You Are Homeschooling WRONG
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 เม.ย. 2024
- Are you frustrated and overwhelmed in your homeschool? Have you thought about sending your kids back to school? My guess is that you might be making one of these mistakes that is sabotaging your chance of success as a homeschooler.
Today, I'm sharing 5 mistakes that homeschoolers often make that can lead to burn-out. And I'm going to share some ideas about how to turn them around to something positive. I hope and pray you are blessed today! Thanks for watching!
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Hi friends! I’m Erin. I’m a homeschooling mom to 4 kids and we’re in our 8th year of this homeschool lifestyle. I love to share videos with tips about things we’ve learned along the way that have helped me out, as well as curriculum reviews and some heartfelt homeschool inspiration. I hope you leave here feeling encouraged that YOU CAN DO THIS!
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I always look at what others are doing, but at this point, I'm pretty confident in what is actually feasible in our home. We keep it super simple because with a 6, 4, and 2 year old, all the extras can get overwhelming really quickly.
I am relieved that my doubts, worries, and feelings are not mine alone. Others on this road of homeschooling have or have had the same concerns. Feeling like I am not doing enough, trying to get to EVERY subject every day along with swimming and piano. Why can't I do this for ONE child? This other TH-cam mom has 3 kids and gets through all their subjects in 20 minutes. It has been on my mind all week to send him to public school. I know in my heart we have made the right decision. Protecting his innocence, his self-esteem, and his confidence. I can compensate for a book or a lesson but once that "innocence" is gone I can not help him make that up I can not help him replace that.
I have missed you! You share such great wisdom.
Just what I needed to hear as I listed out the 20 subjects needed for a CM style and instantly felt overwhelmed.
Aww, thank you! I’ve missed everyone on here too! 🥰 Definitely choose the parts you like and don’t worry about the rest! That’s where being eclectic fits in - choosing the best parts of which ever styles we like and making our own blend! ❤️
@@TheEclecticHomeschooler Excellent advice 🥰
This is such a blessing & encouragement!! Beautifully worded reminder to us!! Our homeschool journey has been a process of going through everything you just described!!! I still struggle with doubts about if I'm doing enough- are they going to be equipped for college & life?! I was so excited to begin homeschool- I imagined all the fun ways we could learn things instead of just sitting with books... Yeah, none of my fun, joy-filled learning plans have come to fruition!!! I've spent more hours of headache & frustrating moments than not! My youngest in particular has had no interest or desire to learn anything from the get-go! I've had to "shove" every ounce of learning into his stubborn, strong-willed mind!! It's been the most challenging thing I've ever done in my life!! He's made good progress,but he just hates it all. It's been a battle every day, and his attitude is so frustrating. We've gone over and have posted on our wall the Bible verses about doing all to the glory of God, but it is still a daily battle. We have experimented with many, many different curricula, as far as my budget would allow, but I'm to the point of thinking it really doesn't matter what I use, he's going to fight me on it because he just doesn't want to do it. If I did that "unschooling" thing & let him lead, he'd never have learned to read or multiply!!! He's 12 now. Do you know of any good science curricula for middle schoolers that would include projects & learning for more mechanically minded kids? That is the one thing I might be able to interest him in, but I have only come across the usual life science, astronomy, oceans, plants, & geology... ty so much!! ~Liz
It is so overwhelming. And just gets more so as you get older. I counted up my oldest son's readings a couple years ago and he had OVER FIFTY reading assignments a week. Plus Latin. Plus keeping a nature and science journal. Plus astronomy project. Plus written narrations. Plus Latin and CM wanted two other foreign languages?! And dancing, folksongs, art, handwork, pe... It's too much.
@@mycrazyfamilyid 50?! That is unreal!
Wow how do you keep going on this path. Have you thought of shifting gears and letting go of some things?
Are you using A.O?
Thank you for your honesty. I was guilty of looking at those perfect instagram homeschoolers and tried to recreate and when it didn't go the way I thought it 'should' have, I felt like a complete failure. The best thing I ever did was throw my hands up and be done with all of it. I gave myself the time to relax and let my kids go. They got bored, they played and then suddenly they dove in to what THEY were interested in. I just helped with the resources they needed and looked for the little ways that I could gently guide and implement maths, geography etc and they began to thrive! They are engaged, enthusiastic and want to learn. It's having that faith that God has our backs, we just have to trust. I wish I had of let go a long time ago 😆
I need to let go! How old are your kids? I'm afraid my boys will just want to play Legos all day long
@@malloryanthony8921 they are 10,8 and 5. Lol they did play Lego all day for some time there but then they wanted more Lego, so they started to look at eBay etc, counting their money, how much more they needed to purchase, looked at ways to make money, selling toys on marketplace, potting plants and selling them, saving pocket money etc. They made the money and came to the bank to put into my account and followed along with the ordering process. We noted all the totaling of money etc for evidence of learning. Funny thing is as soon as they received the Lego, played for a couple of days they were over it😅. They then began to play dress ups which then lead to writing plays and then turning them into short movies. I help them write scripts and they copy it out. They were not interested in doing workbooks prior so this was an achievement and evidence of progress , they now have the confidence to have a go at workbooks as they want to write the plays themselves, they want to learn. So much more but I hope this helps🙏
this is me right now, I felt that I didnt give enough and my kids didnt learn enough this school year as a first time homeschooler, ugh! need to learn so much and be consistent in our schedule... huhu! but thanks for his encouragement...
We are ending year 6, and I still don’t feel “seasoned”. Friends say I’m doing great, but I sometimes still secretly feel like I’m faking it and just making it look good. 😅😂 I’m still trying to solidify and stick to a routine, pushing for more independence and more middle grade amounts of work with my 10 and 12 yr olds. I think I’m the biggest problem. 😬 Too relaxed.
I think we all feel like that at times! We are all figuring things out as we go and trying to find that perfect balance! Best wishes! ❤️
I am with you! I have felt that draw to investing in character and prioritizing good conversations in these later years of homeschooling. ❤Academics is such a small part of the picture.
Yes!! Totally agree! Blessings to you! ❤️
First time here & subscribed when I heard your faith glow through your video! Can’t wait to binge watch when I have time 😂
Thanks so much! 🥰 God is good! 🙌🏼
Thank you ❤ I'm a 10+ year homeschool mom, too, but I really needed your message today. This inspires me SO much. God bless you and your family. 😊🙏🏽💜
I’m so glad to hear that! 🥰 I need to remind myself of many of these things as well! Oh, the cycles we go through in our minds… 😅
❤ Thank you!! I have fallen to the comparison and not measuring up, and have been feeling very sad about it. This reminder was so important, and I truly feel that God used you to reach many that are feeling the same…
So glad to hear that! Praise the Lord!
Love this so much! Especially end the part talking about Christ being involved in homeschool and every day lives. ❤
We're on year 5. I have 5 children I'm homeschooling and literally sent my husband a text on Tuesday saying, we really should talk about putting the kids back in school" 😂
Don’t give up!! You can do it! One day, one step at a time!
Same!
First off, you look radiant, friend! Secondly, you always have such great encouragement and wisdom.
Hope your family is doing well!
Thanks, Jess! 🥰❤️ We are! Hope you are well also! Enjoyed your recent Ambleside video!
I have never watched you before but you’ve been a good perspective for me.
My oldest will be starting school this fall. I was the oldest in my family and we were all homeschooled K-12 so I have plenty of knowledge to get started with homeschooling. It is such a struggle for me to know what curriculum to choose what style of teaching/learning to use or what co-ops/sports/activities to be a part of. On top of that I have several friends that are starting their kiddos homeschooling too so we’re constantly comparing notes/ideas.
You’re helping me realize that if I don’t want to do something that everyone else is doing or even if something sounds great but doesn’t fit our current lives then its ok to skip it. Thanks!
(deep breath in and out) Ahhhhh …just what I needed to hear today! Thankyou 🙏🏽
Glad you enjoyed it! 🥰
The thought of homeschooling scares me! I feel I'm not educated enough or creative enough. My son (1st) grade has been struggling socially, coming home talking about things that don't align with our beliefs, he's had trouble focusing, and getting alone with others. He has had to defend himself physically many times this year from other boys. During the summer my son is a such a different kid. I see the real him. Hes not overhwlemed with stress i know comes from social pressure and being at school for 8 hours a day. He always seems so anxious, nervous, and closed off during the school year.
His teacher says he tests above grade level, he is a brilliant boy. It has been on my heart to homeschool ever since he started kinder and it never goes away. I just let my own self doubt keep me from acting on it. Im also in an enequally yoked marriage so it is hard for us to agree on decisions such as homeschool and public school. You always have so much wisdom and grace when you speak. I appreciate you !
I’m finishing up my 8th year of homeschooling. I just finished a book called Conflicted by John Stamper. Maybe you and your husband read that together. It was an eye opener even though I’ve been doing this for a while.
One thing I think about when I don't feel educated enough is.... I went through the public school system and feel that way. Why would I send my kids through the same system that I feel didn't educate me well? So much of education can be done independently by them reading books from brilliant minds of the past. We don't have to be the ones to teach them everything. That is freeing to me. I already see how my oldest is learning so much that he is going to be smarter than me, HA! But I get to learn along side of my kids and it's amazing. I hope you and your husband are able to unite and find what works for your family. One thing I would recommend if you are considering homeschooling is listening to Dr. Robinson who came up with the Robinson curriculum. I don't follow it exactly because I love Charlotte Mason and implementing her philosophy. However, listening to his lectures gave me such FREEDOM in what is possible with letting kids have independence in their own education. I think it resonates with men as well so maybe your husband would appreciate it. There's a Facebook group too and dads contribute there as well. You can find his lectures by searching on TH-cam for "Dr Robinson explains the curriculum" (just thought I would share since your husband might like listening to another man speaking about homeschooling). Blessings to you!
Look into Classical Conversations. It sounds like a good fit for you. You homeschool at "school" with him learning from the tutors how to teach the info that they learn in class and gives enough socializing one day a week to keep an only child from feeling lonely. Having other moms to encourage and help is such a blessing! Even if you decide to do it on your own, go for it! You are the best teacher he has!
The Lord has already equipped you. You can do it!
You can at least try for a year. I'm sure your husband would be more open to a trial period vs having to convince him to allow you to homeschool indefinitely. Sometimes just giving a child one year is enough to reignite them and give them a much needed emotional & physical break from bullying. Also there are many other options, look into charter schools in your area. I had a friend who signed her boys up for a 3x a week public school, the rest was home learning. My sister does a charter school were they have 1 day a week of PE, art, tutoring--- the rest of the week is at home with checking in with a teacher 2x a week. There is also fully online schools both private & public, as well as homeschool coops. Do a little research, share what you learn with your husband. Best of luck to you. ✌
Aweee SOOO glad to see you. You and “My Practically Imperfect Life” mama should have coffee…LOVEEEE both of y’all’s voices and demeanor
❤ thank you so much for sharing
such a wholesome perspective!! specifically relationships over anything else. ❤❤
Good honest information. Thank you!! 🙏🏾
This is exactly what I needed! Thank you for your ministry to us fellow homeschooling parents trying to raise up children in the Lord. 🩷
My pleasure! ❤️ God is good! 🙌🏼
Amen
Good to see you! ❤
Good info here 😊
Oh my goodness!
These are exactly what I have come to realize over the years and you articulated it so well.
Great video! 🙏
Happy to hear that! Blessings to you! ❤️
Thank you for this. I'm sure I'll need this reminder this school year.
Awesome video...perfect timing too
I needed to hear this today. Thank you!
Wonderful video, as always!
Thanks, Abby!! 🥰
👏👏👏 Totally Agree!
What wonderful encouragement! Thank you so much :)
Glad to hear it! Thanks for watching! 🥰
Oh, I needed this! Thank you❤
You're so welcome! 🥰 Blessings to you!
"we all need Jesus!!!!!" So true
Missed you yes indeed feeling of overwhelm
Thank you! I soak in your wisdom, it means a lot to me as a homeschool mom of 3 active boys!
You are so welcome!
Great reminders! ❤ I love that you use so much scripture!
Your thumbnail! 😂😂😂
Is this your same log house? 😊
Thank you! Yes, I just shot this video in my husband’s office. 😄
@@TheEclecticHomeschooler It’s a nice office! I wish I had a quiet place to film. Mine is in our dining room and it’s kinda distracting. 😂
I noticed the background looks different as well. Erin, you look beautiful!
Oh my goodness this has to be the most beautiful video!! I needed this! I'm in a new state different laws and I've been freaking out
Thank you so much. Glad it was helpful! You’ve got this! 👏🏼👏🏼
I needed these reminders!!! I’d been constantly questioning myself, wondering if I’m doing this right. God bless you in what you’re doing, loved everything about this video ❤🙏
So glad to hear it! God is good! 🙌🏼 Blessings to you!
Thank you
This is such a good post. Thank you so much for this encouragement. God bless you.
Thank you! So glad it was helpful! ❤️
I wish I could send a thousand likes! Such a great chit-chat...for such a time as this!
I’ll be homeschooling my 8 year old and 5 year old this fall for the first time and I’m doing a trial homeschool with my 8 year old, where I do math for an 30-45 minutes after school with him using the actual curriculum to patch holes in his math concepts. I’ve been feeling like quitting sometimes already. It’s not even started for real 😂 I needed to hear all of this. I need to slow down!
Love this so. Will you be doing a curriculum video(s) ? I tend to do a lot of what you do.❤
Yes I will. I’m still narrowing some things down though. I will probably do an end of the year wrap up first to share how things went this year. ☺️
Oh my, this is so great! Sharing it on my FB page.
Love, love, love the Bible verses!!!
So glad to hear it! Thanks so much! 🥰
I've missed you!!!
Aww, thank you! 🥰 I’ve missed seeing everyone on here too! Thanks for watching!
IM still trying to figure it out as they are changing 5th grade, 3rd, and k/1st.
Amen! :)
Did you just call my children flawed?! Im out of here! 😂 Jk thanks for such a nice video ❤
😂 Oh no, not yours, of course!
Literally watching this after me yelling and punishing my 6yo for not reading properly. 😢 accused her of not trying and pretty much did EVERYTHING wrong! We do not do school everyday….so it’s not like we are doing too much. We need to be doing SOMETHING. I’m just struggling to be consistent.
Idk what my teaching style is or what my child’s learning style is. We play…A LOT. She naturally learns things…but is that really enough?? Your last point hit home! 😭
I scream a lot to my kids as well, i saw a video by dr kennedy lady giving speeches about parenting and she said on one of her videos that we may not stop screaming but we my repair by apologizing to our kids and taking the blame on us for shouting never to take it on them and that apology accepting our mistake helps more than just a plain apology. I'm sorry if I'm being inappropriate i just thought it might help as it has helped me😊
@@lakliamsnot inappropriate at all. I appreciate your feedback. I agree, I did have to apologize and made sure she knew that I am a sinful human being also trying to do better. 😮💨 thank you again
@@allalala9916 i wanna do that, i have a 1, a 2 and a 5 yo, I'm scared they'll kick me out for too much noise🫣 i think twice before going to toddler time but i guess if i never try I'll never know🙏
I totally feel your pain! Been there too! At age 6, that’s definitely enough. After teaching 4 kids to read (one with dyslexia), my biggest tip is to not push it before they’re ready. When they are, everything will click and make sense, and you won’t have to force it! I have had one that read at 4 and one that read at 7, and everything in between. Definitely keep working on the letter sounds and blends and just read books to her. You can point to the words as you read so she starts to recognize what they look like when you say them. I have loved Explode the Code for phonics in the early ages! Best wishes! ❤️
Yes, my oldest caught on to reading quickly and naturally in “kindergarten” at age 5. I was expecting the same for my middle child, but we had some days like these where we both ended up yelling or crying. After a month or so, I set it aside for the rest of the year. He just wasn’t ready. In the meantime, we did read alouds and got lots of comics and monster books from the library bc that’s what he was interested in. We did Explode the Code for first grade, and he started reading at age 7. He’s 8 now and caught up to 2nd grade level in one year. Garfield and the Smurfs are still his favorites😂 Don’t be afraid to let them read whatever will catch their interest to motivate them, and it’ll click when they’re ready.
I’m am going through this I have already filled out paper work to put them in school my am having doubts
Oh wow! Listen to those feelings. Maybe the Lord is causing you to doubt because he wants you to keep them home with you. There are so many resources out there and helpful options that can make it possible to homeschool! It really can be a challenge but it so worth the time investment you put into your family to learn and grow together! You don’t have to know everything, or even teach everything. That’s the beautiful thing…it’s that you do it together! I pray the Lord gives you direction for your family! ❤️
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What is a good math and language arts curriculum for kindergarten?? Child knows all alphabet sounds and identifies them.
Masterbooks is great for us
I have really enjoyed using Explode the Code for phonics for early elementary along with just practicing handwriting (copying Bible verses, etc) and reading a lot together (both them practicing reading to me and me reading to them). For math I have liked The Good and The Beautiful or Singapore Primary Mathematics for early elementary. That’s just my personal preference though! There are many great options!
I was teaching child medical classes…then the decision to go into missions with Teen Missions International happened..Gods direction is better than ours.
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