As a 29 year old man I can't thank you enough for your content. These are the types of conversations we need to have more, putting your primary focus on your mental health needs to be a priority over these detrimental fads.
Such a goddess. VVoman are wonderful. Let me sacrifice my body for them on the field. She’d certainly date a 5’2 baIding lndian janitor with a great pERsonality!
I lost over 100 lbs before coming to this channel. Since being here since August 2022, I have quit porn. I have a strict skin care routine. I use body wash. I brush, floss and use mouthwash twice daily.
lol isn't this social media in a nutshell? Everyone, particularly women, posting constant (edited) photos for nothing but VALIDATION from others. Likes & views = validation lol. Everyone obviously wants to look and feel good. It's a hard fact, but women have been altering their natural (beauty) though much much more (unhealthy) practices than men ever had. Hypocrisy is within us all. It's why I call bs every time an attractive person, such as herself, says that looks aren't everything. Fact = in order to get to know and experience someone's personality and other attributes, you first have to pass though the physical attractiveness filter. This is where MANY men are initially ignored & dismissed.
If there’s any “looksmaxing” content to really watch, it is your fashion videos. I have learned so much about fashion from you and it has definitely made a difference. Thank you for everything you do 😊
Na bro, I ain't going to wear some of that clothes lol it would 100% be the reverse for me. Negative maxxing. I would feel uncomfortable since that's not who I am.
@@joashedwards7206 this is also her opinion and what "she" likes and thinks looks good in men but as she has stated, women have different taste in men. Basic hygiene is one that all men should follow though. Some men are outright disgusting looking lmao
@@467076 Agree most men are ugly that's why we should level up but people been knowing the basics of hygiene, fashion and whatnot for ages and just because she comes along and says the same shit oh now yall start listening ? And if what u say is true why are guys listening to her? It's only her pov not the majority of women? So what's her advice gonna do? Absolutely nothing, miss me with that bullshit man cmon
I can confirm that mewing worked for me starting at around 16. It was worth it because It only took a month to learn and ended up blessing me a chin. so it can work post puberty/late puberty
I don't see any problem with hair transplant. There are people who love to have beautiful hair and procedure itself is pretty simple and not harmful...
I always thought of looksmaxing as a positive thing. I didnt realize people were doing these extreme things in the name of looksmaxing. Self improvement is great but you just arent going to be attractive to everybody. So strive to be the best version of yourself and learn to embrace the fact that you are not perfect. If a woman cant look past your flaws then it wasnt meant to be. Find a woman who will see the good in you.
@@CourtneyRyanit’s women’s fault that us men are doing this. We’re all undesirable if we’re under 6 foot and not a 9/10 in looks. It’s your preferences that have led us to this miserable place. Yall are the reason why.
Remember, looks-maxing is just one part of the equation. Courtney is right about becoming a better man from the inside-out. The more I read and listen to positive podcasts and comedy, the better my interactions with others become. Women do value looks, but a good woman is looking for who you are on the inside. I have a friend who is very short and he build a career, does crossfit, and has 3 girlfriends in open relationships. They're all taller than him. I'm telling you: good women want a man with a good heart and mind.
@@hotpockets69it has nothing to do with psychosis. You've probably meant psychopathic but still there's no real connection to posing and being a psychopath
The Truth-Teller! In the first three minutes, Courtney cuts to the core. Excellent self-care and hygiene differentiates us from the rest. (It’s awesome to see you calling out the extremes; the madness of looksmaxxing.) Thank you Courtney for sharing your own personal situation and plans for your TMJ. Being self-aware, making plans and taking action. So good.
I'm 39 now and going to my 40 this September. I came across your channel 2 weeks ago and it really helped me to improve myself both physically and mentally. I started to be inspired again and focusing on things that really matters. I'm working to be high a value man by putting my best foot forward in my career, getting back to healthy diet and working out and It feels great. Thank you.
@CourtneyRyan Men change in order to attract a woman, the problem is not Men, it is Women’s expectations in Men. They only want tall muscular wealthy Men. Look at the rates of single men to single women, the numbers don’t lie. I take care of myself, to look and be my best and it’s never been enough for a woman. Haven’t had a serious relationship in a decade…inner qualities don’t matter without attraction. I’ve become someone that I love but without all of these things..I still remain single.
social media has made it much worse, its like ure never enough and if ure lkike 5,7 like me it never even began, most woman are extremly shallow and are just into looks, even if ure a good guy u wont even get a chance to prove it, so i stopped thinking the inner matters long time ago.
In terms of mewing, I think it’s pretty undisputed by orthodontists that it’s important for good childhood jaw development. The problem really comes in when adults HARD-Mew. When they do excises to try and split their palatial suture with the sheer force of their tongue. This (especially when done poorly) can cause all kinds of complications, especially if one already suffers from TMJD. I’m 25, and the act of simply closing my mouth, properly raising my tongue, breathing through my nose, and swallowing against my palate truly has changed me for the better. Not only has it actually changed my appearance as my double chin has completely picked up, but the buccal mass of my cheeks hollowed out, but my breathing is more relaxed and my sense of smell has improved 10x. It also put some other postural corrections on my radar (i.e. anterior head posture or anterior pelvic tilt). It’s important to take what nuggets of wisdom one can, and don’t throw the baby out with the bath water
Looks are just a snapshot of genetic desirability and indicators of health. At the root, sexual selection boils down to the sexy son hypothesis, good genes theory and Fisher’s principle when sex ratio nears 1:1.
Looks absolutely do matter the most! As one of many men in the world who drew the short end of the stick in the genetic lottery, this is a cold, hard, inescapable truth that women don't want to admit to.
@@garychildress5242 Courtney was trying to be considerate and nice, but she takes for granted how alien her experience is to even normies with average height like myself, when she is an attractive female (I would give her like 7/10 on the low end and an 8/10 on the generous side). To truly nail down just how alien her experience of life is, a chick with brittle bone disease (a highly heritable defect) has sexual options when her male equivalent likely to die a lifelong virgin or having to buy hookers.
Agree about looks but I don’t think most relationships start online nor that’s why since we usually go for looks in person, too - most first dates may start online, though.
@@garychildress5242you can see this clearly when you hear them complaining about how nobody wants them and how lonely they are but they have 10 guys at any given moment dming them
When it comes to height and hair loss, it's very difficult and I have both disadvantages, hits your confidence and you have to do a lot of self-belief work to overcome it and it still doesn't help a lot.
Be weary of hormonal change drugs. If it works for you with no side effects, then awesome and I’d definitely say continue doing it. However, you could fuck your hormones up for life including low sperm count that never return to normal (despite what the science says, these cases absolutely exist and aren’t just placebo). I have never heard or seen someone who lost a girl because of his hair. It’s typically because they show their insecurity. Embrace your height and your hair loss. Even if you have to lie to yourself. Courtney says that looksmaxxing preys upon men with insecurities. At the end of the day, you don’t need to looksmax if you aren’t insecure. Boost everything else (teeth, clothing, hygiene, smell, personality, communication, etc.). Focus on all of that, and that should get you further than these looksmaxxing losers who are ultra insecure and spend all day looking at themselves and talking about looksmaxxing on forums even if you have no hair and are short. I’d rather be 4 foot 11 and look like the thumb from spy kids than to be a insecure guy too caught up with his own looks because he believe he needs to, to find love from women.
Funny you say that because ever since I was a baby my mum always said that I "suck my tongue" which involved pushing it against my mouth and sucking it and still do this by reflex actually.
You may be a 4 in your perception, but there are women that will see you as a 10. Like Courtney mentioned you have to also work on what is on the inside. Real talk you're some woman's 10. She's out there.
So I'm pretty insecure about my teeth. I have a minor under-bite that has caused the teeth of my upper jaw to come in crooked with gaps. My whole life I've had issues with smiling and just a lack of confidence. So I recently decided to look into doing something about it. The first oral implant center I spoke to suggested getting dental caps on ALL my front teeth. It was an affordable option AND can be done in just a few weeks. Sounds great, right? Well, they basically wanted to grind down my existing teeth into little nubs and glue fake teeth on top. I did some homework and found it's not only irreversible and can cause some longtern health issues. Plus every 10sh years you need new caps, so you're spending like $10k+ every 10 years. I then went to two dentists and a highly rated orthodontist to see if invisalign was a better option. All gave me the same answer. I could do invisalign to help my smile a little, but I would def need upper-jaw surgery if I ever wanted a 'normal' smile. Basically they would detach my upper jaw, move it forward a little, and then re-attach it with bolts. It's incredibly invasive, costly, and I'm sure takes time to fully recover. I'm going to talk to a oral surgeon about the procedure just to weigh my options. But at this point, I'm thinking fuck it. I'll just accept I don't have a beautiful smile. I'm still a great guy regardless. If a girl can't see that and gets hung-up on my imperfect teeth, she's clearly not the one for me.
@@dernvader6876 It really is. I'm sure many men in a similar situation would have jumped at the quick/easy answer of getting those dental caps. Only to then spend years and god knows how much money regretting it. I'm just not willing to go that far. I'd rather focus my energy fixing the things that are well within my power. Like eating better, dealing with my social anxiety, and working out regularly.
Keep telling yourself boi no girl will find a guy with a not preety smile attractive women are extremely superficial these days and they will pass on a guy like u because of it, and due to their lack of maturity and decsion making your gonna get to the end of your life single
I respect your decision but that last part is genuinely cope. They do not care about you being a great guy, otherwise guys like Chris Brown or Drake wouldn't be getting every girl in the world... Or if you want somebody not famous, think of literally any guy that did well in college like frat guys, generally not good people. You'll at best be some girls desperate last minute ATM after she's been used by every not great guy in town for a decade+
Order, work and discipline always solve everything, no matter what the goals that we want, willing, and wishing to do (that goes for either men, and women).
I've been suffering from this kind of mindset since 2004-2005 due to bullying environment. It's hard to believe that I can make it until now, but with the cost of avoiding everyone. I hope no one ever goes through something like this, because it felt very torturous.
When I'm in crowded environments it is amazing just how frumpy and overweight people are these days. Simply getting one's weight down, getting fit, and dressing a level or two above the venue can really make one stand out. And get this, everyone else notices!
I've gotten engineering jobs from being fit and looking sharp over the competition@@yongkysiaw6597. Instead of death by a thousand cuts, it's like a thousand tiny wins. I've learned that people are attracted to attractive people. Not that I'm that great looking, but the regular gym workouts, wearing clothes that fit and look nice, and being charming opens doors. That is doors of opportunity.
How old are you@@perrycoffey5410? If you're 15 you're still growing in height and that takes a lot of energy. My son at about that age started lifting weights (for baseball pitchers exercises at first) and had to start eating 4000 calories a day (he said that was hard to do). In a few years his weight was up and he had put on 20 lbs. Some years later he's now around 190 lbs (he's taller). If you're older, get into the gym and start eating. Then watch your life change. It did for me as It got me jobs (in engineering no less) over slobs competing for the same position.
Breathing through your nose when possible except during extreme exercise does help facial structure. In addition to this, eating food you have to ACTUALLY chew also does improve your oral structure as well. Andrew Huberman has videos on this. It's worth looking up.
I do the Courtney recommended looks maxing. Shower with soap and shampoo, trim beard and nails, wear clean good fitting clothes, and walk/stand confidently and tall with an open welcoming stance. 😁
Hi Courtney. Thank you for this video, this is what we need to hear, I wish there were more people like you in this sea we call social media. Thank you 🥲
I think we make Looksmaxxing much harder than what it really is for guys. To me, it mainly consist of 3-4 steps: take care of your body, take care of your mental health, improve your style (weather it's clothing, hair style). If you are determined and if you become consistent, it's not THAT hard c'mon.
This video is virtue signaling. I noticed that people who share Courtney's (supposed) views never back their opinion with evidence. They just go like "It's not true, trust me bro" or "Every woman is different". Or they try to tell you to go outside and see that there are a lot of average dudes with girlfriends. But how hard was it for them to get one? How satisfied are those women with their dudes? Those things get overlooked.
Courtney, you brought on women who confirmed all men’s insecurities. Looks are all that matters. You can say money too but you may as well be an escort if you are in it primarily for the money. As for personality, none of those positive traits matter if she doesn’t find you attractive in the first place.
Hey Courtney, I'm not sure if you have ever seen this old film called "Marty", but it tells the story of a man who struggled with dating. I recently watched this film, and it was such a fascinating story; plus, this film won the Oscar for Best Picture. I would be curious to hear what you have to say about "Marty" if you ever get the chance to watch it or make a reaction video to it.
This isn't just men's insecurities..SOCIETY AS A WHOLE KEEPS THIS GOING. Men AND women and the media and social media and dating apps, in the workplace. On any given day, I can tell how good I look, based on how people treat me...and it never fails...
Completely agree with this. I see at my sales job how staff treat each other and customers solely based on looks and it is something I notice in public too. Also as a short man at 5'7 I don't think Courtney truly understands how disheartening it is to see constant height bashing on every social media platform and dating app. I am at the point where I am a grain of sand of giving up on dating fully. I can handle my friends casually joking about my height but to see women on dating apps who I would date disqualify me before meeting me just because I'm a little short (which I can't change) is actually heartbreaking.
I’m so glad she made this video. Thank god other people like her see issues with this look maxing stuff it’s good go a certain extent but they been taking it way to far
I think it’s better to just be yourself. You can still look good by doing the basic things like getting fit, dressing well, and good hygiene. Going to the extreme with plastic surgeries and other things is where you lose your identity, trying to be someone else. It’s worth it when you find someone that loves you for you even with your imperfections, at least you know the relationship is genuine.
Exactly lol. This is breeding insecure people. And eventually these people will turn to plastic surgery. I can’t live with myself being a fake. I don’t think others should either. That’s an insult to yourself.
Perspective from a 23 yr old guy who is "looksmaxing", engaging with that kind of content - I'm not objectively handsome, I'm not charismatic, I'm not making a lot of money, I'm pretty introverted and don't do a lot of conventionally fun things, I love doing stuff at home and just going out on occasion. Also, Im a "nice guy" as opposed to a badboy. With all of that basic stuff said, I have never had a girlfriend - despite my embarrassingly strong effort put into trying to get into a relationship. The exception is this one girl that just completely used me. So I asked myself the question, "why can't I even get a date?" I researched all of the conventional "be yourself" type of advice, and it got me nowhere. Then i discovered looksmaxxing and everything seemed to make sense. If i was more handsome, had more money, and had a "better personality" then that will probably increase my ability to get a girlfriend. It gives me an extreme level of motivation that someday all the effort might be worth it. I'm not stupid, and I'm not depressed, I'm just trying to do what it really takes for a guy like me to get a girlfriend some day. If anyone has questions or wants to discuss, Im open.
Women like courtney are out of touch with how shallow many women are in America. I've noticed she always make sure to insert the message "every girl is different" in her videos, while ignoring the existence of narrow beauty standards that impacts the lives of guys who don't conform to them. I think its disingenuous to ignore trends that shows certain physical traits are valued more than others, because otherwise people will assume everyone's struggles are equal and there shouldn't be any societal intervention to correct them.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xn not to mention that Courtney herself met her husband of Tinder of all places, and her husband is tall, handsome and successful. If height, facial attractiveness and success weren't dealbreakers for her, then why did she go for him over every other guy that was interested in her that also had nice personality and style? She's disingenuous when she's saying 'looks aren't everything'. While she may genuinely believe that statement, the part that she doesn't say out loud is 'looks aren't everything, you need to be educated and successful as well', which is true for her AND is actually the complete opposite of the message she's trying to send out in this video. No, you can't compensate for looks with your personality or sense of style. You need personality AND style AND looks AND status for a woman like Courtney to want to date you. Don't pay attention to what women say. Pay attention to what they do.
What are some of your hobbies? Are they things you do by yourself? IF they can be done with others trying to join a club/group where you can meet people. Doesn't even have to be to meet a woman, just to meet people. The more friends and people you meet, obviously the more people you'll meet haha. And then through those connections you can find that special someone perhaps. I don't know you personally of course but a lot of people who complain are spending too much time on the internet, or are using a dating app where the chances are just super slim and most men/women aren't that serious. Just living your life authentically and being social can get you pretty far and if you have trouble with social skills, they'll just improve. If you do resort to apps, it might be more worth your time to use a more exclusive paid one than the Wild West like Tinder. Don't get down on your luck though or pity yourself. Never seen a guy get a girl out of pity.
@@Ray03595 Couple of things: 1) Most guys are already over saturated with friends, what they are lacking is romantic options. Ponder why that's the case. So advising them to join clubs with men or simply making friends is a huge waste of time, especially men who are in their mid 30s who want to get married and settle quickly. The more they leave things to luck, the more their options are being reduced. 2) "..a lot of people who complain are spending too much time on the internet, or are using a dating app where the chances are just super slim and most men/women aren't that serious" What's the basis for this assumption? Have you actually bothered to personally get to know the folks who talk about their struggles? How many do you know personally? Don't fill the gap in your knowledge with absurd ad hoc assumptions when you don't have enough evidence to support them. 3. "If you do resort to apps, it might be more worth your time to use a more exclusive paid one than the Wild West like Tinder." We have stats from serious relationship oriented app exclusively for folks graduated from ivy league universities that shows even the most educated women disqualify 70-80% of men using height and race filters alone. Let that sink in.
The "Looks are Supreme" philosophy which has taken over South Korea has made their society dystopic to the point that plastic surgery has become a common graduation gift.
This was a great video for a lot of guys, especially for younger guys. It’s not just about the Looksmaxing, it’s that black pill crap that tells guys that only looks matters when attracting a woman. There are a multitude of things that matter, and looks isn’t on the very top.
Respectfully, Courtney, as a very beautiful women, you simply can't relate to the average guy's experience. I understand you don't want the world to be that way, but it is as it is. This is especially to your last point: yes to participate in the dating market, which is progressively more online, You'd rather be taller than not. You'd rather have hair than not. and if you don't have either, you're effectively not getting any matches. So when you say "you don't need to go to Turkey to get a hair transplant" because you can find love without it, respectfully that's not what the data shows. This is downright gaslighting at this point. You're right that it can be taken to the extreme to the point of being detrimental, but more often than not, that hair transplant and even height surgery greatly improves QOL, precisely because we live in a superficial society. And someone with your looks might never really understand what its like on the other side of the table, so at least apply a bit more humility and benefit of the doubt when approaching the topic. I guarantee you if you lived life as a 5'3 man, leg surgery wouldn't be that wild an idea.
I’ve been diagnosed with body dysmorphic disorder since I was 15. Meaning I literally see my face different then how everyone else sees it. It causes severe depression, and suicidal thoughts since the age of just 12 years old I hyper fixated on the little imperfections on my face. It got so bad when I was 16 I took a razer to my face because I didn’t feel like it was handsome enough even tho I’ve had multiple women tell me otherwise. I used to wish I had different parents so I looked a curtain way which caused unjustifiable resentment. I’ve been doing this whole “looks maxing thing” since I was a little constantly on skincare, changing my hairstyle, and color, all while absolutely hating every part, and imperfection on my face to the point I’ve almost taken my own life. I’m not writing this to be like “oh poor me” all I’m saying it constantly fixating on your appearance does nothing good for you or anyone else in your life. There’s a different between basic self care, and then there’s a point where it becomes absolutely insane. Hope everyone stays safe out there, and loves them for who they are, and don’t listen to these submale discord mods telling you you need to look a curtain of way. This videos has helped a lot…so thank you
I hope you eventually see what others see, especially us women, since from your picture I think you look great! I’d only suggest styling your hair better than what’s in your picture but the length is what a lot of young women love, if not a bit longer.
What about headgear and orthodontic appliances? My overbite was corrected via those methods, but honestly I never looked to see if my facial structure changed, or if those changes were also the result of puberty.
Despite her soft and pleasant demeanour Courtney really has a funny dry sense of humour. It always catches me off guard when she drops a totally unhinged diss out of nowhere XD.
What is frustrating for me, is that I do all of these things already, and have for years. I take care of myself in every way possible. The way i have always believed is that if you dont take care of yourself, how can you ever be expected to take care of someone else? I never thought I would say this but sometimes I just feel like giving up on all of that. Sadly, the only women that seem to be interested are what I call older women. I've made that mistake before. How can I ever expect to have a family like that? The clock is ticking as I am middle aged and will turn 48 on March 15th. I have alot to offer someone. But particularly women just don't seem to notice it. In my area, women seem to like men of lower standards. I don't have bulging muscles or face tattoos or drive around with a bass system in my car like I'm still 19. I grew up. I don't know if I'm in the wrong area or not? I'm in Springfield, Ohio...I'm from Dayton. I'm in a real pickle.
There's a TH-camr called Hoe_Math that does a fantastic job explaining what women generally think about and value when it comes to dating. I suggest giving his "zones" video a look to see what you might need to work on. Also, have you ever considered moving? Maybe a change of scenery is what you need. As the old saying goes, " If the fish aren't biting in the lake that you're at, then go to a different spot." Where you currently live, there are factors that are out of your control, like scarcity. So, it makes sense to put yourself in a position that favors you. At the end of the day, it's your life, and you must decide what you're willing to do.
I don't ever hate anything about myself if someone doesn't like how i look sounds like that's a their issue not my issue. Self esteem and self worth have nothing to do with others opinions, if they haven't got something nice to say about you don't worry about it. Their opinion don't matter cause they don't matter if they aren't supporting you and stand by you. Remember it's your life, "your" is the keyword. Enjoy your life as you see fit it's yours you have to live it no one else.
He said it on his latest podcast, but this quote fits and goes to what is really preventing most people from finding a partner: A dating problem is just an emotional problem that’s being experienced while dating. - Mark Manson
Hey Courtney, I really appreciate this video, you make such authentic content, I really appreciate you and everything you put out on the internet, the world definitely needs people like you who can see the clear problems modern society presents people with like extreme versions of looksmaxing.
I do all the things miss Courtney says for men to do shower groom dress well smell good look good. I also exercise everyday and go spa with the jacuzzi pool.
Thank you, Courtney. This should be actually taught in universities and made it a mandatory prerequisite called "PHYSICAL AND MENTAL GROOMING" course. Will save a lot of youngsters mental health.
I think it all comes down to being realistic about what you can or can't do to improve yourself. When it comes to attracting women, they are more complex than men are. What I mean is that they generally value a whole lot of other things as well. So, what you lack in looks can be made up for by being competent and showing confidence. I believe dating apps and the media have played a significant role in giving both men and women unattainable beauty standards.
And, on topic of your video, when I use to be involved with runway modeling, some of the models would go to the dentist and have perfectly good bottom molars removed to create a more chiseled jaw line. This really went on. And the model would already be outstanding looking, but he wanted to be Perfect. An example of male model perfection right now is the English gentleman David Gandy. He is all natural and so overwhelming, J-lo said she was nervous around him when she used him for her video. David inherited the genetic lottery. He just looks that way, while the rest of planet earth cannot come close with any facemaxx technique.
Thanks, Courtney. This is the first time that I've heard of that crazy stuff. It is sad. It's so cool your cat is named, Bisquit. My grandbabies had a cat named, Bisquit. She always came to say hi to me when I would go visit them. Sadly, she disappeared a few weeks ago. We all miss her. ):
It still baffles me how many people don’t use soap in the shower. I have also heard of people who only wash their upper body and think that the soapy water just running down them is somehow getting them clean. Use soap/body wash and a rag or some kind of scrubber people. On a side note, maybe that’s why I rarely see body wash sold out in the stores lol.
Do you routinely see other stuff sold out in stores save toilet paper and baby formula during a global pandemic? If so, you live in a terrible neighborhood.
@@caseybucketsand then you see that one legendary sc of a chad from tindferno saying he hasnt washed in 30 days, & the vvoman saying “just spray something a lot and you’ll be good” If looks weren’t powerful, and the stuff foids say held any weight, she wouldn’t have said that.
Because you're very literally not supposed to use soap anywhere but the sweat gland areas and benzoyl peroxide is better. Also no scrubbing is terrible for your skin. You're judging people when you don't even know how to shower. Go talk to any dermatologist or even watch a video on the topic. This is pretty unanimous
Good video Courtney. Hope you're enjoying the warmer weather today. I think Summer is coming early. I am in Kentucky so I get the heat a little quicker than you.
Seemingly a significant proportion of women are actually negative affecting ther skin through their skin care routine. The number one things are basic like protect your skin against the sun or cold, reduce an inflammatory lifestyle like don't have an açai bowl with 60g of sugar and then three drinks at a club later that day, and then the next most important thing would be acute issues or things that are coincidental with various medical conditions like diabetes, thyroid disease, etc
You’re a lot more aware than most women when it comes to the crazy high standards women have. I’m 6’6, 240lbs six pack, great hair and teeth, and six figure income and girls treat me like I’m a below average man. I totally get why guys are doing this
I just learned about this maxing thing. I was a husky kid in high school then went to the Marine Corps. During that time I got in great shape, refined my style, and gained more confidence. After that, even at 5'9", never had an issue with dating or hooking up. Some girls were even taller than me. They didn't care probably bc I had my sh!t together.
Does Courtney actually believe this or is she just another grifter telling her audience what they want to hear? How coincidentally her husband has a full head of hair, has terrific bone structure and is 6ft tall? And also a multimillionaire lol… she brings women on her channel that are very similar in looks/background to her and when they say they want a guy that makes 150k they are delusional… does she not see the hypocrisy? I smell another grifter
Before the internet people were competing against others from their city. Now, we are competing against top 0.000001% smartest, most beautiful and most successful people, who are extremely rare but we are exposed to them 24/7. If you are top 10% in the looks department you are nothing special, since everyone has already seen 50 supermodels that day before you. Same goes for career and other achievement.
Why are you surprised. You write about it all the time and your support is considerable. Giiys hear it daily. When society is depressed it blames shames men. When our leaders need to show they are fighting crime they point out how they are toxic predators. Thank you I’ll get back to work on your roof. A man who’s 50 will let it roll off. Another stob in the back but not the first or last. It’s the boys who are 15 18 20 you need to worry about. But keep up the good work
Courtney great video ,but let me put this to perspective out of 90% of the dates I setup end up in flakes. Ive been dating for 5 years never had luck in securing a gf.just a bunch of failed talking stages and shitty first dates. A lot of girl don’t appreciate the time or effort you put in to try and setup dates or anything.like the amount of times I plan out a date with a girl you know i reserve a table i check in with her a head of time i do everything right and still she ghosts me and just makes me feel stupid.like that constant level of disrespect and degradation will build up snd lower your self perception of yourself in order go through with this crazy looks maxing rabbit hole. If girls in this society were more truthful and just better people this whole ideology of looksmaxing wouldn’t exist
Exactly dude. Problems like being short or having a small p aren't just something that men are insecure about for no reason, they are things that they are MADE to feel insecure about because of how they are treated by women and by society at large. Looksmaxing is a trend that exists purely because of how competitive the dating market is, and the market is so competitive BECAUSE of women's increasingly high standards.
Also just fyi I’m a dirty old man close to 40, and I been chewing gum for close to a year now. I already “solved” sleep apnea by taping my mouth shut at night. Now I am trained to sleep with my mouth closed even if it’s not taped. Chewing gum pushed my teeth apart enough such that nose breathing is unobstructed……👍👍🙏please read “Breath” by James Nestor 🙏❤️❤️
Bless your heart Mrs. Ryan. I can tell that you really care. At one point in this video it seems like you were going to cry. This is a disturbing trend. It is the same with women who think that they need all of this surgery to look good and compete with other women. Thank you.
I think there's a fine line between grooming and maintaining hygiene vs undergoing a bunch of cosmetic procedures in the hopes of changing your fundamental appearance. What we should be aiming for is natural upkeep instead of spending excessively on artificial interventions. But yeah, men can always compensate for subpar looks by improving other areas of their lives. The problem with this trend is that its proponents believe physical appearance is the sole criterion for gauging attractiveness. It basically boils down the complexity of attraction to a single variable.
Taking care of your body(eating good, exercise, hygiene, even dressing for the occasion) is just basic stuff, it's not "maxing." The things that go beyond that are getting into pride/vanity territory and it's high maintenance. As men, we should keep it simple because we have bigger things to concern ourselves with. If your focus is "looksmaxxing," then there's something else going on that you need to deal with, not distract yourself from with silly and neurotic behaviors.
Apparently my jaw sticking out like it does is caused by all the hard homemade granola and beef jerky I ate as a kid. It’s too late when the growth plate is set for any of the musculature nonsense to work. I also have a condition that reflexively relaxes my muscles so tone is terrible for me, so I go for size not tone. Don’t think about it too much just brush your teeth and the plate of your mouth and do something like pushups daily. None of my siblings have the wide jaw ends I have, 1 difference I ate all the hard foods i loved chewing things LOVED chewing and crunching tough foods as a kid
Sorry Courtney, looks matter a lot, and much more now when girls can see more Chads than before. Believe me you'll notice if you are chad depending the way that people treat you. Try a normal approach to a girl asking for directiosn and if she just ran away scared and you get lucky to not end on the jail for simple asking, You'll know that you not good looking. On the other hand, if you are handsome, whatever you say to a girl even if you are nervous or in a shy way your aceptance and treatment is amazing and the rejections are soft and sweet. Courtney, im dissapointed on you know for denying reality, I bet youll never be with your husband if he were still fat as you said that he was years ago. After looks it comes everything what Courtney says, looks is just the first big filter, if you cant pass the second filter of the hearth and your truly personality, you'll end up in the sexzone and not in a relationship.
This is ridiculous. Next time you walk down the street look at all the couples and ask yourself if every guy who is with someone is a 10/10 chad looking man? Maybe if you are only trying to date a model-level woman, then obviously she's going to look for someone who is one her same level of attraction probably. Just like a chad would. Chances are you are probably missing out on meeting many women that perhaps don't meet your beauty standards. Seek out women beyond just their looks. Because it's simply not true that an average guy out there cannot get any woman to talk to them.
I use to watch videos like these as a teen/kid because I was insure, and it made me feel really terrible about myself. I was just a kid growing up man this stuff shouldn’t be on the internet where it’s toxic. 14:20
Man I was hoping to hear you say some of the looksmaxxing terminology, such as "mogging" or "ropemaxxing" lol. I'm 27 year old guy who follows soft looksmaxxing (which is basically just taking care of yourself), and concur that anything beyond that such as getting surgery to get taller is absolutely absurd. Great video as always.
@@CourtneyRyan Very appreciative and honored by your response 😍 (I am a bit…okay, a lot….star struck 🤩 ) Thank you as well for reading and hearting my comment on your other video. I know it was on the longer side, but I learned so much from you and wanted to express that 😊 Just wanted to say I really appreciate you taking the time.
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Thank you, Miss Courtney Ryan it’s like when my friend says, take everything with a grain of salt
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I am trying to set up a telegram account.
If I had to imagine what Siri looks like, you would be it 👍
As a 29 year old man I can't thank you enough for your content. These are the types of conversations we need to have more, putting your primary focus on your mental health needs to be a priority over these detrimental fads.
You are such a light among the darkness of the internet. Keep up the great, compassionate advice. The world needs more people like you.
Such a goddess. VVoman are wonderful. Let me sacrifice my body for them on the field. She’d certainly date a 5’2 baIding lndian janitor with a great pERsonality!
I lost over 100 lbs before coming to this channel. Since being here since August 2022, I have quit porn. I have a strict skin care routine. I use body wash. I brush, floss and use mouthwash twice daily.
If your comment is true, the real question is - Are you in a relationship?
You had cosmetic surgeons? Why?
Using mouthwash that often can kill the good bacteria in your mouth and might cause bad breath, be careful w that
@@pace1195Straight to the point. I like that
I spent a lot of Money to have a looksmaxing. I had a dental brachets, fue hair trasplant, spend Money in the Gym...
15:05-15:19 - the most evergreen, universally applicable 14 seconds any influencer has ever said.
lol isn't this social media in a nutshell? Everyone, particularly women, posting constant (edited) photos for nothing but VALIDATION from others. Likes & views = validation lol. Everyone obviously wants to look and feel good. It's a hard fact, but women have been altering their natural (beauty) though much much more (unhealthy) practices than men ever had. Hypocrisy is within us all. It's why I call bs every time an attractive person, such as herself, says that looks aren't everything. Fact = in order to get to know and experience someone's personality and other attributes, you first have to pass though the physical attractiveness filter. This is where MANY men are initially ignored & dismissed.
I don't think I've ever seen the word evergreen in a TH-cam comment.
@@bengold7942watch more videos about boats being stuck
If there’s any “looksmaxing” content to really watch, it is your fashion videos. I have learned so much about fashion from you and it has definitely made a difference. Thank you for everything you do 😊
Na bro, I ain't going to wear some of that clothes lol it would 100% be the reverse for me. Negative maxxing. I would feel uncomfortable since that's not who I am.
Dude is such a simp
@@joashedwards7206 this is also her opinion and what "she" likes and thinks looks good in men but as she has stated, women have different taste in men. Basic hygiene is one that all men should follow though. Some men are outright disgusting looking lmao
@@467076 Agree most men are ugly that's why we should level up but people been knowing the basics of hygiene, fashion and whatnot for ages and just because she comes along and says the same shit oh now yall start listening ? And if what u say is true why are guys listening to her? It's only her pov not the majority of women? So what's her advice gonna do? Absolutely nothing, miss me with that bullshit man cmon
Fashion is the art that dresses us. Pay attention to art and harmony in general, and you will learn a lot.
I can confirm that mewing worked for me starting at around 16. It was worth it because It only took a month to learn and ended up blessing me a chin.
so it can work post puberty/late puberty
I don't see any problem with hair transplant. There are people who love to have beautiful hair and procedure itself is pretty simple and not harmful...
Yeah that’s something I disagree with what she said, and doing it in another country because it’s cheaper even with buying a plane ticket there.
Fine line between looksmaxing and vanity
If you're easily swayed&influenced, sure. Fix your mental health
Agreed
I always thought of looksmaxing as a positive thing. I didnt realize people were doing these extreme things in the name of looksmaxing. Self improvement is great but you just arent going to be attractive to everybody. So strive to be the best version of yourself and learn to embrace the fact that you are not perfect. If a woman cant look past your flaws then it wasnt meant to be. Find a woman who will see the good in you.
@@CourtneyRyanit’s women’s fault that us men are doing this. We’re all undesirable if we’re under 6 foot and not a 9/10 in looks. It’s your preferences that have led us to this miserable place. Yall are the reason why.
i dont know about that bro. fine line !! =no ... more like big phat same line
luv who u r . period .
Thanks for breaking down the perspective of this topic! This will really help a lot of individuals out struggling with insecurities!
Social interaction is key to start a relationship that comes with high self-esteem, Thanks Courtney.
Looksmaxxing is a must though if you’re short and genetically ugly like me.
Otherwise, we won't ever have a shot at dating.
I'm short too man and genetically have a recessed jawline. I'm still going to fix it and not give up. (I'm 5'3'' by the way, beat that)
@@LJarchived Im 6"1 and still virgin close to 30. Height is just +1 point nothing more.
Remember, looks-maxing is just one part of the equation. Courtney is right about becoming a better man from the inside-out. The more I read and listen to positive podcasts and comedy, the better my interactions with others become. Women do value looks, but a good woman is looking for who you are on the inside. I have a friend who is very short and he build a career, does crossfit, and has 3 girlfriends in open relationships. They're all taller than him. I'm telling you: good women want a man with a good heart and mind.
@@28yearsolddwhen you’re short 5’6 below is like who you’ re invisible people will not even give you a chance to look at you
@@alanking7582 im 6"1 and still feel like invisible. Womand like height but if u are not goodlooking they dont care about u.
I've found that going to the gym regularly and posing in the mirror has helped me to love my body and myself.
It absolutely helps.
Posing in the mirror is absolutely psychotic behavior
@@hotpockets69it has nothing to do with psychosis. You've probably meant psychopathic but still there's no real connection to posing and being a psychopath
The Truth-Teller! In the first three minutes, Courtney cuts to the core. Excellent self-care and hygiene differentiates us from the rest. (It’s awesome to see you calling out the extremes; the madness of looksmaxxing.) Thank you Courtney for sharing your own personal situation and plans for your TMJ. Being self-aware, making plans and taking action. So good.
I'm 39 now and going to my 40 this September. I came across your channel 2 weeks ago and it really helped me to improve myself both physically and mentally. I started to be inspired again and focusing on things that really matters. I'm working to be high a value man by putting my best foot forward in my career, getting back to healthy diet and working out and It feels great. Thank you.
I found Courtney about two years ago and now I'm 40. She has inspired me to continue to take steps to be a better man inside and out. What a gem.
@CourtneyRyan Men change in order to attract a woman, the problem is not Men, it is Women’s expectations in Men. They only want tall muscular wealthy Men. Look at the rates of single men to single women, the numbers don’t lie. I take care of myself, to look and be my best and it’s never been enough for a woman. Haven’t had a serious relationship in a decade…inner qualities don’t matter without attraction. I’ve become someone that I love but without all of these things..I still remain single.
Yeah Courtney is completely divorced from reality on this issue.
social media has made it much worse, its like ure never enough and if ure lkike 5,7 like me it never even began, most woman are extremly shallow and are just into looks, even if ure a good guy u wont even get a chance to prove it, so i stopped thinking the inner matters long time ago.
In terms of mewing, I think it’s pretty undisputed by orthodontists that it’s important for good childhood jaw development. The problem really comes in when adults HARD-Mew. When they do excises to try and split their palatial suture with the sheer force of their tongue. This (especially when done poorly) can cause all kinds of complications, especially if one already suffers from TMJD. I’m 25, and the act of simply closing my mouth, properly raising my tongue, breathing through my nose, and swallowing against my palate truly has changed me for the better. Not only has it actually changed my appearance as my double chin has completely picked up, but the buccal mass of my cheeks hollowed out, but my breathing is more relaxed and my sense of smell has improved 10x. It also put some other postural corrections on my radar (i.e. anterior head posture or anterior pelvic tilt). It’s important to take what nuggets of wisdom one can, and don’t throw the baby out with the bath water
Looks absolutely matter the most, since most relationships start online, and looks are the only way to advertise yourself online.
Looks are just a snapshot of genetic desirability and indicators of health. At the root, sexual selection boils down to the sexy son hypothesis, good genes theory and Fisher’s principle when sex ratio nears 1:1.
Looks absolutely do matter the most! As one of many men in the world who drew the short end of the stick in the genetic lottery, this is a cold, hard, inescapable truth that women don't want to admit to.
@@garychildress5242 Courtney was trying to be considerate and nice, but she takes for granted how alien her experience is to even normies with average height like myself, when she is an attractive female (I would give her like 7/10 on the low end and an 8/10 on the generous side). To truly nail down just how alien her experience of life is, a chick with brittle bone disease (a highly heritable defect) has sexual options when her male equivalent likely to die a lifelong virgin or having to buy hookers.
Agree about looks but I don’t think most relationships start online nor that’s why since we usually go for looks in person, too - most first dates may start online, though.
@@garychildress5242you can see this clearly when you hear them complaining about how nobody wants them and how lonely they are but they have 10 guys at any given moment dming them
When it comes to height and hair loss, it's very difficult and I have both disadvantages, hits your confidence and you have to do a lot of self-belief work to overcome it and it still doesn't help a lot.
Hair loss is reversible. Dut/fin and HT.
I love to people watch and see plenty of dudes under 6’, bald, fat, poorly groomed with gfs. There is an ass for every seat.
Minoxidil is key, like i ve been struggling since i have alopecia areata, but yeah that type of alopecia is kinda reversible
@@Tntpker Yes I do use medication.
Be weary of hormonal change drugs. If it works for you with no side effects, then awesome and I’d definitely say continue doing it. However, you could fuck your hormones up for life including low sperm count that never return to normal (despite what the science says, these cases absolutely exist and aren’t just placebo). I have never heard or seen someone who lost a girl because of his hair. It’s typically because they show their insecurity. Embrace your height and your hair loss. Even if you have to lie to yourself. Courtney says that looksmaxxing preys upon men with insecurities. At the end of the day, you don’t need to looksmax if you aren’t insecure. Boost everything else (teeth, clothing, hygiene, smell, personality, communication, etc.). Focus on all of that, and that should get you further than these looksmaxxing losers who are ultra insecure and spend all day looking at themselves and talking about looksmaxxing on forums even if you have no hair and are short. I’d rather be 4 foot 11 and look like the thumb from spy kids than to be a insecure guy too caught up with his own looks because he believe he needs to, to find love from women.
Thank you Courtney for caring. You are so kind and you are gift to us in the world
"Be happy to be alive". Life is a beautiful thing. It's not always easy as we navigate, but things always work themselves out. Don't give up!
What confused me about mewing is that I've always naturally had my tongue resting on the roof of my mouth, I thought it was normal for humans.
That’s not mewing. Mewing is doing that with applied pressure
Funny you say that because ever since I was a baby my mum always said that I "suck my tongue" which involved pushing it against my mouth and sucking it and still do this by reflex actually.
@@sigmachad96 it’s not. Biting down on you teeth is basically mewing
I went all out and tried every looks maxxing technique. I'm now a solid 4
if you were a 2 before ---> congratulations. If you were a 4, you are doing the maxxing wrong.
@@georgemargaris I'll always be below average. Never mind.
You may be a 4 in your perception, but there are women that will see you as a 10. Like Courtney mentioned you have to also work on what is on the inside. Real talk you're some woman's 10. She's out there.
@@EinSofQuester I thought I was like 4. If you are 4 then Im fuckin zero lol. You must have some confidence issues...
Of course, you're, like, 50 years old.
So I'm pretty insecure about my teeth. I have a minor under-bite that has caused the teeth of my upper jaw to come in crooked with gaps. My whole life I've had issues with smiling and just a lack of confidence. So I recently decided to look into doing something about it.
The first oral implant center I spoke to suggested getting dental caps on ALL my front teeth. It was an affordable option AND can be done in just a few weeks. Sounds great, right? Well, they basically wanted to grind down my existing teeth into little nubs and glue fake teeth on top. I did some homework and found it's not only irreversible and can cause some longtern health issues. Plus every 10sh years you need new caps, so you're spending like $10k+ every 10 years.
I then went to two dentists and a highly rated orthodontist to see if invisalign was a better option. All gave me the same answer. I could do invisalign to help my smile a little, but I would def need upper-jaw surgery if I ever wanted a 'normal' smile. Basically they would detach my upper jaw, move it forward a little, and then re-attach it with bolts. It's incredibly invasive, costly, and I'm sure takes time to fully recover.
I'm going to talk to a oral surgeon about the procedure just to weigh my options. But at this point, I'm thinking fuck it. I'll just accept I don't have a beautiful smile. I'm still a great guy regardless. If a girl can't see that and gets hung-up on my imperfect teeth, she's clearly not the one for me.
Lack of confidence is a killer ...
@@dernvader6876 It really is. I'm sure many men in a similar situation would have jumped at the quick/easy answer of getting those dental caps. Only to then spend years and god knows how much money regretting it. I'm just not willing to go that far. I'd rather focus my energy fixing the things that are well within my power. Like eating better, dealing with my social anxiety, and working out regularly.
Keep telling yourself boi no girl will find a guy with a not preety smile attractive women are extremely superficial these days and they will pass on a guy like u because of it, and due to their lack of maturity and decsion making your gonna get to the end of your life single
Take that money, invest it in a retirement fund, and live happily ever after with your crooked smile…
I respect your decision but that last part is genuinely cope. They do not care about you being a great guy, otherwise guys like Chris Brown or Drake wouldn't be getting every girl in the world... Or if you want somebody not famous, think of literally any guy that did well in college like frat guys, generally not good people. You'll at best be some girls desperate last minute ATM after she's been used by every not great guy in town for a decade+
Order, work and discipline always solve everything, no matter what the goals that we want, willing, and wishing to do (that goes for either men, and women).
You're about the only one I've heard say this. Great advice about doing your own research. Thank you!
It's very nice to have Courtney around. Her common sense approach to reality is much needed now a day❣️
I've been suffering from this kind of mindset since 2004-2005 due to bullying environment.
It's hard to believe that I can make it until now, but with the cost of avoiding everyone.
I hope no one ever goes through something like this, because it felt very torturous.
When I'm in crowded environments it is amazing just how frumpy and overweight people are these days. Simply getting one's weight down, getting fit, and dressing a level or two above the venue can really make one stand out. And get this, everyone else notices!
Notice but don't care.
I've gotten engineering jobs from being fit and looking sharp over the competition@@yongkysiaw6597. Instead of death by a thousand cuts, it's like a thousand tiny wins. I've learned that people are attracted to attractive people. Not that I'm that great looking, but the regular gym workouts, wearing clothes that fit and look nice, and being charming opens doors. That is doors of opportunity.
I'm skinny as shit so I'm 113 pounds at 5'9
I'm 6'2 340 pounds, and have no problems standing out because I'm good looking with a great personality.
How old are you@@perrycoffey5410?
If you're 15 you're still growing in height and that takes a lot of energy. My son at about that age started lifting weights (for baseball pitchers exercises at first) and had to start eating 4000 calories a day (he said that was hard to do). In a few years his weight was up and he had put on 20 lbs. Some years later he's now around 190 lbs (he's taller).
If you're older, get into the gym and start eating. Then watch your life change. It did for me as It got me jobs (in engineering no less) over slobs competing for the same position.
Hearing about stuff like this makes me feel extremely good that I don't really care what other people think.
Cope😂
Breathing through your nose when possible except during extreme exercise does help facial structure. In addition to this, eating food you have to ACTUALLY chew also does improve your oral structure as well.
Andrew Huberman has videos on this. It's worth looking up.
I believe it!
Lost 25lbs in the last 2 months just from healthy eating. Feel good and I did it for myself.
I do the Courtney recommended looks maxing. Shower with soap and shampoo, trim beard and nails, wear clean good fitting clothes, and walk/stand confidently and tall with an open welcoming stance. 😁
Man listening to a woman on how to be attractive is wild your ancestors would be soo disappointed in you
There are 2 kinds of people in this world my friend: those who watches Courtney, and those who doesn't.
We watch
Hi Courtney. Thank you for this video, this is what we need to hear, I wish there were more people like you in this sea we call social media. Thank you 🥲
Courtney can you please make a video on financies in relationships ?? Like how it should best be approached to avoid possible relationship issues !!
Very simple chief,make sure your wife has a job and pays half of every bill in your home.
I think we make Looksmaxxing much harder than what it really is for guys. To me, it mainly consist of 3-4 steps: take care of your body, take care of your mental health, improve your style (weather it's clothing, hair style). If you are determined and if you become consistent, it's not THAT hard c'mon.
This video is virtue signaling. I noticed that people who share Courtney's (supposed) views never back their opinion with evidence. They just go like "It's not true, trust me bro" or "Every woman is different". Or they try to tell you to go outside and see that there are a lot of average dudes with girlfriends. But how hard was it for them to get one? How satisfied are those women with their dudes? Those things get overlooked.
Nothing unexpected
This reminds me of a twitter thread where a bunch of the comments were guys not knowing you have to wash your ass to keep it clean. Blew my mind! XD
Courtney, you brought on women who confirmed all men’s insecurities. Looks are all that matters. You can say money too but you may as well be an escort if you are in it primarily for the money. As for personality, none of those positive traits matter if she doesn’t find you attractive in the first place.
Happy Sunday Courtney.😊
Well done on Seven Hundred Thousand subscribers.💜
When is the question and ask?😅
Bring on month of March.❤
Thank you so much 😊
@@CourtneyRyan you’re welcome
@@CourtneyRyan happy international women's day courtney.☺️💕
Hey Courtney, I'm not sure if you have ever seen this old film called "Marty", but it tells the story of a man who struggled with dating. I recently watched this film, and it was such a fascinating story; plus, this film won the Oscar for Best Picture. I would be curious to hear what you have to say about "Marty" if you ever get the chance to watch it or make a reaction video to it.
It’s a GREAT movie for men, especially. Timeless!
I'll have to check it out
Can't recommend that movie highly enough. In 1950whatever, Marty Polletti was going through the same crap a lot of men are going through right now.
This isn't just men's insecurities..SOCIETY AS A WHOLE KEEPS THIS GOING. Men AND women and the media and social media and dating apps, in the workplace. On any given day, I can tell how good I look, based on how people treat me...and it never fails...
Completely agree with this. I see at my sales job how staff treat each other and customers solely based on looks and it is something I notice in public too. Also as a short man at 5'7 I don't think Courtney truly understands how disheartening it is to see constant height bashing on every social media platform and dating app. I am at the point where I am a grain of sand of giving up on dating fully. I can handle my friends casually joking about my height but to see women on dating apps who I would date disqualify me before meeting me just because I'm a little short (which I can't change) is actually heartbreaking.
I’m so glad she made this video. Thank god other people like her see issues with this look maxing stuff it’s good go a certain extent but they been taking it way to far
God*
When I wear my suit it feels like I turn into superman because everywhere I go I get compliments from women and men it's amazing the responses I get.🤩
I have never heard of looksmaxing but i did learn a lot from this video
Same here. I have never heard of the word until now.
Courtney seems more serious than usual here. As far as the topic goes you work with what you have.
Maybe it's because there is no background music
I think it’s better to just be yourself. You can still look good by doing the basic things like getting fit, dressing well, and good hygiene. Going to the extreme with plastic surgeries and other things is where you lose your identity, trying to be someone else. It’s worth it when you find someone that loves you for you even with your imperfections, at least you know the relationship is genuine.
Exactly lol. This is breeding insecure people. And eventually these people will turn to plastic surgery. I can’t live with myself being a fake. I don’t think others should either. That’s an insult to yourself.
Perspective from a 23 yr old guy who is "looksmaxing", engaging with that kind of content - I'm not objectively handsome, I'm not charismatic, I'm not making a lot of money, I'm pretty introverted and don't do a lot of conventionally fun things, I love doing stuff at home and just going out on occasion. Also, Im a "nice guy" as opposed to a badboy. With all of that basic stuff said, I have never had a girlfriend - despite my embarrassingly strong effort put into trying to get into a relationship. The exception is this one girl that just completely used me.
So I asked myself the question, "why can't I even get a date?" I researched all of the conventional "be yourself" type of advice, and it got me nowhere. Then i discovered looksmaxxing and everything seemed to make sense. If i was more handsome, had more money, and had a "better personality" then that will probably increase my ability to get a girlfriend. It gives me an extreme level of motivation that someday all the effort might be worth it. I'm not stupid, and I'm not depressed, I'm just trying to do what it really takes for a guy like me to get a girlfriend some day.
If anyone has questions or wants to discuss, Im open.
100% true
Women like courtney are out of touch with how shallow many women are in America. I've noticed she always make sure to insert the message "every girl is different" in her videos, while ignoring the existence of narrow beauty standards that impacts the lives of guys who don't conform to them. I think its disingenuous to ignore trends that shows certain physical traits are valued more than others, because otherwise people will assume everyone's struggles are equal and there shouldn't be any societal intervention to correct them.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xn not to mention that Courtney herself met her husband of Tinder of all places, and her husband is tall, handsome and successful. If height, facial attractiveness and success weren't dealbreakers for her, then why did she go for him over every other guy that was interested in her that also had nice personality and style?
She's disingenuous when she's saying 'looks aren't everything'. While she may genuinely believe that statement, the part that she doesn't say out loud is 'looks aren't everything, you need to be educated and successful as well', which is true for her AND is actually the complete opposite of the message she's trying to send out in this video. No, you can't compensate for looks with your personality or sense of style. You need personality AND style AND looks AND status for a woman like Courtney to want to date you.
Don't pay attention to what women say. Pay attention to what they do.
What are some of your hobbies? Are they things you do by yourself? IF they can be done with others trying to join a club/group where you can meet people. Doesn't even have to be to meet a woman, just to meet people. The more friends and people you meet, obviously the more people you'll meet haha. And then through those connections you can find that special someone perhaps. I don't know you personally of course but a lot of people who complain are spending too much time on the internet, or are using a dating app where the chances are just super slim and most men/women aren't that serious. Just living your life authentically and being social can get you pretty far and if you have trouble with social skills, they'll just improve. If you do resort to apps, it might be more worth your time to use a more exclusive paid one than the Wild West like Tinder. Don't get down on your luck though or pity yourself. Never seen a guy get a girl out of pity.
@@Ray03595 Couple of things:
1) Most guys are already over saturated with friends, what they are lacking is romantic options. Ponder why that's the case. So advising them to join clubs with men or simply making friends is a huge waste of time, especially men who are in their mid 30s who want to get married and settle quickly. The more they leave things to luck, the more their options are being reduced.
2) "..a lot of people who complain are spending too much time on the internet, or are using a dating app where the chances are just super slim and most men/women aren't that serious"
What's the basis for this assumption? Have you actually bothered to personally get to know the folks who talk about their struggles? How many do you know personally? Don't fill the gap in your knowledge with absurd ad hoc assumptions when you don't have enough evidence to support them.
3. "If you do resort to apps, it might be more worth your time to use a more exclusive paid one than the Wild West like Tinder."
We have stats from serious relationship oriented app exclusively for folks graduated from ivy league universities that shows even the most educated women disqualify 70-80% of men using height and race filters alone. Let that sink in.
The "Looks are Supreme" philosophy which has taken over South Korea has made their society dystopic to the point that plastic surgery has become a common graduation gift.
Yep - it’s getting insane.
This was a great video for a lot of guys, especially for younger guys. It’s not just about the Looksmaxing, it’s that black pill crap that tells guys that only looks matters when attracting a woman. There are a multitude of things that matter, and looks isn’t on the very top.
Respectfully, Courtney, as a very beautiful women, you simply can't relate to the average guy's experience. I understand you don't want the world to be that way, but it is as it is. This is especially to your last point: yes to participate in the dating market, which is progressively more online, You'd rather be taller than not. You'd rather have hair than not. and if you don't have either, you're effectively not getting any matches.
So when you say "you don't need to go to Turkey to get a hair transplant" because you can find love without it, respectfully that's not what the data shows.
This is downright gaslighting at this point.
You're right that it can be taken to the extreme to the point of being detrimental, but more often than not, that hair transplant and even height surgery greatly improves QOL, precisely because we live in a superficial society. And someone with your looks might never really understand what its like on the other side of the table, so at least apply a bit more humility and benefit of the doubt when approaching the topic. I guarantee you if you lived life as a 5'3 man, leg surgery wouldn't be that wild an idea.
I’ve been diagnosed with body dysmorphic disorder since I was 15. Meaning I literally see my face different then how everyone else sees it. It causes severe depression, and suicidal thoughts since the age of just 12 years old I hyper fixated on the little imperfections on my face. It got so bad when I was 16 I took a razer to my face because I didn’t feel like it was handsome enough even tho I’ve had multiple women tell me otherwise. I used to wish I had different parents so I looked a curtain way which caused unjustifiable resentment. I’ve been doing this whole “looks maxing thing” since I was a little constantly on skincare, changing my hairstyle, and color, all while absolutely hating every part, and imperfection on my face to the point I’ve almost taken my own life. I’m not writing this to be like “oh poor me” all I’m saying it constantly fixating on your appearance does nothing good for you or anyone else in your life. There’s a different between basic self care, and then there’s a point where it becomes absolutely insane. Hope everyone stays safe out there, and loves them for who they are, and don’t listen to these submale discord mods telling you you need to look a curtain of way. This videos has helped a lot…so thank you
I hope you eventually see what others see, especially us women, since from your picture I think you look great! I’d only suggest styling your hair better than what’s in your picture but the length is what a lot of young women love, if not a bit longer.
I'm an anatomy professor, and mewing does nothing to alter your facial structure.
What about headgear and orthodontic appliances? My overbite was corrected via those methods, but honestly I never looked to see if my facial structure changed, or if those changes were also the result of puberty.
@swampdonkey4919 Those are legitimate ways to reshape the face. My point was mewing does not.
@@iamme25yago No, I'm retarded. Maybe you can tell me the difference.
It does when you start to correct things as a child. As a adult it does nothing
Despite her soft and pleasant demeanour Courtney really has a funny dry sense of humour. It always catches me off guard when she drops a totally unhinged diss out of nowhere XD.
Right 😂😂😂
Courtney, we really, really should blame Ladies AND SOCIAL MEDIA for this.
What is frustrating for me, is that I do all of these things already, and have for years. I take care of myself in every way possible. The way i have always believed is that if you dont take care of yourself, how can you ever be expected to take care of someone else? I never thought I would say this but sometimes I just feel like giving up on all of that. Sadly, the only women that seem to be interested are what I call older women. I've made that mistake before. How can I ever expect to have a family like that? The clock is ticking as I am middle aged and will turn 48 on March 15th. I have alot to offer someone. But particularly women just don't seem to notice it. In my area, women seem to like men of lower standards. I don't have bulging muscles or face tattoos or drive around with a bass system in my car like I'm still 19. I grew up. I don't know if I'm in the wrong area or not? I'm in Springfield, Ohio...I'm from Dayton. I'm in a real pickle.
There's a TH-camr called Hoe_Math that does a fantastic job explaining what women generally think about and value when it comes to dating. I suggest giving his "zones" video a look to see what you might need to work on.
Also, have you ever considered moving? Maybe a change of scenery is what you need. As the old saying goes, " If the fish aren't biting in the lake that you're at, then go to a different spot."
Where you currently live, there are factors that are out of your control, like scarcity. So, it makes sense to put yourself in a position that favors you. At the end of the day, it's your life, and you must decide what you're willing to do.
Looksmaxing is just another word for something that has existed for hundreds of years.
Almost everything in health and beauty is just recycled from centuries old advice. Turns out human biology doesn't change.
I don't ever hate anything about myself if someone doesn't like how i look sounds like that's a their issue not my issue. Self esteem and self worth have nothing to do with others opinions, if they haven't got something nice to say about you don't worry about it. Their opinion don't matter cause they don't matter if they aren't supporting you and stand by you. Remember it's your life, "your" is the keyword. Enjoy your life as you see fit it's yours you have to live it no one else.
He said it on his latest podcast, but this quote fits and goes to what is really preventing most people from finding a partner: A dating problem is just an emotional problem that’s being experienced while dating. - Mark Manson
“Let’s use our noggins!”
Slap that on a sticker and sell it to me Court!! 👏👏👏
Love how you keep it Real!!!
Hey Courtney, I really appreciate this video, you make such authentic content, I really appreciate you and everything you put out on the internet, the world definitely needs people like you who can see the clear problems modern society presents people with like extreme versions of looksmaxing.
I do all the things miss Courtney says for men to do shower groom dress well smell good look good. I also exercise everyday and go spa with the jacuzzi pool.
Thank you for the information on this topic. I’ve never heard of this before.
At 17:00-17:17. Best advice ever from anyone...
Wonderful perspective, you are awesome for making these videos.
Thank you, Courtney. This should be actually taught in universities and made it a mandatory prerequisite called "PHYSICAL AND MENTAL GROOMING" course. Will save a lot of youngsters mental health.
finally a youtuber without flashy cuts, weird voice and stuff. Thank you
I think it all comes down to being realistic about what you can or can't do to improve yourself.
When it comes to attracting women, they are more complex than men are. What I mean is that they generally value a whole lot of other things as well. So, what you lack in looks can be made up for by being competent and showing confidence.
I believe dating apps and the media have played a significant role in giving both men and women unattainable beauty standards.
700k! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Yay! Thanks Joseph 😭
@@CourtneyRyantake a bow
And, on topic of your video, when I use to be involved with runway modeling, some of the models would go to the dentist and have perfectly good bottom molars removed to create a more chiseled jaw line. This really went on. And the model would already be outstanding looking, but he wanted to be Perfect. An example of male model perfection right now is the English gentleman David Gandy. He is all natural and so overwhelming, J-lo said she was nervous around him when she used him for her video. David inherited the genetic lottery. He just looks that way, while the rest of planet earth cannot come close with any facemaxx technique.
Thanks, Courtney. This is the first time that I've heard of that crazy stuff. It is sad.
It's so cool your cat is named, Bisquit. My grandbabies had a cat named, Bisquit. She always came to say hi to me when I would go visit them. Sadly, she disappeared a few weeks ago. We all miss her. ):
It still baffles me how many people don’t use soap in the shower. I have also heard of people who only wash their upper body and think that the soapy water just running down them is somehow getting them clean. Use soap/body wash and a rag or some kind of scrubber people. On a side note, maybe that’s why I rarely see body wash sold out in the stores lol.
Do you routinely see other stuff sold out in stores save toilet paper and baby formula during a global pandemic? If so, you live in a terrible neighborhood.
Brutal showerpill just soapmax bro
@@caseybucketsand then you see that one legendary sc of a chad from tindferno saying he hasnt washed in 30 days, & the vvoman saying “just spray something a lot and you’ll be good”
If looks weren’t powerful, and the stuff foids say held any weight, she wouldn’t have said that.
Because you're very literally not supposed to use soap anywhere but the sweat gland areas and benzoyl peroxide is better. Also no scrubbing is terrible for your skin. You're judging people when you don't even know how to shower. Go talk to any dermatologist or even watch a video on the topic. This is pretty unanimous
I’m a short man. I wouldn’t break my legs but the amount of women who have said “I would date you but you’re short” is a lot
5:38 Uhhh, stopping here. In all this time, I have to compliment you on your writing!! Well done CCR!
Good video Courtney. Hope you're enjoying the warmer weather today. I think Summer is coming early. I am in Kentucky so I get the heat a little quicker than you.
Today is in the 70s but unfortunately it's not going to last.
Seemingly a significant proportion of women are actually negative affecting ther skin through their skin care routine. The number one things are basic like protect your skin against the sun or cold, reduce an inflammatory lifestyle like don't have an açai bowl with 60g of sugar and then three drinks at a club later that day, and then the next most important thing would be acute issues or things that are coincidental with various medical conditions like diabetes, thyroid disease, etc
You’re a lot more aware than most women when it comes to the crazy high standards women have. I’m 6’6, 240lbs six pack, great hair and teeth, and six figure income and girls treat me like I’m a below average man. I totally get why guys are doing this
Courtney strikes me as a common sense person. And not just talking about manipulating someone into liking you
I just learned about this maxing thing. I was a husky kid in high school then went to the Marine Corps. During that time I got in great shape, refined my style, and gained more confidence. After that, even at 5'9", never had an issue with dating or hooking up. Some girls were even taller than me. They didn't care probably bc I had my sh!t together.
The problem is that men have to have their shit together to get anywhere, while women don't need to do anything to get whatever they want.
Most women don't have issues if you're atleast the avg height, which is what your height is.
Does Courtney actually believe this or is she just another grifter telling her audience what they want to hear? How coincidentally her husband has a full head of hair, has terrific bone structure and is 6ft tall? And also a multimillionaire lol… she brings women on her channel that are very similar in looks/background to her and when they say they want a guy that makes 150k they are delusional… does she not see the hypocrisy? I smell another grifter
Is it so?, more evidence that majority of women are walking contradictions and hypocrites 😂
Her husband is a normie
Hope sells. That's why red and blue pills are more popular than black pill.
Before the internet people were competing against others from their city. Now, we are competing against top 0.000001% smartest, most beautiful and most successful people, who are extremely rare but we are exposed to them 24/7. If you are top 10% in the looks department you are nothing special, since everyone has already seen 50 supermodels that day before you. Same goes for career and other achievement.
Courtney is the big sister us men never had. Protect her at all costs.
Why are you surprised. You write about it all the time and your support is considerable. Giiys hear it daily. When society is depressed it blames shames men. When our leaders need to show they are fighting crime they point out how they are toxic predators. Thank you I’ll get back to work on your roof. A man who’s 50 will let it roll off. Another stob in the back but not the first or last. It’s the boys who are 15 18 20 you need to worry about. But keep up the good work
Thank you courtney . This is important. Great content!! .
I literally clapped after watching this . Well said Courtney !!!!! You preached
Courtney great video ,but let me put this to perspective out of 90% of the dates I setup end up in flakes.
Ive been dating for 5 years never had luck in securing a gf.just a bunch of failed talking stages and shitty first dates.
A lot of girl don’t appreciate the time or effort you put in to try and setup dates or anything.like the amount of times I plan out a date with a girl you know i reserve a table i check in with her a head of time i do everything right and still she ghosts me and just makes me feel stupid.like that constant level of disrespect and degradation will build up snd lower your self perception of yourself in order go through with this crazy looks maxing rabbit hole.
If girls in this society were more truthful and just better people this whole ideology of looksmaxing wouldn’t exist
Exactly dude. Problems like being short or having a small p aren't just something that men are insecure about for no reason, they are things that they are MADE to feel insecure about because of how they are treated by women and by society at large. Looksmaxing is a trend that exists purely because of how competitive the dating market is, and the market is so competitive BECAUSE of women's increasingly high standards.
And both you Sirs look amazing. Woman are sadly delusional.
Also just fyi I’m a dirty old man close to 40, and I been chewing gum for close to a year now. I already “solved” sleep apnea by taping my mouth shut at night. Now I am trained to sleep with my mouth closed even if it’s not taped. Chewing gum pushed my teeth apart enough such that nose breathing is unobstructed……👍👍🙏please read “Breath” by James Nestor 🙏❤️❤️
Bless your heart Mrs. Ryan. I can tell that you really care. At one point in this video it seems like you were going to cry. This is a disturbing trend. It is the same with women who think that they need all of this surgery to look good and compete with other women. Thank you.
Congratulations on 700k subs Courtney!
I appreciate this video so much!
I think there's a fine line between grooming and maintaining hygiene vs undergoing a bunch of cosmetic procedures in the hopes of changing your fundamental appearance. What we should be aiming for is natural upkeep instead of spending excessively on artificial interventions. But yeah, men can always compensate for subpar looks by improving other areas of their lives. The problem with this trend is that its proponents believe physical appearance is the sole criterion for gauging attractiveness. It basically boils down the complexity of attraction to a single variable.
Biscuit has inspired me to groom myself better. Thank you, Biscuit. ;)
Taking care of your body(eating good, exercise, hygiene, even dressing for the occasion) is just basic stuff, it's not "maxing."
The things that go beyond that are getting into pride/vanity territory and it's high maintenance. As men, we should keep it simple because we have bigger things to concern ourselves with. If your focus is "looksmaxxing," then there's something else going on that you need to deal with, not distract yourself from with silly and neurotic behaviors.
Apparently my jaw sticking out like it does is caused by all the hard homemade granola and beef jerky I ate as a kid. It’s too late when the growth plate is set for any of the musculature nonsense to work. I also have a condition that reflexively relaxes my muscles so tone is terrible for me, so I go for size not tone. Don’t think about it too much just brush your teeth and the plate of your mouth and do something like pushups daily. None of my siblings have the wide jaw ends I have, 1 difference I ate all the hard foods i loved chewing things LOVED chewing and crunching tough foods as a kid
Sorry Courtney, looks matter a lot, and much more now when girls can see more Chads than before. Believe me you'll notice if you are chad depending the way that people treat you. Try a normal approach to a girl asking for directiosn and if she just ran away scared and you get lucky to not end on the jail for simple asking, You'll know that you not good looking. On the other hand, if you are handsome, whatever you say to a girl even if you are nervous or in a shy way your aceptance and treatment is amazing and the rejections are soft and sweet. Courtney, im dissapointed on you know for denying reality, I bet youll never be with your husband if he were still fat as you said that he was years ago. After looks it comes everything what Courtney says, looks is just the first big filter, if you cant pass the second filter of the hearth and your truly personality, you'll end up in the sexzone and not in a relationship.
This is ridiculous. Next time you walk down the street look at all the couples and ask yourself if every guy who is with someone is a 10/10 chad looking man? Maybe if you are only trying to date a model-level woman, then obviously she's going to look for someone who is one her same level of attraction probably. Just like a chad would. Chances are you are probably missing out on meeting many women that perhaps don't meet your beauty standards. Seek out women beyond just their looks. Because it's simply not true that an average guy out there cannot get any woman to talk to them.
^^ cope harder. Avg guys do not get stacy
I use to watch videos like these as a teen/kid because I was insure, and it made me feel really terrible about myself. I was just a kid growing up man this stuff shouldn’t be on the internet where it’s toxic. 14:20
Man I was hoping to hear you say some of the looksmaxxing terminology, such as "mogging" or "ropemaxxing" lol. I'm 27 year old guy who follows soft looksmaxxing (which is basically just taking care of yourself), and concur that anything beyond that such as getting surgery to get taller is absolutely absurd. Great video as always.
Congrats on 700K subscribers! 🎉 🥳
Thank you so much! 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan Very appreciative and honored by your response 😍 (I am a bit…okay, a lot….star struck 🤩 )
Thank you as well for reading and hearting my comment on your other video. I know it was on the longer side, but I learned so much from you and wanted to express that 😊
Just wanted to say I really appreciate you taking the time.
@@CourtneyRyan 👏🥰
@@CourtneyRyanit would be nice to see you collab with other TH-camrs