My Husband Asked For A Paternity Test
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- My Husband Asked For A Paternity Test, After That Our Relationship Was Never The Same
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Ill be the paragraph person
So when the wife gave birth the husband and his entire family started treating her and her baby horribly and after a few months of suffer she finally gave in for a paternity test and when the test came positive everyone felt guilty and apologized. The wife forgave her husband but not the in law family. So the wife told the husband to either get divorced or they move into ops home country (where her friends and family live)
And told him to cut his family off. They are now gonna start couple concealing.
(And if u say the wife is cruel, it was said in that video that when she started dating him she had to leave her home country behind and move in with him, she left college to become a stay-at-home mom because her husband had something important and got her first job only at 23, where her two co-workers were the only friends she had and she had to quit her fav job bc her husband was insecure about her co-workers cheating with her)
so yeah the wife sacrificed everything for her husband
Edit: this a paragraph to summarise the story for people who don't want to spend 20 minutes to watch the full video if you want to post your opinions do it in the original video
WE SUMMONED HIM.
THE PARAGRAPH GOD 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
She should divorce thast guy, omg
What is wrong with you?
@@Mykela1988?????
@@Mykela1988 What is wrong with you???
I wouldn’t care about a paternity test, but for treating Any baby like that we’re Done. 💯
That's a kind of valid reason I want to break up but I'm not believing that the child would resemble the great grandparents is it so is it that wrong because of how weird it is
Hell nah I ain't gonna raise another man's child
Exactly
He didn't do anything to the baby
He just ignored her and the daughter didn't try to get his attention cause she was 2 months old 💀
He didn't mistreat the daughter
@@tiawolf3610 bro what
Had a friend who was Hispanic and so was her husband. Their daughter was born blond and blue eyed. She resembled her mom and dad but had white skin! Their second daughter had brown eyes and brown hair darker complexion but looked like her sister! Genetics can be crazy!
Hispanics are white and can have blonde hair and blue eyes. You're thinking of Hispanics with native south american backgrounds. Please learn before you spread misinformation.
@@alstaa3434I’m not seeing any deliberate spread of misinformation here. We don’t know the complexity of the sister’s genetic background, which is what she was comparing in her original post.
I still remember learning in high school Spanish class that Guadalajara, Mexico has a higher-than-expected percentage of people of Spanish heritage and that blond-hair, blue-eyed people are more common than you think.
@@BoundariesMaintained I think alstaa only has something against it because Kellysorensen phrased it as if one could imagine Hispanic to look like or rather it was basically unnecessary information that perhaps reinforces the stereotype that Hispanics are a race and not a cultural group (which they are yes)
At least that is how I understood the comment
It's called recessive genes, confess from father up. Most common one is to see short parents with tall kids, then see a tall grandparent. Hey, there was a mixed race couple who had TWINS & one girl come out white the other a pale black.
Genes can go back 7 entire generations, even if a grandmother from 7 gens ago had green eyes and everyone else in your bloodline had deep melanin brown eyes you could still end up with green eyes
Why 7 generations? Like why that number?
I thought it was only 5 generations. Can you enlighten me on that?
@@Golden_Risuto Im not exactly sure about that tbh but I believe thats when the DNA of your 7th great grandparents basically stops running through the genes.
@@td2222you recieved half your parents genes and they recieved half from their parents which is 25% for you of your grand parents. Exponentially less DNA gets passed on from the starting generation to each successive generation. So by generation 7 only 0.78125% of the DNA gets passed.
That’s about the same difference in DNA between any 2 random people just randomly picked out of the entire human population. At 5 realistically is when it becomes highly improbable for genes to mean anything from that far back, but by 7 generations you basically are as close to your ancestors from 7 gens back as you are to your best friend.
Everything past 7 generations so little DNA will get passed on it’s basically impossible for you to inherit those old traits.
The person in the main videos great grandmother has those traits which is only 3 generations back, meaning they recieved 12.5% of their great grandparents DNA which in turn, means the daughter and sons recieved 6.25% each.
Let’s put that into perspective: the difference between you and a gorilla is 3%. 6.25% is a HUGE amount of DNA and if only half that is enough to make an gorilla a human it’s not out of the question that double 6.25% could result in what is described in the video.
I wish they taught this stuff in school more rigorously these days, it’s a real shame people have no concept of this stuff anymore.
@@Golden_Risutoat 5 generations 3.125% of DNA is passed on. That’s still more than enough to cause an effect since that’s about the difference between a gorilla and human. It’s a massive amount of DNA and is still a very noticeable thing at this stage. Although, you are correct in that it’s definitely unlikely for change to be passed on at this stage.
At 7 only 0.78125% is passed on, and that’s about the same difference between any two randomly picked humans from the entire human population. Old DNA becomes unnoticeable from that far back from this point on as you just blend into everyone else.
Only more recent changes are noticeable (like your parent’s DNA).
The videos baby is 4 generations from the great grandmother which is still 6.25%. That WAY more than enough to cause a change, however low the likelihood may have become. It’s still a decent chance at this stage (5 and beyond is less likely and 7 is where we hit basically impossible territory since it’s such a low amount of DNA being passed on it has virtually no effect on phenotype).
My husband has brown hair and brown eyes. I have redish brown hair and green Hazel eyes. Both my kids have blonde hair and blue eyes. My husband's grandmother wanted a paternity test. My husband said no. I told him I didn't care, let her have the test they're ours, and if she needs that reassurance, let her have it. Again, he said no.
Apparently, even with that test, she would have still said they were not his.
Its actually a good thing to test tho, your husband just did a bit of show and acting, this is an indicator that he will always defend your honor. Still tho you should test, maybe babies have been swapped in the hospital.
Sounds like grandma was just a jerk & hubby knew it & wasn't having it. 😂❤
@@zombine7103I agree. Women get offended by the question but the kids come first. If the test will ease the Dad's mind to have a better relationship with the kid the mom should do it for the sake of the kid but modern mom's put their feelings before what's best for the whole family. You know what else I find intriguing is that we got women who will end a marriage for trivial reasons like: We grew apart; it wasn't exciting anymore; it was irreconcilable differences. Basically BS. Yet we have women that won't do the paternity test to prove it & will stay in a marriage where the Dad is neglectful to the kid he believes isn't his. 🤦♀️ Neglect &/or mental/emotional abuse of a child is absolutely grounds for separation or divorce. I wish these ladies would switch places & those that should leave would leave & those that should stay would stay. But that's just a dream. 🤷♀️😢
@zombine7103 No, it is not a good idea to do the test just because grandma wants it. She can want in one hand and s*** in the other and see which one gets full. Hubby was correct. Good for him.
@phyniseconner2011 My husband and I have been together for over 20 years. We are still happy because we work at it and don't linger on the pedy crap.
Do the test. Even if the woman did not cheat, it removes the possibility your child was swapped in the hospital.
This is why DNA paternity testing should be mandatory for newborn infants before the presumed fathers sign any birth certificates.
@@Trenex1000it cost too much for the hospital who is too greedy to make a profit!
Personally, I agree, but this is different. I wouldn’t mind it at all, if we had a sort of prenup agreement that we would test all our kids, provided it was done for the right reasons, came with no accusations, and, ideally, was in some way reciprocal. If the father of my child came up to me with that kind of baseless accusation - especially if it could literally be disproven by a high school biology textbook - and abandoned me after giving birth like that, based on nothing but his own dumb, unconfirmed suspicion, I wouldn’t be able to move past it easily. Let alone if he had that sort of reaction and took it out on the baby like that. That’s not just about him neglecting his own kid for the first days of their life and taking his (baseless) resentment for me out on the children, which is bad enough, but about how it shows he only cares about his own kids _because_ they’re biologically his. I get wanting one’s own bio kids, but that’s different from only loving them, or even being humane towards them, because they’re biologically yours, and being willing to toss them in the trash on a whim until they’re proven to have your genes. That shows your priorities are screwed up. I couldn’t define that as paternal love or care, just as ego, and that’s not what I want for my kids.
Thats why im going to do a maternity and paternity test before me and my husband leave the hospital
@@funkyfresh2053
Because of this, you're considerably more honest, transparent, and responsible than so many other women today.
I can relate this story. I was tall blonde haired with blue eyes. Both my parents, grand parents and all 3 of my sisters were relatively short with dark hair and brown eyes. I was referred to as the one the milk man delivered. As it turned out I looked exactly like my grandfather’s relatives a couple of generations back. My grand grandfathers mom had blue eyes. I discovered the information when I was doing some genealogy research.
You need to take it, not to make him believe you, but also to rub it in his face for doubting you
No you don’t, because if he had asked for it he would find out at court.
Don’t add fuel to the fire get the test and then ask for either a divorce or marriage counseling.
If pat tests were standard problems like this wouldnt exist.
@@XFizzlepop-BerrytwistExactly
Right!? That’s my thoughts😂 I would have took that test sa fast to prove him wrong and then would’ve hung it on the fridge and pulled it out every time he or his family acted like like they were right about something 🤣
With paternity tests being relatively inexpensive these day, why wouldn’t the father just do a test on his own without blowing his whole family up with the doubt and accusations?? 🤨
I would assume you still need mom. Consent, maybe to even be there, depends where they are itw.
@@kurtsudheim825 No i dont think you do
@@kennethmortensen8159other than where it's a crime. You might have a point. Maybe he just doesn't want to go to jail.
This is why DNA paternity testing should be mandatory for newborn infants before the presumed fathers sign any birth certificates.
@@peachy_dreamzzz1
Either these people are not that bright, or they are actively trying to evade accountability for their moral failures.
There is a reason why countless women are against the idea of mandatory DNA paternity testing. I find it interesting that the mere insinuation of transparency and accountability just rattles their cage. That tells you everything you need to know.
Give him the paternity test and then give him the divorce papers
If pat tests were standard problems like this wouldnt exist.
Its a bit childish to serve divorce papers over a pat test.
@@XFizzlepop-BerrytwistI wouldn’t be just over the paternity test but the way he treated her and the child.
@@mrswiggles4790
Well… yes, I agree the way a person acts definitely can have consequences.
If the test was done though… he would not have acted that way.
I am not excusing his actions, I likely would divorce too given the actions in the story.
But if a pat test was standard, the woman would not feel attacked by asking for one, and a guy would not feel betrayed for a refusal of one.
(I am talking about in general here, not just this story.)
I’d understand that if it’s over his treatment of the child. If it’s just because he asked for a paternity test, then that’s insane. That means you’d break up a family because a father wanted to be sure it was actually his child.
And I agree with the first reply. Paternity tests should be mandatory across the board. Men get the short end of the stick in every aspect of family court. The least that can be done is allow them to verify the child is actually theirs.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwistit's even more childish to accuse your woman of cheating because she pops out a kid who looks like her family instead of him. I'd divorce too. Lack of trust for no reason? You bet I would. Not gonna even entertain the thought of daily accusations of cheating when cheating never hapoened
My wife wants me to habe a paternity test after hearing about one of my hard times in life and her intentions hit home. "I know because its from me, you deserve to know also."
I look foward to our old age together.
So she knows you doubt her. How sweet.
You should get her a test too. Babies kind of look alike at first. Unless she never let it out of her sight, it might not be hers. Could be room 205s kid.
@@sortaamy3003 I don't doubt her though, she came to this decisions after wanting to hear about my life before we met and the challenges I faced. Nice of you to give backhanded complements. Suits you well.
@@sortaamy3003 Unless dad was "doing" 205. too, just the paternity test should resolve both questions, if it confirms his paternity.
@@sortaamy3003 or she just want to be a good person and don’t want the father of her child do you have any worry he is not the father. Also he has probably seen news of someone raising kids are not theirs for their entire life and not knowing until like the last 10 five years of their life
@@galaxyofizanamiit's not being a good person. It's tolerating an insult on her character. She's an idiot
My kids met one of my uncle's when they were little and he drove from Ohio just to visit them. My uncle back then had flaming red hair.
7 years go my oldest daughter-in-law gave birth to a beautiful ginger girl and daughter-in-law was worried what I would think because my son is brunette and she is blonde.
I laughed and reassured her that it never dawned on me that she would have had an affair. My son waited for me to say it. My uncle has flaming red hair. Then my son told his wife to never feel like she is being judged.
I just wish they would take their little ginger girl to meet him before he passes.
Paternity tests should be mandatory. End of problem.
Then you could also say it should be mandatory to let your partner go through your text message or to have access to their location at all time. I mean its not like you can 100% know that your husband doesnt have another family
@@user-uj2ku5fk7c That is a totally irrelevant comment. Paternity fraud is a hell of a lot different, and MUCH more important, than merely cheating. A man is financially responsible for his children until they reach the age of majority, and in many cases past that. A minimum of 18 years of paying for children that may not even be his. This is unacceptable. There is no logic that says DNA testing is bad.
@@russelldevaney7001 I agree, they should be mandatory. So no one can doubt parternity.
Having said that, if they are not mandatory to ask your wife one, out of the blue without discussing it priorly, is indeed accusing her of cheating, so she has every right to be upset and angry about it.
Ergo, before accusing someone you love of being an horrible person that broke your trust, maybe consider it with a little more than "But I don't understand genetics".
@@credendovides20 There is usually a reason why the man wants a paternity test. If he trusts his wife completely, he won't ask for one. But how many times have we seen children turn out to be from another man, and the husband is stunned? Women are excellent liars, and this paternal fraud is far too common to be ignored. Almost all of those cuckolded husbands trusted their wives, and even when the evidence is incontrovertible, they often continue to gaslight. The fact is, it is far easier for the average woman to cheat now than it is for the man, and women seem to have little loyalty any more. Blindly trusting your wife is pretty silly in today's Western world.
@@russelldevaney7001so you don't mind your wife cheating as long as she doesn't get pregnant by another man...ok
Easy. Do the test. Grant the husband the same level of certainty YOU had when you brought the baby home from the hospital.
So he gets to accuse her of cheating with no repercussions. Nope, If I were her, I would have taken the test immediately and given it to him along with a divorce (or kept it ransom until he gave me a divorce).
@@adrianmcbride1666 So he should suppress his doubts and wonder for the rest of his life if his wife made a fool out of him? No. Grant him peace of mind if you love him. And keep in mind you're only proving he is the father, not that there was no cheating. A theoretically objective court would grant him this, why not a loving wife.
@@amerlin388 does he have any proof that she is cheating? No? Then he should divorce her because he does not trust her. He has no reason to suspect his wife of cheating and he actively insulted his wife by accusing her of cheating.
@@adrianmcbride1666what do you have to say to the victims of paternity fraud ?
Their is no law to protect them. What would you say a man to do to protect himself from such a awfull fraud.
Is their any other way? Especially when about 30 percent of paternity test comes negative in the us and even countries like france have banned paternity test and they call it keep the peace because a lot of men were finding out they were not the father and leaving? You can't blindly trust anyone in this world. What harm will you get from a little paternity test to keep his peace of mind?
@@adrianmcbride1666what would you have to say to a victim of paternity fraud ?
What would you say to a man to do to protect himself from such a fraud especially when he sees stats like 30 percent of test done in us is negative and countries like france have banned paternity test. They call it keep the peace because a lot of men where finding out the truth and families were breaking.
Why dont you think from his perspective that men can also get scared and if a little test could provide him more comfort why not support him and prove that I am not one of those 30 percent.
What sane person eats spaghetti and hotdogs AND bacon at the same time. That’s disgusting🤮🤮
I was wondering dang how come nobody's commenting on the disgusting meal? 🤔😂
That was a culinary abomination. 🤣
Even worse, it doesn't seem like they were done cooking yet
Obviously non of yall grew up poor. This a staple meal in alot of poor families, even referenced in alot of shows and movies. Although this video goes a bit extra with it, ussually you just cut the dogs and bacon up, cook em together then put them in the sauce as it cooks.
@@el4242 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is why parent test should be mandatory so you don’t gotta fuck with feelings like that
I have said a million times on these blogs that the law should require it for ALL births with no legal way to opt out. It would even the playing field to prevent anyone from having to ask for it which ruins a marriage.
Also, knowing biological link is better for health and safety because it affects whether or not an organ or blood transfusion will work and some diseases are genetic and then the doctors know what the children might inherit.
@@Zurroundthen you could also that the law should force people to give their spouse access to all their text message. I mean it would prevent anyone that suspects cheating from having to ask for it which ruins a marriage 🤪.
@@user-uj2ku5fk7c NO. There are multiple reasons why this is important. A child has a right to know with certainty who their parents are and from many legal standpoints the government needs to know parentage. It is also a good idea for medical safety as certain diseases and disorders are GENETIC and if an organ or blood transfusion is needed in a family close genetics is a factor. Your "slippery slope" argument is flawed. Also, legally we do countless things that force people to prove their citizenship and prove where they were born etc so my idea only adds one more thing to that list.
Just take the damn test and be done with it. Just make paternity test mandatory for everyone at childbirth😊
All of those problems would’ve been avoided with the paternity test
BINGO !!!
And I ask, what reason did she have to not take the paternity test if she “never cheated on him”…?
Honour. She won't have her honour besmirched.
@@floodgates182Yet she behaves like she's guilty🤦♀️
@@kolbyking2315 Your totalitarian kind of thinking is exactly why we came up with the principle of "innocent until proven guilty". Your nasty presumptions were proven wrong in this case and are proven wrong in the vast majority of cases (80% of requested paternity tests come back positive). It's paranoia.
@@kolbyking2315 Doesn’t matter if she acts like she’s guilty. Theres times where people act like they’re guilty even thought they’re not.
@@floodgates182Her honor would only be reinforced by the test. Those who are inocent have relief and pleasure in shoving the proofs of their truth in the acusers face 😊. Only the guilty get mad and bear in mind a positive result doesn't mean the women has not cheated, so...
The fact that she never mentions if she got the test, or the results of said test if she did get it, is really the most interesting part...
You need to read the paragraph guy instead of vanishing into your victimhood fantasies. Men cheat on women at twice the rate as the other way round.
Are you slow 😂 she got the test, it was his kid and she gave him an ultimatum of get divorced or move out of the country to her home country with her family and he agreed to the latter.
And that's why paternity tests should be mandatory. To avoid these kinds of awkward situations. He doesn't have to ask, she doesn't have to deny.
@@MonicaAshley1991Where did she mention it?
@@MonicaAshley1991 Are you? 🤣🤪She never once says anywhere in the 57 second video that she got the test.
Men get duped into raising kids that aren’t theirs all the time. The mother knows for sure it’s hers, so why not give the father that same assurance?
Exactly
Men cheat all the time, so they shouldn't be allowed to come home without taking STD tests. After all, many Stds harm women more. And fetuses
Sure and women get raped all the time the majority being at the hands of a partner. All men should have too pass psychological evaluations to ensure he's not a rapist before being allowed near women.
After all he knows he's 100% not, only fair she has the same reassurance right?
Women get broken by men who have multiple families or affairs in the marriage, should it be mandatory that a weekly audit on his phones, social media and finances be done to confirm fidelity?
@@yhiontop that is the absolute dumbest response anyone could have possibly made to my comment. Are you one of those broken women?
This is a greay example of why the tests should be mandatory. He wouldnt have felt hurt, nor would she have.
Why DNA test at birth need to be mandatory
And that's why we need a mandatory paternity test: Because asking for a paternity test will destroy the relationship, and constant uncertainties about one's own paternity will destroy it too: The only way to get out of it without a broken relationship is a mandatory paternity test at birth.
Lol paterinity test should be mandatory😂
It's bullshit that he treated her like that and the baby makes it even worse.
To many men have become a victim of paternity fraud 😒 what did you expect was going to happen 🤔?
So what do you call woman that deliberately hide this truth and years later you discover you were never even the father? 🤡 now that is what i call heartless monster 👻 👽.
He did what he had to do
Miscegenation always hits white females upside the head. No sympathy for her.
Its not
I am with the man would have done the same
The fact that he took it out on the innocent baby 🤮 divorce worthy
Anyone would if they thought it was a bastard baby. Would you treat a kid like your own if you believed the kid was born through cheating?
Refusing a paternity test is similar to refusing to sign a prenup. Its a gigantic red flag that ends the (potential) marriage right there.
@@metalhev3989 no where close to the same thing lol.
@@rhondaaa9614 its absolutely the same thing. Women will guilt you with the "you don't trust me" bullshit even though they don't trust you enough to talk with a woman at work and they know damn well, so they'll pretend them not being "offended" is worth the man suffering his entire marriage with a looming threat over their heads.
@@rhondaaa9614Yes. Yes I would. Your point, Sir?
PATERNITY TESTS SHOULD BE MANDATORY BY LAW
Okay, but;
1) Who's gonna pay for it?
Tax payers, privately, medical insurance????
Having kids is already expensive as it is.
2) Which is more important; keeping kids fed, clothed and safely housed or knowing paternity that is in all likelihood won't be accepted?
3) Why should everyone else be forced to do something because of some peoples insecurities?
4) Who enforces such a law?
4b) What are the penalties for breaking that law?
4c) What are the safeguards to ensure that such a law isn't abused and used to persecute innocent parties?
l do, however, think it should be a requirement in family court, if there's a separation/divorce with child support application ..
On the proviso that if paternity test are positive the full cost should be covered by whoever doubts their paternity to avoid paying C.S.
lf tested negative the full costs of should be covered by the other party who cheated on & deceived in order to get child support under false pretences.
(*most separations and divorce is typically due to one or both parties having very deepseated insecurities.
Btw, you using ALL CAPS, your insecurities are showing for all the world to see, you should work on that before entering ANY commited relationship)
l wish you well, you've obviously been deeply hurt, perhaps multiple times, and may have been forced to pay support for a child who wasn't yours.
That is Absolutely NOT right, so sorry you had to suffer such a deplorable betrayal and abuse.
But you just can't use that to judge all on the actions of the few. That isn't justice, that's unfounded pre emptive attacks and revenge. ❤️🩹
@@matildastanford7019 do you have children? I have four, all mine, paternity test proves, western women are master manipulators and this anti-male society we live in promotes women's irresponsible decisions, to protect men against the disgusting discrimination we face, PATERNITY TESTS SHOULD BE MANDATORY BY LAW, if the woman lied, she can pay it, ACCOUNTABILITY is a motherfucker, but that's usually a man's issue since womens bad decisions are uplifted and supported, "stunning and brave" to be a single mom, the DEVIL IS A LIAR,
- quality choice in a man = 2 parent household, produces productive healthy children into societal contributing young adults
- single father households do as well
- SINGLE MOTHER HOUSEHOLD PRODUCE, STRIPPERS, SEX WORKERS, MORE SINGLE MOMS, PRISONERS, DRUG ADDICTS, AND DEGENERATES, AAAALLLL CAPS FOOL
@@matildastanford7019 that's so retarded that it's gay
It'll will never happen because way too many politicians would be caught cheating. Who do you think the first finger will be pointed at (and lets be honest rightly) whenever a female staffers kids isn't her husbands/boyfriends.
Aside from the fact she as 3 other children and where the hell is she getting the time or energy for an affair, its obvious the husband has no faith in her. Wonder if he expects complete faith in him from her?
Yes but if your a black man with black hair and brown eyes and than give birth to a pale skin green eyed blonde hair with your wife that a tan brown eyed and brown hair you gonna get suspicious because it having the same exact genetics as your great-grandparents in law you would be a bit sus
Why do people insist on side with women denying paternity tests, she never cheated then do the test, seriously like, are you so self centered and comfortable with you always knowing the kid is yours that you dismiss the doubts of the one who want to? It does no affect you in any way and the one distrusting is the man once the result comes with the truth he will be the distrustful one, women saying no to a paternity test always give me the "manipulative, distrustful always plays people's emotions and carefully say and do what needs to do to het people under the threads of her puppeteering hands" just fucking do the test, fucking trust wreckers
Oh I knew this 30 year old married woman with 3 kids and a part time job and still rotated 3 dudes. So whats your point exactly?
You do realize that women with children have affairs all the time, right? Having children doesn’t make that impossible.
Why would you have an issue with a husband wanting to make sure the child is his? It’s a life long commitment. Any lifelong commitment I make is gonna come with the assurance that what I’m taking responsibility for is actually my responsibility. There is only 2 reasons to be against a paternity test. One is the child isn’t his and the woman knows it. Two is it makes the woman feel bad. Two is not a valid reason to withhold that assurance from a husband. In fact, if a woman is going to prevent me from verifying the kid is mine, we’ve got much bigger issues. She should be happy to make me assured in that knowledge. Much like I’m happy to make her assured in any doubts she might have.
It’s not unnatural for humans to have doubts on major commitments like that. A good woman/man will do what they can to ease those doubts as long as it doesn’t cause major problems for them.
to be fair, saying no to a paternity test is pretty suspicious
My brothers in Christ: you don't need your wife's permission for a paternity test. You just need to do it and not tell her. Saves a lot of time and energy.
Jesus Christ is King.
So, lying to your wife is ok?
@@writeeat7364 it's not a lie at all. It's just asking a question from a scientist and getting an answer.
You shouldn't have to take a paternity test. My Momma was an RN, and a couple came in, and the wife was in labor. Both were blonde with blue eyes and fair skin. When the baby was born, the baby was born with dark hair, eyes, and skin. The husband started accusing his wife of cheating with a black man, and she was swearing up and down that she hadn't cheated on him. Their baby had to stay in the hospital for something, and the mother stayed with the baby. The husband comes strolling in one day and tells her that he had talked to his father or grandfather and way back on his family tree. One of his relatives had married a black man and a hundred, and something years later, the genes popped up in their child. His wife told him him to kick rocks barefooted. I was born with neon orange red hair, very pale skin, very small hands , ankles, and feet. I'm the only redhead in my family with these features, and my grandfather traced them back to three hundred years. I was also the first girl born in my Daddy's family in three hundred years too. So miracles do happen, and that little girl hit the jack pot with getting blonde hair and green eyes. She needs to tell her husband and his family to shove it.
Shit like that is super rare, it’s why it’s called a “miracle”. If you have nothing to hide then a paternity test shouldn’t be an issue. Her refusing to do a paternity test is kind of shady if she’s so “trustworthy”
That's simply crappy behavior from the wife. Men have no way of knowing if a kid is ours. That's why men are pushing for mandatory paternity tests. 1/3 of all those tested turn out to not be their father's children. Its a real problem and until a law passes that paternity tests are mandatory, women just need to have that little bit of understanding that we as men need to know.
@@MrDeadYeti agreed. Mandatory paternity testing would be a huge boon…for men. So we won’t get it.
As I see it, the state and institutions just make too much money with the paternity fraud industry.
1/3? Bullshit @@MrDeadYeti
Estimates of how many children are not their biological father's offspring range from 9% to 30%.
The 33% is from studies looking at people already contesting paternity.
I am kinda team "lets make paternity tests standard". Takes the stigma off them. Keeps people more honest.
Me too. Honestly I don't see it as a problem. I mean there's literally cases where baby got switched in the hospital so it might help them in case their children got switched. This kind of thing can easily happen with anyone!
I think so too. AND they should be available online to the public. That way when Suzy, the woman down the street, has a baby, it only takes one look to find out it's your husbands baby.
@@nurulafiqah4903lol. You think they're gonna go to "the hospital must have switched the baby!"? No. They're going to automatically go to "My wife is a whore. Maybe I should kill her and this bastard baby too." At least, in some cases.
Mandatory. The rate of fathers unknowingly raising another man's child is roughly 33% in the West.
@@sortaamy3003Great idea!!!
The husband and his friends and family are assholes. Because he was insecure, he let a child suffer. Now, if he had threatened divorce or pestered her into getting the test, but the child was never treated differently than his kids until they divorced, I would be saying he reacted reasonably and forgivable. Especially if he chewed his family out for not behaving the same way
The daughter didn't suffer
He just refused to take care of a child that wasn't his
Denying a test is admitting to cheating - even if you never cheated
No one hurt the child
Getting raised by a single mom isn't "suffering"
"Never treated differently" ?!!! Did you watch the same video that I did??
Bul. About 20 to 30% of paternity tests in marriage the husband in NOT the father.
Outside marriage it is 70% of court ordered ones it's the man is not the father.
Truth is if you suspect do the test yourself the kid is not yours. If it is the mother doesn't know you doubted her, and all the angst and anger over that.
If you're not, start protypur assets and file for divorce when you followed your lawyer's advice.
A 20 to 30% chance is too much to not spend $300 to $400 to be sure with a D A test. Mom never has to know.
@sadjaxx I was saying IF he had treated the child as his own until he got the test results back. I believe he's the asshole because he had no real evidence and a child paid a price
@@Casey21.
He was asking for evidence. She refused.
Paternity tests should be mandatory at birth
Paternety tests should be mandatory by law.
Give away your DNA "King" y'all are so easy to manipulate.
She gave up everything. She moved to his country, had to drop her studies and had to leave her job because he was scared she'll leave him or cheat on him. She gave up everything for him, he could trust her a little bit or is that too much to ask?
@@catcat63527 That has nothing to do with the comment at hand? And you copy pasted the same reply in a comment above and the person who replied to you said it perfectly.
HE/SHE IS SAYING THAT THESE TESTS SHOULD BE MANDATORY.
Did he/she mention anything about the wife or the husband? Unless there is some sort of secret message hidden in this comment then stfu abd leave
@@catcat63527 "he could trust her a little bit"
I trust someone a little bit to take the chicken out of the refrigerator to thaw. Raising a bastard is slightly more than just "a little bit".
@@catcat63527So? None of that means anything. Those types can still cheat. And paternity fraud is through the roof. Especially in the US and the UK.
Get the test if you have nothing to fear. Your husband will trust you more if it is his child. The test is a win-win. You are a fool if you are angry with him.
Typical woman, she obviously has something to hide.
For many women, it's hard to recover once you realize that your partner has no trust in you. It's hurtful.
No, the fact that he is demanding a paternity test proves that he has no trust in you at all. Asking for a paternity test is an accusation of infidelity, it is an insult to the wife. If I were her, I would have taken it immediately then handed it to him along with a divorce.
@@realMaxEffort
This is why DNA paternity testing should be mandatory.
Take the test. Then you can rub it in his face for not trusting you.
Nope.. 1. He can have the test done without her and 2. Once taking the test I'd divorce you . Obviously there was zero love and trust there . Screw off guys. Your insecurities are so very tiring.
Hey, he's suspicious the kid doesn't look like him. That's a pretty understandable worry.
@@lorireed8046
Pat tests should be standard, it takes the stigma away from both parties.
There is a sad story on YT of an old man who loved and trusted his wife, guess what none of his kids were his, its sad and heartbreaking.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist You get that test done. Fine... You check on your own self without involving her DNA . That's all I said. YES, she has the right to leave you as soon as you ask though. Just go take yourself and the kid without demanding that test while still inside her. That shit is not only painful it is dangerous. What do y'all care about what she has to go through as long as your mind is at ease though, right? Not like she isn't going through enough with being pregnant, right? There's zero need to even tell her nor is there a need for her DNA being taken . Y'all continue with bioweapons being used with your own DNA though for the pretend "safety" and peace of mind though. LoL 🤣
Just like the Covid tests everyone ran out and did . China loved getting those .
@@Kaboomboo so attack your wife with accusations and imply she's some cheating whore?
Give him a paternity test, then the divorce papers. The fact he neglected an innocent baby is unforgivable. Most folks wouldn't treat a stranger's baby with that kind of disregard, the fact he is capable of that proves he's a very bad person wearing a mask, but the evil is lurking under the surface
You’re not a man as far as I know, and you wouldn’t understand the fact that not knowing that a kid is not yours OK if my partner had a black kid and I asked for a paternity test and she straight up refused my resentment would grow and a lot of men wouldn’t help her because he’s thinking she cheated on Why wouldn’t you put the situation and get one? Why wouldn’t you just get one wouldn’t be like I know this looks a little fucked up. I did not cheat on you. There are other reasons why this could be happening, but I understand why you need reassurance at this point in time.
@@ryanssten731Nope. Divorce.
@@ryanssten731divorce. What man treats any child that way?
@@MrEvldreamrSomeone who has full reason to believe that child is not his?
@teresamagnusson You are out here advocating every woman who's man isn't a doormat who let's her walk all over him to get divorced,by any means do you happen to be advocating for all of humanity to go extinct due to no woman being able to get a man as they fight back instead of being doormats💀
I also look exactly like my mother’s grandparents. Never crossed my dad’s mind to do this.
Take the test and file for divorce.
and make the child suffer without their real father. all men deserve the right to paternity tests.
Nigga can you let people be married
Pat tests should be standard.
@@XFizzlepop-BerrytwistDivorce IS standard.
@@teresamagnusson
It shouldnt be, Divorce being so common is a problem.
If paternity tests were mandatory (unless someone signs a paper saying they don’t want one and can never ask for one) we wouldn’t have these problems.
Thats means every men accuse his wife cheat. Usually men projecting their biggest fear as they have lots bastard children outside. If paternety test is mandetaory then there must be a law where cheating men have harsh punishment. And there must also a law for every bastard children the men produced.
ok but why can't the dad get one by himself? does he need mommy's permission?
If it is so then that's the problem: if he recognised the child at birth then he has every right to decide wether the kid gets tested and for what, especially since it's nothing invasive or with lasting consequences foe the kid's body it shouldn't need both parents.
@@wisteria3032In many countries you can get f‘ed if you recognize a child at birth, it is legally yours even if dna tests proves is not.
@@wisteria3032 the issue with that is is done after signing the birth certificate. Most courts will see the signature and won't care. You took ownership then, your get child support now.
If paternity tests were mandatory, and available to the public on a website, a lot of cheating husbands that father children with their side chicks would get exposed. Brilliant idea!!
Am i the only one who would've just taken the test?
Paternity testing should be legally required for ALL births in the US
Situations like this are why paternity tests should be mandatory and automatically performed with all babies. It prevents the child from experiencing uncertainty, prevents mothers from feeling like they've been accused of cheating, and lets fathers know 100 percent that a kid is theirs.
And although very rare, prevents a child swap in the hospital. Everybody wins with mandatory testing. Everybody except those trying to commit paternity fraud.
No. Calling your wife a whore shouldnt be mandatory
This would set up women to be beaten up or murdered though. What if they did cheat? The man might hurt the baby or the woman.
@@wendydomino Your argument is a straw man fallacy. Revealing and getting justice for a crime that DID and IS happening is more important than preventing a crime that MIGHT happen. And regardless of what you might think, paternity fraud IS a crime. But just to satisfy your paranoia, this is yet another reason it should happen in the hospital. The husband, should he be an individual who might be inclined to commit violence, is in a public place with witnesses and time to cool down if he vacates the hospital. It would be far more dangerous for the crime committing wife if the husband does his own test privately a month after they get discharged from the hospital with no witnesses around.
Stop committing straw man fallacies and letting your violence obsessed mind derail your train of thought from the crime actually taking place here. And given enough time, the knowledge that the test will happen will deter the crime from happening as frequently as it is, which is a bonus for everyone.
@@UltimateZero84I’d agree with your comment if it didn’t come off so unnecessarily aggressive. You have good points, but it reads more like you’re criticizing the character of the person you’re replying to than their argument.
@@hunterlawrence3573It kind of is,seeing as how he is basically saying hundreds of men should be heartbroken or kill themselves over the fact a couple men are psychos.
I would e left him and then did a paternity test for the child support 😂
I was thinking the same thing 😂😂
Wpukdnt get a penny out of me. Wanna act like a child, i will let you touch that stove and play in traffic.
Well, you’re a typical trash female, instead of putting your partners mind at ease and him asking for a paternity test. The only thing you give a shit about his money. You’re a Piece of trash
That still stupid though even if he is not the father by law he should still pay childsupport this is why i stayed far away from woman in general i don't need this drama in my life 😂.
You can keep your Chad's and tyrone happy though we will watch your clips on tiktok and laugh about them. 🤡
@@squeezerdsqueezerd2427 What are you even talking about? He treated her like dirt after she gave birth to his child because the baby came out with different colored hair.
Yeah I see his point. Even though you didn’t cheat on him great grandparents is a little to far back for most people to believe it.
That's how genes can work through...
Exactly plus her not wanting to do a test only makes her look more like she cheated and is trying to hide it
@@BrennanG15 😂 not at all, women just don't like to be accused of cheating for dumb reasons. It's not her fault he's stupid and doesn't know how genes work. None of my siblings or I look like my dad, is my mom required to prove she didn't cheat for that reason alone?
You do know there's a lot of people that don't look like one or even both their parents right? That's how genes work, they are random.
@@KingBetholomew Well yes, better be safe than sorry, if a woman is too proud because of it that's her problem
The husband and his family were definitely out of line with the way they were treating her. That said I think she, and all females, still should've had the test for all ther children in principle alone since a) it would ensure that the child wasn't intentionally or accidentally switch with another and b) whether they want to admit it or not infidelity has steadily become rampant in western society and since all it takes is five minutes in order to get pregnant men have become more aware and cautious of the fact that they tun the risk of raising a child that's not theirs.
I will serve him both paternity tests results and divorce papers. Nobody...I mean nobody does that to MY child. You are dead to me!
Well, you know 100% that it’s your child. He doesn’t know it’s 100% his child. Why wouldn’t you get a paternity test?
@@ryanssten731Because he's unfit to be a father and husband with his behavior. Divorce papers. Immediately.
@@teresamagnussonWould he have the same behaviour if you didn't do your best to make him resent you and your child that's the question
@@teresamagnussonso what do you call men 🤔 who have been a victim of paternity fraud? Atleast he wants to know for sure if he is the father.
There Is nothing worse for a guy to raise a kid and later finding out that he/she was not his he cannot walk away either and he will be liable for 18 years of childsupport now that's criminal.
And woman who does this should be locked up in prison for it instead of rewarding.
@@squeezerdsqueezerd2427Exactly. These women out here like the female dog 🐕 you responded to are really showing their true colors with their excuses and demonizing of the man wanting a DNA test.
Genes are funny, you could have kids that look like you but you can have kids that look like your partner too.
Whats with the sandwich making in the background. 😂
Unless u have proof that your wife cheated, dont accuse her.
Can't not accuse her either just do the damn test
Except a lot of men are raising other men’s children because women cheat and lie about it
that's why paternity tests should be mandatory.
Never cook again… everyone has a right to get a teatime if the baby looks different plus nobody is gonna be perfect and its possible they cheated
Pat tests should be standard, it takes the stigma away from both parties.
OP was reasonable in being upset about him asking for the test, not sure why she didn’t just get it right away though. You’d think she’d want to show him she was being truthful. Regardless, suspected cheating or not, it’s never okay to neglect a newborn. It doesn’t matter whose genes they share, a baby is a baby and any nearby adult should ensure their health and safety.
The wife is a cheater and she only got lucky that it was his. There is no doubt. This "trust me" and "its humiliating" crap is something only cheaters say about paternity tests. No man should ever be 'required' to take care of a child that isn't his... ever.
@@goneloko1368 In some cases, men should be required to take care of babies that aren’t theirs. Particularly when there’s no one else to care for them. In some cases, women should be required to take care of babies that aren’t theirs. Particularly when there’s no one else to care for them. I don’t see why gender makes a difference.
@@goneloko1368 What a load of crap. The husband (and her in-laws) accused her of cheating. She DID NOT CHEAT! The husband broke her trust, so now she can never depend on him to have her back. And he was abusive in ignoring HIS baby daughter. Also, the husband and her in-laws don't know how genetics work. I take after my grandmother, and my sister's oldest took after me (which means she also took after her great-grandmother, the same woman I take after). Funny how genetics works.
@goneloko1368 she was foreign, so he was one of those passport bros who went overseas to find himself a traditional wife or whatever they claim. He shouldn't be doubting her. She's not a western woman
@@hunterlawrence3573no. That is a choice they can make. There always be some circumstance, but not fully taking care of the baby to adulthood. If you see a baby on the ground in the middle of the rain you take the baby for like a day and then give it to a orphanage if you don’t want it.
That's why making paternity test mandatory at birth solves all this BS. But treating an innocent like that is not okay regardless.
Why refuse the test though? they may have even make a mistake at the hospital and switch the babies, it happens. It's going to make him doubt even more. From his point of view, if you refuse you must be hiding something.
It's a bit like people who do not allow their partners to look at their phones or mails. Recently, I got weird looks at a family gathering because my phone is unlocked as long as I'm in the general area(at 100m or so it ask for a password, you know, in case someone steals it). I have nothing to hide, why would I mind if anyone looks at it? if anything, I'm trusting you to not do anything bad with it.
There are much bigger messes and downright terrifying situations that people don't think about when they say paternity tests should be mandatory
@@ryukin_iiiname them.
@@kennethloki7011People being exposed as cheaters probably
@@ryukin_iii
Oh no, women being exposed for the moral failures of infidelity and/or promiscuity and innocent men not being ensnared in a false paternity situation!
How awful!
Hand him a genetics textbook. I'm a pale, green eyed blond too, but I once had an inmate (I was a CO at the time) ask me if there was any chance that I had "something besides white?" It several minutes to make him hear that my answer was, "Yes." I'm probably a little less that ¼ Cherokee and singing that my great grandmother never explained.🥴
Get the test without telling him then pack up and leave with your children and never go back. Don’t trust a man who treats you like that!
Definitely the best idea when you have no family friends near you and you are a mother of four. People in the immediate area with would know you as a cheater they might even refuse to help you depending on how close they are with the family.
@@galaxyofizanamithey can't "know you as a cheater" when you proved you didn't cheat
@@writeeat7364 even if they don’t know you as a cheater, it’s not gonna be a good idea. Also, depending on how close they are with the family still going to be as a cheater if you do not show it to the actual family first.
@@writeeat7364 the person did not said to show the family so the family thinks she is a cheater and will tell everyone else. The person said get the test than leave. Not tell him
If paternity tests were mandatory for everyone, then we wouldn't have issues like this...
She gave up everything. She moved to his country, had to drop her studies and had to leave her job because he was scared she'll leave him or cheat on him. She gave up everything for him, he could trust her a little bit or is that too much to ask?
@Dima-Dimaliciousoh...how about try and giving up where you live and go to foreign country and see how that feels? He is lucky to be alive..in my country he would be somewhere in a ditch after that accusation while the wife gave birth and wasn't even treated properly. She could've easily died due to infections after lack of care. She's fortunately only 24 and pulled through but should ditch his stupid ass and horrible family for sure. Common sense are genetics.
@catcat63527 If paternity tests are mandatory and required by law, Then trust is not needed or relevant in the situation. It would just be a common practice that every baby gets dna tested before the father is allowed to sign the birth certificate.
@@zachpayne3533"then trust isn't needed". Reflects your untrustworthy society 😂😂
@@catcat63527 yes its too much. Nothing replaces parental assurance. Nothing is that important
He was entirly wrong but paternity fraud is so sad and horrible you gotta understand the want to be sure
Not a reason for mistreating the baby like he did
@@voca-voca9469 I totally agree don't think I agree with him but statistics show that the amount of men raising children that aren't them is significant
@@JohnBuck-rc5teDivorce. Immediately.
@@teresamagnussonyes you would get a divorce and then i would dissapear no alimony no childsupport either.
@@squeezerdsqueezerd2427 like women aren't finding out how BROKE their exes are during divorce court😂😂😂😂 STFU!
Men are NOT losing wealth or assets to that scale. In fact, women traditionally stand to LOSE more despite prenups
That's why a paternity test should be an automatic thing. No one has hurt feelings or destroyed relationships as long as it turns out ok.
Yeah, but many women don't want mandatory DNA paternity testing for newborn infants and we all know why.
Why my taxes should go to satisfy insecure men wishes? Pat tests are expensive and requires a lot of human resources. And now multiple it on every new born baby we talking about billions from the government budget just so brainwashed mommy's men get reassurance? Mb we invest those money towards single moms where those men even if they know for a fact baby his still leaving family without paying child support?
Right!!! 💯 Should've gotten the baby tested from the beginning. All that back and forth from all parties just complicated things.
@@frankworthen1065
It still amazes me how mandatory DNA paternity testing for all newborn infants to prevent misattributed paternity is not the standard and the norm across the Developed World.
There is a reason why so many women (not all) are against this idea. I find it interesting that the mere insinuation of transparency and accountability just rattles their cage. This tells you everything you need to know about them.
Just put paternity test mandatory at birth and no problem will ever occur
So, rape isn't an issue? Clogging the system with so many paternity tests that rape kits and all other DNA tests are never gotten to "isn't an issue?"
Then just do the damn paternity test and slap the divorce papers on his face 😮💨😡
Sonny and Cher had a blind-haired blue-eyed baby.
EVERY birth should have a paternity test
He was right for wanting a paternity test but a monster for neglecting the child
My gosh, why are people so terrible like this. Never treat a baby like that. Ever. Immediately divorced.
This aint no fuckin movie. This is real life. Don’t trust anyone with everything . Always get tested
If I ever have a kid I will always ask for a paternity test because they might be cheating on you but treating a baby badly is just bad
I hope you are just as chill when they want to go through your phone or track you. You might be cheating. Dont be mad when they insis on going on a "boys trip/night". Could be a cover for a mistress.
I'm not saying don't get one. I'm saying asking your wife for one will be heard as "You're a cheating whore and I don't trust you." Which cool. You clearly don't trust them. That's fine. But don't be pissy when they don't trust you either. Asking for the test is absolutely saying"I think you cheated. There's a possibility this kid is not mine because you had sex with someone else." Which, cool. Whatever. But just don't be a hypocrite about it, you know?
If you demand ur wife take a test then dont cry if she GPS your car, and cuts you off from friends and family she doesnt like either
@@MrEvldreamrA paternity test from a man is equal to abuse from a woman is what you are saying,or are you comparing those two to be one,which makes you seem like the most stereotypical western woman ever
@@MrEvldreamras long as she wants to live under the same rules.
Bro did he fail biology TF
Do you think anyone at that point in time is thinking about that if you say white and your kid comes out black you’re gonna think something’s fucking weird cheating if you’re black and your kid comes out completely white would like blue eyes and like blonde hair you’re gonna think something happened you’re gonna think somebody cheated I don’t care what you say Why not put your husbands mind at ease and say, babe? I understand why you may think this because of what happened there other reasons why our kid came out a different color but if this puts your mind at ease, let’s get a paternity test I swear to you I never cheated on you, but if this helps you, let’s do this .
@@ryanssten731if your kid comes out black and you're both white that is another story because that is pretty much impossible. If a kid comes out with blue eyes and lighter skin and the other kids had dark eyes and darker skin that is so common it's practically ridiculous to get freaked out about it. I know so many families where there is like one kid who has light skin and light hair. This is because light skin and light hair and light eyes are recessive. I have blonde hair and blue eyes and BOTH my parents have dark hair and dark eyes. My dad never once questioned if I was his kid. I really would have been curious what's the husband's parents look like. If they had had any lighter features that would have made the husband even more of a jerk.
Here's a genetic example for an idea of how this works. I am blonde with blue eyes. My husband has dark eyes and dark hair. His mother has blonde hair and blue eyes. This means he is heterozygous, he carries blue eyes and brown eyes, he also carries brown hair and blonde hair. I have blue eyes and blonde hair, that means I'm homozygous and carry no brown eyed genes, because if I did they would Express and I would have brown eyes because brown eyes are dominant.
Therefore if we have children there's a 50% chance of them having either feature because I can only give them my blue eyes and blonde hair and my husband could either give them his darker genes or his lighter genes.
Hmmm, still no test? Yeah he was right to demand one.
He has the right to know if a child that doesn’t look anything like him is even his.
Since genetic combinations can go back 6 or more generations, if there is no trouble in paradise s@@&w the unspoken allegations need to go back up your poop chute.
Just do the paternity test, they should be mandatory anyway
We never know when our loved ones will cheat with us... They all act too innocent and be to manipulative ..... Trust is not a thing nowdays, everyone acts innocent.. and the baby don't look a allike. He must be concerned and thinked of you cheating on him and you betrayed him kinda things which made him too mad at a new born baby... I am glad that you didn't cheat...hugs for youhh for going through a tough time with a new born baby... Hope you can get through this and have a good family 💓
Doubt doesn't give them a pass for treating her badly and leaving her on her own postpartum where they could've easily paid for a nurse or other options so she was well taken care of while things were tense. She is only 24 and has 2 kids in a foreign country with absolutely no support. She should toss his ass aside and focus on her own life and career because he is the one actually cheating the way he is behaving ...quite classic example.
@@Avanyas she really had to through that all 😔... But our world will broke into pieces when we had to know that our partner is cheating.....i think in that dude's mind she was a cheater who betrayed him soo he definitely wants her suffer at that time
@@sisira.p Yeah… no offense but he didn’t have any proof and was still treated her bad especially treating the baby who had nothing to do with it like that is a complete no go. The baby cheated or not did not ask to be born so… also I understand people want to be sympathetic and try and understand his side but please don’t ignore how horrible it feels to be wrongfully accused, when noticing that your lover does not trust you is damaging to the relationship. I understand both sides but I honestly think he had no right acting so horrendously based on something that wasn’t even proven to be true.
@@AnimeOasis-yello he is completely wrong for doing it ...I was just saying that he had 1 point... She is a very strong women who fight through it
He doesn't deserve a good family. Through paternity tests he immediately accused the woman of cheating, and is conveying he don't trust her. Not only that he treated her like shit during the time she needed him the most. He proved his love is conditional and shows how much he doesn't value the woman. The woman needs to leave asap but guess what? She gave up everything just for a man that doesn't even deserve her. Honestly hope the best for her.
refusing the paternity test was a mistake. It immediately makes you look suspicious
Asking for one makes you look insecure and divorce worthy.
That’s some insane level gaslighting.
@@shresthasinha115please just stop, your not a man, you won't ever have to go through the fact of knowing the baby isn't 100% yours. It's like me telling you to shut up if your period hurts, when I'm a man and I won't ever have to deal with it.
@@shresthasinha115 Exactly and you immediately accuse the woman that they cheated. Which means you don't even trust the person you married.
If your kid comes out a different color then what you are what you women seem to keep forgetting about of course men are going to think you cheated. Why wouldn’t you be a good partner and be like babe? I understand that this looks really messed up. There are other reasons why this may happen but to put your mind at ease yes we can get a paternity test.
This is why paternity tests need to be compulsory. Then you don’t have to ask and nobody gets offended at the asking. It just happens.
This is a sign. Leave him and take your daughter too. When you've left get the test. Post him and his family the results and let them know how racist they truly are.
I was the only one in my family that had blonde hair. Was told I looked like my grandmother when she was young.
He shouldn't mistreat you, but he and all men should insist on this. If you deny him this, he will resent you, and that's exactly what happened. Fathers, if you have doubts, just do the test yourself and don't tell her. Don't make it a drama fest or make accusations until you have evidence.
And all phones should be unlocked and available to be gone through.
Everyone should have a GPS tracker on them.
Married couples should have mandatory STD testing monthly.
Why worry about cheating after the kid is born when you can worry about it before? The only way a baby is not his is by cheating, right? So why wait 9 months? And what wife wants to wait on the husbands side chick to have a baby to find out?
In fact, they should be mandatory and available online for perusal by the public. Kind of like mug shots. Then you could check how many kids a potential boyfriend has abandoned. Or see when some other woman in the town over has his kid. Sounds great.
@sortaamy3003 so we went from a mouth swab to big brother when it comes to a woman's standard compared to a man's. Sounds about right.
@@chriscanon8829Oh no, this should be standard for all babies. Results available to the public, like the offender lists.
@@sortaamy3003Such a great idea! The paternity test results should be available to the public so we can look up any man to see how many children he's fathered out of wedlock, and how many children he's abandoned.
@@chriscanon8829This is a perfect idea. Public paternity test websites.
Your husband has proven to you that he doesn't TRUST you or RESPECT you. As the saying goes, When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM!
I would hand divorce papers with it
I would have told her to sign and to get out my home. No child support, no alimony, her name isnt on the mortgage. Its upbto you women to continue these silly games of plausible deniability.
@@trentreffner5699 well yeah it was mentioned that she has prevuous two kids with him but of course your fragile head can't fathom stuff but anyways not all women are financially dependent and many earn more than their husbands, I will actually take full custody and make sure they never see him again and live him to hell , this is enough time you men understand women don't want providers but partners , if two previous kids and her countless assurance isn't enough he was just a failure of a husband and that child will grow up hating him more than anything and the previous kids have seen the true colors of their father anyways
And how would that benefit the child?
that child would be far better off without a father like that, that one grow up hating him if they stay together @@andrewbrendan1579
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He'd keep his kids
That's called leverage. 😂
Accountability is sooooo hard to acept
As a loyal partner, you'd want to clear everything up as quick as possible. Your husband was suspicious, so he aksed for a test. It isn't humiliating, it's a way to clear up doubt. Viewing it from his POV, not wanting a paternity test is an admission of cheating
If you can view it from his point of view why can't you view it from her point of view too? Shes a innocent person who loved her husband and probably felt hurt he didnt have trust in her. She was obviously very devoted to him why would she cheat? She moved with him so he can be closer to his family she dropped out of school she stayed to take care of the kids she's done so much for her. Just for him to ask for a paternity? Genes are unpredictable and the way he treated her and their baby was evil
@@junkistrash8633 Completely ignoring her and the daughter is a dick move, I agree. Also I rewatched the video and I guess I missed the part when the OP says her grandparents are white so it's my mistake. Apologies
And you couldn’t take the test, why?
Why would she let herself be accused of cheating?
@@laerramarie2620 if she were to take the test and it was his child then it would make him look like a really bad parent and it would prove to him that she was right and not a cheater, now if the test said that the baby was not his then she would have to answer a lot of questions and probably have a divorce real fast, however from what I understand about genetics there is a really high chance that it is most likely his child and that the child just got her grandfathers or uncles genes. (I can’t remember which one exactly)
Because she shouldn't have to if she didn't sleep with anybody else. She already knows 100% that baby is his and he's basically calling her a slut and admitting to everyone that he believes his wife is capable of cheating on him. I would take the test then divorce him
There are way way too many stories out there with the loving husband finding out years later kids not his. Genetic testing should be automatic and standard both to confirm the father and to check for and genetic based diseases or predisposition for diseases.
Making it automatic makes it not a potential relationship damaging discussion.
@@vanessag53Yet he can never get closure that the baby isn't his by simply taking the word of someone who may have cheated on him?A woman will never understand how it would feel to raise a baby from an affair and hence need to stay the hell out of these making it seem like its no big deal doesn't help the whole"Western women are anti-men" reputation you all have
For the record ladies, if a man asks for a paternity test you give it to him. You can work on the reasons and anything later, but you give it to him.
Sure, along with the divorce papers.
For the record gentlemen, go get your paternity test done your damn self and then give her consequences and doubt if, and only if, the results turn out it's not yours. Why shame your wife needlessly during a time when she is so vulnerable to PPD?
So if a man asked for a paternity test, when a kid comes out another color, you care so little about your partner that you don’t think you could put his worries to rest, even if you’re like, babe I didn’t cheat on you. You could tell him that all day if the kid is black and you’re white, he’s gonna think somethings up regardless of what you say at that point why wouldn’t you wanna put your man at ease and be like listen, babe? I never cheated on you and there are other reasons why this kid may look like this, but if it puts you at ease, let’s get a paternity test.
If a kid comes out a different color of you, any man’s gonna be like what the fuck why put your Shame your man needlessly for potentially raising someone else’s kid and be like babe. I understand why you would think that, but there are plenty of other reasons why this might be happening, but let’s get a paternity test and then you refuse or argue about it and you get all defensive it’s gonna turn even worse. She’s gonna think you are cheating on him and that’s why you don’t wanna get one but typical females all they care about is themselves.
@ryanssten731 Because at a time you are the most vulnerable, you're in pain, your hormones are crazy, you are at high risk of PPD that can literally lead you to ending it all, and you have this needy creature that constantly demands thing after thing from you leaving you with no sleep the first thing a mother needs is support to get through the new baby. The last thing she needs is to be accused of cheating (unless the wenxh cheated, then f her) and to be given another task when you could just book your own test and get it done. The mom isn't necessary to test paternity, just the Dad and baby.
Obviously he doesn't understand genetics and how recessive traits can present
The Mudshark Diaries 😂
Honestly I don’t think I could recover from this. The fact that they think you cheated and the husband didn’t care for his own baby is horrible. Asking for a paternity test would ruin any relationship in my eyes. I wish the doctors automatically performed them as a standard procedure after the birth so no one would ever get hurt in these situations.
How about... instead of stardard testing... you automatically offer get it done of your own accord? You know... so that way they didnt swap the baby before you took it home...
@@trentreffner5699 that’s a good point. I think that plays into what I said too tho, if it’s standard testing those kinds of mistakes would not happen either. They would need to be conducted right before leaving the hospital tho or there’s still time to swap babies or records.
@@americxno true... or women can do just one little favor for a man and not make it all about themselves to assure him. I dont care how a woman has shown she is of good character, i will NOT trust her with 18 years of my life if she just refuses to get the test done. That is what one woukd call sus. Women want men to be vulnerable with them and then shame him for being insecure. It just seems they want us to turn a blind eye to their bad behavior even qhen it is hurting the man they say they support.
@@trentreffner5699why cant the man get one?
This is exactly why l tell young women to get an education and a career BEFORE they get married, let alone have babies. Or at least, a good job. And to have a secret bank account they SHUT UP about. Because you never know when you'll need a roof, food, gas, shelter for your kids, or need it fast. And keep the fact that you have that money to yourself. Don't tell parents, kids, family or your husband. Even if he seems to be a good man. You'll have a nice fund if he dies first.
Good advice.
'Secret bank account' 😂😂
Yet men have to disclose all of his accounts to the court when women file for divorce... it is shit like this why i will never get married.
What do you think about men having a secret bank account for THEIR own protection. Too do you really want to be in a relationship with an an element of secrecy and deceit, YOUR secrecy and deceit?
Setting up a secret bank account in a marriage is considered asset hiding for divorces. A crime
Hence why paternity tests should be performed at birth, to exonerate the woman, or prove her infidelity.
If the husband isn't the father, an immediate divorce should be offered as an option, with no responsibility for alimony or child support.
My thoughts were that he's sexist in how he treated his baby girl.
It doesn't matter. Its a baby. You care for a baby.
My cousin has flaming red hair and green eyes. The last time anyone in our family had that, it was 95 years ago, with our great, great grandfather. Every once since then has looked every bit like his wife and other relatives. It prompted my aunt to look
In to our family gene pool decades and we found more, distant family members, all the way from France to Morocco.
It definitely does matter. A man shouldn't have to take care of a baby that doesn't belong to him, because his wife cheated. Man up.
If this story is true , seeing the husband how un attach he is to the baby / daughter , don’t even care for her , let alone the wife suffered by ill treatment from him & his family, why still so stubborn Not to take paternity test if indeed her conscience is clean what’s there to worry about ? She rather witnessed everyday how unfair & badly treated her daughter from her husband than doing the paternity test ? It will also affect the 2 brothers how they will treat their sister indifferently copying their father , in the long run . This is not the time for egos & pride when it will affect her daughter badly !
You talk about her ego and pride .... Not of HIS? You condemned the innocent one and not the male nor the other 2 sons will treat her differently? Hmm why should they?
She gave up everything. She moved to his country, had to drop her studies and had to leave her job because he was scared she'll leave him or cheat on him. She gave up everything for him, he could trust her a little bit or is that too much to ask?
@@lorireed8046ikr? Husband is such trash
There is nothing wrong with asking for a paternity test. All good partners trust their spouse until they find out they cheated and since the baby looked different I think he was not wrong for asking. The fact that OP rejected it just made her more suspicious though. He shouldn't have treated the baby like that though
Divorce. Immediately.
@@teresamagnusson ?
Yes personally I would have done it in a heartbeat
@@FoAl-h2b I would not have been offended either and if it brings security to my partner then I am all for it!
@@VynDimentionalDo not enable these insecure males.
I wouldn’t treat the kid like that. But I’m also getting a paternity test. That’s made clear before the baby is even on the way.
In fact, paternity tests should be mandatory across the board. There’s no reason not to get it other than “it makes me feel bad”. And sorry, but that’s not worth the potential risk. It’s not even close.
Needing a paternity test just stays alot
THE WORST THING THAT CAN BE DONE TO A MAN IS PATERNITY FRAUD... AND IT'S RAMPANT.
He has every validation of leaving your selfish ignorant, inconsiderate a$$ if you make even the slightest issue out of this.
Yeh not like she would have avoided all that shit if they just took paternity test. Instead complain for consequinces of your own doing.
@mannevial493 sure. Except traditional vetting and decades of dedication, are no longer assurances against 1-part female hypergamy and 2-parts blind delusion boiled in narcissism-rue of misandry.
Just saying.
I'd have done the test and then walked as soon as the results were in. How DARE he!
all men deserve the right to paternity tests.
If pat tests were standard problems like this wouldnt exist.
I think a lot of girls dont see it from a guys perspective. I have zero problem with a pat test. If a guy asks nicely and isnt a jerk about it, it shouldnt be a problem.
@@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist Ridiculous. If you can't bring yourself to trust someone, you certainly don't marry them.
@@ceekay2390
There is a video on YT about a guy who is like 70. He thought he could trust his wife too, none of his kids turned out to be his. Its absolutely sad and heartbreaking to see.
If Pat tests were standard it would be perfectly fine. I think paternity fraud should also be a crime. Its not always about trust, but also a peace of mind aspect that many girls dont get, women know a kid is theirs 100%, and if a man wants a piece of paper to confirm it, it also shows that woman loves her man and is confident enough to not be insecure about it. It makes him happy.
Thats also a part of love, making your partner happy.
@@ceekay2390when the joke is two, a tent appeareth, thou’rt a clown, and the circus befits thee of course. 🤡
Just do the goddamn test
That's what I'm saying I'd thinks she is probably cheating
Why would you ask? Have any of you ever met a woman with the maturity to say yes with no strings or consequences?
Just do it yourself
Paternity tests should be mandatory at birth.
Serve him with the paternity test, and divorce papers. Simultaneously.