People Pleaser Support Group - SNL
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.ย. 2024
- A group of people (Josh Brolin, Ariana Grande, Bowen Yang, Mikey Day, Sarah Sherman, Molly Kearney) attend a support group for people pleasing.
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This doesn't feel like a skit, this feels like an intervention.
It feels like a poorly-written supposedly comedy sketch.
@DunmoresMovieMania I laughed at this comment but not tge comedy sketch haha
I like the IDEA of the sketch. And the prayer at the end was cute.
@billyeveryteen7328 Ikr? I kept wondering why it was recommended to me...like is the algorithm just that perceptive?
@@DunmoresMovieManiaqA
I feel attacked. But that's okay.
You shouldn’t feel attacked. Unless you want to feel attacked.
@@calmyourmind5665 Well I don't really want to feel attacked, but........
This comment section is hilarious 😂
Yeah no totally
No worries 😂
God grant me the serenity to say no.. but if you’re too busy with heaven i understand 😂
That one hit way too close to home😂
That’s the part that took me OUT
💀💀💀
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Saying the serenity prayer at AA meetings, this made we laugh so hard on the buss
When I was a kid I actually would say the “if your too busy then it’s fine” detail in my prayers 😅😅😅
And do u still believe in god?
That’s a hilarious disclaimer 😂
I kind of still do that…
That’s hilarious 🤣, yeah we all gotta learn that God isn’t affected by our time and that he truly cares about each of us individually even if no one else does!
Oh so shweeeeet
"It's so nice of them to pay me." 😂😂
I can relate to that mindset. My dad wouldn’t pay me to work on the farm but would pay my brother, who is a year younger than me, for doing the same work driving a tractor and harvesting the crops because my brother was a boy and I was a girl.
My dad was born in 1928 and didn’t believe that girls should get paid for working.
Fast-forward when I get to college and I’m working in a pizza shop in the 90’s with the same kind of old-school mentality patriarchal misogynistic old man, Italian boss with mafia ties.
I was simply just grateful to get paid even though they don’t pay me overtime when I work 60 hours a week.
I got paid less than everybody there, and it is cash under the table. I would feel terrible getting paid each week and avoid cashing out or picking up my check from my other job as a landscaper because I felt like it was rude or aggressive for me to stop by the office and get my paycheck.
And, everybody said I worked harder than all the other people there at the pizza shop,
they were all on drugs and alcoholics, drinking and doing drugs at work and passing out,
and I was keeping everything organized and going with all of the food orders, delivery drivers, phone orders,
and all of the other stuff like detail cleaning at 2 o’clock in the morning to make sure there wasn’t food underneath the fryers.
Oh, and the druggie cook would get chicken wings out of a bucket and put them in a fryer and wipe his hands on the cotton rag at the sub/sandwich and then make somebody a sandwich with raw chicken slime on his hands and no gloves on and then wipe down the substation countertop with the salmonella chicken juice soaked rag.
He’d put his salmonella hands into the raw vegetables, like the lettuce and tomato. He also would not wash his hands after he went to the bathroom, and he hired sex workers when he got out of work at two or three in the morning, and they did drugs together.
I talked to him about it several times, and told the boss. Who knows what happened when I wasn’t there to remind him over and over to stop making people sick.
I ordered food from there one time on a day off and got sick off of the “cooked” chicken fingers, they were frozen raw and supposed to be cooked all the way through but I think they were undercooked and we can only assume they had raw chicken slime and salmonella all over them. The cook would tell me that they were pre-cooked chicken and did not need to be in the fryer for very long. I showed him on the box that it says they were raw meat and needed to be cooked for a certain amount of time at a certain temperature.
Anyways, years of dealing with narcissists over a lifetime has resulted in me, finally learning how to say, ‘no.’ I was definitely a big-time people pleaser, and acted so much like the people in the skit for most of my life. I’m still like this to a certain next step, and even yesterday at the age of 46 during a zoom meeting with 15 people I was struggling with Being confident and not doing the pleasing thing to get my job done. It is so cringyfor me to do anything that comes across as mean, rude or stern.
I’ve been a property manager/landlord for almost 20 years professionally and people say that I’m a very nice landlord, which turns into me not being tough enough or confident enough to evict people or get the rent out of them when I need to pay for the property maintenance, bills, taxes, Insurance and mortgage payments, and to pay the workers. I end up not being a very good manager, because I have a hard time telling people no or following through with something that could hurt their feelings like evicting them for destroying the home and nonpayment of rent.
People pleasers should not be landlords or property managers, we are the reason why homes get lost to the bank during a foreclosure and back taxes and the mortgage payments do not get made on time.
I’d rather be running a not for profit and giving money away to people that are in need.
@@CleanAirOutsideFamilyso you would like to run a nonprofit? I love your honest assessment of yourself. Much respect and success to you. ❤
“I’m fine with whatever angel” Did not go unnoticed 😂
Was it an angel and tommy skit reference 😂
I hate it didn’t get any laughs!
@@zuhasajid900 I don't know. If Tommy was a people pleaser, he wouldn't do that next fight. And Angel wouldn't have to take the kids and go to her sistah's.
Yeah, I caught that but had no idea what it meant. Her reaction seemed to indicated it didn't land or get the laugh she expected. Inside joke?
@@sterlingmullett6942 i didn’t even know if it was referencing something else, I thought it was funny
“Did you go to the barber and they said they had an idea?” 💀💀💀
I wish my barbers "had an idea". I just say: "anything but a mid-fade", and they say "anything in the magazines", and i say "those are literally all mid-fades".
@@tyrant-den884 i just cut my own now.
Yeah. This one here. 😭
That's better... I use Flowbee @@HumanABC
I called and spoke to a stylist ahead of time and told him exactly what I wanted. He agreed he would do that. When I get there and repeat what we'd spoken about on the phone he "had a different idea" to color my hair all cotton-candy pink. I said no, let's stick with the original plan. He barely followed my directions. And of course I tipped him.
people pleasers have the most repressed rage. 😢
So true and sad❤🎉
Then we, I mean they, THEY, wonder why everyoneShits on us.
We drink, smoke weed, scream in a pillow. It is just so easier sometimes to agree or go along with the gettalong. Sometimes when I stand up for myself it goes wrong. You got to pick your battles
No. Standing up for yourself or your peace is necessary. Never wrong and sometimes you gotta be your own cheerleader.
@ronicasmith3956 your not picking your battles. You never pick battles.
I feel extremely called out
You should feel that way. I hope that's okay. 😂
same! i spent the entire time reflecting. the haircut part started feeling a lil personal tho
@@Bohemian-Cityoof…even the big tip 😂
its okay... no worries...
No worries
this is too relatable it hurts 😭
Very sad.
Not funny at all
I'm the opposite of this.
Same 😂
@@mickael486 How else is your penis massive?
People pleaser support group is already a great premise. The fact that it's group therapy is even better.
Maybe they show up other places . . .
CoDA is basically a support group for people pleasers if anyone's looking for them! Also, Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)/Dysfunctional Families is a similar type of support group.
CODA is amazing!
There's codependents anonymous, but it works very differently than this video. Everyone talks for 5 minutes, then we say thank you and then go on to the next person. This makes you feel like it's ok to stay with yourself and you don't need to respond fix something for them
"I'm the company CEO of the company." Probably a slip but honestly just added to it. lol
😂😂
It was probably a mistake but that's ok, no worries, whatever is fine.
Probably but it's totally fine!!
I really like to imagine they wrote it like that, this line is so dope.
It was a great recovery! Unless it wasn't. Which is ok, too.
Absolutely, hilarious!
I mean, unless people don’t think it’s hilarious and then of course it’s not. No worries.
ahhhahahha
I agree! I mean if that's okay with you.
🗨️😉
Totally!
I mean, if you have time to read this, otherwise that’s fine.
😂😂😂😂
I have liked ur comment. If that's OK with u?
“It’s fine to have 2 dinners” 😂😂😂
I'm OK with 2 dinners personally. 😂
Omg 😂
This skit just made me realize I’m a people pleaser and didn’t even know it..
It made me realize that I'm definitely not not a people pleaser, even though I am shy and lack confidence and assertiveness. But, I would NEVER do any of the things in this sketch and have often done the exact opposite. I guess I'm not the complete pushover I thought I was.
We're here for laughs but sometimes we learn something
It's okay I mean no like as long as we're learning right amen or awemen
@@MatthewTheWanderer that's totally cool too bro! Whatever floats your boat!
@MatthewTheWanderer I'm glad that you were able to realize this. Seems like good news! For me, I'm pretty shy, lack confidence and assertiveness, don't like confrontation/conflict, AND am indeed a people pleaser (my aunt actually made me realize this as she said as a people pleaser herself, she recognized similar things in me that she's done). HOWEVER, I wouldn't say that I'm this much of a people pleaser, not to this bad of an extent...so I guess that's something, right? Lol
Bowen is such a natural at people pleaser he must have co wrote.
He seems abit mean on his podcast
@jakestroll6518 he has a podcast? Also I think he's not that great after criticizing Elon....for being rich. Lol
@@IamAnnahi bowen is very great lol cuz unlike elon he's not exploiting people and union busting and also spreading hate on the internet when hes not making workplace violations. Trinkle down economics arent happening and people like him are the reason for stuff like homelessness and insane prices.
@@espeon871*Trickle down economics
Oh God thanks for pointing that out. I seriously thought they said _tinkle_ down economics and that they were talking bout trump 😁
" I got hit by a car - and I was like 'i'm so sorry car. I hope you're okay'"
The most underrated joke of the whole skit😂
Reminds of of when Paul Rudd hits Steve Carrell with his car in Dinner with Schmucks
That is literally the most corny joke I’ve ever heard in my life. What are you like the fourth grade or something go to bed kid
@@Jasmine-lj8qwI like this joke alot, but it's ok if you don't like it.
@@Jasmine-lj8qw You're right, it's a terrible joke, I'm so sorry
@@ididntknowtheyhadwifiinhell Haha...classic
You need to have a follow up to this where the ppl pleaser snaps because they can’t take it anymore and then spirals lol
🤣
I’m sure this skit hits close to home for many
yes especially giving the huge tip in case they feel bad about giving me bad service
In no way did it hit close to home. I mean a direct hit is not “close to home,.”
It is home, right?
Yeah... I think that's probably why I didn't find this sketch particularly funny
I was 100% this 25 years ago. I am still 25% "no worries", but can manage life better thankfully. Partially from having kids and having to stand up for them. Maybe one day I'll be 100% free, but not sure if I want that cause ya know, the empathy.
It’s actually a gene, check out dr Elaine Aron. Regarding the empathy, also can be a trauma response
The empathy! Gets me every time.😖
That empathy got me in a chokehold. Im a narc abuse survivor. I have to work over time to undo the insane people pleasing
😂
I literally had to google "how to tell someone, no"... I've been an adult for a while, now. 🙄
"No" didn't work for you?
How did you end up saying it?
@@FutureCommentary1 something like "i'm sorry that's just not going to work for me". Then just be honest. I try to block it out.
Try "nah bro" next time if "no" didn't work.
"No, but thanks though"
😂😂😂😂😂
Why do I feel like I'm being mocked. How do they know?! I mean, its great! All good! No worries. 😂
No they shouldn’t mock you! That is, unless you’re okay with it.
😂😂😂
My jaw was open once I realized this is me. It's like opening your eyes to reality from a dream. Or what it was like to see your reflection in a mirror for the first time as an understanding child.
That’s the first step!
That ending prayer 😂😂😂 hilarious Lord help the People Pleasers
"Sounds great! I'm so hungry! I'll drive!" Me anytime a friend asks me to go eat but I already ate. Then I end up paying the bill. And driving them to their house that is always ends up being 40 minutes out of the way in the opposite direction of my home. But it's totally fine, no worries!!
I can’t believe how tiny she is when they all stand up at the end 😭😂
Josh Brolin did a great job with his breakup story. I proposed and we’re getting married. Ariana Grande popping in was a surprise that worked
Ariana the ice cream licker
yet you watched this just to see Ariana. sit down.
@faizabegum4710 I'm standing for my right to call Ariana Grande, the donut licking role model
The hair one is so very specific. Down to the “I’ve got it, I can see it in my head, I’ve got an idea and you’re going to love it”. Cut to me sobbing on the drive home
Even down to giving them a large tip cuz I felt bad 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Your tipping comment is sooo hilarious and relatable! 🤣
Me too!!!😮 OMG
goes to the same stylist for years out of peer pressure due to them being a family member.
This felt like a documentary about my life😂
This skit called me out in ways I am not capable of articulating in words.
sketches are funnier this week! this one made me giggle
Sam's sad-silent nodding is such good comedy. I really want Molly in more skits lol.
Glad to know there are so many of us out there. I’ve gotten better the last few months, bought this daily desk calendar by my bed the beginning of the year focusing on boundaries. It’s been a big help. I’m overly friendly, probably because of my lack of friendships in my youth, so I’m lucky that a lot of people want to be friend. However I’m spreading myself too thin, tonight had a buddy that I helped. His lack of planning and thinning ahead got him in trouble. I could understand this behavior from a teen/early 20s but from a forty year old. SMH.
I need this group too. I wish I didn't.
Is true
you can go if you want but I understand if you're too busy either way its ok by me if you don't mind
Me too but only if that's ok with you otherwise I can just go somewhere else thank you you're so beautiful!
Then get help now. Don't wait till you're older and wiser.
No you don't. Unless you really do. Whatevers fine. Sorry Im stupid.
Wow....😂Too close to home. That haircut sent me over, lol. ❤
My therapist: "You need to stop relying on 'no worries' and 'it is what it is'."
SNL Therapist: "You're supposed to avoid 'no worries'!"
I'm trying, damn you?! 😂😭
My therapist: "You need to learn to separate yourself from other people's problems and let them know when you're not in a position to be their "open ear". You see when I was little, there was this thing my mother used to...."
Me: "Can we not talk about that right now?"
Her: "....."
This is the first skit, ever, where I believe they are literally talking about me!
I'm currently checking my room for cameras and when i get to work on Monday, i will check the area around my cubicle for cameras, too...only, if that's okay with you.
I feel attacked on so many levels. 😅💀
Probably just comes from me being happy to just be included. 🙃
Who knew there was a group just for us PPs
Wow....this has been a wake-up call.
Josh Brolin Is Inevitable!
He also hates Dubbing. 😂
I feel personally attacked by this relatable content.
I'm surprised they never had Josh Brolin do a Thanos spoof. Hawkeye and Black widow did one
goonies would be a fun one
He did a Thanos skit, but they cut it for time. They cut half the skits tonight. For balance.
A skit where he keeps going back and forth between Thanos and Cable would be funny.
@@bradleywalker8642 As all skits should be
Brolin doing comedy is comedy in itself. He always plays dramatic & intense characters to think of him going over the scripts for these sketches makes me laugh. Maybe thinking "What the hell did I get myself into"
This was short but sweet and well written. Great little skit.
the way ari is so small standing next to the others i love her sm
@@Florilegium1you’re awful 🥱
You love her sm because she’s small ? 🤨📸
@@ProKaylyn no its just cute
I love giving compliments if they are sincere! It’s a good thing.
I was employee of the month and the entire office was going to lunch on Friday, the day before a three day weekend and my boss, asked everyone, "Where do you all want to go eat? Chinese or Mexican?" The entire office collectively shouted, "Mexican!"
Then, my boss stated, "Wait, you're employee of the month, you choose."
Well, I really wanted Chinese, as I dislike spicy food and unfortunately Mexican restaurants, here in Orlando all have spicy entrees, but because everyone wanted Mexican, I said, "Mexican."
Remember, when I told you we were headed to a three day weekend? Well, I was unable to enjoy it, because I was sick the entire time, due to that spicy Mexican food.
This skit reminds me of that time.
“NO WORRIES” 😃😅😃😄 ☠️
the one in the begining about already eating dinner but then people wanting to go out to eat is so true omg 😭
One of the best sketches of the night, and maybe one of the simplest ideas. Just well executed, with great timing - which made it funnier. Ariana nailed her part - I wouldn't mind having her doing a double duty as both musical guest AND host next time!...
She memorized her lines.
If they ever decide to revive 1970s-style variety shows, Ariana would be a natural fit. Ariana Debose, too.
Man, this sketch was great! Also, I definitely know how these guys feel. Sometimes I have a hard time trying to make good decisions while simultaneously try to make the other person happy at the same time. So I DEFINITELY relate to what these people are going through. Also, really glad Ariana made a cameo! 😊
You must be young. With age comes wisdom.
@@loveforeignaccentsbot
@@loveforeignaccents people pleasers usually experienced some kind of trauma at a young age. Getting older doesn't erase that. And there are plenty of older people around proving that wisdom does not always come with age.
@@AnitaClue Well, I guess I was speaking from personal experience. I used to be a people pleaser in my younger years but definitely outgrew that. No one's feelings are more important than my own, nor anyone's time. It's definitely a nice learning lesson I think most people can realize and experience.
I love how all three of them lost their jobs in 10 seconds.
😅
🎉😂🎉 luvvvvvv it..... turn uup
So this is how people perceive me 🗿
People have gone way toooo far these days. People pleasing. Nobody likes rude, but saying no is fine once in a while . Spot on with this sketch
I was called many times by my social worker "a people pleaser". Well...I've had a tough time in the social world... I have high-functioning austim...I lost a lot of friends, oppertunities, and chances. I'm having a lot of problems with some friends of mine...I want to tell them I feel left out...but I'm scared to death of something awful! Like rejecting me, and leaving me! It's hard for me to make friends...
Sending support your way!
I've been there, I still try to help out for nothing. But about friends, I just got bored with people, curious about myself, focused on the goal of learning something. I don't have any friends at all, but I have a family, I don't know, if I didn't have a family, I'd probably die.
Fellow high functioning autistic here. Do yourself a favor and look up masking (if you haven't already)
@@PhoebeFayRuthLouiseThank you.
@@billie8036Argh! I have no friends and no family. Ah well, maybe one day, I'm only 18.
Man, too close to home
That's sad.
@@loveforeignaccents ah, the internet never changes
@@DimJongUn Has nothing to do with trolling. I was being honest... it's actually sad that a person would feel this way.
Damn SNL y'all didn't have to come for me like that 🤣
When she said no worries is a phrase we should avoid i was like omg you’re right… This one hit a little to close to home… but that’s okay! It was SO funny, I loved it and snl should def do more skits like this! If they want to that is, totally okay either way.
Great sketch! Solid premise that clearly hits close to home for a lot of people!
Man, wish every job I had the boss was like no worries you can have my job 😆😉
Bowen is too good!
It's like looking in a mirror 😂
I need that group!😂😂😂
“We are both smart and stupid” 😆
Luv tough guy Brolin playing a people pleaser. Brilliant 😂
The car accident thing happened to me once 😅. A car driving in a narrow lane hit me and it’s side mirror was smashed( I was completely fine) and when it stopped at a distance to check up on me, the first thing that I did was tell the man that I was sorry that I broke his mirror 😂. It was fine though, he was very nice and asked me if I needed medical help.
I would have done that too but self blame is dangerous, especially if he turned out to be a terrible person. He could have blamed you for the incident, said you agreed, and gotten money for it. Just my opinion. No worries if you disagree. I am probably wrong so either way I hope the best for you.
@@AbcDef-so3tq yeah, I think my reply was based off the fact that he was an older gentleman taking his daughter to school/college(gauging from her book bag) and he had an apologetic demeanour. But, you’re right, growing up is learning to be brave and assertive when need be.
@@pm5022 Oh totally! Sounds like you correctly read it to be safe in that situation to apologize! 😊
I'm always getting those kinds of "haircuts" even though I tip very well.😂😂
People like this were DESTROYED as children for having any personal interests or desires at all. ❤
I love Bowen’s delivery in this sketch. Rapid fire and frantic,while furiously waving his hands. Perfect!
I’m so very happy & glad Ariana is finally back doing skits on SNL. She is absolutely so very incredible & talented when it comes to doing skits.
“I’m fine with whateva angel” pronunciation was the funniest part of the skit and went right under everyone’s noses
Oh, that one hits so hard 😭
Omgggg Ariana Grande. She killed it!!! 👏😍💕
🙄🙄🙄🙄
The only thing she killed was the pacing.
"I want to quit my job." Yeaaah...many years too late! and we all know Dan Schinder won't let her do that...
@@loveforeignaccents Somewhere...Jenette Maccurdy is punching a wall!!!
SHE ALWAYS DO!!!
Been like this for a long time. The worst is when people get confused about what you're trying to say
Fellow people pleasers: when you first start asserting yourself people will act like you are the worst human on the planet and there will be some adrenaline filled moments. Stand your ground while staying polite. You'll win every time!
Obviously you don't want to go to THAT extent, but caring about other people's lives and feelings WILL lead to phrases like "no worries if you're too busy. I can always find someone else." Or even the classic "if you're okay with that."
There's a balance between going full "people pleaser" and actually caring about other people.
This whole skit made me see myself and I need to learn how to get rid of my people pleasing tendencies
HAHAHHAHAHAHA wtf am i watching 😭😭😭😭 been waiting for this bomb skit whole summer kudos snl
Sometimes I swear, SNL is Sketching my life. 😳
I'm glad I'm not the only one who relates to this.
No!!! This is hilariously sad how true it is!!
Having boundaries is the only thing that will save you from being swallowed up into someone else’s reality.
So true and yet so hard for the Empaths.😢
Soooo, where is the meeting being held again? Am I doing this in a bad time? I mean you guys can answer it if you guys are not too busy. Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for this long post. Gosh, I don't know what I am doing!! I am gonna go now. Good luck! Love your hair by the way.
I'm wondering why I still find myself saying, "I'm ok either way" whenever and friend and I are deciding where to go for lunch. I thought I'd recovered from people pleasing.
It's only people pleasing if you have a preference and aren't voicing it out of fear of conflict or rejection. It's still possible to have no preference in a situation and to defer to someone who has one.
Exactly. Yes. This, here.
Yes?
Second dinner is every hobbit's favorite meal.
Wow her acting is spectacular
I’m a psychotherapist and this is so real.
I loved this skit, as long as that’s okay with you. I saw so many relatives of mine here. Probably me too.
You can love it I am glad you do do you love it. I am glad.😂
This is so good I'm going back to watch for a third time in a row 😂😂😂....
I needed this.
😂 😭
my heart just healed a little bit
... snl nailed it !!! ... people pleasers do seem to be absolutely terrified of conflict ... but their life will become so much better after they grow a spine & learn the magic words 'no thanks', 'nope', & 'hell no' !!! ... ❤❤❤
it’s not as easy as “growing a spine”, it’s usually a trauma response
@@rembbokie ... true ... but still, that's the best thing to do ...
@@lindajoyrainbowneal5609 well yes obviously, it’s not like we want to be this way 😅
@@rembbokie ... practice makes perfect ...
@@lindajoyrainbowneal5609 "I didn't grow a spine", I noticed I had one already, a good one, and then started doing more with it, like standing up for myself rather than just standing there and taking whatever shit sandwich was delivered. Practice does work. Miracles. I can calmly deal effectively with some pretty nutty crap now without getting ruffled and with results that can be very pleasantly surprising often. It's a process and extremely rewarding. To go from extremely meek, to mastering reactivity when learning to speak up, to then use the voice successfully, time after time after time. Practice may not make perfect but it makes it far more pleasant and reasonable.
This sketch is so underrated 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you can like it or not but no worries
"It's alright to have two dinners."
That's not a people pleaser statement.
That's a god-damn lifestyle💯🌮🍝🍔
Realest talk.
I believe there should be an actual intervention for people who are people pleasers
Brolin committed to every skit. Best guest of the season honestly.
ariana grande!!! so happy to see her and listen to her new album ‘eternal sunshine’
Someone should have had a breakthrough and really said what they thought
I mean this sketch is whatever, it's fine!