Man, I went through this a few years ago, and it took me years to get over the hurt I felt. Fast forward, I'm now married to someone amazing. My wife and I were in Walmart, and I ran into said woman who friendzoned/ditched me. I introduced her to my wife, and I will never forget the evil stare she gave my wife.
@linus5489 thank you, my dude. It hurts, because I finally bet on myself, thinking the feelings were mutual. Bit they weren't, and now I've lost one of the best people I've ever met. I wasn't even hiding anything at first. I just wanted to be her friend, because I came to the understanding years ago that I don't deserve happiness, that I'm going to die alone for a multitude of reasons, not least of which is no libido due to testicular cancer and mental health medication. But she was special, and sparked something I thought was long dead inside me. So I decided to shoot my shot, and now she's gone. I could have kept my mouth shut and just been happy with her friendship.
@@farmoarhey man, what you're saying sounds absolutelly awfull. I'm sorry to hear about your medical problems and what happened to you. I'm not a psychologist or a self help-goeroe so I won't give you advice like "chin up, it'l be alright", but i can talk to you. I know it feels good to have such a friendship. it makes you feel worthwile knowing someone cares about you (in my experience). It takes such courage to take that shot (especially when it all seems so certain) and then the terrible pain of such a rejection. When someone so special leaves your life forever it hurts even more but don't let it be the end of you because even a stranger can care about you. You've felt joy before and you deserve happiness, don't let this one event stop you from ever shooting your shot again. You can find hapiness and make new friends, life around us changes faster than we as people change. Best of luck mate.
I'd deffo date almost any of my female friends (the single ones lol). I mean, I'm kind of a lovey-dovey, but I really mean it since they're all genuinely good people and so beautiful in my eyes and factually. I still can see them as friends and genuinely be their friend, tho. I've generally had no trouble separating my friendship from any other feelings I've had or have. I just believe my heart will belong to anyone who really wants to claim it and give me hers to claim it as well. Until then, I just might live everyday enduring the sweet torture of my silly infatuations or whatever, like a male Mabel (Gravity Falls), but without doing anything too compromised about it, bc of ethics and protecting everyone's feelings, including my own. Just enough to keep the possibilities open. At least I try. They all deserve someone who knows what he wants.
The good news is as a friend you can watch from afar as she gets her heart broken by a few Blakes before she finally learns here lesson and comes running back to...a Slade and invites you to their wedding where all of her sisters and bridesmaids are also either married or in happy relationships with more attractive and more personable men.
what about the pain of the girl? it is super uncomfortable when your friend just flips on you like that, it's creepy and a lot of pressure. much better to be upfront with people from the start.
My whole life, I always thought you be friends before you date, never thought people just randomly date, and have deep feelings. It shocked me when people would complain about being friendzoned. Becuase isn't that literally the step before you date?? You get to know them as a friend, then you become a bf/gf.
Nahhhh I'd rather be direct and get rejected then live like this. Like hell on earth. Thank you for this PSA. Your videos are actually really hard to watch sometimes to the point that I learn life lessons from them. You're doing Gods work out here 🙌 🙏
Spot on. You're allowed to be in your feels about not being liked back, but nobody owes you anything, and also, we don't choose who we have feelings for
If you for real have feelings for someone who doesn't like you back at all you should just not hang out with them it's not going to turn out well for you.
@@darkcircle899 true it's going to be too painful for you. And you can stick around in an attempt to be a good friend to them and not abandon them, but if it messes your head up, you're not being fair to yourself
@@adibsiddiki7409This happened to me and I regret staying friends with my ex 😢 We broke up twice and both times I stayed her friend but I couldn’t take it anymore. When we were thinking about getting back together a third time
No, no she would certainly not.. 🤦🏼😂 lmao! Jealous? Sure, women want what they can’t have.. But that’s not exactly new under the sun, but it definitely does not turn her complete lack of attraction into sudden attraction dude… Women wants confident guys who’re not afraid to show them early on that they’re into them.. A dude waiting several years and ”going the safe route” is just about the least attractive behavior there is to a girl.. (well at least to about 99.9% of them)
It happened to me. But by then, I had moved on. You see, I coped by realizing she had a couple things about her I didn't like. She literally waited until I found someone else. I divorced this someone else and now, years later, I can't stop thinking about her.
Been through this. For years, she always said “I wish I could find a guy like you” But…I’M a guy like me. I got brave, I got rejected and she said I don’t feel that way about you. Hurt like a MF. Because it felt like if the one person in the world that knows me best and enjoys my company the most doesn’t want me, no one would. Took a long time to get over that. A long time. Eventually, I realized that it’s more about attraction, but still. It also hurts that she will assume you’ve just been after her pants the entire friendship and that you somehow betrayed her by hiding your true intentions. But women don’t understand that us guys can have zero attraction to you, but once we’ve become some emotionally vulnerable and available to you, a flip switches and suddenly you’re the most beautiful girl in the world. That’s why it’s best to avoid too much intimate physical touch and too much emotional openness in a platonic friendship. It’s tough. That f*king sucked, man.
I've seen this happen with friends more than once. On a couple of occasions they realized they should have been together as more than friends and regretted that they hadn't.
Gotta hit it straight out the gate man, they say there’s a 2/3 week window before the friendzone kicks in. You spare yourself the insanity, you know what your intentions are so just take the leap and go for it and if rejected just move on.
@@mast3rchief536guess fhis “2/3 week timespan before friendzone kicks in” will stick in my head. either way I just recently learned by myself too that yeah, keeping it too much inside just leads to reciprocal suffering and I can’t stress enough how much of a joy and relief it’s been for me to finally step up and communicate my feelings to her. it was only the expression inability that I slowly cooked myself into that was killing me, nothing else (and to whomever is in that same situation, I know these words may only sound annoying and painful but I swear, what I personally did and worked for me was to finally find the courage to express myself and find joy back again in it. the point is that you try to listen to your heart without suffocating it with a clutter of fear and attachment)
This sorta crap happened to me with a girl I'll call "ki" (not her real name), she was an exchange student and we met and we were pretty good friends from the start. We constantly laughed at each other's jokes and stupid moments and enjoyed talking to eachother. We spent the whole year doing things together and apparently all our friends said we should get together but for some dumb reason I never realised I cared for her that much. But when she left I got really sad and I realised that every time we hugged or hit eachother because we were "friends" was actually because we were supposed to be more. But I'll probably never see her again because she lives on the opposite end of the world.
I have literally witnessed this exact dynamic in real life. My sister has a friend whom I have mentally dubbed "the tragic one" who is blatantly, obviously in love with her and she either has no idea or just doesn't know how to handle it, and it's _rough_ to watch. I feel like I need to take off my hat like Captain Jack Sparrow floating past the hanging pirates every time I see him.
Established boundaries are top priority. There’s a difference between being in the friend zone and being friends: one implies you want out. Don’t lead a girl on that you just want to be friends if you have deeper motives or feelings. And if they start to come up, communicate them immediately. If this has happened to you as a guy, you have yourself to blame. Also note, you can have flirty friendships if you’re both single, just establish boundaries and expectations. 99% of the pain is choosing not to communicate.
You see, at around the 1:15 mark, when she's saying that she'd be disgusted by being confessed to, all he needed to say was "I mean, i'd be fine with it" or something similar. This would allow him to more subtly introduce the topic when it was naturally already brought up. This has two main benefits, namely that you can very easily backpedal and play it off as a joke if she doesn't respond well, but also that it doesn't come off as nearly as clingy or desperate as the confession at the end, and thus even if she says no, you end up with a much higher chance of keeping your friendship since you weren't weird about it.
I turned down a guy in high school once because I didn’t want to ruin a good friendship. Then, in college, I started dating him. Our relationship is literally the best, I couldn’t have asked for a better person. PLEASE date your best friends, there isn’t anyone else who will be as loyal or as loving and caring.
I didn't turn down my late husband - but he definitely started as a friend and straight to best friend in a matter of weeks - it was a long distance thing and I was able to get to know him for about 8 or 9 months before I met him in person. That very first meeting was when I instantly knew that friendship wasn't meant for us - we were meant for something way more. I have NO clue why girls refuse to date a guy friend. They are literally the best. Because as you age - when your looks are gone - you need that friendship to keep you going. If you're planning on marrying simply for the bedroom fun or because he's got a 6 pack or his looks... you won't last without a solid foundation of friendship. There will be times when stress and pain will make the physical things disappear - and it's what you have as a relationship that will keep you going. I know, I know, I'll get replies from others who will say... "ugh, but I just can't *SEE* him like *that* ." Then maybe you need to readjust priorities. To me: a guy who is there to have my back when I'm having a bad day is way more appealing than a 6 pack on a guy who doesn't even realize I'm upset. A guy who looks at me and can't imagine life any other way than to be by my side while walking life together is something I feel deep down instead of a guy who is a 6", makes 6 figures, and is over 6' if he rather go do things by himself and ignores you (Also - I'm 6'... and my late husband was shorter than me - so it's not impossible to love someone who isn't taller than you). A guy who will give back to you as much as you give to him and is as invested in you as you are to him is way more of a turn on than someone who looks good - and knows he does - and doesn't care if he gets pleasure in other places. And, of course, there will be those who say "it's not impossible to have the physical *and* everything else you're talking down about!" - you're right. It's not. But you're talking a very tiny percentage of men and every other woman chasing him - unless you're top tier quality your chances are just as slim. There are more guys out there with the emotional side of priorities in line but get passed over for not having "ideal physical attributes" than guys with it *and* the "ideal." They're just as appealing when you get to know him and have your priorities set to ones that will actually stand the test of time.
Okay so I might need some advice. It's such a long story though but whatever (I cringe even typing it out lol). I have a friend but I don't know who's friendzoning who. To be honest I do like them...a lot. But it's so confusing and I'm not in the proper headspace for a relationship. I think they were trying to confess earlier but I kinda wanted them to be more direct with it and when they confirmed it wasn't what I thought it was I wrote and I quote, "I would've had a stroke" :/ Looking back maybe that was a turn off for them, maybe I was self sabotaging idk? But I do like them and those feelings haven't gone away for a while. Uhhhh, this was a rant and I kinda do want your help soooo 😂
@@Oompaloompaseverywhere i think it should end at "I'm not in the proper headspace for a relationship". forcing a relationship especially when you know you're not ready for one is one of the worst things you could do to yourself. take your time to get better and only when you feel ready you may even consider going forward with that
Legit, the reason we are friends is because the hope of a chance is what’s keeping it there. But there’s a point where the friendship will be ruined after your friend decides to stop playing games because they will find someone else and date them instead.
if you make sure to be seen as a friend you will always be a friend cuz that's how you're presenting yourself, if you don't push yourself to only be seen as that and just act friendly things might be different
Sadly, I've been through this a number of times. Man, my timing with telling girls how I feel is off the mark... Regardless, this video popped up in my feed a couple hours ago. I've watched around a dozen of your videos just now! You all are gonna blow up soon. These remind me of the videos that Buzzfeed USED to do long ago when they had a solid team of people working there. Shoot, darn near all of these videos are ones that I can relate to on a personal level OR I know friends who were or are still in relationships like the ones you all bring to life. Keep up the good work!
@@mikeybrockmann Yup i don't think man and woman can be real friends, one or other side will get hurt at one point no matter what, we guys usually want to hit at one point even if it's platonic bcs that's just how psychical attraction works for us man, for girls it's more emotionally related to get hook up to guy even thought psychical attraction is important for both sides but still we guys are more animalistic in that manner.
@@Kitulous Am talking about nature of straight people I don't really know about gays or bi in that matter, also am not saying that they can't be friends but usually between straight man and woman if they are really good friends one of them will usually eventually want something more not just friendship.
Come on maaannnn. This ain't no fairy tale!! 🙄🤦♂️ The next authentic response would be: "Oh, I broke up with Bob.... bc I started "messing around" with Mike who is a coworker on my shift. 🙄 He's soooo cute and funny! 🤬 What do you think "insert your name here?" 😳🥺😭 To think for a quick second, you might have had a chance.. 🙅♂️🙅♂️
It's probably the worst feeling, coming so close to telling them yet never doing so, and when you finally do, things just come crashing down. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.
Having been in this boat on both sides it’s actually a relief saying it and then she no longer wants to be friends because it just exposes that she never actually valued the friendship in the first place. As for the reverse, my best friend who I’ve known since I was three came out when we were 20 and a year later said he liked me. He got over it and I was his best man at his wedding. Like the very idea of me saying goodbye to a friendship because he values me so highly that he loves me is actually crazy. You never want to be friendzoned by someone who just throws away friendship like it’s nothing.
I went through a really kind version of this 12 years ago with my best friend and dream girl. Wrote her a song to help me communicate how I felt about her. Didn’t get the answer I hoped for. Fast forward to now, we are now dating and talking about marriage. Come to find she listens to that song I wrote her all the time and it makes her tear up. Life is a ride. Never give up hope on the things you deeply want, but also don’t let anything keep you stuck and hold you back from moving forward. You never know how things will turn out.
@@embrace411 Definitely one way to look at it. To provide more context, neither of us were who the other needed at the time. With some years of growing, it just so happens we both grew into what the other was looking for. Little bit of serendipity there. She left a relationship of 8 years to move forward with me. Did she settle? Maybe, but who she settled with/on is the question.
That’s… pretty heartwarming actually. I wouldn’t say she settled, but it’s not like it matters. Love isn’t about comparison and the concept of 1st or 2nd pick kinda fades away once you’re in a relationship. Kinda just talking cuz I’m certainly not speaking from experience, but whatever.
That said, people, do not take on the mindset that if a girl says no you just keep trying. That's not how that works. You never know how things will turn out, but you can't force it.
When she started coming of age where options are no longer Henry Cavill, she was lucky that you were still a lonely single man after 12 years time..... by then I pray I have become a confident well off man with options of my own
… This is so painfully real. Knowing you need to keep your feelings hidden inside because you know they will not be met with the same feelings. But you also don’t want to hurt them or stopp being their friend cause it’s also not their fault they are not feeling the same way.
friends to lovers is litterally how I got my girlfriend. TBF i think it's the best and most natural way which one sounds more natural for humans: downloading an app and setting up meetings in places [dates] with random people? and then decide if you'll make them your partner? or get close with your friends and when you see some chemistry between you and one of them, slowly get closer and if you see them respond do it do something.
Happened to with my former best friend from high school. We became best friends in 2011 and in 2012 I realized I was in love with her, but was afraid to tell her because she had an experience of a friend falling in love with her and they ended the friendship. Fast forward to 2018, I decided to tell her, and said since when I had these feelings and what she meant for me, and if she didn't want anything romantic I would still want her as friend. She said it was alright but after started to treat me like if I had some viral disease.
She did that because aside from the fact that then things feel awkward around the guy, but a lot of guys will become passive aggressive or constantly bring it up and try to guilt-trip you just for not being romantically interested in them. It’s easier for women to just count their losses and just keep the people who only see them platonically as friends and avoid strained/awkward friendships, ulterior motives and resentment from the men they turned down.
@@BehindTheBush96 she knew me for 6 years, I wasn't any guy and I would've never be disrespectful with her or tried to force her, like another guy did and ironically that guy she was okay in having him as a friend again. Sure, I wasn't feeling happy when she said she didn't want me as boyfriend, but I accepted the decision and part of me expected this. But she didn't have to treat me like shit.
There comes a point where you have to test the friendship and just whip it out but at a clutch moment. She's not a true friend if she can't appreciate that you took a shot and if she stays friends she knows the option is there.
I think if you’re in this situation but don’t think your friend has the maturity to handle a confession well, the winning move is always to find and date another partner. Either you’re happy with the partner and it works out, or things end and now you and your friend have a lot more clarity on how they feel about you. Plus no matter what, you’ve created some healthy distance between the two of you.
This is literally what i did but now i’m over a year into a relationship but my feelings about my boyfriend are complicated and i’m still not sure it’s love. It didn’t change anything about my relationship with my friend, he accepted it and was happy for me. I still don’t know if i made the right choice
this is like the worst advice ever no? at that point you are basically just toying with the person you are dating and you are digging yourself a hole where you are going to have to make a really heartbreaking decision at the end, literally just lose/lose
The winning move is to never be in this situation in the first place. If you like a girl gotta make a move ASAP. If she rejects you then you can become friends if you both want to, and it will be easy for you as you’ll know from the get go there’s no chance of romance
Crazy how women think saying stuff like "The thought of you even asking me out makes me want to puke." is ok to say to someone they consider a friend. I had a girl I was friends with (I did find her attractive/fun to be with but realized if we were dating, it would be toxic and not work out and not worth it since we were co-workers) and she told me "I'm so glad you never asked me out" when we were just talking one time.
The guy deserves it if he just takes that shit & doesn't put her in her place. No need for that level of disrespect & inconsideration toward someone you call a friend.
I think from a woman's perspective, saying "I'm so glad you never asked me out" is just expressing gratitude that you can be friends without the awkward, messy ending of having to shoot down a romance. I don't think it's really about you in particular, it's just a thought in general. But I completely agree that "The thought of you even asking me out makes me want to puke" is an INSANE thing to say, way more hurtful, and super discouraging even if they're not attracted to you. Like damn, even an entirely platonic friend saying that would be rude as hell; friends are supposed to hype you up-- not pre-emptively tell you you'd be a shitty date :/
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@mcp866 it's crazy that they only have 4400 right now, this is really well put together and acted really well too. I've seen channels that blow up 5k each month from hundreds of subs. The youtube algo may help this channel out 👍, definitely will have 100k subs one day if they keep at it
I think the best thing to do is to break the friendship off, at least for a little while. Start by saying you want to end the friendship, that way you can't just be accused of using it for anything since you're the one literally ending it. Then explain, clearly, that you're in love with your friend, not hoping to get in their pants (although try not to insinuate that they're not attractive or something like that). Leave the opportunity for them to confess their own feelings if they have them (because you never know and might get lucky), but make it clear that if they don't have feelings then you at the least want to put the friendship on hold. It's honestly the best for both parties. Obviously, provided they're not a douche, they'll feel akward and likely guilty for not returning your feelings. Meanwhile you need to get over them if they aren't returning your feelings because, at that point, you've likely been giving more than you've been getting which isn't healthy, and also if you're in love with someone you regularly interact with, meeting and dating actual potential dating prospects is virtually impossible (don't do it, please, because it ain't fair to you or them, just get over your friend first). And if you're friend is upset by this or disagrees or anything, keep in mind that they're not entitled to your friendship anymore than you're entitled to a relationship with them.
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The solution, if you are ever in this situation is to leave for 2 years. Having a girl like this in your life is hugely damaging. So do the mature thing, break it off and go make new friends and find real romantic interests.
The thing is it's not's the girls fault she's not into the dude. You like who you like, and she doesn't owe him anything. If someone is friends with someone they are deeply attracted to, they shouldn't leave the situation hoping it will change later, they should just get out of the situation.
@@musicisfree91 it's the girl's fault to the degree that she knows he's attracted and uses him abusively because of that. Women in this situation use the guy as an emotional tampon, favors that will never be paid back, and for heavy lifting. Men in this situation use the women mostly for sex. It's called friendzoning but it's also called stringing someone along. And now that I'm 60 years old and I've seen a lifetime of this, I would say that the woman almost always knows what they're doing. It results in the man being miserable and perhaps never marrying or having children.
@terrycraig6386 it's also human nature for this feeling to die if someone else comes along that you're interested in and if you take yourself out of the situation for 2 years for the feelings to fade naturally. Also a woman like this is typically taking a tremendous amount of time away from the man's ability to meet a new woman and often the women will sabotage potential relationships the man might start forming. If anyone finds himself in a relationship like this, the best thing they can do for their long-term happiness is to walk away for a couple years.
@@musicisfree91It doesn't matter who is at fault. Always looking for the guilty one is so childish. What matters is how it affects you. A one sided affection damages the one who harbors the feelings, so it's better to break it off. that friendship will only benefit the girl.
lol I’m only 00:34 seconds and this is so fucking true. I used to have a fat crush on one of my friends(which was a girl btw) and let me tell you when she lightly flirted or even complimented me in anyway way. I would just say “thanks bro” or “bro stop don’t be weird” but I was only saying that because I liked her so much maybe even loved her(also she said she was more into girls so that’s why didn’t wanna make a move too)But we did end up telling each other how we felt but the timing wasn’t right. And we both went our own way. I know it sounds sad but I’m so glad I still have her in my life and call her my friend. Again ik it sounds weird but I rather have her in my life in anyway than not at all.
Repeating here something someone said once that I feel is a good idea. If you're in this situation, you can tell her, once you're saying your goodbyes for the day. Interrupt her if she tries to say anything, and say, "don't message me, don't say anything. Think about it, and let's talk about this tomorrow. If you don't see me like that, that's okay and I'll accept it. Just do me the favor of thinking over this for tonight."
As a guy who was in such position, I would literally say it destroys you. Slowly, but within a year in such “friendship” you will compeletly lose yourself. The only way to escape it is to accidentely drop the truth on her. Just say you’re not interested anymore and say goodbye.
Remember the time when I was in friendzone and she couldn’t say anything about “us” like it’s something weird out of this world. But after half of a year we were together and she did first move when she was a little drunk. After she got sober she said it was the wine, but she kissed me again, and the next day was the same, so I confessed and we were together, until we broke up badly after 6 months. And the friendship’s gone too. After few years I’ve got a friend and I didn’t think of her as a partner at all. But after 2 years I realised I like her, but I was afraid to risk our friendship and didn’t move. Wasn’t sure I like her enough. Then I had a girl, we were together for 3 months and broke up. That time I figure out that I love my friend and we were together for 1,5 year. And she broke up with me. But we’re still have a small connection. Still talking sometimes, but we aren’t best friend or even close ones. Basically we just know each other, can ask something, share some music or whatever, but we don’t talk anymore about ourselves. Sometimes you afraid to risk your friendship because you don’t want to loose your friend. But I would say that all those moments of being together with friend were the strongest ones, even if it didn’t last much.
@@Agent_W4 no he didn't. Now he has to keep hanging out with her because if he stopped she'd figure out that he in fact, was not joking. Now everytime he sees her face he's reminded that the person he loves doesn't want him. Its literally worse than when he didn't know her answer
I feel that some people may mistake a deep emotional connection (or physical attraction "lust vs love") with someone else for romantic interest, especially if it may be lacking in their other relationships with men and women. Pair that emotional connection with a physical attraction and the lines between friend and partner can start to blur very quickly. All things considered, if you ever develop romantic feelings toward a friend I encourage you to let them know, but to also be upfront with how you want the relationship to move forward afterwards. After you confess if you wouldn't be comfortable continuing to be friends let them know. Anecdotally, I have experienced similar situations with male and female friends. While in middle school I confessed my feelings to one of my female friends, our relationship continued afterward, although, it seemed to fizzle out. We ultimately went our seperate ways after graduating. However, years later we were able to reconnect and rekindle our friendship. Our separation helped me move past my romantic feelings and recognized that I wanted a connection with her regardless of it being romantic or platonic. Confessing your feelings to a friend is challenging, but if you both can push through that impasse you can develop a stronger platonic or begin a romantic relationship on the other side. Good luck!
i think that this is bs, what do you mean people mistake emotional connection with romantic interest? what do you think a relationship is? if you feel like you have a deep emotional connection with somebody, and you find them attractive, then thats basically what romance is lol
@@itachi60001not really. İ can have an emotional connection with my female bestie, doesn't mean i actually like her romantically. I feel that way towards her because maybe, she's someone who always understood me, and helped me through my problems. That DOES NOT, AT ALL qualify her to be my romantic interest...simply because being engaged romantically involves a lot more than "just having an emotional connection".
This one hit home. Been crushing on one of my girl-friends for 10 years since grade school. Families got really close and she was dating someone so I didn’t wanna make things weird. Now she’s in another relationship and I feel like I missed my chance. Last time we hungout she asked me “can guys and girls really be friends?” I said for a time, but then once you’re married to someone else you’re not gonna hangout/talk to your friend of the opposite sex. The friendship is limited from the start. Haven’t seen her since then and that’s roughly when she started her new relationship. Maybe she was asking “what” we are and I was too naive. I’m okay if we never get together, but I couldn’t live with myself if I never tell her the truth.
Happening to me rn, this sucks so much. It's like a constant battle between not revealing how you feel bc you know it'll mess up the what you have and also wanting to say it and mess it up and get through this whole ordeal.
You need to tell her. The feeling can only end in heartbreak and recovery or the relationship you want. Don't keep yourself waiting--it won't change the outcome.
Tbh just tell her. Earlier this year i was going crazy and eating up inside then i felt the biggest relief when i told her. The only way the friendship didn't fall apart is because i made it not awkward. I acted like i did before i said anything and it was pretty much like nothing ever happened. My situation is kinda different in a way (plus details are missing that would make it make a little more sense) but tbh fucc it we ball. So from this just take the part where you say how you feel then act normal after. If she wants you then she'll make it known, if she doesn't, move on. Not easy but worth the try.
Dude, I get it, I was there for years with my best friend. If you are close on a deep level and have built up a lot of trust in each other, then trust her and talk to her. Make it clear that you know that she doesn't feel the same way back, and that it's ok but you need to take some time to yourself to process through it all. Don't make a move on her. Treat her like the human being she is and get it out there so that you can move on from here. Make sure to do everything to keep her comfortable while taking time to get over her. Your friendship will be changed, but it will be better than what happened to me. At this point, damage control is the goal. It will blow up eventually (for me, it was when she got a new boyfriend), so it's best to do a controlled detonation where there is hope of there still being a friendship of some kind afterward. It's not the relationship you want to have with her, nor the one you currently have, but it's more sustainable and better for both you and her
@@mikeybrockmannhonestly I’ve fallen somewhat out of touch with female friends. But this video reminds me I’m not missing out on much with relationships like this.
@@BardhanProductionsyou can still have a friend at least, it’s not like a relationship is the only thing you could possibly get out of a female friend.
I don't really get girl's thoughts. They only want to date some random boys they've known for like 2 weeks and that are not really mature. And, when they have a long time friend who they like very much, he's friendzoned brutally
I have a sister in law who is still doing this to a dude. She is now married and when they go on overnight dates, she has her male friend (since middle school) babysit their (her and her husband's) kid. I can see the guy is dead inside. It is so so pathetic (for all parties). And I feel horrible for her husband who sees it too but my sister in law gets off on acting oblivious.
Maybe the friendship between the sister-in-law and her middle school male friend is important enough to him, that he sticks it out. If it's been that long, there is more there than a lot of relationships
Hard disagree. Worst she can say is she doesn't want you in her life any longer. Saying she's not interested, but still wants/is able to be friends is a perfectly good option. Some may argue just as good as her saying yes to trying the next step of a relationship with you
I knew I would cringe during this… but I didn’t think I would experience Vietnam Flashbacks like I was experiencing this happening to me all over again AMAZING VIDEO
When I saw this title I thought it was the girl being hopelessly in love with her girl friends but like in the undying platonic smitten way that makes you think this is what soulmates must feel like?? Idk but I got excited at that concept. Oh well.
Something similar happened to me several months ago, and we had been together for a good while but she didn’t even want to be best friends. I really want to take this guy out for a pint, this stuff can feel like having your heart and soul sucked out by a dementor. You can laugh about it but the pain is real 😂😭😭
As a male who is straight and has a female best friend: If you like your female best friend, just say it, because at that point the friendship would start getting destroyed if you dont. We are childhood friends and one day in 4th grade I asked her out and she said "I dont wanna be a girlfriend but I wanna be your friend because you are so fun and I still love you, I know you are confused but lets go back to playing" thats when I realized that you can be platonic friends with a girl, just have self control and realize that you dont have to date every girl you meet lol, what she said was so heart warming that I honestly almost cried. Anyways, we are still friends 4 years later and I have liked many girls and my bestie has always stayed my bestie (and she isnt lesbian btw, she is straight).
@@TheRedHorseman1208 And I am, I focus so much that I have the highest grades in class, hell I'm the 3rd student with the highest grades in the whole school
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That other one was amazing. This one not so much. I suppose the other one was actually believable whereas this one seems like a parody.
this was amazing
Bro this is hilarious
Did you reupload some of your videos? I could swear you have been around for more than just 7 months wtf :D
"Like what would you even say? Like what would you say? Like what would you say?"
Favorite line
The delivery on that was so good.
the 3rd "what would you say?" sent me lol
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL
Gross. Haha
"The worst she can say is no..."
Her: "I would hurl my entire guts out and then drown in it and then pass away"
I read this line as she said it 🤣
That's a recipe for trauma if I ever heard one.
"Is this a fucking joke?"
😂😂😂
When i confessed she nervously laughed and walked away.. next time we met it was like we pretended it never happened
Three straight minutes of pure, unfiltered physical pain
Ah yes,I get rejected by my female best friend a few days ago and yt recommends me. Like tf man
That was 3?! Gosh I had to check again it felt like HOURS
@@Jinx07 yt turned into an extended combo for your situation ngl
Man, I went through this a few years ago, and it took me years to get over the hurt I felt. Fast forward, I'm now married to someone amazing. My wife and I were in Walmart, and I ran into said woman who friendzoned/ditched me. I introduced her to my wife, and I will never forget the evil stare she gave my wife.
This kind of woman is so weird, it repulses me that they suddenly want you and feel jealous when you're with an other girl.
How is she guilty of anything for rejecting you? She didn’t owe you anything
@bazuso___ where tf did I say anyone owed me anything??
It’s been almost 2 years since it happened to me and I’m finally getting over it.
damn glad to see i wasn't the only one,why do women do this?
"I just wanna hold you" is so precious 🥹
"Eww... gross"
:]
Makes me sad☹️
😂😂😂😂😂😂
At this point, it’s not even the Friendzone, it’s the phantom zone. You’re trapped in there and you’re totally incapable of breaking yourself out. 😂
😂😂😂 honestly truer words have not been spoken. It’s hopeless. 😂
@@mikeybrockmann thanks. sorry for double comment, it wasn’t on purpose
I feel this on a very personal level.
Lmao
You can always break out, it’s your choice to stay.
I like that the Algorithm waited until after I went through this, to show up on my feed. Like a day earlier and I would have been good.
I feel you brother, I feel you
@linus5489 thank you, my dude. It hurts, because I finally bet on myself, thinking the feelings were mutual. Bit they weren't, and now I've lost one of the best people I've ever met.
I wasn't even hiding anything at first. I just wanted to be her friend, because I came to the understanding years ago that I don't deserve happiness, that I'm going to die alone for a multitude of reasons, not least of which is no libido due to testicular cancer and mental health medication.
But she was special, and sparked something I thought was long dead inside me.
So I decided to shoot my shot, and now she's gone.
I could have kept my mouth shut and just been happy with her friendship.
@@farmoarhey man, what you're saying sounds absolutelly awfull. I'm sorry to hear about your medical problems and what happened to you.
I'm not a psychologist or a self help-goeroe so I won't give you advice like "chin up, it'l be alright", but i can talk to you.
I know it feels good to have such a friendship. it makes you feel worthwile knowing someone cares about you (in my experience). It takes such courage to take that shot (especially when it all seems so certain) and then the terrible pain of such a rejection. When someone so special leaves your life forever it hurts even more but don't let it be the end of you because even a stranger can care about you. You've felt joy before and you deserve happiness, don't let this one event stop you from ever shooting your shot again.
You can find hapiness and make new friends, life around us changes faster than we as people change.
Best of luck mate.
@@linus5489 thanks Linus
@linus5489 thanks for the words of encouragement, bud!
Friends are literally who you should date. Nobody needs this level of toxicity or immaturity in their life.
Couldn't agree more with this sentiment!
Oh, so that's why I'm single, I'm dating all my friends!
I'd deffo date almost any of my female friends (the single ones lol). I mean, I'm kind of a lovey-dovey, but I really mean it since they're all genuinely good people and so beautiful in my eyes and factually. I still can see them as friends and genuinely be their friend, tho. I've generally had no trouble separating my friendship from any other feelings I've had or have. I just believe my heart will belong to anyone who really wants to claim it and give me hers to claim it as well. Until then, I just might live everyday enduring the sweet torture of my silly infatuations or whatever, like a male Mabel (Gravity Falls), but without doing anything too compromised about it, bc of ethics and protecting everyone's feelings, including my own. Just enough to keep the possibilities open. At least I try. They all deserve someone who knows what he wants.
@@AltairCreedZ lol
@@jr7531-f5nRelatable
“The worst she can say is no”
1:27 😂
The lack of background music or noises other than the dialogue makes the video so pressing, I love this so much
She kept calling him disgusting. 😂 ouch!
Yeah that poor guy… 🥲
lol he did the same
@@TheSingingPugShe meant it and he didn't
It hurts a little when you're called disgusting, even if it's not that serious lol
He started it though :D
"Yeah... You go try on a dress while I go try and address my problems."
😂😂😂 this just made me lol
He doesn't have any problems though
@@AkhilPulidindi no no, you misunderstood- he's going to "Address his problems"
@@AkhilPulidindilemme spell it out for you bro
His problem is his pẽñĩş and "address" it means to ŵãñķ it
that's a very good line
Okay but legit… he could’ve handle the news that Blake broke up with her MUUUCCCHHHH better. Like he could’ve waited… at LEAST five seconds longer
Haha, he was excited! He couldn't hold it in any longer... but you're right he should've 🤣
Varus... V-A-R-U-S. VARUS your name should have an A then another A. There was a memo Varus, there was a memo.
@@pyroteknikk3127???
@@pyroteknikk3127 Naganeka and Horazi broke the memo too, those damn traitors!
@@pyroteknikk3127 lmao real
Bro saw the quick time event pop up and immediately confessed his love
Nigga said quick time event😭
underated comment
"I love you so ****ing much". He just dropped the bowl like...boom!! And then all the beans spilled everywhere.
So glad I got my daily dose of unimaginably devastating heartache
Lol, our b 😂
this is how we get awesome metal songs tho
The good news is as a friend you can watch from afar as she gets her heart broken by a few Blakes before she finally learns here lesson and comes running back to...a Slade and invites you to their wedding where all of her sisters and bridesmaids are also either married or in happy relationships with more attractive and more personable men.
@@dark_sunset LMAO
Man’s folded INSTANTLY
LMAOOOOOOOOOO
i would've
💀💀💀
Bro didnt even hesitate💀 not even a blink
Xdddd
This has never happened to me but I still felt so much pain for that guy
We tried to make the pain as real as possible while still being funny haha, thank you for watching!
damn. lucky... 😢
what about the pain of the girl? it is super uncomfortable when your friend just flips on you like that, it's creepy and a lot of pressure. much better to be upfront with people from the start.
@@whirlwhind666But in the start they don’t know that they’re going to fall in love
Freaking. *RELATABLE.*
My whole life, I always thought you be friends before you date, never thought people just randomly date, and have deep feelings. It shocked me when people would complain about being friendzoned. Becuase isn't that literally the step before you date?? You get to know them as a friend, then you become a bf/gf.
Nahhhh I'd rather be direct and get rejected then live like this. Like hell on earth. Thank you for this PSA. Your videos are actually really hard to watch sometimes to the point that I learn life lessons from them. You're doing Gods work out here 🙌 🙏
ong. Just tell them. if they reject you then move on. living like this is no living at all
Remember bro, you cannot force anyone to like you in an intimate way. But also remember nobody can force you to be their friend.
Spot on. You're allowed to be in your feels about not being liked back, but nobody owes you anything, and also, we don't choose who we have feelings for
If you for real have feelings for someone who doesn't like you back at all you should just not hang out with them it's not going to turn out well for you.
@@darkcircle899 true it's going to be too painful for you. And you can stick around in an attempt to be a good friend to them and not abandon them, but if it messes your head up, you're not being fair to yourself
@@adibsiddiki7409This happened to me and I regret staying friends with my ex 😢 We broke up twice and both times I stayed her friend but I couldn’t take it anymore. When we were thinking about getting back together a third time
Also, you may not like her as you thought after getting to know her.
I bet if he gets a girlfriend, his friend would all of a sudden be in love with him.
Isn’t that how it always works… possible sequel idea 💡
No, no she would certainly not.. 🤦🏼😂 lmao!
Jealous? Sure, women want what they can’t have.. But that’s not exactly new under the sun, but it definitely does not turn her complete lack of attraction into sudden attraction dude… Women wants confident guys who’re not afraid to show them early on that they’re into them.. A dude waiting several years and ”going the safe route” is just about the least attractive behavior there is to a girl.. (well at least to about 99.9% of them)
It happened to me. But by then, I had moved on. You see, I coped by realizing she had a couple things about her I didn't like. She literally waited until I found someone else. I divorced this someone else and now, years later, I can't stop thinking about her.
Right up until he breaks up with his new girlfriend for her and then suddenly she loses all interest again.
@@mikeybrockmann did you do it?
Been through this. For years, she always said “I wish I could find a guy like you” But…I’M a guy like me. I got brave, I got rejected and she said I don’t feel that way about you. Hurt like a MF. Because it felt like if the one person in the world that knows me best and enjoys my company the most doesn’t want me, no one would. Took a long time to get over that. A long time.
Eventually, I realized that it’s more about attraction, but still. It also hurts that she will assume you’ve just been after her pants the entire friendship and that you somehow betrayed her by hiding your true intentions. But women don’t understand that us guys can have zero attraction to you, but once we’ve become some emotionally vulnerable and available to you, a flip switches and suddenly you’re the most beautiful girl in the world. That’s why it’s best to avoid too much intimate physical touch and too much emotional openness in a platonic friendship. It’s tough. That f*king sucked, man.
I’m going through it rn and you describe it to a T. Lowest point in my life
Thanks for sharing I now know I should be avoiding emotional openess with my guy friend I'm not interested in. Hopefully it's not too late...
What she means is she wishes she could find a dude with your personality but a different face
@@thatoneguy9666😂😂what!!... But it's low-key sorta true
Damn, man. That shit's tough.
What would you say?🤣
What would you say?😆
What would you say?😐
I've seen this happen with friends more than once. On a couple of occasions they realized they should have been together as more than friends and regretted that they hadn't.
Yeah this is honestly the most realistic outcome
Gotta hit it straight out the gate man, they say there’s a 2/3 week window before the friendzone kicks in. You spare yourself the insanity, you know what your intentions are so just take the leap and go for it and if rejected just move on.
@@mast3rchief536guess fhis “2/3 week timespan before friendzone kicks in” will stick in my head. either way I just recently learned by myself too that yeah, keeping it too much inside just leads to reciprocal suffering and I can’t stress enough how much of a joy and relief it’s been for me to finally step up and communicate my feelings to her. it was only the expression inability that I slowly cooked myself into that was killing me, nothing else (and to whomever is in that same situation, I know these words may only sound annoying and painful but I swear, what I personally did and worked for me was to finally find the courage to express myself and find joy back again in it. the point is that you try to listen to your heart without suffocating it with a clutter of fear and attachment)
This sorta crap happened to me with a girl I'll call "ki" (not her real name), she was an exchange student and we met and we were pretty good friends from the start. We constantly laughed at each other's jokes and stupid moments and enjoyed talking to eachother. We spent the whole year doing things together and apparently all our friends said we should get together but for some dumb reason I never realised I cared for her that much. But when she left I got really sad and I realised that every time we hugged or hit eachother because we were "friends" was actually because we were supposed to be more. But I'll probably never see her again because she lives on the opposite end of the world.
@@d4rk678so much letters...
The pain in those "yeah... yeah.... yeaahh...". It hurt man, it hurt
Could be my favorite line I've ever delivered lol. Thanks for commenting and the support!
yeah same here. But that was a long ass time ago. lmao
Facts
@@mikeybrockmann Damn that hurt.
I have literally witnessed this exact dynamic in real life. My sister has a friend whom I have mentally dubbed "the tragic one" who is blatantly, obviously in love with her and she either has no idea or just doesn't know how to handle it, and it's _rough_ to watch. I feel like I need to take off my hat like Captain Jack Sparrow floating past the hanging pirates every time I see him.
You need to talk to that dude
your sister is a terrible person. She led him on and then pretended she didn’t do anything
@@mercuriusl you got all that from this comment...? absolutely none of that can be reasonably deduced from what they said
I understand that people should mind their business but.... You know what, never mind. I'll just mind my business.
Sounds familiar
Miguel O'Hara be like: Sorry kid, i'ts a canon event
Established boundaries are top priority. There’s a difference between being in the friend zone and being friends: one implies you want out. Don’t lead a girl on that you just want to be friends if you have deeper motives or feelings. And if they start to come up, communicate them immediately. If this has happened to you as a guy, you have yourself to blame. Also note, you can have flirty friendships if you’re both single, just establish boundaries and expectations. 99% of the pain is choosing not to communicate.
wish this would be pinned
“Don’t lead a girl on…” Sorry, but it is always the girl who leads guys on
@@mercuriusl dude has not met another human in years
"Flirty friendship" is a total oxymoron
Gold
I didnt know i could cringe that hard, looking forward to more videos haha
Thanks so much for watching! Another coming tomorrow!
All I can say is oof. We've all been there brother. Press x to pay respects
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What if I haver never been there before? Because until the day I got married I had a line of girls to choose from and none ever made me wait?
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@divinusnobilite then sometimes comments and jokes aren't for you.
Not sure what kind of answer you were expecting after your weird/not relevant flex
Such a hard watch. 10/10 have subbed
Thank you for the support! We try to walk the line of comedy and awkwardness 😂
“Your tears don’t fall, they crash around me” 🎵 Can see it in the poor guys soul lmao
You see, at around the 1:15 mark, when she's saying that she'd be disgusted by being confessed to, all he needed to say was "I mean, i'd be fine with it" or something similar. This would allow him to more subtly introduce the topic when it was naturally already brought up. This has two main benefits, namely that you can very easily backpedal and play it off as a joke if she doesn't respond well, but also that it doesn't come off as nearly as clingy or desperate as the confession at the end, and thus even if she says no, you end up with a much higher chance of keeping your friendship since you weren't weird about it.
I turned down a guy in high school once because I didn’t want to ruin a good friendship. Then, in college, I started dating him. Our relationship is literally the best, I couldn’t have asked for a better person. PLEASE date your best friends, there isn’t anyone else who will be as loyal or as loving and caring.
I didn't turn down my late husband - but he definitely started as a friend and straight to best friend in a matter of weeks - it was a long distance thing and I was able to get to know him for about 8 or 9 months before I met him in person. That very first meeting was when I instantly knew that friendship wasn't meant for us - we were meant for something way more.
I have NO clue why girls refuse to date a guy friend. They are literally the best. Because as you age - when your looks are gone - you need that friendship to keep you going. If you're planning on marrying simply for the bedroom fun or because he's got a 6 pack or his looks... you won't last without a solid foundation of friendship. There will be times when stress and pain will make the physical things disappear - and it's what you have as a relationship that will keep you going.
I know, I know, I'll get replies from others who will say... "ugh, but I just can't *SEE* him like *that* ." Then maybe you need to readjust priorities. To me: a guy who is there to have my back when I'm having a bad day is way more appealing than a 6 pack on a guy who doesn't even realize I'm upset. A guy who looks at me and can't imagine life any other way than to be by my side while walking life together is something I feel deep down instead of a guy who is a 6", makes 6 figures, and is over 6' if he rather go do things by himself and ignores you (Also - I'm 6'... and my late husband was shorter than me - so it's not impossible to love someone who isn't taller than you). A guy who will give back to you as much as you give to him and is as invested in you as you are to him is way more of a turn on than someone who looks good - and knows he does - and doesn't care if he gets pleasure in other places. And, of course, there will be those who say "it's not impossible to have the physical *and* everything else you're talking down about!" - you're right. It's not. But you're talking a very tiny percentage of men and every other woman chasing him - unless you're top tier quality your chances are just as slim. There are more guys out there with the emotional side of priorities in line but get passed over for not having "ideal physical attributes" than guys with it *and* the "ideal." They're just as appealing when you get to know him and have your priorities set to ones that will actually stand the test of time.
Okay so I might need some advice. It's such a long story though but whatever (I cringe even typing it out lol).
I have a friend but I don't know who's friendzoning who. To be honest I do like them...a lot. But it's so confusing and I'm not in the proper headspace for a relationship. I think they were trying to confess earlier but I kinda wanted them to be more direct with it and when they confirmed it wasn't what I thought it was I wrote and I quote, "I would've had a stroke" :/
Looking back maybe that was a turn off for them, maybe I was self sabotaging idk? But I do like them and those feelings haven't gone away for a while.
Uhhhh, this was a rant and I kinda do want your help soooo 😂
@@Oompaloompaseverywhere i think it should end at "I'm not in the proper headspace for a relationship". forcing a relationship especially when you know you're not ready for one is one of the worst things you could do to yourself. take your time to get better and only when you feel ready you may even consider going forward with that
Legit, the reason we are friends is because the hope of a chance is what’s keeping it there. But there’s a point where the friendship will be ruined after your friend decides to stop playing games because they will find someone else and date them instead.
@@ok_epic Thank you a whole lot for this, I feel like a lot of the pressure I was feeling is gone thanks to this :))
The guy looks like a hippie version of Tom Holland. 😂😂😂😂
I will absolutely thank you for that comparison LOL
I was thinking Adam Scott
More like Joe Keery 😂
@@nikitam857he looks so much like Steve and his acting is literally the same 😂
I was thinking Taron Egerton, but then again I was never good at lookalikes
Ridiculous how real the conversation feels
if you make sure to be seen as a friend you will always be a friend cuz that's how you're presenting yourself, if you don't push yourself to only be seen as that and just act friendly things might be different
Sadly, I've been through this a number of times. Man, my timing with telling girls how I feel is off the mark...
Regardless, this video popped up in my feed a couple hours ago. I've watched around a dozen of your videos just now! You all are gonna blow up soon.
These remind me of the videos that Buzzfeed USED to do long ago when they had a solid team of people working there. Shoot, darn near all of these videos are ones that I can relate to on a personal level OR I know friends who were or are still in relationships like the ones you all bring to life.
Keep up the good work!
As a girl who doesn't have male best friends and always in love with a guy who doesn't love me back, I somehow can relate to this.
We've all been in this position, guy or girl. It's rough.
@@mikeybrockmann Yup i don't think man and woman can be real friends, one or other side will get hurt at one point no matter what, we guys usually want to hit at one point even if it's platonic bcs that's just how psychical attraction works for us man, for girls it's more emotionally related to get hook up to guy even thought psychical attraction is important for both sides but still we guys are more animalistic in that manner.
@@davolthe1261 so bisexual people can't be friends with anyone in that case?
@@Kitulous Am talking about nature of straight people I don't really know about gays or bi in that matter, also am not saying that they can't be friends but usually between straight man and woman if they are really good friends one of them will usually eventually want something more not just friendship.
@@davolthe1261 or just don't make it weird and blaming your entire sex for a self-control issue
I was hoping for the plot twist where she's also secretly in love with him
Yeah we went with the less optimistic ending lol but that would've been nice
That’s what I’m hoping for irl 😔
Come on maaannnn. This ain't no fairy tale!! 🙄🤦♂️ The next authentic response would be:
"Oh, I broke up with Bob....
bc I started "messing around" with Mike who is a coworker on my shift. 🙄 He's soooo cute and funny! 🤬 What do you think "insert your name here?" 😳🥺😭
To think for a quick second, you might have had a chance.. 🙅♂️🙅♂️
@@Hmongboi228 yeah u right
@@mikeybrockmanni feel like the most optimistic is the most normal
It's probably the worst feeling, coming so close to telling them yet never doing so, and when you finally do, things just come crashing down. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.
Very, very, very well said. Love is a bitch.
been there, i feel ya brother
Fr mans, hurts more than stepping on a lego in the dark 😭
I bet it’s a lot worse if you never tell them though. The older I get the more I regret not doing things then doing things.
I have experienced this a couple of months ago and it fcking hurts... something happened between us but it didn't lead to anything.
Having been in this boat on both sides it’s actually a relief saying it and then she no longer wants to be friends because it just exposes that she never actually valued the friendship in the first place. As for the reverse, my best friend who I’ve known since I was three came out when we were 20 and a year later said he liked me. He got over it and I was his best man at his wedding. Like the very idea of me saying goodbye to a friendship because he values me so highly that he loves me is actually crazy. You never want to be friendzoned by someone who just throws away friendship like it’s nothing.
This type of friendship is predatory of the woman. She is delusional if she thinks he doesn't have feelings for her, because of course he does.
I went through a really kind version of this 12 years ago with my best friend and dream girl. Wrote her a song to help me communicate how I felt about her. Didn’t get the answer I hoped for.
Fast forward to now, we are now dating and talking about marriage. Come to find she listens to that song I wrote her all the time and it makes her tear up.
Life is a ride. Never give up hope on the things you deeply want, but also don’t let anything keep you stuck and hold you back from moving forward. You never know how things will turn out.
i feel like she settled for you
@@embrace411 Definitely one way to look at it.
To provide more context, neither of us were who the other needed at the time. With some years of growing, it just so happens we both grew into what the other was looking for. Little bit of serendipity there.
She left a relationship of 8 years to move forward with me.
Did she settle? Maybe, but who she settled with/on is the question.
That’s… pretty heartwarming actually. I wouldn’t say she settled, but it’s not like it matters. Love isn’t about comparison and the concept of 1st or 2nd pick kinda fades away once you’re in a relationship. Kinda just talking cuz I’m certainly not speaking from experience, but whatever.
That said, people, do not take on the mindset that if a girl says no you just keep trying. That's not how that works. You never know how things will turn out, but you can't force it.
When she started coming of age where options are no longer Henry Cavill, she was lucky that you were still a lonely single man after 12 years time..... by then I pray I have become a confident well off man with options of my own
… This is so painfully real.
Knowing you need to keep your feelings hidden inside because you know they will not be met with the same feelings.
But you also don’t want to hurt them or stopp being their friend cause it’s also not their fault they are not feeling the same way.
I know right fuck finally someone who understands me
friends to lovers is litterally how I got my girlfriend.
TBF i think it's the best and most natural way
which one sounds more natural for humans:
downloading an app and setting up meetings in places [dates] with random people? and then decide if you'll make them your partner?
or
get close with your friends and when you see some chemistry between you and one of them, slowly get closer and if you see them respond do it do something.
You know you can actually meet new people without an app?
Tell that to her man 🥺
@@mexx2602re read
@mexx2602 that's pretty damn difficult and usually you have to start as friends anyways
@@Lionsfan69420 maybe that's a generational issue
"Yeah, that was like actually physically painful" - too real...
This is disgustingly relatable
Damn he’s patient he waited a little more than half a second.
Happened to with my former best friend from high school. We became best friends in 2011 and in 2012 I realized I was in love with her, but was afraid to tell her because she had an experience of a friend falling in love with her and they ended the friendship. Fast forward to 2018, I decided to tell her, and said since when I had these feelings and what she meant for me, and if she didn't want anything romantic I would still want her as friend. She said it was alright but after started to treat me like if I had some viral disease.
:(
I am so sorry
She did that because aside from the fact that then things feel awkward around the guy, but a lot of guys will become passive aggressive or constantly bring it up and try to guilt-trip you just for not being romantically interested in them.
It’s easier for women to just count their losses and just keep the people who only see them platonically as friends and avoid strained/awkward friendships, ulterior motives and resentment from the men they turned down.
@@BehindTheBush96 Exactly
@@BehindTheBush96 she knew me for 6 years, I wasn't any guy and I would've never be disrespectful with her or tried to force her, like another guy did and ironically that guy she was okay in having him as a friend again. Sure, I wasn't feeling happy when she said she didn't want me as boyfriend, but I accepted the decision and part of me expected this. But she didn't have to treat me like shit.
I related with this more than I should haha.
Props on the camera work, quality and script!
Beautiful work.
Lol I think we all sadly relate to it slightly more than we'd like. And I appreciate you noticing the camera work and the script! Thanks man!
There comes a point where you have to test the friendship and just whip it out but at a clutch moment. She's not a true friend if she can't appreciate that you took a shot and if she stays friends she knows the option is there.
"I love you"
(Creep Acoustic version starts playing)
Same thing happened to me bro, stay strong
STP or Radiohead Creep version?
@@talynstarburst2l2l2l Radiohead, haven’t heart the STP version
I think if you’re in this situation but don’t think your friend has the maturity to handle a confession well, the winning move is always to find and date another partner. Either you’re happy with the partner and it works out, or things end and now you and your friend have a lot more clarity on how they feel about you.
Plus no matter what, you’ve created some healthy distance between the two of you.
This is literally what i did but now i’m over a year into a relationship but my feelings about my boyfriend are complicated and i’m still not sure it’s love. It didn’t change anything about my relationship with my friend, he accepted it and was happy for me. I still don’t know if i made the right choice
this is like the worst advice ever no? at that point you are basically just toying with the person you are dating and you are digging yourself a hole where you are going to have to make a really heartbreaking decision at the end, literally just lose/lose
@@itachi60001this.
@@itachi60001yeah you’re 100% correct, this is awful terrible advice lmao
The winning move is to never be in this situation in the first place.
If you like a girl gotta make a move ASAP. If she rejects you then you can become friends if you both want to, and it will be easy for you as you’ll know from the get go there’s no chance of romance
Crazy how women think saying stuff like "The thought of you even asking me out makes me want to puke." is ok to say to someone they consider a friend. I had a girl I was friends with (I did find her attractive/fun to be with but realized if we were dating, it would be toxic and not work out and not worth it since we were co-workers) and she told me "I'm so glad you never asked me out" when we were just talking one time.
The guy deserves it if he just takes that shit & doesn't put her in her place. No need for that level of disrespect & inconsideration toward someone you call a friend.
I think from a woman's perspective, saying "I'm so glad you never asked me out" is just expressing gratitude that you can be friends without the awkward, messy ending of having to shoot down a romance. I don't think it's really about you in particular, it's just a thought in general.
But I completely agree that "The thought of you even asking me out makes me want to puke" is an INSANE thing to say, way more hurtful, and super discouraging even if they're not attracted to you. Like damn, even an entirely platonic friend saying that would be rude as hell; friends are supposed to hype you up-- not pre-emptively tell you you'd be a shitty date :/
Wait, only 300 subscribers??? I loved this video man. Top tier acting, editing, and photography. I rarely feel this on TH-cam but I am eagerly waiting for your next video! :)
Appreciate it man! Thanks for watching new video coming out today!
@@mikeybrockmann is this from real-world experiences, or just a joke at the stereotypical scenario?
They only had 300 subscribers 2 months ago? 😮
@mcp866 it's crazy that they only have 4400 right now, this is really well put together and acted really well too. I've seen channels that blow up 5k each month from hundreds of subs. The youtube algo may help this channel out 👍, definitely will have 100k subs one day if they keep at it
@@AndrewDaniele87 3 weeks later and they are almost at 100k
I think the best thing to do is to break the friendship off, at least for a little while. Start by saying you want to end the friendship, that way you can't just be accused of using it for anything since you're the one literally ending it. Then explain, clearly, that you're in love with your friend, not hoping to get in their pants (although try not to insinuate that they're not attractive or something like that). Leave the opportunity for them to confess their own feelings if they have them (because you never know and might get lucky), but make it clear that if they don't have feelings then you at the least want to put the friendship on hold.
It's honestly the best for both parties. Obviously, provided they're not a douche, they'll feel akward and likely guilty for not returning your feelings. Meanwhile you need to get over them if they aren't returning your feelings because, at that point, you've likely been giving more than you've been getting which isn't healthy, and also if you're in love with someone you regularly interact with, meeting and dating actual potential dating prospects is virtually impossible (don't do it, please, because it ain't fair to you or them, just get over your friend first).
And if you're friend is upset by this or disagrees or anything, keep in mind that they're not entitled to your friendship anymore than you're entitled to a relationship with them.
Yep. Now imagine if they were both girls. That's my pain!
Well, I've been in a situation like this too (I'm a guy) and dude, it feels so horrible you're litterally hopeless and you can't do anything.....
This is criminally underrated, acting skills are on par with Cherdleys and Stevie Emerson. Great job!
Bro thank you so much for saying this! What a compliment! Stevie is actually a good friend of ours, we used to work with him and he is extremely talented! So nice of you to say, stay tuned for more comedy!
The solution, if you are ever in this situation is to leave for 2 years.
Having a girl like this in your life is hugely damaging.
So do the mature thing, break it off and go make new friends and find real romantic interests.
The thing is it's not's the girls fault she's not into the dude. You like who you like, and she doesn't owe him anything. If someone is friends with someone they are deeply attracted to, they shouldn't leave the situation hoping it will change later, they should just get out of the situation.
@@musicisfree91 it's the girl's fault to the degree that she knows he's attracted and uses him abusively because of that.
Women in this situation use the guy as an emotional tampon, favors that will never be paid back, and for heavy lifting.
Men in this situation use the women mostly for sex.
It's called friendzoning but it's also called stringing someone along.
And now that I'm 60 years old and I've seen a lifetime of this, I would say that the woman almost always knows what they're doing.
It results in the man being miserable and perhaps never marrying or having children.
Its just human nature to want what is unobtainable and reject what's too easy.the thrill of the chase.
@terrycraig6386 it's also human nature for this feeling to die if someone else comes along that you're interested in and if you take yourself out of the situation for 2 years for the feelings to fade naturally.
Also a woman like this is typically taking a tremendous amount of time away from the man's ability to meet a new woman and often the women will sabotage potential relationships the man might start forming.
If anyone finds himself in a relationship like this, the best thing they can do for their long-term happiness is to walk away for a couple years.
@@musicisfree91It doesn't matter who is at fault. Always looking for the guilty one is so childish. What matters is how it affects you. A one sided affection damages the one who harbors the feelings, so it's better to break it off. that friendship will only benefit the girl.
lol I’m only 00:34 seconds and this is so fucking true. I used to have a fat crush on one of my friends(which was a girl btw) and let me tell you when she lightly flirted or even complimented me in anyway way. I would just say “thanks bro” or “bro stop don’t be weird” but I was only saying that because I liked her so much maybe even loved her(also she said she was more into girls so that’s why didn’t wanna make a move too)But we did end up telling each other how we felt but the timing wasn’t right. And we both went our own way. I know it sounds sad but I’m so glad I still have her in my life and call her my friend. Again ik it sounds weird but I rather have her in my life in anyway than not at all.
Brooo ur last line hit too hard coz I don't have her in my life at all,
And same timing wasn't right for me too😢
Repeating here something someone said once that I feel is a good idea.
If you're in this situation, you can tell her, once you're saying your goodbyes for the day. Interrupt her if she tries to say anything, and say, "don't message me, don't say anything. Think about it, and let's talk about this tomorrow. If you don't see me like that, that's okay and I'll accept it. Just do me the favor of thinking over this for tonight."
Bro unless you have done this please shut up lmao sounds like horrible advice
As a guy who was in such position, I would literally say it destroys you. Slowly, but within a year in such “friendship” you will compeletly lose yourself. The only way to escape it is to accidentely drop the truth on her. Just say you’re not interested anymore and say goodbye.
Remember the time when I was in friendzone and she couldn’t say anything about “us” like it’s something weird out of this world. But after half of a year we were together and she did first move when she was a little drunk. After she got sober she said it was the wine, but she kissed me again, and the next day was the same, so I confessed and we were together, until we broke up badly after 6 months. And the friendship’s gone too.
After few years I’ve got a friend and I didn’t think of her as a partner at all. But after 2 years I realised I like her, but I was afraid to risk our friendship and didn’t move. Wasn’t sure I like her enough.
Then I had a girl, we were together for 3 months and broke up. That time I figure out that I love my friend and we were together for 1,5 year. And she broke up with me. But we’re still have a small connection.
Still talking sometimes, but we aren’t best friend or even close ones. Basically we just know each other, can ask something, share some music or whatever, but we don’t talk anymore about ourselves.
Sometimes you afraid to risk your friendship because you don’t want to loose your friend. But I would say that all those moments of being together with friend were the strongest ones, even if it didn’t last much.
Pretty good camera and production quality for a channel with only 300 subs
This isn't from a tv show?!
Bro did they actually start 4 monthsago ???
2:56 bro couldve freed himself
He did
@@Agent_W4 no he didn't. Now he has to keep hanging out with her because if he stopped she'd figure out that he in fact, was not joking. Now everytime he sees her face he's reminded that the person he loves doesn't want him. Its literally worse than when he didn't know her answer
I do suspect my male best friend have something more than friendship and this shows up in my feed
"I am so sorry on behalf of all men that guys like Trevor exist." LMFAOOOO
I feel that some people may mistake a deep emotional connection (or physical attraction "lust vs love") with someone else for romantic interest, especially if it may be lacking in their other relationships with men and women. Pair that emotional connection with a physical attraction and the lines between friend and partner can start to blur very quickly.
All things considered, if you ever develop romantic feelings toward a friend I encourage you to let them know, but to also be upfront with how you want the relationship to move forward afterwards. After you confess if you wouldn't be comfortable continuing to be friends let them know.
Anecdotally, I have experienced similar situations with male and female friends. While in middle school I confessed my feelings to one of my female friends, our relationship continued afterward, although, it seemed to fizzle out. We ultimately went our seperate ways after graduating. However, years later we were able to reconnect and rekindle our friendship. Our separation helped me move past my romantic feelings and recognized that I wanted a connection with her regardless of it being romantic or platonic.
Confessing your feelings to a friend is challenging, but if you both can push through that impasse you can develop a stronger platonic or begin a romantic relationship on the other side. Good luck!
This is really helpful, thanks!
Best comment on here 🔥
i think that this is bs, what do you mean people mistake emotional connection with romantic interest? what do you think a relationship is? if you feel like you have a deep emotional connection with somebody, and you find them attractive, then thats basically what romance is lol
@@itachi60001not really. İ can have an emotional connection with my female bestie, doesn't mean i actually like her romantically. I feel that way towards her because maybe, she's someone who always understood me, and helped me through my problems. That DOES NOT, AT ALL qualify her to be my romantic interest...simply because being engaged romantically involves a lot more than "just having an emotional connection".
this is how parents imagine romantic relationships are💀💀
This one hit home. Been crushing on one of my girl-friends for 10 years since grade school. Families got really close and she was dating someone so I didn’t wanna make things weird. Now she’s in another relationship and I feel like I missed my chance.
Last time we hungout she asked me “can guys and girls really be friends?” I said for a time, but then once you’re married to someone else you’re not gonna hangout/talk to your friend of the opposite sex. The friendship is limited from the start.
Haven’t seen her since then and that’s roughly when she started her new relationship. Maybe she was asking “what” we are and I was too naive.
I’m okay if we never get together, but I couldn’t live with myself if I never tell her the truth.
Happening to me rn, this sucks so much. It's like a constant battle between not revealing how you feel bc you know it'll mess up the what you have and also wanting to say it and mess it up and get through this whole ordeal.
Nothing beats failure but a try!
@@jaredt9231brother I’ve been there... Worst she can say is not no
You need to tell her. The feeling can only end in heartbreak and recovery or the relationship you want. Don't keep yourself waiting--it won't change the outcome.
Tbh just tell her. Earlier this year i was going crazy and eating up inside then i felt the biggest relief when i told her. The only way the friendship didn't fall apart is because i made it not awkward. I acted like i did before i said anything and it was pretty much like nothing ever happened. My situation is kinda different in a way (plus details are missing that would make it make a little more sense) but tbh fucc it we ball. So from this just take the part where you say how you feel then act normal after. If she wants you then she'll make it known, if she doesn't, move on. Not easy but worth the try.
Dude, I get it, I was there for years with my best friend. If you are close on a deep level and have built up a lot of trust in each other, then trust her and talk to her. Make it clear that you know that she doesn't feel the same way back, and that it's ok but you need to take some time to yourself to process through it all. Don't make a move on her. Treat her like the human being she is and get it out there so that you can move on from here. Make sure to do everything to keep her comfortable while taking time to get over her. Your friendship will be changed, but it will be better than what happened to me. At this point, damage control is the goal. It will blow up eventually (for me, it was when she got a new boyfriend), so it's best to do a controlled detonation where there is hope of there still being a friendship of some kind afterward. It's not the relationship you want to have with her, nor the one you currently have, but it's more sustainable and better for both you and her
It's painful how relatable this is
My female friend was much nicer when I asked her out.
2:15 I died
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Man this is the best way to ask a girl what she thinks 🤣
Lolllll I couldn’t agree more. Only way to do it.
@@mikeybrockmannhonestly I’ve fallen somewhat out of touch with female friends. But this video reminds me I’m not missing out on much with relationships like this.
@@BardhanProductionsyou can still have a friend at least, it’s not like a relationship is the only thing you could possibly get out of a female friend.
Using April fools day
"Is this a joke?"
Me: say yes say yes SAY YES
Him: uh, yeah
Me: Oh thank God 😂
I don't really get girl's thoughts. They only want to date some random boys they've known for like 2 weeks and that are not really mature. And, when they have a long time friend who they like very much, he's friendzoned brutally
Excellent work. That hurts!
Thanks for watching Scott!
I have a sister in law who is still doing this to a dude. She is now married and when they go on overnight dates, she has her male friend (since middle school) babysit their (her and her husband's) kid.
I can see the guy is dead inside. It is so so pathetic (for all parties). And I feel horrible for her husband who sees it too but my sister in law gets off on acting oblivious.
Maybe the friendship between the sister-in-law and her middle school male friend is important enough to him, that he sticks it out.
If it's been that long, there is more there than a lot of relationships
That dude is just sad, he should just get out of there.
That's so sad
that guy needs to grow up. Feeling dead inside because he is not with her. get a life. Maybe someone should tell him.
your sister-in-law is a terrible person
Worse she can say is no
Hard disagree.
Worst she can say is she doesn't want you in her life any longer.
Saying she's not interested, but still wants/is able to be friends is a perfectly good option. Some may argue just as good as her saying yes to trying the next step of a relationship with you
@@farmoarthat's the joke
I knew I would cringe during this… but I didn’t think I would experience Vietnam Flashbacks like I was experiencing this happening to me all over again
AMAZING VIDEO
“Can you _imagine?_ No, that is… gross.”
But in my head I want him to slip in a “I mean, how could I ever fall in love with someone like you?”
The 180 attitude shift towards the end had me dying of laughter. It's rare to find comedy videos like this that feel so real and from the heart
My body and soul ascended with cringe at 2:20
U guys great writers
When I saw this title I thought it was the girl being hopelessly in love with her girl friends but like in the undying platonic smitten way that makes you think this is what soulmates must feel like?? Idk but I got excited at that concept. Oh well.
Yeah this is not a common scenario
Something similar happened to me several months ago, and we had been together for a good while but she didn’t even want to be best friends.
I really want to take this guy out for a pint, this stuff can feel like having your heart and soul sucked out by a dementor. You can laugh about it but the pain is real 😂😭😭
the aggressive head shake looking down during the confession holy shit hahahahhahahaa total disbelief
This is why I won't ask her out until I see some proper hints
Algorithm must got beef with us fr😂😂😂😂😂
This comment made me laugh out loud, genuinely. Thank you for that😂
@@mikeybrockmann no problem 😂😂🤣
More like TH-cam trying to save us bro 🥲
Ok but seriously the quality of your videos is actually insane
Really appreciate that, gotta give credit to my buddy Jason who filmed it, he's incredible
I literally paused for like 1 minute at 2:25 out of awkwardness. Lmao.
Don't bother. I used to do it to myself as well, at the end of the day you just gonna get hurt.
i enjoy going about my day casually until i think of her. get out of my head
Stay strong, brother
stay strong, brother
the pain.
This was physically painful to watch.. But I can't blame him, she's so pretty.
Lol sorry for making it as cringe as possible 😂
As a male who is straight and has a female best friend: If you like your female best friend, just say it, because at that point the friendship would start getting destroyed if you dont.
We are childhood friends and one day in 4th grade I asked her out and she said "I dont wanna be a girlfriend but I wanna be your friend because you are so fun and I still love you, I know you are confused but lets go back to playing" thats when I realized that you can be platonic friends with a girl, just have self control and realize that you dont have to date every girl you meet lol, what she said was so heart warming that I honestly almost cried.
Anyways, we are still friends 4 years later and I have liked many girls and my bestie has always stayed my bestie (and she isnt lesbian btw, she is straight).
So you are in 8th-9th grade? Lil bro, you just need to be focused on your homework lol
@@TheRedHorseman1208 And I am, I focus so much that I have the highest grades in class, hell I'm the 3rd student with the highest grades in the whole school
@@TheRedHorseman1208 real quiet since he dropped the mic
The times I've seen a bro fold as fast and as easily can't be counted, like bro even took too long😂😂😭
Nice save. Dude lives to fight another day and keep the hope alive lol.
I feel bad for both of them lol. She's like "Please lord, one platonic male friend that's all I ask- just ONE"
what's the value of male friends?