Young Divorce - My Story
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I made this video as something I would have wanted to see years ago when I went through my divorce. I hope someone that is in pain can relate to my store and maybe find a little clarity on their situation.
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She was cheating mate. I just know by the little you have said.
Yeah she was cheating, she was preparing for the inevitable breakup.
Yeah... My story is eerily similar... And she ended up admitting to multiple affairs.
I married at 21 got divorced at 23. Two confusing years. From she loves me to shes cheating on me all over the place. Divorce at a young age can mess you up emotionally and make it very hard to trust again.
Adam Richard the problem is people are getting married too young.
why the fuck did u get married at 21
My husband married me at 21. It’s almost ten years and three kids later and I’m still perfectly devoted to him. And us. And our family. So.
Rooftops Renegade well you're in the minority. It's not like that for most people who get married so young.
If that’s how things can mess up quickly then why even date?
God, you sound like the perfect man, trying to make a marriage last in the best way you know how. Beautiful representation on how a marriage should be handled.
This is an example of a nice guy, which modern western women dont want till they hit the wall.
thats what they look for...
FC3Concepts Marriage is outdated.
i think this might be true actually. although, children need stability and marriage is part of that...it's a mess these days. our society is resisting the social changes that resulted from the civil war in the 1860's and the civil rights movement in the 1960's...i'm afraid we are headed for another big shift. there may be no stopping it.
Elise B Mental defect marriage is terrible for children.
Children need resources, not some suburban buttercup fruitcake bullshit pipedream.
Thank you. I'm 23 and been divorced for under a year. I can relate to you so much. I hope this gets better.
It will, just take your time and work through all your feelings.
wow, where did you meet this douchebag? lol
Sandy Abbouchie yes it does. Time heals but it blows for awhile.. best thing is just relax and not worry about the other person and what they are doing.. it will drive you mad.. best of luck
Hopefully things are better now sandy.
Great inspiring video. I been married for 16 years...there are alot of struggles but we both work it out...it takes two. You tried very hard...Good Luck.
This is one of my greatest fears.
Dex understand what a soul mat is and don't settle for anything less. There are marriages that last for a lifetime.
Jr
As soon as this guy said that his wedding turned into a princess wedding, the rest of the story tells itself. If you have an IQ above 80, don't fall for that crap and you will fare much better.
I’m sure she will never find someone as devoted as you. At least you know you tried everything. A marriage takes two, and it doesn’t sound like she honored her vows. Best of luck to you going forward!!
Thanks for putting yourself out there. Its good to see this from a guys perspective. Life is super hard and when your in a bad relationship things can be very tricky. I have been married for 7 years now and honestly it has been the hardest 7 years of my life. I have been in a battle with myself and cant manage to just leave. Love is truly blind.
Have you left yet?
You are definitely a catch. Handsome, well spoken, reflective, committed. You will definitely find a good woman when the time is right. Thanks for sharing!
StRoNgO sTrOnG not true. a lot of women are attracted to the bad boy, that's a thing yes, but, a woman that wants a family, not just kids but a family- those women are looking for the good guys. also, the women who have been with and/or burned by the bad boy, want nothing more to do with them. and want nothing more than to find a good guy, but most of these women are so damaged by the jerks that they either can't get a good guy or are too jaded and/or damaged to see who's good and who's fake. so it may feel like women don't want a good guy, but not only are you over simplifying by making that statement, but it's just simply untrue. and really? no good women out there? come on, you know that's not true either. they're just harder to find... for example, I see a lot of guys looking for girls in a bar- you'll NEVER find a quality woman in a bar.. never.
StRoNgO sTrOnG The "good women" will be scorned before they reach legal age.
Amanda Payton racist
StRoNgO sTrOnG First off, men have to be careful not to take their personal mommy issues and project that onto all women. Second, a lot of little girls these days grow up in the same dysfunctional households as little boys, and it hurts both of their chances of having successful relationships in the future. A lot of men turn their backs on their family when they can't get the authority and control they feel entitled to, and women are so afraid of being abandoned they work hard to be financially independent just in case anything goes wrong- which threatens a man's sense of authority. It's a cycle of dysfunction that is hard to break. Best to make sure that both you and your partner are outside of that cycle of dysfunction before settling down, or help your partner get out of it with patience and love.
after they done riding the cock carousel do they try to find the " nice guys"...
I wish there was someone who would fight for a relationship like you did. This shows what a good man you are. You deserve so much better and I hope you'll get your deserved happiness ❤
Thank you. I am going through a divorce right now and its been very hard for me to accept that I need to move on with my life. I am 25 was married for 3 years, at this point I have tried everything but he is simply not interested in saving the marriage.
yeah its hard when its like your talking to a closed door. But with pain can come awesomeness. Some people just arent as committed as others and thats a shame.
Thank you for uploading this video. It must have been really really hard but you did it. Forgiveness truly is important to move forward from a divorce. Im happy and hopeful after hearing your story that i can overcome this too. Praise God! The healing process is crucial, currently going through it. Stay positive and i hope the Lord brings you a wonderful person in your life.
Zazzikipcia thanks for the kind words. I actually got married last weekend to a wonderful woman. There is hope.
This makes me scared to get married. I can tell that you were doing the best you can to be a good husband. Someone is going to be happy to have you as a husband one day.
Don't worry about it - men aren't marrying much anymore anyway.
don't overload yourself with debt like they did...that's what got them. keep it simple and don't go into marriage with debt. my nephew dated his wife for several years. she had thousands in credit card debt. he told her the debt needed to be paid off completely and her credit cards needed to be cut up before they could tie the knot. she took care of it and they are a wonderful, happy couple with little twins.
Same here
I was like you at some point wondering what I could do better as a husband. Everything made sense once I discovered MGTOW. It was painful to make the generalizations about women at first, but it's the only framework that explains the never-ending entitlement attitude I battle in my home.
very courageous of you. It is very good for a man to have close male friends(a band of brothers) with whom you can share issues. It can save you a breakdown. When men get married, they tend to throw away other relationships, always have like four wise guys to walk life with, one of them will know what is going when you seem to be lost.
The best way I've heard to get closure is to write out a few letters. 1. a rant and rave letter with all the raw feelings, accusations etc. Don't hold back. 2. Burn it. 3. Write a forgiveness letter from the other person. As if they were apologizing and taking responsibility for some of what went wrong. 4. Repeat if necessary. I find this process very useful. You can do it in your own time, it's independent of the other party, and it doesn't lead to more pain of engaging and blaming others. Your psyche doesn't seem to care if the other person is writing to you or not, it just wants recognition of pain and an apology. Best of luck, take care of your self!
To the guy she met "what she will do with you, she will do TO you". God has someone else meant for you. You married someone who was meant for a season in your life. My son is 28. Dating ideas, church, biking, parks, grocery stores, gyms, traveling, the beach, through your friends, etc. You have a lot to offer. I am sorry you had your heart broke. I was 21 and my husband was 22 when we married. 30 yrs later 4 grown kids, 2 grandkids. Good mention that you bought too expensive of a house, we lived in a shack..lol. It was not always easy, life happens, physical emotional and financial stress. Great video, well spoken and explained. (sadly, the pretty girls want a bad boy, we are always saying this to our son, not to be bad, but to be more of a challenge.) which is sad that we still have to play games to find love.
People can be terrible! I’ve also gone through this more than once (minus kids/marriage) and I’m so thankful God closed those doors because through them I realized my worth & not settling. I am now so much happier single & focusing on myself. The important thing to realize is your worth and I know it’s so tempting to jump at any chance to find love (been there) and force it because everyone else is getting married but I can almost guarantee most of them probably aren’t happy either and will end up in divorce. Don’t ever force anything, period.
Online dating is great, honestly as much as people hate on it, you just need to be selective with your time and the people you meet. If they ghost you, move on and delete their number. And I agree, it's hard to meet people through mutual friends nowadays.
This sounds a lot like my situation. My ex husband is a covert narcissist. Wondering if your ex wife may be one too. Learning this about my situation really helped me heal, and work on areas in my own life (like why I attracted someone like this). Thank you for putting yourself out there. I know it will be a blessing to someone. God Bless.
Rebecca Angelique he went mgtow and your feminist feelings didn't like it. your supposed to support him emotionally not the other way around. let him lead bitcj
You just had real feelings for her and she maybe didn’t or they didn’t last. You’re a young guy, smart, handsome.. Focus on yourself, put her on the background as much as possible. It’s hard to move on, people like her never give you closure, been there bro 🤛
I am really proud of your healthy mindset! It’s not one many people maintain after a divorce. I hope you find the woman you are looking for.
Guys am not American or from the West but your stories really help thank you opening up and sharing real life situations. I'm really grateful and I am sure u will do great in it life. We are strong one bump wouldn't put a man down.
Best thing to happen to you. Enjoy your youth and money. I'm 55, trust me, married at 35, best thing I ever did. I'm ready to settle, she is at her peak market value now downhill for her so she's ready, I got money, had my fun, got my toys, and set in my ways. Still young to have and enjoy kids and young enough when they are gone to still do stuff. Perfect.
incredible guy, incredible story. I would love to have him as a friend
Thank you for this, so inspired went through this last year. The one good thing is that it showed me what I don't want in a partner, I feel smarter/wiser and know what to look for going forward. I wanted to live my best life and the relationship I was in wasn't apart of that. I never looked back. Feeling great!
Take the Red Pill and go MGTOW
I suggest for you to check out coach Greg Adams channel as well as red pill men’s health channel...lots of useful information and a different perspective about relationships and dating.
I can relate with your situation. Your gut more times than not is correct. You can't put a square peg in a round hole. You made yourself better for you rather than for her. Good for you brother. Keep pushing!!!!
Hey man, I hope you are doing alright. At lelast your ex didnt do what what mine did, and sent me photos of her cheating on me a year after the fact when I was homeless living in my car due to physical abuse. Until there is no more alimony, child support, and new laws to protect men in family court, there should be no reason for men to marry, its like holding a gun to your head and waiting for it to go off.
I'm not saying we as Christians are sinless, but those who love God have a spirit filled heart that wants to fight against sin, and it doesn't sound like she was struggling to fight sin, but rather that she was freely indulging in it
Wow. This is basically exactly what happened to me last year except we have 2 kids together. Like almost every detail is the same except my husband DID cheat and got his mistress pregnant at the same time as me. In NC we have to be separated for a year before divorce, so I have 1 more month until our divorce
Hi! Watching this I relate so much! I'm currently separated from my husband. It's just my son and I. I find it therapeutic to make TH-cam vids together here in NY! I like your channel, I just subbed! xxx
Thank you for your testimony! 🙏🏼 The pain is very much real
It’s an unfortunate situation. I know personally, and it’s common that people after marriage either grow towards each other or grow apart. I always recommend people getting married after 30, 35 if you can wait longer. I’ve been in separation limbo for 4-5 years and it’s torture! I’m 33 and maybe want kids but I can’t even think about it! This sucks.
This man needs a big red pill.
He still doesn’t get it 😂😂😂
your story feels similar to mine except the other way around. thanks for this. im going through this terrible time now. but it helps to know im not alone.
That's all you have to remember. It sucks, but you're not alone.
I feel that her having two boyfriends was the initial precaution. But hindsight is 20/20. I hope you are feeling better now and healing.
My husband and I got married at 21 and 22, and we’ve been married 8 years. The first 5 years were pretty tough, year 6/7 we hit a wall and really had to figure some things out. Now for the past year or two we have been happier than we have ever been.
From all that I listen to and read on marriage, that’s common! You really both have to be committed to make it work through the hard times. And it really makes you closer.
It sounds like she was not in it for the long haul.
All that to say, happy marriage is possible!
going back into the dating scene again sucks.; and yes after coming out of something like tis , you might not be ready to date again ,takes a lot of emotional strain .I suggest focus on yourself,you were doing that even within the relationship, and if the rest comes,it comes ,in the meantime take the time to focus on yourself ,will help you with the healing .
Awww. Now I understand why they depict men, when they open up about how they feel... it's very attractive
I'm so sorry you were put through that. And did not deserve it. I'm going through almost the exact situation. So thank you for sharing your story. It helped to know there are other people with similar situations.
You're welcome and sorry youre going through something simple. Let me know if you have any questions. The best part of the video is all the people I've got to talk with.
The biggest take on this…is… you can never really trust someone… cuz they can change in a heartbeat. And ur story is the perfect representation how why ppl go through divorces. I’m pretty sure she cheated on you. Unfaithful=other guys/3rd party
You shouldn't stack your records like that.
They should be vertical.
Pat McE they're all Neil Diamond
My rule is forget about how much they love you. How much do they love God? How much do they love their family? How much do they love your family? The answer has to be a lot for all 3. When their love for you is shaken its the love for both families and the fear of God that will keep them true. A person might be willing to hurt you but will rarely be willing to hurt other people they love. That connection between families and that fear of the consequences both family wise and spiritually is a large part of whats missing in today's marriages.
I also was 21 when I got married now I am 25 I was married for 4years
Search "MGTOW is freedom" in TH-cam and listen to his advice to help clear things up.
The first year was the hardest for us too.
You've got me thinking about if there's a way to alter the marriage process and ceremony so that it better prepares couples for the rest of their lives.
If people aren't getting married for religious reasons, I'm not really sure why people do it. I am Religious, so marriage plays a part in my plan. I think people live in the high moments and aren't prepared for the lows and society glorifies happiness over hard work, so people just give up. The couple has to prepare before making that decision.
My divorce to a tee. I was 28 almost 29 (2 years after my non closure divorce) and I met my husband now and I'm 35 w a 6yo, 5 yo and almost 4yo lol. I thought my time line was all messed up, but turns out God had other plans.. (being prego practically 3 years in a row lol) I also got two older strip kids out of it too. Everything happens for a reason. Even when it seems like it doesn't and it's just a bunch of unfair heartache. Good luck!
And yeah just for the record, she's a fool! If you did all that you say, she will one day realize what a loyal partner she has lost, once her boss gets rid of her. Someone who cheated with her, will cheat on her.
Here trying to figure out the red sign to look for before getting married, seems like a scary plunge into the unknown. But we are created for hope and progress.
Thanx, I understand, been there, done that, But there was a difference, we'd stayed in this marriage for 25 years. I was so lonely! My husband did'nt love me and left me long ago in his heart. And I kept fighting! Also I got to bible groups, coaches and christian therapists. He did'nt want to come with me because I was having a problem, not he. And the last five years my husband had girlfriends, and he said it was my fault and God wanted him to be happy and gave him this woman. It was and is a lie! He got married last week and our daughters are struggeling. The youngest is 11 years old and the oldest is a young woman of 24 years old and she is having such a hard time! A big wedding, a weddingcard full of bibleverses and Facebook full with pictures. It's very painfull!
Sorry, I know exactly what you mean
Hold on... You pursuedher when she had two boyfriends.
Come on... that in itself was way wrong. Don't pursue someone who's in a relationship. You both screwed up.
true that a huge red flag
I wish there was someone to save a 55 year old mans life. I miss my wife so she cleaned me out and took everything. If that isn't bad enough I don't know how to be alone. Lets see if I can make it till Christmas. She really put me in a bad way but I still love her dearly
Lima Romeo November *hugs
I hate that this happened to you, but she didn't want to marry you to begin with. She didn't know what she wanted, but it wasn't you. We have all been hurt at some point in our lives and many times there is zero closure and we have to lick our wounds and move on. You are a great looking man with an obvious good heart. It's obviously been some time and you know what they say; "Time heals all wounds." It's true and I hope you have all the wonderful things life has to offer you!
How was your divorce financially? Who kept the house? or did you sell it? Alimony?
I do not mean this at all to judge you in any way, so please don't take it the wrong way, everybody makes mistakes. Apart from the bible of course, I really recommend you to read a book called "sacred marriage" by Gary Paulsen, where it talks about marriage from a Christian perspective with real life marriage examples, my husband and I are truly enjoying reading it
sorry I meant author Gary thomas
your house seemed like it was very cold
Dude very coherent and tuff .wow it seems yo never really knew her.but it seems she couldn't communicate.good thing yo didnt have kids .yo were to young also
Stay single my friends all women are like that, always on the hunt for the bigger and better model.
John not all women are like that. There are many women that have the fear of God in them and solid morals. There are good women that will stay with their spouse through thick and thin. There are women who understand that marriage is a covenant only breakable by death. I hope one day you find your soul mate.
Jr
Nora I'm sure his worldview will change once he realizes that making generalizations is never right. There are women who have cheated as well as men. Perhaps he's had bad experiences in his past but those experiences don't need to shape his future.
Jr
Nora I disagree. There are cheaters and non cheaters. Just because you haven't met a man that doesn't cheat, doesn't mean they don't exist. Perhaps you've had past experiences where you've been cheated on but that doesn't mean all men cheat. It comes back to the individual.
Jr
Nora I do know that your statement regarding that all men are cheaters is false. Secondly not all men are shallow and materialistic. You just haven't come across men that can engage you on a deeper level of conversation and are not the run of the mill men who think that getting drunk on the weekend is the highlight of the week. Please stop making blanket statements as there are some women who are shallow, materialistic and narcissistic but not all women are like that.
Jr
I would like to think not but we always press towards perfection.
Jr
I feel like I’m similar to you, just seeking and seeking help to save my relationship even when it’s one sided.
Going through similar things minus the cheating I’m 25
Been together for four years it’s a trip I’ll tell you that. Wish you the best
God Bless you brother! You are going to be fine keep pushing🙏🙏🙏👍
ONETAKEAV..... I'am very sorry to hear your story Young Sir.
You really do sound like a very nice fellow. You are a Gentleman...
You are also very handsome (No I'am not gay).
But unfortunately that will NOT be enough to change a loose women. I'am at an age were I have seen this sort of thing before. Had a "girlfriend" like this many a years ago. Actually more than one like this!
You know the old saying "A tiger does not change his stripes" in this case it is not a he, but a she...
The "red flags" were all there. But you saw the best in her, not the worst. Probably because you really did love her...
Someone like this comes into your life again. You AVOID THEM LIKE THE PLAGUE!
They will try to "cover their tracks" and some ARE VERY GOOD AT, but Sir. do NOT fall for this again. It is too much trouble and you don't need it in your life..
AND YES I do believe she was fornicating behind your back. Listen to your gut feeling. It is there for a reason...
ONETAKEAV.... There is a reason why the MGTOW community is growing around the world. Your experience happens even to the best of us..
Best of luck young Sir.
MGTOW
Dude she was cheating.
no doubt in my mind
The harder you try, the harder you will fall.
Dang i wanna see an update ♥️😇
thank you! I needed this .
go mgtow all females are lik that we hawe same story but i have child whid her u shuld be luckey
evnickols But we all die so only way to live for a little while? is that what you meant?
Not all females are like that, I am a woman and that happened to me, I fought to keep the marriage for 14yrs
She said I've moved on.
"Correction, she cheated on you". That's what a real person with integrity would have said. Or better yet, I met someone at work. Heck, it happens. But not when you are married. Don't worry, you dodge a bullet. She will do the same to him. I bet my life on it. Best of luck to you, thank you for sharing. Be careful who you choose to lay in bed with. She also sounds like a covert "Narcisist". Research this to help you navigate the waters.
I can relate, it happened to me exactly the same. It was a blessing in disguise. I joined a gym and became a totally different person I had no idea was inside of me.
After alot of counseling I found I was depressed and unhappy with him but going through the motions.
My ex was military, we did all the counseling. He was having (affairs), I found out later. He's with one of his affair partners now and unhappy.
Me? life is Amazing I'm so happy now. I look and feel better than I ever have. I online date and it's so fun. I'm really picky now and a guy is going to have to be pretty amazing to settle me down.
peace and love.. Thank you for posting this video.
pair bonding gauge is so real but there can special exceptions
IT TAKES YEARS TO GET OVER IT BRO. You're the man. You need a woman with morals. Thanks for the online dating recommendation...
Thanks for sharing brother. All the best going forward.
Can you please post the questions you asked your wife?
Guy sounds codependent on women. Try going MGTOW for a while, brother.
Yeap going through the same crap but at least lasted 13 years but I love my son so much and I have height and looks but its not enough
Normal thing. It happens to everyone.
I see you and see a real man. All these threatened boys in the comments. Keep going Man
was the guy she is with married i don't believe you were the problem she was the problem, become very successful, enjoy your life karma will deal with both of them you don't have to do anything and don't do anything harmful. move ahead. don't look back.
@onetakeav I can’t figure out a way to send a PM abut I can relate SO much! I’ve literally had someone type those same words about moving on to me and I remember how much that hurt. I’m also about to start going to DivorceCare! I hope that things are continuing to look up for you.
When a partner cheats once, there's a good chance she/he will cheat again.
@keecefly you aint shit bitch
Once a cheater, always a cheater
NEVER step in the same shit twice.
InstaBlaster...
It’s a floodgate. She will for sure do it again
Be blessed that she left you before kids and you're 45 years old. She will be divorced soon enough again
Im just going through a divorce. Im 46 with a 4 month year old child. My wife has just turned 30 and left when our little one was 2 months old. Its horrible stuff.
@crooked truth83 And many times a woman your same age will run once they have you on the hook with a hostage...i mean your child. If you must marry, i would advise looking outside the United States or Western Europe.
Why getting married at all? How can anyone think that they will be attracted to the same person all their life?? That`s pretty insane. I was married to the same person for years, just because he so desperately wanted to. All I could think of, was that I needed to get out of it. And in the end I did. I have never been happier since. I don`t know why americans are so desperate to be married, instead of just living together? It`s like a crazy wedding culture, and it seemes that most girls are just doing it, go get their "magic day."
@@Annsunshine30 Used to be for the benefit of the children,but with no-fault divorce I guess there isn't a reason anymore. Marriage today is disposable, and not to get all MGTOW...it's typically the man that is destroyed financially.
@@jdwyer4851 It`s probably right in the us, and used to be so here in Europe as well. But now, when both have to work full time, to pay for everything, and shared custody is most common. It`s probably both parties pretty equally. My mum said on her death bed, that she had wasted 40 (!) years on my dad. And I had to agree with her. My greatest wish for them, from the age of four (I remember where I was living at the time) , was for them to get a divorce. They never did, since my mum was scared of powerty, which was a real thing at that time. (I`s a long time ago..) I`ve had a long relationship since my divorce, but we were just living together,( I`ll never get married again!!) Which was much easier, when we both got fed up with each other. We just moved apart, and have stayed good friends, and no dramatic divorce or anything. In my country married couples and none married couples, are getting the same rights in everything. So can`t say that I can see any benefits with being married at all.
Red Flag #1: friend zone; Red Flag #2: she's dating two guys simultaneously while you're relegated to the friend zone: Red Flag #3: you let your little head out think your big head. Red Flag #4: she finally starts paying attention to you, which means her other two boyfriends moved on, but, no problem, because she had you on the back burner as a stand-by.
Sorry to hear your story, but it's as old as time.
This woman sounds incredibly busy with multiple guys. Was she just a player.....someone who just plays on another person's affections because she can? But the truth is.....they say that in a relationship....one person always loves more than another. And.....we are still unformed creatures....thinking we understand ourselves well enough to know what we want for the rest of your life.....I think she did want to marry you....but then realized it wasn't enough. But you did say she was a beautiful girl, right? Sorry you were hurt....but I've never been in love with someone physically that much.....I've never wanted to marry someone because they were really attractive. I think in the back of my mind....I would be thinking.....would they be reliable?
Pls create red flags for my relationships too I need them. This is great analytical skill.
She raised more red flags than communist China.
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Lol!!! Good one! Ray Charles saw that one b4 he did!
David Barnett.... Bang on!!
If there ever will be a "MGTOW Bible".... What you just wrote down would be in that book.
Thank you for this video. I was divorced last year after 5 1/2 years. Online dating is also new to me, but I feel like the biggest issue I have is I'm terrified of getting into a new relationship that will end up being wrong for me again. It's so hard to carry this emotional baggage and let go of trust issues. It feels that if I make myself vulnerable again, I'll just end up hurt again. I feel your pain.
I know the exact feeling. You want to have that great life you always wanted but are fearful of making a move that could potentially hurt you. Its can sometimes feel like its better to be alone which most feel isn't really what they want. Unfortunately the only solution to the problem is "take a risk". I read a book called "Risk is Right" and that kind of helped change my perspective. The risk will always be there, my issue is finding someone I'm willing to take that risk with. If will all get better with time.
Amy B divorce stinks but you will trust again but it’s a different world than it was a few years ago. Online dating is a waste! I have met more scammers and crazy people there than anywhere in my last 30 years than in my plastic surgery practice! Relax and let things happen organically.. best of luck
Don't go dating, again. You will not find that person you want. There is only rotting fruit. If known men that were divorced, then remarried. Later on the same thing happened, only this time it was worse. Think with you brain, and not with your dick.
The fact that she had 2 bfs at the same time, tells you what her true character is, and how doomed your marriage was b4 it even happened.
Sonia Sohi this guy!!!!!!
Not exactly true. I dated more than one guy at a time before I decided to settle down. I'm a devoted, faithful, and loving wife. When you're young, you want to have fun until you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Or many “friendly friends w/ benefits”. Please dodge garbage people like this.
They WILL keep contact w/ those people and WILL seek them when you guys have normal relationship problems
This is based on my experience.
Exactly 💯
@@brandiphillips5775 your for the streets.
i am trying not to totally trash your ex wife.. i'll just say two things 1. be glad you didn't have kids with her 2. don't do online dating.. DONT DATE AT ALL.. can't you see your ex wife didn't deserve you? trust me a lot of these women don't deserve you, take it from me, i am kinda like you in that i'm Christian also and i have a master's degree and a peaceful life- WHEN I AM ALONE... when i add women into the mix out goes the peace and i'm SURE you can relate to what i'm saying....... here's what you do- ask the Lord for a wife, and He will bring her- read the story of isaac and rebekah in genesis.. DO NOT DATE ONLINE.. JUST PRAY AND ASK THE LORD TO BRING YOU THE WIFE HE HAS FOR YOU AT HIS TIMING.. LEAVE EVERYTHING IN THE LORD'S HANDS HE WILL SPEAK TO YOU IF YOU KEEP SEEKING HIM.. DO NOT CAST YOUR PEARLS TO SWINE, DONT WASTE TIME ON CRAZY, UNGRATEFUL, CHEATING WOMEN
Online dating doesn't really work. You really don't know the women on there and most of them aren't interested any how and others just date for sport which is a concept I don't get at all.
well they want to get fed for free.. and willing to give up their skanky fishholes for that.
@@M22OHIO
Men fuck for sport. What's the difference?
ColdSkyClouds you get it!!
If you wait for the Lord to find you a wife, you'll be using a walker! Who needs a wife? Just date.
Dude trust me she was cheating and she justified it in her head by making you seem not enough.
She lied to your face and she can keep secrets.
You're only hearing his half of this story
Dear brother in Christ It is very sad to know that you went through this, from a female Christian perspective I would say that the woman sounds like she was not a Christian person to begin with, I cannot imagine someone who has a personal relationship with Christ and really loving him, having 2 boyfriends and being completely fine with this
thank you so much for sharing your experience! I'm 23 years old, married for 2 years now.. and at this point of my life by relationship its soo broken.. no trust, no respect, emotional violence, lack of comunication and so on.. your experience has giving me courage to confront this situation because I didnt want to accept whats going on. I have no kids, but still its hard to move on when you are not in a healthy relationship that's become such a big weight on my shoulders. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
You're very welcome. In my heart I needed to make sure I did everything I could to see if I could make it work and I would encourage you to do the same. Marriage isn't easy and sometimes the other person gives you no other option than to walk away because they aren't willing to work. Thanks for the kind words.
I would encourage you and your spouse to seek marriage counselling. Don't be another divorce statistic.
Jr
I will just leave you with a quote from one of my favorite sci-fi films:
"She loves what you do for her. As it is my customers love what I do for them....but she does not love YOU, David. She cannot love YOU." -A.I. Artificial Intelligence (2001)
Granted it's about an inanimate object in the story, but the principle reigns true still in the modern hypergamous dating world. Women love men for resources and a utility, similar to an inanimate object if you think about it.
Great video! Thanks for sharing. I know it's so difficult to go through, but it's so good that it happened when it did. Imagine if it happened 5-10 years later, when you had kids. It would be so much more painful
I feel you brother man. I am going through a very similar situation, I was cheated on a lot, it hurts, the sting sits with you for awhile. I can only take it day by day moving forward and I try to stay inspired for hopes in the future.
It is sad that your ex wife didn't understand the marriage covenant. More likely than not she was cheating with her boss while married to you. Was she a devout Christian? She didn't understand that marriage is a blood covenant but in these days people take the easy way out. It is good you have forgiven her and now it is time to move on. One word of caution is that since you do want marriage and a family, commit all things to God and ask him to direct your steps.
Jr
the affair started as soon as she went silent
slap twin exactly
"She was dating with 2 boyfriends when I was pursuing her" oh boy...
Once a cheater always a cheater. There are always exceptions, but that is a good rule of thumb. Also in my opinion, if you haven't been through tough times together, you're not ready to get married. You need to see how your partner handles conflict, and know that they will stick with you until you work it out.
smart woman. somebody marry this lady or steal her from her man if he is a douche lmaoo.
As Sandman said "she wants the wedding, not the marriage." As for your ex-wife, she simply money branched to a guy with more resources and money, and if she meets another guy with more resources than him, she'll money branch to him ... till she hits the wall.
you were a good husband trying to work out your relationship but yeah no matter how hard you try if the other partner isn't interested, its all over. looks like she checked out of the relationship a long time ago and made her decision. I haven't been married but i learnt the lesson of reciprocating is needed in any relationship and it also applies to friendships. If you are constantly putting in more effort than the other party then its not a healthy relationship and you need to end it.