Why was she begging that sorry excuse for a mother & sister to meet her finace and his parent's? Why would she even invite them to her wedding?.. they don't like her, don't want to see her happy or doing well.. how many different ways does someone need to not only tell you, but show you you're NOTHING to them?... holding on to toxic people just because they're blood is just ridiculous.. they would've never even knew I was getting married. I sure as wouldn't have invited them. Who cares so much about the bride or groom parent's being at the wedding?. That's not a thing down here.. the only people that matters at the wedding is the bride & groom.
That happens when you grow yp with this toxicy. You nornalize it and try you best to get some form Of affection. You hold out hope that some how you be recognized as family. That is if they havent been broken and feel they deserve their treatment and to stay where they are. Bot even one hqs such self worth or a way to get out.
I will never understand why people play favoritism when it comes to their children. Every child is a blessing, no matter what issues there might be. It makes it worse when those "parents" drag the younger siblings into the stupidity.
It would of been funny if after finding out OP had the wedding in Hawaii said "I thought you said you were having the wedding in the states " and OP going "We never said which state and Hawaii is a state"
Poor OP she sounds stupid. I’m pretty sure her mother and sister were always this transparent. I think she has always been neglected. She’s one of those people who put up with abusive toxic parents and family because,”we’re family and family is important” but is consistently shown that they don’t see her as family. Always begging for affection that’s denied. These kinds of people always endanger their children because they expose them to toxic parents and excuse the behavior by gaslighting children into thinking that the grandparents still love them when it’s obvious they are not liked. The most she could hope for is benign neglect or outright abuse. How come grandma doesn’t feed me. Why did grandma lock me outside?
@@hopetirendi2386 I'm guessing that, originally, Japan and the United States were swapped - with Hawaii still being the intermediary stop. So the fact that Hawaii is technically a part of the United States (whereas Hawaii is *not* a part of Japan) got lost in translation! Or maybe they thought Hawaii is to the United States as Hong Kong is to China, which I don't think is quite accurate.
Why is the dad not setting his foot down. Imo he's waiting to see how he can come out on top. Why is the daughter begging to her mother and sister? They hate you .
Geez, how many times does the mother need to repeat that she’s not going to the wedding before the MC stops acting like it’s the first time she said it…
I don't even feel sorry for Esther, Her Mom has been mistreating her since her sister was born. Why would she keep wanting people who don't like her to come to her wedding? It's like she needs to keep trying.
@LinkDrako actually I have siblings, step family, lol my own bio father didn't acknowledge me bc I am the only girl! Being bullied in elementary, even in relationships. My personality is that I don't kiss anyone 's ass even if it's family, before I even heard the quote from Maya Angelou, "When people show you who they are, believe them" I was well aware of that, It's how I have created boundaries and demanded to be respected, it's how I boosted my self esteem. I give love, but I also deserve it, I teach my children to have those same values. If people are telling you and showing you how they feel, believe them and surround yourself around those who do love and accept you. We need to stop being ok with being tolerated and not fully accepted. It's not hard, too. It is simple, and no one would want their children or loved ones being mistreated. Why would you allow yourself to be mistreated? That's what makes it simple.
@@moniquestuckey-kirkham7762 some of us just didn’t have the benefit of knowing what a backbone was until we were much much older. I didn’t start fighting back until I was an adult.
@LinkDrako I understand that people do not have a backbone, but I also know that people did have someone who stepped up like Op had her Dad, Aunt, and other family members. That's my point stop begging and hoping for people to treat you better than they had before because even if they do it's like the hurt and pain can not be undone, its like looking at them and thinking do they still dislike me? I think the problem is that family ideology and society don't give us permission to be angry when people hurt you. Somehow, people forget you can forgive, but it doesn't mean you have to accept those people or their behavior from them. I have given people that permission and explain forgiveness doesn't equal acceptance or your presence in my life. People should want genuine respect, love, and concern, not just to be tolerated and forgiven with doubts attached. Apply that to all relationships and people, that backbone was always there, just be able to enforce it.
I do feel sorry for her. She must be an optimist. Hoping against her better judgment that someday her mother and sister will be kind to her. It must be very hard to be rejected by your mother.
They say that the older daughter usually looks like the father so maybe the mom just hates the dad?? They call him an ATM ffs!! And it sounds like the father is never around anyway, and he doesn't even seem to TALK to his wife- gigglesnort, these pampered wives always bite the hand that feeds them when it's just sooo not even nessecary😂😂🤦♀️
Dad may not have been deliberately abusive but his level of turning a blind eye to how his wife treated his first daughter and how she encouraged her sister to treat her is neglectful.
They're American in this translation, but I think they were Japanese in the original. Hawaii appears to be the unchanged intermediary location in both versions.
MC's voice is great and studio setup are top notch,as always. "Mom & Martha's" voice & setup need work. Lots. That particular Va's voice is annoying in a "she needs a lot of work," not in a "the VA is so talented she makes me hate the character" way. I'm at the beginning of the episode, and these features jumped out immediately.
Please stop those annoying voices!!! The mom and sister talking like that is like nails on a chalk board!!! That person does know that doing that inflection with their voice screws up their vocal cords right??
OK if your going to tell your daughter that she's just a waste of space and you regret having her don't you dare get butthurt when she tells you to go middle finger yourself. OK if these people live in America they would know that Hawaii isn't overseas. So mommy dearest how does ALL that karma taste? does it taste like ALL of the crap you put your older daughter through?
Why was she begging that sorry excuse for a mother & sister to meet her finace and his parent's? Why would she even invite them to her wedding?.. they don't like her, don't want to see her happy or doing well.. how many different ways does someone need to not only tell you, but show you you're NOTHING to them?... holding on to toxic people just because they're blood is just ridiculous.. they would've never even knew I was getting married. I sure as wouldn't have invited them. Who cares so much about the bride or groom parent's being at the wedding?. That's not a thing down here.. the only people that matters at the wedding is the bride & groom.
Totally agreed
Exactly she should have just told them to kick rocks
That happens when you grow yp with this toxicy. You nornalize it and try you best to get some form Of affection. You hold out hope that some how you be recognized as family. That is if they havent been broken and feel they deserve their treatment and to stay where they are. Bot even one hqs such self worth or a way to get out.
@@Orsonfoe what is a hqs?
@@rollothecat2010 that was supposed to be "has"
No wonder the dad is always away, who would WANT to be around such a horrendous wife and daughter
He should have at LEAST supported his eldest.
The begging is killing me.
I will never understand why people play favoritism when it comes to their children. Every child is a blessing, no matter what issues there might be. It makes it worse when those "parents" drag the younger siblings into the stupidity.
That mother and sister are horrible. Dont even invite them
No sane person wants toxic people at their wedding.
Why bother with the toxic duo?
Get far away from them get that CEO and watch them be envious
It would of been funny if after finding out OP had the wedding in Hawaii said "I thought you said you were having the wedding in the states " and OP going "We never said which state and Hawaii is a state"
Serves her mom & sis right!
Hawaii is not normally considered "going overseas when you live in the U.S.
OP should have blocked her mom and Martha a LONG time ago...there's no reason to speak to either of them, AT ALL.
Martha states that she and her mom are like two peas in a pod, more like two Creepers in a dark parking lot
After the mother treated her that way and the sister sounding like she is drugged up. I wouldn't even bother with them.
I agree that the sister sounds like she's stoned.
Martha sounds like she sips champagne while downing Valium
I too thought the sister sounded stoned.
She kept referring to fiancé as her fiancé even after they were married.
Well so much for favoritism. Karma is a b----.
Poor OP she sounds stupid. I’m pretty sure her mother and sister were always this transparent. I think she has always been neglected. She’s one of those people who put up with abusive toxic parents and family because,”we’re family and family is important” but is consistently shown that they don’t see her as family. Always begging for affection that’s denied. These kinds of people always endanger their children because they expose them to toxic parents and excuse the behavior by gaslighting children into thinking that the grandparents still love them when it’s obvious they are not liked. The most she could hope for is benign neglect or outright abuse. How come grandma doesn’t feed me. Why did grandma lock me outside?
Why are these hated by their parents so dense. Just leave them out of your life. I would uninvite both the mom and the sister.
Is the VA for the mother speaking through a tin can?
Combined with the treatment of the oldest daughter, missing her wedding should have been the last straw for the dad to divorce the mother...
The dads and FILs are always useless in these stories😒😒
@@twiceshy9773So true.
Funny how the wedding was "overseas"!! It was in Hawaii that's NOT overseas unless you DONT live in the US!
@@hopetirendi2386 I'm guessing that, originally, Japan and the United States were swapped - with Hawaii still being the intermediary stop. So the fact that Hawaii is technically a part of the United States (whereas Hawaii is *not* a part of Japan) got lost in translation! Or maybe they thought Hawaii is to the United States as Hong Kong is to China, which I don't think is quite accurate.
Why is the dad not setting his foot down. Imo he's waiting to see how he can come out on top. Why is the daughter begging to her mother and sister? They hate you .
Martha sounds strung out.
Hawaii isn't really over seas, it's still the US.
A very toxic mom and sis.
Geez, how many times does the mother need to repeat that she’s not going to the wedding before the MC stops acting like it’s the first time she said it…
Did they recorded the mom part from the bottom of an old can ? The sound was awful.
Just don’t invite them. Problem solved.
I wish these stories would show the name for both people texting. I hate having to wait till the named one mentions the unnamed persons name.
Give up Esther, not worth the effort.
Meaning nothing to an emotional cockroach isn't something to worry about for long
That's not a mother!
I don't wanna hear another peep outta you, "Mom" or Martha!!
Martha and Esther are the most old fashioned names ever! 🙄
never play favouritism in the family, everyone should be treated equal!
Is Hawaii considered abroad if you’re US citizens?
Martha, Martha, Martha!
I don't even feel sorry for Esther, Her Mom has been mistreating her since her sister was born. Why would she keep wanting people who don't like her to come to her wedding? It's like she needs to keep trying.
You’ve never been abused by family have you? Trust me, it’s not as simple as you make it to be.
@LinkDrako actually I have siblings, step family, lol my own bio father didn't acknowledge me bc I am the only girl! Being bullied in elementary, even in relationships.
My personality is that I don't kiss anyone 's ass even if it's family, before I even heard the quote from Maya Angelou, "When people show you who they are, believe them" I was well aware of that, It's how I have created boundaries and demanded to be respected, it's how I boosted my self esteem.
I give love, but I also deserve it, I teach my children to have those same values.
If people are telling you and showing you how they feel, believe them and surround yourself around those who do love and accept you.
We need to stop being ok with being tolerated and not fully accepted. It's not hard, too. It is simple, and no one would want their children or loved ones being mistreated. Why would you allow yourself to be mistreated? That's what makes it simple.
@@moniquestuckey-kirkham7762 some of us just didn’t have the benefit of knowing what a backbone was until we were much much older. I didn’t start fighting back until I was an adult.
@LinkDrako I understand that people do not have a backbone, but I also know that people did have someone who stepped up like Op had her Dad, Aunt, and other family members. That's my point stop begging and hoping for people to treat you better than they had before because even if they do it's like the hurt and pain can not be undone, its like looking at them and thinking do they still dislike me?
I think the problem is that family ideology and society don't give us permission to be angry when people hurt you. Somehow, people forget you can forgive, but it doesn't mean you have to accept those people or their behavior from them.
I have given people that permission and explain forgiveness doesn't equal acceptance or your presence in my life. People should want genuine respect, love, and concern, not just to be tolerated and forgiven with doubts attached. Apply that to all relationships and people, that backbone was always there, just be able to enforce it.
I do feel sorry for her. She must be an optimist. Hoping against her better judgment that someday her mother and sister will be kind to her. It must be very hard to be rejected by your mother.
They say that the older daughter usually looks like the father so maybe the mom just hates the dad?? They call him an ATM ffs!! And it sounds like the father is never around anyway, and he doesn't even seem to TALK to his wife- gigglesnort, these pampered wives always bite the hand that feeds them when it's just sooo not even nessecary😂😂🤦♀️
Dad may not have been deliberately abusive but his level of turning a blind eye to how his wife treated his first daughter and how she encouraged her sister to treat her is neglectful.
Martha sounds like she has a cold.
Martha needs to lay off the quaaludes.
What's is with all of that thumping everytime the VA doing the mom and sister are talking?
Adult female valley girl speak.
Eh. They're Americans, right? Let them get jobs and stay in Hawaii.
They're American in this translation, but I think they were Japanese in the original. Hawaii appears to be the unchanged intermediary location in both versions.
Martha's VA needs to pick a voice to use. Both were cringe with how close she is to the mic. Mom too
MC's voice is great and studio setup are top notch,as always. "Mom & Martha's" voice & setup need work. Lots. That particular Va's voice is annoying in a "she needs a lot of work," not in a "the VA is so talented she makes me hate the character" way. I'm at the beginning of the episode, and these features jumped out immediately.
What's with that annoying vocal fry?
Please stop those annoying voices!!! The mom and sister talking like that is like nails on a chalk board!!! That person does know that doing that inflection with their voice screws up their vocal cords right??
OK if your going to tell your daughter that she's just a waste of space and you regret having her don't you dare get butthurt when she tells you to go middle finger yourself. OK if these people live in America they would know that Hawaii isn't overseas. So mommy dearest how does ALL that karma taste? does it taste like ALL of the crap you put your older daughter through?
I would have been gone and let mommy dearest have her precious golden daughter. Hope Mom can afford it