A holy priest once told me “don’t give everyone access to your heart” Thank you calling me on, and being real with your heart so that I might be real with mine.
We are called to guard our hearts with God's jealous love! Protect your heart dearly, as the Lord does, and entrust it only to those who clearly trust and live in Him. In Christ, Andrew
"God put people in my life as a blessing and for me to be a blessing. Life is not what you get it's what you give." I love this quote so much I put it on my sink as a reminder. When it gets hard with friendships or people in life, remember this. Offer up the pain that you receive by their egotism or selfishness as a prayer and ask Jesus to help you love them. This does not mean to hang around toxic and abusive people or to let yourself be abused/bullied by people, it might mean we just need to remember them in our prayers. These people were in our lives to be a lesson. Like that, it is good to know your friends, the ones you can be vulnerable with. The best friend of them all is JC...
This is just an amazing insight into friendship. The Bible says in Sirach 37:12 "But associate with a godly person whom you know to be a keeper of the commandments, who is like minded with yourself, and who will grieve with you if you fall." Amen. God bless you Taylor for shedding light on this topic.
You know what’s the worst? When your whole family has always been like this, but you only realize the extent of it when the only true friend among them dies and can’t cover it up anymore.
Mother angelica mentioned that it really isnt about making friends but to be a friend. Obvioualy it doesn't mean taken advantage of but no to feel like you are alone just because you dont make friends. Because the whole point of mercy and salvation is for everyone and anyone to receive it. And those friends can come and go. But it doesnt matter. Because as along as we kept our focuse on God, it doesnt matter who we bump into. And if we know where we stand. We shouldnt be afraid to know how to act.
Yes, thanks so much for the video and thanks for letting God use you to help me through my trials, and giving me advice to keep close to Jesus and truly giving my whole life to him 🙏❤️
I feel you on that. The majority of my friends were protestant back in the high school years. Now it's gotten worse and the friends I find myself making who live near me and share my interests are straight-up pagans who worship Norse and Greek gods. It's always tricky finding the balance of remaining yourself and confident in expressing your own faith, and also not rubbing it in their faces in such a way that it would turn them off on the Catholic faith altogether.
@@danielcharland1374 very true.. I used to hang around the protestant prayer group alot .. I recently understood richness of catholic faith and I was blown away .. I want explain Catholicism to my friends but everytime I try to explain shut themself.. So I am lil hesitant.. already losing a lotta ppl .. I wanna know the balance
Alfred david it’s impossible to be friends with Protestants. They can’t accept you for who you are, respect you and be okay with that. They will always be trying to get you to convert, or they will give you that calculated shaming look - poor person, so nice, so much potential, but chooses to be Catholic.... The best you can do about them is reserved politeness. Do not ever lower you guard around Protestants.
I also resonate with you on this. Especially now that I am seeking to find a spouse. Many of my good female friends are strong protestants (who I feel a relationship with them won't work because of the difference in faith) and the Catholic girls I know simply aren't interested in me. It's a sad position, I am still trusting in God.
My father is an atheist,my neighbors are protestants,my teachers were theists and my best friend was a baptist. The key is defending your faith at all times.That way they don't mess with you.😁
I honestly accept that we have a tendency to isolate ourself from others because of the bitter things which we have experienced in our life, because of toxic people and fake friends. But we must be well motivation and high spirited to continue on our destined journey. Find good friends, cause they add colour to our life, and their are certainly many good ones out in the world. Whatever be your destination, let happiness be your direction! God bless you!
God bless you Taylor!! And God bless Ascension Presents as well! I wish I could live in the USA just to speak with you everyday! You help me a lot with the faith! Italy is not catholic anymore :(
You are always welcome sister, and I am truly sorry to hear your plea. However, the US is not highly Catholic or Christian either in many ways. We talk a great game but do not DO as we are commanded. So much emphasis on works of mercy that is devoid of spiritual works. I almost married an Italian in Australia a couple of years ago and sadly found that to be the downfall for me with her. I hope you have someone and/or a group of great God loving friends to walk with and if not I pray the Lord raises Him and/or them up for you! Stay strong, the Lord loves you and desires to be with you always. In Christ, Andrew
First of all Taylor, eyebrows, wow!!! Anyways thanks so much for the video. This year I met someone who was interested in partaking in the art of music with our guitars. It fell apart completely after he suspected that I had feelings for him. I was so shocked and so let down that his attitude towards me made sense. I'm glad it's over! Take care! :)
Hey Taylor I have a topic suggestion: How can Kids/ Youth cope with living in an abusive family. Anyway a person with the help of God can undo all the toxic stuff? How can we ensure that we don't turn into our parents?
Just found out a couple weeks ago that my “best friend” was a total jackass and basically just using everyone. Tried to call him on it how many times, he kept on faking changing, but at this point he just ruined my life by sucking my entire life source out of me to energize him, making me fail in everything else awile . Basically his pressure made my grades slip, and that put pressure on my romantic relationship, and we got too physical and broke up, then while I was mourning and trying to get my life back together he made it even more about himself, then I got really sick for a few weeks and he didn’t even visit me in the hospital. After that I talked to some friends and heard about all of the lying and deceit and then he ditched me when I was no more use to him. He decided to hang out with my ex more because she’s too nice. And all of my other friends left me as well, because the entire friend group was manipulated by him and he made himself the center. So after his deceit was found out the friend group blew up. Now I’m struggling trying to not fall back in love with my ex, her along with me, because she’s basically my only friend at this point, and I don’t even have my so called “friend” to talk to about it. Now he is going to go to a different collage next year to probably do the same thing. Apparently there’s too much “drama” here and the people aren’t “straight” enough.
Me encantan este tipo de videos, y como en este camino de conversión aprendes que todo es por "diosidencia", este llego a mi justo en el momento que lo necesitaba. Dios los bendiga, gracias
Hey darling, I've been there too, first of all I don't know if you are actually the bad one, but I'll take you at your at word. If you truly feel like you are consistently the bad one it is often a result of bad habits which cause bitterness of personality, so I would try to 1. take up new hobbies to try to reorient yourself into a more interesting and fun person to be around maybe start daily exercise and stretching, learn to play an instrument, learn Jiu-Jitsu and/or kickboxing, start photography, learn wood working, learn to cook new things, gardening, knitting, et cetera. Basically fill your spare time with wholesome activities you like talking about to prevent negative conversation from coming up 2. Talk less about yourself so you never feel a need to bring up the injustices of your life, plus people love talking about themselves so listening to people is very beneficial in relationships Godspeed in your endeavors Ma'am
Ana Armalah Social support Surround yourself with good people who can be honest with you on your week points but also constantly remind you of your self worth (It is not good to be alone but toxic people want you to be alone - easier to manipulate you into doubting yourself & thinking you’re the bad one...) And most importantly pray! Pray to find these people but also to be saved from toxicity & evil & not doubt yourself
Please pray for me, I live in one of those relationships where I don't usually receive a lot back. I feel incapable of feeling and receiving love because of my fear be being betrayed and abandoned.
Senor you gotta go to your church and maybe volunteer and help out with things, go to Catholic groups and be kind and love others, no matter their age, you will make lots of friends. But becareful of long distance friendship, it doesn't work out.
🎶and friends are friends forever if the Lord’s the Lord of them. And a friend will not say “never” cause the welcome will not end. Though it’s hard to let you go in the Father’s hands we know that a lifetime’s not too long to live as friends.
I know that song my Michael W. Smith. One of my favorites that I listened to as a kid, and one that I played for a friend who was moving away as sort of a personal goodbye party. I've never had any of those deep friendships that you talked about, and I seem to always be bouncing between being too open "heart on my sleeve" and too reclusive/closed off. Could you talk about finding the balance between those two extremes?
It is probably worth saying to not assume that any and everyone in the church is automatically a healthy person to embrace friendship with. In my lifetime, some of the most consistently toxic people whom I’ve met have been in the church, unfortunately. At one point in my life, I hit a breaking point, and all but abandoned the faith for a half-decade of my life.
If your mother is toxic I'm very sorry for you. Stand in the truth, let yourself know if she isn't trustworthy and then ask God to help you forgive her and accept her as she is. Pray for her. Treat her as well as you can. But know that you have permission to guard your heart. She doesn't need to know that you are guarding your heart. Only YOU need to know. You have a heavenly mother, Mary who you CAN TRUST. Get close to Mother Mary, say the rosary and seek God with your whole heart. If your human mom is toxic you can't force her to be decent. For some people it's a cross to carry. Hopefully you will find another family member to have a healthy relationship with. Or at least a human mentor who is following Christ and isn't toxic. Bless you. Just work on growing in your own holiness and seek the Lord. He will be with you ALWAYS.
Harmony Gordon Thank you! It’s a difficult situation. My mother has been fighting cancer for almost 8 years now. This makes things so much more complicated. God has blessed me with a wife who loves and supports me, and whom I love, and a sweet beautiful intelligent daughter, and sometimes it seems like my mother can’t accept that I have my own life, family and need to move on with my life. This has been going on since I was a child. I have always stood by her, especially in the first years of her fight with cancer, I still lived with her and my whole life was taking care of her. I do not say this expecting a reward because it was just the right thing to do. I didn’t have a wife, a baby, didn’t have my own house. We now live across the street from her and still she tries to shame me, calls me bad names, says thing about me and my wife to the rest of her family that are not true. She uses our baby to try and manipulate us emotionally. Especiallly now with this pandemic she doesn’t seem to understand that we can’t take a baby to her house every day. Ever since I was a little kid I felt that my mother always tried to shame me instead of understand me. Whenever I don’t do exactly as she wants, she goes on about how horrible a son I am. I try my best to help her and satisfy her needs but I can’t give her everything she wants, how and when she wants. I can’t stand no longer the weight of being seen as a horrible son by the rest of the family even though I am sincerely just trying to do what I am supposed to do in the most honest way. I have a lot of responsibilities now and my family can’t understand that I have a family, a baby, a wife, I am not a child anymore. I didn’t want to part and fight with anyone but I am not willing to be shamed and judged like that any longer. I am seeking help from therapy and I also pray to God to help us all. I know my mother has been going through a lot of difficult things but she has always been like that.
@@rafaelzengo5534 very glad to hear that you are consulting a therapist. This can be very helpful. Unless your mother has a Spiritual awakening to be truly converted to Jesus through the Holy Ghost then your mother will remain selfish. Only life in the Spirit of God can make a person be on the road to laying down selfishness . What I am saying is, don't expect her to change. You can pray for her but you can't change her. She does sound toxic. The Bible tells people to grow up, to leave and cleave to a spouse. Once you have a spouse and child your first responsibility is them. This is your family and you are the head of this core family . Just do what is rite for your core family first. Whatever you do for your mom at this period of life is PURE GIFT to her. And the recipient of a gift can take or leave what is offered. The recipient doesn't have the rite to demand gifts. Please take care of yourself and your core family. Seek God's will and do your best to fulfill God's will. When we live this way we can hold our heads up and DEFLECT shame. They can offer us shame, but we don't have to pick it up and wear it. As long as you are rite with God you don't need to worry about what other people think. Blessings upon you and your core family. I know its a burden to deal with a toxic mother. Sometimes the mother has undiagnosed mental illness, like narcissistic disorder. Ask your therapist about this. There are books written to help people cope with living as adults who have parents who are untreated mentally ill . You are blessed. You made it to adulthood and you have a wife and child. Be the best husband/dad that you can. You are always still your mothers son. But once you leave and cleave your mommy isn't your boss anymore. Be FIRM and consistent in boundary setting with your mom. Holding strong & consistent boundaries with her will educate her on what behavior you'll except from her and what you won't accept. You are allowed to take breaks from her when she is acting badly. Tell her your going to take two or three days for quiet contemplating. As an adult we have the right to take breaks to guard our own mental health. Toxic people are draining.
Taylor God Bless you is true God loves So much That he Want to us to love each other and A real friendship Love you and accept you for who you are and what is inside of you. ❤🙏❤
so the previous video was about finding a boyfriend that was a true catholic... and now, friends MUST BE catholic as well to be good. Hmmmm. I understand if this video is directed to the youth, which will help to keep them away from bad stuff but not 100%. BUT, it is not totally true because not necessarily the saints are in the church, I believe some outside as well... and some little evil ones are also inside the Church making everyone believe they are saints. As an example, my best friend was a Chinese girl who didn't practice any religion. She basically didn't believe but she was at church when I received my confirmation, she loves churches because of the architecture, and music, but I believe she was probably close to a saint because she was a virgin with morals, excellent beaviour, no bad words, she was an excellent daughter to her parents, and sister to her brother... she lived for them. She didn't need to be a catholic to be all of that... all she needs is the moment that God will actually show Himself to her, I'm sure she will recognize Him.
BTW... the discrimination towards non Catholics is really pushing me away from this channel which is a shame because I love to watch Fr.Mike's videos... If Pope Francis would see these 2 videos....
Respectfully, I think you are reading too much into her comments about finding Catholic friends. Friendships usually start from having a common interest, and this being a Catholic channel, that faith is a good starting point for where to find friends. It's just that a starting point, not an end point. At no point did she say or infer that you shouldn't have non-Catholic friends - that your friends "MUST BE catholic". In her other video about dating, she did advise against dating outside of the Church, not because non-Catholics are bad people, but because the end goal of dating is marriage and if two people are of different faiths, it makes the union of marriage more difficult (that's not saying that it's impossible). A shared faith in a romantic relationship is an important issue that needs to be given thoughtful consideration and discerned. As you pointed out these videos are directed to the youth, and many times young people do not consider a shared faith when they start becoming romantically involved with people. I believe that was the main highlight of that video.
She didn't say friends had to be Catholic. She said people that call forth the good in you. Essentially, people who want the best for you. These people can be of any creed.
@@Spectrometer no no no. In order to be vulnerable, you need to be either desperate or trusting. Trust comes first and is a journey, not a destination. Think of any relationship that you have: it's built on TRUST not vulnerability. Vulnerability is a completely separate issue. These focus people really lack good language to explain and it comes off as 'feel good' rather than the truth. Feelings are for Protestants, the truth is for Catholics.
@@reznet2 "in order to be vulnerable, you need to be either desperate or trusting" you said it yourself. Don't play the "truth" card, we are not talking about Catholic Dogma, we are talking about the debatable philosophy of friendship.
Amen love one another in Christ Jesus Adam and Eve cloth themselves in their own righteousness with fig leaves. Isa64:6 But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.” So God clothed both Adam and Eve in animal skins. In this act blood was shed Heb9:22 And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission. Heb13:8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever. AS IS IN THE OLD TESTAMENT SO IT IS IN THE NEW TESTAMENT. 1Cor15:45 45And so it is written, The first man Adam was made a living soul; the last Adam was made a quickening spirit. We are born in sin and sin nature. And are redeemed through Jesus Christ born again with the in feeling of the Holy Spirit. There’s so much in the Garden Now though Jesus Christ we are we received salvation and will be with him in paradise.
You can talk to everyone because you are kind. But your true friends are those whom you can be yourself. 💖💖
A holy priest once told me “don’t give everyone access to your heart”
Thank you calling me on, and being real with your heart so that I might be real with mine.
We are called to guard our hearts with God's jealous love! Protect your heart dearly, as the Lord does, and entrust it only to those who clearly trust and live in Him. In Christ, Andrew
it's not just the blessing but also a privilege to make real friends & live a friendship while accepting the Lord in the true spirit.
I'm struggling with this right now. Thank you for your insight.
I may not know exactly what you are going through, yet my prayers are with you.
"God put people in my life as a blessing and for me to be a blessing. Life is not what you get it's what you give." I love this quote so much I put it on my sink as a reminder. When it gets hard with friendships or people in life, remember this. Offer up the pain that you receive by their egotism or selfishness as a prayer and ask Jesus to help you love them. This does not mean to hang around toxic and abusive people or to let yourself be abused/bullied by people, it might mean we just need to remember them in our prayers. These people were in our lives to be a lesson. Like that, it is good to know your friends, the ones you can be vulnerable with. The best friend of them all is JC...
This is just an amazing insight into friendship. The Bible says in Sirach 37:12 "But associate with a godly person whom you know to be a keeper of the commandments, who is like minded with yourself, and who will grieve with you if you fall." Amen. God bless you Taylor for shedding light on this topic.
Amen to both boundaries and life-giving friendships!!
You know what’s the worst? When your whole family has always been like this, but you only realize the extent of it when the only true friend among them dies and can’t cover it up anymore.
Vaednari's Verse
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Mother angelica mentioned that it really isnt about making friends but to be a friend. Obvioualy it doesn't mean taken advantage of but no to feel like you are alone just because you dont make friends. Because the whole point of mercy and salvation is for everyone and anyone to receive it. And those friends can come and go. But it doesnt matter. Because as along as we kept our focuse on God, it doesnt matter who we bump into. And if we know where we stand. We shouldnt be afraid to know how to act.
Friendship is God gift to us.so bless and grateful to God i had found true friends in this toxic world.
Yes, thanks so much for the video and thanks for letting God use you to help me through my trials, and giving me advice to keep close to Jesus and truly giving my whole life to him 🙏❤️
I want that raw friendship where you can be yourself.
Can u speak on Topics how to hold on to catholic faith having a majority of protestants friends around
I feel you on that. The majority of my friends were protestant back in the high school years. Now it's gotten worse and the friends I find myself making who live near me and share my interests are straight-up pagans who worship Norse and Greek gods. It's always tricky finding the balance of remaining yourself and confident in expressing your own faith, and also not rubbing it in their faces in such a way that it would turn them off on the Catholic faith altogether.
@@danielcharland1374 very true.. I used to hang around the protestant prayer group alot .. I recently understood richness of catholic faith and I was blown away .. I want explain Catholicism to my friends but everytime I try to explain shut themself.. So I am lil hesitant.. already losing a lotta ppl .. I wanna know the balance
Alfred david it’s impossible to be friends with Protestants. They can’t accept you for who you are, respect you and be okay with that. They will always be trying to get you to convert, or they will give you that calculated shaming look - poor person, so nice, so much potential, but chooses to be Catholic.... The best you can do about them is reserved politeness. Do not ever lower you guard around Protestants.
I also resonate with you on this. Especially now that I am seeking to find a spouse. Many of my good female friends are strong protestants (who I feel a relationship with them won't work because of the difference in faith) and the Catholic girls I know simply aren't interested in me. It's a sad position, I am still trusting in God.
My father is an atheist,my neighbors are protestants,my teachers were theists and my best friend was a baptist.
The key is defending your faith at all times.That way they don't mess with you.😁
Alguém do Brasil?
I'm from Brazil, guys. And your videos remind me what i'm called to be, a saint! THANKS FOR EVERYTHING
Fala ae irmão!
Aqui
This was very empowering, thank you and God bless
This is so hard for me, I would rather just be alone but we aren't made that way.
I honestly accept that we have a tendency to isolate ourself from others because of the bitter things which we have experienced in our life, because of toxic people and fake friends. But we must be well motivation and high spirited to continue on our destined journey. Find good friends, cause they add colour to our life, and their are certainly many good ones out in the world. Whatever be your destination, let happiness be your direction! God bless you!
I love the emphasis on having balance with relationships in this video.
God bless you Taylor!! And God bless Ascension Presents as well! I wish I could live in the USA just to speak with you everyday! You help me a lot with the faith! Italy is not catholic anymore :(
You are always welcome sister, and I am truly sorry to hear your plea. However, the US is not highly Catholic or Christian either in many ways. We talk a great game but do not DO as we are commanded. So much emphasis on works of mercy that is devoid of spiritual works.
I almost married an Italian in Australia a couple of years ago and sadly found that to be the downfall for me with her. I hope you have someone and/or a group of great God loving friends to walk with and if not I pray the Lord raises Him and/or them up for you! Stay strong, the Lord loves you and desires to be with you always. In Christ, Andrew
@Andrew Just for your information, Giacomo is a male's name
First of all Taylor, eyebrows, wow!!! Anyways thanks so much for the video. This year I met someone who was interested in partaking in the art of music with our guitars. It fell apart completely after he suspected that I had feelings for him. I was so shocked and so let down that his attitude towards me made sense. I'm glad it's over! Take care! :)
Fr. Mike Schmidt made a great video on the levels of friendship, too. Well-worth seeing.
@Blessed Mother Which one exactly? I can't find one with that title.
Thank you this was really good. Sometimes i feel bad when i turn away from toxic relationships this was very good for me
Hey Taylor I have a topic suggestion: How can Kids/ Youth cope with living in an abusive family. Anyway a person with the help of God can undo all the toxic stuff? How can we ensure that we don't turn into our parents?
Yes, please, this would be very helpful! Maybe adding to what being honoring your father and mother looks like in a family with toxic relationships.
I suggest you look at the work of Fr Bill Watson Sacred Story and also listen to Dan Burke on his early life. God bless.
I'd love to hear more on this topic!! Also, thank you for this❤❤❤
To real friendships! 💞
Thank you. That was very helpful
Just found out a couple weeks ago that my “best friend” was a total jackass and basically just using everyone. Tried to call him on it how many times, he kept on faking changing, but at this point he just ruined my life by sucking my entire life source out of me to energize him, making me fail in everything else awile .
Basically his pressure made my grades slip, and that put pressure on my romantic relationship, and we got too physical and broke up, then while I was mourning and trying to get my life back together he made it even more about himself, then I got really sick for a few weeks and he didn’t even visit me in the hospital.
After that I talked to some friends and heard about all of the lying and deceit and then he ditched me when I was no more use to him. He decided to hang out with my ex more because she’s too nice. And all of my other friends left me as well, because the entire friend group was manipulated by him and he made himself the center. So after his deceit was found out the friend group blew up. Now I’m struggling trying to not fall back in love with my ex, her along with me, because she’s basically my only friend at this point, and I don’t even have my so called “friend” to talk to about it.
Now he is going to go to a different collage next year to probably do the same thing. Apparently there’s too much “drama” here and the people aren’t “straight” enough.
Thank you, i need this video today
Thank you so much for this. Beautifully and healthily put.
Taylor, this was wonderful. Thanks so much, and God bless you. p.s. the verses are from *Galatians 5*
the surrender novena from the first video you presented was awsome!
So good sister Taylor . God bless you more
someone pointed out adam got so distant from eve he did not even refer to her by name (like he forgot her name) and said "that woman you gave me"
Ascension! Please make a video on TOXIC family members!
Thank you Taylor.
Great video, Taylor!!
Me encantan este tipo de videos, y como en este camino de conversión aprendes que todo es por "diosidencia", este llego a mi justo en el momento que lo necesitaba. Dios los bendiga, gracias
I have toxic family I stay away from. I love them, but don't like them.
Thank you for starting a video with a Michael W. Smith song!
Thank s Taylor God bless you
But when I refuse to continue a toxic relationship I am the bad one! How do I approach this?
I keep my distance and I keep it cordial when I do interact with them
And no you are not the bad one you are just taking care of yourself
Hey darling, I've been there too, first of all I don't know if you are actually the bad one, but I'll take you at your at word. If you truly feel like you are consistently the bad one it is often a result of bad habits which cause bitterness of personality, so I would try to
1. take up new hobbies to try to reorient yourself into a more interesting and fun person to be around maybe start daily exercise and stretching, learn to play an instrument, learn Jiu-Jitsu and/or kickboxing, start photography, learn wood working, learn to cook new things, gardening, knitting, et cetera. Basically fill your spare time with wholesome activities you like talking about to prevent negative conversation from coming up
2. Talk less about yourself so you never feel a need to bring up the injustices of your life, plus people love talking about themselves so listening to people is very beneficial in relationships
Godspeed in your endeavors Ma'am
Ana Armalah
Social support
Surround yourself with good people who can be honest with you on your week points but also constantly remind you of your self worth
(It is not good to be alone but toxic people want you to be alone - easier to manipulate you into doubting yourself & thinking you’re the bad one...)
And most importantly pray!
Pray to find these people but also to be saved from toxicity & evil & not doubt yourself
You have a very nice presence and voice.
Please pray for me, I live in one of those relationships where I don't usually receive a lot back. I feel incapable of feeling and receiving love because of my fear be being betrayed and abandoned.
Amen
I love that song
Who wants to be my true friend? :)
My insta is @mike.hermar
Senor you gotta go to your church and maybe volunteer and help out with things, go to Catholic groups and be kind and love others, no matter their age, you will make lots of friends. But becareful of long distance friendship, it doesn't work out.
🎶and friends are friends forever if the Lord’s the Lord of them. And a friend will not say “never” cause the welcome will not end. Though it’s hard to let you go in the Father’s hands we know that a lifetime’s not too long to live as friends.
I know that song my Michael W. Smith. One of my favorites that I listened to as a kid, and one that I played for a friend who was moving away as sort of a personal goodbye party. I've never had any of those deep friendships that you talked about, and I seem to always be bouncing between being too open "heart on my sleeve" and too reclusive/closed off. Could you talk about finding the balance between those two extremes?
That is George
Sadly...i wasted 40 years with a Fake a friend....he was never happy for me..😢
Mean Girls!
It is probably worth saying to not assume that any and everyone in the church is automatically a healthy person to embrace friendship with.
In my lifetime, some of the most consistently toxic people whom I’ve met have been in the church, unfortunately. At one point in my life, I hit a breaking point, and all but abandoned the faith for a half-decade of my life.
What to do when one suspects he has a toxic mother, even though one loves her?
Rafael Zengo put healthy boundaries...and continue to love her
If your mother is toxic I'm very sorry for you.
Stand in the truth, let yourself know if she isn't trustworthy and then ask God to help you forgive her and accept her as she is. Pray for her. Treat her as well as you can. But know that you have permission to guard your heart.
She doesn't need to know that you are guarding your heart. Only YOU need to know.
You have a heavenly mother, Mary who you CAN TRUST. Get close to Mother Mary, say the rosary and seek God with your whole heart.
If your human mom is toxic you can't force her to be decent.
For some people it's a cross to carry.
Hopefully you will find another family member to have a healthy relationship with. Or at least a human mentor who is following Christ and isn't toxic.
Bless you. Just work on growing in your own holiness and seek the Lord.
He will be with you ALWAYS.
Harmony Gordon Thank you! It’s a difficult situation. My mother has been fighting cancer for almost 8 years now. This makes things so much more complicated. God has blessed me with a wife who loves and supports me, and whom I love, and a sweet beautiful intelligent daughter, and sometimes it seems like my mother can’t accept that I have my own life, family and need to move on with my life. This has been going on since I was a child. I have always stood by her, especially in the first years of her fight with cancer, I still lived with her and my whole life was taking care of her. I do not say this expecting a reward because it was just the right thing to do. I didn’t have a wife, a baby, didn’t have my own house. We now live across the street from her and still she tries to shame me, calls me bad names, says thing about me and my wife to the rest of her family that are not true. She uses our baby to try and manipulate us emotionally. Especiallly now with this pandemic she doesn’t seem to understand that we can’t take a baby to her house every day. Ever since I was a little kid I felt that my mother always tried to shame me instead of understand me. Whenever I don’t do exactly as she wants, she goes on about how horrible a son I am. I try my best to help her and satisfy her needs but I can’t give her everything she wants, how and when she wants. I can’t stand no longer the weight of being seen as a horrible son by the rest of the family even though I am sincerely just trying to do what I am supposed to do in the most honest way. I have a lot of responsibilities now and my family can’t understand that I have a family, a baby, a wife, I am not a child anymore. I didn’t want to part and fight with anyone but I am not willing to be shamed and judged like that any longer. I am seeking help from therapy and I also pray to God to help us all. I know my mother has been going through a lot of difficult things but she has always been like that.
@@rafaelzengo5534 very glad to hear that you are consulting a therapist.
This can be very helpful. Unless your mother has a Spiritual awakening to be truly converted to Jesus through the Holy Ghost then your mother will remain selfish. Only life in the Spirit of God can make a person be on the road to laying down selfishness .
What I am saying is, don't expect her to change. You can pray for her but you can't change her.
She does sound toxic.
The Bible tells people to grow up, to leave and cleave to a spouse.
Once you have a spouse and child your first responsibility is them. This is your family and you are the head of this core family .
Just do what is rite for your core family first. Whatever you do for your mom at this period of life is PURE GIFT to her.
And the recipient of a gift can take or leave what is offered. The recipient doesn't have the rite to demand gifts.
Please take care of yourself and your core family. Seek God's will and do your best to fulfill God's will.
When we live this way we can hold our heads up and DEFLECT shame.
They can offer us shame, but we don't have to pick it up and wear it.
As long as you are rite with God you don't need to worry about what other people think. Blessings upon you and your core family.
I know its a burden to deal with a toxic mother. Sometimes the mother has undiagnosed mental illness, like narcissistic disorder.
Ask your therapist about this.
There are books written to help people cope with living as adults who have parents who are untreated mentally ill .
You are blessed. You made it to adulthood and you have a wife and child.
Be the best husband/dad that you can.
You are always still your mothers son.
But once you leave and cleave your mommy isn't your boss anymore.
Be FIRM and consistent in boundary setting with your mom.
Holding strong & consistent boundaries with her will educate her on what behavior you'll except from her and what you won't accept.
You are allowed to take breaks from her when she is acting badly.
Tell her your going to take two or three days for quiet contemplating. As an adult we have the right to take breaks to guard our own mental health.
Toxic people are draining.
@@harmonygordon6901 Thank you again, this is sound advice. God bless!
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God bless!
Taylor God Bless you is true God loves So much That he Want to us to love each other and A real friendship Love you and accept you for who you are and what is inside of you. ❤🙏❤
Praise the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏
How do you navigate it with family?
What about the quote of Mother Teresa that asks us to love until it hurts? Please give me insight regarding this topic.
marrenja
“Love your enemies”
We have to love everyone
But not everyone is your friend ( you can let into your life...)
so the previous video was about finding a boyfriend that was a true catholic... and now, friends MUST BE catholic as well to be good. Hmmmm. I understand if this video is directed to the youth, which will help to keep them away from bad stuff but not 100%. BUT, it is not totally true because not necessarily the saints are in the church, I believe some outside as well... and some little evil ones are also inside the Church making everyone believe they are saints. As an example, my best friend was a Chinese girl who didn't practice any religion. She basically didn't believe but she was at church when I received my confirmation, she loves churches because of the architecture, and music, but I believe she was probably close to a saint because she was a virgin with morals, excellent beaviour, no bad words, she was an excellent daughter to her parents, and sister to her brother... she lived for them. She didn't need to be a catholic to be all of that... all she needs is the moment that God will actually show Himself to her, I'm sure she will recognize Him.
BTW... the discrimination towards non Catholics is really pushing me away from this channel which is a shame because I love to watch Fr.Mike's videos... If Pope Francis would see these 2 videos....
Respectfully, I think you are reading too much into her comments about finding Catholic friends. Friendships usually start from having a common interest, and this being a Catholic channel, that faith is a good starting point for where to find friends. It's just that a starting point, not an end point. At no point did she say or infer that you shouldn't have non-Catholic friends - that your friends "MUST BE catholic".
In her other video about dating, she did advise against dating outside of the Church, not because non-Catholics are bad people, but because the end goal of dating is marriage and if two people are of different faiths, it makes the union of marriage more difficult (that's not saying that it's impossible). A shared faith in a romantic relationship is an important issue that needs to be given thoughtful consideration and discerned. As you pointed out these videos are directed to the youth, and many times young people do not consider a shared faith when they start becoming romantically involved with people. I believe that was the main highlight of that video.
She didn't say friends had to be Catholic. She said people that call forth the good in you. Essentially, people who want the best for you. These people can be of any creed.
friendship is NOT about 'vulnerability' (idk why focus is so obsessed with this term) it's about TRUST and HONESTY
That is all God is asking about us to. Trust and honesty
Trust implies vulnerability.
@@Spectrometer i dont think you understand what the word imply means.
@@Spectrometer no no no. In order to be vulnerable, you need to be either desperate or trusting. Trust comes first and is a journey, not a destination. Think of any relationship that you have: it's built on TRUST not vulnerability. Vulnerability is a completely separate issue. These focus people really lack good language to explain and it comes off as 'feel good' rather than the truth. Feelings are for Protestants, the truth is for Catholics.
@@reznet2 "in order to be vulnerable, you need to be either desperate or trusting" you said it yourself.
Don't play the "truth" card, we are not talking about Catholic Dogma, we are talking about the debatable philosophy of friendship.
Have you got any Hungarian ancestors by any chance?
Amen love one another in Christ Jesus
Adam and Eve cloth themselves in their own righteousness with fig leaves.
Isa64:6
But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.”
So God clothed both Adam and Eve in animal skins.
In this act blood was shed
Heb9:22
And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission.
Heb13:8
Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.
AS IS IN THE OLD TESTAMENT SO IT IS IN THE NEW TESTAMENT.
1Cor15:45
45And so it is written, The first man Adam was made a living soul; the last Adam was made a quickening spirit.
We are born in sin and sin nature. And are redeemed through Jesus Christ born again with the in feeling of the Holy Spirit.
There’s so much in the Garden
Now though Jesus Christ we are we received salvation and will be with him in paradise.
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Starts with a silly song annnnnd, I'm out.
Joy a threat to your faith?
Blah blah blah, get to the point
I love the emphasis on having balance with relationships in this video.