I regret wasting 14 years in a relationship with a married man!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.ย. 2024
- I regret wasting 14 years in a relationship with a married man! You only realise how wrong it was years later...when there is nothing you can do. Now, am living such a lonely life...and so is he
Mama has now become a motivational speaker.. she is in pain, not remorseful. She is sharing because the man went back to the wife. She knew the man was married.. what did she expect? She enjoyed herself, the man enjoyed himself. Now face the reality
She want to help me and other women not to get involved na married man.
Neither she’s pain or not
Her talk will one young girl who is dating a married man now.
@@nyaxjosh this is information you already know.. also, often that young girl won't listen until it gets haywire. You think this mama wasn't told all that when she was involving herself with the married man?
Now playing victim. Akwende huko nkt
We sometimes do stupid things in life during youth. But God is gracious enough to awaken us. This is probably what has happened to this lady. This is her epiphany moment. Please don't judge her. Be kind. We all have a past, probably a much stinkier one.
@@luciakabui3151 you certainly would not say if you murder during youth we shouldnt judge you. It was only a mistake. You will get an 'epiphany', would you? Evil is evil, you kill, commit adultery etc. Adultery is not like stealing a pen you can just go scot free mama, you should know that by now
It takes two to tangle , he was responsible of ruining his marriage, let’s not always look at the woman . He knows what he was doing. Once you know someone is married , kiura ruga.. sponsor niahonokaga
Kiura ruga, but do you know even children will never blame or care fathers for marrying several wives or having many children huko nje ... But kusema ukweli watoto huwa affected if their mum live such life... So girls should watch their steps
you are saying truth.. but it isn't the man who is here on kagoni show crying foul. the woman is as if she didn't know whaat is coming. what did se expect???
Well said grace 👍
She had the right to say NO!!!!!!
Please own your mistakes, do not speak on behalf of the wife. You played your own part in breaking someone else marriage. Own your part. It seems you were willing to continue regardless of the pain caused as far as you gained on your part. Msiba wa kujitakia hauna kilio.
good observations.. she should own her part and stop speaking for the wife
Semse you are so perfect... Stop judging..
@@monicahlishiar6631 what do you mean by stop judging.. someone shouldn't use their brains? We close our eyes to bad stuff and pretend they are good. Why don't you use your 'stop judging' attitude in your life. I am sure you can be friends with a killer because you don't judge, I hope you don't teach your kids that because you'd be endangering their lives with that 'stop judging' philosophy
But she is speaking the truth. Couples should try and solve their problems. Unsolved issues open doors for attacks. Don't give the devil a foothold in your marriage!
Are you God to judge????😮😮😮
Very true I was involved in such a relationship between ages 22yrs and 26yrs but God is good I realized my mistakes and got married latter at age 28yrs thank you for the advice you have offered our young ladies.
Me too
How did you overcome all that
I hope you uprooted in repentance the altar you planted when you “stood between what God put together”. Realizing your “mistake” is one thing but don’t forget we reap what we sow.
For Me, I will Never Blame the Other Woman becoz if the Man Respect His Wife n Marriage, He will Never go Out Looking for Other Women. I will deal na Kitombi.
and if other the woman did not accept advances it wouldn't happen. takes 2 to tangle
@@ja9293 Many times we deal with the other gender but I still maintain, If my Man loves n respect me, he wouldn't go out looking for other. As for the other Woman accepting, it's her choice. You can not Steal or Snatch a Grown Up Man. If all Men decide to be Faithful, there Won't be Issues like these. The back Stops at them
Two observations about this story.....
1. The interviewer seems to have a judgemental attitude towards the lady. Very disappointing.
2. Comment section people are agels and acting like they never sinned.
People should know no one is perfect and stop being hypocrites.
How would you react if it was the man saying he cheated but has now he stopped because one woman left.. if you are honest, you'd do the same.. condemning evil. This woman isn't remorseful, only jaded. If the man comes back she would readily accept
Plus the host did an excellent job.. you are having the same judgmental attitude you seem to condemn
Wewe umeumwa sana na hii story😂😂😂😂😂@@phillipsidhojapap1461
Lazima interviewer awe ivo since she is a married woman and certainly would not lean on a mpango wa kando point of view, comment section nayo imejaa holy holy 😂😂😂
I don't think it is fair for Mary to speak on behalf of the 1st wife. Goat wife here carried herself with dignity....just speak for yourself vile you became the person sleeping gatagate kao.
Am a goat wife.....and experience of your husband being with another woman is extremely painful especially if he works away from home.
This story is a re-assurance this men do come back.
It's painful journey it can break you if you're not careful.
Long distance relationship belongs to lord
I see so many comments condemning this woman. You forget one thing, she didn't think she wasn't doing wrong...she only regrets the wasted years
that's even worse.. she knew she was wrong and went ahead. Regrets wont help her. she needs to get her life straight. part of it is apologizing to the wife
And that is even worse. She isn’t remorseful for participating in destroying another woman’s marriage. She is bitter about the time she wasted. She comes across as very selfish and self centered.
Not regretting causing havoks in another womans hse
@@Dear0705was the man blind
@@phillipsidhojapap1461but who is to be blame of course the man,,y dd she go for another lady yet he is married,men style up, women avoid getting into relationship with the so called married men
Am in my mid 30s but even in my line of work I interact with men mostly and I have never accepted that nonsense,I dated one having lied he is single but when I realised he had impregnated another lady and was frustrating her with his promiscuity I ended and told him to make peace with that lady because she is crying and struggling to raise the kid alone which ain't fair even to the kid (i got to know ahout that lady and we talked alot).the idiot got the guts to tell me he want us to be the 2 women in his life!it can never be me!! Let me mess myself with a single man but not a married one!!
Baba witu wa iguru teithia tuiritu twaka tutikanatuike nyaciamburi mah wooi.
With all my heart I dislike, disrespect, disdain mipango ya kando. The hurt they bring ( the man included of course) is deep. I pray for all of them to relive the pain that some of us have gone through. May you never know peace nkt nkt ......self righteous home-wreckers ....
Hapa kuna bitter truth.
@FaithImani-qj1ci qa. Q w.
@FaithImani-qj1ci Very sober insight,, I agree these types of women hate starting their own home. They would rather break another family for their selfishness
But she didn't break any home...just take care of your husbands cox there is women who are ready for this men's here😂😂😂
@FaithImani-qj1cini kifungo tu sijaskia mahali alikazia huyo bwana kusaidia familia yake wala hakuna Mali na pesa alimdai!alitaka tu company
Married man is no go Zone
I love wisdom in this woman,God bless you beautiful 😍 lady for sharing this to many women who are dating married men
❤she is a gooooood calm story teller🎉
I wish the others can do that woooooooi Ngai.😢😢😢
I think the man was intimidated by her success. He was okay when she relied on him but when she started earning he couldn't cope with that. It may have been the same reason he started out with her as he was intimidated by his wife. A good story full of lessons for MWK.
Exactly .. kwanini asingemuoa surely imagine ukiwa mwanamke ukiwa. Na mwanaume na fo all those years akikuita just a friend.. I surely can’t stand
Hata wenye wameolewa kama second wife baadaye mzee anarudi kwa gotwife 100% unachwa lonely
Better are women who work hard
Yes and she didn’t even realise it. How’s she blaming the goat wife?
Hakwa never married man ni sumu
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Mum,u r blessed.God still has good plans over your life.
Onaduri thoni ukiuga ati daigitwo wega gwake , murioyaga athuri ene mugage matigitwo wega ? Shindwe kabisa.
Na hyo makasiriko ni rahisi Kua huna bwana wa kuita wako na kaa uko naye uko tu uko na machozi.Sorry anyway en thank u kwa kujiongea
kabisa.....washindwe kabisa......
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Sorry
@@kamathimagretgm6952 kwani ww ni moja wao ? Kaskie vibaya nahukooo.
We learn through mistakes though time wasted is never recovered.
A very good topic for young women, married men will never leave their families for you...
Dont regret..you had some great years and he took care ot your kids...tuseme tu ni relationship ilienda vibaya..ata angekua bwanako real bado kungeenda ivo
Exactly ama akufe why do people regret yet when it's was good you enjoyed.
@@shikuliz4134 ee...watu wanapenda kufuata rules sana
You've now become motivation speaker now
That is a factor about life yu become a real motivational speaker after being a victim,,but sadly humans never listen or learn until it's too late
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The loser her is the man.
The goat wife let go, accepted and moved on.
The mpango wa kando released the retiree after realising his time is up.. very smart of her
Anyhu...motivational speakers, tunawaskia.. after kuharibu kwa wenyewe...no remose.. and blaming the wife..
Just give your story and stop speaking for the wife...
Why is she speaking on behalf of the first wife? I hope am not rude but it doesn't make sense,am kinda angered by her lack of remorse
The man went back to the first wife
Sjhe is just angry, not remorseful
She hasn't mentioned her name and this is her story
The man kept promising that he will make him 2nd wife, and saying that 1st wife was accepting this arrangement.
I was very annoyed too. The way shelit up talking about a goat wife who left her alone!! she is not sorry either. Just sad that she did not get a share of the retirement money.
Niko Kenya mtu ako doha ameeka mfillipino ata pesa ya daioer house rent food haezi tuma ...na si ati Hugo mfillipino hajui I exist ...God fight for me😢😢😢
I come from a polygamous family. My step mother and my father reigned SO MUCH havoc on my family before they officiated it to marriage. Anyway, We are one family because my mother is the greatest woman I will ever point, with grace above grace.
Long story short, at the age of more than 70, my father has been trying to get back home to my mother for all the wrong reasons. They always do!
I wish Ladies understand breaking any family is not an achievement. It’s literally a curse!
As a woman, Do not EVER let another woman cry over you! The tears come back to you in all shades.
And yes, even with the forgiveness I’ve learnt, I’ll never find a valid reason to being a mpango wa kando.
Also why do I feel like this lady is not remorseful of what they did with the man for those 14yrs?🥹
Once you are with someone , you should set everything clear
Whether you want mpango wa kando or permanent relationship
Kuna jambo sikumbaliani na huyu mama. Kwanza nauliza shida ya huyu mama uliingililia nyumba yake iko wapi? Wewe na huyu mzee ndio mulichangia shida ya hii familia. Mzee akiwa na mpango wa kando ama aowe mwanamke wa pili, bibi wa kwanza na watoto hupitia mateso mengi sana. Nimesikia ukisema hata kama mzee ako na wanawake wengine amushikilie kabisa. Ulijua aje bibi yake hakumshikilia lakini kwa sababu yako angemsikiliza. My advice is, WATU WAACHANE NA BWANA YA MAMA MWINGINE, KAMA SIO HIVYO KUJUTA NI LAZIMA.
DAWA NI KUACHANA NA BWANA YA MWINGINE, KUTUBU KWA MUNGU NA KUOMBA MSAMAHA KWA HUYO MAMA NA WATOTO WAKE.
I THOUGHT YOU ARE REGRETING BECAUSE YOU CAUSED PAIN AND SUFFERING TO SOMEBODY'S WIFE AND CHILDREN.
MPANGO WA KANDO NA POLYGAMY NI MATESO TUPU.
Blame the man not this lady
I blame both.
I was commenting on this woman's story.
If the man comes and gives his story I will have a comment for it.
The fact remains and will always be that she ruined another woman's marriage.
Aki mary tumefanana, after my husband ku pass nilikuwa na 28 yrs na watoto wawili 10 yrs na 4 yrs na ningeoleka tena ,hio familia ilinifukuza nikakuja nairobi, nilikutana na mzee wa wenyewe tumekaa for 10 yrs lakini saa hii were not together but i regret coz ningeoleka tena na niongezee watoto, i do regret shually
married men never leave their wives.... even for an angel...
Not true, seen them leave for good n marry the side chic
Ooh Yes they do , some divorce,some become polygamous, some stress their wives to death or kill them, some make them run and some are killed by either of the women in their life's. It's a crazy world 🌎.
They do to an extent of frustrating their goat wives to death
They do,uko kenya kweli?
They do, maliza hiyo methali kwa akili😂😂 stop consoling yourself 😅
Jane alisema Mbaba huokoka anarudi kwake akiimba 'kwa waing'a ndigacoka.'😂
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Sponsor niahonokaga agacoka kwa muka😂😂😂😂
True...waliambiwa na hawaskii
You a very composed gal. Thank you for the lesson
Mipango ya kando,ni kwa mda TU,then you realize that a man can't love two wives,the wife of his youth is the one heaven approves.l blame women who are accepting married men even after warnings from their wives,you don't compromise in everything.sexual sin is an abomination.but mungu awasemehe.therapy mzuri ni kujielewa but time wasted,....
Ciene itirii dokeiruo nuu...niwa giire mutwee😂😂
Mwabie kabisa
@@beatricenjeri8502 lazmaa
Tokorwo ona tha ici ari ona wene😅
@@remnant7480 maa ni ya rwanioo
Why do people regret when it's over ...that's not regret ....the moment she was slapped by the wife and still continued it meant she was ready for the consequences that would befall her....again do we have to learn by our experiences to understand what it costs to be home wrecker.....it's all everywhere of what others have gone thru and even now someone with someone's husband will come ten years later to say how they regret being and maybe they have also watched this video
I also wasted 7years.. It's definitely yes dating a married man it absolutely wasting of time
I think the man was a vry selfish man.. if u stay with a woman fo soo long.. c umuoe tu.. haaaiiii am a scd wife and married offcilly na hiyo ndio Sawa ..Uyo jamaa ni mkora
Narcissist men care or love no one it's all about them usipochanuka mapema kitakuramba
All in all he was a responsible man...cudos to him
Common sense is not to get more kids how cld she have taken care of them? If this man had even refused to help with the one they got together 🤷🏽♀️, she shld be grateful she has 2 children kuna wale wahawana hata moja.
But she is stable she can.
Soo many adverts till one gets bored.
And now she has become a relationship advisor...."life"
The man became useless,he couldn't match her income,n she wasn't willing to now play the role of a provider.
The man too got intimidated,wasn't a provider to the 1st wife's children how did she expect that he would provide to her own?Yaani they were 2 selfish characters,each one seeking their own benefit.😢
You can assume that the first wife had issues, talk for your self, I think the man hagerudi home kwa first wife coz he was a shamed
The man was at the 1st wife's home after transfer from nyeri to nairobi and retired at the 1st wife's though alternating both home's.
What a tough lesson.God help us Single women
They came onway I want to marry you
Kama huyo mzee bado ako kwako.hungetafuta monica so saa hii ndio una reglet after kuhalibu boma ya huyo mama kitawalaba lesson learnt 🙆🙆🙆
Ata hana aibu .
Imajin
She was knowing atapata maneno kaa hayo akijitokeza so hujamuhurt.What u should u do or what she would like ni mwingine asome na yale ameongea.Thank u kwa kuongea wazo lako
At least she learnt from her own experience, don't beat yourself anymore mummy,be encouraged that no matter how deep in the mud,God still cares for you
Hakufikilia ataachwa after 14yrs....carma alikulipa at the right time mama
I wish she apologized to the woman she broke her home knowingly n stealing father's love n care from his children.
Awache kujipiga kifua
She will still pay for her
WRONGS through God
Payback is still doing press ups...sijui if they know the pain especially from a children's perspective
Mommy it's been years since you saw a man bring bread or flower or payfor your hair to be made or even find time to take you out of there',,am young but as much as i know im here's to tell you that you are still God's creation 😊,,smile snd breath in,,yes uliteleza na miaka imeisha but there's more fun waiting for you somewhere, cry for forgiveness,,yu messed up big time but there's the lord of another day and chances...the Lord still loves you there's always time to find new beginning, amen
After kunyonya.mali ya mzee mpaka akaenda retire ndio umejua ulifanya vibaya..
Bit I think she thought one day he will be married coz bb wa wawile its normal
I find it funny when married men expect their clandes to be faithful to them😂😂😂😂
Great woman great advice 👏👏
She is still in pain, she is not giving the interview because she is sorry, she is just trying to pass a mess to the man who stopped communicating with her. What a waste of 14years of life and wrecking another woman’s home. But at-least she is honest with her mistakes
She is not honestly sorry.. you are very right
I understand you very well..wacha wenye wanaku judge waendelee tu..move on utapata tu wacha kwa God hakuna uzee.
I really hope no one will know me but sasa hiyo story ya loan niko na experience... Luckily, I always got bank delays and never took the loan. Mwanaume wa wenyewe achana na yy 😅😅😅😅
Gaii akhi huyu mama amenifungua macho kabisa
She should have quit the relationship the day she was accosted and slapped by the wife. If you end up alone, well and good - you cannot build your happiness on someone else's misery. All the same, there some lessons to be learned here.
Do unto others as you would like it done to you, choices have consequences my dear.
It's good to know having someone husband is just a waste time and integrity
Kwagiriire nginya tugitigana.gutirivitathekwo🤣😂🤣😂
Mwingine amerundi Kakamega after 17 years, lover out. They always go back.
With pretty of diseases siwezi kumchukua naenda na mwenye tulikuwa na yeye
Atumia twi itheru nahatucheki😅😅😅😅
Why regret as far as hakukuachia ugojwa that was just season haii ..watu hujisubua na vitu petty
Hakuna siku mwanaume atatosheka na mwanamke moja period
So samido will go back to Eddy, can someone answer me....
When the time comes Lord will beatify everything off course he will leave Karen
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Thèse comments of married men will go back,ohh they use you e.t.c really? They both used other.Huyu alisomeshewa mtoi,akapata mapenzi hiyo time saa hiyo bibi ako huko akigawiwa masiku.Thank God the Lady was hardworking
That man was just promiscuous...he didn't want a second wife
So amekua marriage counselor u gt wat u deserved
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I agree na ww mummy ni ukweli mutupu mpango wa kando sio poa
No sin is too big that the blood 🩸 of Jesus doesn’t cleanse. No judgment the old is gone the new has come. Wish a blessed journey ahead after sharing this.
This is great candid sharing. Thank you.
A good advice. We learn from our own experiences
You are a wonderful lady,people do mistakes, may GOD remember you,learn the lessons there was a reason.
arikia guthuguna muthuri wene riu niithui arataara ii, aregete gutaara muthuri ucio aikare kwi muka niki? mutarani Jorua. mau mataaro nimaku wîigire ithui nitui uguo. akoruo ni hindi wamenya, basi wi mucerere .
The audacity.
Infact bitterness hapa ni pension iliponyoka.
In short...kilimramba.Choices have consequences.Pole to the first wife.
She's a nice Lady,thats why God helped her.
But one common thing women will never reveal is the sexual satisfaction they enjoyed!
It’s the married man who enjoy the sexual relation from both women
@@bettywamae2000 so the woman was travailing through sex.. its only the man who enjoys.
Comments za goat wife are interesting 😅bora mzee anarudi kwetu let us not mind..uzuri watoi wanalelewa😅
My friend what ican say is whatever you can do to somebody, whether good or bad it will come back to you, and one day you will face the concequensis.
Wee kai wakiremirwo nikumukiririria Niki? Makiakimbangire Na Ni wakiingirire wendo wene
W0ria tanii ma .
Goat wives ebu turelax...kumbe Syd's pia hukapitia in the arms of our husbands....hahah...nothing but prayers...
Mungu naye n nani halalangi
Hey Monika how are you?l Love you so so much and watch all you all the time all the way from Germany ❤
I luv u too though I'm married
That's nature wenye wanaongea sana,,..ata wenye wako kwa ndoa wamenjaa huku inje na mabwana za watu
True dear
Say it loud
The part that Ukitaka kwenda, enda, the men provoke that too. My take
Say no to married men..
My Nannie is going out with a married man and shez aware that hes married the guy treats her well and she told me very soon she will marry him ave talked to her but she cant listen and the main reason is money most of the youth nowadays dont listen to advice very few they love money and dont want to work for it.
Your nannie? You mean your grandma?
😂you married?? Ebu do your homework😂 may be unapewa headlines. Hawa slay queen are becoming bad news everyday
The laughter for me after the comment of a missed call and the loan part😂😢
John 8:4-5,7-8
[4]they said to Him, “Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act.
[5]Now Moses, in the law, commanded us that such should be stoned. But what do You say?”
[7]So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.”
[8]And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground.
One cannever base happiness over someone else's misery.
It take time to regret but they always do.
I know a male home wrecker,he was once married bibi akacheza nje wakati alijua she samido the guy n moved in with her sidedude.
The guy vowed to be dating married women and he bragsof how many homes he has wrecked coz hua anatuma evidence to the husbands those women akichoka nao.
Hiyu naye akili yake bake bado inaview life from a sidechick/2nd wife point of view not from a normal woman eg the one that values homes and marriage ata akioleka she better be a 2nd or 3rd if not 4th coz as a normal woman haezi toboa na iyo mentality
You are a great woman very determined
Childhood traumas and broken families can make some people hate or avoid marriages or get into wrong rlships or marriages that is why people are being encouraged to get into self awareness journey or even go for deliverance due to bad family patterns....
I will never judge most people here are women condemning this woman nawengine wamewekwa and still wako kwa ndoa sheeeddddddeee
Its good u left serve God women lets know God usikubali kuharibu what God has joined plizzzz
Wangu ako na side chick for now17 yrs injitiyagira nginya kunuma bt the funniest thing ikoragwo kwao hapa tu karibu nyumba yakomborirwo ya guthiagwo weekend tu thiku icio ingi ikahigwo na muthee agaikara na cabi na matiihithaga everybody knows about them even children am got used of it so there is a time watakunja kuachana? ndaririre ngimenyera
Hugs mum God reunite your family
Umekorogewa hapo aisee? Vumilia au utoke ama pia wewe utafute mtu
Ugakimaka onamikare 30 nomagatiga
A God of a second time. If you allow him to take charge he still has good plans for your life, where you end is where God begins, don't waste time regretting for what has happened, arise and move forward, there is a life for you to leave your future can be great be positive
That was what you had planned for yourself but Gods plan for you still stands, seek to know him allow him to guide your life he will lead you to his plan and purpose, Sarah thought it was over give her husband the maid but
Genesis 21:2
[2]For Sarah conceived and bore Abraham a son in his old age, at the set time of which God had spoken to him.
Ena right kweli ya gûka gûgûtandîka? Aii, nî mûthuri wake angîahûrire.
Why do i feel like this woman doesn't regret of what she did to the goat wife , infact i was waiting for the part that she would apologise but she didn't
She is not sorry
She is regretting years wasted with a married man who had no plans with her .. years of servicing his needs when his wife had no good terms ..the man was the proplem that's what she didn't know
She feels she was the hurted one..
@@shikuliz4134she did a mistake of not telling the man to marry her as a second wife
@@nellykatrina4794 you can't tell a man what to do my friend this men knows what they're coming to you're life to do . either marrying you or using you and dump you at you're lowest moment
I don’t quite buy this story. You clearly contributed to disrupting this family. To me, it seems like you finally dumped the man. In this video, you don’t even take the chance to apologize to the wife who you hurt for so long.
exactly nkt nkt .....
Akwende na huko na hizo ma regrets zake sisi wamama zenye tunapitia ni MUNGU nonsense
ATA maybe anapeana story ndio bibi askie vizuri
Good advice to young girls.