I have kids and can say my presence for my kids became better with awakening. The question is showing a misconception on enlightenment and awakening. It's not about becoming detached from everything. It's simply waking up to your true self... and your true self can definitely be a good father! In fact, a free man is the only man who can become a good father. Your freedom will also be his freedom.
Kids need parents in their life during growing up years to give them validation & confidence in themselves and being present for them is of ultra importance.
Everything and everyone is literally yourself. This is seen upon “awakening”. How you feel about yourself is how you will feel about everything because you are literally everything and everyone. 👁️m♾
Wonderful video. Resonates with me so much. I’ve had to learn unconditional love for my child and have accepted that it may or may not be a life time process. So good to hear this from other parents going through the same thing 💖💖💖
This is a worry for me as well. As a mom and a wife...will I float away when identity floats away? But I see that only an ego could 'worry' about that. The journey will wind us down roads that are unmissable; unmistakable. As I know this, I relax into now and know that this journey will take me where it takes me. All is well.
The love of a mother for her most precious child dissolves every night in deep sleep. She forgets all about her most beloved. Likewise, your true nature is not attached to anything or anyone. Nothing (No Thing) sticks to you. 🙂✌
@@sunlovinsnowflake Yes, in the dream state you are observing the contents of your dreams. But in betwixt dreams, you (the real you) have periods of deep sleep, periods of nothingness, where there are no dreams. In deep sleep, even our most precious & beloved dissolve.
Suzanne. i recently came upon Angelo's video with Zubin where his and his family invited you for a visit. it came at the serendipitous time where i needed to hear this in regards to my relationship with my husband, who was awake but i was not. the way Zubin described how you held space for everyone involved was so beautiful, and it impacted me enormously. fortunately my husband and i listened to it together and it completely cracked me open! the next day a shift happened while my husband was pointing and i was listening to him. as i looked out the window - the window itself seemed to disappear, whereby the trees and the wind and sky just seemed to become me *yes it sounds woowoo lol* but it changed. but yet didn't change. it was there all along - i know that. but yet i know nothing. i just want to thank you for whatever just happened. whomever is doing the thanking - whatever that is!
I don't know, I actually had to cut off my parent all together. It has been one of the most painful surreal things, but the cycle kept repeating and even small talk I was met with the old patterns of button pushing and I wasn't healing and becoming more and more toxic. I felt I did this both for myself and her even tho she was begging me to speak to her. It feels cruel but I also have had to do for self preservation and self love. The child inside me was screaming no more. And so this has really messed with my psyche because despite my mother being highly manipulative, I felt I always had unconditional love for her. I love her even tho she is toxic and what feels like soulless. When my father died, she was stone cold and this man sacrificed his life for her and I saw nothingness come from her and she acted like she didn't care. It was shocking and disturbing for me to witness how cruel she was towards my father on his death bed, but I just pray for her and love her from a far because I had to drop the identity of daughter, sister, child, or the "bad guy" "scapegoat' etc...with my family of origin because they branded me into a role that had a delusional false narrative attached to it. This has been a roller coaster ride identity dicintergration and it is not for the faint at heart but for me I am following my sprititual calling to heal myself. I feel like I'm getting closer and closer to nothingness a blank slate and it feels lonely and confusing at times but also hope filled and peaceful
@@eugeneliang4470 What? Not sure what you mean? My mom doesn't know what real love is unfortunately, but I guess yes, she will love me always in her own warped way. I guess we could not meet each others needs or something like that? We just never understood each other and it was turning into suffering for me. To feel betrayed by your own mother is one of the most damaging things because I question everyone after that.. For me suffering in this circumstance is that it pains me to engage with her and it pains me not to as well and so where does that leave me? Suffering and looking for a way out inside myself, this is where this really tough almost surreal place that I find myself in is...
I've been feeling really bad physically but I have gained the ability to be around friends and just enjoy their presence without the awkwardness that comes with the possibility of romance. Like a wall of awkwardness has been torn down. There's also more clarity in my ability to know who I actually enjoy being around.
Thank you to everyone for your comments. This was a great fear of mine, but since, I can now see that the fear had no solid ground. Dropping the identity of a father seems to have given my son more of a figure that is equal to him then one that is separate and above. There is still fathering that seems to be conditioned, but no sense that he will ever be abandoned.
Be attached. Enjoy the depth of your attachment with your son. Anything that stops a father being a solid rock for his child needs to be flushed down the toilet. Don't sacrifice your son chasing something that may make you feel good. PS. It is surprising how destructive neo adavaita teachings can be as far as interpersonal relationships are concerned. The person that it sought to be let go of or done away with does not in fact happen and remains after relaisation of the mental construct that it is. A mirage remains after being seen as a mirage. We don't create a self nor do we get rid of it. A self will not leave you. What do think has the realisation of anything?
the course in miracles speaks a lot of that (special relationships)...helps me a great deal with loseing the false family ties, no the love though...thanks for giving space to address so many things...not just brush it aside...and sharing it with us...
It’s actually the opposite. You become absolutely free. You see that you never needed any of that in the first place because the you that you think you are is an illusion and all philosophy and moral/ethical questions are just something the me wants to hold onto.
@@geraldgarrison1898 Most people aren't willing to dissolve their egos, THIS IS A FACT.. they-we just want to get their-our Self-Identity to be more funtional in society lol
@@geraldgarrison1898 questions of what is true and what is not true still remain. And the question of what to do with one’s life still remains. If you decide to not “remain on a hilltop doing nothing” you can’t escape questions of morality
Great question that I have been wondering about since the love for a child is soooo strong. I don't decide to love them that much, it just happens. I wish I could love everyone like that really. Also when you have a partner that you have been with for over 23 years and love...how is that going to work? What will be will be but good questions to ponder on. Thanks for All the questions and answers/sharings. Blessing to All
There no questions to ponder because that just would be more fodder for the mind. There’s really nothing intellectual to get. When you wake up the you, you thought you were just disappears and so does the sense of ownership. That doesn’t mean that you won’t love your family but the attachment isn’t as strong.
@@geraldgarrison1898 of course but until the "Me"is there, questions Will come up and that is normal like the seeking just happening until it ends. Thank you for sharing.
Did he want/plan to have a kid? Or did it just happen? I don't plan on having a family/marriage. I already feel disconnected. Almost like it would be a burden, regardless if people view me as great mom material.
Everything is real to the ego mind and it will draw towards things that will maintain its illusion or safety. The question to answer is what you are seeking tarot for? To have a semblance of control and safety by insight into the future or this or that question? Zodiac signs is an attachment I am letting go of and it was deep in my identity, I loved learning about it but it's part of the ego mind identity and something else to "fit into" or explain this or that with.
My fear is how this will affect the relationship with my wife. Anyone have any experience in this regard? Does the want for sex completely dissapear too? that could have a strain on the relationship even though we see eachother as true soul mates
Dude that's just a story. Your gut tells you that you'll be an even more beautiful father then go with that. That's your true self speaking. All fears will undoubtedly be the mind/story i.e. not you.
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I have kids and can say my presence for my kids became better with awakening. The question is showing a misconception on enlightenment and awakening. It's not about becoming detached from everything. It's simply waking up to your true self... and your true self can definitely be a good father! In fact, a free man is the only man who can become a good father. Your freedom will also be his freedom.
Very well put. After all, the truth of every moment can not be denied (unless we remain asleep)...
Well said
Kids need parents in their life during growing up years to give them validation & confidence in themselves and being present for them is of ultra importance.
Beautifully said
osho
Thank you to this man for being vulnerable
Everything and everyone is literally yourself. This is seen upon “awakening”. How you feel about yourself is how you will feel about everything because you are literally everything and everyone.
👁️m♾
Thanks for sharing this, wishing love, grace and courage for all to be open and look inside, feel and surrender here.
Wonderful video. Resonates with me so much. I’ve had to learn unconditional love for my child and have accepted that it may or may not be a life time process. So good to hear this from other parents going through the same thing 💖💖💖
This is a worry for me as well. As a mom and a wife...will I float away when identity floats away? But I see that only an ego could 'worry' about that. The journey will wind us down roads that are unmissable; unmistakable. As I know this, I relax into now and know that this journey will take me where it takes me. All is well.
A worry is based around fear, can you explore the fear directly, feel it in your body? This is all about how our system avoids feeling feelings!
Your such a sweet HEART and it is so OBVIOUS you have sat in the hottest FIRE of devotion..... simply MELTED in GRACE
The love of a mother for her most precious child dissolves every night in deep sleep. She forgets all about her most beloved. Likewise, your true nature is not attached to anything or anyone. Nothing (No Thing) sticks to you. 🙂✌
Out of curiosity, are you a mother?
@@sunlovinsnowflake Yes. 🙂
😊
Mine are in my dreams often.
I dream about everyone I love.
💛✌🏼☀️🌊⚡️🌈💫🌌🌹🌝
@@sunlovinsnowflake Yes, in the dream state you are observing the contents of your dreams. But in betwixt dreams, you (the real you) have periods of deep sleep, periods of nothingness, where there are no dreams. In deep sleep, even our most precious & beloved dissolve.
Suzanne. i recently came upon Angelo's video with Zubin where his and his family invited you for a visit. it came at the serendipitous time where i needed to hear this in regards to my relationship with my husband, who was awake but i was not. the way Zubin described how you held space for everyone involved was so beautiful, and it impacted me enormously. fortunately my husband and i listened to it together and it completely cracked me open! the next day a shift happened while my husband was pointing and i was listening to him. as i looked out the window - the window itself seemed to disappear, whereby the trees and the wind and sky just seemed to become me *yes it sounds woowoo lol* but it changed. but yet didn't change. it was there all along - i know that. but yet i know nothing. i just want to thank you for whatever just happened. whomever is doing the thanking - whatever that is!
This is a phenomenal topic as it resonates with my personal experience with both of my kids 4 and 1 respectively.
I don't know, I actually had to cut off my parent all together. It has been one of the most painful surreal things, but the cycle kept repeating and even small talk I was met with the old patterns of button pushing and I wasn't healing and becoming more and more toxic. I felt I did this both for myself and her even tho she was begging me to speak to her. It feels cruel but I also have had to do for self preservation and self love. The child inside me was screaming no more. And so this has really messed with my psyche because despite my mother being highly manipulative, I felt I always had unconditional love for her. I love her even tho she is toxic and what feels like soulless. When my father died, she was stone cold and this man sacrificed his life for her and I saw nothingness come from her and she acted like she didn't care. It was shocking and disturbing for me to witness how cruel she was towards my father on his death bed, but I just pray for her and love her from a far because I had to drop the identity of daughter, sister, child, or the "bad guy" "scapegoat' etc...with my family of origin because they branded me into a role that had a delusional false narrative attached to it. This has been a roller coaster ride identity dicintergration and it is not for the faint at heart but for me I am following my sprititual calling to heal myself. I feel like I'm getting closer and closer to nothingness a blank slate and it feels lonely and confusing at times but also hope filled and peaceful
no matter where u go, mom will always love you.
Cat Zee@…you might resonate with a teacher called “GP Walsh “ he had childhood trauma with his mother
@@eugeneliang4470 What? Not sure what you mean? My mom doesn't know what real love is unfortunately, but I guess yes, she will love me always in her own warped way. I guess we could not meet each others needs or something like that? We just never understood each other and it was turning into suffering for me. To feel betrayed by your own mother is one of the most damaging things because I question everyone after that.. For me suffering in this circumstance is that it pains me to engage with her and it pains me not to as well and so where does that leave me? Suffering and looking for a way out inside myself, this is where this really tough almost surreal place that I find myself in is...
@@Mimi-xs7gi Will look into it! Thank you so much!!!
I've been feeling really bad physically but I have gained the ability to be around friends and just enjoy their presence without the awkwardness that comes with the possibility of romance. Like a wall of awkwardness has been torn down. There's also more clarity in my ability to know who I actually enjoy being around.
Thank you so much for this!
Thank you to everyone for your comments. This was a great fear of mine, but since, I can now see that the fear had no solid ground. Dropping the identity of a father seems to have given my son more of a figure that is equal to him then one that is separate and above. There is still fathering that seems to be conditioned, but no sense that he will ever be abandoned.
Be attached. Enjoy the depth of your attachment with your son. Anything that stops a father being a solid rock for his child needs to be flushed down the toilet. Don't sacrifice your son chasing something that may make you feel good. PS. It is surprising how destructive neo adavaita teachings can be as far as interpersonal relationships are concerned. The person that it sought to be let go of or done away with does not in fact happen and remains after relaisation of the mental construct that it is. A mirage remains after being seen as a mirage. We don't create a self nor do we get rid of it. A self will not leave you. What do think has the realisation of anything?
the course in miracles speaks a lot of that (special relationships)...helps me a great deal with loseing the false family ties, no the love though...thanks for giving space to address so many things...not just brush it aside...and sharing it with us...
🏝️🙋🏻♀️➰🩲👃🏽🎶💕🏃🏽♂️..🧎🏽♂️ 🚣🏽♂️..🛳️ umm i love Suzanne's non duality umm.
I also watch a lot of Eckhart Tolle and found you this way.
This channel makes me think that awakening without a solid philosophical and ethical foundation is actually quite dangerous
It’s actually the opposite. You become absolutely free. You see that you never needed any of that in the first place because the you that you think you are is an illusion and all philosophy and moral/ethical questions are just something the me wants to hold onto.
@@geraldgarrison1898 Most people aren't willing to dissolve their egos, THIS IS A FACT.. they-we just want to get their-our Self-Identity to be more funtional in society lol
@@kanekjanaab7957 😂 fair enough
@@geraldgarrison1898 questions of what is true and what is not true still remain. And the question of what to do with one’s life still remains. If you decide to not “remain on a hilltop doing nothing” you can’t escape questions of morality
@@Godamole what’s morality and who or what determines what is moral or not?
Fear & pain is an illusion. So is pleasure & happiness. Don't sweat the small stuff. 🙂✌
Cheers
❤
😊
Great question that I have been wondering about since the love for a child is soooo strong. I don't decide to love them that much, it just happens. I wish I could love everyone like that really. Also when you have a partner that you have been with for over 23 years and love...how is that going to work? What will be will be but good questions to ponder on.
Thanks for All the questions and answers/sharings.
Blessing to All
There no questions to ponder because that just would be more fodder for the mind. There’s really nothing intellectual to get. When you wake up the you, you thought you were just disappears and so does the sense of ownership. That doesn’t mean that you won’t love your family but the attachment isn’t as strong.
@@geraldgarrison1898 of course but until the "Me"is there, questions Will come up and that is normal like the seeking just happening until it ends. Thank you for sharing.
Did he want/plan to have a kid? Or did it just happen? I don't plan on having a family/marriage. I already feel disconnected. Almost like it would be a burden, regardless if people view me as great mom material.
Sweetheart Good Lass 👌
Compassion is blind without wisdom. Wisdom is useless without compassion.
If you see the world, life, anything through the lens of right and wrong, you have already preconditioned or tainted the view
Can you talk about what you believe when you were still not awake, like zodiac signs and tarot cards is that real or not?
It all has its place, providing we don’t use it to bypass feelings!
Everything is real to the ego mind and it will draw towards things that will maintain its illusion or safety. The question to answer is what you are seeking tarot for? To have a semblance of control and safety by insight into the future or this or that question? Zodiac signs is an attachment I am letting go of and it was deep in my identity, I loved learning about it but it's part of the ego mind identity and something else to "fit into" or explain this or that with.
You can still teach your son there is a right way and a wrong way of doing things.
Pouring water in your gas tank instead of gasoline isn't beautiful
Suzanne can you please talk about thoths emerald tablets in your next videos?🙏
My fear is how this will affect the relationship with my wife. Anyone have any experience in this regard? Does the want for sex completely dissapear too? that could have a strain on the relationship even though we see eachother as true soul mates
Dude that's just a story. Your gut tells you that you'll be an even more beautiful father then go with that. That's your true self speaking. All fears will undoubtedly be the mind/story i.e. not you.