5 Tricks To STOP Being Shy In ANY Situation! (INSTANT Confidence)

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    So there's something about Alpha that would surprise you about him -- he's shy with certain people and in certain situations. In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of IAmAlphaM, AaronMarino, Pete & Pedro and Fashion Anchor talks about when he was in Chicago with Tiege Hanley recently. He was in his shell, but he had a moment in order to have a good night thereafter. Here's how he did it.
    Stop Shyness Instantly
    1. Identify your insecurities - change them if you can't; embrace if you can't. Alpha discusses not having money, the condition of teeth, and skin conditions.
    2. Learn to identify when you start feeling shy
    3. Give yourself a pep-talk - "I'm awesome. I'm amazing. I am good at_______."
    4. Smile and give a compliment - break the ice and get engaged
    5. Push yourself out of your comfort zone on a regular basis - practice!
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  • @waterblonk
    @waterblonk 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2962

    I don't talk to people because I have no social skills.
    And I have no social skills because I don't talk to people.

    • @FeelinHazey16
      @FeelinHazey16 6 ปีที่แล้ว +199

      waterblonk let me guess and when u do eventually start talking u embarrass urself?

    • @m.m.i.9586
      @m.m.i.9586 6 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      I know it sounds silly, but if you read books on manners and social skills, it really helps. I highly recommend anything by Judith Martin (she's got a sense of humor). In and among instructions about excusing yourself from events or sending thank-you notes, there is practical, helpful advice for really awkward social situations.

    • @droptak
      @droptak 6 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      You don't need social skills to start talking to people

    • @Jayant_klkrni
      @Jayant_klkrni 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same loop bruv

    • @Kingwil497
      @Kingwil497 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Dude, literally just go out there and find someone that relates to you.

  • @reacttv219
    @reacttv219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1213

    Each like will increase your confidence level
    give it a shot guys...

    • @mohitbhatt5868
      @mohitbhatt5868 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shi h londa

    • @reacttv219
      @reacttv219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mohitbhatt5868 arre thnks bhai

    • @reacttv219
      @reacttv219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mohitbhatt5868 tune msg na kiya hota to pta na chlta kitne likes mil gye the meko

    • @mohitbhatt5868
      @mohitbhatt5868 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ab khush h na bhai😅

    • @reacttv219
      @reacttv219 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mohitbhatt5868 bahot yr😂👍

  • @jordanl2317
    @jordanl2317 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1624

    I'm insecure that the people I'm with don't want me there

    • @Vepporizer
      @Vepporizer 6 ปีที่แล้ว +162

      Jordan L Same. Even though they tell me they like me 100 times I somehow don't believe them

    • @rosshenleytiburcio3287
      @rosshenleytiburcio3287 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      same.

    • @taherismael1887
      @taherismael1887 5 ปีที่แล้ว +130

      Even if they don't want you there, what is the worst thing that may happen ? They would form bad opinions about you ? Excuse me bro but screw them ! Do what you like and stop thinking about what people think of you because :
      A) people don't judge all the time as we imagine .
      B) even if they do judge you, it doesn't matter , even if they don't want you then being worried and ruining the moment for you won't get you over that , they would just make it worse .

    • @shielamaemenoza1632
      @shielamaemenoza1632 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I feel you.

    • @David-yw3os
      @David-yw3os 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Jordan L so good to know other people feel the same way

  • @shintaromidorima3703
    @shintaromidorima3703 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1081

    I'm shy in real life but when it comes to online I'm fine.

    • @RapIsDrug
      @RapIsDrug 4 ปีที่แล้ว +132

      It's way easier being confident online. There is no actual person in front of you

    • @MossyAdventurer
      @MossyAdventurer 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Whiskey Barrel already know that

    • @jaysontatum8788
      @jaysontatum8788 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      why is it the opposite for me lmao

    • @slimecade2071
      @slimecade2071 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

    • @unreleasedhiphopking5066
      @unreleasedhiphopking5066 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yep

  • @sonnydong3726
    @sonnydong3726 6 ปีที่แล้ว +464

    I have acne,uneven teeth, and low income. I am not the tallest or the best looking person, but I have my confidence and sense of fashion; confidence helped me in my social life and women. Life is to short to be shy. Seize the moment and just go for the girl you want. The worst she can say is no, then you can move on.

    • @HeedAndSucceed
      @HeedAndSucceed 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      son dong how did you stop being shy?

    • @sonnydong3726
      @sonnydong3726 6 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      HeedAndSucceed hope you are doing well. One of the thing that helps me to overcome my shyness is to understand that no matter what a person does or how much they change, life will basically stay the same, like "haters will always hate". With that mentality, I just approach life by being myself. Another aspect is that you are unique, even though you might think you're boring, but in reality you are not. Share who you are with someone. Some will walk away some will stay, those who does stay are the ones worth keeping.

    • @pakipashtunmafia6924
      @pakipashtunmafia6924 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      son dong much respect brother fr u talk some sense right there

    • @prince_sach50
      @prince_sach50 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Tbh just dress well, look and groom yourself the best you can, and Have CONFIDENCE and Be yourself and I think 99.9% of guys can get a girl...

    • @Dovehkis
      @Dovehkis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bro ik a guy way worse then how you depict yourself that got with a really good looking girl, just got to work with what you have and just like alpha said if you can better yourself in some way to boost yourself up go for it !

  • @danielguzman9907
    @danielguzman9907 6 ปีที่แล้ว +985

    Being 17, I've been shy almost all my life and life sucked. Plus, as I was getting older (middle-high school), I was extremely lonely and also extremely insecure about my body. I had terrible teeth that I needed braces (and it's extremely worth it, still have them on), I have gyno (moobs) and still do (not as bad since my testosterone has grown due to puberty and working out), and my whole body was out of shape (very skinny fat and worked out to fix it and still a lot more room for improvement). I had to first battle my insecurities and as well as embracing them for the time being. However, what made me break out of my bubble was just being more open. No one else can do it for you. Of course, one has to have some confidence in themself first as the foundation of breaking out of that damn bubble, but just being more open is what sets everything apart. As I reached junior year of high school, as much as I didn't want to talk, I realized that I need to change and that there's no other option. I did this by just gathering with people I'm comfortable with and cracked a joke (and it has to be funny and not out of place or else you've just fucked up). The crazy thing is that just like what Alpha said, now those people started talking to me more often and now those 3 guys are my friends. As the year progressed, I created social media accounts (don't really talk to anyone that much there since I'm a born introvert), especially since almost everyone st school had Snapchat and I was one of the only few people without one. I've also talk to way more people and rarely feel like an introvert anymore. Of course I'm still fairly anti-social and an introvert since I need some "me time" and don't really party, but all that has changed in the past year ultimately change my life for the better. To anyone out there, don't wait like how many people, such as myself, did for some "miracle" to happen, or that someone can make you not shy. Only YOU can change that and the sooner, the better. I call myself lucky since I've realized that I needed to change pretty early in my life, and as one gets older, the more stubborn people become. Being shy sucks ass since you aren't living life to the fullest. I do wish I wish that I lived my high school years to the fullest because I did miss out on so many opportunities just for being shy, but now I'm looking foward to college and upcoming years. What's a better time to break the bubble than now?

    • @sixteen02
      @sixteen02 5 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Wow, thats a huuge motivation 🙏 ty

    • @ugaming5893
      @ugaming5893 5 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Great comment and I respect you

    • @rojayrg8715
      @rojayrg8715 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Good advice bro

    • @StoicthoughtsbyMatt
      @StoicthoughtsbyMatt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Thanks for the advice man, I'm 17 also and I think that from now on I'll open up to people more often

    • @rockybutts3360
      @rockybutts3360 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Amazing story, I along with many can relate to what you were/ still are going through. This was very motivating and up-lifting to read, thank you for sharing your story!

  • @sunilsigar3145
    @sunilsigar3145 5 ปีที่แล้ว +471

    1. Identify your insecurities
    2. Pep talk , I'm awesome I'm great you are great
    3. Smile and give a compliment
    4. Push out of your comfort zone on daily basis, practice it, the more you do it

    • @r011ing_thunder6
      @r011ing_thunder6 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I don't want to compliment a dude on what he's wearing because I think that's kinda gay.

    • @anthonychampagne6239
      @anthonychampagne6239 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Some heros dont wear capes

    • @existence.5806
      @existence.5806 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@r011ing_thunder6 lol

    • @r011ing_thunder6
      @r011ing_thunder6 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Jan7kowa11 okay sweet cheeks.

    • @ChrisCaldwellO66
      @ChrisCaldwellO66 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@r011ing_thunder6 thats an insecurity! If you are secure in your sexuality, you should have no problem complimenting another man! And its really immature to think that way and not attractive to anyone.

  • @mephistopheleslookingforad3861
    @mephistopheleslookingforad3861 5 ปีที่แล้ว +734

    He snort some white confidence in the bathroom xD

  • @doruvictoru767
    @doruvictoru767 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1851

    I love it when you upload when I've got studying to do :)

    • @CanalDoFilipe_
      @CanalDoFilipe_ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Kamikaze 0150 same here

    • @afonsolucas2219
      @afonsolucas2219 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I hate to admit it, but it's also my case although I did do half of my work so I guess I'm ahead of you two... Whatever you're studying.

    • @haider5932
      @haider5932 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      OMFGGGG/......I GT A BIO TEST TOMMORW

    • @rageblade7833
      @rageblade7833 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Im subscribed to 62 channels
      -_-

    • @ricitosdecobre__
      @ricitosdecobre__ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Kamikaze 0150 hahahahaha my mum has just teased me for not leaving my phone and doind my homework lmao

  • @ryaneveridge2103
    @ryaneveridge2103 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1978

    The comment section:
    5% about being shy
    5% thanking alpha for his videos
    90% rubbing/eating Tiege Hanley

    • @rah1752
      @rah1752 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      lame

    • @Tabish80
      @Tabish80 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      why arent pete and pedro in the comment section ;)

    • @503945158
      @503945158 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ryan E1097 - Yup. When people don't know when jokes get old.

    • @oofnibber3507
      @oofnibber3507 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      500 like boiiii but I don't know why that matters

    • @ryaneveridge2103
      @ryaneveridge2103 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Gertrude haha who cares if it's old? I didn't mean it as a joke anyway, just a general thing that I noticed...

  • @pyareemohan3084
    @pyareemohan3084 6 ปีที่แล้ว +244

    My confidence level increases when my hair style is good.👍

    • @lst_by_4204
      @lst_by_4204 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Pyaree Mohan faxxx

    • @pifnbndd3784
      @pifnbndd3784 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Pyaree Mohan do u have long hair because I’m the same way

    • @Enso007
      @Enso007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You get it

  • @khemarakbotra4183
    @khemarakbotra4183 5 ปีที่แล้ว +512

    I'm shy to talk because I don't speak clearly 😩😩😩

    • @simonpetkov6640
      @simonpetkov6640 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Thats actually a part of being shy

    • @user-uf1or6ik5m
      @user-uf1or6ik5m 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      i have this probleme too when i speak to people and sometimes forgeting what i wonna say and this killed me everytime i used to cry cause mom always tell me that this enter in personality and self-confidence , trust . but i cant overcome this

    • @kwstaslungu1522
      @kwstaslungu1522 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@user-uf1or6ik5m everything can change brother

    • @edboss36
      @edboss36 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      i have a deep voice and it's very quiet

    • @andyesp4702
      @andyesp4702 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Me too

  • @ProPlayer-wq3nu
    @ProPlayer-wq3nu 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2047

    I'm always shy...
    *BUT NOT WHEN I LUBE MY BODY WITH TIEGE HANLEY*

    • @davidcrossmier6012
      @davidcrossmier6012 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      *FUCK YEAH*

    • @Nygge1982
      @Nygge1982 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I just had to click that Read More, even thou I knew that it was going to reference my favorite product in the world!

    • @thevibestation5174
      @thevibestation5174 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh yes daddy

    • @syedalee227
      @syedalee227 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pro Player 1⃣ daym

    • @marmiksoni474
      @marmiksoni474 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Would you plz stop being everywhere.

  • @drizzylmg752
    @drizzylmg752 6 ปีที่แล้ว +672

    Step number 1: stop being shy
    Step numbed 2: Do step number 1

  • @nateprince
    @nateprince 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    1.) Identify your insecurities
    a. Change or embrace them
    b. Insecurities are invisible
    2.) Identify when you begin feeling shy
    3.) Give yourself a peptalk
    4.) Smile and give a compliment
    5.) Push yourself out of comfort zone on a regular basis
    You are F***ing amazing :D

  • @missylks1239
    @missylks1239 6 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    "What are you insecure about?" EVERYTHING. I can't fix it all.

  • @HazmanTheGreat
    @HazmanTheGreat 6 ปีที่แล้ว +403

    I have confidence like Johnny Bravo. "I am pretty, I am amazing"!

    • @afonsolucas2219
      @afonsolucas2219 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Too much sometimes is a bad thing, ya know that.

    • @saint4lifeboi76
      @saint4lifeboi76 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      HAZMAN THE GREAT lol

    • @saint4lifeboi76
      @saint4lifeboi76 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bradius Maximus im not douche i was just kidding

    • @Dovehkis
      @Dovehkis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      *HOO*
      *HAA*
      *OOOH MAMA*

  • @galactush8808
    @galactush8808 6 ปีที่แล้ว +211

    I want a relationship like the word on his t-shirt

  • @surya8891
    @surya8891 5 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    I feel shy to even ask for something to buy from the shop

  • @nickamp3390
    @nickamp3390 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Me in front of all class ( In a speach) : *clears throat*
    Heart : Oop my turn
    *starts pumping crazy*

  • @mikeoxlong371
    @mikeoxlong371 6 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    Why am I even watching this?
    I already know Tiege Hanley is the answer.

    • @skaterjoe1669
      @skaterjoe1669 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thomas Betschart lol I'm here for these memes

    • @fahimshahriyar2494
      @fahimshahriyar2494 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      just don't watch! stupid

    • @HamoTheUltimate
      @HamoTheUltimate 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Saqeeb Sakib it was a joke,calm down ur fuckin ass kiddo.

    • @defstonerworld1912
      @defstonerworld1912 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      They dont sale Tiege Hanley at walmart. I was there yesterday

  • @pharmit24
    @pharmit24 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I just say in my head that "I'm a motherfuckin' Starboy" when I'm feeling shy or in a stressful situation.

  • @VVSChopps
    @VVSChopps 6 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    6:16, I appreciate the compliment bro, but im not wearing a Jacket at the moment.

  • @shutupplease8737
    @shutupplease8737 5 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    moms friend: Hey! how are you
    me: oh uh hi *hides behind mom*
    mom: she’s a little shy
    me: i’m not shy IM NOT shy...

  • @briantobias9212
    @briantobias9212 6 ปีที่แล้ว +616

    I see some comments on here about "Eating" Tiege Hanley, so I bought some today, of course using Alpha M's "Discount code". It shipped to me in a jiffy, that's same day delivery for those who want to know. Gotta love the Tiege Hanley customer service. I sat down at my desk and began to put some in my mouth. I am now cooler, smarter, and faster in everyway, all because of Tiege Hanley. Thank you. Tiege.

    • @joejackson444
      @joejackson444 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      :) :) :)

    • @yourfriendlyneighbourhoodc7969
      @yourfriendlyneighbourhoodc7969 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      LMFAO!

    • @jack_crutons3080
      @jack_crutons3080 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      LOL

    • @kwhiskey1373
      @kwhiskey1373 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Curious are people making fun of these videos about teige Hanley cuz the other advice he gives sucks or just to joke he mentions teige Hanley every video?

    • @tomscavo9419
      @tomscavo9419 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brian Tobias Thanks bro,now I know how to use it :)

  • @Ghostlytales.
    @Ghostlytales. 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1454

    Im better when im drunk.

    • @toothlesstoe
      @toothlesstoe 6 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      Who isn't?

    • @baka_geddy
      @baka_geddy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Like raj koothrapali ( or whatever shit it is ).

    • @leathercheerio1
      @leathercheerio1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      Me too. Therefore I drink every day.

    • @neneklampir6664
      @neneklampir6664 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @nigelmascarenhas9907
      @nigelmascarenhas9907 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ikr I had a glass of beer and then the whole hotel wad looking at me abd i felt aweosme inside

  • @whytxr9247
    @whytxr9247 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Being shy sucks, I’ve only had like- 7 friends my whole life..

    • @Ken-no5ip
      @Ken-no5ip 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Is that the sickness or the symptom?

    • @atilayakubov7684
      @atilayakubov7684 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      7 close friends? If that is true, than you are normal!

  • @julianzurita5215
    @julianzurita5215 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Alpha! Thank you so much for making this video, it really means so much that you try to help every guy out there.
    As a inner shy guy myself, it’s very hard to try to step out of your own bubble when you bubble is all you’ve ever known.
    You videos always inspire me so thank you!

  • @thetattooedguy1413
    @thetattooedguy1413 6 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Have to admit Alpha is the man!! I am almost 40 and learn a lot from his videos

    • @comedicenigma7821
      @comedicenigma7821 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brian Potts nice jacket, I love it

    • @AmirulMdLazim
      @AmirulMdLazim 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      go watch his video tattoo dont

  • @SergeantKurabara
    @SergeantKurabara 6 ปีที่แล้ว +305

    All im getting insecured about is that god damn blushing... i swear my confidence would go so high if i didn't blush you have no idea. I embraced it, I blush every day, yet, nothing happens... Like I don't even get nervous about what im gonna say to that girl, IM AFRAID THAT IM GONNA BLUSH.. AND ITS FKED UP

    • @andy1999k
      @andy1999k 6 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      MrViperBG just embrace your blushes dude she wont think you are weak because you blush a little

    • @JakobM
      @JakobM 6 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      MrViperBG me too then ppl point it out which makes it worse, best way to help confidence is to fake it to you make it I guess and go through things that make you blush and awkward don’t avoid them then it’s easier to overcome

    • @SergeantKurabara
      @SergeantKurabara 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Well I guess theres no escaping that, since few people told me some tricks similar to these, but never seen a complete blush cure. Thanks though, appreciate it.

    • @MrKing-qd7gi
      @MrKing-qd7gi 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      MrViperBG there isn't really a CURE. Just ignore it, if your confident without it then keep talking and being confident. People may notice it but if your talking confident it will just seem to be a phenomenon. And if someone points it out then just say something like "oh yah, I blush when even I talk to myself" as a joke to make light of it. Just change your reaction to you blushing. Embrace it. (Plus girls love it when a guy blushes, especially when he is confident and blushing at the same time)

    • @javiernight4478
      @javiernight4478 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It happens to me every damn same time but girls like that! Just ask someone that has seen you like that and they will agree.
      Same as us guys love a blushing girl

  • @Pduarte79
    @Pduarte79 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Another trick "Never took yourself too seriously. Learn to loosen up." Smile and be funny, make smart observations and conversation, that tends to help. If you are too focused in yourself and in the situation that produces the shyness, that feeds the problem and you start sweating and possibly entering in a paranoia state "what I'm doing here? I want to go home. etc" is important to fight that. And I know, what I talking about, because I used to be more shy, than I used to be.

  • @michaelwinslow3666
    @michaelwinslow3666 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a new subscriber to Alpha M. Thanks for speaking from your own experiences. It's obvious your information is very real to you and that you are speaking from your own experiences. Please keep-em coming!!

  • @xyon9090
    @xyon9090 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2188

    *I'm not shy.*
    I'm n-not. Trust m-me..

  • @thesherbet
    @thesherbet 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I find that I'm chronically shy in quite a few situations, and you're right, I'm very aware of it when it happens. To this end, I've booked myself a trip to new york for a month next year to complete take myself out of my comfort zone and drop myself into a place where I know absolutely no-one and can hopefully be myself and help to beat a lot of my own personal insecurities.
    I feel like more people need a person like you Aaron in their lives. As much as society is moving towards more emotional connectivity, especially in men, most men simply don't have a figure they can go to when they need a pep-talk or advice on fashion/lifestyle. Certainly not parents, even if they in their mind wanted to give advice and help on these kind of subjects, it's still a very male thing to not show emotions and such as though it's a weakness.

  • @yamagucci4177
    @yamagucci4177 6 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    How about tips to start a conversation or be engaged in a conversation?

    • @Kingwil497
      @Kingwil497 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Broo... literally just talk about anything bro and stop being so self conacious

    • @colevien2712
      @colevien2712 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      1. I usually start off with a compliment which was mentioned in the video.
      2. I will add something additional to what the person says.
      3. Ask a probing question (make sure they elaborate on their explanation avoid yes/no answers the majority of the time).
      4. Try to give them a chance to ask you a question.
      5. Repeat (w/o step 1).
      Good luck 👍

    • @mackenziegray2090
      @mackenziegray2090 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I got the same problem. Not exactly shy being around people. Just trying to build a relationship that is difficult.

  • @chloecronin7692
    @chloecronin7692 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this! I’ve been feeling so shy and insecure lately and I’ve wanted to stop that and come out of my shell and with these tips I will hopefully if not completely but little bit by bit become more confident as I need the confidence because I’ve gone too long with being unconfident x

  • @mahdy77m
    @mahdy77m 6 ปีที่แล้ว +214

    I’m not shy I just don’t have nothing to say I have a 24/7 brain fart

    • @barryseaworth
      @barryseaworth 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      WisePanda me too

    • @sdivan3g931
      @sdivan3g931 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Hella bro
      Its like if you cant think about what to talk aboit

    • @YungPac
      @YungPac 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      WisePanda
      Thats because you're anxious. You're shy, bitch. Stop the excuses.

    • @toddhuynh3188
      @toddhuynh3188 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yung Pac shutup you don't know how it feels to brain fart

    • @toniodarko5404
      @toniodarko5404 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I think on a level so deep and philosophical that an everyday chat is so strange to me. Idk what to say in simplest occasions without sounding like a complete psycho to others.

  • @jackraiden4175
    @jackraiden4175 6 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    i usually remind myself that we're living in a simulation and nothing is real

    • @Johtic_
      @Johtic_ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Jack Raiden that makes it harder for me

    • @FeelinHazey16
      @FeelinHazey16 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Jack Raiden that might work..

    • @Skywalker.Movies
      @Skywalker.Movies 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You live inside a simulation of a simulation inside another giant simulation!

    • @RJ__927
      @RJ__927 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Too much rick and morty

    • @elcocaino8728
      @elcocaino8728 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same bro

  • @samaygames3306
    @samaygames3306 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My man getting me ready for school! Always hooking it up man keep up the good work. :)

  • @medhabharti7969
    @medhabharti7969 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love u man!!! You r so amazing..u don't even have an idea how you have changed people's lives within minutes....love love!!! U r a blessing!😘😘😘

  • @karimd88
    @karimd88 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It’s amazing how many times you’re videos come at exactly the time I need them, like now. This morning I had a appointment with my therapist (for my depression and derealization) and we for the first time were talking about shyness and overthinking in those situations. So I just want to thank you and I don’t know how you don’t with those perfect timed videos haha! But thanks man and yeah you’re awesome!❤️💪🏽

  • @vikashtewari6748
    @vikashtewari6748 6 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Every fucking comment is about tiege hanley

    • @seriouswithdaysoff
      @seriouswithdaysoff 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Your comment isn't. Therefore you are wrong.

  • @philliprodriguez9757
    @philliprodriguez9757 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome video! Thank you for this Alpha, being shy is something I've always struggled with but after watching your video I already feel better about myself :) Seriously, thank you

  • @Draco5483
    @Draco5483 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of if not the best videos you’ve ever uploaded. Truly inspirational!

  • @ezure3087
    @ezure3087 6 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    My combination is bein shy, socially akward and being wierd overall
    CHANGE MY MIND

  • @Ezbc05
    @Ezbc05 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    YES!!! I love this guy. Keep up the good work man.

  • @vorg858
    @vorg858 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh god, the way you talk is really clear and i understood every word you said. Man it's actually making me do the things you told us.

  • @Zain-ir6rm
    @Zain-ir6rm 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are a brilliant marketer and genuine salesman, the way you bring attention to peoples insecurities then present a solution swiftly. I got distracted about the shy content and just observed from a marketing perspective lol.

  • @nolomus
    @nolomus 6 ปีที่แล้ว +167

    Acne was a big confidence buster, when I was a teenager. Just drink A LOT of water and stop eating fast food and tons of candy and don't drink 10 Red Bull's a day and all that nonsense. If that doens't help, Tiege Hanley against acne is there for you, coming early 2018!

    • @reecebudd9009
      @reecebudd9009 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kevin J. Meyer 👍

    • @shutupidiot16yearsago79
      @shutupidiot16yearsago79 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Kevin J. Meyer how did ya comment 4 hours ago when the video was uploaded just few mins ago?

    • @prashantrana7962
      @prashantrana7962 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Kevin J. Meyer And n0w you are most confident guy. Booom!!!!

    • @reecebudd9009
      @reecebudd9009 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Anonymous Guy its a glitch with youtube

    • @etherealpetrichor9572
      @etherealpetrichor9572 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Kevin J. Meyer remember, your diet DOESN’T effect ACNE!

  • @brolcathol1904
    @brolcathol1904 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is one of the best thumbnails yet... Probably applied a mix of Tiege and pete and Pedro

  • @AspiringAbogado
    @AspiringAbogado 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    God bless you, Aaron. Much love, man! You do make a difference!

  • @mysticnick2095
    @mysticnick2095 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your awesome man, this is why I subscribed to you bro, I appreciate how invested you are with all of us. Your an Alpha

  • @yinvlogsomg8345
    @yinvlogsomg8345 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Does anyone else get red when there is an uncomfortable momemt or when you get shy? Or am I the only one 🤣

    • @tkmtkm4527
      @tkmtkm4527 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You mean blushing??

    • @yinvlogsomg8345
      @yinvlogsomg8345 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@blackstack54 well for me its my whole mf head like is that normal

  • @GoGoFIFANL
    @GoGoFIFANL 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Bro you did A good job with this video for me!!❤️❤️❤️

  • @smiggy5768
    @smiggy5768 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Recognising the fact that we are all equal helps build confidence because it removes the feelings of inferiority and superiority. Basically you don't anybody as better than you, and you don't see anybody as worse than you. This has helped me overcome shyness.

  • @kevinmarcolin4044
    @kevinmarcolin4044 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love re-watching your videos, you're amazing Alpha M!

  • @stutteringcris468
    @stutteringcris468 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    My pep talk.
    "I can do this. I know it can... i know it."
    And then I fail miserably in front of everyone.

  • @ivansmirnov4339
    @ivansmirnov4339 6 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    It's hard to be confident at all times.. especially when people talk smack behind your back, making it harder to say or do anything in front of anyone ..

    • @Kingwil497
      @Kingwil497 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      STOP GIVING A FUCK

    • @yodawg3469
      @yodawg3469 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Kingwil497 Damn skippy

    • @NenUser12_
      @NenUser12_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      We all are judged everyday. Just practice your Nen bro...

    • @mercpindi5522
      @mercpindi5522 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Be yourself. I got number from a random chick at the uni yesterday it worked. You need balls to do this shit.

  • @anthonyhewitt9397
    @anthonyhewitt9397 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dude your great you almost made me cry brotha i can truly feel like you wanna help others and that makes me happy

  • @billyjoefrancis
    @billyjoefrancis 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Alpha, you're a terrifically inspirational man.
    Keep up the good work; it can be rough out there, but considerably less with your help.

  • @BURGERKINGXL
    @BURGERKINGXL 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have to be honest. I was just looking for videos for different hairstyles but ended up discovering alpha.m and bro u cool af. keep up the dope videos.

  • @c5steppagaming573
    @c5steppagaming573 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I missed out on a lot of opportunity because of my shyness so I hope this helps 🤞🏽

  • @luckyali13
    @luckyali13 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just saw your Shark Tank and loved how you didn’t get bullied into a bad deal! Great work keep it up!

  • @FRANKIEonWCin240p
    @FRANKIEonWCin240p 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your videos have been so helpful, this one especially. Keep them coming and stay awesome!

  • @Stamps9696
    @Stamps9696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Me: How to not be shy.
    Alpha: Don’t be shy.
    Me: Ok, got it.

  • @vimalkumar-tc1bi
    @vimalkumar-tc1bi 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    wow people liked without even watching the whole video. great work alpha

  • @explicitantony9623
    @explicitantony9623 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your outros lift me up dude honestly I appreciate it

  • @MrEnterainment
    @MrEnterainment 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved this video, Aaron. Thank you 🙂 You seriously are amazing. I love your sense of humour as well!

  • @D3ATHZH3AD
    @D3ATHZH3AD 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The thumbnail is just great XD

  • @EnricoReyes
    @EnricoReyes 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I used to be a shy kid... til I met Tiege Hanley. Now I'm a Stand Up Comedian.

  • @matthew-saul3967
    @matthew-saul3967 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love that this channel exists-alpha is the man

  • @joerosati5017
    @joerosati5017 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    BECAUSE YOU ARE F%$^ING AMAZING!
    Good line man, imma use that one

  • @beautifulinfinity
    @beautifulinfinity 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've always been a shy girl. As I'm getting older, I'm starting to realise it may have something to do with an emotionally troubled childhood. I stumbled across your channel while googling 'how to be assertive'. And oh boy, I've been watching all your related videos for the last hour. Thank you. ❤

  • @TheRealMikeyXZ
    @TheRealMikeyXZ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    His real prep talk is
    "Tiege Hanley,
    Tiege Hanley,
    Tiege Hanley,
    Tiege Hanley,
    Tiege Hanley,
    Tiege Hanley,
    Tiege Hanley,
    TIEGE Hanley,
    Tiege HANLEY,
    TIEGE HANLEY!!"

  • @KothsGamerHub
    @KothsGamerHub 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You've helped me grow as a person, thank you Aaron

  • @AustonHolleman
    @AustonHolleman 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks alpha this has helped me open up and everybody does want to be around me more

  • @hoodd345hatter
    @hoodd345hatter 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Thanks Alpha, these tips helped me approach the lover of my dreams! Teige Hanley had all the boys fighting over her, but by using these tips I was able to stand out! We are even expecting our first child soon. We can't decide between the name Pete or Pedro.

  • @hunter_ndp5904
    @hunter_ndp5904 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    2:38 Did anyone else feel a strong Tiege Hanley plug coming on just to be blindsided by the PMD?

  • @sarthak4056
    @sarthak4056 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just love the way he motivates me in the end of every video...

  • @spectre5x5
    @spectre5x5 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your positive attitude my friend!! Great video!

  • @nikhilsingh7323
    @nikhilsingh7323 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love you man.

  • @ayushkhugshal
    @ayushkhugshal 6 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I can see tears on your eyes

  • @erl7466
    @erl7466 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    my friend, i’ve developed a ton of social anxiety over the years, and it’s weird, because I’m a chef and in my element, i’m top fricken dog. you can’t phase me, can’t dog me down. but in social situations it’s gotten worse and worse over the years. THIS SHIT YOU SAY WORKS. I can’t thank you enough man. From dance floor anxiety to parties to casual interactions, it’s finally getting better and it’s because i’ve been watching your vids (among others). best, dude, keep it up.

  • @mrlimitless2377
    @mrlimitless2377 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are a positive force brother...keep doing the great work !

  • @IMetLadyGaga
    @IMetLadyGaga 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    When he pulls out the “PMD” - and you’re like, “oh sh*t, what the hell am I watching?!” 😂🤦‍♂️

  • @juozsx
    @juozsx 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    find your insecurities... hmmm ok
    My insecurities:
    1.Cause im shy
    ...
    welllll shit

  • @georgelocke2043
    @georgelocke2043 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Alpha! Thank you so much for every video. You make a very big and amazing difference in my life

  • @disobey5615
    @disobey5615 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is what I love about you man, you might come off as a jerk in some videos, but once you get going you’re actually pretty cool and passionate about helping guys, not just some, but all guys, become a better version of themselves

  • @rehanjamshed2936
    @rehanjamshed2936 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I wish i could love reacc your videos lmao , man i'mma be honest with you i haven't had a strong manly figure in my life who could teach me stuff and i was raised up a shy kid and had many concern about whether some things were right or wrong but you Alpha , YOU have literally taught me a LOT OF STUFF and i've been watching your videos for as long as i remember using youtube . There's something about your channel that i know even if you may have sponsor stuff in your videos you're honest to the point and your help has helped me so much that i can't describe in words , most of all you take care of telling about your past and how poorly you've been raised , many of us are going through the same hell right now which once you went through and its so amazing to know that a successful and helpful guy like you was once in our shoes and your honesty about it makes my day better , kinda makes me glad that there are good people like you and that i found your channel when i needed to , Peace alpha.

  • @mysterymanifest1
    @mysterymanifest1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +212

    How to introduce your girlfriend to your parents
    (please guys,don't let this comment disappear in a sea of comments!!!)

    • @K4M41
      @K4M41 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This is definitely a subject that would make an awesome video. Great suggestion! 👍🏽

    • @mysterymanifest1
      @mysterymanifest1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Kamal El watik thank you😃

    • @gigachad3861
      @gigachad3861 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Is she hawt 😂

    • @beforehours1773
      @beforehours1773 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      You need a chick for that you call centre fuck

    • @mysterymanifest1
      @mysterymanifest1 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      clorox bleach call your mama a call center fuck

  • @gabbss919
    @gabbss919 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    All your videos are very helpful . In your video that well help you be a better person really worked on me I have seen many differences . And this video helped me too I didn't feel afraid to be myself anymore .

  • @MegaJesus114
    @MegaJesus114 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Alpha M is the person we need but don't deserve. Love your videos!

  • @sn7kh7
    @sn7kh7 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Can u do a video for teenagers (part 2 or something ...)

  • @3dsock
    @3dsock 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    its 12 am, by school i will be antisocial no more

  • @deivisclark2397
    @deivisclark2397 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank Alpha . I’ve always had this problem but after, I’m ready to overcome my fear ! 👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽

  • @moneytiming5987
    @moneytiming5987 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    @alpha m. this guy is literally the best at vids guy gets straight to the point and always knows alot about the topic you can tell by how he talks about it

  • @IshnoorSarao
    @IshnoorSarao 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I am not shy but people around me, girls especially, act very weird (and shy) resulting in awkward situations. Tell me how to get out of that.

    • @DigitalxFe3r
      @DigitalxFe3r 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ish Noor play along
      Be fun with it if it’s you that’s not actually being awkward..not only will it be inviting and fun but you’ll become even better at communicating by having a whole knew universe to explore

    • @prince_sach50
      @prince_sach50 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Idk why But I'm Natural with almost every type of girl except for hot white girls. Idk it's just a different vibe with me and I don't be talking...

  • @MrLivinitup123
    @MrLivinitup123 6 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    What if it's a girl? Do I still say, "Hey Bryan, I like that jacket!"??

    • @mantas831
      @mantas831 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What's wrong?

    • @marshmeowllow6816
      @marshmeowllow6816 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      It`s the best compliment you can give to someone

    • @MrLivinitup123
      @MrLivinitup123 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Vaping & crossfiting vegan who`s triggered everyday That's what I'm saying!

    • @raze_6474
      @raze_6474 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      HA! smartass... Just give a compliment

    • @MrLivinitup123
      @MrLivinitup123 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      AsSaSSIN305 _ Lol oh I know.

  • @victoriousvic23
    @victoriousvic23 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this video!!! I’m going to share it to my shy son! Thanks for the video!

  • @Dovehkis
    @Dovehkis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thats a hell of a pep talk alpha! I needed to hear that, and thanks so much bro. Im going to talk to that girl i like and gain back my confidence :)