I really feel bad for that poor boy in the changing room. Just bc he has special needs, doesn’t mean he can’t feel shame or embarrassment. I’m sure he doesn’t want to undress and shower in front of a bunch of females either. Respect his dignity as well 💙
Great video! 💚 Omg if there was a man I had never met watching my daughter without my knowledge...yeah I would not be okay with that. The agreement was with the sitter, that's the one person they trusted and hired.
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As someone who has struggled with depression from a really young age and coped through video games and online socialization, I doubt a person who reaches that age and only plays video games has the mental capacity to maintain a job. I know we didn't get a lot of details, but there was no mention about any mental health or therapy discussion. The way I see it, it's worth it to try and work on his health, work ethic and discipline together; even if it takes a long time and a frustrating amount of effort, rather than kicking him out and creating further trauma which will probably create more complicated issues for both sides and compromise the trust between them.
23:54 Those that said OP isn't TA should never work in court. If they think punishing two people despite one person being innocent is justified, then God knows what they will do when livelihoods are at stake.
As for the 18 year old, I think a bit of tough love can go a long way, but it depends on the person. I probably would’ve been kicked out a couple years ago if I hadn’t left. I was a nightmare to live with. But some people might not be able to handle living independently. Everyone matures at they’re own speed. I’d like to think the parents know how much the kid can handle.
1) thats so bad for a babysitter i cant imagine someone stepping in randomly (as someone who works with kids) 2) i think for the changing room they all need privacy so they shouldnt be changing together regardless older kids get embarrassed regardless of additional needs when getting changed thats not a fair situation for either kid! 3) i dont think the solution is to kick him out! help him out hes probably not just lazy if hes that resistant, it definitely sounds like something else is going on!! 4) i dont think you should ever take out your anger on your kids especially using the silent treatment! thats so unfair! and sets them up for bad communication for the rest of their life 5) i totally agree with you about the cloth diaper but i have also always heard the phrase that "if you see someone steal absolute necessities dont say anything!"
it is completely clear to me that the money was taken/split by both the daughter AND the partner. that's why this original AITA poster is unable to figure out who did the dirty deed - both culprits are acting equally suspicious. the original AITA poster is correct here. trust your intuition! the world sometimes i mean c'mon right
the 18 year old son vignette is a tough one for sure. not sure i can add much here except to say that when i was born my 18 year old father who refused to get a job, who only slept and played video games right up til supper left the house never to return. if only doordash or postmates was around back then perhaps we would have been happy
dude the person means diApers. please tell me you know what a diaper is. the person should just steal them btw. i steal diapers all the time. it's nothing.
For the special needs boy in the women's changing room: you can be physically 11 and mentally 5 so I think that's an important fact to keep in mind on that one. For the Mom of the 18yo gamer: most employers won't hire someone without a phone number or address so how is he supposed to find work now? 🤔 If I were in a supermarket, in the baby aisle and I saw someone stealing baby food or diapers... no I didn't. I didn't see a thing. Having said that, my relative was allergic to diapers and needed to use only cloth diapers as a baby. They were basically rags with safety pins, super easy to make yourself out of an old T-Shirt. 🤷♀️
I would have done things like blocking his phone and PC from the WiFi and offering to add things back as he shows job search initiative. Put him on the family pc on a child account so he can’t install anything to let him job search.
The moment that the universal change room was brought up, it was immediately the other mothers fault. The universal change rooms exist for a reason, long wait or not. I supervise the pool I work at and have stopped parents at the change room doors several times about trying to take their boys into the change room, some as old as 13, mangement has sent my female co workers into change rooms to make groups move to the other change room before, there is no excuse and I dont believe pools are allowed to make exceptions for circumstances like that. One of our regulars is in a situation where her special needs son needs to get changed as soon as he gets out she accomadates that by getting him out of the water 5 minutes early, ahead of the crowd in the universal change room. The child deserves some lee way due to his needs, but the mother needs to know that only so many exceptions can be made and plan accordingly.
It depends on why he’s playing video games she’s assuming he’s doing nothing but he could be doing TH-cam and out trying to join a pro league there are could be a lot going on
Special needs or not, the kids too old. Also as others have pointed out the boy would probably feel uncomfortable in the ladies room anyway. This mother seems to think she’s the centre of the universe.
I’d rather jump off a cliff. My sister had a kid recently, she’s constantly reassuring me how happy she is with her “little gift from heaven” whilst chugging coffee and slapping herself round the face to stay awake. When I get in from work, all I have to do is crack open a beer, order a pizza and browse Netflix......😂
I would’ve never left my children with a stranger in the first place. So much can happen in 10 minutes that is irreparable!
That's very true.
I really feel bad for that poor boy in the changing room. Just bc he has special needs, doesn’t mean he can’t feel shame or embarrassment. I’m sure he doesn’t want to undress and shower in front of a bunch of females either. Respect his dignity as well 💙
That is such a good point. His mom didn't even consider that.
Great video! 💚 Omg if there was a man I had never met watching my daughter without my knowledge...yeah I would not be okay with that. The agreement was with the sitter, that's the one person they trusted and hired.
Exactly!!
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Perfect timing!! I just finished my last final of the semester. Now I can relax ❤️
Omg I had to pop back in after the first one! She is not the a-hole!! That’s so scary and unprofessional of the babysitter!
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As someone who has struggled with depression from a really young age and coped through video games and online socialization, I doubt a person who reaches that age and only plays video games has the mental capacity to maintain a job. I know we didn't get a lot of details, but there was no mention about any mental health or therapy discussion. The way I see it, it's worth it to try and work on his health, work ethic and discipline together; even if it takes a long time and a frustrating amount of effort, rather than kicking him out and creating further trauma which will probably create more complicated issues for both sides and compromise the trust between them.
Thanks for sharing your experiences. Good point.
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23:54 Those that said OP isn't TA should never work in court. If they think punishing two people despite one person being innocent is justified, then God knows what they will do when livelihoods are at stake.
Good point!
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As for the 18 year old, I think a bit of tough love can go a long way, but it depends on the person. I probably would’ve been kicked out a couple years ago if I hadn’t left. I was a nightmare to live with. But some people might not be able to handle living independently. Everyone matures at they’re own speed. I’d like to think the parents know how much the kid can handle.
I wonder how it turned out...
1) thats so bad for a babysitter i cant imagine someone stepping in randomly (as someone who works with kids)
2) i think for the changing room they all need privacy so they shouldnt be changing together regardless older kids get embarrassed regardless of additional needs when getting changed thats not a fair situation for either kid!
3) i dont think the solution is to kick him out! help him out hes probably not just lazy if hes that resistant, it definitely sounds like something else is going on!!
4) i dont think you should ever take out your anger on your kids especially using the silent treatment! thats so unfair! and sets them up for bad communication for the rest of their life
5) i totally agree with you about the cloth diaper but i have also always heard the phrase that "if you see someone steal absolute necessities dont say anything!"
Thanks for sharing all your thoughts. Interesting to hear.
i totally agreed with the changing room situation he is definitively not the ah
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it is completely clear to me that the money was taken/split by both the daughter AND the partner. that's why this original AITA poster is unable to figure out who did the dirty deed - both culprits are acting equally suspicious. the original AITA poster is correct here. trust your intuition! the world sometimes i mean c'mon right
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You’re welcome. 💜
As far as the diapers, I'd post in a Buy Nothing group on Facebook. Sometimes we have to lean on the community
Good idea!
the 18 year old son vignette is a tough one for sure. not sure i can add much here except to say that when i was born my 18 year old father who refused to get a job, who only slept and played video games right up til supper left the house never to return. if only doordash or postmates was around back then perhaps we would have been happy
How would doordash have changed things?
@@MyASMRAddiction holy shit it's her the asmr girl. is that really her? am i on punk'd? okay where's ashton?!?
what is a diper?
dude the person means diApers. please tell me you know what a diaper is. the person should just steal them btw. i steal diapers all the time. it's nothing.
the person is the a-hole for many reasons
It seems as if you are responding to yourself like you are two people. You feeling ok tonight? lol
Flipping heck Nicole, I canny keep with you, every time I check you've posted a new video. 😂 Have you seen Aitana? The babysitter is the a 🕳️. 💜💙
5 times per week! Woo Hoo! I haven't seen Aitana.
18 year old: give him a timeline to get his act together? I think a long talk and encouragement might go a long way.
I have a feeling they already tried that tactic though.
@@MyASMRAddiction could be, seems like it would be the first line of action!
For the special needs boy in the women's changing room: you can be physically 11 and mentally 5 so I think that's an important fact to keep in mind on that one.
For the Mom of the 18yo gamer: most employers won't hire someone without a phone number or address so how is he supposed to find work now? 🤔
If I were in a supermarket, in the baby aisle and I saw someone stealing baby food or diapers... no I didn't. I didn't see a thing. Having said that, my relative was allergic to diapers and needed to use only cloth diapers as a baby. They were basically rags with safety pins, super easy to make yourself out of an old T-Shirt. 🤷♀️
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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I would have done things like blocking his phone and PC from the WiFi and offering to add things back as he shows job search initiative. Put him on the family pc on a child account so he can’t install anything to let him job search.
Good idea!
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My wife said since my first name begins with an I then AITA stands for Absolutely-Izzy's-The-As_ho@e..😳
Good one!!! She’s funny. 😂
The moment that the universal change room was brought up, it was immediately the other mothers fault. The universal change rooms exist for a reason, long wait or not.
I supervise the pool I work at and have stopped parents at the change room doors several times about trying to take their boys into the change room, some as old as 13, mangement has sent my female co workers into change rooms to make groups move to the other change room before, there is no excuse and I dont believe pools are allowed to make exceptions for circumstances like that.
One of our regulars is in a situation where her special needs son needs to get changed as soon as he gets out she accomadates that by getting him out of the water 5 minutes early, ahead of the crowd in the universal change room.
The child deserves some lee way due to his needs, but the mother needs to know that only so many exceptions can be made and plan accordingly.
Thanks for sharing that. It makes a lot of sense to take him out a little early like you said.
It depends on why he’s playing video games she’s assuming he’s doing nothing but he could be doing TH-cam and out trying to join a pro league there are could be a lot going on
Anything is possible but I think that if he were doing that then he would have told her when she said he needs to get a job.
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Special needs or not, the kids too old. Also as others have pointed out the boy would probably feel uncomfortable in the ladies room anyway. This mother seems to think she’s the centre of the universe.
For sure. Even if he is not verbal about it, he might have been very uncomfortable.
Of course he was. Who wouldn’t be. Heck, I don’t even feel comfortable getting changed when I’m alone. The ghosts all point and laugh. Poor kid.
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I was almost 1 tonight but forgot to comment at 6_. But yes thanks 😉
Tf is a diaper bank?
I never heard of it either, but I assume it's like a soup kitchen for diapers.
The best thing about being childless is not having to know about stuff like this
Just wait.... some day you might not be childless.... but hopefully you won't need a diaper bank.
I’d rather jump off a cliff. My sister had a kid recently, she’s constantly reassuring me how happy she is with her “little gift from heaven” whilst chugging coffee and slapping herself round the face to stay awake. When I get in from work, all I have to do is crack open a beer, order a pizza and browse Netflix......😂
10’years from now you might feel differently.