I think one big problem is there are many Catholics who can't find each other. The others are for guys who just are not handsome and feel unwanted. There is always another handsome guy waiting in the wings and many girls are waiting for him to come along. They are not going to settle for less. The last problem is feminists who hate men and will flip out if they think you are trying to find a wife. You never know if the girl standing in the corner will be thrilled to meet you or enraged. Does anyone know what to do? I have all three problems and have no confidence. It seems like everyone leaves the church when they are 18 and don't come back until they are 30 or 40 if at all. People tell me to go to church to find a wife but all I find at most churches in my area are old ladies and 12-16 year olds. The dance group I gave up on was all protestant and refused to date a Catholic (other Catholics tried), plus they mostly talked together with the other girls and had zero interest in me. There just doesn't seem to be a good place to meet real Catholics who are looking for a spouse. I think we need to create one somehow.
I remember when I was single there were SO many single women looking for boyfriends in cities like Washington DC and NYC but guys just stay in groups with their friends and don't take a chance in approaching the woman. I was always looking in church, at church parties, on commuter buses hoping my future husband would sit down next to me, and while on vacations.
Moral men don't consort with feral women. If she's on her own in an apartment in a big city she's run through. Good women live under their parents' supervision and father's headship until marriage.
Guys avoid women who are more successful than them. That kind of dynamic almost never works out so there is little point in trying. DC and NYC are terrible places for dating because those places are where young women are doing much better than young men.
Appreciate you Cameron. Solid advice all the way through and definitely all are actionable. However, let's just say you do all that and you still remain single. What then? When I ask this I'm often met with bumper sticker responses. "Well, that's the attitude that keeps you single" (what does that even mean?) or "When it's your time, it's your time" (Really dude?) or "Take this time to work on yourself" (Uh...well...I knew that). I feel often that my well-intentioned Catholic friends, acquaintances, and online personalities speak from a place or a context that many in my position view as Pie in the Sky. Example, many of us don't have a thriving single Catholic community in our churches, many of us don't go to a Catholic college with a vibrant Catholic community, many have us have tried Catholic dating sites where our matches are...meager, etc. It's what leaves me feeling that maybe a secular lady who is at least open to a person of faith is my best avenue.
Jesus was tempted after 40 says in the desert, when he was weakest, at least in his human nature. Imagine what he could have done to a Baconator Burger from Wendy's with double fries an a tall vanilla shake. That's your secular woman, brother, and there's a big satanic hook in your magnificent ideas and justifications. Still, if you choose secular, do not even get "handsy" or verbally "warm" while you invite her to Mass, to pray the Rosary with her, meet your Catholic friends, the Priest, etc. If she is just hooking you, she'll get colder than permafrost. As should always be done, check her background. Like the priestly vocation hunter women, Catholic Faith exterminators are everywhere.
Secular women are risky. Invite her to many Catholic activities for a good long while. Pay attention and don't follow appearances, feelings or testosterone.
Things that may be interesting to me but not necessarily to women:😅 Scriptures, the heresies of the past and seeing how they are coming back today in new forms, searching the Catechism for answers in things, seeing what pope Francis is doing, photographing the sunset, science things, learning new skills and understanding about life problems, etc. I live more in my mind and intellect than the here and now which gets me in trouble when conversing 😅 I appreciate this straight talk though to learn more into my charisms and the Holy Spirit’s leading to become the person He has in mind desiring me to be. I would add for all those lost in porn and lust to find Jesus and get to the root cause of why you need to engage in these things and seek healing for any past trauma and pain especially if porn is used as a coping mechanism for stress and pain and anxiety like I used to do it as and stopped doing once I understood why I used it.
I did all that and still no success. No social media, read a lot (philosophy, history, etc), started martial arts, got in pretty good shape, went to a good catholic youth group. Did a lot of socializing.... tried to hear her a lot about her problems, and still nothing, btw I have a regular job with a good income, so I'm not a neet. Now I'm starting to think that a secular girl might be a better option for me. I know my calling is for marriage, and God knows it, but I think the problem at this point is not me anymore, I did the working and no results... but who knows right?
Don't give up, brother. You've already done so well in cultivating some great lifestyle choices. But also remember that it is God's grace working in your life; if He sees fit to give you a loving, holy wife in His perfect timing, then He will. Keep praying for your future spouse, and pray also that you will increase in wisdom and holiness as you pursue Christ. God will not withhold the fulfilment of the desires He has placed in your heart. Our Lord beckons us to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and God will sort out the rest (Matthew 6:33). I encourage you to meditate on what St. Paul says in II Corinthians 6:14-15, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness with lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" I've seen many brothers and sisters in the faith grieve and suffer hardship by forming and, sadly oftentimes, breaking romantic relations with people who have no reverence or care for the things of Christ. I trust and pray that you will spare yourself from such pain.
Yeah theres a weird air of absurdity in the dating world right now. I disregard alot of dating advice on the internet cause most of it is garbage but damn its still bad out here irl
@ a lot of men feel bl@ck pılled and doomed to be single forever. Lots of men think it’s hopeless. I think thats a topic worth addressing. Dating apps have convinced men that its impossible; and that looks and height are all that matters. Lots of men are giving up and are convinced that they are meant to be single forever. I hope you make a video addressing the loneliness and despair over dating men have today. Its not good. The bl@ck pıll is completely different than the red one.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheeseSure, the dating scene is bleak and barren, but instead of the Black Pill take the God Pill. A lot of of the bleakness is engineered and systematic by the homosexual movement, so do not become spiritually homosexual, as in weak, empty, hopeless, unmanly and faithless. Be devoted to Saint Joseph, and ask him to help you prosper and grow in Faith even when all you get is the intestinal matter hitting the air moving device. If you don't get deep with God, you sabotage yourself and you will not get the woman. Or you'll get one inspired by Hell.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese Get deep with God, always, and the woman will appear when you are not expecting her. Go deep with God and pay attention.
This is one of the better videos I’ve seen on this topic, well done! I would say though, on the point of getting in shape, instead of focusing on getting jacked and building muscle, just focus on being healthy. This could include working out obviously, but I would also say eating better, quitting smoking, etc. Just take care of yourself and have good hygiene and dress well. Also, having a sense of humor will help make you more attractive 😂
Step 1: Join the Orthodox Catholic Church Step 2: learn to love God and advance spiritually before ever thinking of being ready for marriage. Step 3: God will send your wife when the time is right and you have learned patience.
Just for fun: Drop your best Catholic Pick up line in the comments! :)
I have one!
“My friend told me to come and meet you. He said that you were a really nice person. You may know him; his name is Jesus.”
I always like to quote St. Joesph
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@@MichaelJoseph153 😆
1. Confidence
2. Virtue
3. Charm
Cameron has a lot of gifts and he's using them to make these amazing videos. No wonder his channel is growing fast.
I think this is one of the best lighting I've seen on your videos so far.
I think one big problem is there are many Catholics who can't find each other. The others are for guys who just are not handsome and feel unwanted. There is always another handsome guy waiting in the wings and many girls are waiting for him to come along. They are not going to settle for less. The last problem is feminists who hate men and will flip out if they think you are trying to find a wife. You never know if the girl standing in the corner will be thrilled to meet you or enraged. Does anyone know what to do? I have all three problems and have no confidence. It seems like everyone leaves the church when they are 18 and don't come back until they are 30 or 40 if at all. People tell me to go to church to find a wife but all I find at most churches in my area are old ladies and 12-16 year olds. The dance group I gave up on was all protestant and refused to date a Catholic (other Catholics tried), plus they mostly talked together with the other girls and had zero interest in me. There just doesn't seem to be a good place to meet real Catholics who are looking for a spouse. I think we need to create one somehow.
Man, your channel is a gift. Appreciate the video!
I remember when I was single there were SO many single women looking for boyfriends in cities like Washington DC and NYC but guys just stay in groups with their friends and don't take a chance in approaching the woman. I was always looking in church, at church parties, on commuter buses hoping my future husband would sit down next to me, and while on vacations.
Get bold fellas lol
Moral men don't consort with feral women. If she's on her own in an apartment in a big city she's run through. Good women live under their parents' supervision and father's headship until marriage.
Guys avoid women who are more successful than them. That kind of dynamic almost never works out so there is little point in trying. DC and NYC are terrible places for dating because those places are where young women are doing much better than young men.
Appreciate you Cameron. Solid advice all the way through and definitely all are actionable. However, let's just say you do all that and you still remain single. What then?
When I ask this I'm often met with bumper sticker responses. "Well, that's the attitude that keeps you single" (what does that even mean?) or "When it's your time, it's your time" (Really dude?) or "Take this time to work on yourself" (Uh...well...I knew that). I feel often that my well-intentioned Catholic friends, acquaintances, and online personalities speak from a place or a context that many in my position view as Pie in the Sky. Example, many of us don't have a thriving single Catholic community in our churches, many of us don't go to a Catholic college with a vibrant Catholic community, many have us have tried Catholic dating sites where our matches are...meager, etc.
It's what leaves me feeling that maybe a secular lady who is at least open to a person of faith is my best avenue.
Jesus was tempted after 40 says in the desert, when he was weakest, at least in his human nature. Imagine what he could have done to a Baconator Burger from Wendy's with double fries an a tall vanilla shake. That's your secular woman, brother, and there's a big satanic hook in your magnificent ideas and justifications.
Still, if you choose secular, do not even get "handsy" or verbally "warm" while you invite her to Mass, to pray the Rosary with her, meet your Catholic friends, the Priest, etc. If she is just hooking you, she'll get colder than permafrost. As should always be done, check her background. Like the priestly vocation hunter women, Catholic Faith exterminators are everywhere.
How many secular women will agree to no contraception?
Secular women are risky. Invite her to many Catholic activities for a good long while. Pay attention and don't follow appearances, feelings or testosterone.
Mr Cameron Reicker, pllsssss make a video for how women can find a good catholic man.
Things that may be interesting to me but not necessarily to women:😅
Scriptures, the heresies of the past and seeing how they are coming back today in new forms, searching the Catechism for answers in things, seeing what pope Francis is doing, photographing the sunset, science things, learning new skills and understanding about life problems, etc. I live more in my mind and intellect than the here and now which gets me in trouble when conversing 😅
I appreciate this straight talk though to learn more into my charisms and the Holy Spirit’s leading to become the person He has in mind desiring me to be.
I would add for all those lost in porn and lust to find Jesus and get to the root cause of why you need to engage in these things and seek healing for any past trauma and pain especially if porn is used as a coping mechanism for stress and pain and anxiety like I used to do it as and stopped doing once I understood why I used it.
This was… surprisingly helpful advice.
I did all that and still no success. No social media, read a lot (philosophy, history, etc), started martial arts, got in pretty good shape, went to a good catholic youth group. Did a lot of socializing.... tried to hear her a lot about her problems, and still nothing, btw I have a regular job with a good income, so I'm not a neet. Now I'm starting to think that a secular girl might be a better option for me. I know my calling is for marriage, and God knows it, but I think the problem at this point is not me anymore, I did the working and no results... but who knows right?
Don't give up, brother. You've already done so well in cultivating some great lifestyle choices. But also remember that it is God's grace working in your life; if He sees fit to give you a loving, holy wife in His perfect timing, then He will. Keep praying for your future spouse, and pray also that you will increase in wisdom and holiness as you pursue Christ. God will not withhold the fulfilment of the desires He has placed in your heart. Our Lord beckons us to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and God will sort out the rest (Matthew 6:33).
I encourage you to meditate on what St. Paul says in II Corinthians 6:14-15, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness with lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" I've seen many brothers and sisters in the faith grieve and suffer hardship by forming and, sadly oftentimes, breaking romantic relations with people who have no reverence or care for the things of Christ. I trust and pray that you will spare yourself from such pain.
Yeah theres a weird air of absurdity in the dating world right now. I disregard alot of dating advice on the internet cause most of it is garbage but damn its still bad out here irl
Do you think most young men are called to celibacy nowadays? Lots of guys are chronically single despite their best efforts
I do not think it’s the majority 😁 God knows somebody has to make babies for the celibate priests to baptize
@ a lot of men feel bl@ck pılled and doomed to be single forever. Lots of men think it’s hopeless. I think thats a topic worth addressing. Dating apps have convinced men that its impossible; and that looks and height are all that matters. Lots of men are giving up and are convinced that they are meant to be single forever. I hope you make a video addressing the loneliness and despair over dating men have today. Its not good. The bl@ck pıll is completely different than the red one.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheeseSure, the dating scene is bleak and barren, but instead of the Black Pill take the God Pill. A lot of of the bleakness is engineered and systematic by the homosexual movement, so do not become spiritually homosexual, as in weak, empty, hopeless, unmanly and faithless.
Be devoted to Saint Joseph, and ask him to help you prosper and grow in Faith even when all you get is the intestinal matter hitting the air moving device. If you don't get deep with God, you sabotage yourself and you will not get the woman. Or you'll get one inspired by Hell.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese Get deep with God, always, and the woman will appear when you are not expecting her. Go deep with God and pay attention.
@@philalcoceli6328 I’m not expecting anyone. I feel hopeless and I dont feel so motivated anymore. Loneliness kills motivation
This is one of the better videos I’ve seen on this topic, well done! I would say though, on the point of getting in shape, instead of focusing on getting jacked and building muscle, just focus on being healthy. This could include working out obviously, but I would also say eating better, quitting smoking, etc. Just take care of yourself and have good hygiene and dress well.
Also, having a sense of humor will help make you more attractive 😂
Im uh not liking my odds
Step 1: Join the Orthodox Catholic Church
Step 2: learn to love God and advance spiritually before ever thinking of being ready for marriage.
Step 3: God will send your wife when the time is right and you have learned patience.