This is a fantastic take. Making peace with and reintegrating parts of yourself doesn't always feel good. The fact that it feels bad is often a sign it's working because those were wounds we were running from.
I feel like there will never be justice for me so I am constantly trying to advocate for justice for others. Kind of codependent, I guess. But also an avoidance technique. This analysis is brilliant! I want closure-but it will trigger their defenses. I see it now.
I moved out literally 3 days ago and have been bending over backward to heal the parts of me that the people who raised me hurt. I've noticed I don't know what to do with myself now that I'm out of that environment. Like I feel aimless. I think it's because I'm still trying to heal those parts of me [and hence, the people who raised me as I've introjected them]. It struck a cord when you said "collateral damage that estranged children who have been ...". Thanks for your wisdom.
Also I notice I try to make myself cry and grieve and I feel defensive when I don't "prioritize" grieving. I'm curious if anybody else has had that. I think I have OCD [or a related condition/brain] and am planning on starting therapy again soon
I hadn't finished watching the video. The part about healing and being able to at least touch something and healing and being able to be part of community resonate a lot. The goal isn't to fully remove the scars; that just creates more suffering, you're creating more expectations of who you 'should' be. Also community feels like maintaining connection while removing [neccesity of] attachment and reminds me of Buddhism and the middle path. Also, you are really articulate
I hope you don't get pulled back in or ever have to move back. I may have caused irreparable damage because i didn't know what to do with myself and in a depressive moment I left where I was staying and went back. I basically gave up in my life and now it's a shitshow.
i just ended a friendship in an unsavoury way but i had to do it, this helps a lot cause neither me or her will start healing until the truth comes out
Wow, that's very important. I didnt know how to put it into words, but you described how the healing process happends in private. Hope more people will know how to heal themselves.
Thank you ❤
what a wonderful eloquent and clear way to describe a confusing concept. thank you.
This is beautiful
This is a fantastic take. Making peace with and reintegrating parts of yourself doesn't always feel good. The fact that it feels bad is often a sign it's working because those were wounds we were running from.
I could listen to you for hours.
❤
wow. thank you.
thank you for this
I feel like there will never be justice for me so I am constantly trying to advocate for justice for others. Kind of codependent, I guess. But also an avoidance technique.
This analysis is brilliant! I want closure-but it will trigger their defenses. I see it now.
I moved out literally 3 days ago and have been bending over backward to heal the parts of me that the people who raised me hurt. I've noticed I don't know what to do with myself now that I'm out of that environment. Like I feel aimless. I think it's because I'm still trying to heal those parts of me [and hence, the people who raised me as I've introjected them]. It struck a cord when you said "collateral damage that estranged children who have been ...". Thanks for your wisdom.
Also I notice I try to make myself cry and grieve and I feel defensive when I don't "prioritize" grieving. I'm curious if anybody else has had that. I think I have OCD [or a related condition/brain] and am planning on starting therapy again soon
I hadn't finished watching the video. The part about healing and being able to at least touch something and healing and being able to be part of community resonate a lot. The goal isn't to fully remove the scars; that just creates more suffering, you're creating more expectations of who you 'should' be. Also community feels like maintaining connection while removing [neccesity of] attachment and reminds me of Buddhism and the middle path. Also, you are really articulate
I hope you don't get pulled back in or ever have to move back. I may have caused irreparable damage because i didn't know what to do with myself and in a depressive moment I left where I was staying and went back. I basically gave up in my life and now it's a shitshow.
@@pcharl01 I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. And thank you. I'm rooting for you and us and everyone here
i just ended a friendship in an unsavoury way but i had to do it, this helps a lot cause neither me or her will start healing until the truth comes out
Wow, that's very important. I didnt know how to put it into words, but you described how the healing process happends in private. Hope more people will know how to heal themselves.
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