A good friend of mine has had a very rocky relationship for about 10 years. His female partner has presented him with like 45 issues that she doesn't like about him that he does or doesn't do. My friend lost about 50 pounds and joined a fight training gym. You might say he dramatically improved his masculinity but just in those two ways. He has kept the weight off and his female partner no has burning sexual desire for him and this has lasted for about 1 year. When asking her about her complaints about him she now says "well nothing really", "people have minor annoyances but nothing serious". My friend didn't change ANY of the things she complained about and didn't like him for but now mysteriously those same unchanged things are not a problem. My take away is that when you trigger a woman's instinctual sexual attraction triggers, usually around masculinity, her entire attraction and perception of the y becomes positively biased for the good.
Exactly. Women in love don't have 45 issues. This fact is one of the centerpieces of my system. If/when you keep a woman's interest level high, suddenly all the issues disappear. Arguments stop. Traditional psychology thinks that you have to hammer out (using communication) all these 45 issues...WRONG! You need to keep your woman in love. Interestingly, you bring up martial arts. I am a HUGE proponent of bodybuilding and martial arts for increasing a man's confidence and value. In fact the last chapter of my book is about this topic. Now let me ask...is your friend still getting coldness in the bedroom? This problem is serious but if a woman still loves you it can be resolved. I cover this point a bit in this video at the 4 minute mark: th-cam.com/video/EBDlalyXyOM/w-d-xo.html
@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach No my friend has been getting enthusiastic love making from her for a steady year since he lost all the weight and has become really handsome, not that Im looking.
@@marriagepartnersministry5942 Again, EXACTLY! This response can be explained by evolutionary psychology/biology (not to be confused with traditional psychology). 10 thousand years ago your friend would have gone out and hunted, protected...did... well what successful men did back then. Your friend did what could be considered the modern equivalent. He went to an MMA school, learned how to fight, and how to protect. Transformed his body as well.
My divorced mom ex-girlfriend with severe emotional damage, prescribed multiple medications to deal with it, cried everyday, has enrolled in a prestigious university to get a master's degree in psychology.🎉
Hi Chris. So you are arguing that people who go into psychology do so to try and figure out what is wrong with themselves/have mental illness already, yes? :) I can't answer that although it would make for a great study. We could look at people with psychology degrees, and then see if they had higher degrees of mental illness than the rest of the population? Of course HIPPA might make such a study impossible but it is a great idea! Although I can't answer that question, I can help you ensure that you select a mentally healthy, flexible, loving giver.
I'm still stuck on that ''women are better at processing information''. Processing what kind of information, drama and nonsense...lol? They're also supposedly better communicators, but I don't buy that either. Yeah, they're no doubt, champion chit-chatters, but I don't consider chit-chat to necessarily be communication. I mean, ask a woman directions to somewhere, and they have no idea how to get there. They don't know which way is North, South, up or down....lol! Also, if they are better at ''processing'', then why aren't more of them engineers, architechs, physicists, mathematicians, computer programmers, house builders, plumbers, electricians?
Hi Francis. Female brains use 10 times as much white matter as male brains, male brains use much more grey matter. (Gottman et.al., 2019, Science Daily, 2005, Renew Point, 2024). While female brains are process oriented, male brains are what I call problem-solution oriented. This differences evolved over 200 thousand years. Men needed to be highly focused upon tasks like making weapons and hunting while women would do everything else (tend to children, gather, manage the cave). The jobs you mention, engineers, architects, physicists, mathematicians, programmers, plumbers, electricians, are jobs that are better suited for the male problem-solution oriented brain. However the big emerging job market is in institutional/bureaucracy management type jobs. These jobs require managing multiple tasks (multi tasking) and are better suite for the process oriented brain. As far as drama and nonsense are concerned, yes, women will connect something you did today, with something you did 3 years ago. Men will see no logical connection. This often leads to arguments, but my system has a way of dealing with this problem.
Men tend to be better at direct communication. Women tend to be much better at INdirect communication. Less than 10% of communication is the words we use.
@@daviddiienno Generally true, David. If you ask a woman what she wants in a man she will say "I wan't a sensitive communicator." What she does not say is this sensitive communicator is a 6 foot 2 Chad who makes 6 figures and ignores her after they have sex.
Yeah there are brain differences as different gender dynamics and yeah psychology is too liberal nowadays But still i don't think love is the most important, what's the point of being in love if the person is not able to be committed, is not able to be empathetic enough, if can't handle the mood swings, etc, love is that minimum needed but without the proper tools and communication is worthless And yeah the seduction part is always part of it, but again, is not about just getting her, is about all of those tools, without proper self accountability, commitment, self regulation, empathy etc, you are just trying to keep with you a time bomb waiting any minute where you might lack to get away like a dog when the fence is open Is all about finding a person with the same values, life goals and willingness to put the right effort together to make it work, which is hard to find this days but is what is needed Not just a person looking for shinny things you have to keep impressed, you want to avoid those ones
Javier: You bring up some great points! I can tell you that my program has 2 primary functions. It is designed to keep a woman in love with you, but probably more important, it is designed to select a high quality woman. A high quality woman will not have excessive mood swings, she will be accountable, committed, and self regulating. She will be a kind, loving, flexible giver. Finding a high quality women is not easy, but with a system you can do it. That is why we open (start conversations) with many, many women. We get lots of phone numbers. We date lots of women. From there we narrow our selection down to 3 high quality women and once she proves herself we commit to that one. Then we look for a woman that gives us "the golden year" a year of great behavior with no fighting and no major red flags. If not we start the whole process over again. It took me dating many women over several years to find my wife of 18 years.
@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach Everybody has a giver and a taker inside of them. When a woman FEELS like (extremely subjective and biased) she's not getting what she deserves and wants then her taker comes out to protect her. When she FEELS like she's been wronged (subjective determination often times objectively inaccurate) she will FEEL (the taker coming out) justified in being ornery, indifferent, or unkind like the guy DESERVES it.. She may have a higher order of ideology or morality toward good behavior regardless of what you think a person deserves but the unconscious drives generally win out in terms of behavior selection and the unconscious drive is generally self oriented which devolves relationships. If she is called out on this unkindness she doesn't FEEL (subjective determination by the taker) like she's done anything wrong. So there is minimal accountability in this kind of situation. If a person addresses her bad behavior there is often times an ego protectionism defensive posture taken again because her unconscious drive and determination is that she didn't do wrong but the guy did. This type cant rationally speak a coherent justification which puts them into a state of internal conflict if a guy asks one question " does your subjective inference of what I meant merit being objectively outright mean". That a sure fire way to have a fight because her internal conflict will create so much dissonance that she will transference/associations the turmoil's blame onto the guy.
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A good friend of mine has had a very rocky relationship for about 10 years. His female partner has presented him with like 45 issues that she doesn't like about him that he does or doesn't do. My friend lost about 50 pounds and joined a fight training gym. You might say he dramatically improved his masculinity but just in those two ways. He has kept the weight off and his female partner no has burning sexual desire for him and this has lasted for about 1 year. When asking her about her complaints about him she now says "well nothing really", "people have minor annoyances but nothing serious". My friend didn't change ANY of the things she complained about and didn't like him for but now mysteriously those same unchanged things are not a problem. My take away is that when you trigger a woman's instinctual sexual attraction triggers, usually around masculinity, her entire attraction and perception of the y becomes positively biased for the good.
Exactly. Women in love don't have 45 issues. This fact is one of the centerpieces of my system. If/when you keep a woman's interest level high, suddenly all the issues disappear. Arguments stop.
Traditional psychology thinks that you have to hammer out (using communication) all these 45 issues...WRONG! You need to keep your woman in love.
Interestingly, you bring up martial arts. I am a HUGE proponent of bodybuilding and martial arts for increasing a man's confidence and value. In fact the last chapter of my book is about this topic.
Now let me ask...is your friend still getting coldness in the bedroom? This problem is serious but if a woman still loves you it can be resolved.
I cover this point a bit in this video at the 4 minute mark: th-cam.com/video/EBDlalyXyOM/w-d-xo.html
@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach No my friend has been getting enthusiastic love making from her for a steady year since he lost all the weight and has become really handsome, not that Im looking.
@@marriagepartnersministry5942 Again, EXACTLY! This response can be explained by evolutionary psychology/biology (not to be confused with traditional psychology).
10 thousand years ago your friend would have gone out and hunted, protected...did... well what successful men did back then.
Your friend did what could be considered the modern equivalent. He went to an MMA school, learned how to fight, and how to protect. Transformed his body as well.
My divorced mom ex-girlfriend with severe emotional damage, prescribed multiple medications to deal with it, cried everyday, has enrolled in a prestigious university to get a master's degree in psychology.🎉
Hi Chris. So you are arguing that people who go into psychology do so to try and figure out what is wrong with themselves/have mental illness already, yes? :) I can't answer that although it would make for a great study. We could look at people with psychology degrees, and then see if they had higher degrees of mental illness than the rest of the population?
Of course HIPPA might make such a study impossible but it is a great idea!
Although I can't answer that question, I can help you ensure that you select a mentally healthy, flexible, loving giver.
I'm still stuck on that ''women are better at processing information''. Processing what kind of information, drama and nonsense...lol? They're also supposedly better communicators, but I don't buy that either. Yeah, they're no doubt, champion chit-chatters, but I don't consider chit-chat to necessarily be communication. I mean, ask a woman directions to somewhere, and they have no idea how to get there. They don't know which way is North, South, up or down....lol! Also, if they are better at ''processing'', then why aren't more of them engineers, architechs, physicists, mathematicians, computer programmers, house builders, plumbers, electricians?
Hi Francis. Female brains use 10 times as much white matter as male brains, male brains use much more grey matter. (Gottman et.al., 2019, Science Daily, 2005, Renew Point, 2024). While female brains are process oriented, male brains are what I call problem-solution oriented.
This differences evolved over 200 thousand years. Men needed to be highly focused upon tasks like making weapons and hunting while women would do everything else (tend to children, gather, manage the cave).
The jobs you mention, engineers, architects, physicists, mathematicians, programmers, plumbers, electricians, are jobs that are better suited for the male problem-solution oriented brain.
However the big emerging job market is in institutional/bureaucracy management type jobs. These jobs require managing multiple tasks (multi tasking) and are better suite for the process oriented brain.
As far as drama and nonsense are concerned, yes, women will connect something you did today, with something you did 3 years ago. Men will see no logical connection. This often leads to arguments, but my system has a way of dealing with this problem.
Men tend to be better at direct communication. Women tend to be much better at INdirect communication. Less than 10% of communication is the words we use.
@@daviddiienno Generally true, David. If you ask a woman what she wants in a man she will say "I wan't a sensitive communicator." What she does not say is this sensitive communicator is a 6 foot 2 Chad who makes 6 figures and ignores her after they have sex.
@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoachThat is so interesting, thank you
@@bonditltd5346 thank you. If there is anyway, I can be of help. Please let me know.
Yeah there are brain differences as different gender dynamics and yeah psychology is too liberal nowadays
But still i don't think love is the most important, what's the point of being in love if the person is not able to be committed, is not able to be empathetic enough, if can't handle the mood swings, etc, love is that minimum needed but without the proper tools and communication is worthless
And yeah the seduction part is always part of it, but again, is not about just getting her, is about all of those tools, without proper self accountability, commitment, self regulation, empathy etc, you are just trying to keep with you a time bomb waiting any minute where you might lack to get away like a dog when the fence is open
Is all about finding a person with the same values, life goals and willingness to put the right effort together to make it work, which is hard to find this days but is what is needed
Not just a person looking for shinny things you have to keep impressed, you want to avoid those ones
Javier: You bring up some great points! I can tell you that my program has 2 primary functions. It is designed to keep a woman in love with you, but probably more important, it is designed to select a high quality woman.
A high quality woman will not have excessive mood swings, she will be accountable, committed, and self regulating. She will be a kind, loving, flexible giver.
Finding a high quality women is not easy, but with a system you can do it. That is why we open (start conversations) with many, many women. We get lots of phone numbers. We date lots of women.
From there we narrow our selection down to 3 high quality women and once she proves herself we commit to that one. Then we look for a woman that gives us "the golden year" a year of great behavior with no fighting and no major red flags.
If not we start the whole process over again. It took me dating many women over several years to find my wife of 18 years.
@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach Everybody has a giver and a taker inside of them. When a woman FEELS like (extremely subjective and biased) she's not getting what she deserves and wants then her taker comes out to protect her. When she FEELS like she's been wronged (subjective determination often times objectively inaccurate) she will FEEL (the taker coming out) justified in being ornery, indifferent, or unkind like the guy DESERVES it.. She may have a higher order of ideology or morality toward good behavior regardless of what you think a person deserves but the unconscious drives generally win out in terms of behavior selection and the unconscious drive is generally self oriented which devolves relationships. If she is called out on this unkindness she doesn't FEEL (subjective determination by the taker) like she's done anything wrong. So there is minimal accountability in this kind of situation. If a person addresses her bad behavior there is often times an ego protectionism defensive posture taken again because her unconscious drive and determination is that she didn't do wrong but the guy did. This type cant rationally speak a coherent justification which puts them into a state of internal conflict if a guy asks one question " does your subjective inference of what I meant merit being objectively outright mean". That a sure fire way to have a fight because her internal conflict will create so much dissonance that she will transference/associations the turmoil's blame onto the guy.