SHE SAID: Interracial Dating FINANCIALLY HARMS The BLACK Community? | Anthony ONeal
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ต.ค. 2024
- On this episode of The Table with Anthony ONeal, Erica LeShai Joins to share why she passionately believes that Black love holds the key to revolutionizing communities. Prepare for a thought-provoking episode as she dives deep into her insights on upholding the Black family standard, nurturing generational wealth, and circulating prosperity within Black families. With a focus on unity, empowerment, and fostering positive change, this discussion offers valuable perspectives on how nurturing strong relationships and financial stability can contribute to the advancement of the Black community. Join us for an enriching conversation that highlights the power of love, family, and economic empowerment!
Mentioned On Today's Show:
🤝 Ethos Life Insurance: anthonyoneal.co...
🤝 Erica LeShai: / ericaleshai
🤝 Erica's Website: www.ericalesha...
Checkout My Network Partners:
🤝 Bethel Tech: www.anthonyone...
🤝 Better Help: www.anthonyone...
🤝 Chime: www.chime.com/...
🤝 Course Careers: anthonyoneal.c...
🤝 Ethos Life Insurance: anthonyoneal.co...
👥 Join The Table: www.anthonyone...
FREE Webinar:
💻 The Personal Brand Masterclass: anthonyoneal.c...
RECOMMENDED Reading
📔 Debt Free Degree: amzn.to/3jA8GfR
📓 Destroy Your Student Loan Debt: amzn.to/3uG5wNQ
📓 Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less: amzn.to/37iUUf1
📘 The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: amzn.to/3uEiKdW
🎙 Listen to the show
iTunes: apple.co/2Wb2FhG
Spotify: open.spotify.c...
GET IN TOUCH
🌍 My website - www.AnthonyONe...
🌍 Advertise With Me - partnership@anthonyoneal.com
Connect with Me!
Instagram: @anthonyoneal
Facebook: @anthonyoneal
Who I AM:
Hey, fam! I’m Anthony and I’m here to help you discover your authentic self and achieve spiritual, financial, and mental freedom. I know what it’s like to be in debt and homeless - I’ve been there. But with the grace of God, I was able to turn my life around and I’m now helping others to do the same.
Join me on my TH-cam channel and let’s start this journey together. I’ll share my experiences, tips, and tools to help you achieve success and become debt-free. Plus, you can follow me on Instagram @AnthonyONeal and visit anthonyoneal.com for more resources and help.
Subscribe now and join the AO fam! Let’s get to it!
Have A Questions You Would Like Asked On The Show:
Tweet me @anthonyoneal or email me at anthony@anthonyoneal.com. If your question is long, I might not read it, just being honest. 😁
Disclaimer: Some of these links are affiliate links, which means I may get a commission if you purchase. However, none of the fees of these resources have been increased to compensate me. In fact, many of these have given me special discounts that I get to extend to you! 😉
The path to avoid poverty is straightforward. Don’t drop out of school. Learn a marketable skill. Become financially literate (numeracy). Don’t have children outside of marriage. Avoid criminal behavior. Marry someone that shares the same values, beliefs, morals, and life goals.
God bless you. People need to see this.🥹🥹
Easy, but the issues is that these lessons needed to be taught at a young age otherwise cleaning up those issues becomes much harder in 20/30s.
@@MichaelImo well if they want it no matter when the learn it, they will adjust and train up their own children to be able to follow it.
For me, I have had enough of excuses from our folks. It’s a way out from being accountable for bettering themselves. Even If they are 60 and just learned this and want better it’s their job to make sure they incorporate it into their lives.
You say don’t drop out of school Daniel but there are plenty of high school dropouts that are millionaires
And Daniel as far as criminal behavior there are people in prison for crimes they didn’t do
Speaking as a black businessman, there are issues with non-professionalism among black businesses, but there is also a problem with black customers. I often got "You charge white people prices!" and had to explain, "I'm paying white people bills."
A a black businessman, do you give out scholarships to high school boys in ur community? It's a tax write off.
@@memebzk5001 I may do that if I ever have a taxable profit that needed sheltering. My barber, also a businessman, feels the same way.
My brother owned 2 shop inspecting cars emission test . 70% of the customers were non black. They recommended their white friends to get their cars inspected at my brother in law shops. Most black people came to the shop expecting a discount or a poor I’m a baby momma so I got it hard so give me a discount. My brother started marketing to non black people. My brother ran a reparable business charged standard prices. Even the black American Muslim community refused to support my brother shops. To be frank the black community doesn’t respect businesses owned by black men. I sternly advice brothers don’t market your business to a demographic that has shown no interest in helping black male businesses growth. Even black men don’t support black male businesses to spite them. A lot of black men raised by single mothers have feminine energy so they don’t like supporting other men either.
I guess you thought your answer was a smart answer to give. But it shows that you're more indoctrinated into white supremacy than the person who asked for a discount. I feel bad for you.
@@charlesirby1643 I don't in any way discount what you're saying here. But I don't believe because something is a certain way that it must remain as such. Probably not the best example but I'm sure elderly black people in the 1960's would never have imagined in their younger years that segregation would one day be dismantled. So I don't think it's impossible for black male businesses to be viewed higher among black people. And to be honest I'm really talking about black men. Or I should say black males because I agree some black men will never change but if there's a collective effort to get black boys to view black male achievement higher than the dynamic might change somewhat. Just a thought.
This episode is gold! I love what she said about having personal core principles, self respect, and building legacy. ❤
Yep! Me too.
I'll listen to her POV. In my opinion, financial illiteracy harms the Black community.
And dating outside your race is financial illiteracy your giving your power away that's all that the young lady is saying in a nutshell other races don't leave generational wealth to other races I don't care who sleep with just keep the black dollars where they belong that's why today we don't own an control much of anything because we give all the wealth influence and power away to other races she's right....
What about the part where the sister said in the beginning,
how could a (another race man )tell her son how to be a black man?🤔
What part of that has to deal with so-called culture?
Two things can be right at the same time.
Since we have been financially sabotaged both violently and legally, since our ancestors were on this continent, I am slow to judge our peoples financial literacy level. I understand it as we learn better, we must do better. That never will, and never has changed. However, When other folks are making the rules, we are often in catch-up mode.
I haven't listened to the entire show. She made some good points, and many of the comments made here have some validity. I know some don't want to hear this, but we are late off the blocks. Some of our ancestors were fortunate enough to be land and home owners, but for the majority of us, we were raised by working class parents that instilled in us to be working class. Financial independence and generational wealth are terms that were not spoken of in most lower and middle-class homes. Now that we are becoming aware of the importance of ownership, we can teach our children about creating a wealth standard for themselves and their children. Financial literacy is crucial and without it, you can stand to lose everything you've worked for.
She told no lies. We stay trying to look like someone else. Family is the basic building block of society and broken families are our hallmark. It’s so sad. We don’t have the right tools to make it work. I pray for our people. We are a broken people. This is a great episode.
Nothing will change as long as hiphop culture exists.
I agree. We have the highest divorce rate. Highest single mother rate. While having the highest abortion rate. Sky high sti rate in the major cities. We listen to only single people for dating advice. Our favorite artists are people who talk about harming our own people. Over 70% of our professional athletes go broke after retirement. Our kids want to be rappers and athletes instead of doctors and lawyers. We have so much wrong with us, it's not even funny. We can't even clean up our own neighborhoods. It'll get better centuries from now though.
How do we try to look like someone else
@@hsny76h4l9 wigs,weaves,perms, relaxers, skin lighteners etc. if you don’t do any of that then the statement doesn’t apply to you.
I would love to marry a Black man. But the Black community does not back and support Black marriage. The Black community supports broken homes and struggle love. It is normalized to have children out of wed lock for Black people and I'm sick of it. Strong, stable Black families are the backbone of a strong Black community. We can't have one w/o the other.
on behalf of the black male population, you can go. BYE.
Well then you and you family are the exception; not the rule.
Best of luck trying to find a Black male who wants to marry you 🤞🏾 It's the Hunger Games out there😅
Yup.
Ladies, carry yourself like marriage material, bring something to the table like ( respect, love, support, etc) and don't give up on your goal when you run into a few frogs; you'll get your man. All you want is one, right?
Thank you so much Anthony Oneal for having Erica on your show. her heart bleeds for her people and that is Love. She is a phenomenal woman thank you Erica and Anthony for your content.
agree
💯 Agreed
This woman is the definition of a black queen 👸🏾.
I am teaching my daughters to look and think just like her. ❤️🖤💚.
So, why is she still single 🤔
@@truettadevil I think it's because they don't qualify to step up.
@@shenquejames7598 then everything she saying about Black men is false. She's promoting Black love, but you're saying Black men don't qualify to be with her... so the only love she may find might be in an interracial relationship.
@@truettadevilHow do you know she's single?
@@truettadevilWho said they don't qualify?
Black ppl use to have pride in their appearance! Look at our grandparents pictures! As time went on, culture integrated and got comfortable. Lost pride. Lost love for the culture. Ali spoke on this. Malcom X spoke on this. MLK spoke on this type of stuff. This younger generation is ignorant of the details of our history and our position as descendants of greatness! SMH they hear this and hear hate but it’s who we are!!! Black ppl are an amazing ppl! We are ppl of standard and power, so we not suppose to be in these streets with bonnets and pajamas on!!! Come on ppl!
Who’s to blame so it can change
@@meme-fs1jn gangster rap.
@@endersoncassio6014 Not really. Just one component.
So true.
@@meme-fs1jn integration. We can’t do what they do. And we shouldn’t!
I am now a stay at home mom but my previous career was in Customer Service/Sales for over 10 years. I really have thought about starting a business that actually help small businesses improve their customer service. Chick Fil A was my first job so they set the standard for me moving forward to my other jobs . I think we do need more high standards in areas of our lives and businesses.
Chick -Fil-A vs Popeyes chicken! My pleasure vs z what you want .
Please do!!
@@roolyfe No seriously haha I still say my pleasure instead of your welcome , it’s apart of me now! It’s really hard for me to call our phone, electricity,insurance company etc. Because when I get terrible service I can’t sympathize with them. Since I once was behind that call before, no matter what was going on at work with trash management or whatever was going on at home I always made my customers feel like gold ! Even when they called in cursing and fussing by the end of that call they were apologizing , thanking me and asking to speak with manager lol Literally just treat others how you want to be treated , listen to others how you want others to listen to you!
@@Pickedpurposely I Indra they are a strict company code of ethics. My pleasure. I wish I could own a franchise
Go for it mama..I think thats a brilliant idea!
Her opinion is unpopular, but if people knew their history of systematic issues black people have had and still do, what she is saying makes sense. She not saying its the only problem we have, but it definately add to our stagnated growth in this country.
They don’t want to hear this.
It’s sad that promoting families is unpopular. Definitely a sign of dysfunctional backward times we live in.
Unpopular opinion
@@dw9054Promoting black families you mean.
This woman seems like a pickmeisha.
Y’all would make such a beautiful couple. I see the chemistry. Black Love is spiritual, amazing and powerful
The comment I was looking for.💯 her body language was saying it
This sister in this video is preaching what I'm thinking everyday. Thank you for having the courage to say it!
Everyday
Facts
As a Black woman in my 70's, I am so encouraged by this conversation. I came of age at a time when Black men were proud family men. All of my friends lived in homes with both parents where parents had standards and demanded the best. As a retired educator, I started to become discouraged by what I was seeing. Ms. LeShai is telling the whole truth. I hope millions see this. God bless you both. We do need to stop giving all of our power away. God gave power to us, to each one. We need to acknowledge that and produce from that position.
I love this episode!! I agree with her on so many points!! We can’t be pitiful and powerful at the same time!🙌🏾
I remember hearing someone say years ago that divorce and broken homes will hinder your ability to become a millionaire and wreck your future financial stability. That trying to maintain separate households via child support/alimony has destabilized our community in a irreversible way.
It has destabilized the black community and I don’t think anything can repair it. Kevin samuels tried but black women attacked him badly
@@c.f.okonta8815 people can start by controlling their fertility. Unplanned/Unwanted pregnancies is typically where it starts.
@@c.f.okonta8815Oh please, he couldn't even keep his own family together
@@soleilwhitton6397 You are correct! Black men should keep their D***s in their pants since they claim/recognise there is a single mother epidemic and blame BW for the destruction of the black family🤨🤨
Great interview, my daughter and I had this same conversation and she told me she probably would not be the person she is if her dad and I weren’t married. It made me glad and sad at the same time. Joint parental love is so important to children ❤
I’ve been following Erica for about 6-7 years now and she’s been consistent the whole time. Happy you got this gem of a Queen on here 🥰🙏🏾 Big ups to you and the team for bringing her on!
has she shown proof to keep a man?
No. You have not. If you had you would have seen the worst side of this woman. She is a chameleon. She lets people see what she wants them to see just elevate her brand. She is absolutely NOT the kind of person that she portrays herself to be. There's video footage out there showing exactly what kind of woman she is. She was asked what does she bring to the table and the woman turned into a black Linda Blair in the Exorcist.
@@franklinwill22No. She absolutely has not. She's a feminist. She talks a good game to make herself look good but as you can see she doesn't have a man.
@@franklinwill22 Unnecessary my brother
@@franklinwill22 lol nope. Not at all
Lets be CLEAR…. #BlackLove is different from #StruggleLove between Black people.
Struggle Love, Disfunctional Love, Abusive Love, One- sided Love and the rest of that IS NOT a positive dynamic of #BlackLove
Period!
💯…..
So black love is just love? Gotcha.
What is struggle love though? How do we define it? I know what people *say* is struggle love is but I look at it differently than some. For example, if you are two people in love an in a relationship at 18, in college, and still figuring out your money and career is that struggle love or just being young and still figuring out life? Or is it struggle love if you are still figuring out money and career at 30? That's what I'm saying.
I think part of the problem in the black community is that we don't take things seriously until too late. We think we should be able to play around, date around, all kinds of stuff before 30. Then when we hit 30 then we want to look at our finances, credit, futures, and our love lives and make the shift. We have to stop thinking like we have all the time in the world to take care of business. Many white parents teach their kids to be marriage minded young! I don't think that's all bad. I don't think everyone needs to be getting marriage young - not my point. My point is that they understand to not just date around for fun FOREVER! They understand at a young age to take things more serious.
I"m saying this because I think it's important. I hate to compare but I will for this situation. White people teach their kids at a young ages about finances in the way black parents don't. So, when some of these white kids are 18 in college they already have a foundation that many black kids don't when it comes to money, marriage, and family. They already have a sense of where they want to be at 25 and they are saving at 18 for their futures.
You don't hear that as much from 18 year-old black young adults. They are 18 thinking they have all this time to save and prepare for their futures. They aren't thinking about marriage at all. They aren't already thinking about getting a house. Some do...most don't though. Let's keep it real. Then people wonder why struggle love is so prominent in the black community. It's because many parents weren't savvy and they couldn't teach their kids to start being savvy either starting at 18 and not 30. You can't START at 30 trying to think about your future and your financial plans.
@@ZOM23official One of the most damaging mindset is the one that interprets making sacrifices with a partner to achieve relative success as ‘struggle love’. People who make this kind of statement are disloyal, and are making exudes for straying. They are basically selfish and extremely materialistic.
I never understood "Black love." What is that? 3000+ tribes in Africa, do they all know what "Black Love"? Why haven't I heard of "White love" or "Arab love" or "Indian love"? If it has nothing to do with historic struggles and history or "he/she gets me," why does "Black love" exist as a moniker? Because all I see, right now, is a lot of Black killing, Black violence, and Black death at the hands of other Blacks. And a LOT of Black Silence.
I'm a Black woman who dates within and outside of my race and I still love, invest, uplift and support my community. Period.
🤦🏾♂️
What about the part where the sister said in the beginning,
how could a (another race man )tell her son how to be a black man?🤔
What part of that has to deal with so-called culture?
That’s not what she meant
That's amazing, but that still doesn't change the economic factor if there is no black love.
So called culture ? The fact that you dont believe in our culture which existed long before
any other race on earth is why no other race can teach a black son to be a black man !!!!!! @@Ira.J712
I'm a white man married to a Nigerian woman for two years. My late wife of 14 years was a Black American. Before that, I dated Black women almost exclusively for about two decades. In my perspective, if we're talking about the ability of two people to relate to each other... there are so many more important factors than the color of your skin. Culture, class, upbringing, religion, ideology, etc... There's no way one can find another who can 💯 relate. In fact, my wife and I love that our cultures, accents, ect. are so different... it adds so much interest and entertainment to our marriage.
Congratulations 🎉
I love that.
I appreciate that you had Erica LeShai on your show, she really has good values! We need more leaders like her in our community, she's young but she has great wisdom. She is 100% correct black love is revolutionary; it does affect every aspect of black life, including wealth building and financial literacy.
Can we acknowledge that every 2 parent household isn’t like hers was growing up. My husband grew up in a 2 parent house but it wasn’t healthy.
Preach❤❤❤
She stated that.
She definitely stated this. Are y'all even watching the entire video before commenting? Lol
She did say this. Did you watch the full show?
Of course but that’s not the point.
"The other side of conflict is love ❤"- YESSSS!!!!!
Great discussion. My dad Dr. Morgan Job (deceased 2018) would have loved to hear it. He spent years pointing out the lack of integenerational transfer and the pimping of victimhood in the African diaspora in our country, Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹. He never divorced my mom because of exactly this. And he was an economist so he always talked about how culture links with financial literacy.
Facts do not give a f**k about feelings, at the end of the day, so BW should do what works best for us. It is not our responsibility to preserve the race so BW should unapologetically discriminate by intellect, finances and character before breeding with ANY man... Interracial pairings are better than spawning the offspring of black dusties IMHO.
WM are actually better providers/protectors, difficult a pill as it is to swallow.
This was a good episode. I grew up in that kind of environment.We need to instill a love for God and strong core values into the next generation.
This is it!!
Would this be your white Jesus🤷🏾♀️
@@blaqueruby4946 I follow the Jesus of the Bible not some man made version of Jesus. BTW don't use deflection to start trouble and also pay attention to what you watch.🤦
This channel is beautiful! Intelligent Black ppl having crucial conversations!
"Children that look like me because I like how I look." Good attitude.
Amen thank you for sharing this advocating subject in our community. I've been places where blacks have said I wasn't black enough, or said I wasn't on their level, because of the way I carried myself. I've been raised in Black Haitian 🇭🇹 Class and I seen the poverty and I understood the assignment. Get Out. Build and Grow come back for my people who wants the change.
❤💯🇭🇹
Yes, it does stop the black wealth and creates division, which weakens the black community. It also creates a lot of animosity amongst us
Man this was amazing. I am definitely going to run this back a couple times the conversation was so necessary. Going to share this video too. Thank you both so much.
Ordering my shirt ASAP. ✊🏾
Great show & she drop GEMS!! Financial responsibility, literacy & accountability play a significant role in shaping an individual's financial well-being. Making informed decisions, setting realistic goals, and managing resources wisely are crucial factors that contribute to financial success. These principles are applicable to all individuals, irrespective of their race or the racial makeup of their relationships.
I’m interested to hear her perspective. I feel that everyone should focus on finding love and someone that suits them and their purpose. I hate the continual race and gender wars in the black community. I think everyone should focus on what happiness looks like for them. I feel everyone has an opinion on dating when there is no one size fits all. If you focus on respect, morals/values, maturity, character, love and loyalty then I feel like you are off to a great start.
Beautifully articulated. I was thinking the same exact thing. As a black man who just so happens to be married to a black woman, but has dated women of varying ethnicities, I can say that race was a very low priority on my checklist of finding a life partner.
@@beyondworthy I love that!! I definitely think mindset is based on upbringing as well. My parents made sure to raise us in diverse schools to help us better be well-rounded in society and I’m thankful for that. I def understand wanting to date within your race but I definitely think people should still be open minded and not close themselves off to other opportunities.
Race wars n genders in All communities not just black
How do you keep wealth within your community if you are always dating or marrying other races?
❤❤❤❤❤
" How could you know you need something you have never had" loved that
I love HER!!🥰 AMAZING show AO!🔥❤️ Great way to uphold Black Excellence! Nothing wrong with the POV's you both shared!
Anthony great conversation for the black community! What a 'divine connection' as you both compliment each other incredibly. Hope to see and hear more of both of you. God Bless.
This was food for my soul. If our community can master this and get back to the basis…….WE WIN!
Speak well, look well, respect yourself, self care, love yourself.....THAT PART👏🏾👍🏾🙌🏽
Yes, it hurts the community! The fact that most of us don't understand that shows the sickness in our community!
No it don't yall love making that excuse. If people want better for themselves and if that is dating and having kids outside the BC good for them. In the BC the bm is slim to none and so as bw. I have male friends in the same boat, dating out.
Exactly!!
@@reginacameron3011coons you mean. Like you.
@@reginacameron3011🤦🏾
All I heard was. *"I like what I like and my options are slim"*.
I tried to explain this to somebody I know a lot of us are brainwashed
That great.
We need more dialogue like this in our community.
Thank you Anthony.
OMG, I totally agree with everything they said!!! We need more conversation like this!
She said she had two parents that riased her and gave her the reasources she needed to thrive. They were both black. Two parents that give their children the resources that they need and support them emotionally and mentally will allow them to thrive. That has nothing to do with race.
That part!
@@BeBlessed70lmao she is catering to a specific audience. Thats where she is getting her bag from
Well said.
@@toyatoya5151Thank you!
You’ve missed the whole point...
If more blk people did this then we wouldn’t be the race at the bottom. We’d have wealth to create our own industries and not be monopolised by others... Right now, you are run by white supremacy. If 1M blk lawyers, 1M blk doctors, 1M mechanics, builders, electricians etc...the community as a whole rises...
Having the same beliefs,values,morals is the best thing a person can do for the community they are in.
I understand what she's saying. When black people elevate financially they go date another race then the wealth gained doesn't stay in the black community it's transferred to the other spouse's race. Why do people act like they don't get what she's saying. As soon as black men get money they go marry outside of the race then get divorced & she takes half & she's not black so that money's taken away from black wealth. We are already behind our counterparts bc of slavery why continue to give the money back over to them to give them more power? We need to stay together to strengthen our community. It's just facts.
Exactly! I hate when people use emotions more than logic! Smh
I mentioned this in one of his previous videos. Can’t wait to hear the conversation. Following…
So don't marry outside of your race because WHEN you get divorced they'll get half... so your saying plan for your divorce and marry someone in your race so WHEN you get divorce it stays in your community... hhmmm ok.
@@OneFaithFilledLady "marry someone in your race so WHEN you get divorce it stays in your community... hhmmm ok."
lmao🤣🤣.
Maybe not marry people you will get divorced from to begin with. This is some really terrible racebaiting logic.
@AnthonyONeal - GenX, mid 50s, BM here. I agree 100% with @EricaLaShai seeing the tangible results of being raised by 2 married Blk parents over 50 yrs. Shout out to Erica. My siblings & I were given the cheat code to starting & living a successful existence & life. I've listened to Erica for the past couple of years & she's usually right on point. That's when I was first exposed to your channel as well. Keep up the great content & insightful discussions. 👍🏾👍🏾
Thank you for having her on. I’ve seen her videos before and agree with most of what she has to say. Sure racism exists, but taking accountability and pushing through against all odds, is how we’ve gotten to this point in time.
On point… yes!! This concept and ideal can carry the next generations farther than imagined!!! We can build black excellence and strengthen black families.
I totally agree! We can be so huge if we stuck together together.
Enjoyed this episode, you both spoke with such love & passion for our black culture❤ 💯
Yes, yes, yes. Best episode ever!!! So proud of you Anthony!!! Thank you for bringing on guest that speak the truth!!! The truth is not easy to hear. Loved so many of her perspectives!!! Entrepreneurs: lets all offer a high quality of customer service. 2 Parent households should be the norm not anomaly.
I love this perspective. I didn't grow up with my biological family, but the family that helped to raise me, my parents, have been married for 64 years and counting and there's something about having an up close view of two people in the same household working toward a common goal. When you're being intentional there's certain things that you hold yourself to. Others will have their opinions, but I certainly understand this perspective. As a whole, we (black folk) MUST change our mentality, but it FIRST starts with each individual (YOU), then your household (building legacy), then we can affect and help change in our communities.
Our ancestors even my Grandmother and Mother always kept their hair and clothing together it was something that they prided themselves on.
I feel as if we will never get together to do better and to be united. That hurts the most🙌🏾
Same with my grandparents!
Because they were christian and went to church.
Great show! I’m over 50 and back in my day, I only dated outside my race but now, I only date within my race. Simply because of culture and I love and finally accept who we are as people and not running away from it!( I’m a little ashamed of my past thoughts and behaviour but I’ve changed)
Congrats to you bro!! I commend you on your elevation.
Peace and Pan-Africanism
I went to university with men like you at a predominantly white university. So many black men not even glancing myself or my black peers way bc they were busy trying to hook up with any moving white student. That is when I started to view interracial dating as a fetish. One black student walked around with a shirt "I love blondes" and indeed he only dated/hooked up with white students.. I have since change and support it only when it is real love. Good on you for changing.
Can you elaborate on what you have learned to accept?
Look back at the Civil Rights Movements to stay within our race and culture. Every other culture feeds from our talents and culture and we can't see it! What this sister is saying is so on point. Especially what she said about how she watched her parents mold her as a strong black woman. Black people are a disgrace today. I feel ashamed and sadden with how our ancestors fought for what's right to see how we disrespect them today. This interracial issue of rich black man/woman always always marrying white or leave their black wife and immediately marry white. When the white woman leaves their behind they start complaining to the black community.
Keep it black to grow black wealth.
No other race does this!
I hope these two are open to exploring the possibilities of a union. They're in sync 💞
Skin color is my last concern when dating
I'm happily married to a White Hispanic man and we are raising 2 well-adjusted boys to be loving, caring, and responsible men who love and are proud of every aspect of their heritage. My husband and I are active in our community, business owners who employ different people, we're involved with our local Urban League, as well as a Hispanic serving organization, and we both serve on boards with our local Chamber of Commerce. Our commitment to each other's sociocultural and sociopsychological growth and success compels us to do our part to uplift our community in whatever way we can. While I understand the perspective on the show, I do believe there is space for loving relationships (interracial, same-race, etc.) where people work together to uplift and positively impact the Community.
we dont want to build with swirlers. i dont know why thats so hard to understand. stay over there with all that.
Well I’ll happily and unapologetically build and contribute to my community as a swirler or whatever derogatory label you deem appropriate. Interesting enough, swirling gave us our first Black, or rather biracial president. To each their own.
The kids r not black tho.!! You r destroying the bloodline.!!
@@juniorjames7501Since, when were hispanic men not consider black? Even a white hispanic man has some color, and she's black. Her children are actually pretty amazing because they get to live in 2 worlds. The black American culture and the hispanic culture where ever this man is from- Colombia, P.R., Dominican, or Mexican, etc
@@hasanharris7324facts
Your conversation with Queen Erica was an absolute gem.
The question is: how do we get the black community to make that revolutionary mental shift.
The key is in renewal of the mind through the scriptures. Check out Galatians 5:22-23, that is the foundation of good character. Unfortunately, many in the black community are anti Bible.
@@michaelcarter4028 Romans 12:2 is also instructive
@michaelcarter4028 you need to be more specific because the. Black community has been invaded by immigrants. The community is Foundational Black American community and we need to stand on that
The key word here is "Love" but most importantly it needs to be the Love of Christ. Parents who are growing in the Love of our Lord will position themselves in the right path. If they transmit this same love to their children, the children are set for greatness in the Kingdom of heaven. Parents need to be spiritually mature to overcome anything. Having a mature Spirit is the secret whether you are black or not.
Amen 🙏🏽
Love is love don't be afraid to venture out of your race and miss your blessing 😊
Who are you to say our people are missing anything? That's your passive aggressive manipulative ways.
Excellent show about the importance of black love to preserve our families, future and acquiring and keeping generational wealth.
I LOVE HER!! THIS IS WISDOM FROM GOD!! SHE IS TELLING THE TRUTH!! WE NEED MEN IN OUR HOMES.! THANK YOU DEAR!!❤️❤️
What she is saying about reasons why we should marry within the race was timely about 40 years ago. Today things in the black community are too far gone for it to be saved.
@great456789 Facts 💯.
So black people are supposed to just give up? Nah, man, we must go back in and build brick by brick, block by block, one family, child, or person at a time... 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@myrahj1482 We can give up on trying to save the whole race in the county because realistically we can’t be saved. But we can save ourselves individually if we reprogram our backwards thinking. We keep thinking it’s about us black people when today it is actually about us American people.
Thanks for having her on to talk about this. It harms us when it’s done on BOTH sides. I believe we will always be stronger together and when we keep our resources among ourselves.
Black women forever, snow bunnies NEVER! I said Black women forever, snow bunnies NEVER!
She made perfect points, even if u mad at your spouse or whomever, u have to continue to do what u gotta do. This is the case in my family, we be mad at each other, but when it comes to building and getting stuff done for the kids, or for the family-we gonna get it done!!Period
She’s so brilliant, full of wisdom.
She is 💯% correct. Black men and women and us as a people need to stick together and really work out our differences.
You're entitled to your opinion but the majority disagrees with you.@@FreeSpiritedWolves272
It's a bit late to say that don't you think
Nonsense, love who you want
And just find someone with similar morals and values as you.
@@Minney-Me you're entitled to feel the way you do but I stand by my comment.
Sis said EVERYTHING that needs to be said!!!!!!!!!
I will pray for us to get in sync soon as possible, agree with this concept and conversation. This should be published. Love ya'll.
She's absolutely right. People are afraid of us yet we did nothing wrong, but them folks are warmly welcomed yet they should be the ones to be afraid of.
Great discussion! Everything that I do in my life, depends on how I treat myself. When that's off balance," then I don't have much regard, for other people."
Bring her back this was a great interview! 💯💖🔥
Life does not work like that. I know multiple black women who were abandoned by black men as single moms living in poverty. They ended befriending non black men who loved , married then,and provided a lifestyle for them they never experienced with black men...I don't blame black women for choosing to receive love no black woman should feel pressure to die unmarried with kids just because of black man chose not to marry her.
should of picked better.
@@hasanharris7324Truthfully, there's not a whole lot of better in the community.
@@hasanharris7324choosing better equates to no choosing black men.
She did. @@hasanharris7324
The fact that that phrase is repeated so often speaks volumes. If there were better options out there no one would need to say that so often. @@hasanharris7324
Appearance is everything… when you respect yourself you will never leave your home with a bonnet… wearing pijama outside…my neighbor will never see me with a bonnet…. Before I even walk to my car 🚘 or garage I already have my wig on….
Interracial dating is the least of our problems. We can promote black love all we want but if our sisters keep on picking wrong men, leaving their marriages and putting their kids at a disadvantage, nothing will change.
Those wrong men are the vast majority of the men in the community. They need to open their options and have standards
@lmusima3275 Not true, the wrong men are only about 20% of men in our community. It's just that the majority of our sisters enjoy dating and having kids with them. They start looking for good men when they have been used, and their biological clock dims.
I wanna hear her out first before making a judgement.
I am already judging
It's going to be the same talking points that deducts down to what Black men are doing with their 🍆 or how Black men don't love themselves.
Smart
Okay did you watch the whole thing? It's been 9days? 😂😂😂
Black love and marriage is the most revolutionary thing ever
What so revolutionary about?
Facts. It kicks more $$ out of our already non-circulating community.
Which is why I advocate for segregation. Segregation ensures the Black dollar circulates amongst Blacks. Segregation would also disrupt the comfort of non-Blacks who use Blacks to build wealth at our suffering.
Theres nothing more powerful than a black two parent man and woman household that follows the Lord.
Facts. That was literally God's Blueprint. Dozens of generations of humans were Black before any other ethnicity even came into existence
I'm here for THIS conversation! ❤❤❤❤
I’m here them! 😂😉😂
Agree. Can't wait to hear her explanation on this. I have a feeling our thoughts are the same. Disclaimer: I believe you should be with who you love and vice versa, but that still doesn't change the economic factor of interracial marriages when it comes to the culture.
What about the part where the sister said in the beginning,
how could a (another race man )tell her son how to be a black man?🤔
What part of that has to deal with so-called culture?
@@Ira.J712 I'm about to watch this episode now.
I grew up in 80's and my Momma didn't play us going outside with pajamas slippers or bonnets!!! She would always say never go outside and not be decent! You never know who your gonna see!!!
Y’all Erica and Anthony are giving me goosebumps… you too are vibing too well… why do I feel like there’s an undiscovered love connection 🥰🤎☺️🤎😍
He's not ready for her. At all. She's not having no mess and needs an all the way pure Alpha.
@@Ginger_Spicy_Candor You talking like she is a top tier choice. She is a single mother in her 30s. Any man who gets with her is signing up to be a step dad for another man's child. Also, she is close to the age of geriatric pregnancy when pregnancy becomes too high risk for women. So if a man wanted to start a family, there would be a high probablity of him not being able to do that with her. Why should a man deal with all of that, when he can get a better choice of woman who is younger and childless for him to start a family with?
@@tkctkc5805 wow! Very well said and agreed!!!
You are speaking the truth,I grew up in the home with my mother and father 5 brothers three sisters and it was the most beautiful thing and people need too here about this kind of family dynamics.I never here my mother and father never had an argument or rise there voice to each other they love each other and show that kind of love too their children it was a beautiful thing we never wanted for anything.
We need to have more love for ourselves in our community.
It is possible to love yourself without loving your community.
Healthy conversation is so enriching for our hearts. I can't believe I missed this episode.
Yes my old fav(Leshai) and my new fav (Anthony) have collabed!!!! Can't wait to watch this after my meeting❤❤❤
Thats amazing to have a family of brothers and sisters siblings and no riffs between them.Bless them❤❤❤❤❤😊
Interracial dating doesn't hurt financial success. Financial irresponsibility, illiteracy, ignorance, AND lack of accountability harms finances. My girl and I (moreso myself so far) are financially responsible and do our best to stretch Washington's, lincolns, grants, Jackson's, and especially Franklin's as much as possible
She never said it harms financial success, she said it hurts the black community and it does. Marriage plays a part in finance and generational wealth.
@@Thatbulit only hurts black wine s self esteem
@@Thatbul Marriage cannot help a community financially if it is not a healthy marriage. A stable marriage means that the finances within the marriage will grow, the people will grow and it is the decision of the black person in the marriage to determine if they want to do something for the black community. That black person can still open a black owned anything that will financially help the community. Race still has nothing to do with marriage.
@@alishawallace7160 I absolutely see where you are coming from, but that only works in the short term. The white/"other" great great grandchild is much more likely to inherit all of whatever it is you have, depending on your choices.
@@sssssssss111 Thank you for considering my perspective, but there is no guarantee that the biracial children will only marry white, so that still isn't true either. The way you legally set up your finances is how they will be distributed in death. You can teach your kids to have the same love for the community and they can teach theirs.
Mr. O'Neal, I truly enjoyed the episode with Ms. LeShai , she's a Jewel.
I don’t want to trauma bond with a man because we’re both black.
BYE. go swallow a pink one
You can trauma bond with any nationalities we are are going through something.
It starts in the family. A lot of families are not close. Therefore they need to communicate and now we learned that lesson we can start healing of the community.
I'll say it again, love has no color❤. But money is always green! It doesn't care
The ppl of no color and limited color make the rules and they marry their own.
❤❤❤❤❤
Yes, you're correct. That's why i have a black wife.
@@KV45355 And that's why I have a black husband. I know I cannot ensure it, but when I look down at my legacy a big part of it will be in the black community.
politics does. and like it or not marrying is politics. and its selfish to not consider what your kids deal with to even decide to say "love" has no color. biracial kids have so much issues from these unions and many suffer in silence.
GREAT EPISODE!!!
The young lady was dope af.
This should be interesting, I’m looking forward to seeing the discussion
Mu mom was a proffesor. My dad was an engineer. I went to a private school and went to college. My husband was at that college when I met him. He had a family just like my family. Educated mom and dad. My six siblings all went to college and graduated. We were equally yoked. I had 2 sons with my husband. But one of my sons said he cannot find any black girls that he likes. He said he doesn't want to raise someone else's child because all he dates is black women with children. My other son has a white wife and they have a mixed daughter.. My mom and dad left property and money. I am saving money for my sons, and so are my sibblings. My mom and dad saved so much money that we are not needing our money. Because my husbands parents passed also, and we are intentionally making sure we are passing what we can to pass it on.
Passing down generational wealth is a gift of Love. I am not able (willing) to leave property, wealth in the event it gets into white hands given our history & the atrocities suffered in this country.
Thank you Anthony, WE love her
I agree. I'm black but I hate going to businesses in the hood. Whether it's black owned or not they all tend to operate the same "in the hood" especially most Indian Americans really don't give AF about black ppl. And our ppl in our neighborhoods have poor customer service skills. Bathrooms are always 'Out Of Order' 🥴 They rarely have what's on the menu then get upset when you ask for a subsiton that's not going to be an upcharge. I literally stood in a restaurant one day and saw how a black employee was cordial and to a white male. High energy everything. Soon as I get up to order it's a lower energy "wassup bruh"
And she said I don't mind us having our unique African American dialect. But dude just as you code switched with the white ppl. I need you to keep that same energy with me..
Protect this woman!
I can speak to the reality of wealth being passed down and it changing the trajectory of your family's financial status and well being first hand. Had my husband been married to anyone else, that would have been wealth that went outside of the community when he passed away. Instead, its been used to purchase a home with no mortgage in a mixed middle class neighborhood (still majority black), spend money in black businesses in the neighborhood, build a black business, having a roth ira and building an investment portfolio overall, our son doesnt have to pay for college at all if he decides to go, no debt, etc. We do understand the reality and the effects of black wealth being passed down to other ethnic groups because of the fact that anyone non black is what many saught first after having attained the wealth (for the sake of status and how others view them in many instances amongst other things as well). There is this mindset that anything non black is right amongst us and it needs to be addressed. That is the problem. Not merely dating outside of your race. But, the rate at which black people (typically men) do it in comparison to other demographics of men speaks volumes and highlights a certain pathology that is prevalent within said group. And many of these podcasts confirm it. This is what she's addressing.
this woman is super wise !