My father showed up in our house on day of his death after abandoning us for 10(+) years”Terry Apala

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ความคิดเห็น • 48

  • @TheNyakaat
    @TheNyakaat 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    While I judge the father but I noticed the part where he said “my father loved to live life”. To the best of a woman’s ability, avoid having kids with deadbeat men. I am saying this as a father who would rather eat a farm of cactus than abandon my kids.

  • @ogeokolie6520
    @ogeokolie6520 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    You can't abandon another Human who you were supposed to raise & expect acceptance.
    Deadbeat Fathers should learn

    • @ogeokolie6520
      @ogeokolie6520 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      May God comfort you 🙏

  • @goldenpride8210
    @goldenpride8210 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    His word's were so touching. What a life. Life deal with us in various ways we never expect. We embrace it sometimes and stand to fight strong never to let it break us.

  • @y.f8266
    @y.f8266 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Why do a lot of Fathers behave so irresponsible? NOT saying Mothers are 'Saints'....but, it's so rampant with Fathers🙏

    • @dumadan7561
      @dumadan7561 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Honestly, it’s like a curse with black people that our fathers should just never rise up to their responsibilities. It seems that it’s even more rampant amongst a certain generation of them, the baby boomer generation and many Gen X too. A study needs to be conducted on the men from these two generations, perhaps it will help us understand why there’re so many deadbeat fathers in their group.

    • @PrettyLisaO
      @PrettyLisaO 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hmmm I i tell you my own story God, you no go believe

    • @olanrewajuolufemi701
      @olanrewajuolufemi701 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@dumadan7561A better survey would be why most women don't pick better....they are so quick to make babies with thugs and irresponsible men, cus of the excitement that comes with being around such characters.

    • @OldArmadillo
      @OldArmadillo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We nor hear the papa side ooo

    • @allthingswedding
      @allthingswedding 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Act like you don't know the truth. It will make you and your gender feel better ​@@OldArmadillo

  • @anitamarc
    @anitamarc 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    God bless his beautiful heart, what a sad story but I'm thankful to God he's alive to tell his story, how I wish his mom lived to see the good time.

  • @HappinessWithin
    @HappinessWithin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    A lot of kids in Africa grow up with trauma that they cannot explain. I don't even know him, but I send my prayers to him to continue to heal in peace. Traumatic, or mental health, are the subject we don't talk about much on the African continent. I am glad the knew generation is talking about it now, and we are extra careful not to put our kids into these traumas some of us have experienced from our parents, stepparents, aunts, and uncles.

  • @unofini
    @unofini 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    The good thing is that terry is a dope musician and definitely his originality can never be hidden. The world will hear you.
    And one day I look forward to producing a song for you.
    Bless

  • @jimdellsresourcesltd5606
    @jimdellsresourcesltd5606 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hi Terry, your story was an inspiration. Please don't give up

  • @chinonsoanyaebosi9831
    @chinonsoanyaebosi9831 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    "I was forgotten" those were really touching words

  • @efeagbamu609
    @efeagbamu609 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hugs hugs to this precious young man. Healing tears are healthy. This is your time son.

  • @isaacoluwapelumi6910
    @isaacoluwapelumi6910 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It’s your time brother! and that’s a fact….literally downloaded 7 different tracks yesterday night, and I’ve been jamming all the 7 back to back…I had to come here to look you up and hear your story.
    IT’S YOUR TIME TERRY! Cheers to the beginning of a new dawn❤️🍾@Terry Apala

  • @dorrtay
    @dorrtay 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This guy sounds so real. I admire people like him.

  • @Everythingreactionswithkemi
    @Everythingreactionswithkemi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Am going through it now am 29year old and last seen my dad when I was 8😢he’s alive he’s here on earth in same country Nigeria yet never an effort to come see us we are 5 in number..but thank God my mum never gave up on us I learnt from her to work hard and never stay idol cause one day it will pay u off..and one day somone will ask me to forgive him hmmmm after all I went through seeking love in the wrong places

    • @olusolafayokun
      @olusolafayokun 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I have been there Darling, mine abandoned us for over 40 years but I realize that forgiveness makes the Journey sweeter and make my life better.
      It is never easy to forgive, please take your time but have the willingness to forgive then ask God for Grace to do so. It's one of the best thing you can do for yourself.
      The moment you do; you are free and the feeling and experience can't be explained in words. Cheers

    • @Onyinyeajala
      @Onyinyeajala 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I wish his mum was still alive to eat the fruit of her labour. My mum will not die in Jesus name Amen.

    • @danwale-t1s
      @danwale-t1s 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hey dear

  • @NkemUmezinne
    @NkemUmezinne 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    We need to accept the fact that not all men are cut out to be fathers. Period!!

    • @adao.6241
      @adao.6241 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Who is accepting this? The children already made or the women they "repeatedly" make them with.?

    • @NkemUmezinne
      @NkemUmezinne 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@adao.6241 I mean the society at large. That way men who just don’t want the responsibility that comes with fatherhood can decide to remain single and save women and the children born from all of this emotional trauma

    • @suwee01
      @suwee01 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      If you're not cut out to be a father then don't bring poor children through untold hardship.

    • @baybeetacoo8734
      @baybeetacoo8734 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@adao.6241the men should make themselves sterile so they can jump around as much as they want, but no. They want insurance of someone who will bury them, like this horrible dad did to his mom

  • @pwrdbythefro2846
    @pwrdbythefro2846 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Glad to have you back Terry Apala! Stay strong.

  • @chukkaijoma2090
    @chukkaijoma2090 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Terry. I know your dad. He loved his children with a passion. I remember when your sibling Richard was young. Your father had a great vision of his growing up to be a very rich person in the future. Your dad went through a lot of struggles, too. Life was not fair to your dad either. I also know your mom. Esther. She was a very pleasant and wonderful woman. Find a way to forgive your dad. He was not a bad father. His life was a struggle since the 1970s

  • @katherineobiang1901
    @katherineobiang1901 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Terry Appalachian your time is now ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @rollymayola363
    @rollymayola363 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    What a beautiful soul.

  • @starlight_8519
    @starlight_8519 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Life is survival. I can't wait to see you up there again!!!

  • @enthroned_one
    @enthroned_one 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    THANK GOD FOR YOU SON....GOD IS WITH U ALWAYS; TERRY SORRY U HAD A HARD TIME.....WE ALL DID BUT IT MAKES US STRONGER. ITS WELL. MAY GOD PRESERVE YOU AND KEEP YOU FOREVER ON THE RIGHT PATH ❤

  • @edikanwillie6791
    @edikanwillie6791 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Goat 🐐 the sound is undeniable. Keep your head up Terry

  • @UK-sm4co
    @UK-sm4co 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    God console you bro. May your mother's soul RIP 🙏

  • @wedonblowtv8092
    @wedonblowtv8092 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    so touching

  • @quincytommy6754
    @quincytommy6754 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s so sad 😢
    Your story is so touching
    I got emotional 😭
    Quite unfortunate

  • @fun-gr4fx
    @fun-gr4fx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    well!!!as a fans i no forget u..i always ask why u no sing again

  • @oloridestiny3251
    @oloridestiny3251 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    We are here, we are ready for you ! I have never forgotten your music 💜💜💜💜

  • @stellaemeka-okoli2170
    @stellaemeka-okoli2170 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was forgotten... I know exactly what you mean, but look at you now ❤

  • @abayomikadara2013
    @abayomikadara2013 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a coincidence tho! Fada shows up and dies .😮

  • @stellaemeka-okoli2170
    @stellaemeka-okoli2170 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What a beautiful soul ❤

  • @BabatundeRukayat-q5l
    @BabatundeRukayat-q5l 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So touching men 😢
    But thank God it all story and end with joy but i love the fact that terry apala is so unique when it comes to him doing is things

  • @amazincrypto3929
    @amazincrypto3929 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omo terry this your story touch me die. You be man and you will erase all the errors @terryapala

  • @monagwede6829
    @monagwede6829 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not every person is meant to be a parent

  • @amegwuabel563
    @amegwuabel563 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So so sad

  • @SlekkyP
    @SlekkyP 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Give Men their flowers 🌺 while they still alive.

    • @efeagbamu609
      @efeagbamu609 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Functional men deserve flowers