WHAT I'M WEARING: Turtleneck: Verafied bit.ly/3hAzxLm Belt: A few years old from Massimo Dutti Earrings: bit.ly/3WqdCVP and bit.ly/3Yw5TYh Jeans: Aritzia Denim Forum bit.ly/3PynXwT
My regretful purchases have taught me about my body type, what is flattering for my body type, my lifestyle, and my taste. Personal style is always a journey♥
The pieces I regret buying are ones I feel absolutely beautiful in, they’re flattering, fit and feel good, I feel beautiful, but the problem is that I never have such occasions to wear them. It’s so hard to wave good bye to pieces that make you feel wonderful like that and have no down fall! However my lifestyle just doesn’t present me with opportunities to get the most out of those pieces 🙁
I'm the same, work clothes and weekend clothes are very different, however last year i tried to make the commitment of introducing more weekend clothes to my work days and i felt my mood shift instantly. hopefully you can find the space to bring them out into your life, we all deserve to feel good
Same. I have this psychological game i play witj myself. Imagine i see something but it isn't available in my size. Would i be sad or ok? If i would be ok, then i don't really love it. I need to LOVE a piece. How i also deal with that is to leave it. If i cant stop thinking about it after a month, i get it
I think the lavender with dark green would also be gorgeous and I know you like dark green. Sometimes I think black can be to stark for some of those lighter colors and a slightly softer dark color works better.
Or lavender with a deeper brown. Notice how it pops against the color of the brown belt that Audrey's wearing! I think there are still ways to style it, it just doesn't go with black
I think that even if she would pair it with another garment, she still wouldn’t like to wear it because she said that she liked more magenta(ish) colors on her (sorry if my English is not perfect it’s not my mother tongue)
Hi Audrey, regarding the lavender sweater I think an easy fix is Rit dye. If you use a darker shade than the sweater it should work. If an item has the right fit and fabric, I use dye to tweak (or completely change) the color to fit my palette better. The downside is that it takes patience to execute properly and the end result is not always predictable. Nevertheless, it has salvaged many wrong purchases for me.
Two other things to watch out for with over-dying knits- 1.) *shrinkage* if it’s a dye that requires a hot water bath (Dylon can work with warm water but I’ve never tried it with knits), and 2.) any *exposed stitching* since nearly all ready to wear clothing construction utilizes synthetic thread. I haven’t over-dyed anything in a long time because it’s rare to find a perfect candidate; I just use dye to refresh faded like-color items (such as black jeans).
@@HosCreates Most craft stores carry RIT, and some carry Dylon (my local Joann Fabrics store has both). There are many drug stores and grocery stores that carry RIT (laundry aisle). Of course, there are plenty of places to order from online as well, and there are other brands options out there too (the only other one I know of off the top of my head is Jacquard, but I’ve never personally tried it).
The darker purple color definitely suits you better than the icy light purple. I like that you added the shot of you in your darker purple blouse right after the light purple sweater- it was very easy to see the difference in how your skin looked. Your face looked much more glowy and healthy looking in the darker maroon/purple. Interesting how much of difference colors make!
Even though I'm pretty happy with 99% of my online purchases (including a great pair of boots), boots in general are something I've learned to try on in-person to avoid regrets. Happy new year!
Regarding that ice-lilac sweater: Since it's absolutely perfect in every other way, I would try to wear it with a scarf in a color that suits (like burgundy). I have a wool coat in a color that's a little too light for me (lavender)- I style it with strong, deep-colored wool scarves (burgundy, deep bright blue, golden rod) and it works. My biggest clothing regrets had to do with silhouettes that were ultimately unflattering on my body.
I have also had to come to terms that I don’t love linen for the same reasons. What’s good for other people, not always good for me. I determined this summer that I prefer crisp poplin cottons and should generally avoid linen. All beautiful pieces in this video but I can see why you are moving on.
The blouse in white with the lavander floral pattern is beautiful on you Audrey. White being the dominate colour balances it on you for me. That brand does some absolutely beautiful feminine pieces. I think the dress looks lovely, but not with the black ballet flats, they look too heavy for such a light airy dress. I find the correct footwear is always vital to the overall look of an outfit. However, if the cut is wrong for you in the bust, let it go. Nothing worse than feeling like "you're going to fall out". While the lavender jumper is gorgeous I agree the deeper purple suits your colouring. Shame about the boots, they are beautiful. Great video, thank you 🤍💜🖤
Something I really want to work on this year is to stop buying items for occasions far in the future or just in case scenarios. I get in almost like a honeymoon phase with the excitement of a new purchase and am not as discerning and critical as I should be about fit. By the time an occasion comes around (if it ever actually does), I’m often left wondering what I was thinking or realizing I settled for a fit that wasn’t ideal but only “good enough to keep” then the return window has passed
I am much older and have learned also the hard way- when a neckline is too low and having it altered would change the bust line too much, regardless of anything else, back it must go. Sometimes when I buy 2 of the same tops like you said you did with the Doen, usually 1 works out great & the other doesn't, so this happens. Maybe try a detailed collared shirt under the lavender sweater to help add a color that works better for you? Or a dickie? As for the boots, very good lesson going forward and the only way to have learned that was to play around with them. I've been there with similar issues w/all these. It's great you are learning and are so aware. LOVE your channel!
The lavender sweater is so so pretty and in my opinion it looks great on you! When I saw a video of you in this sweater a while back, it really inspired me and I have since purchased two lavender sweaters. (I am a "cool winter" as a color type).
These are learning lessons in life and Discovering what is your true personal style which is so important to learn. Years ago I bought a piece that wasn't my style and ended up donating it. I am so happy that all my clothes in my wardrobe are 💯me!
Same here, my first lesson: Color. I got a tiny bit into armocromia, and as soon as I realised which colors work for me, that was a huge change. When you showed your lavender pieces I knew the color was the issue before you even said it. And secondly, I almost entirely stopped buying online. I learned I need to try clothes on to see fabric, fit, style and so on. Lastly, quality of the fabric. So many polyester clothes I bought when I was in my fast-fashion twenties I simply couldn't wear because how sweaty they make me. Or shoes that were not leather that hurt my feet. Lovely video, thanks!
I also had a similar issue with a pair of ankle boots and I found that the following 2 styling hacks worked: Wearing trousers with the cuffs rolled up worked well; or otherwise wearing black socks that peaked out from the shaft and that I then pushed back down to form gathers, which gave the impression of the boot fitting tighter. Not sure if either of those will work for you. They are lovely looking boots!
Great video! As a wellness coach I'm always posting pictures of myself. I've learned there are a lot of clothing items that don't work for me, but I've never really analyzed why they don't work. Mostly having to do with my lifestyle is too casual to wear a lot of the things in my closet. This is very helpful. I think those black boots would look awesome with that outfit that you recreated from pinterest with the light cropped sweater and the cropped pants.
I noticed when I want to try a new-for-me color, I tend to look for a cheap option just so I know for sure if the color suits me. If it doesn’t, it’s not too big of a regret and if it does, I can now start looking for more expensive items in that color. It’s not the best/ most sustainable approach, but it works!
I have a few regrets over items that no longer suit my style, which is fine because style does change over time. One thing I have regretted though are not being strict enough in fabric composition and sizing. Thinking a pair of jeans will fit better if I just amp up my workout routine is NOT a good reason to keep an item
Idea for the linen dress: add a piece of lace or ribbon to the neck, either in a straight, horizontal orientation, only to the bottom of the scoop to "square it off" and add coverage, OR add a pleated trim all around the neck, fastened (sewn) under the seam of the scoop as if it's peeking out from underneath the dress. Either detail would look appropriate with the umpire waist of the garment, would add modesty, and would still allow the dress to be airy and comfortable in hot, muggy weather.
I agree - I'd work a little on that dress, too. I like your idea of adding a bit of faux undergarment. That could really work and give it just enough detail.
I have found that my style’s definitely change over time. I recently cleaned out my closet and gave a large amount of clothes to a coworker. I am more selective in my purchases as sometimes I add to my cart but give it a few days before purchasing.. also, it may be helpful to know that some pieces can easily be dyed to another shade you may favor more!
Why not wear with white pants. Personally , I think it is much more flattering than the brown sweater you are wearing. Also, I don't get the holes on the lower half of the sleeves?
Totally related!!! So many times I´ve had the feeling that something is perfect for me but then I hardly ever wear it because I don´t find myself looking beautiful in it. Most of times it´s been due to the color. I´ve learned that dark colour are suitable for me and that I should avoid soft ones.
I did exactly the same thing with a lilac jumper! I wanted to bring some colour into my wardrobe, but a crewneck lilac on my olive-y skin just didn't work. Thanks for showing an alternative - and really great tips to consider on how not to make the same mistakes again.
This is a huge mistake I have been making and I have vowed to do better this year. Since I buy most of my clothes online I always make sure I try them on as soon as they arrive so I can return the failures. However, apparently I am not being strict enough in my original judgment. They some times hang in the closet for weeks or months before the time comes to wear them. I then put them on and wonder what I was thinking when I decided they were good enough to keep. I can then see they don't fit correctly or are"off" in some way. I need to be more judgmental when they arrive.
I feel your pain. I purchased a pair of taupe knee-length boots from a brand I have many pairs of. This was almost 3 years ago, when we were still in lockdown and not dressing up to go out anywhere, so they stayed in the closet, untouched, ever since. Last week, since the weather has cooled down enough, I decided it was time to take my "new" boots out for a spin. THEY. DO. NOT. FIT. Even with the thinnest socks, my foot is cramped inside. It is so bad that I looked to see if I had ordered the wrong size, but no, they are the same size as the exact same boot (brand and style) I have in black and in cognac. I then tried those older boots again, thinking that perhaps my feet had widened, but that wasn't the problem either. These new boots are supposed to be "the same" but are made differently. I'm going to have to gift them because there's no way I can wear them---my mistake for not trying them when they arrived in the mail!
@@irairod5160 that is very disappointing! I have noticed that different colors of the same brand and style can fit differently. I had a pair of cream leather heels that I had to sell when the black leather in the same style fit much better. I wonder if it has to do with the dying process? Jeans are like that for me also
I relate to this so much! The regret of realizing you should’ve just gotten your money back and now have brand new items that most likely will go straight to donation is an awful feeling. I need to stop procrastinating on driving to the store/shipping returns too because those dates sneak up on you lol
Audrey, I’m writing as an artist who is very attune to color. And, while I certainly respect your personal experience and observations I felt you may appreciate an artists perspective. I understand your difficulty in embracing a new color into your closet and lifestyle. I struggle with this as well. I think part of the problem is that basic colors are so interchangeable that I am use to my whole wardrobe mixing and matching. It can feel a bit discontinuous to incorporate a color that may not coordinate with everything. However, I hope you don’t mind my sharing that I am sad the lavender sweater and patterned blouse didn’t find a welcome in your closet. In my view you look stunning in both. They bring out a life light from within you. They make your eyes stand out and your hair look a richer bluer black more shiny and lustrous. They even out your skin tone and make you look soft and feminine yet confident and strong. They give your look a tone of grace and elegance. They really were outstandingly lovely on you. They both also actually combine beautifully with black, white, winter white and some shades of camel and even dark indigo blue and navy as well as grey. To my eye you looked better in the lavender sweater than in the camel shade of sweater worn for the video! This lavender sweater and printed blouse also revealed the ethereal nature of your body type and personal expression discovered in the body typing video you shared so graciously with us. Oddly enough, it wouldn’t surprise me if you find the lovely boots you opened the video with pairing well with both of these items. Though I don’t believe the look of the boots is the issue for you. Look wise they would have even paired lovely with the outfit you wore for this video shoot. It is most likely the loose fit around the ankle that is causing the challenges for you in their case…. Have you considered that in the same way that skinny jeans may not be as consistently flattering as a looser fit, that perhaps skinny boots may benefit from a rest from time to time and a looser fit might look wel?. I feel that we can get into style and color ruts like we do with food ruts. Our taste buds can change. Perhaps our style and color perceptions can change too. Have you considered making yourself wear each of the items once a week or once a month etc to see how you feel after wearing them over time and to see if you get compliments. Embracing a new color may take some intentionality. I would hate to see you miss out on this one as to my eye it was stunning on you. And refreshing! To my eye it did expand your color range in a lighter and lovely way. You are so beautiful and lovely. Thank you for all the work you do preparing your content. You stand out in your field and I appreciate your insights and expression.
Of course, the most important thing is how you feel in a piece of clothing, but I actually thought the linen dress was nice on you. I was thinking of pairing it with sandals, though.
Hello, I've been enjoying your channel and your insights have been helpful. I appreciate the discernment you put towards your wardrobe and clothing in general. I used to pay closer attention to my wardrobe, but that shifted after moving, changing jobs, having a child, and other life events. I'm trying to develop that skill again, and your keen eye is helpful in that process. Thank you, and may all your purchases be winners in 2023!
Audrey- that lavender sweater looked like a million bucks. While I can agree it probably isn’t the most flattering colour for your skin tone or customary colour for your wardrobe, I still think you should reconsider, for these reasons. 1. You love it 2. It looks fancy & stylish 3. Easy to pair with your usual color story 4. It’s a very special and striking look. The details, the ribbing, the semi balloon sleeve. Gorgeous. 5. While lavender is a little cool for you, I feel like there’s something to be said for not being 100% hung up on a wardrobe color story. Sure, you look best in warm earth tones and dark rich jewel tones, but lavender is very “now” and it’s also nice to mix things up a little and add a little je ne sais quoi instead of being same-same 6. Have you considered adding a scarf or necklace close to your neckline to bring warmth or neutrality to the piece while making you feel more comfortable about the colour choice? What about a black and resin amethyst chunky fashion necklace? Or a champagne/ amethyst/ black scarf? I just. Love that top lol I love thé blouse too but knowing you also have it in white makes it feel more okay that you are culling it. You’re right: the details are fantastic and girlie but combined with the girlie print it is almost too much, somehow.
The black boots are beautiful. Too bad you are not loving them. I think we all make purchases with some regret. I retired a lot of my autumn/winter clothing from years past and refreshed my wardrobe with more classic styles that bring me joy.
Most people regret buying certain clothes or shoes, however, I mostly regret the returning or donating of clothes , shoes, or bags, that I didn’t know how to properly style at that time, or how useful a certain item actually was 😂😂
@@amandaamanda5398🤣🤣I've been thinking to myself the stuff in charity shops in the UK was so crap 10 years ago when I discovered thrifting, then around the whole declutter era, boom! Nice pieces after not finding anything worthwhile for years.
I have also done this and my new rule is to keep everything unless it's physically harming me, I've donated plain (expensive) basic coloured 100% cotton t-shirts that were worn once and also found a black wide leg trousers and a simple denim skirt in my donation pile about a year later and was wondering what spirit came over me that I'm now trying to donate basic items. And yes, it's a trend coming in or some image on Pinterest that sent me to my donation pile. The only regret free donation has been clothes that were trying to squeeze the life out of me or chafe my skin.
Hi Audrey, I believe that sweater could work over a white blouse (or even the magenta purple one you showed!), with just the collar peeping out. Makes a world of difference, and with grey jeans and a rich brown belt it could be perfect! I completely understand your frustration with the boots -I believe the height is the biggest issue, as they probably hit right below the widest part of the calf. Maybe with a miniskirt and black tights?
You look so stunning in that magenta blouse. It's perfect for you--delicate detail that echoes your equally delicate bone structure, but a deep saturated color that is infinitely more flattering than the pastel lavender. If I had to guess, I think you probably are a deep autumn, so rich colors are going to be most flattering, and will look good with the neutrals you prefer as a wardrobe base. I'm a cool summer myself, and I learned a long time ago to run with my colors, no matter the season or trend.
Audrey your mesmerizing voice accompanies my meal times. Your elaborate yet precise choice of expressions are so immaculate just like your well curated closet You are the nightingale in the fashion based you tubers. Sending lots of love from India
What you need is a deep purple/plum midi or mini skirt. Then, this lovely blouse and sweater will work and you will have some wonderful wildness in your more simple palette!!!
My most regrettable purchases are definitely ill-fitting pants I didn’t bother to return 😟, blazers that are either too oversized or too fitted 🤦🏻♀️, a icy pale blue T shirt (that now belongs to my mom), and a purple cardigan I just shake my head at every time I see it. Fortunately most of those mistakes were made in 2021. 😅
Thank you, really good advice, I have never go around my closet at the end of the year and analyze what works for my style and style life, will be doing it. Happy new year.
I've also been struggling with online shopping and fit - almost everything is arriving too big despite ordering according to the online size guide - especially when they include barely any information. e.g., width of shoulders/length of arms? Overall length of a skirt from waistband to hem? How much wider the piece will be than the body measurements? 1 inch? 5 inches? Who knows, total spin of the roulette wheel... The cost of shipping back returns means that I'm out less money to pay for a seamstress to alter things than return them, but still tacks quite a whack onto the final price of the items. This has made me a lot more thoughtful about what I'll actually "proceed to purchase" on.
Yes, I remember when bought those things. I think they still look beautiful on you! I would agree, DONT MISS THAT RETURN WINDOW! Have A Happy New Year ~
I really can relate to these decisions. Years ago I had a beautiful pair of lavender pumps (when I used to wear pumps) that were suede & leather. 🙄 I realized I loved the color but literally only wore them twice. They just didn’t work in my wardrobe. Last year I bought one blouse in 3 colors (double 🙄🙄) I always reached for the creamy beige blouse and not the colors…😂. I have also recently learned not to add a color to black pants. Like red top/black pants. For me it just kills the color. The one colorful look I am willing to try is a fuchsia top with red pants, well maybe one day. I love both colors ❤️💕. I really like your boots but I know exactly what you’re feeling about them. There’s a solid look to them, maybe a small printed longer dress and a softer coat, or a pair of tights and your black mini 🤔. I too live in Hades so I need to constantly be on the lookout for the right dresses for the hot season which lasts 6 months here. 🥵 Oh wait maybe your boots would work with your wide leg dark wash 👖 jeans. The almond toe would like nice on the side profile with those jeans.
…Audrey, Very Coincidental - I did the same thing…I just loved the lilac on everyone and couldn’t understand why I didn’t have any lilac so I bought a lovely lilac dress but the colour just didn’t look good on me So it’s on its way out! Also I bought the perfect ankle boots which ticked every box BUT they fitted like wellie bobs with a the loose ankle - I tried and tried to wear them (as I had paid more then usual) and ended up giving them to my daughter - they had a bit of bling on the back of the boot that I didn’t initially notice - so I was happy to let them go in the end. Your reasons why your purchases didn’t work out was very helpful. Thank-you. Rae
I never noticed something that looks pretty and I fall in love with it but it comes and the piece is not for me. I never structured my clothing until I started watching your videos and this video is perfect when I'll talking to myself saying " this isn't right for me even if it is pretty". I would never wear it and it would only take up space. I recently brought this beautiful lemon-colored sweater, it's so pretty but when it came I realized it was too cool for me though I'm bringing more color into my wardrobe. That yellow family needs to be warmer for my deeper skin hue. I will round up selling it but it taught me to do a patch test before buying unique colors. This is a great video that can help save me time and money.
Loved this video, thank you so much for sharing the lessons you learned! One thing I regret buying is a pair of gray suede knee length boots. The lessons I've learned: I love a half-inch heel for walking far, and I love the zip and the lace-up detailing. But the boot is too loose at the ankle and I like something tighter, I would prefer a sharp pointed toe over a round toe, and the gray suede feels too rough and "natural" looking for my style, I like sleeker materials. Thanks for the inspiration to reflect on this!
I'm surprised by how much I like the color of your turtleneck. I had always thought that you are a deep winter, but the warmer tone actually is beautiful!
You could try taking the boots (they're so beautiful!) to a shoemaker and ask them if they can take the seam in to make them fit better - I have done it before with taller boots with great success (but it depends on the boot whether it is a possibility or not).
Dear Audrey, I feel like you can give this dress a second chance! In my mind, the problem is not the neckline at all (I'm a short torso club member too lol), but the length. I feel like it would really work if it was cut a few centimeteres above the knee !
Agreed. I find that with that length, the linen fabric, and in that beige color it just looks like a shift or undergarment that should go under something else. I would dye it black, and hem it above the knee and I think it would fix almost all the problems with it.
My (unimportant) opinion: I like the color. I’d pair it with gold jewelry. I’d hem the dress to right around knee-length. I think above (my favorite) or right below would work. A wide hem (2”+) might be really cool and add subtle interest. If below the knee, I’d wear it with brown leather heeled sandals - even slightly chunky ones might work. If above the knee, minimalist brown slide flat leather sandals. I think most browns would work - from honey to whiskey to chocolate. Definitely no ballerina flats. No suede. No closed-toed shoes. I’d avoid black (and I usually love black). I’m also not ever a fan of espadrilles, but that’s just me.
A suggestion: Wear a structured shirt over the top of the dress, treating the dress like a skirt., maybe tying it at the waist. When it's cooler, you could wear a lightweight pullover over it. Like others said, shorten it. If it still doesn't work, it may be time to get rid of it. When I have to fuss too much to get something to work, it's not worth it.
Wonderfully thoughtful video as always, Audrey! Thank you! I appreciated your little peek towards the end of those two summer wardrobe pieces. I would love to hear/see more about your summer wardrobe staples or go-to’s, as I find it so challenging to dress comfortably for the heat when I’ll be outside but also be put together. Thanks for all the content you create!!
I also have some clothes ( shoes ) I regrett buying. Mostly because I buy without thinking or because it's on sale and looks good enough. I learned my lesson ( hope so 😆 ) and think twice before buying. Your chanel and advices helped me a lot, so thank you! By the way, those boots look great!😊
I'm really glad you made this video as I'm also looking ahead at my spring and summer wardrobe for next year! Already, I've found 3 different tops that I think will fit in perfectly with the rest of what I have. Thanks for sharing these insights, Audrey! 😊
My main regrets are having let myself be carried away by some influencers and their obligatory garments has not only happened to you (hello t-shirts with shoulder pads and halter necklines) and for letting myself be guided by the price and advertising to buy worse quality items that they have given me a disastrous result and they have been more expensive than the good one. I no longer watch videos of trends or essential capsule elements because they don't work for me, videos like yours on how to adapt things and stick to my style, my colorimetry and body shape (if I also have them identified I don't know why I get into those troubles )
While it’s nice to sit back and watch some influencers,I have come to the realization that they are sales ladies. I wonder if they actually go out in public in Walmart clothes.
One thing I noticed: How your hairstyle seemed different when wearing the lilac top. I think it looks great on you but I noticed your hair style suddenly looked less polished. When back to the main outfit I found it again cladsic, relaxed and effortless. That's something I will consider it when trying new pieces!
Great video. I need to take into account what works better in my wardrobe when I shop. I needed the encouragement that you gave in this video. Great time of the year to make these decisions. Thank you for sharing
That purple color styles really well with the grey wash jeans or white. I'd agree though that it's not the best on you, makes your complexion look a touch too yellow
Okay weird suggestion for the beige dress: wear it around the house. I could totally see it as a beautiful like, lounge dress during the summer. I actually agreed with your verdicts on the other pieces, but I totally pictured you wearing that dress at home
Hi Audrey! I loved this video since I like as well the approach of analyzing what works and what doesn’t in the pieces I haven’t used enough. If I might give a suggestion…I’ll try to wear the lilac sweater with dark navy blue instead of black (this move could help emphasize the beautiful lilac color) and maybe try that gorgeous linen dress with a small bag that has an adjustable shoulder strap as to rebalance your torso (and probably it will work better with a pair of low heels instead of ballerinas). Have fun!
About 99% of what I buy is online. But only from shops where I can return. I’ve reduced closet skeletons by trying on new things with as many existing items as possible. And to do it over several days. Moods change and once the love goggles wear off you can be more objective and focus on the negatives. The problem with your dress, imo, is the color. It’s already very simple. The boring beige makes it extremely bland. You could either shorten it or/and dye it a darker olive. Style with brown and gold. I think it’s salvageable.
I agree with all of your assessments, but would need to see the boots on you to really understand your thoughts on them. An idea for the dress is to wear them for pajamas. Linen pjs are the best!
Thank you so much for sharing. I bought a very pricy Cartier handbag some months ago and is very dissapointed with the quality of it. Knowing that you sometimes regret your purchases too makes my own regret sting a little less❤
I reluctantly accepted several years ago that I just grew out of the small puffer sleeves. So, I have learned that no matter how adorable certain pieces are, just DON'T buy them...haha
Wear the lavender sweater with a pearl necklace and with something in navy blue. Also you could wear it with a white blouse under it or with a silk scarf.
Great video! What I've found is that I crave the pastel colors in springtime when it's still too cold so I would hang on to that lilac sweater if I were you and perhaps pair it with a White button down underneath with the collar peeking out and the charcoal pants rather than black or light wash blue jeans. I keep things in my closet even if I only wear them a few times a year. Also with that delicate puffed sleeve blouse I would pair it with something more edgy like a black leather jacket and use it like a layering piece or maybe with a denim jacket.
On the lavender floral top: such a good insight. As with many style choices I endorse your rule of thumb: pick one. Flounces or sweet print - either, but not both. Bare legs or bare decolletage - pick one. Bodycon fit on top or bottom - but not both at once. Those are lovely boots. You did your homework and took an educated guess. You might've made the same decision even if you'd tried them on at the store, because the disadvantages you mention aren't always immediately obvious. I'm not sure how a midrise shaft could yield enough freedom of leg movement if it were much tighter. Sometimes walking will create a crease at the ankle, which gives a slimming effect, but if it doesn't happen soon, and if fastening the lower buckle tighter doesn't create the slimmer shape you wanted, someone else will definitely enjoy these. Footwear is so tricky. No lesson to learn, other than we need to be quick about trying on and returning, no matter how much we hoped a shoe would work.
I also bought expensive boots in 2020 that I struggled to wear. I was able to return them just 2 weeks ago to Nordstrom. This was before I knew about the Kibbe body type. Now I know as a soft classic they were too bulky. I make fewer mistakes now because I refer back to the recommendations before I buy anything. I also have a pinterest board for soft classic outfits. I also sold a lot of items on Poshmark that I now know are better suited for the soft natural.
I’m curious what the dress, paired with the boots, an edgy coat, and other colder weather stuff would look like. All beautiful pieces on their own for sure. My faves was the sweater, such pretty details and I love the bell sleeves.
I think most of my regrets are down to sizing mistakes, getting what I thought was the right size and it turning out not to be. I really really need to get stricter with myself when it comes to checking actual measurements of garments. I'd like to offer a counterpoint to those boots (which, by the way, look stunning; I hope you can find a way to style them that turns them into a staple in your wardrobe because they do look so suited for you!)... I watched several videos where you were wearing the most gorgeous brown lace-up ankle boots, and I recognised that I needed something similar in my own wardrobe. I looked in several places for something similar that wasn't just a cheap thing which wouldn't last five minutes and couldn't find anything. I think you said they were the Captain style from Thursday Boots, at about the same time as I saw another TH-camr with the same boots. And I still couldn't find anything similar, so I eventually caved and bought my own, in the black coffee colour... and I *love* them so much, they are my most-worn boots, even on cooler days in summer. I style them with pretty much everything from smart trousers to jeans. So thank you, for introducing me to something I knew would be right at home with my own more comfortable and casual style.
I loved seeing the Lavender Sweater on you. To me it screamed out for Jade Jewelry! Jade Beads or Jade and Pearl Strand Necklace. Maybe a bold Jade Ring or Jade Bangle Bracelet. I'd do that or a Broach in a heartbeat... loved that sweater in that color but topped up a little bit.
Having followed your style, I can see how the boots are not you. The lavender seems to wash out your coloring. I appreciate your transparency. Often I love a color or style on someone and I forget that, no, it might not look great on me. An example of knowing what works on ME, and being creative within that palette. Thx for another great video. ❤
I have the VB boots and personally love them - because they are flat (and the leather is soooo soft), I can march around the city. I style with cropped jeans and trousers, midi dress or skirt …
I find that when you go through some thing like that where you buy something expensive like those boots and you don’t wear them just keep them because things will change and you’ll end up wearing them maybe in a few years. I regret getting rid of a few things that I didn’t wear like my brown boots I could’ve worn them this year a lot. 4:08
I love the dress, maybe you should consider dying it and/or wearing a lace cami underneath, on the same color, so just the top of the lace shows and you don’t feel uncomfortable about the low neckline. Happy New Year. Love, Sol
Dear Audry, in case of the lavender pullover I do not think the color is the problem, but the round neck line is. This round shape looks a kind of old fashioned and does not fit to your body shape. A turtle neck or better straight neck line would please your shoulders more and the color combines very well with your hair and eyes.
I decided a long time ago that I only buy cloth and shoes in person, that way I know if it fits, if the color is right for me and if is comfortable, I don't want to waste time and effort shopping online.
Have you ever done a video on how to store & care for clothes, shoes & jewelry? As I build a high quality closet, I want to take care of what I have, which is hard in a small closet!
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WHAT I'M WEARING:
Turtleneck: Verafied bit.ly/3hAzxLm
Belt: A few years old from Massimo Dutti
Earrings: bit.ly/3WqdCVP and bit.ly/3Yw5TYh
Jeans: Aritzia Denim Forum bit.ly/3PynXwT
Are those thumb holes in your turtleneck sleeves?
Massimo Dutti make gorgeous leather pieces. Almost all my belts are from MD and I love them all.
My regretful purchases have taught me about my body type, what is flattering for my body type, my lifestyle, and my taste. Personal style is always a journey♥
I cannot agree with you more!
I couldn’t have said it better! So true!
The pieces I regret buying are ones I feel absolutely beautiful in, they’re flattering, fit and feel good, I feel beautiful, but the problem is that I never have such occasions to wear them. It’s so hard to wave good bye to pieces that make you feel wonderful like that and have no down fall! However my lifestyle just doesn’t present me with opportunities to get the most out of those pieces 🙁
As a New Yorker who always feels over dressed, I hear you.
wear them anyway just to feel fabulous
I'm the same, work clothes and weekend clothes are very different, however last year i tried to make the commitment of introducing more weekend clothes to my work days and i felt my mood shift instantly. hopefully you can find the space to bring them out into your life, we all deserve to feel good
same for me! i have a huge collection of high heals and beautiful dresses and most days -I walk running errands in jeans and sneakers 😢
Yes I started buying for my real life..lol
My lesson has been to leave items that don’t ‘scream’ to me when i first see them. Im learning to not convince myself that an outfit will work.
Bubble,that why I leave the store empty handed 99% of the time.
I agree! if I'm iffy on it I leave it with the clothing attendant in the fitting room or on the rack .
Same. I have this psychological game i play witj myself. Imagine i see something but it isn't available in my size. Would i be sad or ok? If i would be ok, then i don't really love it. I need to LOVE a piece. How i also deal with that is to leave it. If i cant stop thinking about it after a month, i get it
The lavender sweater paired with navy instead of black and a silk scarf tied French style would look beautiful on you.
I think the lavender with dark green would also be gorgeous and I know you like dark green. Sometimes I think black can be to stark for some of those lighter colors and a slightly softer dark color works better.
Or lavender with a deeper brown. Notice how it pops against the color of the brown belt that Audrey's wearing! I think there are still ways to style it, it just doesn't go with black
The lavender sweater would look beautiful on you with winter white or with dark brown. I wouldn’t wear it with black either.
I think that even if she would pair it with another garment, she still wouldn’t like to wear it because she said that she liked more magenta(ish) colors on her (sorry if my English is not perfect it’s not my mother tongue)
@@AsyaTikk yes or maybe a beige/tan pants. Love your idea!
Hi Audrey, regarding the lavender sweater I think an easy fix is Rit dye. If you use a darker shade than the sweater it should work. If an item has the right fit and fabric, I use dye to tweak (or completely change) the color to fit my palette better. The downside is that it takes patience to execute properly and the end result is not always predictable. Nevertheless, it has salvaged many wrong purchases for me.
Two other things to watch out for with over-dying knits- 1.) *shrinkage* if it’s a dye that requires a hot water bath (Dylon can work with warm water but I’ve never tried it with knits), and 2.) any *exposed stitching* since nearly all ready to wear clothing construction utilizes synthetic thread. I haven’t over-dyed anything in a long time because it’s rare to find a perfect candidate; I just use dye to refresh faded like-color items (such as black jeans).
@@kat_thefruitbat where do you get your dye refresh ? my black jeans need it desperately !
@@HosCreates Most craft stores carry RIT, and some carry Dylon (my local Joann Fabrics store has both). There are many drug stores and grocery stores that carry RIT (laundry aisle). Of course, there are plenty of places to order from online as well, and there are other brands options out there too (the only other one I know of off the top of my head is Jacquard, but I’ve never personally tried it).
The darker purple color definitely suits you better than the icy light purple. I like that you added the shot of you in your darker purple blouse right after the light purple sweater- it was very easy to see the difference in how your skin looked. Your face looked much more glowy and healthy looking in the darker maroon/purple. Interesting how much of difference colors make!
Whereas I'm the other way round, so it was useful to see the process. You're right, colours are very important.
Even though I'm pretty happy with 99% of my online purchases (including a great pair of boots), boots in general are something I've learned to try on in-person to avoid regrets. Happy new year!
Me, too, unless they lace up. Pull-on boots are always a problem for me.
I like to try on boots and see how comfortable they are.
That blouse is gorgeous on you.
That lavender top looks absolutely beautiful on you don’t get rid of it
Regarding that ice-lilac sweater: Since it's absolutely perfect in every other way, I would try to wear it with a scarf in a color that suits (like burgundy). I have a wool coat in a color that's a little too light for me (lavender)- I style it with strong, deep-colored wool scarves (burgundy, deep bright blue, golden rod) and it works. My biggest clothing regrets had to do with silhouettes that were ultimately unflattering on my body.
Don't know if it's pure or not so u can do this or not. We have professional dyers who can dye it magenta if its pure.
I love how positive you are about these regrets. I need to be more like this
I have also had to come to terms that I don’t love linen for the same reasons. What’s good for other people, not always good for me.
I determined this summer that I prefer crisp poplin cottons and should generally avoid linen.
All beautiful pieces in this video but I can see why you are moving on.
The blouse in white with the lavander floral pattern is beautiful on you Audrey. White being the dominate colour balances it on you for me. That brand does some absolutely beautiful feminine pieces. I think the dress looks lovely, but not with the black ballet flats, they look too heavy for such a light airy dress. I find the correct footwear is always vital to the overall look of an outfit. However, if the cut is wrong for you in the bust, let it go. Nothing worse than feeling like "you're going to fall out". While the lavender jumper is gorgeous I agree the deeper purple suits your colouring. Shame about the boots, they are beautiful. Great video, thank you 🤍💜🖤
Something I really want to work on this year is to stop buying items for occasions far in the future or just in case scenarios. I get in almost like a honeymoon phase with the excitement of a new purchase and am not as discerning and critical as I should be about fit. By the time an occasion comes around (if it ever actually does), I’m often left wondering what I was thinking or realizing I settled for a fit that wasn’t ideal but only “good enough to keep” then the return window has passed
I am much older and have learned also the hard way- when a neckline is too low and having it altered would change the bust line too much, regardless of anything else, back it must go. Sometimes when I buy 2 of the same tops like you said you did with the Doen, usually 1 works out great & the other doesn't, so this happens. Maybe try a detailed collared shirt under the lavender sweater to help add a color that works better for you? Or a dickie? As for the boots, very good lesson going forward and the only way to have learned that was to play around with them. I've been there with similar issues w/all these. It's great you are learning and are so aware. LOVE your channel!
Try the sweater with grey, cream, brown and green; I think you have many of those in your wardrobe. They are softer and a better balance than black.
The lavender sweater is so so pretty and in my opinion it looks great on you! When I saw a video of you in this sweater a while back, it really inspired me and I have since purchased two lavender sweaters. (I am a "cool winter" as a color type).
These are learning lessons in life and Discovering what is your true personal style which is so important to learn. Years ago I bought a piece that wasn't my style and ended up donating it. I am so happy that all my clothes in my wardrobe are 💯me!
If you love the fit and cut but not the colour, just dye the items.
Loooove the boots!!
Same here, my first lesson: Color. I got a tiny bit into armocromia, and as soon as I realised which colors work for me, that was a huge change. When you showed your lavender pieces I knew the color was the issue before you even said it. And secondly, I almost entirely stopped buying online. I learned I need to try clothes on to see fabric, fit, style and so on. Lastly, quality of the fabric. So many polyester clothes I bought when I was in my fast-fashion twenties I simply couldn't wear because how sweaty they make me. Or shoes that were not leather that hurt my feet. Lovely video, thanks!
I also had a similar issue with a pair of ankle boots and I found that the following 2 styling hacks worked: Wearing trousers with the cuffs rolled up worked well; or otherwise wearing black socks that peaked out from the shaft and that I then pushed back down to form gathers, which gave the impression of the boot fitting tighter. Not sure if either of those will work for you. They are lovely looking boots!
Great video! As a wellness coach I'm always posting pictures of myself. I've learned there are a lot of clothing items that don't work for me, but I've never really analyzed why they don't work. Mostly having to do with my lifestyle is too casual to wear a lot of the things in my closet. This is very helpful. I think those black boots would look awesome with that outfit that you recreated from pinterest with the light cropped sweater and the cropped pants.
I noticed when I want to try a new-for-me color, I tend to look for a cheap option just so I know for sure if the color suits me. If it doesn’t, it’s not too big of a regret and if it does, I can now start looking for more expensive items in that color. It’s not the best/ most sustainable approach, but it works!
I have a few regrets over items that no longer suit my style, which is fine because style does change over time. One thing I have regretted though are not being strict enough in fabric composition and sizing. Thinking a pair of jeans will fit better if I just amp up my workout routine is NOT a good reason to keep an item
Idea for the linen dress: add a piece of lace or ribbon to the neck, either in a straight, horizontal orientation, only to the bottom of the scoop to "square it off" and add coverage, OR add a pleated trim all around the neck, fastened (sewn) under the seam of the scoop as if it's peeking out from underneath the dress. Either detail would look appropriate with the umpire waist of the garment, would add modesty, and would still allow the dress to be airy and comfortable in hot, muggy weather.
I agree - I'd work a little on that dress, too. I like your idea of adding a bit of faux undergarment. That could really work and give it just enough detail.
That sweater is pretty and would probably work better with white vs black. Maybe something you can wear in early spring. Gray is another option.
I have found that my style’s definitely change over time. I recently cleaned out my closet and gave a large amount of clothes to a coworker. I am more selective in my purchases as sometimes I add to my cart but give it a few days before purchasing.. also, it may be helpful to know that some pieces can easily be dyed to another shade you may favor more!
That lavender sweater is soooo beautiful
Why not wear with white pants. Personally , I think it is much more flattering than the brown sweater you are wearing. Also, I don't get the holes on the lower half of the sleeves?
Totally related!!! So many times I´ve had the feeling that something is perfect for me but then I hardly ever wear it because I don´t find myself looking beautiful in it. Most of times it´s been due to the color. I´ve learned that dark colour are suitable for me and that I should avoid soft ones.
I think the mauve sweater would look lovely in the Spring
I did exactly the same thing with a lilac jumper! I wanted to bring some colour into my wardrobe, but a crewneck lilac on my olive-y skin just didn't work. Thanks for showing an alternative - and really great tips to consider on how not to make the same mistakes again.
This is a huge mistake I have been making and I have vowed to do better this year. Since I buy most of my clothes online I always make sure I try them on as soon as they arrive so I can return the failures. However, apparently I am not being strict enough in my original judgment. They some times hang in the closet for weeks or months before the time comes to wear them. I then put them on and wonder what I was thinking when I decided they were good enough to keep. I can then see they don't fit correctly or are"off" in some way. I need to be more judgmental when they arrive.
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I feel your pain. I purchased a pair of taupe knee-length boots from a brand I have many pairs of. This was almost 3 years ago, when we were still in lockdown and not dressing up to go out anywhere, so they stayed in the closet, untouched, ever since. Last week, since the weather has cooled down enough, I decided it was time to take my "new" boots out for a spin. THEY. DO. NOT. FIT. Even with the thinnest socks, my foot is cramped inside. It is so bad that I looked to see if I had ordered the wrong size, but no, they are the same size as the exact same boot (brand and style) I have in black and in cognac. I then tried those older boots again, thinking that perhaps my feet had widened, but that wasn't the problem either. These new boots are supposed to be "the same" but are made differently. I'm going to have to gift them because there's no way I can wear them---my mistake for not trying them when they arrived in the mail!
@@irairod5160 that is very disappointing! I have noticed that different colors of the same brand and style can fit differently. I had a pair of cream leather heels that I had to sell when the black leather in the same style fit much better. I wonder if it has to do with the dying process? Jeans are like that for me also
I relate to this so much! The regret of realizing you should’ve just gotten your money back and now have brand new items that most likely will go straight to donation is an awful feeling. I need to stop procrastinating on driving to the store/shipping returns too because those dates sneak up on you lol
I have done this too, many times. How do we avoid it??
Audrey, I’m writing as an artist who is very attune to color. And, while I certainly respect your personal experience and observations I felt you may appreciate an artists perspective. I understand your difficulty in embracing a new color into your closet and lifestyle. I struggle with this as well. I think part of the problem is that basic colors are so interchangeable that I am use to my whole wardrobe mixing and matching. It can feel a bit discontinuous to incorporate a color that may not coordinate with everything. However, I hope you don’t mind my sharing that I am sad the lavender sweater and patterned blouse didn’t find a welcome in your closet. In my view you look stunning in both. They bring out a life light from within you. They make your eyes stand out and your hair look a richer bluer black more shiny and lustrous. They even out your skin tone and make you look soft and feminine yet confident and strong. They give your look a tone of grace and elegance. They really were outstandingly lovely on you. They both also actually combine beautifully with black, white, winter white and some shades of camel and even dark indigo blue and navy as well as grey. To my eye you looked better in the lavender sweater than in the camel shade of sweater worn for the video! This lavender sweater and printed blouse also revealed the ethereal nature of your body type and personal expression discovered in the body typing video you shared so graciously with us. Oddly enough, it wouldn’t surprise me if you find the lovely boots you opened the video with pairing well with both of these items. Though I don’t believe the look of the boots is the issue for you. Look wise they would have even paired lovely with the outfit you wore for this video shoot. It is most likely the loose fit around the ankle that is causing the challenges for you in their case…. Have you considered that in the same way that skinny jeans may not be as consistently flattering as a looser fit, that perhaps skinny boots may benefit from a rest from time to time and a looser fit might look wel?. I feel that we can get into style and color ruts like we do with food ruts. Our taste buds can change. Perhaps our style and color perceptions can change too. Have you considered making yourself wear each of the items once a week or once a month etc to see how you feel after wearing them over time and to see if you get compliments. Embracing a new color may take some intentionality. I would hate to see you miss out on this one as to my eye it was stunning on you. And refreshing! To my eye it did expand your color range in a lighter and lovely way. You are so beautiful and lovely. Thank you for all the work you do preparing your content. You stand out in your field and I appreciate your insights and expression.
Of course, the most important thing is how you feel in a piece of clothing, but I actually thought the linen dress was nice on you. I was thinking of pairing it with sandals, though.
Hello, I've been enjoying your channel and your insights have been helpful. I appreciate the discernment you put towards your wardrobe and clothing in general. I used to pay closer attention to my wardrobe, but that shifted after moving, changing jobs, having a child, and other life events. I'm trying to develop that skill again, and your keen eye is helpful in that process. Thank you, and may all your purchases be winners in 2023!
Audrey- that lavender sweater looked like a million bucks.
While I can agree it probably isn’t the most flattering colour for your skin tone or customary colour for your wardrobe, I still think you should reconsider, for these reasons.
1. You love it
2. It looks fancy & stylish
3. Easy to pair with your usual color story
4. It’s a very special and striking look. The details, the ribbing, the semi balloon sleeve. Gorgeous.
5. While lavender is a little cool for you, I feel like there’s something to be said for not being 100% hung up on a wardrobe color story. Sure, you look best in warm earth tones and dark rich jewel tones, but lavender is very “now” and it’s also nice to mix things up a little and add a little je ne sais quoi instead of being same-same
6. Have you considered adding a scarf or necklace close to your neckline to bring warmth or neutrality to the piece while making you feel more comfortable about the colour choice? What about a black and resin amethyst chunky fashion necklace? Or a champagne/ amethyst/ black scarf?
I just. Love that top lol
I love thé blouse too but knowing you also have it in white makes it feel more okay that you are culling it. You’re right: the details are fantastic and girlie but combined with the girlie print it is almost too much, somehow.
The black boots are beautiful. Too bad you are not loving them. I think we all make purchases with some regret. I retired a lot of my autumn/winter clothing from years past and refreshed my wardrobe with more classic styles that bring me joy.
Most people regret buying certain clothes or shoes, however, I mostly regret the returning or donating of clothes , shoes, or bags, that I didn’t know how to properly style at that time, or how useful a certain item actually was 😂😂
You are the reason why people keep finding amazing items in thrift stores. So thank youl.🤣
@@amandaamanda5398🤣🤣I've been thinking to myself the stuff in charity shops in the UK was so crap 10 years ago when I discovered thrifting, then around the whole declutter era, boom! Nice pieces after not finding anything worthwhile for years.
I have also done this and my new rule is to keep everything unless it's physically harming me, I've donated plain (expensive) basic coloured 100% cotton t-shirts that were worn once and also found a black wide leg trousers and a simple denim skirt in my donation pile about a year later and was wondering what spirit came over me that I'm now trying to donate basic items. And yes, it's a trend coming in or some image on Pinterest that sent me to my donation pile. The only regret free donation has been clothes that were trying to squeeze the life out of me or chafe my skin.
Hi Audrey, I believe that sweater could work over a white blouse (or even the magenta purple one you showed!), with just the collar peeping out. Makes a world of difference, and with grey jeans and a rich brown belt it could be perfect! I completely understand your frustration with the boots -I believe the height is the biggest issue, as they probably hit right below the widest part of the calf. Maybe with a miniskirt and black tights?
You look so stunning in that magenta blouse. It's perfect for you--delicate detail that echoes your equally delicate bone structure, but a deep saturated color that is infinitely more flattering than the pastel lavender. If I had to guess, I think you probably are a deep autumn, so rich colors are going to be most flattering, and will look good with the neutrals you prefer as a wardrobe base. I'm a cool summer myself, and I learned a long time ago to run with my colors, no matter the season or trend.
Audrey your mesmerizing voice accompanies my meal times. Your elaborate yet precise choice of expressions are so immaculate just like your well curated closet
You are the nightingale in the fashion based you tubers. Sending lots of love from India
What you need is a deep purple/plum midi or mini skirt. Then, this lovely blouse and sweater will work and you will have some wonderful wildness in your more simple palette!!!
My most regrettable purchases are definitely ill-fitting pants I didn’t bother to return 😟, blazers that are either too oversized or too fitted 🤦🏻♀️, a icy pale blue T shirt (that now belongs to my mom), and a purple cardigan I just shake my head at every time I see it. Fortunately most of those mistakes were made in 2021. 😅
Thank you, really good advice, I have never go around my closet at the end of the year and analyze what works for my style and style life, will be doing it. Happy new year.
I've also been struggling with online shopping and fit - almost everything is arriving too big despite ordering according to the online size guide - especially when they include barely any information. e.g., width of shoulders/length of arms? Overall length of a skirt from waistband to hem? How much wider the piece will be than the body measurements? 1 inch? 5 inches? Who knows, total spin of the roulette wheel... The cost of shipping back returns means that I'm out less money to pay for a seamstress to alter things than return them, but still tacks quite a whack onto the final price of the items. This has made me a lot more thoughtful about what I'll actually "proceed to purchase" on.
Yes, I remember when bought those things. I think they still look beautiful on you! I would agree, DONT MISS THAT RETURN WINDOW! Have A Happy New Year ~
I really can relate to these decisions. Years ago I had a beautiful pair of lavender pumps (when I used to wear pumps) that were suede & leather. 🙄 I realized I loved the color but literally only wore them twice. They just didn’t work in my wardrobe. Last year I bought one blouse in 3 colors (double 🙄🙄) I always reached for the creamy beige blouse and not the colors…😂. I have also recently learned not to add a color to black pants. Like red top/black pants. For me it just kills the color. The one colorful look I am willing to try is a fuchsia top with red pants, well maybe one day. I love both colors ❤️💕. I really like your boots but I know exactly what you’re feeling about them. There’s a solid look to them, maybe a small printed longer dress and a softer coat, or a pair of tights and your black mini 🤔. I too live in Hades so I need to constantly be on the lookout for the right dresses for the hot season which lasts 6 months here. 🥵 Oh wait maybe your boots would work with your wide leg dark wash 👖 jeans. The almond toe would like nice on the side profile with those jeans.
…Audrey, Very Coincidental - I did the same thing…I just loved the lilac on everyone and couldn’t understand why I didn’t have any lilac so I bought a lovely lilac dress but the colour just didn’t look good on me So it’s on its way out! Also I bought the perfect ankle boots which ticked every box BUT they fitted like wellie bobs with a the loose ankle - I tried and tried to wear them (as I had paid more then usual) and ended up giving them to my daughter - they had a bit of bling on the back of the boot that I didn’t initially notice - so I was happy to let them go in the end. Your reasons why your purchases didn’t work out was very helpful. Thank-you. Rae
I never noticed something that looks pretty and I fall in love with it but it comes and the piece is not for me. I never structured my clothing until I started watching your videos and this video is perfect when I'll talking to myself saying " this isn't right for me even if it is pretty". I would never wear it and it would only take up space. I recently brought this beautiful lemon-colored sweater, it's so pretty but when it came I realized it was too cool for me though I'm bringing more color into my wardrobe. That yellow family needs to be warmer for my deeper skin hue. I will round up selling it but it taught me to do a patch test before buying unique colors. This is a great video that can help save me time and money.
Such a thoughtful and important video - thanks
Loved this video, thank you so much for sharing the lessons you learned! One thing I regret buying is a pair of gray suede knee length boots. The lessons I've learned: I love a half-inch heel for walking far, and I love the zip and the lace-up detailing. But the boot is too loose at the ankle and I like something tighter, I would prefer a sharp pointed toe over a round toe, and the gray suede feels too rough and "natural" looking for my style, I like sleeker materials. Thanks for the inspiration to reflect on this!
I'm surprised by how much I like the color of your turtleneck. I had always thought that you are a deep winter, but the warmer tone actually is beautiful!
You could try taking the boots (they're so beautiful!) to a shoemaker and ask them if they can take the seam in to make them fit better - I have done it before with taller boots with great success (but it depends on the boot whether it is a possibility or not).
Those boots are amazing, just wear them, maybe next year. Add a beautiful scarf to that gorgeous sweater!!
Dear Audrey, I feel like you can give this dress a second chance! In my mind, the problem is not the neckline at all (I'm a short torso club member too lol), but the length. I feel like it would really work if it was cut a few centimeteres above the knee !
Agreed. I find that with that length, the linen fabric, and in that beige color it just looks like a shift or undergarment that should go under something else. I would dye it black, and hem it above the knee and I think it would fix almost all the problems with it.
My (unimportant) opinion: I like the color. I’d pair it with gold jewelry. I’d hem the dress to right around knee-length. I think above (my favorite) or right below would work. A wide hem (2”+) might be really cool and add subtle interest. If below the knee, I’d wear it with brown leather heeled sandals - even slightly chunky ones might work. If above the knee, minimalist brown slide flat leather sandals. I think most browns would work - from honey to whiskey to chocolate. Definitely no ballerina flats. No suede. No closed-toed shoes. I’d avoid black (and I usually love black). I’m also not ever a fan of espadrilles, but that’s just me.
Yes it’s far too long, that really caught my eye too.
A suggestion: Wear a structured shirt over the top of the dress, treating the dress like a skirt., maybe tying it at the waist. When it's cooler, you could wear a lightweight pullover over it. Like others said, shorten it. If it still doesn't work, it may be time to get rid of it. When I have to fuss too much to get something to work, it's not worth it.
Wonderfully thoughtful video as always, Audrey! Thank you! I appreciated your little peek towards the end of those two summer wardrobe pieces. I would love to hear/see more about your summer wardrobe staples or go-to’s, as I find it so challenging to dress comfortably for the heat when I’ll be outside but also be put together. Thanks for all the content you create!!
I also have some clothes ( shoes ) I regrett buying. Mostly because I buy without thinking or because it's on sale and looks good enough. I learned my lesson ( hope so 😆 ) and think twice before buying. Your chanel and advices helped me a lot, so thank you! By the way, those boots look great!😊
Great content. I would wear the purple sweater with your hunter green pants. Try it!
This was supremely helpful. You have such a fantastic and unique teaching style. Thank you and happy 2023❤️🔥😉
I'm really glad you made this video as I'm also looking ahead at my spring and summer wardrobe for next year! Already, I've found 3 different tops that I think will fit in perfectly with the rest of what I have. Thanks for sharing these insights, Audrey! 😊
I opened this video in the background as a type of ASMR because your voice is so calming!
My main regrets are having let myself be carried away by some influencers and their obligatory garments has not only happened to you (hello t-shirts with shoulder pads and halter necklines) and for letting myself be guided by the price and advertising to buy worse quality items that they have given me a disastrous result and they have been more expensive than the good one. I no longer watch videos of trends or essential capsule elements because they don't work for me, videos like yours on how to adapt things and stick to my style, my colorimetry and body shape (if I also have them identified I don't know why I get into those troubles )
While it’s nice to sit back and watch some influencers,I have come to the realization that they are sales ladies. I wonder if they actually go out in public in Walmart clothes.
One thing I noticed: How your hairstyle seemed different when wearing the lilac top. I think it looks great on you but I noticed your hair style suddenly looked less polished. When back to the main outfit I found it again cladsic, relaxed and effortless. That's something I will consider it when trying new pieces!
I'm so glad to have this video as the tempting post-Christmas sales begin. Thank you!
Great video. I need to take into account what works better in my wardrobe when I shop. I needed the encouragement that you gave in this video. Great time of the year to make these decisions. Thank you for sharing
That purple color styles really well with the grey wash jeans or white. I'd agree though that it's not the best on you, makes your complexion look a touch too yellow
Okay weird suggestion for the beige dress: wear it around the house. I could totally see it as a beautiful like, lounge dress during the summer. I actually agreed with your verdicts on the other pieces, but I totally pictured you wearing that dress at home
Perhaps consider having the lavender sweater and blouse coloured and turning the linen dress into a skirt.
Hi Audrey! I loved this video since I like as well the approach of analyzing what works and what doesn’t in the pieces I haven’t used enough. If I might give a suggestion…I’ll try to wear the lilac sweater with dark navy blue instead of black (this move could help emphasize the beautiful lilac color) and maybe try that gorgeous linen dress with a small bag that has an adjustable shoulder strap as to rebalance your torso (and probably it will work better with a pair of low heels instead of ballerinas). Have fun!
The linen dress looks fantastic on you! You look stunning ❤ Perfect with strappy sandals, chunky sandals, and lightweight canvas sneakers 🥰
I agree with Audrey's take on this dress. It needs tailoring.
I think it's a NO because the color washes Audrey out and the neckline is way too low for her comfort.
About 99% of what I buy is online. But only from shops where I can return.
I’ve reduced closet skeletons by trying on new things with as many existing items as possible. And to do it over several days. Moods change and once the love goggles wear off you can be more objective and focus on the negatives.
The problem with your dress, imo, is the color. It’s already very simple. The boring beige makes it extremely bland. You could either shorten it or/and dye it a darker olive. Style with brown and gold. I think it’s salvageable.
I agree with all of your assessments, but would need to see the boots on you to really understand your thoughts on them. An idea for the dress is to wear them for pajamas. Linen pjs are the best!
Thank you so much for sharing. I bought a very pricy Cartier handbag some months ago and is very dissapointed with the quality of it. Knowing that you sometimes regret your purchases too makes my own regret sting a little less❤
I reluctantly accepted several years ago that I just grew out of the small puffer sleeves. So, I have learned that no matter how adorable certain pieces are, just DON'T buy them...haha
Wear the lavender sweater with a pearl necklace and with something in navy blue. Also you could wear it with a white blouse under it or with a silk scarf.
Great video! What I've found is that I crave the pastel colors in springtime when it's still too cold so I would hang on to that lilac sweater if I were you and perhaps pair it with a White button down underneath with the collar peeking out and the charcoal pants rather than black or light wash blue jeans. I keep things in my closet even if I only wear them a few times a year. Also with that delicate puffed sleeve blouse I would pair it with something more edgy like a black leather jacket and use it like a layering piece or maybe with a denim jacket.
You may want to try have a heel cushion that has some height. I found it work for me for a lot of shoes, especially booties or boots.
On the lavender floral top: such a good insight. As with many style choices I endorse your rule of thumb: pick one. Flounces or sweet print - either, but not both. Bare legs or bare decolletage - pick one. Bodycon fit on top or bottom - but not both at once.
Those are lovely boots. You did your homework and took an educated guess. You might've made the same decision even if you'd tried them on at the store, because the disadvantages you mention aren't always immediately obvious. I'm not sure how a midrise shaft could yield enough freedom of leg movement if it were much tighter. Sometimes walking will create a crease at the ankle, which gives a slimming effect, but if it doesn't happen soon, and if fastening the lower buckle tighter doesn't create the slimmer shape you wanted, someone else will definitely enjoy these. Footwear is so tricky. No lesson to learn, other than we need to be quick about trying on and returning, no matter how much we hoped a shoe would work.
I also bought expensive boots in 2020 that I struggled to wear. I was able to return them just 2 weeks ago to Nordstrom. This was before I knew about the Kibbe body type. Now I know as a soft classic they were too bulky. I make fewer mistakes now because I refer back to the recommendations before I buy anything. I also have a pinterest board for soft classic outfits. I also sold a lot of items on Poshmark that I now know are better suited for the soft natural.
Welcome to Kibbe! I discovered him 9/20.
Hi Audrey, thank you for sharing this great detailed video. So apt especially this time of year when the shops have so many sales. Remain blessed xxx
I’m curious what the dress, paired with the boots, an edgy coat, and other colder weather stuff would look like. All beautiful pieces on their own for sure. My faves was the sweater, such pretty details and I love the bell sleeves.
Please do more hot weather style videos! 🙏🏻 Super hot climates are my major struggle
Yes! Same here! My style works so well in cooler or cold weather, but not so much the heat…
I think most of my regrets are down to sizing mistakes, getting what I thought was the right size and it turning out not to be. I really really need to get stricter with myself when it comes to checking actual measurements of garments.
I'd like to offer a counterpoint to those boots (which, by the way, look stunning; I hope you can find a way to style them that turns them into a staple in your wardrobe because they do look so suited for you!)... I watched several videos where you were wearing the most gorgeous brown lace-up ankle boots, and I recognised that I needed something similar in my own wardrobe. I looked in several places for something similar that wasn't just a cheap thing which wouldn't last five minutes and couldn't find anything.
I think you said they were the Captain style from Thursday Boots, at about the same time as I saw another TH-camr with the same boots. And I still couldn't find anything similar, so I eventually caved and bought my own, in the black coffee colour... and I *love* them so much, they are my most-worn boots, even on cooler days in summer. I style them with pretty much everything from smart trousers to jeans.
So thank you, for introducing me to something I knew would be right at home with my own more comfortable and casual style.
I have the Thursday Rebel boots in that color way. I love them so much.
The dress looks like a lovely “house dress” to keep you looking chic as you float the house on a hot day☺️
Great video! Thank you for sharing your insight!
I loved seeing the Lavender Sweater on you. To me it screamed out for Jade Jewelry! Jade Beads or Jade and Pearl Strand Necklace. Maybe a bold Jade Ring or Jade Bangle Bracelet. I'd do that or a Broach in a heartbeat... loved that sweater in that color but topped up a little bit.
Having followed your style, I can see how the boots are not you. The lavender seems to wash out your coloring. I appreciate your transparency. Often I love a color or style on someone and I forget that, no, it might not look great on me. An example of knowing what works on ME, and being creative within that palette. Thx for another great video. ❤
I love hearing how you think it thru… I’m inspired to do this tomorrow!
I have the VB boots and personally love them - because they are flat (and the leather is soooo soft), I can march around the city. I style with cropped jeans and trousers, midi dress or skirt …
I find that when you go through some thing like that where you buy something expensive like those boots and you don’t wear them just keep them because things will change and you’ll end up wearing them maybe in a few years. I regret getting rid of a few things that I didn’t wear like my brown boots I could’ve worn them this year a lot. 4:08
Thanks sharing honestly, our personal style is an imperfect learning journey :-)
The blouse was great with jeans !
I love the lavender sweater. Maybe a statement necklace incorporating the color in a minor role. New make up look such as pinkier blush?
I love the dress, maybe you should consider dying it and/or wearing a lace cami underneath, on the same color, so just the top of the lace shows and you don’t feel uncomfortable about the low neckline. Happy New Year. Love, Sol
Dear Audry, in case of the lavender pullover I do not think the color is the problem, but the round neck line is. This round shape looks a kind of old fashioned and does not fit to your body shape. A turtle neck or better straight neck line would please your shoulders more and the color combines very well with your hair and eyes.
I decided a long time ago that I only buy cloth and shoes in person, that way I know if it fits, if the color is right for me and if is comfortable, I don't want to waste time and effort shopping online.
The lavender sweater and the long linen dress are just gorgeous 😍. Would work for me . I think i am a soft classic or soft natural ... 🍀🤞
All these items are lovely, but if they don't fit with your basics or color palette, I get it. They are all very nice and show good taste.
Happy New Year, Audrey! May 2023 be a blessed year for you. ❤️
Have you ever done a video on how to store & care for clothes, shoes & jewelry? As I build a high quality closet, I want to take care of what I have, which is hard in a small closet!