Idk, in my case I think it's making him more adamant about getting back at me and/or proving my insults wrong...I'm soooo tired of him and the new supply. Before I ended it, he said he was gonna sell his house and move with his ex wife. Ok, now since he found his twin-flame and Disney princess, why don't he build her that castle he promised his ex? Trying to see how I can put that bug in their ear so they can move away cuz my ability to move is being slown down😪
@@LethalWeapon73 In my experiences with narcissist they were not romantic relationships and those narcissist knew that I was well respected by others in my community and I didn't have to tell them VERBALLY how disgusted I was by them, I SHOWED THEM how disgusted I was by them and their behavior, with an attitude of apathy and indifference toward them! Whenever you tell any toxic person about themselves, you still have to do it a certain way for it to work, especially with narcissist because narcissist doesn't mind if you tell them about themselves if you are still giving them access to your emotional energy!
@@tab6957 There is NO WAY to move on with your life until you reach a place of APATHY where you sincerely and genuinely don't care anymore and your ex knows it and feels it! You're going to have to live as if your ex is INVISIBLE to you and does not matter or exist! And if you have children with your ex, and you have to see him sometimes, you are going to have to keep an EMOTIONLESS POKER FACE and grey rock the heck out of that narcissist! You cannot give the narc ANY ACCESS to any kind of emotion! If you tell the narc about themselves, you can't do that with EMOTION, you have to do it CALMLY with a poker face that shows nothing but total disdain and disgust, AND THEN MOVE ON and don't repeat the conversation ever again! YOUR ACTIONS, must ALWAYS MATCH your words if ANYBODY, especially a narcissist, is going to take you seriously!
I had to completely ignore him and cut him off stop responding and block him and act like he doesn't exist just stay tf away and never look back because nothing is going to change and I made myself accept that 💯‼️
They will lie-Texting “ I love you” “Let’s get married” out of the blue - really haven’t talked to you or seen you in 10 months Don’t fall for this craziness ever again!
@@StayingsareeneI'm in my late 50's and spent 21 YEARS in and out of a narcissistic relationship. Please. Seek out therapy and pour all that love into yourself. If you had a difficult childhood but believe it didn't affect you. You're wrong. I wasted my entire life on the wrong men. Please love yourself more. I'm sending you love and strength on your journey to healing. ❤
👏👏👏👏 Great video Lee! 🤜🤛❤️ In order for the narcissist to leave you alone, the narcissist has to receive this message from you👉"ACCESS DENIED"! If I went to a ATM and I couldn't get any money out of it, I would stop going to that ATM and find another one that works! A narcissist can't get ANYTHING from you if you don't allow them ACCESS to your EMOTIONAL energy!
Not “Seal up the cheeks” 😂 nah that’s funny as hell. This is exactly what I did, cut off the cheeks and any love I had. Financially I stopped helping them drain me
I finally figured out: Abuse is about power and control. These feed the narc. Stop feeding them. Remove these things by not defending yourself, grey rocking, no contact, whatever it takes. = Peace and self esteem 💪
No contact has been the most peaceful thing in my life. No contact and changed my number, plus a criminal protection order against him for 3 yrs has been amazing! He couldn’t control himself with a regular restraining order. He had to push it into intimidation of me and he got nailed with a CPO
My anger towards the bad treatment towards me by the narcissist is helping me go complete no contact. Neglect of boundaries is what go me into this mess in the first place. Lesson learnt. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
Build up a paper trail on his harassment and get the court and law involved, see if they will give you a no contact order by court. He's in you so much bc he hasn't been able to completely replace you yet.
Man. Your words ring too true! I broke up with an ex a few years ago & when we were arguing, he accused me of calling him a narcissist but I didn't, I would never! He fumbled and said "oh sorry, I was thinking of something else" when I asked him who called him that, he wouldn't answer and changed the subject 😂 it took a week of no contact with him before I realized that he, himself, told me to my face that he is a narcissist 💥🤯 I got mine tho, sent him a glitter bomb in the mail and never looked back! Hell yeah!!!!
Supply- ✅️, Love-working on it, clapping of the cheeks-the ball has always been in his court on that one, emotions✅️-he has none, control reactions ✅️-just spoke my mind to him (which he has always hated!), no contact✅️but have to keep it that way, low contact✅️-he doesn't deserve my friendship/support/love, exposure doesn't really apply to our situation. Boundaries✅️✅️✅️-that is truly what he can't handle! 😊 So, I just have to stop the love.
TRUTH HURTS Apart from telling him what his actions was teaching me i started playing narcisist awerness videos out loud anytime i was alone with him he didnt last long after that..
I would say that no contact is #1!!!!! Everything else falls under that. There are levels to no contact depending on relativity i.e. kids together, shared ownership of things, in the same workplace, etc. But there are ways to go no/low contact without feeding supply
This is Absolutely The Poignant Truth. I know because I overcame Absolutely Abuse, I he hated me for it and I felt Absolutely wonderful that I was "ABLE" to get away all in one piece ‼️💯
Parenting app. Give him the link and then block. My bd doesn’t respect boundaries, so he doesn’t have access and I changed my #. Also parenting apps have a record and courts recommend them
My narcissist pretty much self eliminated himself after my 15 year old son jumped in between us and defended me while he was following me and yelling at me. Afterwards he played the victim so I printed the divorce paperwork out and he was like "yes lets sign i am sooooo happy we are divorcing" lol treated me like I cheated or something. So now I'm on day 16 of separation. I couldnt go no contact because we still had business to work through but i went minimal and needs only contact
As someone who has done all 5 of these, IT WORKS. I am not able to do no contact as per my divorce decree but I’ve chosen to do low contact for the sake of my mental health. Email contact only. No phone calls, no texts. EMAIL ONLY.
Piss the narcissist off and gray rock 💯😂 your computer sound 😂😂😂 everything Lee says works No contact, then clean your house. Work out, walk, swim. Change your patterns. Text them when you have children. Have a meeting place, the police department. Keep all records for a court battle ❤ save face! Videos too
@@mariecruze259 amen to that ❤️😆document absolutely everything. I kept journals starting at age 4. I survived the abuse and neglect. Sadly, my mom and brother died. Proud scapegoat who is now thriving. The Lord is my shepherd, he lay me down in green pastures 🕊️🥰
My protection order expires next week and I cannot request a 2 year extension because the criminal violation trial is set a few day's later. Regardless of what happens in court, I am thankful I was able to legally expose him, separate from him and then report him for contacting and stalking me. These are things I once thought I'd never have the strength to do. I also believe standing up for myself is something HE never thought I'd have the strength to do. Over twenty years of abuse and I'm finally free.
Set a boundary and you'll see! Also take away what belongs to you that you allowed them to benefit from and you will see how they'll come after you and that's when you realize you were being used. I cut him off but it's really hard when I still have to see him around but I just act like idk him and he's a stranger but it's super hard
Today is 268 days of no contact for me Lee. I have never been happier in all my life. I am glad he is gone. He was a complete emotionally abusive nut case.
I figured it out before watching this video. I exposed mine like hell to his wife and his daughter once I found out the truth and when he contacted me 3 months later texting from his ex wife # once I figured out it was him....I insulted him badly with things he's sensitive about...I hit below the belt and made him angry with the pretend person he was trying to portray....then I told him he was sick bc, I knew this was him and he went quite. Never heard from him again. I know I caused a narcissistic rage or collapse. I'm a super empath and nothing to be played with. He lucky I didn't inflict more damage. 😉👍
My narcissistic ex tried so hard to ruin my reputation luckily people at my workplace know me on a genuine level so they all caught on to her. She went from having majority of the workplace respect her to just having the admiration of just two people. Meanwhile im happy just being myself and everyone socializes and laughs along with me on a daily basis. The funny thing is i can tell shes angry about it because people other than myself have caught her staring at me and i dont give her a glimpse of my gaze.
My narcissistic ex has had a cannabis addiction for most of his 30 years of life,because of that I’m sure I haven’t just been dealing with his narcissisism. I’ve took my power back and he’s literally losing the plot which means I’m unsafe he only lives 5 doors away. 😪
I’m trying to remember how many people got seriously hurt because of marijuana versus alcohol and other drugs. Alcohol and marijuana are legal in a lot of states.
Some narcassists even if you only showed little attention they seem to never fprget it or takes a long time for them to realise your not into them anymore
"Typicaly"u right u can try everything & they might still not live you. I am doing grey rock , no contact , no reaction & he is still trying to emotional abuse me through our child.
@@sachikonakohara8386 well, he lives near me so that makes it really hard. No contact over 5 months now. He still seems to be trying to do a "bump into you hoover". He's also a bum with no job, so lots of time on his hands to spy on me.
I told them their conversation has no substance to me,they said next time we are in contact we will have something to talk about and to take care of myself. They then deleted themselves (I think). I responded take care of yourself too. They hadn't blocked me. I left it as that, it's been 2 days. So I said just in case they come back let me block them. 😅.
Mine told me I became unloved bc of HIS mistakes!! WHAT?? So bc I went thru his phone due to all his cheating & me insulting him bc of his "mistakes" (calls his constant cheating mistakes) SMH. Pretty much made his cheating miniscule to me invading his privacy!!
Hey !! My narc says if I would have just: Stayed off my phone Removed all social media Abandon my children Stay away from my family Stay away from my friends Abandoned my animals Gave him SX twice a day Made his food Cleaned up after him And give him 24/7 attention THEN HE WONT HAVE HAD TO CHEAT AND ABUSE ME SO MUCH ! I said umm sooo I SHOULD WANT TO BE ABUSED - He said NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE YOU- and YES I GOT WOMEN TO GET RID OF THEIR KIDS AND SHIT- ITS FUN (yes he said FUN) TO MAKE THEM DO SHIT FOR ME - Aka - letting fathers take the kids so they’re not around him when he’s cheating with these women, having them tattoo, his name on their body, telling them that he’s leaving his wife a.k.a. me.. and having them make him food when he gets there and it better be there the messages I’ve read blows my mind. He does not love bomb them. He treats him like shit from the beginning and they’re still sitting there at least 11 of them are he still converses with them and he still takes off to see them😂😂😂 When I called him out for all of it .. he laughs and says THATS YOUR BELIEFS - NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE YOU- MOST OF THEN MAKE THEIR MAN FIRST PRIORITY .. I am so so grateful that I got him away from the person that he had been suffocating for 12 years. She is now with an amazing man has a beautiful son and she looks absolutely gorgeous! He tore her down so bad he took everything away from her. .. and tried to triangulate her with me ! He took my phone and sent her PICS OF US DOING THINGS & said the cruelest most vial things to her.. Now I just need to get away and stay away so I can have my life back .. Peace to you all !!
IF MY EX NARC KEEP THREAT ME TELLING ME HE WILL COME TO MY HOUSE TO SPEAK TO MY PARTNER AND TELL HIM ALL MY SECRET...WILL HE REALLY DO IT??OR THEY JUST WANT TO SCARY ME?
Cut off contact with him completely! Thats blackmail and illegal, get the cops to call him and warn him of harassment... either way, regardless it's his word vs. Yours! Tell your partner he's been harassing you with threats odlf lying on you that way ur parter will be prepared
Thankyou for your video, you should have an Honorary Doctorate in Psychology with emphasis on Narc-Removal. Like getting antibiotics for your willy after a relationship with these creatures thankyou
Thank you I’m going thur this I’ve tried to help , but no matter what he try’s to flip it But today I’m going to not reply not open messages So he not see READ , I must protect my Energy as my light shines without drama solo
Yes I went no contact for two months. We have children. He used them every time. I let him back in and it got worst. I know that I have to just stop being nice and stick to no means no.
Been away from my ex from 10 years and he still keeps telling our 2 sons to tell me hi🤦🏾♀️. I don’t know if that’s the beginning of another Hoover or what?
It's a hoover, he doesn't want you forgetting about him. Just keep it where he's not able to contact you at all. Tell the boys to save your number under another name just in case
Well mine got my new number out of nowhere 🤦🏾♀️ and called last week. My wife called me at 6 am. I was shocked and went into fight or flight but remained calm. I was quiet 🤐 she got mad cussed me out and after the third call she said she was only mad at her gf (NS) that’s the only reason she was calling 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️😂. I told her about the divorce she got mad 😡 and said that’s not why she called. She sounded dry as the desert 😅😅😅
Yes Typically… stress that because you’re contradicting yourself you also give the information when you say this is how you will attract a narcissist by rejecting them
No contact has given me so much peace.
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Tell them the truth about themselves. You'll never hear from them again.
💯🎯🎯🎯👍🤭😂😂😂😂
Idk, in my case I think it's making him more adamant about getting back at me and/or proving my insults wrong...I'm soooo tired of him and the new supply. Before I ended it, he said he was gonna sell his house and move with his ex wife. Ok, now since he found his twin-flame and Disney princess, why don't he build her that castle he promised his ex? Trying to see how I can put that bug in their ear so they can move away cuz my ability to move is being slown down😪
Done that and he still finds a way to lie and change narrative like he’s this victim and we’ve been separated for 7.5 years.
@@LethalWeapon73 In my experiences with narcissist they were not romantic relationships and those narcissist knew that I was well respected by others in my community and I didn't have to tell them VERBALLY how disgusted I was by them, I SHOWED THEM how disgusted I was by them and their behavior, with an attitude of apathy and indifference toward them! Whenever you tell any toxic person about themselves, you still have to do it a certain way for it to work, especially with narcissist because narcissist doesn't mind if you tell them about themselves if you are still giving them access to your emotional energy!
@@tab6957 There is NO WAY to move on with your life until you reach a place of APATHY where you sincerely and genuinely don't care anymore and your ex knows it and feels it! You're going to have to live as if your ex is INVISIBLE to you and does not matter or exist! And if you have children with your ex, and you have to see him sometimes, you are going to have to keep an EMOTIONLESS POKER FACE and grey rock the heck out of that narcissist! You cannot give the narc ANY ACCESS to any kind of emotion! If you tell the narc about themselves, you can't do that with EMOTION, you have to do it CALMLY with a poker face that shows nothing but total disdain and disgust, AND THEN MOVE ON and don't repeat the conversation ever again! YOUR ACTIONS, must ALWAYS MATCH your words if ANYBODY, especially a narcissist, is going to take you seriously!
No contact is very important. I'm 2yrs already with no contact. 😅🎉🎉😅
No contact starves them out. It's a game-changer. 😊
🙏🏽🙏🏽 stay safe
I had to completely ignore him and cut him off stop responding and block him and act like he doesn't exist just stay tf away and never look back because nothing is going to change and I made myself accept that 💯‼️
Stay strong
@@MentalHealness I am 💯💪🏾🙌🏾🗣️‼️
They will lie-Texting “ I love you” “Let’s get married” out of the blue - really haven’t talked to you or seen you in 10 months
Don’t fall for this craziness ever again!
“😂seal up the cheeks”. Smart man you are! Cut off the canals and doors of connection & communication!
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These video are cracking me up today. Cut off the cheeks 😂😂😂 can't believe a topic on narcissism is making me laugh. I'm healed fam.
Same!!! LOL!!!!
“No” is the best way to get rid of people who are only takers 😬
Being disciplined with my thoughts and feelings is my greatest achievement
8:00 Yes! Don’t break NO CONTACT! I did and things got worse
I AGREE A THOUSAND TIMES !!!! Broke it three times .. I’m in the third now & worse is such a nice word for torture .. 😢
@@deehyatt5173🙏🏼for discernment &
Strength
"Those who no not faith, cannot know true love"
You can't save anyone
❤ yourself
@@deehyatt5173 Probably made him feel in charge again.
My ex just texted me yesterday.. I want to go back but I don’t know
@@StayingsareeneI'm in my late 50's and spent 21 YEARS in and out of a narcissistic relationship.
Please. Seek out therapy and pour all that love into yourself.
If you had a difficult childhood but believe it didn't affect you.
You're wrong.
I wasted my entire life on the wrong men.
Please love yourself more.
I'm sending you love and strength on your journey to healing. ❤
👏👏👏👏 Great video Lee! 🤜🤛❤️ In order for the narcissist to leave you alone, the narcissist has to receive this message from you👉"ACCESS DENIED"! If I went to a ATM and I couldn't get any money out of it, I would stop going to that ATM and find another one that works! A narcissist can't get ANYTHING from you if you don't allow them ACCESS to your EMOTIONAL energy!
Thank you
@@MentalHealness You are welcome and you deserve it for taking the time out to help others! Stay blessed! 👍💯❤️
1. Cut Supply
2 No reaction
3. No contact
4. Low contact
5. Exposure/ setting
boundaries ❤
No contact it's been 8 years, it's been amazing.
Stay ghost, block them on everything, including their friends. Cyber stalking is REAL💯
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Not “Seal up the cheeks” 😂 nah that’s funny as hell. This is exactly what I did, cut off the cheeks and any love I had. Financially I stopped helping them drain me
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Fact's 💯💯💯🙊🙈🙉🙏🙏🙏
😂 I laughed at seal of the cheeks. Your statement is true
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I finally figured out:
Abuse is about power and control.
These feed the narc.
Stop feeding them.
Remove these things by not defending yourself, grey rocking, no contact, whatever it takes.
= Peace and self esteem 💪
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Mine definitely used me for emotional connection. He loves it! I make him feel something inside.
No contact has been the most peaceful thing in my life. No contact and changed my number, plus a criminal protection order against him for 3 yrs has been amazing! He couldn’t control himself with a regular restraining order. He had to push it into intimidation of me and he got nailed with a CPO
Move, change your phone number, and ignore them until they go away and love you alone.
Backfire to narcissist, I love God thank God Amen
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My anger towards the bad treatment towards me by the narcissist is helping me go complete no contact. Neglect of boundaries is what go me into this mess in the first place. Lesson learnt. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
Sorry Lee. I have done all that and guess what?? It just makes the narcissist to want me more. He is totally obsessed. I am lost right now☹
Build up a paper trail on his harassment and get the court and law involved, see if they will give you a no contact order by court. He's in you so much bc he hasn't been able to completely replace you yet.
It’s a game to them so the more you play, the more you lose.
The last step is the reason why we broken up for sure . Standing on my boundaries 🫠
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Man. Your words ring too true! I broke up with an ex a few years ago & when we were arguing, he accused me of calling him a narcissist but I didn't, I would never! He fumbled and said "oh sorry, I was thinking of something else" when I asked him who called him that, he wouldn't answer and changed the subject 😂 it took a week of no contact with him before I realized that he, himself, told me to my face that he is a narcissist 💥🤯 I got mine tho, sent him a glitter bomb in the mail and never looked back! Hell yeah!!!!
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Why’d I start lol at the same time! Every time you say “clapping tha cheeks”; I️ lose it every time. 😂😂😂😂
Supply- ✅️, Love-working on it, clapping of the cheeks-the ball has always been in his court on that one, emotions✅️-he has none, control reactions ✅️-just spoke my mind to him (which he has always hated!), no contact✅️but have to keep it that way, low contact✅️-he doesn't deserve my friendship/support/love, exposure doesn't really apply to our situation. Boundaries✅️✅️✅️-that is truly what he can't handle! 😊 So, I just have to stop the love.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
TRUTH HURTS
Apart from telling him what his actions was teaching me i started playing narcisist awerness videos out loud anytime i was alone with him he didnt last long after that..
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Seal up the Cheeks!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 OMG. Hilarious! Love your Vids…
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I would say that no contact is #1!!!!! Everything else falls under that. There are levels to no contact depending on relativity i.e. kids together, shared ownership of things, in the same workplace, etc. But there are ways to go no/low contact without feeding supply
yea, the list isnt in order lol. NO contact is so important
This is Absolutely The Poignant Truth. I know because I overcame Absolutely Abuse, I he hated me for it and I felt Absolutely wonderful that I was "ABLE" to get away all in one piece ‼️💯
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It’s hard when it’s a kid involve 😢😢
Parenting app. Give him the link and then block. My bd doesn’t respect boundaries, so he doesn’t have access and I changed my #. Also parenting apps have a record and courts recommend them
Firm parenting plan, specific drop off location, only communicate in parenting app or text only, limit to 1x a week- don’t speak at drop off
Use the "D.E.E.P. technique" don't Defend, don't Engage, don't Explain, don't Personalize.
My narcissist pretty much self eliminated himself after my 15 year old son jumped in between us and defended me while he was following me and yelling at me. Afterwards he played the victim so I printed the divorce paperwork out and he was like "yes lets sign i am sooooo happy we are divorcing" lol treated me like I cheated or something. So now I'm on day 16 of separation. I couldnt go no contact because we still had business to work through but i went minimal and needs only contact
As someone who has done all 5 of these, IT WORKS. I am not able to do no contact as per my divorce decree but I’ve chosen to do low contact for the sake of my mental health. Email contact only. No phone calls, no texts. EMAIL ONLY.
Piss the narcissist off and gray rock 💯😂 your computer sound 😂😂😂 everything Lee says works
No contact, then clean your house. Work out, walk, swim. Change your patterns. Text them when you have children. Have a meeting place, the police department. Keep all records for a court battle ❤ save face! Videos too
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@@mariecruze259 amen to that ❤️😆document absolutely everything. I kept journals starting at age 4. I survived the abuse and neglect. Sadly, my mom and brother died.
Proud scapegoat who is now thriving.
The Lord is my shepherd, he lay me down in green pastures 🕊️🥰
If grey rock doesn't work, try ghosting if you can.
have to stay safe
My protection order expires next week and I cannot request a 2 year extension because the criminal violation trial is set a few day's later. Regardless of what happens in court, I am thankful I was able to legally expose him, separate from him and then report him for contacting and stalking me. These are things I once thought I'd never have the strength to do. I also believe standing up for myself is something HE never thought I'd have the strength to do. Over twenty years of abuse and I'm finally free.
PROTECT YA NECK - ABANDON THE CHEEKS 🔥
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5:59 I LOVEEEEE the way you explained how the changing reaction works!!! OMG YOU'RE A GENIUS!!!😂😂👍🏻👍🏻💯💯
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NO CONTACT!! This put the nails in the coffin. I recall the weird text I got and deleted that sh!t.
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Set a boundary and you'll see! Also take away what belongs to you that you allowed them to benefit from and you will see how they'll come after you and that's when you realize you were being used. I cut him off but it's really hard when I still have to see him around but I just act like idk him and he's a stranger but it's super hard
Today is 268 days of no contact for me Lee. I have never been happier in all my life. I am glad he is gone. He was a complete emotionally abusive nut case.
Good job!❤
No contact with them feels like heaven 😊
Thank U! I need take control on my reactions, like you said, Lee.
You are so welcome
No contact never want. to 😂be in hell again peace love it😅
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I Love this video Lee!!! This information is soooo on point!!!!
Glad it was helpful!
I figured it out before watching this video. I exposed mine like hell to his wife and his daughter once I found out the truth and when he contacted me 3 months later texting from his ex wife # once I figured out it was him....I insulted him badly with things he's sensitive about...I hit below the belt and made him angry with the pretend person he was trying to portray....then I told him he was sick bc, I knew this was him and he went quite. Never heard from him again. I know I caused a narcissistic rage or collapse. I'm a super empath and nothing to be played with. He lucky I didn't inflict more damage. 😉👍
"Abandon the cheeks" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Bro, you're made hilarious.
My narcissistic ex tried so hard to ruin my reputation luckily people at my workplace know me on a genuine level so they all caught on to her. She went from having majority of the workplace respect her to just having the admiration of just two people. Meanwhile im happy just being myself and everyone socializes and laughs along with me on a daily basis. The funny thing is i can tell shes angry about it because people other than myself have caught her staring at me and i dont give her a glimpse of my gaze.
Definitely need to call time out on any cheek clappage 😂😂😂
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Thx u for ur videos lee they've helped me I've never known people like this existed till I meet my ex and his family!
Yes no contact is the key!
My narcissistic ex has had a cannabis addiction for most of his 30 years of life,because of that I’m sure I haven’t just been dealing with his narcissisism. I’ve took my power back and he’s literally losing the plot which means I’m unsafe he only lives 5 doors away. 😪
Ve safe omg
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Be safe. Mine had a cannabis addiction and addiction to perks. I also suspect he had schizophrenia.
How does him smoking weed make you unsafe?
I’m trying to remember how many people got seriously hurt because of marijuana versus alcohol and other drugs. Alcohol and marijuana are legal in a lot of states.
Some narcassists even if you only showed little attention they seem to never fprget it or takes a long time for them to realise your not into them anymore
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Thank God for you.. ❤ I really needed to hear this.i been going through this for a long time. I'm taking my power back..❤❤
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No contact definitely works .then they just start digging into the new supplier
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Thank you your so right he try to say hi a few times I just walked away in silence like a big bye 👋 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Number one way : ignore them
"Typicaly"u right u can try everything & they might still not live you. I am doing grey rock , no contact , no reaction & he is still trying to emotional abuse me through our child.
The devil is a liar 😮😮😮
I like this, Lee. This is good stuff. I’m going to keep this with me.
appreciate it
No contact isn't working. Trying harder with shame and insults. This fool and his new supply need to get a life.
How long has it been for you? It doesn't work for me either.
@@sachikonakohara8386 well, he lives near me so that makes it really hard. No contact over 5 months now. He still seems to be trying to do a "bump into you hoover". He's also a bum with no job, so lots of time on his hands to spy on me.
Uggh, when I first met him, thought he was going through some bad depression cuz of his divorce. Now I see the whole time he is/was a druggy bum. 🤦
@@tab6957have you been able to reorganize how you go about your day so you can confuse and dodge him? Dude sounds dangerous.
I'm genuinely curious how it isn't working? Are you responding? Do you have kids or something where you have to talk to them?
I told them their conversation has no substance to me,they said next time we are in contact we will have something to talk about and to take care of myself. They then deleted themselves (I think). I responded take care of yourself too. They hadn't blocked me. I left it as that, it's been 2 days. So I said just in case they come back let me block them. 😅.
Mine told me I became unloved bc of HIS mistakes!! WHAT?? So bc I went thru his phone due to all his cheating & me insulting him bc of his "mistakes" (calls his constant cheating mistakes) SMH. Pretty much made his cheating miniscule to me invading his privacy!!
Hey !! My narc says if I would have just:
Stayed off my phone
Removed all social media
Abandon my children
Stay away from my family
Stay away from my friends
Abandoned my animals
Gave him SX twice a day
Made his food
Cleaned up after him
And give him 24/7 attention
THEN HE WONT HAVE HAD TO CHEAT AND ABUSE ME SO MUCH !
I said umm sooo I SHOULD WANT TO BE ABUSED -
He said NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE YOU- and YES I GOT WOMEN TO GET RID OF THEIR KIDS AND SHIT- ITS FUN (yes he said FUN) TO MAKE THEM DO SHIT FOR ME -
Aka - letting fathers take the kids so they’re not around him when he’s cheating with these women, having them tattoo, his name on their body, telling them that he’s leaving his wife a.k.a. me.. and having them make him food when he gets there and it better be there the messages I’ve read blows my mind. He does not love bomb them. He treats him like shit from the beginning and they’re still sitting there at least 11 of them are he still converses with them and he still takes off to see them😂😂😂
When I called him out for all of it .. he laughs and says THATS YOUR BELIEFS - NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE YOU- MOST OF THEN MAKE THEIR MAN FIRST PRIORITY ..
I am so so grateful that I got him away from the person that he had been suffocating for 12 years. She is now with an amazing man has a beautiful son and she looks absolutely gorgeous! He tore her down so bad he took everything away from her. .. and tried to triangulate her with me ! He took my phone and sent her PICS OF US DOING THINGS & said the cruelest most vial things to her..
Now I just need to get away and stay away so I can have my life back ..
Peace to you all !!
You are so helpful
Went no contact he contacted me on some other phone and I fell into his gaslighting defending myself against his false accusations
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🤣😂 you gotta change that reaction code. 😂😂🤣
"Seal up the cheeks!" 😂😂
All you need to say is that you don’t believe a word that comes out of their mouth
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Love ❤️ you Lee !!
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I honestly love your sense of humour 🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥🔥
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Keep your head straight 😂😂
Am doing just that lee , cut off all supply, no contact.
No cheeks my narcisst gets 😂😂😂yeah he ruined it all
They the best at cheek clapping 😂😂😂 its hard
This is difficult when you have children with someone
IF MY EX NARC KEEP THREAT ME TELLING ME HE WILL COME TO MY HOUSE TO SPEAK TO MY PARTNER AND TELL HIM ALL MY SECRET...WILL HE REALLY DO IT??OR THEY JUST WANT TO SCARY ME?
They’re cowards
@@coppertonedone so he will.not you think?
Of course he will! Anything to try and control and hurt you. Take care and God bless.
Cut off contact with him completely! Thats blackmail and illegal, get the cops to call him and warn him of harassment... either way, regardless it's his word vs. Yours! Tell your partner he's been harassing you with threats odlf lying on you that way ur parter will be prepared
@@empressb444 thank you .....
Facts I made him feel so small
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This is coworkers for me. They’re obsessed and my boss has gotten them to watch me for them. It’s messed up
Thankyou for your video, you should have an Honorary Doctorate in Psychology with emphasis on Narc-Removal. Like getting antibiotics for your willy after a relationship with these creatures thankyou
Thank you I’m going thur this
I’ve tried to help , but no matter what he try’s to flip it
But today I’m going to not reply not open messages
So he not see READ ,
I must protect my Energy as my light shines without drama solo
The things is i cut him out completely and he could not contact me. I dont react, I simply keep living. But still he stalks me around.
Yes I went no contact for two months. We have children. He used them every time. I let him back in and it got worst. I know that I have to just stop being nice and stick to no means no.
stay safe
I live with my wife and two daughters and I don't talk to her unless she brings up some maintenance issues on the house , it's hard though
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Been away from my ex from 10 years and he still keeps telling our 2 sons to tell me hi🤦🏾♀️. I don’t know if that’s the beginning of another Hoover or what?
It's a hoover, he doesn't want you forgetting about him. Just keep it where he's not able to contact you at all. Tell the boys to save your number under another name just in case
Well mine got my new number out of nowhere 🤦🏾♀️ and called last week. My wife called me at 6 am. I was shocked and went into fight or flight but remained calm. I was quiet 🤐 she got mad cussed me out and after the third call she said she was only mad at her gf (NS) that’s the only reason she was calling 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️😂. I told her about the divorce she got mad 😡 and said that’s not why she called. She sounded dry as the desert 😅😅😅
Am few weeks no contact
I figured it out
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They hate boundaries . I HAD to set boundaries and they would not respect it I m no contact. 3 weeks🎉🎉
They hate boundaries . I HAD to set boundaries and would not respect it I m no contact. 3 weeks
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Im 13 weeks no contact. He is obsessively blocking and unblocking me. Hes blocked on everything. I dont want him here
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Yes Typically… stress that because you’re contradicting yourself you also give the information when you say this is how you will attract a narcissist by rejecting them
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How do you go no contact block him? What if you have a child how do you do no contact?
that's tough to do. you want to aim for LOW contact
Abandon the cheeks lol
I like to defy gravity......lol. if they want a shit show baby, I'm the fan....lol.
I wish I could cutoff financial supply, that Got Damn child support makes that impossible though smh
stay safe and protect your peace
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How do I go no contact before getting a divorce?
Got it! Minimal contact.
I had to put a restraining order on him to leave me alone so do what you have to do