ready 💛
@@SpaceMakerMethod Thank you 💙 and a big thanks to you and your mum for sharing these videos. I am very aware that I get connected to items in that way and when someone is gone it’s just that much harder to let go. Watching your series feel so supportive and I am reminded to be gentle with myself and respect my own emotions when going through this process. For now I have two plastic bins with albums and sentimental items that belonged to my dad and at some point down the line I will revisit them and see how I feel ☺️
@@ronjakh A viewer of April's posted about the loss of her father too. She had kept a hat of his sitting on an upper closet shelf for the past five years. She said seeing the hat gave her comfort. (I guess it was like a visual entry point to all her memories of him.) She wrote that she could feel the pull and the power of his hat fading now. And believed that the time would come that it would revert to being just a hat, and that it would be okay to let it go.
Oh Dirk, what an old sweetie. It was so exciting and encouraging to see clear spaces emerge in this episode. And you made space in the closet for your suitcase. That was a big win!
That closet space felt like such a win!
You are very fortunate that your mom is willing to go through all her stuff.
You two are doing a great job!
You go girls!
Thanks Judy!! 💪
It’s so great to hear your mom’s laughter so frequently and easily this time!
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April, doing this with your mom but also for your mom and seeing you not being pushy but encouraging and letting her set the pace without forcing her speaks volumes to the fact that you obviously know that this will make an enormous difference to your parents but how you get to the end results without causing emotional stress or gulit along the way is just as important. So good job April, as always! And seeing you tear up in explaining how the depression room came to be, makes it visible that this might also be a source of healing for you as well.
And touching on the issue of keeping stuff from family members that have passed, I have seen what a toll it can have on family members that need to not only sort and go through everything but make smaller or bigger decisions in a time of grieving often with a certain time restrain.
That being said, I wear my grandmothers little stud earrings almost always and I am immensely happy to have them as a memory and connection to her.
I remember that stage in my own decluttering. After that go, I got a massive burst of energy and went full speed ahead. What a great thing you are doing for your mother. I did it all on my own, and I am in my 60s
Hey! That’s awesome!
I have been hoarding for a number of years, it has gotten worse this past few years. Family and friends have come to help me, but they're inclined to push me to throw everything away. My home is dusty and untidy, nothing like the hoarders I've seen on TV. If I don't do something about it now, I could very well let things get to that point. It's just so overwhelming, I love to see your mum loosening the grip on a lot more of her things. I wouldn't want anyone to get to the stage I'm at now. I appreciate that you only want to nudge her, and don't push her to do something she's not ready for. I will declutter at least one box today. Thank you.
Do you follow @ahoardersheart here on TH-cam? She knows how it is and encourages people to just take baby steps in decluttering until they are ready to take bigger steps. I wish you all the best!
@@rebeckamattisson5083 Yes I do, thanks. Ms Heart has been going to therapy to help her deal with her issues. Unfortunately, I don't have access to a therapist with knowledge of hoarding. Thanks again.
@@songbird3094 do you listen to podcasts? Dana K. White has more content in podcast form than on TH-cam, and she had two amazing episodes that dealt with hoarding: 1) A man who does hoarder home emergency clean outs and who also happens to have his own hoarding tendencies; and 2) A woman who works in mental health and is a hoarder. She said that in all her schooling, she never found anything as helpful as Dana’s decluttering method. Her story is especially interesting as they seem to hint that she received help cleaning out her home on a TV show and even the therapy she received as a requirement didn’t help her as much as Dana’s method. I don’t remember which episodes those were, but I was in the middle of moving so I was primarily choosing ones with “overwhelm” in the title. Her podcast is titled, “A Slob Comes Clean.”
@@username00009 I haven't listened to any podcasts. Thanks for this, I will definitely check it out.
I’m so sorry to hear this. A box a day sounds like one of those small, approachable victories that can really motivate you to keep going! Maybe you could start with a box a day in a small section of the home?
You girls are making incredible progress. That is a tremendous amount of loss during a extremely difficult time in our human history. I’m so glad you have each other and are doing this together, you can practically feel the healing take place watching this. The paint isn’t the only thing in the room that is lighter and brighter. Hugs to you both ! 🤍
Love this Denise, thank you 💛 so happy you guys are loving round 2!
This is one of my favorite series! At 79 my husband and I are downsizing so I understand how tough this is on your Mom. You are an angle to help her! Great job
Thanks Patricia!
Thank you for doing a Season 2! I love your decluttering and organizing videos!
I’m so glad you guys liked the first one so much!
Mom is rocking this. I can tell she is emotionally committed to getting control of her home. Blessings and keep on purging/sorting🥰🥰
Thank you so much!
When you were talking about “not judging the mess because we don’t know what people are going through”,it also applies to weight gain.(and extreme weight loss). My husband and I were at a large event once and saw some friends from afar. The older parents,middle age son,daughter and daughter-in-law had ALL gained weight since we had last seen them a year ago. We weren’t able to catch up and talk with them but on the way home,I told my husband that something serious had happened with them. ( I gained 100 pounds taking care of my bed ridden mom for her last five years and then my dad with dementia for his last five years) A few weeks later my husband said “you were right,the mom has breast cancer and is not out of the woods yet”. (I can’t tell you how many obese,young people I have met who were molested,big surprise.)😵💫😖
Very true! My mom gained after her mom died from cancer, and continued to gain as she cared for her dad while he was dying. I also had a friend in high school who I met through work, and she was a big girl. When I went to her house once, I saw all her school pictures hung sequentially on the wall. She went from being skinny to obese in the span of one school year, which happened to coincide with when she told me she had been gang raped at a party. I met her after the fact and went to a different school, but I don’t imagine that her family’s refusal to believe that she was raped helped matters.
@@username00009 oh my,how sad.😔
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If you have jewelry that isn't in good enough shape to donate, don't trash it. Take off any findings, beads, charms, etc., that aren't damaged, and put them in a ziplock bag. That can be donated to make new jewelry or craft with. The less put in the landfill, the better.
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I don’t think you even need to take them apart. I’ve seen grab bags sold for crafters. Goodwill seems to have stopped selling jewelry in store, but I think Savers still does.
I love your kind, calm approach ❤
After my step-dad passed towards the end of last year, I went to help my mom. She was keeping boxes and boxes of papers that she just didn't need. Stuff from houses and apartments and appointments from when my sister and I were kids. I spent a couple days just going through and organizing. I think we ended up with 2 full bins of paper that we burned. It was very cathartic and helped my mom keep track of the things she needs to reference.
That was so sweet of you to help her 💛 it’s hard to find volunteers when it comes to papers. I’m sure she’s so grateful to you.
Very inspirational. My husband passed in August and now I am decluttering his things. It is very hard, but I can do 30 minutes at a time. Keep up your great work.
So sorry to hear that 💛 thirty minutes a time seems like a great approach!
the jewelry part hit hard. my grandma was my soulmate, my best friend. she was also a HUGE jewelry wearer and always super stylish with her lipstick and hair done, too. she passed super suddenly at a relatively young age in a motorcycle accident when they collided with a deer and it was all right before covid hit. my family still hasn’t gone through all her clothes and jewelry because it’s just too hard for us all and those items hold so much value to us. thank you for sharing this, April. ❤
When you are ready to go through the jewelry there is a charity called I Have Wings that will take any and all jewelry, and you can donate by mail. It’s hard to donate such personal things. So sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry to hear that. 💛 Grandma’s hold such a special place in our hearts.
@@olivemaycards Thank you, Jo. I’ll definitely keep this in mind
Wow that was so satisfying! I love that your mom is so in to decluttering now! And that closet is actually usable now!
After you have left maybe your mom could use the Dana k white method for decluttering…. It’s much slower but not at all overwhelming. You just open a box (or a cupboard), then look for trash, then anything that has an already established home (and you take it there right away), then things that are obviously donations. And you can basically keep as much as you like, as long as it fits in the container you have for it. I like the way she says “where would I look for this item”, and “if I was looking for it would I remember I had it”! I think that’s really helpful in getting inventory down to a level where you can remember what you have!
Oh that’s a great system. I haven’t heard of her, but I’ll look her up!
Dana also says that if you come across a picture or wall art while decluttering, you need to hang it up right then and there because that will help you realize whether you’re actually willing to do the work involved.
@@SpaceMakerMethod you definitely should check her out! She is really different to you, but her ideas are really great. She comes at it from the point of view of a messy person who isn’t going to naturally put stuff away in the right place, and gets overwhelmed by pulling everything else out to sort. She doesn’t talk about interior design like you do, her channel is just about getting a house under control when you are very busy and don’t have anyone to help. She is very in to “container method”……. Basically you can keep whatever you want but it must fit in to the container (ie the cupboard or drawer, or box), and that’s how you know to get rid of more stuff. Also about clutter threshold…… which is basically the maximum amount of stuff that you personally can manage without it getting out of hand and not putting it away….. for some people that’s loads of stuff, for other people you need to get rid of half your stuff. She is well worth a watch
Thank you, April for reminding me to be kind and nonjudgmental of those that like to keep "stuff". I become very reactive with cluttered spaces. You're teaching me a very important lesson. LKMH
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A friend of mine donated all her old jewelry to a school so the children could take the Neckleses and earrings apart and reuse them in making new ones out of the old.
That’s a great idea!
Thank you for showing that decluttering takes more than one pass. Sometimes five passes! It's not as easy as a lot of people make out, it's not once and done. It's, as you rightly said, flexing those decluttering muscles and it takes time, sometimes a lot of time. Appreciate you showing that kindness and understanding with the rest of us, showing that compassion and care is needed in these projects. I'm a borderline hoarder and it's taken me years and many passes to be able to let go. I'll be no minimalist but I don't think everyone should be, keeping things of value to you while living in a space that feels right to the person that lives there is the most important thing. I appreciate the emphasis you put on that, not on getting rid of as much as possible.
Ps. Going through all the jewellery with your mother was the sweetest thing, i hope you treasure a lot of this time and keep the many clips that weren't show on camera.
Just an FYI, tarnished items doesn't always mean junk. I have silver that needs to be airtight and if not requires rubbing the silver to a shine again. :)
Yes! I kept thinking, "is she throwing away silver?" .
Def not! Just some costume jewelry!
Hats off. This'll be the boost your mom needs right now. When an older generation passes, especially in rapid succession, it sucks.
It does... and hten followed by a pandemic. It's no wonder things got so bad.
The best decluttering videos are the ones where people have a lot of possessions (like your parents and in laws) The more stuff the better!
Made me wonder if sound or smell of the jewelry, reminded Dierk of the visits to your grandma ♥️
Oh interesting. I hadn’t thought of that. He certainly was acting so strange when it came out.
Your mom has become a decluttering champ👊🏽. I’ve been a declutter my whole life EXCEPT for papers 🤦🏽♀️. I felt for your mom through series 1. She’s inspired me! I need to have a pal help me to get over the hurdle and do a first round and a second. You are a great daughter, April helping both your parents and Jackson’s.
I completely understand why so many procrastinate with papers. They’re so overwhelming! Hopefully that friend is willing to help, even if just to watch and cheer you on! It really makes such a. Difference!
I gave you a virtual hug when you teared up, going through the same experience here. More power to you 🥰
Thank you 😊 hope yours goes thoroughly and quickly!
Thanks so much for what you do! Thanks for stressing the importance of kindness. Not just with clutter, but with all kinds of other behavior, too. You never know what burdens someone is carrying or what they are really going through. Always be kind. I just love your channel!!
Thanks Mimi! 💛
You can donate jewelry as it may be placed in craft section instead of jewelry
Nice to see more of your mother, she’s doing so incredibly well. This second round is fantastic.
Thank you Karen! The second round is so much more satisfying 🤣
I looove jewelry! Her collection is great :) i also struggle with what to donate vs throw away because crafters can do so much with random pieces. I sometimes take apart old jewelry and salvage what's good like saving the beads for other projects.
I try to put similar small items together in a bag when I’m getting rid of them so it’s obvious that it’s grab bag contents rather than single item sales. That does sometimes mean hanging on to the donations for a while, it for small stuff I don’t mind.
Yes! I think it’s the next episode but we’re going to curate more of her crafting stuff from the previous season!
And talk about what her process was for this.
Your mom is a super hero to go through all that hard stuff!
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I’m really grateful for your videos. I’m currently on my decluttering journey of my family home. Both my parents died just before the pandemic hit and it’s really been a struggle. I like watching videos like yours to give me the push or inspiration to continue on. The progress has been really slow but I’m getting there. So, thank you so much 😄
Progress is progress, right!?
It’s wonderful to see how great your mum is doing with decluttering. I imagine everything feels so much lighter having all that unused stuff gone through. 💕
And it just keeps getting lighter and lighter!!
Mahalo for the second season! “Decluttering takes 2,3 passes before it’s done.” I’m encouraged to continue on my journey of decluttering as I downsize my home.
You got this Yvonne 💪
It's so nice to see those rooms becoming usable again!
PS For CDs, you can take them out of their packaging and put them in Tyvek or polyethylene sleeves (less than $10 per 100 at office supply stores). The CD booklet will fit in the sleeve behind the disk. Without the jewel cases, all of the CDs on that shelf would fit in a shoebox.
That would be a great space saver!
You have such a lovely discussion throughout your videos about the challenges of and reality of decluttering. I really appreciate you taking the time to talk about the emotional side of this process.
Of course, and I like knwoing that you guys enjoy it. It helps me know what to include for future episodes!
Tarnished silver jewelry can be polished with a special cloth, it doesn't need to go in the garbage. I have one of these cloths at home and they work great. Broken stuff can for sure be thrown out but tarnished and not-to-your-taste items can still be donated (someone else might like it).
Working with someone else on these hard to start tasks is always so much easier! I have learned that about myself too. Once there is someone with me, I can pretty much start and complete the job on my own. I just need that company. I learned that it is called "body doubling" when I learned that I have adhd! It was so nice to learn that I'm not the only one that experiences things like that.
Paperwork is so hard to go through! I don't blame your mom for putting it off! It is so tedious and there isn't always a satisfying before and after because it can often be piled up in unseen places (filing cabinets and drawers). BUT, it's amazing the weight that it clears from your mind when you do go through it. During the summer I finally went through my filing cabinet and the pile of paperwork I had on top of it and shredded, recycled, and filed what needed it and it felt so good!
I am so looking forward to seeing the next episode! Your mom is doing great!
Broken jewelry does not need to be trashed either as many people refurbish it .
You hit it right on… I was there sometimes just to watch her and she worked so much more quickly that way!
Youre a very caring person. Your mom is lucky to have you ❤
Love this series, especially hearing your mom’s commentary.
It’s so fun and inspiring to watch these videos. Your mom is a real trooper! She’s been through so much, as have you, April, and yet you both keep going making your lives and spaces feel freer. I’m helping my parents in a similar way right now, as they’re in their 70s and need to move to a one level house soon. But it is HARD for my mom especially to get rid of things. I know she has a lot of emotions, including grief over time passing and kids/grandkids growing up, tied into her possessions. It’s hard to let go, but the feeling of freedom and having clean spaces you can breathe in are so worth it. I tend to think of letting go as recirculating, so that others can use the things when they need them. Yes it’s sad to be in a later season of life, but we can welcome other people and new experiences so much better when we’re not holding into stuff. I can’t wait to watch more episodes!
I really love that last part especially. 💛 there is really such a lightness, and live in the moment feeling that comes with decluttering.
Best of luck moving your parents. I’m sure that is going to be challenging for all of you💛
14:00 I inherited all of my MIL's jewelry. She had that necklace in light bead colors. I'm thinking about having them restrung as bracelets - I could see that one done that way, too! I am loving the "multiple passes" genius, because it's really the only way to do it (with the harder things, especially).
You and your mom are so lovely together. It’s hard when you have big losses this I know too. You are so inspiring. 🥰🇨🇦
Thanks Amma 💛
Your Mom is a dear. Her house looks absolutely amazing! She deserves a potterbarn jewelry box for Christmas! Im obcessed with mine, and did one for my sister and neice. I love how you talk thru it all and encourage all of us. I'm obcessed with organizing and decluttering. But I know it is hard for people. You make it less scary. I had to declutter my father's things when he passed. It is so hard when emotions are attached. I did a huge photo project with photos. Got an entire bookcase and scrapbooks down to one photo storage box and everything on my hard drive and flash drive.
Oh wow! How long did the photos take you to go through and do you go through any service to help? And I'm going to have to look up that jewelry box!
@@SpaceMakerMethod I used a local organization company but still did tons of the work with them. I took 4 months to complete. I was very expensive, but so worth it since we had tons to preserve. You are so awesome, I am literally hooked on your chanel!
It’s so important to talk about first and second passes (and third!). Some things just take time.
It is!!! This stuff take timmmmmeee and even more time to break old patterns!
Although difficult, I imagine going through the jewellery together was very cathartic for you both. We all hold so much emotion in our things, you're lucky to have each other for this process
Precious! Such a beautiful relationship you and your mother have. Thank you for being so respectful of her and her needs and wants.
And thanks for watching 💛💛💛
I'm proud of your Mom. I'm going thru my stuff and she's so right , going thru stuff and memories attached is hard. I've got my room , closets, dressers cleared out. Bags of donations, some to sell, summer boxed up and winter brought out. Feeling less depressed. We took out a dead tree today, cut it up for firewood, and cleared the limbs and crumbs to the burn pile. 🔥 I've been in a funk before I started cleaning and now, I just want to get it all done. Can't wait for next Sundays video.
Cleaning is such a Great way to help shift the mood! Hope you feel good with all you accomplished!
@@SpaceMakerMethod yes, getting the house cleared out, opening the windows, airing it out is helping too. Fresh air vs stale air 👌
This is my favorite decluttering series. It is so satisfying to help our family.
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So happy you decided to do a continuation of the Texas declutter! Good luck to you all.
Thanks Pat! It’s going to be a fun series!
Your mum seems so soft spoken and lovely. Excited for her craft room especially as it's such a dramatic change from before. That must have taken a huge amount of bravery 💙
I can't wait to show you the craft room next episode!
I love love love your mom's pupper ❤️ ❤️❤️. I find myself smiling ear to ear whenever he pops in. ❤️
He’s a sweet ol pup!
I love this Texas series! Yay for Part 2!
Wow the amount of stuff ye went through in a day, I’m wrecked just watching ye 🤭😂 I definitely get overwhelmed with paper and I bag it and box it to deal with later which never happens and I continue procrastinating. It’s brilliant to see you do a season 2 and better again you’re back home with your parents. Tell your mam take a bow 🙇♀️ because she’s amazing. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏👍💪🙏💐🐕🦺
I will tell her! And I don’t blame you for procrastinating it but you’ll feel so good once it’s tackled!
I really appreciate your style of declutter. You are so Respectful to others……..Thank you for your kindness 💕💕💕
😘 thanks for watching each week 💛
Wow! This is one of the best de-cluttering videos I have ever seen! Fun, satisfying, fast-paced (in the showing anyway LOL) and effective. Your mom and dad are so lucky to have you helping them. Their house has come such a long way. Mom's attitude toward her stuff and de-cluttering has really changed for the better (we're going to work on Dad LOL). I am so looking forward to day three.
P.S. I did not comment then, but I watched the entire Miami series and it was fantastic. Thanks for all you do.
Thank you so much! Can’t wait for the next episode!
I'm an adult and I'm drooling over those retro Legos!
The progress on both the room and your mom's decluttering muscles is amazing! Congrats to both of you on your beautiful room, so excited to see what you do with the room next!
Thank you! It was such a great day of progress!
So great to see you and your Mom back together. ❤️
💛 I’m sure she’ll try to rally everyone for a third season so that I return 😂😂
You are so kind when going through her stuff
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For me I find on pass 2 that I’m getting rid of things that I kept on pass 1 that were duplicates
I just love love love your cleverness, your emotional and mindfull capacities to be respectful with people and their spaces as much as you are an organizations-talent. It is so sweet how you mark the safe space you want to create and that discouragement or judgment is not what your work is about❤ I also enjoy seeing you in your parents house a lot and I will follow it many rounds more :)
Thank you 💛 when I first starting doing YT, the comments could be so hurtful to the other people and I quickly realized that’s not the community I wanted to create, not would it encourage others to open their homes to us. But the truth is, we all have our baggage and we’re just trying to do the best we can 💛
@@SpaceMakerMethod Yes! :)
You are so patient April with the process!
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Such important work! I've been gradually decluttering my mom's things since she died two years ago. It's definitely a process.
It takes so much time 💛
I absolutely love your statement of no judgment. I love how you show so much respect & love to your mom!
The CDs from your car was such a nostalgic moment for me!!! ❤
Which ones did you have in yours!?
It def brought back the feels for me.
Your Mom did so much in the first season. Shes got the hard stuff left and she’s doing great at it all!!
We're creating an organizing machine 🤪
First I saw the season with Dany, then with Tracy and now Season 2 with your mom.... I love it. The living room has become so beautiful... and how your mom
always holding your senior dog in her arms... just a great series. You are super personable, empathetic, funny, smart and simply wonderful.
Best wishes from Switzerland.
Great job April and mom! The room is getting cozy. :) Awesome!
Thanks Rebecka! 💛💪🏻
Wow the energy around the jewelry, you talked about it and then the dog comes and just confirms it!
Lapis lazuli the blue beads
Mama April! We do not hide away boxes of stuff from the camera! Tsk! 😉😂
Thank you so much for coming back to do another pass through for Mama April. It's beyond satisfying and I'm loving the process - so thank you thank you thank you for sharing this with us out here for motivation and just plain enjoyment. Little Pup is ever a privilege to spend time with as is your adorable Mama and I love her home so much.
😉 hehe, I told her we couldn’t do that 🤣 and yes’ I’m so glad you guys like this season!
I entered Christmas trees from vintage jewelry. A friend has one her uncle made from her grandmas jewelry. There are flower bouquets in vases, all made from jewelry. I have watched people make it on TH-cam as well.
Oh how cute!
Wow what progress !! Great job Ladies !! She's doing well. Can't wait to see what is next 🥰😍
Next week we’re going to tackle the craft room some more!! Can’t wait!
LOVE being back for season 2 of this declutter. It's so cathartic even though it's not me or my things 😂😂 also great choice of background music - super calming but happy
Oh yay! I’m so glad you’re enjoying it!!! So many more episodes to come!
Such a great decluttering series, well done to you all. It's a tough road to travel sometimes but making progress is so satisfying. I'm thinking Dirk is sensing those who have passed, very much a 'thing' with many animals. Lovely how he didn't want to leave your mum :)
I hadn't really thought of that about Dirk and the jewelry, but it would make sense bc he was acting so weird. And he refuses to leave my mom's side. 💛
@@SpaceMakerMethod The sixth sense and all that... :)
My paternal grandmother was a hoarder. I was a level one hoarder and I am constantly going thru my things now deciding what I really need. I just want simplified not minimalism.
I love the simple life too!
I know it is so hard to move on when something in your life happens that you never dreamed it would. I agree don’t judge because you could be in that place one day! I am in that place now and it hurts so much. Prayers for us all that are going or have been in that place🙏🏼🙏🏼
Especially considering how hard the jewelry was even to consider doing in the first pass, it was super impressive how willing and ready your mom was to sort and get rid of a lot! Well done!
I think she had the months in between the first series and 2nd to really think about it which was so helpful. Instead of pushing her, just letting her come around in her own time was really beneficial.
April, I believe I found your decluttering videos when it was the tail end of Season 1 of the Texas Declutter. Yesterday, I spent the best part of a day decluttering and reorganizing my mother’s basement storing space. It is not the first time we go through her things (with my sister), but this was by far the most enjoyable, and I totally believe that my new frame of mind going into it was set from watching your videos for all these months. Thank you for your open and understanding approach. As for the storing space, we went through every object of every box, separated things to trash from those to donate and those to sell, and organized it so that it will be easier to reach things for my sister and I in the spring when we’ll rotate fall/winter to spring/summer items. And the initial plan was only to put the AC in and get the winter stuff out! But things started so well, that my mom became open to decluttering! Thank you!
Wow! Astounding!
@@carrie3206 thank you! It was only a little that was decluttered, but as April says, one good experience can motivate for a second or more pass! We had very bad experiences in the past, but this was much better!
@@Bubreherro love this!
Thank you for taking the time to share th is. It makes me so happy to know that these videos expand past TH-cam and can inspire change in someone’s life. I’m so glad you’re experience was better this time and that you made some serious progress! I hope each round gets easier and easier. Thanks for being part of the space makers💛
Good Lord!!! What a job, this is definitely micro decluttering and that's the hardest because it takes a good while to see progress. I'm so happy your parents were on board for this because it does make a difference in your mental wellbeing even if you don't think so. Now, my question is, does your dad have a garage full of stuff? And how is your parents bedroom faring? The kitchen is getting there, the living room is done, the guest room is done and now the craft room is almost done. You are a miracle worker. 😘💖😘💖😘💖😘💖
That’s actually something I am going to look at more when we get to the closet. It’s difficult when you both have different ideas of how things should go or if one person is more ready to declutter and organize than the other.
You're doing so well April's mom! I feel motivated!
fantastic work and very enjoyable episode! had a more relaxed and confident vibe! can't wait to see the rest :)
😘 Thanks Vanessa!
You are a kind and amazing daughter. I went through my house in Alaska 3 times. We lived there 45 years. THEN we moved to the Lower 48 in ONE Pod. I am SO thankful my daughter will be free from doing my mess as she is a neat nik and it would be hard on her.
The noodle angel!! Brings back memories. Mid 80s craft ❤
gotta love those wholesome crafts!
The blue beads could be sodalite or lapis lazuli. I’m guessing sodalite… The crystal looked like it might be selenite, but I’d need a better look to be sure about both. Love your videos!
Thanks Dana!
Your mom takes such good care of her doggo. It warms my heart every time I see her carrying him around or sitting him next to her. It's the sweetest thing ever.
ps. I feel like Goodwill (being a business that profits entirely off of donated items) shouldn't comment on how selective they are to be honest haha
I think she loves Dirk more than her own children 🤣 haha, just kidding. But they really love eachother a lot.
@@SpaceMakerMethod Maybe equally as much? haha It's clear he needs to rely on her more and more and it's precious to see her create space for him to do so. Definitely a lot of love there!
Yeeeesss! I have been inspired and motivated to go through my “stuff” again and again. How it creeps in over the years and brings with it so much emotion. Thank you for your honest videos. That was weird when hey dog wanted to be in the middle of the jewelry. ??? Well done you two.
And it really does creep up over the years if you don’t stay on top of it. I’m always amazed at what I can accumulate in just a year even. …and I know 🐶.. we couldn’t figure out what he was doing
So many smells involved,sweat,perfume,cigarettes,etc. “Olfactory overload”🫢
@@SpaceMakerMethod was some of the jewelry your grandma’s? Could your moms dog be telling you grandma was there with you?
Our dog always reacts like that when we work on a project down on the floor. I'm 65, and it's getting harder for me to get down on the floor (and back up again), so the times I do that are fewer and further between, so it's always a curiosity for the dog when we're down on her level. She has to join in, get in the middle of things.
So satisfying to get all that paper out! I can’t wait for the next uploads!!
Felt so good! Can't wait for Sunday!
Your goodwill and lifespan education at the 7 minute mark is A++++++