I was raised as an atheist and I love it. But when someone says “I went to church today and I am so happy” I feel truly happy for them. Life is too short, you have to collect as much joy as you can. To each its own ☺️ a big hug for you guys ❤
Appreciate you so much. The REALNESS of coming on and talking about faith with zit cream on your face is the reason I follow you. Not the specifics, of course, but the honesty. It’s rare among influencers. It’s rare among anyone. Thank you.
For the vows - my husband and I wrote letters to each other and we read them to each other during the first look! Then did the traditional vows for the ceremony. That was perfect for us!!
My sister just recently got married and they did the same. It was very sweet and the videographer for it on camera for their wedding video. I liked it.
So proud of you for speaking how you feel and y’all’s opinions!! I feel like our friendship has grown into a new level now 😂❤ I 100% understand everything y’all said. Keep being you Clancy! The people who are meant to be here will stay.
Doing our vows in front of everyone was so special! I love weddings where they do it too bc you feel like you really get to know the couple so much better- that’s why they’re there, to support your marriage!
I’ve been Christian my whole life and I’m pretty serious about my faith. I’m in my mid-twenties now and what you and Zach are both going through in your faith journey is so normal! It’s nice to hear other people not have a perfect faith life, and be humble and kind about it. There are so many Christian’s out there who have grown up in church and have taken Jesus for granted, and it shows in the way they live their life. Totally supportive of how you guys are figuring it out together one step at a time, and being kind and wise about it along the way!
I have to say I appreciate the conversation about religion. You and Zac are both so relatable and being of similar age (a bit older lol) I feel the description of everyone being on their own journey is so true. Appreciate the openness
As someone who grew up in the church and chose to leave as an adult I love hearing you guys share your truth and be real and vulnerable. There are a lot of negative things about organized religion, but I can find how it brings peace to a lot of people and I think it’s everyone’s right to make their own choice and also be respectful of others. I love seeing people living different type of lifestyles than I do and to be able to learn about their way of thinking and be open minded. Love your transparency and I never miss a video 💗
My husband and I were both raised catholic but have real issues with that church and haven’t attended in years. We just started going to a Presbyterian church and our eyes are open to the possibility of a non toxic church experience!! So refreshing. I relate to this part of your vlog so much. Happy Easter!!
You’re both on a beautiful faith journey. It seems like week by week you’re getting a little more clarity and understanding. It’s wonderful to find a church that truly resonates with where you’re at. Thanks for sharing so openly about your experience.💛
Clancy girl! This is YOUR channel and post whatever you want! A person who was raised Catholic, I ended up loving the Christian church. The way they express and talk about the word of God just makes so much sense and there’s days it really speaks to you and you know it’s God trying to tell you something🥰💕
I have no experience from the marriage front, but I think the great thing nowadays is that there are NO rules. No rules when it comes to vows, registries, living together/apart, etc. Each and every couple is so unique and special that the way they choose to move through life together is RIGHT for them! 🥰 It's fun following along on your path! 💜
I have done some similar things, however, I do understand that that is not being a committed Christian. I do believe that when God's law is followed, your life does escape the consequences that happen when you don't. The Bible outlines what is required. God allows us freedom of choice.
Clancy, regardless of where you are in your religious journey, it's your journey, and there's nothing wrong with any path you take on it. Other people need to mind their business about it. I do appreciate that you're speaking out about what you see is wrong. It's fantastic to see someone not be pressured to be quiet.
This is the first time you two have had a serious heart-to-heart no joking conversation on this blog! I have been married 23 years. It took me and my husband who were totally different religions he was Catholic and I was not a good 18 years to figure it out which put a lot of strife in our marriage! Now we are on the same page going to the same christian-based bible-based church and we have a fabulous life! I am very proud of you too for figuring this out before you get married. And always remember that weather Clancy wants to baptize the baby as a child or not that the child later in life needs to grow up and accept his own religion and then makes their choice. So so proud of you both!
I loved your chat about your religious journey. I left a strict religion in high school and have been turned off from going back to any sort of church in the last 7-8 years. Hearing about your experience has made me a little more open minded if the opportunity presented itself! Thank your for being real and relatable time and time again.
I love you and Zach’s relationship ❤️also missing Ms.Cathy in the vlogs lol we love you Clancy! You don’t know how much you’ve been helping me honestly, Thankyou for vlogging your life💕
What we did at our wedding was standard vows (not personalized) in front of our guests and then we sent each other letters with our vows while we were getting ready - it was really special and we were able to keep them ❤
No one has the answers when it comes to religion. That's why they call it faith. It shouldn't be used to hurt or shame anyone else. What matters at the end of the day is what you get out of it, and I'm glad it's been bringing you peace
We wrote our own vows, but we exchanged them during our first look and we loved it!!! If you’re planning on doing a first look I would highly recommend! It was probably my favorite part of our wedding day. It took the pressure off of saying them in front of everyone and it felt so special doing just the two of us (plus our photographers lol) Then during the ceremony we exchanged traditional vows
I’m watching this 3 weeks later, but I just wanted to say thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. Regardless of what box it fits into or outside of, our only hope as humans is spiritual awakening. As long as it produces growth and blessing for you and those you interact with, it is good and necessary and worthwhile! The more voices we have calling for this, the better!
100% Agee with Zack on the people drive people away. It’s legalism and it does drive a lot of people away. Grace is HUGE! This clip made me enjoy watching even more and makes me like Zack even more. Clancy you are so right we all have our own journey to our faith. It is not an overnight process. I’m so happy to have watched this vlog!!
Do a registry for two reasons: 1) Usually the store gives you a discount code/coupon after your wedding so you can get the items still on your registry for a discount. 2) People usually like to get things from registry for the bridal shower (people in our parents’ generation specifically.)
my husband and I said our vows during our first look and then did the traditional vows during the ceremony.. i loved the way we did it!! made the vows more special just being the two of us.
also.. the registry is great for the bridal shower.... people like to get gifts for that instead of giving money and then usually for the actual wedding everyone will give money. Something we did was put a honeymoon fund on the registry for people that wanted to use the registry.
My husband and I weren’t comfortable doing personal vows publicly either, so we did traditional vows in each others first language ❤ He did his in English and I did mine in Portuguese. His whole family was watching via livestream from Brazil and they don’t speak English so it was really special for them
Thank you Thank you for your opening up more of your life to us. I truly appreciate your saying what you are feeling about the path that you are on regarding religion.
I agree with you both. It's about your own personal walk with God. No one should be judged of how they live or believe. I'm so happy you found a church you love going to, that's amazing. God has a plan for each of us and I believe you're where he wants you to be in your lives right now. I love you guys! ❤
I am glad you addressed religion. Shouldn’t be controversial as we all have a right to worship as we please. I am a Christian and can’t imagine my life without prayer and attending worship. I will say it made me happy to see you excited about going to church 😊 Amen Zac! If people are negative then they are the problem! Agree about the personal vows. I wouldn’t be comfortable doing that in public either!
I started to get heart palpitations when I saw the topic of faith come up. It can be a highly charged topic to talk about on social media (Gee…wonder why that is …..) anyway I appreciate you being honest. I am a believer (a Christian) and rarely share my faith on social media because I don’t like confrontation but realize I need to be true to my convictions without being in your face about it. I realize not everyone is going to accept this but the freedom to talk about it is important without creating a shark feeding frenzy. Thanks for bringing it up. It’s good to have it as a topic for people to ponder.
Registry is for the bridal shower! Money is for the wedding (from our experience in NY!) usually people do both, whoever is invited to the shower would buy a gift from the registry and typically also give money at the actual wedding 😊
Thank you for being honest about your feelings and doing what you felt convicted to do! God is good all the time!! I pray blessings over your lives together!!
My husband and I did a first touch and read our vows ❤ his sister took our photos for that and it’s so special 😊 we are shy people so it was nice to just have the two of us
amen happy for you guys! glad you guys have a loving community around y’all! God loves y’all and i’m sorry y’all have bad experiences that have turned u off, ur not alone in that
If you do your vows and you have a videographer make sure it is in the contract that you don’t want your vows advertised. There is a fitness vlogger (Whitney Simmons) she got married and had a videographer and was not going to share her wedding video, but the videographer said that it was in the contract that she could share what she wanted (it also helps her gain clients of course) and she was going to post it to her website. So now Whitney is sharing her wedding video because it’s going to be shared anyways.
Hey Clancy, I’m normally a silent viewer but I just thought I would say I honestly admire you for being so open and honest about this journey. Even though I come from a completely different background and am not Christian I find that I relate to your experience on faith so much. There are parts of my religion that I love to learn about and get closer with and then there are other parts that I am just a bit iffy with. I love what you said about everyone being on their own journey and finding their own path and I totally agree with that. I think the world would honestly be a much more peaceful place if every individual was given the space to just figure out their beliefs for themselves without being forced into/pressured into believing something.
I commented previously but didn't finish the vlog till now; I commend you for bluntly sharing about your faith with no frills or evangelizing, I grew up in a cult/high demand religion and since deconstructing I no longer believe in organized religion and even tho that's not necessarily what yall said you believe it's nice to hear ppl bluntly say they just aren't sure. Cuz even tho I know what I don't believe, I still don't know everything that I do believe and that's normal and fine. It's super sweet how happy church has made you lately, im happy for yall
I just got married in Cincy. We bought our house 4 months before the wedding. We literally were able to get all our kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom items furnished through the registry. We also did upgrades for old things we already had. I’m obviously team registry, but y’all don’t have to.
Your vlogs r the highlight of my weeks!!!! I look forward to them so much and love when you open up more. I’m in Indianapolis so if you’re ever in town and need recommendations, let me know!
100% agree on living together before thinking about marriage. My husband and I didn't move in together until we'd been dating for 4 years and didn't get engaged until we'd been together for 9 years. Now we've been married for almost 2 years. Because we took our time getting to all these milestones I feel like the transitions were easy and we knew what to expect at each stage. Love your videos btw! I'm going to visit Cincinnati for a wedding over Memorial Day weekend, excited to try out some of the places I've seen in your videos!
I’m so excited to see all your wedding day festivities. The planning, after the wedding thoughts, your Dad’s reaction, your Mom’s,etc. Are you each going to do a bachelor/ bachelorette parties? Can’t wait. ❤️
Registry decision: My friends said they didn’t do a registry and they regretted it because they got too many towels that they didn’t need. So on our website, we say we understand that we would prefer monetary gifts but we understand that people might want to give a traditional gift.
Thank you for talking about your faith journey. As a Christian married to a Catholic our faith in God has always been priority in our marriage. Praying for you both as you continue to explore your faith.
Totally agree with living together before married. Also having a registry is nice for older family members who like physical gifts. We did Amazon so people could mail us gifts prior to the wedding and we could put a wide range of presents, basically stuff we needed but wouldn't want to buy ourselves :)
I’m really happy to see you open up about religion. I think a lot of our culture has overpowered the true meaning of what it means to be Christian. We had this discussion at my alpha group a few days ago, and we talked about what you guys feel about church. Thank you for talking about it and I hope you have a good Easter weekend!
Raised Catholic, but I’ve stepped away from religion. I can’t handle the hypocrisy of the people in the church. Love Jesus, but then turn around and hate people who look, love, think differently than they do.
Clancy, that’s the Holy Spirit working in you! Lean into it and find a relationship with Jesus, and don’t worry about fitting into a specific religion. ❤
Why are you specifically saying Jesus? I agree with the second part, but you didn’t have to specifically call out Jesus, he was just another prophet and we’re all prophets. U don’t have to specify one human in history to find a relationship with like Jesus, find a relationship with all humans throughout history and the present since we’re all equally prophets of god.
@@lesryglrhfohser Why do you assume everyone believes that Jesus “was just another prophet”? Clancy is going to a CHRISTian church, which teaches the Christian Bible and the whole basis of the religion is that Jesus Christ is the Lord and Savior. That Jesus is God in human form, not just another “human” as if we’re equal to Him. The sermons that Clancy and Zac are loving so much are all centered around Jesus and having a relationship with Him. From that standpoint, a relationship with Jesus is the most important thing, He comes first. That’s why the OP specifically said Jesus. I mean, what’s the point of going to a Christian or Catholic church if not to seek Jesus? Your comment on this thread is not relevant and you should have made your own stand alone comment. All you’re doing is projecting your own belief into this person’s comment and insinuating they are wrong to have the beliefs they do. How are you suppose to take your own advice and find a relationship with all humans in history and present when you crap on their beliefs?
So so glad you shared about ur stage in life with your faith journey. Really helped me see where I am at with mine & that it’s ok. ❤️Thank you! Love u guys!🤩
No judgement here about your talk about religion at all. You’re talking about how you feel and not saying that other people should feel the same way. You guys are awesome Happy Easter to both of you
Fully agree with Zach on the living together before engagement and marriage, there's someone much people don't know each other until they're under the same roof for a significant amount of time.
you can be lovey dovey, and you should feel empowered because its an expression. You are inviting people into your world, and so you can do what you want, you don't have to "please" anyone except each other. Also, you can have the officiant say a line and then you repeat it if you're nervous
Clancy, it is so refreshing to watch your videos because I know you rarely ever shy away from sharing your true thoughts and feelings! I am a Christian and am happy to hear that you have been connecting and enjoying the sermons on Sundays. Keep being true to yourself and I’ll keep watching!!! PS - I loveeeee CoreLife too but DANG it’s an expensive salad 😂
I talked about this with my Vietnamese friend the other day. It is a custom in East Asian countries that you just give money to the couple. People in America have a weird culture around asking for/gifting money but it's really the most practical and useful gift. I find with registries people end up putting weird/random/expensive items on there cuz they just want to fill space and have people buy them random stuff. Also with money each person can decide how much they give
Really great vlog today sweetie. Appreciate you Zac's ability to parse and openly speak about some of your deeper beliefs and feelings. And we always have the ability to change and grow. Not easy, but it is possible.
Private vows! We did that and wrote vows to each other and read them during our first look. Nobody else was there. I’m also not an emotional girly so it worked out for me because I get awkward in front of people when showing emotions and being serious.
Luv ur vlogs gurl ❤ I can relate to so much of u and ur life especially the catholic thing - I think I commented that b4. IT is all about ur “journey” in life and how things resonate when u need them weddings while beautiful are nerve racking so do what u know u can do without creating more stress for urself - OMG and daylight savings is EVERYTHING!!! I need sun, blue skies and warmth that how I roll ☀️👍🏼🤩
My husband and I didn’t do personal vows and I’m so grateful we didn’t haha! We stuck with traditional and our entire ceremony was MAYBE 15 minutes long which worked out in my favor as I was 32 weeks pregnant. We wanted to keep it short and simple and have more time during dinner to visit with everyone ! As someone who is CRAVING going back to church, I am 100% understanding where you’re coming from. And I’m so happy you and zac spoke about religion in this video. Thank you as always for another fun video. Praying over you both !
Happy Saturday Clancy and Zac ! 😊 I’m glad you both talked about your viewpoints on your faith and views on religion. You have every right to say how you guys feel w/o being judged by anyone. As long as your happy is all that really matters . Have a wonderful Easter ….❤️
My boyfriend and I agreed to do personal vows but reading them privately! I wouldn’t want to be nervous about that all day long, it would take away the fun for me on the big day 😅
My opinion, if you’re having a bridal shower, create a registry. If not, I don’t think you need it. If you don’t have a registry, you’re more likely to get things you don’t want/need. Better now to ask for things to replace all your old stuff. People appreciate a registry.
I’m a pretty hardcore Atheist but I totally respect Christians and I watch a ton of Christian content on TH-cam. I think going to church is great if that’s what you want to do, I’m sure there are a lot of benefits. I grew up in a very religious/conservative family and I had no choice but to be highly involved in our non-denominational church. It was a horrible/traumatizing experience and I was judged harshly for literally anything and everything so it completely turned me off. I also was just never able to believe in any sort of higher power or anything in the Bible, I believe it was all created by flawed men who were seeking power and control over the masses. As humans, we have evolved to believe in common myths (different gods, currencies, etc) - these shared beliefs have allowed us to advance as a species. These are just my thoughts and that doesn’t mean I’m right, it’s just what I believe. Everyone else is allowed to believe whatever they want, I respect whatever it is you believe!
As a believer in Jesus Christ I really respect your viewpoint and how you expressed yourself. It was very reasonable and mature. I completely understand the legalism of organized religion and that’s why I love the freedom I have. I was bound up in shame and guilt until I got a breakthrough that He came to give life and life abundantly. Anyway we all have to come to our choices concerning our lives and I truly wish you the best on your journey.
I just wanna say, I appreciate you talking about your views on religion. If you can't talk about something that is a part of you and your life, what are we even doing here. If someone has a problem with your views, they're not the vibe 😂 I love you Clancy! Stay authentic ❤❤
My suggestion is do a registry even if it’s a small one you can even register for gift cards to furnish your house later at stores you like. Otherwise you will end up with 20 throw blankets and a bunch of picture frames. We even registered for experiences on our honeymoon. Just an idea!
Your wedding registry is for the bridal shower gifts, but at your wedding you’ll mainly receive cash! So definitely still make a registry! You don’t have to do all home things - but we got our lawn mower, grill, bed frame from the registry! You can also do things like games, luggage, a honeymoon fund! You should totally still put some things on there :)
So our pastor did something unique. He asked us what some of the things we wanted to vow to each other were. He incorporated those into our vows so that they were still personal to us but we did the traditional repeat after me/ I do style.
Clancy, you and Zac are such an adorable couple! You two just really bring sunshine to my day! And I can totally relate about the conversation on religion! I went to Catholic school for 12 years, but outside of going to the required masses while in school, I was not a consistent Sunday worshiper, and, of course, that included my family was the same way. I also have some issues with our Catholic religion with the issues that have happened lately in the news. I love that you have found a church that is fulfilling you! I think that is so important and exciting! On a trivial note, I am in love with your sunglasses, Clancy! Where did you get those sunglasses?😁
I am SO happy to see another couple our age that feels the same way about religion!! I was raised Christian and my boyfriend was raised Catholic. I have been struggling so hard with religion and faith especially recently. Some of the meanest bullies and judgmental people I encountered at church, I got to the point I would force myself to be sick on Sunday’s as a kid to avoid church. I think it’s just important to be a good person religious or not!
I absolutely love hearing about your spiritual journey! Thanks for sharing. I too, come from a long line of Christ follower’s and ministers. My great grandfather was a circuit preacher and I often think about how prayer’s they have uttered in my behalf are being answered years later. We are all equal at the foot of the cross and we all should be given love and understanding as we grow in the Lord. I grew up in a very conservative Baptist church and I always felt like I just was not good enough to be loved by the Lord. It has taken me years to undo the religious condemnation and know that I am a loved, accepted and forgiven. I just keep desiring to read His word and grow and He is so faithful to hear my prayers and give me new mercies each morning. Again, thank you for sharing.
Thank you guys for sharing! It’s hard today to verbalize our feelings on God, religious beliefs we live in a society where people are so opinionated. They never support they only want to break you down on this subject. 🥰🤗💜🙏🏻
Love you guys!! Clancy I just got married less than a year ago. I think you should do the personal vows in the ceremony. Just agree with each other to keep them short/the same amount of time as each other. Like- 1 minute each. You won't regret making your ceremony meaningful and pushing yourself for the bigger picture. I feel like it's more important Clancy that you acquiesce to your significant other's wishes than someone like your dad in the audience. But no matter what, it sounds like both you and Zac are flexible on this and speaking kindly to each other when discussing it, and you guys will have a super special wedding.
I was raised as an atheist and I love it. But when someone says “I went to church today and I am so happy” I feel truly happy for them. Life is too short, you have to collect as much joy as you can. To each its own ☺️ a big hug for you guys ❤
Appreciate you so much. The REALNESS of coming on and talking about faith with zit cream on your face is the reason I follow you. Not the specifics, of course, but the honesty. It’s rare among influencers. It’s rare among anyone. Thank you.
Aww thank you!! I’m lucky to have wonderful viewers/internet friends like you 💞
This! 💯
For the vows - my husband and I wrote letters to each other and we read them to each other during the first look! Then did the traditional vows for the ceremony. That was perfect for us!!
That’s what we did!!
Same!
My sister just recently got married and they did the same. It was very sweet and the videographer for it on camera for their wedding video. I liked it.
This is what I’m leaning toward doing!!
That is so sweet! What a cool idea
So proud of you for speaking how you feel and y’all’s opinions!! I feel like our friendship has grown into a new level now 😂❤ I 100% understand everything y’all said. Keep being you Clancy! The people who are meant to be here will stay.
Doing our vows in front of everyone was so special! I love weddings where they do it too bc you feel like you really get to know the couple so much better- that’s why they’re there, to support your marriage!
You and Zac are brave to share some of your faith stories. I 100% agree with y'all and really am at the same mind place. 💕
Say the vows! Be light hearted, you don’t have to be super emotional. Anyone at your wedding loves you both. Don’t be nervous. It’s your day!
I’ve been Christian my whole life and I’m pretty serious about my faith. I’m in my mid-twenties now and what you and Zach are both going through in your faith journey is so normal! It’s nice to hear other people not have a perfect faith life, and be humble and kind about it. There are so many Christian’s out there who have grown up in church and have taken Jesus for granted, and it shows in the way they live their life. Totally supportive of how you guys are figuring it out together one step at a time, and being kind and wise about it along the way!
I have to say I appreciate the conversation about religion. You and Zac are both so relatable and being of similar age (a bit older lol) I feel the description of everyone being on their own journey is so true. Appreciate the openness
As someone who grew up in the church and chose to leave as an adult I love hearing you guys share your truth and be real and vulnerable. There are a lot of negative things about organized religion, but I can find how it brings peace to a lot of people and I think it’s everyone’s right to make their own choice and also be respectful of others. I love seeing people living different type of lifestyles than I do and to be able to learn about their way of thinking and be open minded. Love your transparency and I never miss a video 💗
My husband and I were both raised catholic but have real issues with that church and haven’t attended in years. We just started going to a Presbyterian church and our eyes are open to the possibility of a non toxic church experience!! So refreshing. I relate to this part of your vlog so much. Happy Easter!!
you’re thoughts and comments mean something. you both are very equal minded but find the good in things. love love watching you both!!!
You’re both on a beautiful faith journey. It seems like week by week you’re getting a little more clarity and understanding. It’s wonderful to find a church that truly resonates with where you’re at. Thanks for sharing so openly about your experience.💛
Clancy girl! This is YOUR channel and post whatever you want! A person who was raised Catholic, I ended up loving the Christian church. The way they express and talk about the word of God just makes so much sense and there’s days it really speaks to you and you know it’s God trying to tell you something🥰💕
I have no experience from the marriage front, but I think the great thing nowadays is that there are NO rules. No rules when it comes to vows, registries, living together/apart, etc. Each and every couple is so unique and special that the way they choose to move through life together is RIGHT for them! 🥰 It's fun following along on your path! 💜
I have done some similar things, however, I do understand that that is not being a committed Christian. I do believe that when God's law is followed, your life does escape the consequences that happen when you don't. The Bible outlines what is required. God allows us freedom of choice.
I love how vulnerable you were here x
Clancy, regardless of where you are in your religious journey, it's your journey, and there's nothing wrong with any path you take on it. Other people need to mind their business about it.
I do appreciate that you're speaking out about what you see is wrong. It's fantastic to see someone not be pressured to be quiet.
This is the first time you two have had a serious heart-to-heart no joking conversation on this blog! I have been married 23 years. It took me and my husband who were totally different religions he was Catholic and I was not a good 18 years to figure it out which put a lot of strife in our marriage! Now we are on the same page going to the same christian-based bible-based church and we have a fabulous life! I am very proud of you too for figuring this out before you get married. And always remember that weather Clancy wants to baptize the baby as a child or not that the child later in life needs to grow up and accept his own religion and then makes their choice. So so proud of you both!
Glad you opened up, and shared about this! ❤🎉
I loved your chat about your religious journey. I left a strict religion in high school and have been turned off from going back to any sort of church in the last 7-8 years. Hearing about your experience has made me a little more open minded if the opportunity presented itself! Thank your for being real and relatable time and time again.
God is working in your life Clancy and I love how open and honest you were ❤
I love you and Zach’s relationship ❤️also missing Ms.Cathy in the vlogs lol we love you Clancy! You don’t know how much you’ve been helping me honestly, Thankyou for vlogging your life💕
What we did at our wedding was standard vows (not personalized) in front of our guests and then we sent each other letters with our vows while we were getting ready - it was really special and we were able to keep them ❤
Thank you for sharing about your journey with religion! Keep seeking, learning and growing! Happy Easter!
No one has the answers when it comes to religion. That's why they call it faith. It shouldn't be used to hurt or shame anyone else. What matters at the end of the day is what you get out of it, and I'm glad it's been bringing you peace
We wrote our own vows, but we exchanged them during our first look and we loved it!!! If you’re planning on doing a first look I would highly recommend! It was probably my favorite part of our wedding day. It took the pressure off of saying them in front of everyone and it felt so special doing just the two of us (plus our photographers lol) Then during the ceremony we exchanged traditional vows
I’m watching this 3 weeks later, but I just wanted to say thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. Regardless of what box it fits into or outside of, our only hope as humans is spiritual awakening. As long as it produces growth and blessing for you and those you interact with, it is good and necessary and worthwhile! The more voices we have calling for this, the better!
100% Agee with Zack on the people drive people away. It’s legalism and it does drive a lot of people away. Grace is HUGE! This clip made me enjoy watching even more and makes me like Zack even more. Clancy you are so right we all have our own journey to our faith. It is not an overnight process. I’m so happy to have watched this vlog!!
Do a registry for two reasons:
1) Usually the store gives you a discount code/coupon after your wedding so you can get the items still on your registry for a discount.
2) People usually like to get things from registry for the bridal shower (people in our parents’ generation specifically.)
my husband and I said our vows during our first look and then did the traditional vows during the ceremony.. i loved the way we did it!! made the vows more special just being the two of us.
also.. the registry is great for the bridal shower.... people like to get gifts for that instead of giving money and then usually for the actual wedding everyone will give money. Something we did was put a honeymoon fund on the registry for people that wanted to use the registry.
I love how y’all are feeling with this church. God is working in your hearts and giving you joy. I love you guys 🥰
My husband and I weren’t comfortable doing personal vows publicly either, so we did traditional vows in each others first language ❤ He did his in English and I did mine in Portuguese. His whole family was watching via livestream from Brazil and they don’t speak English so it was really special for them
We did our vows in each others first languages too!!!!! The best decision I ever made
Aww!!! That is so thoughtful and special 🥹❤️
Thank you Thank you for your opening up more of your life to us. I truly appreciate your saying what you are feeling about the path that you are on regarding religion.
I agree with you both. It's about your own personal walk with God. No one should be judged of how they live or believe. I'm so happy you found a church you love going to, that's amazing. God has a plan for each of us and I believe you're where he wants you to be in your lives right now. I love you guys! ❤
I am glad you addressed religion. Shouldn’t be controversial as we all have a right to worship as we please. I am a Christian and can’t imagine my life without prayer and attending worship. I will say it made me happy to see you excited about going to church 😊
Amen Zac! If people are negative then they are the problem!
Agree about the personal vows. I wouldn’t be comfortable doing that in public either!
So true!
I started to get heart palpitations when I saw the topic of faith come up. It can be a highly charged topic to talk about on social media (Gee…wonder why that is …..) anyway I appreciate you being honest. I am a believer (a Christian) and rarely share my faith on social media because I don’t like confrontation but realize I need to be true to my convictions without being in your face about it. I realize not everyone is going to accept this but the freedom to talk about it is important without creating a shark feeding frenzy. Thanks for bringing it up. It’s good to have it as a topic for people to ponder.
I’ve been following you for a while and all I van say is I’m just so excited!!!!!❤Lots of love
Thanks for sharing about your journey. I appreciate it 🙂❤
Registry is for the bridal shower! Money is for the wedding (from our experience in NY!) usually people do both, whoever is invited to the shower would buy a gift from the registry and typically also give money at the actual wedding 😊
So inspiring to watch your spiritual journey, I really enjoyed your video today
Thank you for being honest about your feelings and doing what you felt convicted to do! God is good all the time!! I pray blessings over your lives together!!
I love your open and honest blogs. Keep doing what you're doing. I'm 110% with you and Zack on religion and politics. You do you!❤✌
My husband and I did a first touch and read our vows ❤ his sister took our photos for that and it’s so special 😊 we are shy people so it was nice to just have the two of us
amen happy for you guys! glad you guys have a loving community around y’all! God loves y’all and i’m sorry y’all have bad experiences that have turned u off, ur not alone in that
If you do your vows and you have a videographer make sure it is in the contract that you don’t want your vows advertised. There is a fitness vlogger (Whitney Simmons) she got married and had a videographer and was not going to share her wedding video, but the videographer said that it was in the contract that she could share what she wanted (it also helps her gain clients of course) and she was going to post it to her website. So now Whitney is sharing her wedding video because it’s going to be shared anyways.
Hey Clancy, I’m normally a silent viewer but I just thought I would say I honestly admire you for being so open and honest about this journey. Even though I come from a completely different background and am not Christian I find that I relate to your experience on faith so much. There are parts of my religion that I love to learn about and get closer with and then there are other parts that I am just a bit iffy with. I love what you said about everyone being on their own journey and finding their own path and I totally agree with that. I think the world would honestly be a much more peaceful place if every individual was given the space to just figure out their beliefs for themselves without being forced into/pressured into believing something.
I commented previously but didn't finish the vlog till now; I commend you for bluntly sharing about your faith with no frills or evangelizing, I grew up in a cult/high demand religion and since deconstructing I no longer believe in organized religion and even tho that's not necessarily what yall said you believe it's nice to hear ppl bluntly say they just aren't sure. Cuz even tho I know what I don't believe, I still don't know everything that I do believe and that's normal and fine. It's super sweet how happy church has made you lately, im happy for yall
I just got married in Cincy. We bought our house 4 months before the wedding. We literally were able to get all our kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom items furnished through the registry. We also did upgrades for old things we already had. I’m obviously team registry, but y’all don’t have to.
🤍 thank you for sharing your life with us, we appreciate you and Zac 🤍
Your vlogs r the highlight of my weeks!!!! I look forward to them so much and love when you open up more. I’m in Indianapolis so if you’re ever in town and need recommendations, let me know!
100% agree on living together before thinking about marriage. My husband and I didn't move in together until we'd been dating for 4 years and didn't get engaged until we'd been together for 9 years. Now we've been married for almost 2 years. Because we took our time getting to all these milestones I feel like the transitions were easy and we knew what to expect at each stage.
Love your videos btw! I'm going to visit Cincinnati for a wedding over Memorial Day weekend, excited to try out some of the places I've seen in your videos!
Loved hearing your talk about your faith. Many blessings to you both!
I’m so excited to see all your wedding day festivities. The planning, after the wedding thoughts, your Dad’s reaction, your Mom’s,etc. Are you each going to do a bachelor/ bachelorette parties? Can’t wait. ❤️
I agree with you about personal vows being private it’s about the couple not everyone hearing it :)
Registry decision:
My friends said they didn’t do a registry and they regretted it because they got too many towels that they didn’t need. So on our website, we say we understand that we would prefer monetary gifts but we understand that people might want to give a traditional gift.
Thank you for talking about your faith journey. As a Christian married to a Catholic our faith in God has always been priority in our marriage. Praying for you both as you continue to explore your faith.
Totally agree with living together before married. Also having a registry is nice for older family members who like physical gifts. We did Amazon so people could mail us gifts prior to the wedding and we could put a wide range of presents, basically stuff we needed but wouldn't want to buy ourselves :)
I’m really happy to see you open up about religion. I think a lot of our culture has overpowered the true meaning of what it means to be Christian. We had this discussion at my alpha group a few days ago, and we talked about what you guys feel about church. Thank you for talking about it and I hope you have a good Easter weekend!
Raised Catholic, but I’ve stepped away from religion. I can’t handle the hypocrisy of the people in the church. Love Jesus, but then turn around and hate people who look, love, think differently than they do.
Clancy, that’s the Holy Spirit working in you! Lean into it and find a relationship with Jesus, and don’t worry about fitting into a specific religion. ❤
Why are you specifically saying Jesus? I agree with the second part, but you didn’t have to specifically call out Jesus, he was just another prophet and we’re all prophets. U don’t have to specify one human in history to find a relationship with like Jesus, find a relationship with all humans throughout history and the present since we’re all equally prophets of god.
@@lesryglrhfohser Why do you assume everyone believes that Jesus “was just another prophet”? Clancy is going to a CHRISTian church, which teaches the Christian Bible and the whole basis of the religion is that Jesus Christ is the Lord and Savior. That Jesus is God in human form, not just another “human” as if we’re equal to Him. The sermons that Clancy and Zac are loving so much are all centered around Jesus and having a relationship with Him. From that standpoint, a relationship with Jesus is the most important thing, He comes first. That’s why the OP specifically said Jesus. I mean, what’s the point of going to a Christian or Catholic church if not to seek Jesus? Your comment on this thread is not relevant and you should have made your own stand alone comment. All you’re doing is projecting your own belief into this person’s comment and insinuating they are wrong to have the beliefs they do. How are you suppose to take your own advice and find a relationship with all humans in history and present when you crap on their beliefs?
So so glad you shared about ur stage in life with your faith journey. Really helped me see where I am at with mine & that it’s ok. ❤️Thank you! Love u guys!🤩
I think it's great that you included the car chat about religion. It's a hard topic but you did a great job ❤❤
No judgement here about your talk about religion at all.
You’re talking about how you feel and not saying that other people should feel the same way. You guys are awesome
Happy Easter to both of you
Fully agree with Zach on the living together before engagement and marriage, there's someone much people don't know each other until they're under the same roof for a significant amount of time.
I so appreciate you sharing your thoughts on religion. Thank you for your honesty!
you can be lovey dovey, and you should feel empowered because its an expression. You are inviting people into your world, and so you can do what you want, you don't have to "please" anyone except each other. Also, you can have the officiant say a line and then you repeat it if you're nervous
Clancy, it is so refreshing to watch your videos because I know you rarely ever shy away from sharing your true thoughts and feelings! I am a Christian and am happy to hear that you have been connecting and enjoying the sermons on Sundays. Keep being true to yourself and I’ll keep watching!!! PS - I loveeeee CoreLife too but DANG it’s an expensive salad 😂
I talked about this with my Vietnamese friend the other day. It is a custom in East Asian countries that you just give money to the couple. People in America have a weird culture around asking for/gifting money but it's really the most practical and useful gift. I find with registries people end up putting weird/random/expensive items on there cuz they just want to fill space and have people buy them random stuff. Also with money each person can decide how much they give
Really great vlog today sweetie. Appreciate you Zac's ability to parse and openly speak about some of your deeper beliefs and feelings. And we always have the ability to change and grow. Not easy, but it is possible.
Private vows! We did that and wrote vows to each other and read them during our first look. Nobody else was there. I’m also not an emotional girly so it worked out for me because I get awkward in front of people when showing emotions and being serious.
I love the little turtle stress turtle Zach us playing with lol 25:41
I totally agree with you about the vows thing. We did our vows privately right after our first look and it was the best of both worlds.
Luv ur vlogs gurl ❤ I can relate to so much of u and ur life especially the catholic thing - I think I commented that b4. IT is all about ur “journey” in life and how things resonate when u need them weddings while beautiful are nerve racking so do what u know u can do without creating more stress for urself - OMG and daylight savings is EVERYTHING!!! I need sun, blue skies and warmth that how I roll ☀️👍🏼🤩
Thank YOU for putting it in! Couldn’t agree more 😊
My husband and I didn’t do personal vows and I’m so grateful we didn’t haha! We stuck with traditional and our entire ceremony was MAYBE 15 minutes long which worked out in my favor as I was 32 weeks pregnant. We wanted to keep it short and simple and have more time during dinner to visit with everyone !
As someone who is CRAVING going back to church, I am 100% understanding where you’re coming from. And I’m so happy you and zac spoke about religion in this video. Thank you as always for another fun video. Praying over you both !
Happy Saturday Clancy and Zac ! 😊
I’m glad you both talked about your viewpoints on your faith and views on religion. You have every right to say how you guys feel w/o being judged by anyone. As long as your happy is all that really matters . Have a wonderful Easter ….❤️
My boyfriend and I agreed to do personal vows but reading them privately! I wouldn’t want to be nervous about that all day long, it would take away the fun for me on the big day 😅
Keep following your heart when it comes to your faith! God leads you and opens your eyes and ears to hear Him. I'm happy for you both 🙂
Love that you and Zach are being genuinely honest about religion. May god bless you both always. 😊 you are best ❤
Im right there with you guys about religion! Thank you for shedding light on the topic❤❤❤❤
My opinion, if you’re having a bridal shower, create a registry. If not, I don’t think you need it. If you don’t have a registry, you’re more likely to get things you don’t want/need. Better now to ask for things to replace all your old stuff. People appreciate a registry.
God created us. We are created to desire a relationship with Him. So that’s why you’re so happy !❤
Love that yall are sharing your feelings on all topics!!!❤
I’m a pretty hardcore Atheist but I totally respect Christians and I watch a ton of Christian content on TH-cam. I think going to church is great if that’s what you want to do, I’m sure there are a lot of benefits. I grew up in a very religious/conservative family and I had no choice but to be highly involved in our non-denominational church. It was a horrible/traumatizing experience and I was judged harshly for literally anything and everything so it completely turned me off. I also was just never able to believe in any sort of higher power or anything in the Bible, I believe it was all created by flawed men who were seeking power and control over the masses. As humans, we have evolved to believe in common myths (different gods, currencies, etc) - these shared beliefs have allowed us to advance as a species. These are just my thoughts and that doesn’t mean I’m right, it’s just what I believe. Everyone else is allowed to believe whatever they want, I respect whatever it is you believe!
As a believer in Jesus Christ I really respect your viewpoint and how you expressed yourself. It was very reasonable and mature. I completely understand the legalism of organized religion and that’s why I love the freedom I have. I was bound up in shame and guilt until I got a breakthrough that He came to give life and life abundantly. Anyway we all have to come to our choices concerning our lives and I truly wish you the best on your journey.
@@Faithful10415 Thank you Annie, best wishes to you as well.
I just wanna say, I appreciate you talking about your views on religion. If you can't talk about something that is a part of you and your life, what are we even doing here. If someone has a problem with your views, they're not the vibe 😂 I love you Clancy! Stay authentic ❤❤
you guys are just amazing. thank you for being so candid
My god bro just elope at this point if you're gonna hate And talk shit About every single thing about a wedding that YOU chose to do😂
Your vlogs make my day! ❤
My suggestion is do a registry even if it’s a small one you can even register for gift cards to furnish your house later at stores you like. Otherwise you will end up with 20 throw blankets and a bunch of picture frames. We even registered for experiences on our honeymoon. Just an idea!
Love this video! Thank you for being so open about your faith
Your wedding registry is for the bridal shower gifts, but at your wedding you’ll mainly receive cash! So definitely still make a registry! You don’t have to do all home things - but we got our lawn mower, grill, bed frame from the registry! You can also do things like games, luggage, a honeymoon fund! You should totally still put some things on there :)
So our pastor did something unique. He asked us what some of the things we wanted to vow to each other were. He incorporated those into our vows so that they were still personal to us but we did the traditional repeat after me/ I do style.
We did our own vows during our first look privately and the generic during the wedding and we loved that!
Clancy, you and Zac are such an adorable couple! You two just really bring sunshine to my day! And I can totally relate about the conversation on religion! I went to Catholic school for 12 years, but outside of going to the required masses while in school, I was not a consistent Sunday worshiper, and, of course, that included my family was the same way. I also have some issues with our Catholic religion with the issues that have happened lately in the news. I love that you have found a church that is fulfilling you! I think that is so important and exciting!
On a trivial note, I am in love with your sunglasses, Clancy! Where did you get those sunglasses?😁
Your religion bit is spot on xoxx glad you two shared.
I am SO happy to see another couple our age that feels the same way about religion!! I was raised Christian and my boyfriend was raised Catholic. I have been struggling so hard with religion and faith especially recently. Some of the meanest bullies and judgmental people I encountered at church, I got to the point I would force myself to be sick on Sunday’s as a kid to avoid church. I think it’s just important to be a good person religious or not!
I absolutely love hearing about your spiritual journey! Thanks for sharing. I too, come from a long line of Christ follower’s and ministers. My great grandfather was a circuit preacher and I often think about how prayer’s they have uttered in my behalf are being answered years later. We are all equal at the foot of the cross and we all should be given love and understanding as we grow in the Lord. I grew up in a very conservative Baptist church and I always felt like I just was not good enough to be loved by the Lord. It has taken me years to undo the religious condemnation and know that I am a loved, accepted and forgiven. I just keep desiring to read His word and grow and He is so faithful to hear my prayers and give me new mercies each morning. Again, thank you for sharing.
Thank you guys for sharing! It’s hard today to verbalize our feelings on God, religious beliefs we live in a society where people are so opinionated. They never support they only want to break you down on this subject. 🥰🤗💜🙏🏻
Love you guys!! Clancy I just got married less than a year ago. I think you should do the personal vows in the ceremony. Just agree with each other to keep them short/the same amount of time as each other. Like- 1 minute each. You won't regret making your ceremony meaningful and pushing yourself for the bigger picture. I feel like it's more important Clancy that you acquiesce to your significant other's wishes than someone like your dad in the audience. But no matter what, it sounds like both you and Zac are flexible on this and speaking kindly to each other when discussing it, and you guys will have a super special wedding.
exciting to see you guys starting out on your religious journey