I already hate malls and most stores (the florescent lights and the general atmosphere exhausts me), but the poor quality - even of more expensive items - just makes the experience so disappointing and upsetting. Even compared to a few years ago, the same items are of much worse quality. At this point I don't even bother, such a waste of time and energy.
i’m learning how to use a sewing machine currently because how bad a lot of clothes are, and also because i cannot afford what i like atm. not being able to express your inner world through style feels like torture
I feel like we are in the last stages of capitalism its obvious the government doest care an isn't even trying to hide the fact anymore, the rampant gross consumerism a bunch of cheap plastic stuff everywhere..quality ..what's that? everything everywhere is just hideous..I really have to use my imagination now days I feel assaulted by gross an ugliness finding beauty is a battle everyday, ugliness is demoralizing..not to be a Debbie downer or anything but it's the truth anyway thank you for what you do😊
@xw7450 that is great 👍 I start handsew again........I learn myself making clothes. I love clothes from 1900. There is a channel which is inspiring to Sew clothes yourself. Bernadette Banner on TH-cam. ❤
You talking about how ugly recess lighting is made me feel SO understood. I’m always ranting about it and especially now since they’re replacing warm cozy lights with white LED mental hospital lights EVERYWHERE. I have no idea why this is happening but it makes me so upset and depressed. It’s like every year the world just gets…uglier
And people spent so much money drilling holes into their ceilings for it!! Like my parents in law.. they think it’s practical and don’t care though, but it looks ugly and outdated now! Classic lamps and candle holders never go out of style because they are cosy and beautiful!
@@christineh86 i really wish I could understand why the world wants everything to look like a blinding gray and white office or hospital. Films don’t have color like they used to, malls now are a walking universe of white vomit, the warmth of old cities is being replaced by cold led lights and beautiful old houses with beautiful architecture are being murdered and turned into white seclusion rooms. I fear that the only colors that will remain in the future is the green of our grass and the blue of our skies and oceans
I am 💯 with you in this dismay over the LED/ cold/ bright light scourge on the world. My home will always be filled with only warm, soft lighting in defiance of this madness. Wish they’d make blinding LED headlights illegal.
The new front lights in cars are these insanely bright ones, I almost get headaches from them driving during the night, they're blinding as well.. so dangerous actually.
You know, I watched this video when it came out feeling really proud of myself because I had recently invested in this BEAUTIFUL glass water bottle, shaped like a sphere. I crocheted a beautiful linen bag around it that fit perfectly. Today it was raining. I slipped and fell and my water bottle hit the ground with me and shattered. I was devastated. I think the dark side of aestheticism is that when you lose/break your everyday objects, it cuts so much deeper. Had it been a regular plastic water bottle, I wouldn't have thought twice. This one? I sat in my car and cried. Aestheticism grants you a deeper connection with your everyday objects that open you up to a type of grief you didn't know was real.
I had a similar experience a few days ago. One of my favorite mugs, a beautiful blue willow with gold trim, fell from a counter and broke. The problem was, I couldn't just brush it off with "it was just a coffee mug", because it wasn't just a coffee mug. I hope to repair it using kintsugi sometime, but I will never have that same mug again.
I’m disabled and when I tell you that the mobility aids and adaptable tools we have access to are always the UGLIEST POSSIBLE colors and designs. It truly hurts my soul but I have no other options 😞
Would spray painting be something you can do and wouldn’t affect the mobility aids? I think going for a bauhaus post modern style would work with the materials and shape.
Sometimes things are beautiful because of their backstory: where did you get that? why did you keep that? I don't think this opposes the creator's intent to see more visual beauty, I just wanted to share one other way I perceive "beauty" (which is more like awe of life and its quirks)
For what it's worth? Over the life of your channel, you have changed. You truly are turning into an elegant woman. I know it's process. It takes time and maturity. You are so much on your way. You go girl.
@HeavenSentHoney they say that the joy is in the journey. It tickles me that little things bring you so much pleasure..like soap dispensers and house slippers. You disdain the Stanley cup as much as I do!. It's so fun watching you grow and discover. We are totally in agreement. Ugly is a sin.
I recently visited Romania (where my mom is from) and while there I truly felt surrounded by beauty. the architecture of the buildings, the greenery in the streets, the gorgeous interiors of my relatives’ modest apartment, it was all so beautiful. even the shittiest corner stores had limestone masonry. and then I had to go back to southern california where every building is an ugly fucking box with a logo on it, where large, disgusting highways carve into our ugly cities, back to that stupid recessed lighting that was built to strain your eyes. you definitely internalize ugliness, sometimes you don’t even realize how beautiful the world can be.
I believe the world needs your message right now. When people feel elevated, they will act and think in an elevated way. We are missing the elegance of our past. We are in a hot mess in the name of “comfort”. I appreciate you. And thank you for giving shopping sites that you like.
I just love how visually dramatic you can be if you want to. It pulls me towards you because i'm also very dramatic (and even perfomative - it's such a pleasure to me). Love your content. Kisses, from Rio ⭐️
Feeling utterly alone has been a staple in my past few months; I’ve been too into myself and was convinced no one else thinks remotely close to me. I’ve been feeling suicidal due to this and this video gave me hope. Thank you. I feel community again. You have je ne sais quoi that inspires me to keep going everyday. I like your personality and vibe and I really needed this today. Thank you for existing and creating art :’)
I agree with everything you say except that Beauty is not comfortable, in my view, if something makes you uncomfortable, its not beautiful because its inelegant, anything that’s beautiful and uncomfortable can be made beautiful and comfortable, you just have to try harder
It takes time to source beautiful things and people are so impatient now. Instant gratification. I genuinely enjoy looking for that perfect, unique thing, even if it takes months. The pleasure is really in the hunt 💕
I've been voraciously consuming your content lately, and I feel so inspired. Some of your videos I'll watch several times over to really get at the meat of what you say. This last week I cleaned out my apartment with wanton abandon, we're talking bags and bags of things I can donate that have served me no purpose besides feeding into my clutter-induced ennui. I feel so relaxed and free now again at home, thanks to you! I also bought my first Anaïs Nin book which I'm elated to start reading. This morning I awoke to the sight of two dozen flies in my kitchen and bathroom, and while I'm pretty sure they came from the air vent I share with my neighbor, I read that flies are a good omen of change and prosperity, so I can't help but take even their bizarre apparition as a sign that I'm on the correct path. So thank you for your dedication to your channel.
The last couple days I've been cleaning like crazy. I did my fridge, freezer, utensil drawers, microwave. It feels so good to wipe everything down with bleach to start new. Happy Friday 13th
What you’ve conveyed is identical to what I’m currently experiencing, a reflection showcasing ones transformation, harnessing their inner power. I’m incredibly excited to witness what the future holds for us all, the lessons we’ve learnt and the changes we’ve implanted. I hope you have a lovely morning
I LOVE that the flies have significance woah! Fully condone your way of thinking there. Thank you so much for your sweet words, I’m happy you get something out of my videos ❤️❤️❤️
There are macrame lanyards going around (or you could follow tutorials here on yt and weave your own) and i think they’re pretty. Just recently made a macrame sling bag with a detachable strap that i could also use as a lanyard. Handmade stuff really hits different and suffice to say that’s my favorite bag that i own!
I also have a fake stanley and I decorated it with stickers. I can't throw it out, I take it to work everyday and it's been the only way I've been able to make myself drink the correct amount of water daily
The ending was gold, it brings me sadness and despair how we have developed this mentality of quick disposal of things & people. But who shall we blame the product, person or the ditcher ? BOTH. because a cheap poorly made ugly piece will eventually be forced to be replaced, and people that are just like versions of others (they talk same, dress same, think same) with exceptions ofc, will get replaced too. We need radical changes to the society: quality and originality
The shopping experience can be made ugly or beautiful. A lot of shopping now involves staring at a screen and trying to figure out which pictures can even be trusted, wandering through a crowded Walmart… and this was so starkly different from my experience shopping at this place called Aesop, where they washed my hands FOR ME with their products and gave me a special blend of tea to drink as I shopped (it’s a skincare store, they don’t even sell drinks). On the inside of the cup they gave me, there was a Kafka quote: “Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old”. I left the store blushing lmao too bad I can’t afford to go there too much.
I do think telling people to throw away their cheap things to replace them with something more “elevated” before they’ve run their lifetime is the antithesis of the message you’re trying to get across. needless waste isn’t beautiful.
I get as someone who has not seen other videos of mine and isn't familiar with my message that is what it seems like to you. But that could not be further from the truth. Watch any other video I have ever done on beautiful or ugly objects and living. This is an open-ended discussion and series of observations which are to be collected for a kind of unofficial thesis. I say have very little and let it be beautiful. Take care of the things you have. The objective is to discourage people from buying new things as much as it is to replace it with things that are meaningful and made to withstand time. If you want to let the "ugly" object run its course. So be it. But next time you will know better to be more thoughtful about your choices. If you want to throw it away right now, or find a way to put it back into circulation, there are many well known methods for it. And I rather I'd stop the bad behavior now, and you when you do get that new thing, it will be last of its kind of a long time.
@@HeavenSentHoney i respect the mission, it does come across as wasteful when it’s put into a frame like “throw that lanyard away and buy something else” “get rid of that wine opener” and so on
@@lammilyirl I will be more careful with how I word things in the future. Videos like this are meant to be a bit humorous, but sometimes that can mislead people. Sometimes I forget that I am not speaking to my subscribers but to new people who have no idea who I am and what my intentions are. However, I do think there is something to be said about making the transition. To get something new, yeah, you have to remove the old thing. You do have to get rid of it. In a world were tons of shit is being thrown away every millisecond, it can feel a bit like a necessary evil to commit the act once more, cleanse it all and keep the good stuff you've acquired after. Something I hope to do for myself is to almost entirely rid myself of the disposable and ugly things. And have a solid set of stuff for literally the rest of my life, and live like an ascetic. Granted if something is unable to be repaired, it's lost, stolen, destroyed, or just needs to be exchanged that's perfectly fine. But the rotation on beautiful/well made things is far longer than anything people are used to today. Things are literally designed to deteriorate quickly. I just want my things good and proper and then enjoy them. And if I get tired of them, I'd like to find a way to look at them differently, renew them mentally. It's this goal which lingers in the back of my head when I make videos like this.
@@lammilyirlI think in a lot of these cases you can always first see if someone else may enjoy the items you don't want: selling them, giving away, asking around in your family, neighborhood apps etc. At least that's what I do. But in the end if an item genuinely makes your life less fun or using it makes you unhappy I don't see a reason to needlessly keep it for the sake of environmental martyrdom. You aren't the largest polluter in the end. And throwing a handful of tiny items away isn't going to remove any oil spills, they will end up in the landfill either now or in a month from now (as modern items don't usually last). Especially if you replace them with items that will last you a lifetime, cheap things can feed into a waste loop. But I also disagree with a lot of other points in her video such as needless inconvenience as that would also negatively contribute to your mental health especially if you have neurodivergencies that cause you to take the most convenient route anyway. You WILL end up throwing these things away sooner or later. But I already elaborated on that in another comment and don't feel like repeating myself.
I've always hated overhead lighting. I'm constantly turning off lights. This is the first I've ever heard this sentiment repeated by someone else and I appreciate that.
Yes yes bright light from above is incredible ugly. Lamps and candles make an absolute difference in a beautiful ambience. It's good to make a vintage lamp yourself. Thank you for putting beauty into the light ❤
Things do carry energy and have a subconscious impact on your sense of worthiness and deserving. Also the energy of poorly made manufactured things by people who are dehumanized carries and energy too. You bring this into your life.
somebody finally gets it ! i'm autistic so i think the importance of beauty is very apparent to me as visual stimulation in general is more apparent to me than other people. i used to have trouble brushing my teeth but i got cute toothbrushes in my favorite color, pink, and it motivates me so much to brush my teeth regularly despite my issues :]
Neurodivergant as well and it gets to me too though as a kid and teen and older even I brushed obsessive compulsively and now am so panicky and fatigued and in frequent despair I don't do these things enough while just being in bed too much. Chronic health bs. Lighting and music in my ears and things can help get a few things done though. I am glad the fun toothbrush colors help you:)
in defense of organizers: i have a really beautiful wooden dresser/vanity, totally aesthetic, so chic. BUT,,, there is nowhere near enough room in that thing for everything my BF and I have to put away in it. Not enough space realistically for two people's closets, and this thing is still HUGE. I don't even wanna think about moving it out with us, the thought horrifies me. Plastic organizers, when tucked away and out of sight, are a great way to cheaply put clothes inside something that dust and bugs can't get to. They look hideous, but with the amount of dresser and closet space I have access to rn, they are a necessary evil in my life.
I thought of you as I purchased a wooden dish brush at the farmer's market. I've been meaning to since before I discovered your channel actually but your videos are so motivational and it's true that even just a mundane task such as doing the dishes feels more ritualistic, as if I'm living in a Studio Ghibli film. I'm motivated to replace as much plastic junk as possible for finer materials.
on the note of fake plants, i sadly am not an organized enough person to take care of plants without the inevitable despair of dying soon after buying them, so i have non-plastic fake plants! i have some paper roses and a glass + ceramic potted flower that i find very lovely :) i think part of the ugliness with most fake plants is that they're deceptive, its trying to be beautiful in spite of its character rather than because of it. also cause they're plastic but yknow
buying things second hand is so much better for this and the environment at the same time, the only problem with it is that it takes effort. culture is becoming much more convinience-focused, and I feel like it just feeds into this.
Beauty and art is the most important thing to me in life. I hope people are able to apply the anticonsumption part of your advice. The key to curating beauty in your life is about abstaining and waiting for the things worth waiting for rather than going out of your way to replace things just because they are “ugly”. The whole point is that things should not be disposable. So, if you can find the beauty in using the things that have served you until they no longer can and be mindful when it’s time to replace things that’s the best. Something I did recently to scratch the itch of change though is cover my worn ugly reusable bags with some cool fabric I got from the thrift store. Edit to add: if you really can’t stand something, try to give it away in a local buy nothing before the thrift.
I've always hated overhead lights. My life changed when I got remote control outlets. I plug my vintage lamps (that are super annoying to turn on) into the plugs and can conveniently turn them on / off.
Media has tunnel visioned so many things to where items of quality and beauty are not even manifest in thought. You seek and search for beauty. Thank you for the hard work.
I was in line at Victoria's Secret this week and there was a lady making a return. She had been there like 10 minutes earlier but went back because she was so indecisive and made a mess out of the transactions because she had multiple receipts. I already had a negative impression of her due to that. She was wearing Crocs and taking her feet in and out of them. Absolutely not.
If people don’t want to give up recessed lights, changing from cool to warm bulbs and/or adding a dimmer switch can make a massive difference. Skip “daylight” or “bright white” bulbs. Then you can add in lamps/etc as well.
7:25 Smart bulbs with a programmed switch/mounted remote CHANGED my lighting life. I had the cold ugly recessed lighting in my apt (and hated it) but putting the mounted switch next to the actual switch I was able to control my dimmed lamps and pendant lights as quickly as involuntarily as "turning on the big light." It was convenient AND beautiful.
This resonates with me so much! Daily I find myself disappointed in how little thought and beauty we put into the things around us and the spaces we live in. I pet sit and therefore get to see the way many many people live. I don't know how people think straight when they are surrounded by so much plastic and chaos, so many unnecessary and unattractive things. I would much rather have one beautiful teacup, than 50+ awkward, logo covered, hideous mugs (like where I'm currently staying).
i think the reason people have keychains & lanyards with company logos in college is because a lot of times there will be fairs where useful junk like that is given out for free! I don't encourage overconsumption so i'm gonna continue loving my ugly free items though! The scissors thing really spoke to me though, I had a beautiful pair of thread cutting scissors, i lost them but I miss them! so i get what your overall point in this video of beauty in details bringing more appreciation to life
oh i could talk about this for daaaayyyyssss. i'm so happy i found your channel a few days ago. aesthetics are such a focus in my life and it's nice to feel comfort in that when watching your videos.
exactly how i feel about those ugly cups! 😂 i resonated with what you said about coming into contact with the creator when you use quality things, it made me think about human relationships and how everytime we commune with another person we’re coming into contact with the divine creators, how beautiful
Dita Von Tease appears to be a maximalist and she does it so beautifully .Take a look in her home for it is stuffed full of objects ,absolutely beautiful objects ..She has a glass cabinet displaying an assortment of powder puffs ,some of which are vintage . They are truly exquisite .
True. I live in a disfunctional home with a hoarder and everyone in my life is factually out to get me in one way or another, but I get to pray under pretty night lights!
I want you to know just how deeply you've drilled this message into my brain. I was at an estate sale and got exceedingly excited about a box of stationary and pens/pencils. I have so many lovely stainless steel pens and mechanical pencils now. My brother-in-law's home has become a bit of a milestone - he has almost ZERO plastic in his home. Even his broom and dustpan are beautiful metal and natural fibers. We fell down a rabbit hole of this German-based shop that specialized in brushes and brooms and cleaning objects made from wood and natural materials.
Absolutely the furniture one. I have a chair I found at a habitat for humanity store for $7. It’s solid wood, but just needs a bit of a refinish. Everyone loves that chair everyone wants to sit in it even our pets. Instead of buying a bunk bed for my kids I bought wood, hardware and stain and were building one.
By far the most "troublesome" is all the flimsy crap people buy at Temu and alike. It's not just a waste of resources, it's also that it emanates an impression of... the depressive way our world is going to shit. Not just the environment, but also that dystopian state of mind: always trying to do the bare minimum, having given up on the world and only caring about maximizing production efficiency.
I vividly remember during school from primary-high school fluorescent lights giving me horrible headaches that would be resolved almost immediately when we went outside or turned them off.
Fluorescent lights always made me feel exhausted and like everything around is slightly unreal, so that's basically the way I felt at school and when going to malls.
I love how anti capitalistic the idea of getting rid of company logos is. Being super selective with what you buy and not just going for the first thing you see from a company that doesnt care about the quality or aesthetic of their products. Only profit.
Edit: No reason for anyone to be triggered by my musing if how I create and maintain beauty, in an age that pays to disrupt it. We have thousands of years worth of documentation demonstrating how patriarical colonization capitalized on beauty by exploiting it, than burning down the rest of what wasn't found lucrative. It's gaslighting to pretend you dont know that the world we live in. Otherwise we wouldn't need channels like this to encourage is to hunt for, creat and protect beauty at all costs 🥀 I feel like beauty is a direct opposition to the patchriarcy. Telling people that beauty is to be used up and discarded rather than appreciated and even cherished, seems to be how we prove we are masculine enough to be respected I'm fast-paces patriarchal spaces. I've chosen to live alone as it's the first time I've been able to relish in beauty without jealous women or misogynistic men purposely ruining my beautiful belongings or my peace that comes from undivided attention to beauty. I wish I wouldn't have waited so long as my own beauty is fading now. Thank you for this channel 💐
I’ve been trying to find a new everyday backpack that doesn’t scream college student because I HATE that look, but I carry a lot for school and/or hobbies. I always come to your content for aesthetic inspiration and revitalization. It sort of feels like everything made now is just cheap and ugly
I got this mahogany wine opener from my old job in high school. I worked at a country club waitressing for several years; I disliked the job but learned so much about craftsmanship and quality in the food and beverage industry. I wasn’t supposed to keep the opener but found it sitting in my apron after I had returned home from a shift and felt it wanted to belong to me. So i kept it, and although it has since broke in the many years I’ve had it, I still have such appreciation for it. It is so ornate compared to all the generic metal bottle openers i see. It has a small serrated knife to cut seals and could almost be considered a multitool. The satisfaction I get every time i use it, despite its brokenness, is indescribable. I also use it as a self-defense weapon when walking alone at night, with the corkscrew between my fisted fingers similar to the way people use keys as weapons; doing so makes me feel this seductive sense of power and control that i would not experience using the same method with keys. Listening to you describe your difficulty in finding a wine opener that is beautiful to you reminded me of how much I love that thing, and how it reminds me of all that I learned through those years of country club waitressing and late nights in the city. I’m not sure if it would be your taste but if you are still searching, i encourage you to look into mahogany wine openers! You might find one that you adore.
its literally so frustrating and i am constantly at odds with my mom because she would rather buy things off temu to stay on trend, but i go to thrift stores and antique stores and find the most beautiful items that she calls ugly.
With regard to lighting, I think you would be interested in a short book (long essay?) called "In Praise of Shadows," by Junichiro Tanizaki, about how Japanese culture learned to cultivate beauty within dark spaces, and the harshness of modern, electric lighting. I just heard about it from a short by another youtuber, DamiLeeArch ("Darkness is the richest source of beauty") and the prose itself is so beautiful to read. I think it's right up your alley.
You have inspired me to shove my plastic bin drawers I toyed with the idea of throwing a cute fabric over it but it needs to just be away. It makes me feel so cheap 😭
I used to have random coloured plastic bins for socks & panties. Now I have a dainty wooden shelf with thrifted wicker baskets. 😊 I'm also phasing out plastic coat hangers for metal/fabric ones.
Well said. I remember around 20 yrs ago, I stopped the ugly, it started with news and 29:11 opinion broadcasts. I appreciate you as a being. Good luck!
AHAHAHA, the fake plant one made me laugh out loud, they turn my stomach. Some great tips in this video. You'll notice that your posture will change when you use an elegant pair of scissors or bottle opener. X
finallyyyyyy someone said it about the fake plastic plants 😭 every woman in my life is like “they give the same effect!” no Cindy your electric green rubber succulent with permanently adhered dust gives a rather different effect. If we can’t water plants, dried florals or even a dead branch from outside in a vase is preferable
My rental is very dark due to stupid build decisions. I have a lot of live plants near the window and a few fake ones + dried ones where a regular plant won’t survive. I think they have their uses and they definitely do make a huge difference. It’s that or bare walls for me.
I totally feel this. Another aspect of my life that has been impacted by either beauty or ugliness is my faith. Being in a church that is very bare bones compared to being in a beautiful basilica or cathedral literally elevates your spirituality and elevates like how you see prayer and relationship with God and all of that so 100% I’m going to translate this into other parts of my life and get rid of my ugly keychain Bottle opener and get a fancy beautiful bottle opener haha
I was one of the people who requested such content. Thank you soooooo much for this thoughtfully designed and eloquently presented video. Absolutely agree with everything you've said. ❤ You're a bright beam of light in the noise and din of TH-cam.
The lanyard isn't about beauty. They are essentially signalling to other classmates that yes, they do have a license and a car now. It's a bit of a coming of age status symbol for people ages 16-18. Still tacky though.
I just noticed recently that a ton of things I own and use daily are either free from my job or things I found (literally found on the ground) and they’re not in colors or patterns that I like. I’ve made the decision to slowly switch out those items for ones that make my heart happy. Starting with my umbrella!
This why I am about to start making my own garments. No buying new clothes. It take time and money to make your own stuff, plusI have a feeling it will foster better consumption habits.
Consider a nice restaurant quality wine key in your search for a wine opening tool. Metal, simple, and satisfying to use! As a former server, a big part of the theatre of wine service is using this tool smoothly and elegantly
this video really does not sit well with me. i understand the anti-overconsumption message but to me this video really comes off more judgemental and priviledged than anything. reading through some of the comments i can tell that there are people who are taking this video as encouragement to be more judgemental towards other people's belongings and who now feel validated to talk down on people for owning things that they view as ugly. i don't like that. there are plenty of things that people own and wear that i find ugly but i don't see how it's productive to publicly judge them for it. if somebody owns something, finds it personally beautiful or does not care about how beautiful it is and makes use of it, then that should be enough of a reason for them to keep it no matter how ugly it is to the rest of us. no need to throw away that free bottle opener; how often do you open bottles that it affects your life so negatively that there's an ugly logo on it? and i don't think the financial aspect of only buying aesthetic items even if their use is purely practical should be ignored. it's easy to say "just buy fewer more quality items that will last you longer" or "buy it second hand". that isn't always an option.
The Stanley cup are meant for camping or hiking. That’s it. And there are better ones that doesn’t leak. I’m glad I never got one. Here in Sweden they are almost 70 usd… I think for me as an autistic person having a practical but aesthetic living space and outfit makes so much difference for my mental health and confidence! It might seem like unnecessary, but ugly things really make me sad! There are beautiful things to be found if you have time thrifting or making your own, then it doesn’t have to be a luxury. I had a shopping problem when I was younger so I just repurpose, restore, paint, tailor etc and use the things I accumulated over the years 😅
For someone who usually does my best to give "beautiful" at least 60% of the time, you have convinced me that I need beauty all of the time. And no Stanley Cups. LOL
Although I do not agree with my aunt, she did give me a piece of advice that is quite beautiful: always go for the middle range cookware. The cheap stuff breaks too soon. You will pay more over time. And the expensive stuff is a gimmick. Luxury brands are the ones that feel like an honour to utilise, not the ones you fork out more for. It's the difference between Ballenciaga atrocities and Wittner's classy shoes. Cook your food in pots and pans that you will feel proud to put into your children's glory boxes, then buy a whole new set once they've flown the nest. You should have three sets of cookware maximum in your life: one is given to you by your parents, second is bought and then handed down once it is time, third is thrifted to complete your decor and aesthetic. I have roommates, so the beautfication can only really occur within my room, but it just kills me inside every time I see a fresh bouquet in the massive, plain vase on the kitchen counter. Things with a naturally longer lifetime from their original place which you must watch die is a bad omen for a household. My nanna always said when I picked her a dandelion, "I prefer flowers in the ground. They last longer there, so we can appreciate their beauty for longer too,". The living room in this house looks like a "clean girl" Pinterest board or IKEA show room, when I know for a fact the cupboard where we keep the containers is ugly chaos (and that in and of itself is a necessary evil to put up with). A polished dog turd will still make a child blind. And piss off an autistic person like myself. There's fake chain of hearts plants, one of those vases you see at hipster restaurants with those wirey "dead bushes" that are supposed to emulate cattails or something. The rest of the house screams ugly. And yes, my gossip and criticisms may be ugly hearted. It is simply difficult to have humanity for fake humans. But I do it anyway. Because beautiful people do not criticise what cannot be easily changed except for someone else's behaviour. This talk has gotten me inspired to clear my room of the ugly and the unsightly, of the underappreciated and the hardly used. I won't be able to do it all, due to the fact that I'm a student and need some furniture to hold my clothes and books, but I always knew, my late twenties were going to be the time I began beautifying my life beyond the programming of my youth. And I will still be young past 25, however I know there's a different beauty associated with it. Courageous and nurtured individuation.
You’re entirely correct about all of these! Also I literally just got out a can of spray paint while watching this and spray painted the hideous orange handle of my house scissors gold. Thank you for telling me the harsh truth that I needed to hear! 😅
This is the first video i ever saw of yours a couple weeks ago. Subbing now. Love your perspective on all this type of stuff. It's all stuff I've felt but never really knew how to put into words. Thank you
I have 2 lamps in my living room that are nearly always on, and fairy lights above the cabinets.... It's lovely... But you'd not like the overhead lamps that dont out in often 😂 brightttt daylight bulbs. They are reserved for very spooky winter days and when something I neeeeed to see needs doing. Thanks for your advice again hehe
Even how I hang my clothes to dry is full of beauty, so that I once took a pic 😂 The things we need daily is far more important than a beautiful dress we wear in special occasions. The soul need food. Only soulless people can survive on ugliness.
I'm not going to look for heaven and stars in a Stanley cup. Some things do not, and should not, inspire me or encourage my empathy. It is ugly things which bring me back to the things I find beautiful and that is their only use to me.
Celine I'm not even gonna lie, after I got this keychain I feel so much prettier and womanly. Feels so much better then the ugly ass lanyard I was carrying around in the name of "functionality".
Bravo! I always think of a line from a Jewel song I heard when I was a very young adult. “Maybe if we are surrounded in beauty, someday we will become what we see.”
i disagree that beauty can't be comfortable/about comfort, i would argue that society currently doesn't value accessibility and doesn't want to make tools for accessibility visually appealing. like a wheelchair. that's something that makes transportation more accessible, but it's the ugliest thing on the planet. is that because there's something inherently ugly about a wheeled chair, or because the people producing wheelchairs don't care to infuse beauty/feel-goodness into this tool for accessibility? i agree w a lot of what ur saying (i agree shit around us is ugly and we take that in and feel like shit!), but i disconnect at other points
That's not what I mean about comfort. The comfort I am speaking about is convenience that removes the ritualism and enjoyment of an activity's procedure. Something that used to be a multi-step process, such as preparing a meal for yourself for example, is now delivered in a plastic bag to your front door and eaten out of the carton. This diminishes the experience infinitely. I agree with you that we do not make objects that ensure accessibility, like ramps, wheelchairs, hearing aids, etc. visually appealing either. Medical equipment, though often hideous, exist among some of the most expensive apparatuses you can have in a lifetime. This is truly is something upsetting. It would be really cool if there was some kind of contest for designers to solve this problem.
“you might as well carry around a bag with a plastic bin in it and a straw” slaughtered me 💀 sometimes i feel we’re the same person. and btw this outfit is SEVERELY iconic
The ugliness of the poor quality of things at the stores is slowly killing my soul the world feels icky right now.
I already hate malls and most stores (the florescent lights and the general atmosphere exhausts me), but the poor quality - even of more expensive items - just makes the experience so disappointing and upsetting. Even compared to a few years ago, the same items are of much worse quality. At this point I don't even bother, such a waste of time and energy.
i’m learning how to use a sewing machine currently because how bad a lot of clothes are, and also because i cannot afford what i like atm. not being able to express your inner world through style feels like torture
I feel like we are in the last stages of capitalism its obvious the government doest care an isn't even trying to hide the fact anymore, the rampant gross consumerism a bunch of cheap plastic stuff everywhere..quality ..what's that? everything everywhere is just hideous..I really have to use my imagination now days I feel assaulted by gross an ugliness finding beauty is a battle everyday, ugliness is demoralizing..not to be a Debbie downer or anything but it's the truth anyway thank you for what you do😊
Degenerated world., the ugly blind masses. More and more....
@xw7450 that is great 👍 I start handsew again........I learn myself making clothes. I love clothes from 1900. There is a channel which is inspiring to Sew clothes yourself. Bernadette Banner on TH-cam. ❤
The image with "put the Stanley cup down". I felt that.
Ugh they’re so ugly… no handles plsssss 😭
That cracked me up! I don't own one but I know they're all the rage, and now that I think of it.. they're so ugly.
@free2tingleasmr918
I agree so much. 5 Below has beautiful porcelain type cups with glass straws that are far beyond elegant.
It reminds me of the big stupid cup skit on SNL. 😅
I clicked so fast at that image.
You talking about how ugly recess lighting is made me feel SO understood. I’m always ranting about it and especially now since they’re replacing warm cozy lights with white LED mental hospital lights EVERYWHERE. I have no idea why this is happening but it makes me so upset and depressed. It’s like every year the world just gets…uglier
And people spent so much money drilling holes into their ceilings for it!! Like my parents in law.. they think it’s practical and don’t care though, but it looks ugly and outdated now! Classic lamps and candle holders never go out of style because they are cosy and beautiful!
@@christineh86 i really wish I could understand why the world wants everything to look like a blinding gray and white office or hospital. Films don’t have color like they used to, malls now are a walking universe of white vomit, the warmth of old cities is being replaced by cold led lights and beautiful old houses with beautiful architecture are being murdered and turned into white seclusion rooms. I fear that the only colors that will remain in the future is the green of our grass and the blue of our skies and oceans
I am 💯 with you in this dismay over the LED/ cold/ bright light scourge on the world. My home will always be filled with only warm, soft lighting in defiance of this madness. Wish they’d make blinding LED headlights illegal.
I blame HGTV. Their "modern" home makeovers are most people's only exposure to interior design.
The new front lights in cars are these insanely bright ones, I almost get headaches from them driving during the night, they're blinding as well.. so dangerous actually.
You know, I watched this video when it came out feeling really proud of myself because I had recently invested in this BEAUTIFUL glass water bottle, shaped like a sphere. I crocheted a beautiful linen bag around it that fit perfectly.
Today it was raining. I slipped and fell and my water bottle hit the ground with me and shattered.
I was devastated. I think the dark side of aestheticism is that when you lose/break your everyday objects, it cuts so much deeper. Had it been a regular plastic water bottle, I wouldn't have thought twice. This one? I sat in my car and cried.
Aestheticism grants you a deeper connection with your everyday objects that open you up to a type of grief you didn't know was real.
This.
caring about things can be so exhausting :( so sorry about it your water bottle
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I had a similar experience a few days ago.
One of my favorite mugs, a beautiful blue willow with gold trim, fell from a counter and broke. The problem was, I couldn't just brush it off with "it was just a coffee mug", because it wasn't just a coffee mug. I hope to repair it using kintsugi sometime, but I will never have that same mug again.
I’m disabled and when I tell you that the mobility aids and adaptable tools we have access to are always the UGLIEST POSSIBLE colors and designs. It truly hurts my soul but I have no other options 😞
I just want a CUTE box for my sucky but necessary medication, even that seems too much to ask (=_= )
Would spray painting be something you can do and wouldn’t affect the mobility aids? I think going for a bauhaus post modern style would work with the materials and shape.
@@AlicedeTerre possibly! thankfully my rollator is purple and I just put cool stickers on it haha. I’ll have to try spray painting the wheelchair 😎
I don't know your financial situation but you could get them done by a professional varnisher as well :)
@@marshiemallow5998i literally bought the first pastel purple rollator i could find 😭😭 rough out here
Sometimes things are beautiful because of their backstory: where did you get that? why did you keep that? I don't think this opposes the creator's intent to see more visual beauty, I just wanted to share one other way I perceive "beauty" (which is more like awe of life and its quirks)
For what it's worth? Over the life of your channel, you have changed. You truly are turning into an elegant woman. I know it's process. It takes time and maturity. You are so much on your way. You go girl.
THANK YOU YOU ALL HAVE SEEN SUCH UGLINESS AND MISTAKES FROM ME BUT HERE WE ARE HOMEGROWN AND MOVING AWAY FROM IT
@HeavenSentHoney they say that the joy is in the journey. It tickles me that little things bring you so much pleasure..like soap dispensers and house slippers. You disdain the Stanley cup as much as I do!. It's so fun watching you grow and discover. We are totally in agreement. Ugly is a sin.
She rightfully hates being called "girl'
I recently visited Romania (where my mom is from) and while there I truly felt surrounded by beauty. the architecture of the buildings, the greenery in the streets, the gorgeous interiors of my relatives’ modest apartment, it was all so beautiful. even the shittiest corner stores had limestone masonry. and then I had to go back to southern california where every building is an ugly fucking box with a logo on it, where large, disgusting highways carve into our ugly cities, back to that stupid recessed lighting that was built to strain your eyes. you definitely internalize ugliness, sometimes you don’t even realize how beautiful the world can be.
I'm also from Southern California and absolutely hate the car dependency here lol. I wish the region embraced more of its natural features!
I believe the world needs your message right now. When people feel elevated, they will act and think in an elevated way. We are missing the elegance of our past. We are in a hot mess in the name of “comfort”. I appreciate you. And thank you for giving shopping sites that you like.
I just love how visually dramatic you can be if you want to. It pulls me towards you because i'm also very dramatic (and even perfomative - it's such a pleasure to me).
Love your content.
Kisses, from Rio ⭐️
Feeling utterly alone has been a staple in my past few months; I’ve been too into myself and was convinced no one else thinks remotely close to me. I’ve been feeling suicidal due to this and this video gave me hope. Thank you. I feel community again. You have je ne sais quoi that inspires me to keep going everyday. I like your personality and vibe and I really needed this today. Thank you for existing and creating art :’)
I agree with everything you say except that Beauty is not comfortable, in my view, if something makes you uncomfortable, its not beautiful because its inelegant, anything that’s beautiful and uncomfortable can be made beautiful and comfortable, you just have to try harder
Finally a kindered spirit, I feel like i am going insane. some people just seem to love ugly things, it infuriates me
It takes time to source beautiful things and people are so impatient now. Instant gratification. I genuinely enjoy looking for that perfect, unique thing, even if it takes months. The pleasure is really in the hunt 💕
I've been voraciously consuming your content lately, and I feel so inspired. Some of your videos I'll watch several times over to really get at the meat of what you say. This last week I cleaned out my apartment with wanton abandon, we're talking bags and bags of things I can donate that have served me no purpose besides feeding into my clutter-induced ennui. I feel so relaxed and free now again at home, thanks to you! I also bought my first Anaïs Nin book which I'm elated to start reading.
This morning I awoke to the sight of two dozen flies in my kitchen and bathroom, and while I'm pretty sure they came from the air vent I share with my neighbor, I read that flies are a good omen of change and prosperity, so I can't help but take even their bizarre apparition as a sign that I'm on the correct path. So thank you for your dedication to your channel.
The last couple days I've been cleaning like crazy. I did my fridge, freezer, utensil drawers, microwave. It feels so good to wipe everything down with bleach to start new. Happy Friday 13th
@@Thavar91 The relief is palpable isn't it! I need to do my utensils too. Happy 13th to you as well.
What you’ve conveyed is identical to what I’m currently experiencing, a reflection showcasing ones transformation, harnessing their inner power. I’m incredibly excited to witness what the future holds for us all, the lessons we’ve learnt and the changes we’ve implanted. I hope you have a lovely morning
I LOVE that the flies have significance woah! Fully condone your way of thinking there. Thank you so much for your sweet words, I’m happy you get something out of my videos ❤️❤️❤️
I’m cracking up at “that horrific lanyard.” I feel the same exact way. I have always detested a lanyard. 😂
not me clutching my aesthetic two tone stripe & leather lanyard i got to reconcile my hate of ugly but love of lanyard 💀
There are macrame lanyards going around (or you could follow tutorials here on yt and weave your own) and i think they’re pretty. Just recently made a macrame sling bag with a detachable strap that i could also use as a lanyard. Handmade stuff really hits different and suffice to say that’s my favorite bag that i own!
me clicking on this while sipping on my hot pink fake “stanley” that i bedazzled and put buffy stickers on IJBOL ily queenie
Well, if you genuinely like something, there is no reason to throw it out!
Love that Buffy stickers haha 🩷
@@lumis5896 so real!! just thought the timing of seeing the queenie’s new upload while sipping from my fake stanley was so ijbol
@@lifaen yaz i had to add some slayer stickers to make it slayyyyy🙂↕️
I also have a fake stanley and I decorated it with stickers. I can't throw it out, I take it to work everyday and it's been the only way I've been able to make myself drink the correct amount of water daily
I’ll take that into consideration in my future purchase but I’ll still opt to keep my “ugly “ objects.
The ending was gold, it brings me sadness and despair how we have developed this mentality of quick disposal of things & people. But who shall we blame the product, person or the ditcher ? BOTH. because a cheap poorly made ugly piece will eventually be forced to be replaced, and people that are just like versions of others (they talk same, dress same, think same) with exceptions ofc, will get replaced too. We need radical changes to the society: quality and originality
The shopping experience can be made ugly or beautiful. A lot of shopping now involves staring at a screen and trying to figure out which pictures can even be trusted, wandering through a crowded Walmart… and this was so starkly different from my experience shopping at this place called Aesop, where they washed my hands FOR ME with their products and gave me a special blend of tea to drink as I shopped (it’s a skincare store, they don’t even sell drinks). On the inside of the cup they gave me, there was a Kafka quote: “Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old”. I left the store blushing lmao too bad I can’t afford to go there too much.
This experience sounds lovely
I do think telling people to throw away their cheap things to replace them with something more “elevated” before they’ve run their lifetime is the antithesis of the message you’re trying to get across. needless waste isn’t beautiful.
Agreed. Girl really be hate posting on things that aren’t even trendy rn.
I get as someone who has not seen other videos of mine and isn't familiar with my message that is what it seems like to you. But that could not be further from the truth. Watch any other video I have ever done on beautiful or ugly objects and living. This is an open-ended discussion and series of observations which are to be collected for a kind of unofficial thesis.
I say have very little and let it be beautiful. Take care of the things you have. The objective is to discourage people from buying new things as much as it is to replace it with things that are meaningful and made to withstand time. If you want to let the "ugly" object run its course. So be it. But next time you will know better to be more thoughtful about your choices. If you want to throw it away right now, or find a way to put it back into circulation, there are many well known methods for it. And I rather I'd stop the bad behavior now, and you when you do get that new thing, it will be last of its kind of a long time.
@@HeavenSentHoney i respect the mission, it does come across as wasteful when it’s put into a frame like “throw that lanyard away and buy something else” “get rid of that wine opener” and so on
@@lammilyirl I will be more careful with how I word things in the future. Videos like this are meant to be a bit humorous, but sometimes that can mislead people. Sometimes I forget that I am not speaking to my subscribers but to new people who have no idea who I am and what my intentions are.
However, I do think there is something to be said about making the transition. To get something new, yeah, you have to remove the old thing. You do have to get rid of it.
In a world were tons of shit is being thrown away every millisecond, it can feel a bit like a necessary evil to commit the act once more, cleanse it all and keep the good stuff you've acquired after.
Something I hope to do for myself is to almost entirely rid myself of the disposable and ugly things. And have a solid set of stuff for literally the rest of my life, and live like an ascetic. Granted if something is unable to be repaired, it's lost, stolen, destroyed, or just needs to be exchanged that's perfectly fine. But the rotation on beautiful/well made things is far longer than anything people are used to today. Things are literally designed to deteriorate quickly. I just want my things good and proper and then enjoy them. And if I get tired of them, I'd like to find a way to look at them differently, renew them mentally.
It's this goal which lingers in the back of my head when I make videos like this.
@@lammilyirlI think in a lot of these cases you can always first see if someone else may enjoy the items you don't want: selling them, giving away, asking around in your family, neighborhood apps etc. At least that's what I do. But in the end if an item genuinely makes your life less fun or using it makes you unhappy I don't see a reason to needlessly keep it for the sake of environmental martyrdom. You aren't the largest polluter in the end. And throwing a handful of tiny items away isn't going to remove any oil spills, they will end up in the landfill either now or in a month from now (as modern items don't usually last). Especially if you replace them with items that will last you a lifetime, cheap things can feed into a waste loop.
But I also disagree with a lot of other points in her video such as needless inconvenience as that would also negatively contribute to your mental health especially if you have neurodivergencies that cause you to take the most convenient route anyway. You WILL end up throwing these things away sooner or later. But I already elaborated on that in another comment and don't feel like repeating myself.
I've always hated overhead lighting. I'm constantly turning off lights. This is the first I've ever heard this sentiment repeated by someone else and I appreciate that.
Same and an old friend of mine who moved often uses red
Came for the video---stayed for the graveyard ambience.
Yes yes bright light from above is incredible ugly. Lamps and candles make an absolute difference in a beautiful ambience. It's good to make a vintage lamp yourself. Thank you for putting beauty into the light ❤
Things do carry energy and have a subconscious impact on your sense of worthiness and deserving. Also the energy of poorly made manufactured things by people who are dehumanized carries and energy too. You bring this into your life.
Very well said
somebody finally gets it ! i'm autistic so i think the importance of beauty is very apparent to me as visual stimulation in general is more apparent to me than other people. i used to have trouble brushing my teeth but i got cute toothbrushes in my favorite color, pink, and it motivates me so much to brush my teeth regularly despite my issues :]
Neurodivergant as well and it gets to me too though as a kid and teen and older even I brushed obsessive compulsively and now am so panicky and fatigued and in frequent despair I don't do these things enough while just being in bed too much. Chronic health bs. Lighting and music in my ears and things can help get a few things done though. I am glad the fun toothbrush colors help you:)
As someone who studied industrial design and is obsessed with fashion as well, I resonate with this video intensely!!
in defense of organizers: i have a really beautiful wooden dresser/vanity, totally aesthetic, so chic. BUT,,, there is nowhere near enough room in that thing for everything my BF and I have to put away in it. Not enough space realistically for two people's closets, and this thing is still HUGE. I don't even wanna think about moving it out with us, the thought horrifies me.
Plastic organizers, when tucked away and out of sight, are a great way to cheaply put clothes inside something that dust and bugs can't get to. They look hideous, but with the amount of dresser and closet space I have access to rn, they are a necessary evil in my life.
Thank you for saying this. There has been such a steep decline in quality and beauty EVERYWHERE and it frustrates me so deeply.
I thought of you as I purchased a wooden dish brush at the farmer's market. I've been meaning to since before I discovered your channel actually but your videos are so motivational and it's true that even just a mundane task such as doing the dishes feels more ritualistic, as if I'm living in a Studio Ghibli film. I'm motivated to replace as much plastic junk as possible for finer materials.
i have one of those!! they’re much more effective at scrubbing and more sanitary than sponges too! :):):)
on the note of fake plants, i sadly am not an organized enough person to take care of plants without the inevitable despair of dying soon after buying them, so i have non-plastic fake plants! i have some paper roses and a glass + ceramic potted flower that i find very lovely :) i think part of the ugliness with most fake plants is that they're deceptive, its trying to be beautiful in spite of its character rather than because of it. also cause they're plastic but yknow
buying things second hand is so much better for this and the environment at the same time, the only problem with it is that it takes effort. culture is becoming much more convinience-focused, and I feel like it just feeds into this.
Dim light at night - Can’t agree more ! I always think dim yellow light is magical, but not consciously aware why.
Beauty and art is the most important thing to me in life. I hope people are able to apply the anticonsumption part of your advice. The key to curating beauty in your life is about abstaining and waiting for the things worth waiting for rather than going out of your way to replace things just because they are “ugly”. The whole point is that things should not be disposable. So, if you can find the beauty in using the things that have served you until they no longer can and be mindful when it’s time to replace things that’s the best. Something I did recently to scratch the itch of change though is cover my worn ugly reusable bags with some cool fabric I got from the thrift store.
Edit to add: if you really can’t stand something, try to give it away in a local buy nothing before the thrift.
im living for this look!! and the thumbnail with ''put the Stanley cup down'' is the most iconic you've made
Yes, we are internalizing the beauty we see. I feel beautiful when I see beauty.
yes!!!!!!!!!!!
I've always hated overhead lights. My life changed when I got remote control outlets. I plug my vintage lamps (that are super annoying to turn on) into the plugs and can conveniently turn them on / off.
Media has tunnel visioned so many things to where items of quality and beauty are not even manifest in thought. You seek and search for beauty. Thank you for the hard work.
I die a little more inside when I see someone wearing Crocs.
Rest in peace
bruh 😂😂@@salem2554
I was in line at Victoria's Secret this week and there was a lady making a return. She had been there like 10 minutes earlier but went back because she was so indecisive and made a mess out of the transactions because she had multiple receipts. I already had a negative impression of her due to that. She was wearing Crocs and taking her feet in and out of them.
Absolutely not.
crocs + stanley cup + lululemon leggings the dark triad
i love crocs, they make me feel like a dad (im a 19 year old girl), i havent gotten to the no socks level yet but i aspire
If people don’t want to give up recessed lights, changing from cool to warm bulbs and/or adding a dimmer switch can make a massive difference. Skip “daylight” or “bright white” bulbs. Then you can add in lamps/etc as well.
7:25 Smart bulbs with a programmed switch/mounted remote CHANGED my lighting life. I had the cold ugly recessed lighting in my apt (and hated it) but putting the mounted switch next to the actual switch I was able to control my dimmed lamps and pendant lights as quickly as involuntarily as "turning on the big light." It was convenient AND beautiful.
This resonates with me so much! Daily I find myself disappointed in how little thought and beauty we put into the things around us and the spaces we live in. I pet sit and therefore get to see the way many many people live. I don't know how people think straight when they are surrounded by so much plastic and chaos, so many unnecessary and unattractive things. I would much rather have one beautiful teacup, than 50+ awkward, logo covered, hideous mugs (like where I'm currently staying).
i think the reason people have keychains & lanyards with company logos in college is because a lot of times there will be fairs where useful junk like that is given out for free! I don't encourage overconsumption so i'm gonna continue loving my ugly free items though! The scissors thing really spoke to me though, I had a beautiful pair of thread cutting scissors, i lost them but I miss them! so i get what your overall point in this video of beauty in details bringing more appreciation to life
oh i could talk about this for daaaayyyyssss. i'm so happy i found your channel a few days ago. aesthetics are such a focus in my life and it's nice to feel comfort in that when watching your videos.
exactly how i feel about those ugly cups! 😂
i resonated with what you said about coming into contact with the creator when you use quality things, it made me think about human relationships and how everytime we commune with another person we’re coming into contact with the divine creators, how beautiful
She really roasted my scissors. How'd she know mine are red and gray 🥲
lmao same. i have no idea how i even got them, but i've somehow owned them since the first time i moved out
you’ve always delivered beautiful content, but lately, it has just been breathtaking! the scenery and your outfit and your words… chef’s kiss!
I was worried the outdoor scenery would be getting boring to you all but I’m so happy it isn’t!! I’ll keep it up. Maybe even when it gets cold haha
Thank you so much ❤️
@@HeavenSentHoney truly the opposite! even the moment when the light hit the camera was beautiful.
Dita Von Tease appears to be a maximalist and she does it so beautifully .Take a look in her home for it is stuffed full of objects ,absolutely beautiful objects ..She has a glass cabinet displaying an assortment of powder puffs ,some of which are vintage . They are truly exquisite .
True. I live in a disfunctional home with a hoarder and everyone in my life is factually out to get me in one way or another, but I get to pray under pretty night lights!
I want you to know just how deeply you've drilled this message into my brain. I was at an estate sale and got exceedingly excited about a box of stationary and pens/pencils. I have so many lovely stainless steel pens and mechanical pencils now. My brother-in-law's home has become a bit of a milestone - he has almost ZERO plastic in his home. Even his broom and dustpan are beautiful metal and natural fibers. We fell down a rabbit hole of this German-based shop that specialized in brushes and brooms and cleaning objects made from wood and natural materials.
Absolutely the furniture one. I have a chair I found at a habitat for humanity store for $7. It’s solid wood, but just needs a bit of a refinish. Everyone loves that chair everyone wants to sit in it even our pets.
Instead of buying a bunk bed for my kids I bought wood, hardware and stain and were building one.
You look like a GODDESS
By far the most "troublesome" is all the flimsy crap people buy at Temu and alike. It's not just a waste of resources, it's also that it emanates an impression of... the depressive way our world is going to shit. Not just the environment, but also that dystopian state of mind: always trying to do the bare minimum, having given up on the world and only caring about maximizing production efficiency.
I vividly remember during school from primary-high school fluorescent lights giving me horrible headaches that would be resolved almost immediately when we went outside or turned them off.
Fluorescent lights always made me feel exhausted and like everything around is slightly unreal, so that's basically the way I felt at school and when going to malls.
Same!
I love how anti capitalistic the idea of getting rid of company logos is. Being super selective with what you buy and not just going for the first thing you see from a company that doesnt care about the quality or aesthetic of their products. Only profit.
Also no logo mean you can get it made by a seamstress or artisan , wich in some case may even end up better quality for cheaper
Edit: No reason for anyone to be triggered by my musing if how I create and maintain beauty, in an age that pays to disrupt it. We have thousands of years worth of documentation demonstrating how patriarical colonization capitalized on beauty by exploiting it, than burning down the rest of what wasn't found lucrative. It's gaslighting to pretend you dont know that the world we live in. Otherwise we wouldn't need channels like this to encourage is to hunt for, creat and protect beauty at all costs 🥀
I feel like beauty is a direct opposition to the patchriarcy. Telling people that beauty is to be used up and discarded rather than appreciated and even cherished, seems to be how we prove we are masculine enough to be respected I'm fast-paces patriarchal spaces. I've chosen to live alone as it's the first time I've been able to relish in beauty without jealous women or misogynistic men purposely ruining my beautiful belongings or my peace that comes from undivided attention to beauty. I wish I wouldn't have waited so long as my own beauty is fading now. Thank you for this channel 💐
Real beauty never fades 💜
How old are you?
Black and white thinking...
Yeah Leonardo de vinci and michelangelo terrible patriarchs
Why gender has to be brought is depressing. Shakespeare, warhol, motzart, dali??.....
I’ve been trying to find a new everyday backpack that doesn’t scream college student because I HATE that look, but I carry a lot for school and/or hobbies. I always come to your content for aesthetic inspiration and revitalization. It sort of feels like everything made now is just cheap and ugly
I got this mahogany wine opener from my old job in high school. I worked at a country club waitressing for several years; I disliked the job but learned so much about craftsmanship and quality in the food and beverage industry. I wasn’t supposed to keep the opener but found it sitting in my apron after I had returned home from a shift and felt it wanted to belong to me. So i kept it, and although it has since broke in the many years I’ve had it, I still have such appreciation for it. It is so ornate compared to all the generic metal bottle openers i see. It has a small serrated knife to cut seals and could almost be considered a multitool. The satisfaction I get every time i use it, despite its brokenness, is indescribable. I also use it as a self-defense weapon when walking alone at night, with the corkscrew between my fisted fingers similar to the way people use keys as weapons; doing so makes me feel this seductive sense of power and control that i would not experience using the same method with keys. Listening to you describe your difficulty in finding a wine opener that is beautiful to you reminded me of how much I love that thing, and how it reminds me of all that I learned through those years of country club waitressing and late nights in the city. I’m not sure if it would be your taste but if you are still searching, i encourage you to look into mahogany wine openers! You might find one that you adore.
The thumbnail with the outfit and 'put the stanley cup down' is *chef's kiss.*
This is how I feel about apple watches
HEAVYYYY on the dim lighting
so validating, ppl have always given me a hard time for doing stuff in dim lighting.
I love that you touched on beautiful (and sometimes dim) lighting indoors.
its literally so frustrating and i am constantly at odds with my mom because she would rather buy things off temu to stay on trend, but i go to thrift stores and antique stores and find the most beautiful items that she calls ugly.
With regard to lighting, I think you would be interested in a short book (long essay?) called "In Praise of Shadows," by Junichiro Tanizaki, about how Japanese culture learned to cultivate beauty within dark spaces, and the harshness of modern, electric lighting. I just heard about it from a short by another youtuber, DamiLeeArch ("Darkness is the richest source of beauty") and the prose itself is so beautiful to read. I think it's right up your alley.
my venutian queen!
You have inspired me to shove my plastic bin drawers I toyed with the idea of throwing a cute fabric over it but it needs to just be away. It makes me feel so cheap 😭
I used to have random coloured plastic bins for socks & panties. Now I have a dainty wooden shelf with thrifted wicker baskets. 😊 I'm also phasing out plastic coat hangers for metal/fabric ones.
Well said.
I remember around 20 yrs ago, I stopped the ugly, it started with news and 29:11 opinion broadcasts. I appreciate you as a being. Good luck!
AHAHAHA, the fake plant one made me laugh out loud, they turn my stomach.
Some great tips in this video. You'll notice that your posture will change when you use an elegant pair of scissors or bottle opener. X
finallyyyyyy someone said it about the fake plastic plants 😭 every woman in my life is like “they give the same effect!” no Cindy your electric green rubber succulent with permanently adhered dust gives a rather different effect. If we can’t water plants, dried florals or even a dead branch from outside in a vase is preferable
My rental is very dark due to stupid build decisions. I have a lot of live plants near the window and a few fake ones + dried ones where a regular plant won’t survive. I think they have their uses and they definitely do make a huge difference. It’s that or bare walls for me.
I totally feel this. Another aspect of my life that has been impacted by either beauty or ugliness is my faith. Being in a church that is very bare bones compared to being in a beautiful basilica or cathedral literally elevates your spirituality and elevates like how you see prayer and relationship with God and all of that so 100% I’m going to translate this into other parts of my life and get rid of my ugly keychain Bottle opener and get a fancy beautiful bottle opener haha
I was one of the people who requested such content. Thank you soooooo much for this thoughtfully designed and eloquently presented video. Absolutely agree with everything you've said. ❤ You're a bright beam of light in the noise and din of TH-cam.
I love being a curator of beauty 💕
The lines of your arms, shoulders, collarbones 🫰
The lanyard isn't about beauty. They are essentially signalling to other classmates that yes, they do have a license and a car now. It's a bit of a coming of age status symbol for people ages 16-18. Still tacky though.
New fav you tuber you just get me on a spiritual level
I just noticed recently that a ton of things I own and use daily are either free from my job or things I found (literally found on the ground) and they’re not in colors or patterns that I like.
I’ve made the decision to slowly switch out those items for ones that make my heart happy. Starting with my umbrella!
the list is so spot on of course, the Stanley cup rant had me cracking UP! and gurrrlll, I am right there with you on the lighting! makes my eyes hurt
This why I am about to start making my own garments. No buying new clothes. It take time and money to make your own stuff, plusI have a feeling it will foster better consumption habits.
ooo girl when ur channel said 'heaven sent' YOU AINT LYING
Consider a nice restaurant quality wine key in your search for a wine opening tool. Metal, simple, and satisfying to use! As a former server, a big part of the theatre of wine service is using this tool smoothly and elegantly
this video really does not sit well with me. i understand the anti-overconsumption message but to me this video really comes off more judgemental and priviledged than anything. reading through some of the comments i can tell that there are people who are taking this video as encouragement to be more judgemental towards other people's belongings and who now feel validated to talk down on people for owning things that they view as ugly. i don't like that. there are plenty of things that people own and wear that i find ugly but i don't see how it's productive to publicly judge them for it.
if somebody owns something, finds it personally beautiful or does not care about how beautiful it is and makes use of it, then that should be enough of a reason for them to keep it no matter how ugly it is to the rest of us. no need to throw away that free bottle opener; how often do you open bottles that it affects your life so negatively that there's an ugly logo on it?
and i don't think the financial aspect of only buying aesthetic items even if their use is purely practical should be ignored. it's easy to say "just buy fewer more quality items that will last you longer" or "buy it second hand". that isn't always an option.
The Stanley cup are meant for camping or hiking. That’s it. And there are better ones that doesn’t leak. I’m glad I never got one. Here in Sweden they are almost 70 usd… I think for me as an autistic person having a practical but aesthetic living space and outfit makes so much difference for my mental health and confidence! It might seem like unnecessary, but ugly things really make me sad! There are beautiful things to be found if you have time thrifting or making your own, then it doesn’t have to be a luxury. I had a shopping problem when I was younger so I just repurpose, restore, paint, tailor etc and use the things I accumulated over the years 😅
Ever since I've heard you talk about bringing beautiful things in our lives I think about it every day now. Thank you so much. ❤
For someone who usually does my best to give "beautiful" at least 60% of the time, you have convinced me that I need beauty all of the time. And no Stanley Cups. LOL
7:25 real i even put a pink sunset lamp in my bathroom cause the big light at night made me feel insane😭
Although I do not agree with my aunt, she did give me a piece of advice that is quite beautiful: always go for the middle range cookware. The cheap stuff breaks too soon. You will pay more over time. And the expensive stuff is a gimmick.
Luxury brands are the ones that feel like an honour to utilise, not the ones you fork out more for. It's the difference between Ballenciaga atrocities and Wittner's classy shoes.
Cook your food in pots and pans that you will feel proud to put into your children's glory boxes, then buy a whole new set once they've flown the nest. You should have three sets of cookware maximum in your life: one is given to you by your parents, second is bought and then handed down once it is time, third is thrifted to complete your decor and aesthetic.
I have roommates, so the beautfication can only really occur within my room, but it just kills me inside every time I see a fresh bouquet in the massive, plain vase on the kitchen counter. Things with a naturally longer lifetime from their original place which you must watch die is a bad omen for a household. My nanna always said when I picked her a dandelion, "I prefer flowers in the ground. They last longer there, so we can appreciate their beauty for longer too,".
The living room in this house looks like a "clean girl" Pinterest board or IKEA show room, when I know for a fact the cupboard where we keep the containers is ugly chaos (and that in and of itself is a necessary evil to put up with). A polished dog turd will still make a child blind. And piss off an autistic person like myself. There's fake chain of hearts plants, one of those vases you see at hipster restaurants with those wirey "dead bushes" that are supposed to emulate cattails or something. The rest of the house screams ugly. And yes, my gossip and criticisms may be ugly hearted. It is simply difficult to have humanity for fake humans. But I do it anyway. Because beautiful people do not criticise what cannot be easily changed except for someone else's behaviour.
This talk has gotten me inspired to clear my room of the ugly and the unsightly, of the underappreciated and the hardly used. I won't be able to do it all, due to the fact that I'm a student and need some furniture to hold my clothes and books, but I always knew, my late twenties were going to be the time I began beautifying my life beyond the programming of my youth. And I will still be young past 25, however I know there's a different beauty associated with it. Courageous and nurtured individuation.
you’re like a prophetess taking a message that was on my heart and delivering it in words that i could never….
You’re entirely correct about all of these! Also I literally just got out a can of spray paint while watching this and spray painted the hideous orange handle of my house scissors gold. Thank you for telling me the harsh truth that I needed to hear! 😅
This is the first video i ever saw of yours a couple weeks ago. Subbing now. Love your perspective on all this type of stuff. It's all stuff I've felt but never really knew how to put into words. Thank you
I have 2 lamps in my living room that are nearly always on, and fairy lights above the cabinets.... It's lovely... But you'd not like the overhead lamps that dont out in often 😂 brightttt daylight bulbs. They are reserved for very spooky winter days and when something I neeeeed to see needs doing.
Thanks for your advice again hehe
Even how I hang my clothes to dry is full of beauty, so that I once took a pic 😂
The things we need daily is far more important than a beautiful dress we wear in special occasions. The soul need food. Only soulless people can survive on ugliness.
I want to challenge you to find beauty in the things you find ugly and offensive, this for me is what elevates the experience.
I'm not going to look for heaven and stars in a Stanley cup. Some things do not, and should not, inspire me or encourage my empathy. It is ugly things which bring me back to the things I find beautiful and that is their only use to me.
@@HeavenSentHoney Well put.
I love your takes, and also the contrarian in me wants a Stanley cup now
With the carrying sling :P
Celine I'm not even gonna lie, after I got this keychain I feel so much prettier and womanly. Feels so much better then the ugly ass lanyard I was carrying around in the name of "functionality".
I read this in the “put that cookie down now” tone
Bravo!
I always think of a line from a Jewel song I heard when I was a very young adult. “Maybe if we are surrounded in beauty, someday we will become what we see.”
i disagree that beauty can't be comfortable/about comfort, i would argue that society currently doesn't value accessibility and doesn't want to make tools for accessibility visually appealing. like a wheelchair. that's something that makes transportation more accessible, but it's the ugliest thing on the planet. is that because there's something inherently ugly about a wheeled chair, or because the people producing wheelchairs don't care to infuse beauty/feel-goodness into this tool for accessibility? i agree w a lot of what ur saying (i agree shit around us is ugly and we take that in and feel like shit!), but i disconnect at other points
That's not what I mean about comfort. The comfort I am speaking about is convenience that removes the ritualism and enjoyment of an activity's procedure. Something that used to be a multi-step process, such as preparing a meal for yourself for example, is now delivered in a plastic bag to your front door and eaten out of the carton. This diminishes the experience infinitely.
I agree with you that we do not make objects that ensure accessibility, like ramps, wheelchairs, hearing aids, etc. visually appealing either. Medical equipment, though often hideous, exist among some of the most expensive apparatuses you can have in a lifetime. This is truly is something upsetting. It would be really cool if there was some kind of contest for designers to solve this problem.
“you might as well carry around a bag with a plastic bin in it and a straw” slaughtered me 💀 sometimes i feel we’re the same person. and btw this outfit is SEVERELY iconic
This is brilliant insight.
Not only from a consumer perspective, but a creator's.
Beauty is highly subjective