As an autistic myself at twenty-four years of age, personally for me I do struggle with communication with others. I have difficulty joining in conversations. I recall the time where my mom told my twin sister - my twin is autistic, too - and I to go down to the park to go talk to people. We didn't. We sat there with nothing coming out of our mouths. We stayed for a while, then left. What is challenging the most for me, and I don't know if this is an autistic thing, is getting a boyfriend. On some levels I don't like thinking about it, knowing that no guy will date a girl like me. I do have a crush on a guy, but I won't mention where he's from and what he does in life to respect his privacy. I'm following him on social media but I cannot send him a message. He hasn't followed me back yet, except I don't mind. When I say no guy will date a girl like me, I'm talking about girls who wear makeup, are confident, who wear much, much, nicer clothes than I do. I'm not like those kinds of girls. I used to wear makeup and I felt like I was being looked at, leading me to stop putting it on. I have a hard time if a guy likes me as a friend or more than a friend. If a guy gets me gift, my thought is that he doing it because he's being friend. If a guy says that I'm pretty the way I am, I have the belief that he's only being nice. I don't understand flirting and not realizing a guy is flirting at me. I can't flirt because to me it's weird. I'm used to guys dating girls who aren't quiet and shy because guys who do have interest in girls who are quiet and shy are... rare to 'look for' and to 'find'. To add to this, if a guy does ask me out, I have trouble knowing if they're being sincere or not. This is all coming from my point of view. Half the time I don't like being autistic and wish I was like a normal person.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I can understand how dating can get difficult, especially with differences in communication. Dating often relies a lot of non-verbal social cues, this can make it much harder for autistic individuals. I wish I had words to say that would make you feel better. However, I can say- don’t give up and trust yourself. Try new things within your comfort zone and try different ways of connecting with others. Build your confidence and a lot of good can start happening. Do you have any advice for parents of Autistic girls? What would have helped you?
Thanks...but I have a hard time coming out of my comfort zone to this day, and I wish I had advice for parents who have autistic children since I'm not a parent.
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As an autistic myself at twenty-four years of age, personally for me I do struggle with communication with others. I have difficulty joining in conversations. I recall the time where my mom told my twin sister - my twin is autistic, too - and I to go down to the park to go talk to people.
We didn't. We sat there with nothing coming out of our mouths. We stayed for a while, then left.
What is challenging the most for me, and I don't know if this is an autistic thing, is getting a boyfriend. On some levels I don't like thinking about it, knowing that no guy will date a girl like me. I do have a crush on a guy, but I won't mention where he's from and what he does in life to respect his privacy. I'm following him on social media but I cannot send him a message. He hasn't followed me back yet, except I don't mind.
When I say no guy will date a girl like me, I'm talking about girls who wear makeup, are confident, who wear much, much, nicer clothes than I do. I'm not like those kinds of girls. I used to wear makeup and I felt like I was being looked at, leading me to stop putting it on.
I have a hard time if a guy likes me as a friend or more than a friend. If a guy gets me gift, my thought is that he doing it because he's being friend. If a guy says that I'm pretty the way I am, I have the belief that he's only being nice. I don't understand flirting and not realizing a guy is flirting at me. I can't flirt because to me it's weird.
I'm used to guys dating girls who aren't quiet and shy because guys who do have interest in girls who are quiet and shy are... rare to 'look for' and to 'find'.
To add to this, if a guy does ask me out, I have trouble knowing if they're being sincere or not. This is all coming from my point of view.
Half the time I don't like being autistic and wish I was like a normal person.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I can understand how dating can get difficult, especially with differences in communication. Dating often relies a lot of non-verbal social cues, this can make it much harder for autistic individuals.
I wish I had words to say that would make you feel better. However, I can say- don’t give up and trust yourself. Try new things within your comfort zone and try different ways of connecting with others. Build your confidence and a lot of good can start happening.
Do you have any advice for parents of Autistic girls? What would have helped you?
Thanks...but I have a hard time coming out of my comfort zone to this day, and I wish I had advice for parents who have autistic children since I'm not a parent.
No worries, I wish you luck. If there is anything I can do to help don’t hesitate to ask 👍🏽.