Also using the shot of Alastair lifting/choking Dean with the line “its not an act of love if you make her” really gets me (and as others have pointed out, highlighting John and Mary’s relationship for that line is genius)
This song fits him perfectly. He had to be everything to his family, and I always felt that neither John nor Sam really appreciated or cared for him, as much as he did for the family.
Re: Sam, I don't think that's Sam's fault, though, because I think Dean never let Sam see how much Dean sacrificed for Sam until much much later. Sam literally couldn't appreciate how much Dean did, because he didn't KNOW how much Dean did.
The scene you put with Dean lifting his gun and the song lyrics going for " lift a finger" THAT WAS GOLD, it clearly refers to how Dean would literally die before letting Sammy's hands get bloody, even if they ultimately do, Dean goes beyond his limits to prevent it. And that scene, the moment, wow, dude, perfect. Great job, thanks for this edit!
I can’t believe there are people complaining about Dean being edited to this song. Yes it is a song focused on women’s struggles which is so important but that doesn’t make it exclusive. Dean was everything to Sam, did everything for his family and never for himself. And anyway songs are often paired to characters of a different gender in edits, sometimes based purely off vibes. This works so well for him and no one can convince me otherwise ❤.
coming from a Sam person. My poor baby, this fits him so well, he deserves the entire world along, he was a mother a father a brother to Sam and we have to appreciate this man more.
Themorbidhunger said it best somewhere in these comments, but some people seem incapable of reading their statement or seeing any nuance. While the song does fit women as a whole, Dean as a character was forced into ‘too much labor’ due to the choices and pressures his parents put on him. He even says, as referenced in this video, “I had to be more than a brother. I had to be a father, I had to be a MOTHER, to keep [Sam] safe.” Dean took on the roll that is usually forced upon/expected of women. Maybe its a rarer occurrence since he’s a man, but its the way his backstory was laid out, end of. From the time he was 4 he spent all day, every day, as a therapist, mother, and maid to Sam and John. Last thing John says to him before he died was along the lines of ‘you took care of Sammy, you took care of me. And you never complained; I’m so proud of you.” And Dean’s rely to that is “you’re scaring me,” because he was never praised for all of the work he did to hold his family together. While its not a perfect fit, a la the ‘24/7 baby machine’ line,its probably as close as could be for a fictional male character, and there is nothing wrong with that. From a personal place, my mom was the unstable parent, and my sister and I were raised by a single father who had to play every roll for us without any help. I know this is far less common than what is expected of women, but there are cases of men who have to step up to the plate. Simply showing these cases does not diminish the far more common stories of women. Its simply showing that there are nuances in the world and everything is not always clear cut. If anything, it’s refreshing, to see recognition that a very masculine ‘macho’ male character can feel deeply and take on a caring/nurturing roll. He was, for all intents and purposes, Sam’s nurturer and his fathers servant.
For those who are saying it's a weird song for him, well: Just replace the word 'her' with the word 'him' and it literally fits exactly everything that he has had to do. He has had to play every role possible that a human being can to satisfy his father and protect his brother. "Therapist, maid..." all of it fits because raising a kid is just so damn *hard*. They need you for everything and when you're expected to become everything to a baby at the age of 4, it absolutely destroys your soul as you have no identity of your own because it never even developed, because all you ever were was a servant. This isn't a weird song for him. It's the perfect song for him that describes why he always feels, and rightfully so, that he is carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders. He was a surrogate wife for his father after Mary died, he was *everything* to Sam. Claiming that this can only be for women is like saying that only women are allowed to feel the good things too, like being able to receive love in return for the one they've been nurturing, and being able to let himself cry when he just can't take all of the pressure constantly and forever. Really, people need to step outside of their own perspectives a little more, or how can they expect to grow and also to help others when they are struggling with burdens that are too big for them to carry on their own? This isn't just a situation that is limited to a fictional character; there are struggling single dads out there who couldn't have been prepared, either, and siblings all over the world who have had all of the parental responsibilities delegated to them so they often have to sell their bodies in order to provide food and other essentials for their sibling 'children'. Women and girls suffer, and it's good that we're becoming more aware, but we can't forget that suffering is universal and not limited to one sex---the second we do so, we are actually cutting ourselves off from help... there are men working as public servants, trying to help women and children. This isn't a strictly female issue, this is a *world* issue, and the only way to properly address things like this is to keep an open mind and heart. Dean Winchester is probably the best fictional example of this struggle, *especially* because you don't expect to see it in a man, and that's exactly what makes it so powerful once your eyes are opened to it. Peace.
love dean but he isn’t a woman. this song is about woman being forced to be mothers, and therapists, and etc but never to do anything for themselves. changing the word from her to him completely takes out the meaning of the song
Went to watch one of my sleep noise vids, this came across my For Yous, thought "Oh that looks cool I could see that", watched it and had a full on crying session, sent it to my mom who's never seen Supernatural the next morning, she watched it and teared up, showed it to my little sister who wants to get into Supernatural, she cried. Good vid all around 💕😭
This was so beautiful and affecting!! The ending part with all of the fights was also a very effective lead-up to the end, especially with the double singing in that part
I was curious about how this would fit Dean, given how this is a very female-experience-centric song. I was absolutely floored with how WELL it fits. All the work Dean was forced to do because of John and Mary, becoming mother and father and brother and so much more to keep Sam safe? Fantastic.
Although the editing is well done, the reason why many of us think it’s not a song made for Dean is because what he experienced is the result of abuse but in a specific context. No, he is not "All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid" because of his gender, but because he is the oldest (and this is not normal, i know!) but in many siblings where there is a big brother and a little sister, the roles will often be reversed (I do not say all the time, I say often); because of misogyny. *It’s not just a female rage song, it’s a hymn that cries out what the societal pressure has been on us since birth.* A cisgender man does not experience it in the same way. Transgender men and transgender women; non-binary people who have experienced misogyny in any way, form, can. That’s the difference between Dean being forced to do because he is a traumatized child, *and a girl, a woman who will be forced because she was born as a girl.*
I know many people won't like this that much, as the song comes from a place of womenhood and female rage - and I kind of get it, as I myself am still not sure of my toughts about using the song to represent anyone who has not experienced the specific kind of repression that women and female individuals in general experience in their lives - but if I had to pick one male character and had to relate him to this song it would definitely be Dean Winchester. I can't fully explain it, but there are a lot of things about Dean that reminds me of how women are/were threated and represented in shows and movies, most of them somehow related to forms of sexu*l assault. It's in the way Dean's the one who plays bait for creatures (including under John's orders), the way monsters are really confortable in making sexual advances on him or getting way to close for confort, the way him being pretty is often taken as an excuse for objectification... his looks are also the reason why other hunters seem to underestimate his capacities (seems relatable?), joking about how he doesnt have the looks of a hunter. And there is even more to that, as he is the one constantly mocked for the things he likes (he is the one who behaves "fangirly" and enjoy un-manly things) and in a sense there is even the way he is the one who died for Sam to experience character growth. This is something I had tought about before n' there's probably more to it still. Altough it's not the same as the female experience, a lot about Dean is defined by gender expectations and how he goes agains them and has to deal with mental struggle about it. Again, it's not the same, but still. If I had to pick a guy it would have been Dean.
OMG if I replace in my head the her with him it's like the song was made for dean. Another comment also described perfectly✨ why! Like Dean was always in my eyes the cool, badass guy who cared so much about Sam that he always said that he's fine even though he isn't and wanted to take all the burden(labour) on himself. He just seemed so cool but miserable at the same time. As a kid I just wanted to give him a hug and wanted to share his burden, the same goes for Sam who must feel terrible that his brother is like that and doesn't want help. Their bond is still so sweet and since I was 8 years old the fact hasn't changed that supernatural will always remain one of my favourite series! 😍❤❤ This edit is just fantastic and a masterpiece, thank you for realising the parallels and uploading this video! This is like showing a whole damn respect towards Dean and his resolve.
I have a very strange feeling... On the one hand, I really love this song, which is literally a feminist anthem for women, on the other hand, I like Dean... In a way, this song suits him a little.
It suits him perfectly just replace the her with him. It's a feminist song but man also go through lots of this damn shit too and Dean is one of them(even when he's a fictional character)
I take the audio from the clips and separate them from the visual. I'm pretty sure Mary and Dean arguing is season 12 episode 13 and Dean telling his mom about his childhood was season 12 episode 22. I have to reduce the background music and usually enhance the speech which is the most difficult part.
Because even though it's a feminist song if you would replace the her with him and think about Dean and what he does it just fits 100%! Men can and do also go through such struggles it's not limited to only women and he would be a prime example
@@maggiemontgomery6667 Huh, what's that supposed to mean? Feminism stands for equality, so why can't this song be used for a man? A man(even though he is a fictional character, but it fits+ also in general sich men) who goes through something like this and stands on the same page as these women
@@familiebutterfly7661the song was written for women, not men. You can't replace "her" for "him", this song is not about men. I repeat, this song is *not* about men. It's about the systematic oppresion women have been under for CENTURIES. This song *does not* fit him, because it wasn't written for him. Period.
i mean it fits him in context of his relationship with Sam. He was put into posicion of father, mother and brother at the same time in really young age. Because father was monster hunting so somebody had to take care of baby Sam. Sam went to college, Dean stayed with father to help him with ,,family business". the whole show is basically him and Sam trying to protect one another and failing, plus reappearance of their mother who we find out was alive all this years, well not the easiest experience. Sure he is misogynistic asshole. But i think this song is also for the siblings and people from disfuncional houses who had to do too much, to early
"its not an act of love if you made her" with mary and john was emotional damage
"So he can live out his picket fence dreams" with Sam was genius
This fits Dean more than I thought it would
Also using the shot of Alastair lifting/choking Dean with the line “its not an act of love if you make her” really gets me (and as others have pointed out, highlighting John and Mary’s relationship for that line is genius)
Quite possibly THE Dean Winchester amv of all time
If this isn’t posted on tumblr already you should absolutely consider doing that bc I just know the girlies would go wild
This song fits him perfectly. He had to be everything to his family, and I always felt that neither John nor Sam really appreciated or cared for him, as much as he did for the family.
Re: Sam, I don't think that's Sam's fault, though, because I think Dean never let Sam see how much Dean sacrificed for Sam until much much later. Sam literally couldn't appreciate how much Dean did, because he didn't KNOW how much Dean did.
The scene you put with Dean lifting his gun and the song lyrics going for " lift a finger" THAT WAS GOLD, it clearly refers to how Dean would literally die before letting Sammy's hands get bloody, even if they ultimately do, Dean goes beyond his limits to prevent it. And that scene, the moment, wow, dude, perfect. Great job, thanks for this edit!
ngl... i got really excited when I put that in lol. Thank you!!
Dean deserved so much better. It’s like that whole thing with trauma making you stronger. It’s true but it’s not fair
This makes me want to cry for Dean. He deserved so much more than he got.
I can’t believe there are people complaining about Dean being edited to this song. Yes it is a song focused on women’s struggles which is so important but that doesn’t make it exclusive. Dean was everything to Sam, did everything for his family and never for himself. And anyway songs are often paired to characters of a different gender in edits, sometimes based purely off vibes. This works so well for him and no one can convince me otherwise ❤.
coming from a Sam person. My poor baby, this fits him so well, he deserves the entire world along, he was a mother a father a brother to Sam and we have to appreciate this man more.
Themorbidhunger said it best somewhere in these comments, but some people seem incapable of reading their statement or seeing any nuance.
While the song does fit women as a whole, Dean as a character was forced into ‘too much labor’ due to the choices and pressures his parents put on him. He even says, as referenced in this video, “I had to be more than a brother. I had to be a father, I had to be a MOTHER, to keep [Sam] safe.”
Dean took on the roll that is usually forced upon/expected of women. Maybe its a rarer occurrence since he’s a man, but its the way his backstory was laid out, end of.
From the time he was 4 he spent all day, every day, as a therapist, mother, and maid to Sam and John.
Last thing John says to him before he died was along the lines of ‘you took care of Sammy, you took care of me. And you never complained; I’m so proud of you.” And Dean’s rely to that is “you’re scaring me,” because he was never praised for all of the work he did to hold his family together.
While its not a perfect fit, a la the ‘24/7 baby machine’ line,its probably as close as could be for a fictional male character, and there is nothing wrong with that.
From a personal place, my mom was the unstable parent, and my sister and I were raised by a single father who had to play every roll for us without any help. I know this is far less common than what is expected of women, but there are cases of men who have to step up to the plate. Simply showing these cases does not diminish the far more common stories of women. Its simply showing that there are nuances in the world and everything is not always clear cut.
If anything, it’s refreshing, to see recognition that a very masculine ‘macho’ male character can feel deeply and take on a caring/nurturing roll. He was, for all intents and purposes, Sam’s nurturer and his fathers servant.
This made me tear up ngl. Dean really goes through it as the perpetual Eldest Sibling.
I have to rewatch this like every day. Genius to use this song for him, I need more of this
For those who are saying it's a weird song for him, well: Just replace the word 'her' with the word 'him' and it literally fits exactly everything that he has had to do. He has had to play every role possible that a human being can to satisfy his father and protect his brother. "Therapist, maid..." all of it fits because raising a kid is just so damn *hard*. They need you for everything and when you're expected to become everything to a baby at the age of 4, it absolutely destroys your soul as you have no identity of your own because it never even developed, because all you ever were was a servant. This isn't a weird song for him. It's the perfect song for him that describes why he always feels, and rightfully so, that he is carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders. He was a surrogate wife for his father after Mary died, he was *everything* to Sam. Claiming that this can only be for women is like saying that only women are allowed to feel the good things too, like being able to receive love in return for the one they've been nurturing, and being able to let himself cry when he just can't take all of the pressure constantly and forever. Really, people need to step outside of their own perspectives a little more, or how can they expect to grow and also to help others when they are struggling with burdens that are too big for them to carry on their own? This isn't just a situation that is limited to a fictional character; there are struggling single dads out there who couldn't have been prepared, either, and siblings all over the world who have had all of the parental responsibilities delegated to them so they often have to sell their bodies in order to provide food and other essentials for their sibling 'children'. Women and girls suffer, and it's good that we're becoming more aware, but we can't forget that suffering is universal and not limited to one sex---the second we do so, we are actually cutting ourselves off from help... there are men working as public servants, trying to help women and children. This isn't a strictly female issue, this is a *world* issue, and the only way to properly address things like this is to keep an open mind and heart. Dean Winchester is probably the best fictional example of this struggle, *especially* because you don't expect to see it in a man, and that's exactly what makes it so powerful once your eyes are opened to it. Peace.
This is everything
@@kheppe1
Well said 👏
Well said!! You are really deep into it (sry my englisg is bad i hope you understand what i meant. Its really smart and full comment)
love dean but he isn’t a woman. this song is about woman being forced to be mothers, and therapists, and etc but never to do anything for themselves. changing the word from her to him completely takes out the meaning of the song
Screaming, crying, throwing up 😩 this is too good
Damn, it was one of the best edits I've seen so far in this entire fandom
the second i saw your song choice i knew it was going to be gold
Went to watch one of my sleep noise vids, this came across my For Yous, thought "Oh that looks cool I could see that", watched it and had a full on crying session, sent it to my mom who's never seen Supernatural the next morning, she watched it and teared up, showed it to my little sister who wants to get into Supernatural, she cried.
Good vid all around 💕😭
gave me goosebumps!
I watch this everyday❤❤❤
This was so beautiful and affecting!! The ending part with all of the fights was also a very effective lead-up to the end, especially with the double singing in that part
I keep coming back to this video. It's absolute perfection
THIS PHYSICALLY PAINS ME TO A CERTAIN POINT THAT I CANNOT ENDURE
My heart is aching and breaking for him
Well done, it really seems like empathy touch it.
Love it, the song and Dean, they quite fit a lot.
I was curious about how this would fit Dean, given how this is a very female-experience-centric song. I was absolutely floored with how WELL it fits. All the work Dean was forced to do because of John and Mary, becoming mother and father and brother and so much more to keep Sam safe? Fantastic.
I was one of the first person to see this edit and I just realize that I didn't tell you how amazing this video is.❤️
thank you ❤
Omg I never realized how well this song fits him
This song is for anyone with family issues especially mommy n daddy issues specifically for dean
Its more awesome than i thought
Dean crying always hurts my soul. Worse thing 💔
Although the editing is well done, the reason why many of us think it’s not a song made for Dean is because what he experienced is the result of abuse but in a specific context. No, he is not "All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid" because of his gender, but because he is the oldest (and this is not normal, i know!) but in many siblings where there is a big brother and a little sister, the roles will often be reversed (I do not say all the time, I say often); because of misogyny. *It’s not just a female rage song, it’s a hymn that cries out what the societal pressure has been on us since birth.* A cisgender man does not experience it in the same way. Transgender men and transgender women; non-binary people who have experienced misogyny in any way, form, can. That’s the difference between Dean being forced to do because he is a traumatized child, *and a girl, a woman who will be forced because she was born as a girl.*
🤯 oh my god! This fits him so well!
The ending tho ❤️🔥👏🤌
I know many people won't like this that much, as the song comes from a place of womenhood and female rage - and I kind of get it, as I myself am still not sure of my toughts about using the song to represent anyone who has not experienced the specific kind of repression that women and female individuals in general experience in their lives - but if I had to pick one male character and had to relate him to this song it would definitely be Dean Winchester.
I can't fully explain it, but there are a lot of things about Dean that reminds me of how women are/were threated and represented in shows and movies, most of them somehow related to forms of sexu*l assault. It's in the way Dean's the one who plays bait for creatures (including under John's orders), the way monsters are really confortable in making sexual advances on him or getting way to close for confort, the way him being pretty is often taken as an excuse for objectification... his looks are also the reason why other hunters seem to underestimate his capacities (seems relatable?), joking about how he doesnt have the looks of a hunter. And there is even more to that, as he is the one constantly mocked for the things he likes (he is the one who behaves "fangirly" and enjoy un-manly things) and in a sense there is even the way he is the one who died for Sam to experience character growth.
This is something I had tought about before n' there's probably more to it still. Altough it's not the same as the female experience, a lot about Dean is defined by gender expectations and how he goes agains them and has to deal with mental struggle about it. Again, it's not the same, but still. If I had to pick a guy it would have been Dean.
this edit omg
THE END CAP UGHHH
This song applies to all women AND Dean Winchester.
Incredible
daaaaamn that was good
OMG if I replace in my head the her with him it's like the song was made for dean. Another comment also described perfectly✨ why! Like Dean was always in my eyes the cool, badass guy who cared so much about Sam that he always said that he's fine even though he isn't and wanted to take all the burden(labour) on himself. He just seemed so cool but miserable at the same time. As a kid I just wanted to give him a hug and wanted to share his burden, the same goes for Sam who must feel terrible that his brother is like that and doesn't want help. Their bond is still so sweet and since I was 8 years old the fact hasn't changed that supernatural will always remain one of my favourite series! 😍❤❤ This edit is just fantastic and a masterpiece, thank you for realising the parallels and uploading this video! This is like showing a whole damn respect towards Dean and his resolve.
No word. Just wow.
I so love this video it so good
Labour is a pure femme rage song for me but Labour x Dean is just heartbreaking...it is so painful
I have a very strange feeling... On the one hand, I really love this song, which is literally a feminist anthem for women, on the other hand, I like Dean... In a way, this song suits him a little.
Yeaaaah, I too kind of winced at the idea but I think the emotional turmoil his family threw upon him kind of justifies it.
It suits him perfectly just replace the her with him. It's a feminist song but man also go through lots of this damn shit too and Dean is one of them(even when he's a fictional character)
He had to be mother and saviour to Sam and everyone
When is dean on the floor curled up?! 0:56
Can i ask from where you get the voices lines?
I take the audio from the clips and separate them from the visual. I'm pretty sure Mary and Dean arguing is season 12 episode 13 and Dean telling his mom about his childhood was season 12 episode 22. I have to reduce the background music and usually enhance the speech which is the most difficult part.
@@laurynheppe3451 thanks!
Unexpected song choice,, but worked perfectly!!
Dean and Sam had such an awful family. Everyone of them was a straight disappointment. Their father, their mother, their grandpa and their cousins.
Weird song to use Ngl
why would u use this song with him tho?
because It weirdly fits him
Because even though it's a feminist song if you would replace the her with him and think about Dean and what he does it just fits 100%! Men can and do also go through such struggles it's not limited to only women and he would be a prime example
@@familiebutterfly7661women can’t have anything, huh?
@@maggiemontgomery6667 Huh, what's that supposed to mean? Feminism stands for equality, so why can't this song be used for a man? A man(even though he is a fictional character, but it fits+ also in general sich men) who goes through something like this and stands on the same page as these women
@@familiebutterfly7661the song was written for women, not men. You can't replace "her" for "him", this song is not about men. I repeat, this song is *not* about men. It's about the systematic oppresion women have been under for CENTURIES. This song *does not* fit him, because it wasn't written for him. Period.
I think you should rethink your usage of this song with a super misogynist man 😜🤪
Do you... Do you even hear the lyrics???????????
i mean it fits him in context of his relationship with Sam. He was put into posicion of father, mother and brother at the same time in really young age. Because father was monster hunting so somebody had to take care of baby Sam. Sam went to college, Dean stayed with father to help him with ,,family business". the whole show is basically him and Sam trying to protect one another and failing, plus reappearance of their mother who we find out was alive all this years, well not the easiest experience. Sure he is misogynistic asshole. But i think this song is also for the siblings and people from disfuncional houses who had to do too much, to early
@@liliesandroses6323no, it does not fit him. It will never fit him. Stop advocating for whatever fuckery this is.
@@melodycmelon alright, why it doesn't fit him? But we are talking ONLY about his relationship with Sam, not about him in general
@@liliesandroses6323 you can literally use any other sad song, using THIS song to talk about MEN is so wrong
@@melodycmelon alright I respect your opinion on this topic
Very poor usage of this song ngl