Jealousy & Polyamory

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  • Jealousy! Let's talk about it! Rob, Lauren and Elyse chat about who was the most jealous, and how they got through polyamory without letting the green monster take over.
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  • @amyp6613
    @amyp6613 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My thought on jealousy....I have always had jealousy issues. I am married to a man and as of recently my husband and I married a woman. Currently he is visiting her alone in California where she is from. He is having all the first time experiences with her and I have been dealing with being alone back at home. I wish I was there with them. I feel so left out but part of this is my Karma. It just hurts is all. I gotta suck it up and bear it but I really wish I could just be with them. I have been with my husband for 18 years and we just married our wife this June 23rd. So it's all so new still ....🙏

  • @grousemouse5733
    @grousemouse5733 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    If any of you practice polyamory again, how would you ensure that the next go of it is more ethical and equal? A hinge in a V fearing that their partners might also experience active polyamory together makes me uncomfortable. I get the feel that against the backdrop of the greater relationship narrative, Rob was fine to also practice poly. Was Elyse, at this time? Was the idea of Rob practicing poly comfortable because he stopped being sexually and emotionally relevant over time?

  • @formlessblob24
    @formlessblob24 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Its hard to find good videos on Polyamory and you all are so amazing and helpful, thank you :D

    • @IncredibleLife
      @IncredibleLife  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      We are so glad that we've been helpful to you Cat! Thank you for the feedback! :)

  • @plumbatty
    @plumbatty 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When we WERE in a polyam setup? Are you no longer together?

  • @SuperBigsteezy
    @SuperBigsteezy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was actually hilarious,smell is a big deal

  • @lauraquebrada7521
    @lauraquebrada7521 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sharing your journey, can a just say that Elsy look like Jennifer Lawrence 😍😂

  • @ckimberly35
    @ckimberly35 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think I’ve watched every one of your videos! I was wondering what your current home life looks? Like do you all live together now, or? What did that transition look like?

    • @IncredibleLife
      @IncredibleLife  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Kim! So glad you're loving our videos! Rob and Lauren have now separated, so Elyse and Lauren live together, and Rob lives separately. We see each other all the time, though! Between work, the kids, and just hanging out (we do family dinners often) a lot is the same as when we first met!

  • @agentdomino888
    @agentdomino888 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    #RedShirtGlowingSmileBeautifulSpirit You mentioned being diagnosed bipolar, the same thing that has been ravaging my life since day 1. I am Transgender (mtf) lesbian, and Poly and yes bipolar. I've recently (since Jan 2019) finally begun to own my mental health issues and the behaviors and damage that causes in my life. My question is how do you personally make polyamory work in spite of your mental health challenges?

  • @unknownunknown5173
    @unknownunknown5173 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    When they opened it up she stop putting out and he stayed quiet because he wanted her lying deceiving butt back.But she was trying to buy herself time to for him to get over it so she didn't look bad.

    • @jimmadden6406
      @jimmadden6406 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      i think that both women suffer from n.m.d , bmd and bpd they show thse traits in all the videos . poor rob is always belittled . i wish that he would apply for full custody of both kids becauase lauren acts like a unfit mother the videos are his best proof

  • @marthastewart8467
    @marthastewart8467 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hope rob got to watch

  • @unknownunknown5173
    @unknownunknown5173 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This video is all lies they was never in a poly relationship

  • @ws6778
    @ws6778 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    What helped me rid myself of jealousy was to dive deeper and deeper into the fears behind my jealousy and think of the worst possible future, then you will realize that if the wost thing that can happen is your partner abandon you vulnerable alone, but that leaves a door open for you to fall in love again with another person anyway, so you are gonna be okay eventually either way.

  • @lynnbethechange
    @lynnbethechange 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I would like to make a distinction between jealousy and envy. I have never experienced being jealous and I have felt envy over time management. Envy, for me, is not an upset. It's more of a delicious feeling akin to having a crush. My Sweetie being sexual or affectionate with someone else feels like a gift to me about the strength of our relationship. This might all come from being poly my whole life. When I was aged 6-11, my small circle of neighborhood friends were very loving and affectionate. Our favorite game was Play Doctor. My mother was poly, too. It just seemed that life should be this way. Then at 11 or 12, Stranger in a Strange Land was published. It was clear to me that I would never limit myself to loving one person nor would I be with someone who wanted to be sexual and emotional exclusive.

  • @laceycrawford8216
    @laceycrawford8216 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    So she can have two partners but her partners can not?

    • @ws6778
      @ws6778 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Polyamory has many different flavours, closed committed relationships is just one of them.

  • @emsrusty846
    @emsrusty846 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Or let’s be real, you Have the easiest poly relationship ever... two beautiful women having sex; yeah it must be rough lol

  • @chunkylove8509
    @chunkylove8509 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Lol when they were talking bout the hair Product made me think of the movie mean girls "wasn't allowed use that hair product anymore " 😂😂😂

    • @IncredibleLife
      @IncredibleLife  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      "Will you pleeeaase tell him his hair looks sexy pushed back?"

    • @chunkylove8509
      @chunkylove8509 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Incredible Life omg 😂😂

  • @alexbrown6339
    @alexbrown6339 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    @incredible life, my question is why was it a problem if Rob & Elise would’ve devoloped a relationship? To me that seems ideal, beneficial, natural and fair.

    • @chefmanou
      @chefmanou 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      i had the same question . Why would it be weird or bad? It sounds like it is very possible

  • @michaelsteven8143
    @michaelsteven8143 ปีที่แล้ว

    Honestly that’s selfish though on your part , if Rob and her did start having feelings and then became intimate with each other then it would have only been exactly equal at that part , especially after what you did to him and how you only would have been okay if it was a one way street for your selfishness

  • @dailo069
    @dailo069 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh geez I wonder why is it ok for the girl in the center for having multiple relationship but was jealous of the thought of the two others having something? 😮

  • @donnaallgaier-lamberti3933
    @donnaallgaier-lamberti3933 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had made a (Iadmitedly a biased feeling) that this would negatively affect the man's ego or self-confidence but apparently not for this man. Is Rob now dating others?

  • @unknownunknown5173
    @unknownunknown5173 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    92% of open relationships fail becouse on person in the relationship doesn't want it to work and usually it is a one sided just like the girlfriend and the wife had no intention of making this work it was away to him time to get over it and not make her look a bad person .Both the wife and girl friend should be ashamed to do this to this poor guy.

    • @PixieSimsx
      @PixieSimsx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh shut up. You know nothing about their relationships! 😂

    • @mrcoffee2634
      @mrcoffee2634 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@PixieSimsx Unfortunately that is exactly what happed.

  • @kellilomenda438
    @kellilomenda438 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    What a GREAT guy Rob is.

    • @IncredibleLife
      @IncredibleLife  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      He totally is!

    • @jimmadden6406
      @jimmadden6406 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@IncredibleLife is that why you treated him the way u did

  • @coolhand4585
    @coolhand4585 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I think it’s really disrespectful to Rob that the two women are so flirty or touchy in front of Rob. This is his ex-wife sitting with the women she left him for. I also think it’s disrespectful and a little mean the way they make sure he knows that they aren’t attracted to him. I get that they aren’t but it’s a little on the mean side to say it over and over again. It’s almost as if the girl on the right wants to make sure that Rob knows that she’s the partner now and Rob isn’t. I really think Rob needs to find other places to hang out than with these two. If I have this completely wrong then I’ll have to own up to it but these are my feelings watching these videos. Not just this one but all of them.

    • @AstralArtist
      @AstralArtist 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      cool hand she isn't his ex wife. They are in a polyamorous relationship. She didn't leave him for her. They are still together. You seem to have misunderstood the core of what they were explaining and what their channel is about. They aren't competing with each other or stealing anyone away from the other person. The whole point of a poly relationship is that you can be with multiple partners. And Rob clearly states that he isn't jealous or concerned about his wife being with the other women. It was a mutual decision they made to open up their marriage

    • @coolhand4585
      @coolhand4585 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Astral Artist, I sorry to disagree but these two are divorced. Robs new girlfriend has proposed to him and Lauren has proposed to her girlfriend. They have other videos as well detailing things like cops renting and divorce. Take a look at their library. I still say this isn’t really about polyamory. Both are monogamous just with new people. This is a marriage that failed.

    • @AstralArtist
      @AstralArtist 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@coolhand4585 I haven't seen the other videos so maybe they did divorce but as far as I understand, that's not the case in this video. I mean polyamory isnt for everyone but it seems like they used good methods to try to make it work

    • @likeargamanflaming940
      @likeargamanflaming940 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ... because the whole premise is eshew.....

    • @jimmadden6406
      @jimmadden6406 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@coolhand4585 i have a comment for rob run rob run just like forest gump

  • @LaurynnStar
    @LaurynnStar 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video made me laugh! I love it! I can relate haha

  • @dailo069
    @dailo069 ปีที่แล้ว

    The girl on the right said something interesting : thinking our date is having more fun with the other will eventually leads to having less time or even a split

  • @gidberg
    @gidberg 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You guys are so easy going and nice about all this incredible hard stuff. ( hope this doesn't come off wrong....but its like every stereotype Americans have about Canadians, on steroids. lol.. but if its positive stereotype is it wrong! ~ Seinfeld)

  • @unknownunknown5173
    @unknownunknown5173 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Never happened she stop sleeping with him .It was all for her to end the marriage and try not to look bad

  • @GetMotivatedWithMe
    @GetMotivatedWithMe 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i felt this with our gf

  • @mariocardabollo3631
    @mariocardabollo3631 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Idiocy.

  • @lancemccarthy4751
    @lancemccarthy4751 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    WTF no 3 ways ?? this sucks for the guy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @helloian
    @helloian 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Not very informative. 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @likeargamanflaming940
    @likeargamanflaming940 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video makes me cry. Society is crashing over a cliff into the abyss

    • @MrHarun-dv6ee
      @MrHarun-dv6ee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      100%, you couldn't have uttered truer words

  • @hughakston3518
    @hughakston3518 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Instantly lost me at rule of thumb. Please stop using this term. This is an old phrase that men used to know if a stick was too wide to strike your wife with. The fact that we still say "rule of thumb" to this day is another example of how we are not fully aware of the origin of the phrases we use. I think this is my only pet peeve, but it's a rational one.

    • @likeargamanflaming940
      @likeargamanflaming940 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you writing this. I couldn't remember the phrase and was wanting to quote it for similar reasons...

    • @kawaiikokutan7686
      @kawaiikokutan7686 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think since we know they aren't hitting anyone with a stick it doesn't matter. Like we obviously know no one is getting beaten in this situation so since we know that this comment is pretty much a nitpick

  • @rayzorramona8913
    @rayzorramona8913 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    For me this matter is alarming/threatening to the american guys. It my concern, more american women have engaging with same sex relationships or wife leaving husband for a woman than men to men relationships.
    American women has less moral value and decency than american guy. To counter this same sex relationships must prohibited in this country. Cause immorality in the US are so high. Cause they always follow their wants and lust of flesh than having a decent and normal life.