I’m only 48 seconds in and when you said police investigation my face went to the side like a curious dog lol and then you said right at the same time “yes I said police investigation” I’m like get out of my head 😂😂😂😂
Honestly, it seems like it would be better if you stay home with your kids. Maybe it was not a good fit, but calling the police was over the top, and seems more vengeful than anything.
Thank you for that opinion - I originally didn’t plan to call the police but was advised by someone in my state’s daycare licensing department that legal action needed to be taken. Also - I only have the 1 child.
I get that it was not appropriate and handled wrong but I don’t think it’s fair to ruin someone’s livelihood over something that doesn’t sound malicious
Photos? No. If I was charged with changing an infant’s diaper and I had a concern? I would use my words! I would TELL the parent (because they can look for themselves, a photo is not needed) that I think their child is sick due to whatever I saw-blistering, redness, chafing, etc. And if parent gives me medication? I ask questions about it and use it as indicated.
Hi greetings from Georgia. Here it is not very common but it’s not unheard of. A lot of parents have children who have rashes, colds, sores, bruises, etc when they come to daycare. And some parents try to say that their child was not like that when they came , and for the safety of the business as well as the safety of the child to document the concerns to the parent was the best thing to do. She definitely could have had a waaaay better attitude and I don’t blame you for pulling your child. People like her make it very hard for in home daycares to thrive !! However as a parent I do understand your concerns. I apologize that you went through this I honestly do ! I hope you have better luck in the future and find the perfect fit for your baby!
Where I live full time daycare is around $200/week which I think is expensive. I can’t imagine paying $500/week but I hope wages coincide with the daycare costs in Massachusetts? I am so sorry you had such a terrible experience especially since it was the first time you took Harry to daycare! I have been wondering what happened since you mentioned the incident in another video. Thank you for sharing! How have you been navigating the child care situation since??
Hi Leigh, Massachusetts is definitely expensive all around, but I’ve heard from friends that $500 a week is pretty standard with the cost of living here. I have contacted a few daycares, but they are at capacity with COVID, so he’s been spending the days with my mom while she’s still remote. And honestly that’s ideal for us all right now!
I’m so sorry you had a terrible in home daycare experience. My boys are 7 & 10 and still ask to go to their daycare on their days off from school! I think they sometimes prefer her over me 😬. She’s an in home daycare provider. She is like family and all the families who went there during the time my boys did are close friends. The provider and families all go to each other’s family events. In my area, daily care is between $35-$50 a day for drop in or $140-$200 a week. For $100 a day, we could get a nanny. I hope you find somewhere for your son. It took us 3 tries, but we instantly knew she was the one.
Hi Ana, that daycare sounds amazing - it actually sounds a lot like the daycare I myself attended (I’m still friends with her and her kids on Facebook, even though she gave up daycare to become a nurse years ago).
Oh momma, that is SO scary and frustrating. I am sorry you and baby Harry went through that! I have been thinking a lot about my future kids and what I will do as far as childcare... What are your thoughts on nannies? Have you considered one for your little dude? I am a childcare provider and have nanny friends that work for family with little ones. I've heard it can be an amazing option, especially during this pandemic because it is less exposure to germs. Plus the nanny is only responsible for that one child so the little one has their undivided attention. As a nanny, I have heard that the socialization piece can be met by having a nanny share. Either way I know you will make a good decision for your little guy. I can tell how devoted and through you are. You are truly amazing! Also, I hope your new job is going well, even with all the craziness and uncertainty. :)
Hi Gianna, I think nannies are a great option, and actually have a friend who is one. My mom is currently considering retiring, and if she does I don’t need to find another daycare, but, i may still look for something part time - like 1-2 days a week so Harry can socialize with other littles and get out of the house, which is something that a nanny couldn’t really provide. I do think in terms of strictly childcare, without the socialization goal, nannies are a great option!
"He was going to be 13 months old but she called him a baby" Me a 1st time mom to be (due in July) who still calls an sees 7 year olds as cute little babies
I get that they were jerks. But it’s pretty intense to accuse someone of making child pornography when it’s obvious that they weren’t doing that. A child porn conviction is not what you were hoping for, is it? I know educators who have been wrongfully accused of abuse, and also of sexual stuff. If you stay in the teaching profession, I promise there will be a day when a parent tries to go after you for something, warranted or not. False and exaggerated accusations can be really frightening. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone, no matter how mediocre their work with children is.
That was not the conviction I was hoping for at all - I was hoping that there was a law that would prevent her from photographing and distributing photographs of my son’s naked body, regardless of the reasoning behind it. The police investigation concluded that her actions were obviously inappropriate and wrong, but that beyond child pornography, no such law exists. And to convict for that, there needs to be a “sexual intent” to the photos, which there obviously wasn’t. My biggest issue then and now is that this photo is still in multiple people’s possession and I don’t know who has this image of my helpless son.
@@Riat519 Why note that he was "helpless"? She wanted to make sure he was okay. That is why she took the picture. He was a year old, his bottom is not a sexual thing, and you know that she knew that.
My little guys is 22 months old and I’m JUST starting to consider day care for a day or two a week. So I’m helping myself by watching terrible experiences 😅 I think I’m gonna hold off a few more months
If it helps Ashley - I have signed Harry up for another daycare starting this fall with a woman I went to college with. I think finding someone you know, like, and trust is really important in childcare and I feel much better about this new caregiver than the previous one!
My daughter just started her first day of daycare today. I’m doing 3 days a week 7am - 5:30pm & it’s $45/day. Full time 5 days 7am - 5:30pm is $190/week. I am in NY where everything is expensive so I’m surprised to hear $100/day! This is so scary to me. I can’t even imagine!
I also want to add that after thinking about your experience I’m just completely mortified at the way you were treated & the photo is the worst part. I’m so sorry. I think you’re awesome & inspiring to me as a SMBC. You should be proud of the way you handled yourself. Thanks for sharing 💕
I hear your pain and frustration, but I think that the day care provider and assistant were doing a great job (minus the quick grabbing of Harry at the front door the first day), and while they did need a few tweaks on their protocol (writing a proper report after an injury), it sounds like they just had differences of opinion on how to best care for him, and that you got progressively angrier with them after the first day sunk in, and especially on the diaper rash/strep disagreement, and then you really took it to the next level with the report to licensing and police. Which would all be appropriate IF they had mistreated your child, of course, but they did not. I think you were just overwhelmed with student teaching, IVF news, the stress of his rash, and the natural discomfort with not being able to communicate with his caregiver (language barrier), but unfortunately that led to you assuming the very worst of these people, who appear to me (and this is from me 100% only getting your side of the story, which I presume to be 100% true, nevertheless they might have added more perspective....) anyway, they appear to me to be very caring and competent caregivers. Which you are trying to shut down, which will result in grief and harm to the children in their care! I do hope you can heal from this experience; it was just a bad week, and neither you nor they are bad people. Peace be with you.
PS As a stay at home mom of 2 boys, I also think there's a gap between your wanting everything to be done your way (COMPLETELY Understandable; you're a mama bear - so am I!) , and your wanting to rely on outside care (who are, obviously, not you). I am no expert on your side of the table since I've never had to leave my boys. But I do think, logically, you can't have it both ways. Even a nanny, which is way more personalized to your family preferences, is going to have differences of opinions and not do what you want. My mom was also a teacher and put her career on hold until I was 14 (there were 4 of us, so my youngest sibling was 6), and then went back for her credential, and even went on to get an administrative credential and several specialties. She had a wonderful career, but first, we were all able to be with her when we needed her most. You cannot get those years back with your son. Many children are absolutely emotionally fine with daycare - but many are not, especially if they are more sensitive souls. If your mom can care for him, that's wonderful!!!, or perhaps a nanny - but nannies you can't vouch for 1000%, and they may change jobs/move, and then your son loses another attachment person. Please consider that some of your anger may be a natural reaction to not being able to get the care for your son that you desperately wanted him to have - and only you, can be you!
I feel so bad that this happened, I hope you found a better day care sending you and Harry big hugs
I’m only 48 seconds in and when you said police investigation my face went to the side like a curious dog lol and then you said right at the same time “yes I said police investigation” I’m like get out of my head 😂😂😂😂
Omg too funny 😂
Honestly, it seems like it would be better if you stay home with your kids. Maybe it was not a good fit, but calling the police was over the top, and seems more vengeful than anything.
Thank you for that opinion - I originally didn’t plan to call the police but was advised by someone in my state’s daycare licensing department that legal action needed to be taken. Also - I only have the 1 child.
I get that it was not appropriate and handled wrong but I don’t think it’s fair to ruin someone’s livelihood over something that doesn’t sound malicious
Photos? No. If I was charged with changing an infant’s diaper and I had a concern? I would use my words! I would TELL the parent (because they can look for themselves, a photo is not needed) that I think their child is sick due to whatever I saw-blistering, redness, chafing, etc.
And if parent gives me medication? I ask questions about it and use it as indicated.
Hi greetings from Georgia. Here it is not very common but it’s not unheard of. A lot of parents have children who have rashes, colds, sores, bruises, etc when they come to daycare. And some parents try to say that their child was not like that when they came , and for the safety of the business as well as the safety of the child to document the concerns to the parent was the best thing to do. She definitely could have had a waaaay better attitude and I don’t blame you for pulling your child. People like her make it very hard for in home daycares to thrive !! However as a parent I do understand your concerns. I apologize that you went through this I honestly do ! I hope you have better luck in the future and find the perfect fit for your baby!
Thank you for your insight, I really appreciate it
Where I live full time daycare is around $200/week which I think is expensive. I can’t imagine paying $500/week but I hope wages coincide with the daycare costs in Massachusetts? I am so sorry you had such a terrible experience especially since it was the first time you took Harry to daycare! I have been wondering what happened since you mentioned the incident in another video. Thank you for sharing! How have you been navigating the child care situation since??
Hi Leigh, Massachusetts is definitely expensive all around, but I’ve heard from friends that $500 a week is pretty standard with the cost of living here. I have contacted a few daycares, but they are at capacity with COVID, so he’s been spending the days with my mom while she’s still remote. And honestly that’s ideal for us all right now!
I’m so sorry you had a terrible in home daycare experience. My boys are 7 & 10 and still ask to go to their daycare on their days off from school! I think they sometimes prefer her over me 😬. She’s an in home daycare provider. She is like family and all the families who went there during the time my boys did are close friends. The provider and families all go to each other’s family events. In my area, daily care is between $35-$50 a day for drop in or $140-$200 a week. For $100 a day, we could get a nanny. I hope you find somewhere for your son. It took us 3 tries, but we instantly knew she was the one.
Hi Ana, that daycare sounds amazing - it actually sounds a lot like the daycare I myself attended (I’m still friends with her and her kids on Facebook, even though she gave up daycare to become a nurse years ago).
Oh momma, that is SO scary and frustrating. I am sorry you and baby Harry went through that! I have been thinking a lot about my future kids and what I will do as far as childcare...
What are your thoughts on nannies? Have you considered one for your little dude? I am a childcare provider and have nanny friends that work for family with little ones. I've heard it can be an amazing option, especially during this pandemic because it is less exposure to germs. Plus the nanny is only responsible for that one child so the little one has their undivided attention. As a nanny, I have heard that the socialization piece can be met by having a nanny share. Either way I know you will make a good decision for your little guy. I can tell how devoted and through you are. You are truly amazing! Also, I hope your new job is going well, even with all the craziness and uncertainty. :)
Hi Gianna, I think nannies are a great option, and actually have a friend who is one. My mom is currently considering retiring, and if she does I don’t need to find another daycare, but, i may still look for something part time - like 1-2 days a week so Harry can socialize with other littles and get out of the house, which is something that a nanny couldn’t really provide. I do think in terms of strictly childcare, without the socialization goal, nannies are a great option!
@@Riat519 100% agree!! Wishing you all the best!
"He was going to be 13 months old but she called him a baby"
Me a 1st time mom to be (due in July) who still calls an sees 7 year olds as cute little babies
I get that they were jerks. But it’s pretty intense to accuse someone of making child pornography when it’s obvious that they weren’t doing that. A child porn conviction is not what you were hoping for, is it?
I know educators who have been wrongfully accused of abuse, and also of sexual stuff. If you stay in the teaching profession, I promise there will be a day when a parent tries to go after you for something, warranted or not.
False and exaggerated accusations can be really frightening. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone, no matter how mediocre their work with children is.
That was not the conviction I was hoping for at all - I was hoping that there was a law that would prevent her from photographing and distributing photographs of my son’s naked body, regardless of the reasoning behind it. The police investigation concluded that her actions were obviously inappropriate and wrong, but that beyond child pornography, no such law exists. And to convict for that, there needs to be a “sexual intent” to the photos, which there obviously wasn’t.
My biggest issue then and now is that this photo is still in multiple people’s possession and I don’t know who has this image of my helpless son.
@@Riat519 OH NO. I have NOT gotten this far I'm still at the beginning of the video
@@Riat519 Why note that he was "helpless"? She wanted to make sure he was okay. That is why she took the picture. He was a year old, his bottom is not a sexual thing, and you know that she knew that.
My little guys is 22 months old and I’m JUST starting to consider day care for a day or two a week. So I’m helping myself by watching terrible experiences 😅 I think I’m gonna hold off a few more months
If it helps Ashley - I have signed Harry up for another daycare starting this fall with a woman I went to college with. I think finding someone you know, like, and trust is really important in childcare and I feel much better about this new caregiver than the previous one!
My daughter just started her first day of daycare today. I’m doing 3 days a week 7am - 5:30pm & it’s $45/day. Full time 5 days 7am - 5:30pm is $190/week. I am in NY where everything is expensive so I’m surprised to hear $100/day! This is so scary to me. I can’t even imagine!
I also want to add that after thinking about your experience I’m just completely mortified at the way you were treated & the photo is the worst part. I’m so sorry. I think you’re awesome & inspiring to me as a SMBC. You should be proud of the way you handled yourself. Thanks for sharing 💕
It's so hard to trust anybody with your baby.
Yes and they hate doctors they think rubbing butter works on everything lol
Try the nest schools
I hear your pain and frustration, but I think that the day care provider and assistant were doing a great job (minus the quick grabbing of Harry at the front door the first day), and while they did need a few tweaks on their protocol (writing a proper report after an injury), it sounds like they just had differences of opinion on how to best care for him, and that you got progressively angrier with them after the first day sunk in, and especially on the diaper rash/strep disagreement, and then you really took it to the next level with the report to licensing and police. Which would all be appropriate IF they had mistreated your child, of course, but they did not. I think you were just overwhelmed with student teaching, IVF news, the stress of his rash, and the natural discomfort with not being able to communicate with his caregiver (language barrier), but unfortunately that led to you assuming the very worst of these people, who appear to me (and this is from me 100% only getting your side of the story, which I presume to be 100% true, nevertheless they might have added more perspective....) anyway, they appear to me to be very caring and competent caregivers. Which you are trying to shut down, which will result in grief and harm to the children in their care! I do hope you can heal from this experience; it was just a bad week, and neither you nor they are bad people. Peace be with you.
PS As a stay at home mom of 2 boys, I also think there's a gap between your wanting everything to be done your way (COMPLETELY Understandable; you're a mama bear - so am I!) , and your wanting to rely on outside care (who are, obviously, not you). I am no expert on your side of the table since I've never had to leave my boys. But I do think, logically, you can't have it both ways. Even a nanny, which is way more personalized to your family preferences, is going to have differences of opinions and not do what you want. My mom was also a teacher and put her career on hold until I was 14 (there were 4 of us, so my youngest sibling was 6), and then went back for her credential, and even went on to get an administrative credential and several specialties. She had a wonderful career, but first, we were all able to be with her when we needed her most. You cannot get those years back with your son. Many children are absolutely emotionally fine with daycare - but many are not, especially if they are more sensitive souls. If your mom can care for him, that's wonderful!!!, or perhaps a nanny - but nannies you can't vouch for 1000%, and they may change jobs/move, and then your son loses another attachment person. Please consider that some of your anger may be a natural reaction to not being able to get the care for your son that you desperately wanted him to have - and only you, can be you!