Here's the simple answer - stop looking for validation from others...That's it. You have a dream? Go after it. Be nice to people, but don't hinge your life on their approval. Simple.
I imagine Tyler has the courage he does because he's using the narrator's body, playing him like a video game character - he's detached from him yet identifies with him. I try to do that sometimes, imagine that I'm just a video game character and then "play myself", as it were
Rahul Kashyap he means that he imagines that he is in a video game and controlling his body remotely so it's easier for him to do what he thinks is right than it would be in real life
I don't think it is. I've seen the movie many times, some would say too many times; and I think it's just as hard for him as it is for any one of us. His existence depends on the Narrator's existence. Anything physical would affect them both. The only real difference between them two is the beliefs and the philosophy they have.
Tyler Durden has no fear. _That's_ what is impressive. Caring is not a bad thing. It is good. You can only feel when you care. You can only make a difference when you care. You can only succeed when you care. But you will only fear when you care. And this is the problem. Giving a fuck is a double edged sword in this one way. This is why caring intensely about a small number of things is good strategy - it allows you the benefits of both sides of caring. It allows you to feel, learn, and grow where it matters. But it also allows you to free yourself from fear where it does not. I don't believe in fearless men. I believe in men who have chosen very carefully what they fear.
1. understand life through experiences 2. be proud of who you are and the things you've been able to do 3. its okay to not be the best at what you do - as long as you're making progress and trying your best to improve, that's the most important part 4. I only care about the opinions of those who i love
1. Care more about something else. 2. Live your philosophy without forcing others. 3. Articulate that philosophy with conviction when questioned or challenged.
@@Funça_do_ancapistão Vape weed, that's tha bomb And some quality green tea Tobacco is like the most mainstream drug habit you can participate in, together with daily coffee consumption and a beer in social settings; too much f*ck.
Define "something else". Otherwise ppl are just gonna think you copied/pasted everything you saw in the video Also, its been 1 year since ur comment, hows that working out for u
My favorite quote? "It's ok to fall. There is no shame in falling down. There is only shame in falling down, and not having the courage to get back up" -Midorima Shintaro
It is not mistakes that are neccesarilly bad but not learning from them is the real crime. Mistakes are always forgivible if one has the courage to admit them.
My Philosophy -Be not a slave to this ever fleeting world. -Desire little. -There is no such thing as a 'soul mate' YOU ARE ALREADY COMPLETE. -You think people are talking about you behind your back, in reality your not that important. -Everyone who walks this earth is suffering, EVERYONE! So to the best of your ability be kind. -Not everyone on this planet is kind and gentle, some are real barsteds. So keep a good distance between you and them. -More often than not the real reason you hate people is NOT what they have done, but what they reflect in you. You dislike a characteristic in you but instead of dealing with it and taking responsibility you project it onto the other person. Be mindful of this.
That was so interesting and i agree with it apart from the reflection because it cannot be generalized sometimes people hate others because of what they've done ,who they are and what do they stand for , it's simple reality but i respect the way you think
1. Dont be a people pleaser, rather be a genuine person who takes care of himself. 2. Dont lie, steal or do anything that will damage your soul and other people around you. Do not stand by and let other people do damage. Do good, so you and everyone will benefit. 3. The world does not revolve around you. 4. Fix yourself before criticizing the world. 5. Look for a meaningful life, rather than a expedient self destructive nihlistst life. 6. You have nothing to loose. Go and tackle your challenges. Struggle. It makes you stronger. 7. Material possession with lead to wanting more. Avoid the hedonistic treadmill and look for happiness within. 8. Rise from the bottom of society. Take responsibility for your circumstances.
Life is like a roller coaster, you will have your ups and downs, rises and drops, and loopey-loops, but in the end you will have tons of fun NO MATTER WHAT.
Orang Hue there are no such thing as “facts” everything that people claim is a “fact” is based off of their own assumptions and opinions. Nobody has the right answers that’s why believe in yourself when all hope is lost.
Haven't seen anything intellectual here. So called "kindness" has value only when it's targeted to the ones in your close inner social circle. Kindness to bunch of randoes is the biggest sign of weakness and submission.
Fido The Dude I doubt treating everyone without mutual respect will get you far in life. In that sense, acknowledging his individual rights is an act of kindness, both to him and to your climb up the social ladder.
I think this might be my favorite video on your channel. Feel like I understand why you made this channel and what you want it to stand for. Keep up the great work man.
Your videos affirm what I am trying to do and I appreciate that. I have an ok handle on things but am joining Charisma because you deserve to get paid for this service you provide for free. Props man!
how do we get a life philosophy? i never even thought about that... jesus christ your videos literally are speaking to me man... i have been thinking about quitting my job too...
Now's the time! The question "What truly matters to me?" is a good place to start when forming a life philosophy. If that's too broad, go with: "What would I do if I would up with $10,000,000 (after buying a bunch of new toys)?" or "If I knew I had a year to live how would I want to spend it?" or "When I am 95, looking back on my life, what decisions and experiences will I be most proud of?"
Might I recommend Jesus. You can either create a life philosophy, which is only dependent on yourself and your feelings. Jesus offers something much larger than yourself in a way that God defines. Following Christ is a surefire way to lifelong joy no matter the circumstance, and it is wholly selfless.
andrew dacunto Not always. Religion can keep you away from certain aspects of life, due to it getting in the way of your beliefs. I do agree that Jesus has some traits from his philosophy that people can adopt, but if you follow just that philosophy there's no where for growth. And you should never stop growing.
All I'm saying is that it works for me, and there is always growth. The great thing is that there is a literal standard to live up to. It's a solid measuring stick: Am I living up to God's call for my life and how I should live? There's always more I can do to do more for others, truth to study, more transformation, and more love I can give. I love these videos because charisma, as he says frequently, is a skill that you put into practice. And like all skills, my goal is to do it for Jesus. If some that are reading this aren't interested, that's ok. I'm not going to try to force it or get mad at you or anything like that. I just want to say for me, it's the only thing that matters. Just like he says in the video, it's not that the other things don't matter, it's just in relation to my life philosophy, those things don't matter.
Bethany Wilhelm I love that! People think loving yourself is selfish but I think selfish people are selfish because they don’t love themselves and have nothing to give to others because hey are so depleted. Great philosophy :)
Yea but you have to indentify what is "loving yourself". I think someone who puts himself over others or makes himself look better, cooler, and maybe even makes the others look smaller is selfish(and lot of ppl thinks this is "care for yourself"). If you have a strong belief in your worldview while you still can respect other worldviews, and you care about that to be better everyday, so you want to be better in yourself, rather than wanting to be better than others, thats something i'd call healthy.
This video probably just changed my entire life. I told my mother the other day "Its just easier not to care". Now I have some guidance on how to apply this so that I can reach the goals I have for myself.
Your videos are amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom with the rest of us. It has been a huge inspiration watching you grow your business, and I feel like you are one of the few people who are actually creating extremely genuine, useful content. I have learned so much from your perspectives, and I can't thank you enough. Keep up the great work.
My philosophy - Life has no meaning. That leaves the whole world as my playground. It's not serious, so I can enjoy it for what it is. Thanks for the great content. I admire what you're doing. Donated.
once you realizze life has no meaning, it can be as terrifying as it is liberating and empowering. youre free to affix whatever meaning on life you want. you find that you can do and be anythibg you choose.
@@usernamepassword9091 Not at all. For people I like, I do what I can to help them find happiness but I can't make them happy, nor do I want to be responsible for their happiness or unhappiness. For everyone else, I apply my maxim.
You hit the nail on the head here. I've been there (since lost it) and it is incredibly powerful. The resiliency you have against external and internal stresses is nearly bullet proof. Still working on getting back to that. EDIT: It may seem confusing, but everything mentioned in these comments about "don't care what other people think" and stuff, are truly just words until you can learn to identify your core ideals/philosophy/beliefs, things that are unique to YOU.
Stay true to yourself and be willing to let everything else flake away. You'll have the satisfaction that you lived on your own terms and did your best. Fantastic video
No it's not. There are attractive people that fail and (for lack of a better word) ugly successful people. Elon Musk is not a good looking guy, neither are Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos or Donald Trump for that matter.
Do what you want to do. Don’t try to prove yourself to anyone. As long as you know what you want and what you have done, you don’t have to show anyone anything. Do what you gotta do in the shadows, let your progress and results speak for themselves.
Charlie, I love all of your videos. They have been an inspiration to me. This one took me to a new level. I don't have words to describe. I appreciate your requesting people to care about others, and to pay forward for this incredible video, made a donation to Charity: Water. Thank you for all of these.
I like how he says to find your life "philosophy" as opposed to life "purpose," because philosophy is more freeing and less confining as it's a system of thinking and a collection of ideas and thoughts, as opposed to a well-defined purpose - it's easier to understand and digest but harder to obtain because any variances we have if we reach that purpose would more than often feel like settling because it isn't "exactly" what you defined it to be.
I mastered the "Not giving a fuck" thing in high school. I was really awkward for the first couple of months until I got into a few fights with this one guy. I got away with it by acting like I wasn't bothered. The teachers would have given me way more punishment if I had seemed worried. From then on if I hesitated I just say, "fuck it" Don't hesitate. That's how not to give a fuck. Don't worry about the future, not even the next minute.
My philosophy: "finding the beauty in every moment" Im going to try and live by this by stop thinking negatively, stop living in the past and simply focusing and observing the present always. Because theres always beauty in the present, with talking with people, with being in nature, with eating food, even in those quiet moments whem your doing "nothing", there's always beauty in the present and we just need to search for it and observe it.
Front Kick --- I don't think anyone can comment on what life 'must' be. It's completely your decision and noone can judge anyone else for the way they choose to live.
All my life I am pretending to be someone I am not to get friends,to get respect and to feel like I belong and mean something. I have just lately realized while pretending gives you something it is not what it really is. Pretending gives you fake friends fake respect and you will bring yourself even further. My Life philosophy is to embrace myself improve myself in many ways I would like to improve on and do it all for my happiness and success not for other people. Iam not going to care if people don't like me or the things I am doing as long it is not hurting others in a bad way I will keep on doing my own shit and if some people likes to roll with my shit, just being me that's fine too. I will try my best to Improve on my passion: Music to bring joy to myself and other people.
i love this man! The examples are so helpful and makes every point so clear that we can also think of similar situations we’ve been in and take the lessons out of it! ❤❤❤ keep it up! Appreciate you!
Great video, and I was inspired to donate to Charity Water. The fact that your channel promotes helping others makes this world a better place. Thank you.
I really loved that you added the last part about caring for other people ,we really need to sympathize and love each other and we always seem to forget about this important thing ✨💕☺️
My life philosophy is to evolve as a person. It doesn't matter how slow your progress is or how often you will fail, the important thing is to keep moving forward. It doesn't matter what you have now, but what you want to archieve and what your dreams are. Competence and Self- improvement gifts freedom.
You do owe society your best attempt to make it better. We do have an obligation to help our fellow man and to do God's will. However, we are not meant to hinge our lives on our fellow man's approval, only God's.
I think this is spot on when it comes down to things like leaving a relationship, doing things for you and not your parents, and not being afraid to go where you want when you want
this literally defined my entire life. not being an asshole who didnt care about others. but what really mattered in life. i would cringe at all the stupid shit people around me did, things that made no sense and people who had to be forced by someone else to make their own decisions. but since i knew exactly what my life goals were. that was my only focus achieving my goals. and only did whatever helped me achieve those goals.
Do something nice for someone who will never give you validation for it, or will never. know you did it. I like to donate money every month to help animals. As far as interacting with people, I usually try to talk about their lives, since I already know most about mine. Should they ask, I'm not afraid to go deep, and that can get good conversations going.
It is a good thing, like talking to someone strange and go deep till they feel better, its cool, I think its bettet than just not giving a fuck which for me is a un-human action.
Besides your awesome ideas on help others to improve themselves, I really appreciate the donation for clean water . You are a good example for many of us . Blessings
Nymphet it means that you should always take in every moment because something incredible could happen anytime. Being out of the moment can be like ignoring things or on your phone at family stuff if you know what I mean.
Your first comment reminded me of this book called The power of now. I want to read it but have to finish some other books first. Have you heard of it? I am guessing the power of now would be take in every moment because something incredible could happen anytime. but also to not miss any opportunities. I wonder if there are other benefits to being in the moment.
My life philosophy is to not get clingy with my own desires. Because when I look back on my life, I have realized that most things that I love are things that I never expected to have. For instance, I am an anti-social who has always wanted to be alone but whenever I think about my family, I can't describe how much they mean to me.
I almost stopped this video halfway, but then I started taking notes, then I got a lot of notes. 1, What matters to me is equal respect, reliability & creating an environment for myself where I can continuously do what I love with those I love. 2, What I want to make not matter to me is the opinion of others that hold no value in or aren't trying to add value in my life. 3, Coach others and stay steadfast towards my goals. 4, To make an impact & difference to those around me. Thanks COC :).
This video actually enlightend me more than any other, you've motivated me that I swear on my mother's life I will go to a homeless person in my city and I will sit down with them and give them a little to make their day
Kind of strange, but I have a friend who is named Tyler that's just like this. Just fearless about all situations and just truly doesn't care what others think about him.
Amazing way of putting it and spot on. The important things? Usually people instead things/stuff/materials. Which people, well all people but especially loved ones. Charitywaters reminded me, one material thing that matters and will matter above all valuable materials, water.
Life philosophy: Express whats on your inside! Live from the inside, out. Not outside, in. Which means dont let anything outside of you affect YOU/ your heart or your life. Don't let judgements, expectations perceptions and other peoples opinions affect the raw you. "This is it" meaning be the now moment, dont worry about whats next or what happened. Love and accept you! Embrace and trust you! Add to peoples lives do not take! Give out positive energy and make your genuine presence be felt, when you enter a room full of people think of it as they need me, I will help and make it LIT. Talk to God and trust him and obey him always
My philosophy is simple. Live a life that forces you to smile when you think about it. So when you lay on your deathbed, you die with a smile. So live it how you see fit, without stopping others from doing the same
It has probably been mentioned before, but I recommend everyone to read "The subtle art of not giving a fuck", it goes into more detail about the ideas presented in this video and makes you reflect on your life quite a bit.
I feel like i have slowly started to become more and more like tyler durden after i started to train martial arts, it has given my life purpose and as my confidence has started to increase i find that i care less and less about how other people percieve me, this confidence hasn`t started to translate too social or dating aspects quite jet but my body language is getting better.
My philosophy: don’t worry about strangers or authority figures who won’t even remember your name in a year. Just be yourself. If people judge, that’s their problem. Let them be bothered by you and offended by what you believe in and how you live your life if they want to be bothered, and keep doing what you want to do and being who you want to be. And if they insult you, laugh it off or agree with them. After a while of doing that, the insults will no longer sting and others will be bothered by the fact that their insult had no affect in you whatsoever.
My philosophy is what you've mentioned - relaxing and enjoying life and relationships. Visiting new places, experimenting new things, and sharing those experiences with my family and friends.
“Expect nothing, appreciate everything”
Accept*
Sounds good, doesn't work.
@@karunasharma8315 no he didn't write anything wrong smartie
Lazar Drobnjak because ur expecting it to work
Dont have high standards
Here's the simple answer - stop looking for validation from others...That's it. You have a dream? Go after it. Be nice to people, but don't hinge your life on their approval. Simple.
toseeornot2see thats MGTOW right there.
It truly is that simple. Be principled, have dreams, and follow through on your principles and dreams.
but i dont have a dream yet
what if your dream is validation from others?
Влад Кабанен you're a funny guy you know😂😂😂😂
“Know what matters to you, and just as importantly, know what doesn’t”. You have changed my life with this statement. Thank you so much
You know I saw a video of yours a week ago, and I’m kinda surprised you’re here tbh
That one really hit me as well
:D
"The secret to a happy life is to be indifferent toward that which makes no difference."
Reading this comment really simplified things for me, thank you.
My favorite quote:
"Darling, sometimes positive change dosent feel positive."
tru
I imagine Tyler has the courage he does because he's using the narrator's body, playing him like a video game character - he's detached from him yet identifies with him. I try to do that sometimes, imagine that I'm just a video game character and then "play myself", as it were
and it works?
AndroidDoctorr I didn't understand a word but it sounds really cool.....
Could you please elaborate more??
Rahul Kashyap he means that he imagines that he is in a video game and controlling his body remotely so it's easier for him to do what he thinks is right than it would be in real life
wow. that's a good analogy.
I don't think it is. I've seen the movie many times, some would say too many times; and I think it's just as hard for him as it is for any one of us.
His existence depends on the Narrator's existence. Anything physical would affect them both. The only real difference between them two is the beliefs and the philosophy they have.
Tyler Durden has no fear. _That's_ what is impressive.
Caring is not a bad thing. It is good. You can only feel when you care. You can only make a difference when you care. You can only succeed when you care.
But you will only fear when you care. And this is the problem. Giving a fuck is a double edged sword in this one way.
This is why caring intensely about a small number of things is good strategy - it allows you the benefits of both sides of caring. It allows you to feel, learn, and grow where it matters. But it also allows you to free yourself from fear where it does not.
I don't believe in fearless men. I believe in men who have chosen very carefully what they fear.
Well said.
You've never met a man who has lost his family... fearlessness is not that uncommon
Last sentence is spot on
@Jay L meth is bad for you
But what about the men who don’t care about anything
When you dont care people get mad at you lol because they need your reaction but you give none .
So true
i believe thats called stealing someone’s energy
Taking souls
You're so right
Checkmate malady
1. understand life through experiences
2. be proud of who you are and the things you've been able to do
3. its okay to not be the best at what you do - as long as you're making progress and trying your best to improve, that's the most important part
4. I only care about the opinions of those who i love
That last one could really bone you. Sometimes they are the ones holding you back the most with fear.
@@benputnam8038 precisely. In fact it’s the one closest to us who hurt us the most, and they will turn against us before a stranger sometimes
dont be proud of who you are. be better then the day before. you should never settle you should be better.
Ty
Number 2 isn't right. Pride is bad. The rest is good.
"This is your life. And it's ending one minute at a time." Goddamn, I love Fight Club!!
amen
1. Care more about something else.
2. Live your philosophy without forcing others.
3. Articulate that philosophy with conviction when questioned or challenged.
4- smoke cigarettes
@@Funça_do_ancapistão Vape weed, that's tha bomb
And some quality green tea
Tobacco is like the most mainstream drug habit you can participate in, together with daily coffee consumption and a beer in social settings; too much f*ck.
did that when i was 13
Define "something else". Otherwise ppl are just gonna think you copied/pasted everything you saw in the video
Also, its been 1 year since ur comment, hows that working out for u
My favorite quote?
"It's ok to fall. There is no shame in falling down. There is only shame in falling down, and not having the courage to get back up"
-Midorima Shintaro
It is not mistakes that are neccesarilly bad but not learning from them is the real crime. Mistakes are always forgivible if one has the courage to admit them.
- Midorima Shintaro
@@RyanJaumally yes, thank you, I always forget who spoke what quotes 😃
Never let someone’s perception become an intervention
My Philosophy
-Be not a slave to this ever fleeting world.
-Desire little.
-There is no such thing as a 'soul mate' YOU ARE ALREADY COMPLETE.
-You think people are talking about you behind your back, in reality your not that important.
-Everyone who walks this earth is suffering, EVERYONE! So to the best of your ability be kind.
-Not everyone on this planet is kind and gentle, some are real barsteds. So keep a good distance between you and them.
-More often than not the real reason you hate people is NOT what they have done, but what they reflect in you. You dislike a characteristic in you but instead of dealing with it and taking responsibility you project it onto the other person. Be mindful of this.
That was so interesting and i agree with it apart from the reflection because it cannot be generalized sometimes people hate others because of what they've done ,who they are and what do they stand for , it's simple reality but i respect the way you think
And you know that Plato's philosophy wasn't out of wisdom and believe it was a tailored philosophy , i thought i should let you know
Plato oh damn man I thought you were dead 💀 that’s crazy
Thanks Plato!
*you're
"If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything" - Malcolm X
Simon Turner “the white man is the devil” - Malcom X
RED PILL SOCIETY we aren’t perfect. But everyone can be a devil.
1. Dont be a people pleaser, rather be a genuine person who takes care of himself.
2. Dont lie, steal or do anything that will damage your soul and other people around you. Do not stand by and let other people do damage. Do good, so you and everyone will benefit.
3. The world does not revolve around you.
4. Fix yourself before criticizing the world.
5. Look for a meaningful life, rather than a expedient self destructive nihlistst life.
6. You have nothing to loose. Go and tackle your challenges. Struggle. It makes you stronger.
7. Material possession with lead to wanting more. Avoid the hedonistic treadmill and look for happiness within.
8. Rise from the bottom of society. Take responsibility for your circumstances.
B
Number 9,don't listen to anyone..just do whatever you want...
Not so easy to do when you suffer from mental health issues and are constantly financially constrained
My world revolves around me, doesn’t mean my world can’t revolve around my friends
Coronavirus really doesn't help but waiting just makes it worse
Life is like a roller coaster, you will have your ups and downs, rises and drops, and loopey-loops, but in the end you will have tons of fun NO MATTER WHAT.
I was gonna give you a thumbs up by why should I even give a f...k
You understood nothing ._.
did you not watch the video beyond 10:52 ?
And you do?
You didn't watch the video, did you?
every person who commented on this didn't get meme
1 Don’t be on anyone’s side, be on your own.
2 Opinions are just a you thing, what matters is facts.
3 The more you dive in, the closer your goal is.
I can agree with you on that
Orang Hue there are no such thing as “facts” everything that people claim is a “fact” is based off of their own assumptions and opinions. Nobody has the right answers that’s why believe in yourself when all hope is lost.
DO NOT TRUST
Sounds real enough to me
Yaaaaaas
in the moment I feel like I forget all of this in a matter of seconds.
same here bro
This is my issue as well.
This is why you gotta practice it every day, maybe write it as your home screen
You are not your memory. Don't ever forget that...
@@shaunkerr8721 well said
_"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."_
I want this on my headstone
It's about stoping identifying yourself with things
I love Fredrik niche
Thank you kindly, Freddy Nietzsche
But not Identifying with things, especially when self produced is alienating.
frodo nice
I swear Charisma on Command literally has the best fan-base on TH-cam, in terms of being kind-hearted and intelligent.
Inevitable it's because the entire fanbase is composed of socially inept losers
+MyNameDontMatter Nice try.
Haven't seen anything intellectual here. So called "kindness" has value only when it's targeted to the ones in your close inner social circle. Kindness to bunch of randoes is the biggest sign of weakness and submission.
Fido The Dude I doubt treating everyone without mutual respect will get you far in life. In that sense, acknowledging his individual rights is an act of kindness, both to him and to your climb up the social ladder.
yes because its full of beta males
I think this might be my favorite video on your channel. Feel like I understand why you made this channel and what you want it to stand for. Keep up the great work man.
Your videos affirm what I am trying to do and I appreciate that. I have an ok handle on things but am joining Charisma because you deserve to get paid for this service you provide for free. Props man!
how do we get a life philosophy? i never even thought about that... jesus christ your videos literally are speaking to me man... i have been thinking about quitting my job too...
Now's the time!
The question "What truly matters to me?" is a good place to start when forming a life philosophy. If that's too broad, go with: "What would I do if I would up with $10,000,000 (after buying a bunch of new toys)?" or "If I knew I had a year to live how would I want to spend it?" or "When I am 95, looking back on my life, what decisions and experiences will I be most proud of?"
Might I recommend Jesus. You can either create a life philosophy, which is only dependent on yourself and your feelings. Jesus offers something much larger than yourself in a way that God defines. Following Christ is a surefire way to lifelong joy no matter the circumstance, and it is wholly selfless.
Adam Woody stop preaching to people on the internet. its just sad.
andrew dacunto Not always. Religion can keep you away from certain aspects of life, due to it getting in the way of your beliefs. I do agree that Jesus has some traits from his philosophy that people can adopt, but if you follow just that philosophy there's no where for growth. And you should never stop growing.
All I'm saying is that it works for me, and there is always growth. The great thing is that there is a literal standard to live up to. It's a solid measuring stick: Am I living up to God's call for my life and how I should live? There's always more I can do to do more for others, truth to study, more transformation, and more love I can give. I love these videos because charisma, as he says frequently, is a skill that you put into practice. And like all skills, my goal is to do it for Jesus. If some that are reading this aren't interested, that's ok. I'm not going to try to force it or get mad at you or anything like that. I just want to say for me, it's the only thing that matters. Just like he says in the video, it's not that the other things don't matter, it's just in relation to my life philosophy, those things don't matter.
*The First Rule of **__________** is : You Do Not Talk about __________.*
Toby Creation looks like that rule is broken now 😭😭😭
The first rule of success is : you do not talk about your plans. ;)
Why would anyone not talk about crossfit?
Whispering fight club
Are you talking about Fight Club?
Fight Club.
This is one of the absolute best videos I have ever watched. Thank you Charlie and Ben. Life changing advice if applied
I love this video. Explained reallly well. Gives me inspiration to really dive into my philosophy and what matters most to me! Thanks for this!
My life philosophy is to care for yourself so much that you have excess to give to others
Bethany Wilhelm I love that! People think loving yourself is selfish but I think selfish people are selfish because they don’t love themselves and have nothing to give to others because hey are so depleted. Great philosophy :)
This made me feel better, thank you.
Like how Jesus says "My cup runneth over"
Yea but you have to indentify what is "loving yourself". I think someone who puts himself over others or makes himself look better, cooler, and maybe even makes the others look smaller is selfish(and lot of ppl thinks this is "care for yourself"). If you have a strong belief in your worldview while you still can respect other worldviews, and you care about that to be better everyday, so you want to be better in yourself, rather than wanting to be better than others, thats something i'd call healthy.
Same here, can't do anything if you're a shit bag
He even said it himself "The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide. No fear, no distractions."
MoreMetalThanMetal too true
This video probably just changed my entire life. I told my mother the other day "Its just easier not to care". Now I have some guidance on how to apply this so that I can reach the goals I have for myself.
Your videos are amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom with the rest of us. It has been a huge inspiration watching you grow your business, and I feel like you are one of the few people who are actually creating extremely genuine, useful content. I have learned so much from your perspectives, and I can't thank you enough. Keep up the great work.
My philosophy - Life has no meaning. That leaves the whole world as my playground. It's not serious, so I can enjoy it for what it is. Thanks for the great content. I admire what you're doing. Donated.
Hmm,never thought of it that way
I have to keep reminding myself of this. Thank you.
literally what a serial killer would say
once you realizze life has no meaning, it can be as terrifying as it is liberating and empowering. youre free to affix whatever meaning on life you want. you find that you can do and be anythibg you choose.
Good one
Hell yea Charlie that's the language I'm looking for!
Ur lame
randummy no he's not
Ayyyyy lucid
Do you sign my paycheck? No? Then I don't have to make you happy.
Seems a very narrow, obsessive way to live. Don't you ever want to make someone happy because you like them and want them to be happy?
@@usernamepassword9091 Not at all. For people I like, I do what I can to help them find happiness but I can't make them happy, nor do I want to be responsible for their happiness or unhappiness. For everyone else, I apply my maxim.
@@stischer47 ok I see then I apologize, it just seemed very crass as it was written in the original post. Peace and love anyway man 😊☮️❤️
Wow Buddy!!!! Your line said and explained so clearly
You hit the nail on the head here. I've been there (since lost it) and it is incredibly powerful. The resiliency you have against external and internal stresses is nearly bullet proof.
Still working on getting back to that.
EDIT: It may seem confusing, but everything mentioned in these comments about "don't care what other people think" and stuff, are truly just words until you can learn to identify your core ideals/philosophy/beliefs, things that are unique to YOU.
My life philosophy... to make America great again!
President Donald J Trump haha
Actually it's "you're fired"
Make America corrupt again
Basato Angelo Never! You must have voted for Crooked Hillary!
You aren't president yet, buddy
My philosophy:
I aim to destroy the world and re-write it in my image.
Blaine Fiasco lol! That sounds like Jesus 😂
Amanda Galloway lol more like the anti Christ
Blaine Fiasco You will inspire many generations to come.
I Peed and farded and shided!
Sign me up.
I'm so grateful I found you channel. Thank you for setting an awesome example.
Stay true to yourself and be willing to let everything else flake away. You'll have the satisfaction that you lived on your own terms and did your best. Fantastic video
It's easy if you have Brad Pitt face
No it's not. There are attractive people that fail and (for lack of a better word) ugly successful people. Elon Musk is not a good looking guy, neither are Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos or Donald Trump for that matter.
Mary Forster That statement proved nothing
Mary Forster just go f yourself
what lmao chillllll
Mary Forster Musk is kind of cute and handsome honestly. The guy's pushing 50 though so some leeway must be given
Do what you want to do. Don’t try to prove yourself to anyone. As long as you know what you want and what you have done, you don’t have to show anyone anything.
Do what you gotta do in the shadows, let your progress and results speak for themselves.
I love this
Thank you
Charlie, I love all of your videos. They have been an inspiration to me. This one took me to a new level. I don't have words to describe. I appreciate your requesting people to care about others, and to pay forward for this incredible video, made a donation to Charity: Water. Thank you for all of these.
I like how he says to find your life "philosophy" as opposed to life "purpose," because philosophy is more freeing and less confining as it's a system of thinking and a collection of ideas and thoughts, as opposed to a well-defined purpose - it's easier to understand and digest but harder to obtain because any variances we have if we reach that purpose would more than often feel like settling because it isn't "exactly" what you defined it to be.
Video should be named: "How To Be Tyler Durden"
Thats what exactly i put on Search bar
@@serajoseph4788 lollol
Lmao
@@serajoseph4788 😂😂😂😅😭🤣 me too
I mastered the "Not giving a fuck" thing in high school.
I was really awkward for the first couple of months until I got into a few fights with this one guy. I got away with it by acting like I wasn't bothered.
The teachers would have given me way more punishment if I had seemed worried. From then on if I hesitated I just say, "fuck it"
Don't hesitate. That's how not to give a fuck. Don't worry about the future, not even the next minute.
If you feel like you need to master "not giving a fuck," than you've already lost. Giving a fuck about not giving a fuck is still giving a fuck.
Nailed It
ooo bad boy
‘Don’t worry about the future’ that’s how you get yourself homeless, in jail or killed
My philosophy: "finding the beauty in every moment"
Im going to try and live by this by stop thinking negatively, stop living in the past and simply focusing and observing the present always. Because theres always beauty in the present, with talking with people, with being in nature, with eating food, even in those quiet moments whem your doing "nothing", there's always beauty in the present and we just need to search for it and observe it.
incredible video man, exactly what i needed to hear today. your thoughtfulness and perspective is amazing, thank you for your service ❤
First rule of this video?
You don't talk about this video.
Second rule of this video?
You DON'T TALK about this video.
Blue Balls you DON'T TALK about this video
What video?
My philosophy is simply to relax, enjoy live with friends and family, experience different cultures, and do martial arts.
Oooh you're cool
Steven Martir
Typical life, safe. Life must be pushed and unsafe.
Front Kick --- I don't think anyone can comment on what life 'must' be. It's completely your decision and noone can judge anyone else for the way they choose to live.
Steven Martir you tried to get pinned lmao haha
no, ur just too lazy to get a job and work for a living and be a man and provide for your family if youll ever deserve one, loser
this video has really made me reflect on my life like nothing has in a long time.. thank you
One of the best directional videos ever! Focus and direction explained perfectly.
I’ve been watching your videos all day, and the fact that we share the same adoration for Tyler Durden has officially won me over. I love you 😂.
All my life I am pretending to be someone I am not to get friends,to get respect and to feel like I belong and mean something. I have just lately realized while pretending gives you something it is not what it really is. Pretending gives you fake friends fake respect and you will bring yourself even further. My Life philosophy is to embrace myself improve myself in many ways I would like to improve on and do it all for my happiness and success not for other people. Iam not going to care if people don't like me or the things I am doing as long it is not hurting others in a bad way I will keep on doing my own shit and if some people likes to roll with my shit, just being me that's fine too. I will try my best to Improve on my passion: Music to bring joy to myself and other people.
Hellblazer shutup you narcist
Wonderful
Will you hurt people in good ways?
This is really inspiring, thank you for writing this
Screen shotted this
i love this man! The examples are so helpful and makes every point so clear that we can also think of similar situations we’ve been in and take the lessons out of it! ❤❤❤ keep it up! Appreciate you!
Yooooo. I absolutely love these videos. Definitely will sign up for your program soon. This was the best.
I just PISSED OFF A BALCONY
good to know
I'm very proud of you
Alxkzmrz thats the spirit!!! *recieves piss on head*
So it was u
Great 👍🏼
You have no idea how much I needed this video.
Great video, and I was inspired to donate to Charity Water. The fact that your channel promotes helping others makes this world a better place. Thank you.
this is one of the best videos I have seen in a very long time!
I really loved that you added the last part about caring for other people ,we really need to sympathize and love each other and we always seem to forget about this important thing ✨💕☺️
My life philosophy is to evolve as a person. It doesn't matter how slow your progress is or how often you will fail, the important thing is to keep moving forward. It doesn't matter what you have now, but what you want to archieve and what your dreams are. Competence and Self- improvement gifts freedom.
Senpai first step: no anime
Senpai thanks I appreciate that
Senpai same
Self improvement is just masturbation.
Be selfish, you don't owe anyone anything nor society.
That doesn't need to be said, it's in every living organisms nature to want to fulfill it's needs before anything else.
You do owe society your best attempt to make it better. We do have an obligation to help our fellow man and to do God's will. However, we are not meant to hinge our lives on our fellow man's approval, only God's.
This statement is a catch 22
not everyone believes in God. So to my atheists out there. You owe nothing to anybody.
I think this is spot on when it comes down to things like leaving a relationship, doing things for you and not your parents, and not being afraid to go where you want when you want
this literally defined my entire life. not being an asshole who didnt care about others. but what really mattered in life.
i would cringe at all the stupid shit people around me did, things that made no sense and people who had to be forced by someone else to make their own decisions. but since i knew exactly what my life goals were. that was my only focus achieving my goals. and only did whatever helped me achieve those goals.
Do something nice for someone who will never give you validation for it, or will never. know you did it. I like to donate money every month to help animals.
As far as interacting with people, I usually try to talk about their lives, since I already know most about mine. Should they ask, I'm not afraid to go deep, and that can get good conversations going.
Pia Nyström life passion: To be a Surf Artist in life
It is a good thing, like talking to someone strange and go deep till they feel better, its cool, I think its bettet than just not giving a fuck which for me is a un-human action.
"the things you own end up owning you''.
Besides your awesome ideas on help others to improve themselves, I really appreciate the donation for clean water . You are a good example for many of us . Blessings
Great post. Way to break down the philosophy behind Durden and taking a stand without being a jerk!
Be IN the moment, not out of it.
What does this mean?
Nymphet it means that you should always take in every moment because something incredible could happen anytime. Being out of the moment can be like ignoring things or on your phone at family stuff if you know what I mean.
Your first comment reminded me of this book called The power of now. I want to read it but have to finish some other books first. Have you heard of it? I am guessing the power of now would be
take in every moment because something incredible could happen anytime.
but also to not miss any opportunities. I wonder if there are other benefits to being in the moment.
If you're REALLY in the moment you can dodge a bullet.
Nymphet I'm reading it right now. It's totally worth it!
i wish teenager me watched these videos... if i have kids im definetly going to teach them values like this.
Cristina Rivera I am a teenager and i don't feel that im gonna have the ability to use these tips
This is a sincerely actionable perspective! Thank you for sharing this message.
Great video! Thanks for the thought-provoking essay.
My life philosophy is to not get clingy with my own desires. Because when I look back on my life, I have realized that most things that I love are things that I never expected to have. For instance, I am an anti-social who has always wanted to be alone but whenever I think about my family, I can't describe how much they mean to me.
RookieN08 "Desire is suffering"
My philosophy is simple, making each day as stress free as possible. Taking care of my self. Not caring about things that effect me negatively.
I almost stopped this video halfway, but then I started taking notes, then I got a lot of notes.
1, What matters to me is equal respect, reliability & creating an environment for myself where I can continuously do what I love with those I love.
2, What I want to make not matter to me is the opinion of others that hold no value in or aren't trying to add value in my life.
3, Coach others and stay steadfast towards my goals.
4, To make an impact & difference to those around me.
Thanks COC :).
This video actually enlightend me more than any other, you've motivated me that I swear on my mother's life I will go to a homeless person in my city and I will sit down with them and give them a little to make their day
Kind of strange, but I have a friend who is named Tyler that's just like this. Just fearless about all situations and just truly doesn't care what others think about him.
You definetly hitting that pipe kid
@@circa1993 yeah you are, kido
@@keinlieb3818 😂😂
well, i guess you motivated me to start up a fight club...
Amazing video, love the turnaround and message! 💯
Amazing way of putting it and spot on. The important things? Usually people instead things/stuff/materials. Which people, well all people but especially loved ones. Charitywaters reminded me, one material thing that matters and will matter above all valuable materials, water.
I watched fight club just so I would understand this video. worth it.
noahlewisbrown, same
Same actually.
Life philosophy: Express whats on your inside! Live from the inside, out. Not outside, in. Which means dont let anything outside of you affect YOU/ your heart or your life. Don't let judgements, expectations perceptions and other peoples opinions affect the raw you. "This is it" meaning be the now moment, dont worry about whats next or what happened. Love and accept you! Embrace and trust you! Add to peoples lives do not take! Give out positive energy and make your genuine presence be felt, when you enter a room full of people think of it as they need me, I will help and make it LIT. Talk to God and trust him and obey him always
God it's so much easier said than done... but that would be absolutely ideal.
Totally agree with you, but what about self improvement? What if those opinions about you are true? Where's the line? Also being humble
True
Thank you. You hit it home. I look forward to our new world. Donated. Much love, friend.
"You can lie to everyone
But youre cannot lie to yourself,"
~Quote by myself
You can definitely lie to yourself
Very inspirational but you actually can lie to yourself. Scientifically, we actually can believe the lies we tell ourselves.
Lied to myself and it eventually the conflict within destroyed me 🙃
women do it at will
@@blaze_sanz Therapy
My philosophy is simple. Live a life that forces you to smile when you think about it. So when you lay on your deathbed, you die with a smile.
So live it how you see fit, without stopping others from doing the same
when i go piss nd look down im reminded of how worthless i am
@@Suppboio sad but that’s on you bro.
@@darkvioletskull yeah bro i chose my genetics
@@Suppboio how 🤔
@@kanthakathewhite1012 its a joke cause he said it was on me
It has probably been mentioned before, but I recommend everyone to read "The subtle art of not giving a fuck", it goes into more detail about the ideas presented in this video and makes you reflect on your life quite a bit.
just donated to Charity Water! Thanks for doing such good work!
I feel like i have slowly started to become more and more like tyler durden after i started to train martial arts, it has given my life purpose and as my confidence has started to increase i find that i care less and less about how other people percieve me, this confidence hasn`t started to translate too social or dating aspects quite jet but my body language is getting better.
My life Philosophy: To be relaxed, to love myself, and share love to my friends and family members
I believe that the meaning of life is to give meaning to life.
Man I really needed to here this 7 years ago. Thanks!
One of the best videos you've ever made👏🏽👏🏽
Great video! I'm glad you did it without spoiling the whole movie!
Extremely sneaky video
Sneaky AF ;-) Regardless of whether anyone gives, I do think this gets to the core of how Tyler is able to "let that which doesn't matter truly slide"
Yes you got around it all really well. I just think you could have left the donation part out, maybe for a video for itself.
Ads are getting smarter
That's my point. So devious, he manipulates all the video, then right at the end, " Think about people". At that point I left.
How can we provide non-poisoned water to places like Flint Michigan?
My philosophy: don’t worry about strangers or authority figures who won’t even remember your name in a year. Just be yourself. If people judge, that’s their problem. Let them be bothered by you and offended by what you believe in and how you live your life if they want to be bothered, and keep doing what you want to do and being who you want to be. And if they insult you, laugh it off or agree with them. After a while of doing that, the insults will no longer sting and others will be bothered by the fact that their insult had no affect in you whatsoever.
My philosophy is what you've mentioned - relaxing and enjoying life and relationships. Visiting new places, experimenting new things, and sharing those experiences with my family and friends.
Finally the video I have awaited for eons is here... Tyler Durden!!!
You've waited eons for this?
+Navon Myhand Oh yeah, Ozy is immortal.
Inevitable True, true.
+Navon Myhand No, he isn't immortal, I was joking. He was clearly making a joke, and you trying to take it literally is a shitty joke.
Inevitable Truer, truer.
Just loved that messege at the end :') youre such a good person.
this is awesome, you did amazing detailed clear analysis with a practical apply thanks!
You are awesome! Keep up the good work your doing! Not many TH-cam channels are reflective as yours. Thank you!