As a black women, I could give two craps if people think that I'm "different. I jam to pop and country music, go to museums, go swimming, "trying" to take acting classes, read, travel, speak like a valley girl and love bohemian culture. I've been ridiculed, but not caring is HOW the men become attracted to me. Shera, I think you are also very versatile and that's what attracts me to your channel 2 years strong!!!
Ever since I started watching your videos, my life has changed! Ladies, trust what Shera says...it truly works. I've incorporated all her techniques of stop caring, ignoring, and being willing to lose THEM over YOURSELF! It was hard at first because I was used to being a caring doormat but once I used these techniques, my aura changed. Guys I'd meet would tell me "you're not like the rest"; one guy, in particular, told me "you ignored me while other girls wouldn't stop bothering me and that's what made me attracted to you!". By automatically incorporating her methods, I was able to stand out and shine. Shera, I don't know how many times I can THANK you because this is the knowledge that I will also instil in my future daughters. THANK YOU!!!! Ladies, please TRUST what she teaches us because it really does work on these men. By doing the opposite of what they expect from you, standing firm in your views, and believing in yourself is how you attract high-quality men.
This right here I couldn't have said it better myself. I feel so grateful that I'm still young and have managed to learn first hand the life lesson you just explained!
Every time I'm feeling bad about myself, I watch your videos. You keep me going Shera! You have no idea how much you have changed my life since I started watching you this year. I am a completely different better, wiser, and more confident lady because of you! Please keep this up! Love you Shera! 👠💄
I’m not super sure but I think my special little seasoning is that I’m light hearted and carefree. I’m not a nag, I’m not super aggressive and I give men the illusion they are in control.
Shera teaches selflove. It actually attract the kind of love men are born to give naturally . self love makes you become a reciever and eventually you become the femenine women you are. Ive been incorporating everything she teaches. Ive tweeked it a bit to my situation. And my boyfriend has change or ive change to be able to let him lead finally I feel happy and secure about myself
I read this book Delusion of Love and women stay in relationships for years where the man is toxic don't even like them... Unbelievable ...but true. I'm with you I will not waste time with a man that don't like me
I see what you're doing. You're re-teaching the art of femininity and hypergamy that seems to be lost in a lot of women today. I definitely will be watching more of these videos from you! Thank you for making them!
beware of insecure and narcissistic men I had one splurgin money everytime he seen me which made me stick around longer than needed but then strangled me because he saw me talking to a male friend! Not all men are worth keeping and no matter how beautiful you are for some if they are not right within they will be damagingthis is good but please know not all men are worth staying just because he gives money etc
@@user-lb3up4rq2i He showed signs of manipulation but because I wasnt interested in being really serious I brushed it off but nothing major..he's like the life of the party, knows alot of people and someone would probably think I'll be lying if I told them unless they dated him and seen that side but no he just flipped out in rage it was just scary and thank you, I honestly glad i atleast got compensated but I'm definitely weary when a guy seems to just give money for no reason, he told me he was insecure and honestly he seemed very intimidated..the money was as if he was trying to buy my love or have control and when he felt he couldnt control me he went to the extreme route of physically hurting me
my mom would always say watch out for the guys that are really nice, the usually have another side, iam going threw now, he's very nice and wanna sling money around but iam aware of every tactic, that's why you dont let him no everything about you like your place of residence..because men love to control and manipulate when they wanna keep you around, but some men are not like this...just be careful
She gives me “ Fairy God Mother” vibes 😂❤️. Saying sprinkle sprinkle is like her waving her wand over your head and glitter falls, birds chirp and magic start happening lol
The other day I was in the grocery store. A handsome black man was in front of me. The cashier assumed he and I were together. He said, no we are not together (rightfully so). Then he turned to me and said, “you can pay for my groceries.” He was trying to flirt. I left my wedding ring at home because it was a quick grocery run. I started watching SheRaSeven1 videos 2 days prior to this incident. Anyways, I said, “hell no.” He then turned around and proceeded to check out. I laughed in my head and said some “pick me girl,” would have fell for that foolishness. Then he turns around at me again,I kid you not, and said “my offer still stand.” And I looked at him dead in his eyes and said , “I said hell no.” Then I started up a conversation with the cashier about her hair. Granted I’m married . But the guy was drop dead. Normally, I would have been nicer and say, “I’m married, blah blah blah...” But the fact that he started a conversation, “you can pay for my groceries.” I was like negro please. 😂🤣. Also, that day I was not looking my best because I did a photoshoot for 120 kids. And a quick grocery run meant just that. However, this man made me a believer in SheRaSeven1 methods. Is shallow at times but I hate to say it she is right. I’m now 1 week into her program and my HUSBAND is buying me a new SUV. Said he is just going to park it in the drive way. Soooooo yeah there is method to the madness. Also, I am a working professional, I have my MBA, and I’m a business owner. Now I’m like I wish I met this lady years ago. Men find the money. By hook or crook the find it when they are trying to please a woman that is considered worthy. Been married for almost 20 years and I’m only 37. Sooooo yeah. Still young and this creepy method works.
I've been married now a little over 17 years and I say It's NEVER too late...and there's always room for improvement so even if all is comfortable or very well, maximize the potential. SWITCH THINGS UP and let the past be the past and the present work for you to have an even better present life AND future. That's what I've learned during my years of marriage.
@@travelfoodielove Hey: I am almost a full week into the program. So please take what I say lightly. 1) I leveled up my outfits to look more classy. 2) did my nails, hair, etc, etc. 3) Started compliment the hell out of everything his does and bought and did. 4) I compliment him several times in front of his friends and my friends. 5) I started to wear the bags and jewelry he bought me that I said was too expensive. Looking back I was dumb for saying that. I am a heavy saver so spending over $300 makes my ill. But , I am working on that mentality. 6) I started flirting again and heavy. 7) I set a goal. SheRaSeven1 is right. Set goals and focus on that and not your BF/Spouses behavior. Because I was focused on getting something big, it made it a little bit easier not to get upset at things. Once the goal is complete I actually have another big purchase goal. Something more practical though that will benefit the family and generations to come. 8) I tied my goal to a bigger picture like safety (protect your family). She is right men want to protect. I take the highway everyday with our 2 year old son and driving a small car is just not as safe as a big Real SUV. I want an but you know what baby lets look at a Tahoe (he was the one that suggested the Tahoe). 9) I try not to lie to my husband. And since starting this program, I have not lied. The SUV is a necessity because I say it is. I just never thought to push for it. :/ Because I am a saver by nature. At the end of the day, a man want to do everything he can to protect his family. if you are married, aim higher than a GF. Make them work. 10) Sexual rewards. Forgot to mention that. I reward behaviors now. and he is doing way more around the house. LOL :) I wish i knew this before hand.
@@osamaiyanneadajan7403 CONGRATS....!!! Do you have another big goal once he delivers this one? I wrote out several to focus on. Even some long term ones.
I feel like you are suppose to stand out even if there is still a lot of feminine and beautiful women around that’s the point of standing out, standing out in the midst of masculine women and men is way too easy. You should be able to work on yourself to the extent that even If there is a lot of feminine and beautiful women around you still STAND OUT!
@@yk-who-it-is by knowing yourself inside and out accepting your flaws but working still on your insecurities. Everyone is different so get to know yourself and accept yourself thatno one can tell you anything
You are so spot on right!!! How do you know all this shera? Everyone else always gives us the same politically correct answers but girl you keep it ALL THE WAY REAL!
Thank you Shera for all your sound advice. I’ve Never been the type to fall in love or have sex but at the same time I never got anything other than dinner and maybe a concert ticket. But since I’ve taken your advice I’ve been looking top notch and become more feminine. My confidence has skyrocketed, I get way more from guys than just dinner date and overall get better service out in public.
Don’t choose something that’s not well recieved. You need to have something special plus know that you’re special and raise your self confidence. You can’t be replaced including your looks. You can’t be duplicated. You are wanted by many duplicates by none. Men don’t marry generic woman, add spice to yourself, be feminine about your passions. Work on your glow + special something by doing something that makes you happy, helping other people, your style, your communication, your voice, outlook on life, how spontaneous you are in both looks and personality - should be well recieved by others. There’s something different about eccentric people. Study those people. Not caring what people think cuz they barely think of you. Be confident in not caring about others. It should be a seasoning of that confidence that creates the glow. It should be a dash of glow. When you know you’re special already, you have to create it so everyone says it, not just him! You know you’re going to get the best man as a provider is the belief you gotta walk with. Make his jaws drop! Men only care about what you look like and how you make them feel. Go somewhere where there aren’t a lot of gorgeous women so you stand out even more. You’re in a room full of masculine men or masculine women, you’ll stand out automatically! Golf courses in daytime.. Focus on getting gifts, give you something, give you money. Level up, look good in his arms, not replaceable, makes them look good out in public. 17:20 don’t help grown men. Don’t fix people. Enjoy life & be attracted to nice things in life. Impress his friends, don’t overtalk about your education, some thing extra about you, have no fear, be exact opposite of what you can find in corporate world or club. 22:10 look the opposite of the place you go to. Sit elegantly in a club and don’t dance but observe from a corner with sipping your drink. Never try to fit in all the way! Stand out. 26:1033:00 don’t be funny as it’s masculine who’s supposed to be the clown and cheer you. No curse words. 42:00
"Use your brain in your twenties". When I was in my 20s I asked myself what benefit do I have from being young? I didn't know the answer until I met you Shera in my 30s. I'm 34 now but I am lucky that I don't have wrinkles yet and look much younger. Even the boys in their 20s approach me because they thought I was younger 😅 I know the answer now and more and more I'm educating myself with your wonderful videos. This coming summer is my time. My goal in the next 4 to 5 months is to lose a little weight and I'm ready to freestyle 🎉❤
@brighterwithnzu392 In my case I found my destination with Sheras advice. That's what I want to do - dating older sugardaddys. What is your passion? Whatever you can do in your 20s you can also do in your 40s. But if you want to benefit from older men it's best to do it when you're in your 20s. If it's not for you, you could study and educate yourself for your passion. My passion is photography, I will use the financial advantage of older men to pay for courses and the best equipment to gain a additional income with my photography work
I want a provider man, I want family towards my 30s, I already have an education so I could either do a new course for fun or do creative courses like makeup that Will also enhance me in the long run. I'm really looking to get nails courses plus practice paid for by someone else.
Besides you, I also see Maria Felix she used to be elegant, and she used to say everyone can be pretty, but to be a beauty, it requires more things such as bejng feminine, the way you walk, how you express yourself, the way you move your hands, etc. A pretty face disappears with time, but a strong personality and being feminine never disappear. Every place I go to, I dress elegantly, and I notice how many stares from people (women and men) are focused on me. One of those women stared at my husband, and it was funny how my husband never placed his eyes on her, but her man did and even opened the door for me and my husband and I said thank you sir!
You don't need heels to be beautiful or feminine, but if you really like them.. I'd recommend starting out with short/ kitten heels or wedges.. that's what helped me progress to high heels!
The biggest mistake I see women make with heels is they attempt to walk at the same speed and stride as they would when wearing flats. You MUST slow down and shorten your stride while maintaining good posture (head up, abs tight, knees gently bent). If you rush, it throws off posture and your head rolls forward for balance. This creates a clumsy graceless walk.
Mamma Kush : a good way to practice walking correctly and help break in your heels is to go grocery shopping in them. Bring comfortable shoes with you in case you get tired. Use a shopping cart for balance.
I always over talk. I'm too friendly...always laughing and making jokes. Hard to pull back and be mysterious. I'm a great flirt, but probably need to shut up.
Opposites attract in that fashion.. If he's not so out going some of your uniqueness may be needed. M as the tone it down a little, be feminine and enjoy life.
Some pickmeshas give advice based off their dusty experience so Ladies when you ask a question don’t take heed to all comments only some are leveled up and were never picks mes
I discovered her last year when I was 20 as well! I’m 21 now and she has given me the wisdom and strength to change my mindset/lifestyle SO MUCH! She is truly changing the future of women!
I don’t know where to begin, but I am so glad that I found you. I’ve been informed by men themselves that I make them feel special. I used to be so uncomfortable that they would stare at me (the dustys no longer approach me 👌🏿 they see how I carry myself and respect me, but don’t ever approach). I’ve started people watching even more and this woman I know is living a fantastic life. Her guy pays for everything, he compliments her all of the time, whenever he speaks to her - I can see his eyes light up, and he doesn’t stop staring at her. She even does little things that have him feeling special (the way she caresses his arm, she allows him to be the man, she’s always fabulously dressed, DOESNT try to be his equal). He’s glued to her, it’s mind blowing. Not that I doubted you, but wow! I’m starting to get more of my action 🥳🎊🎯✨❤️❤️❤️💎
I've always walked away from things that don't serve me well... Its not just men, it's relationships, jobs, etc. I had to adjust my belt along the way..40 and over "I AIN'T GOT TIME FOR IT !"
I was with my guy the other night we were being silly and singing an old tune together I know the tune well in the end he was like I’ve never gone that with anyone before, I thought yes am a different vibe 😝
Amazing advice as always! But personally I feel like someone either has that affect or they just don’t. Growing up men were always referring to me as “different” and “being hard to let go of” I don’t think every woman has that trait. 🤷🏾♀️
SheRa, Question: can u please do a video about table etiquette or feminine eating! I went to etiquette school growing up. But I have 3 beautiful friends that r not the best eaters. I've been helping them out, but I just think about how many women (especially in America [no offense to anyone... it's just its not a common training here!] ) dont have that kind of guidance. If u have the time we would really appreciate some feminine table etiquette. Or how to act on dinner dates. Thank u for ur videos, always!
Style: The modern lady's guide to elegance and charm. - Eliza Chamber ( It is a great book and talk about how to be classy in your manners and psychologically and physically)
At 31 there’s no way I’m dating or dealing with a 52 year old man. I’m not about to play geriatric nurse in 10 years. Old men have worms and make old babies. Heck no 🤢
Halfway through. Shes right. This even works on younger working guys an even dusties wit a lil change. They invest more in you even when they have sides bc they do the things you don't.
When i used to think about dating older men i thought about big daddy movie with Adam Sandler his gf left him for a older man because he had no ambition lol and then she was working at hooters he was an old dusty smh lol
Omg I'm re watching this and I realized I do attract more men when I'm looking like I don't belong to the club (when I'm bored there, looking cute) than when I'm doing the most (cause I'm in a good mood). So true. Even when I was in a "bad" mood men approached me to see if something happened and asked stuff. I was not even trying.
there some ppl going live on TH-cam talking about u and magickal lady duchess saying you guys are fake n I just want 2 say I watch u both n love u both n u can really tell you guys know your stuff an have both really helped me I'm young n growing an learning more from you both
Literally the guy I’ve been ignoring is double and now TRIPLE texting 😂 I’m shocked. Where’s the ego now? What happened boo? Btw, he called me “hot stuff.” Do I say I don’t like that word or play dumb and be like “heheh, 👋🏼 hey.”
Great my sweet big sister, I have subscribed and been watching your videos for some time now . They are awesome videos and have helped me a lot. Thank you .
As much as I hate this game it's only the damn truth! It is FACT... FOOD FOR THOUGHT IF BEYONCE CAN'T KEEP A MAN I DON'T THINK ANYBODY CAN. . WITHOUT PLAYING THIS GAME... GAME GAME....
Shera can you make a video about dusties that come in all colors? A lot of women say that only black men are dusties and white men are better providers. I personally had great experiences with black AND white men. You also have a wonderful black man that provides for you.
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You can find your man while you are with your man. Don’t let your current boyfriend stop you from meeting your husband. May the best man win!
Yep I did exactly that too
Or your next husband 😂
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On my way to a date wish me luck ladies. Thanks goddess shera ❤
@@Stormy2593 How'd it go???
She's that therapist we all needed in our 20's
I’m 27 I am glad I found her
I found here when I was 21 and now I’m 22
As a black women, I could give two craps if people think that I'm "different. I jam to pop and country music, go to museums, go swimming, "trying" to take acting classes, read, travel, speak like a valley girl and love bohemian culture. I've been ridiculed, but not caring is HOW the men become attracted to me. Shera, I think you are also very versatile and that's what attracts me to your channel 2 years strong!!!
Cry
Excuse for store
Go call other
Enjoy out
Come back
Bk with crap store stuff
Close door sleep
This is how U escape disrespectful men
She says 😀
Another best advise
Give 10 percent I told him I love him 20 percent only hehe next day he was in chasing mode again chasing me that is :))
I've learned to embrace being different, I stand out without saying much lol or doing jus being my naturally beautiful self inside and out.💌💃🏽
Speak like a Valley girl??? That is NOT something to aspire to!!🤦♀️ GIRL BYE!!!🙄🙄🙄
Me, too. A lot of people don't get me. Do I care?! No!!
Ever since I started watching your videos, my life has changed! Ladies, trust what Shera says...it truly works. I've incorporated all her techniques of stop caring, ignoring, and being willing to lose THEM over YOURSELF! It was hard at first because I was used to being a caring doormat but once I used these techniques, my aura changed. Guys I'd meet would tell me "you're not like the rest"; one guy, in particular, told me "you ignored me while other girls wouldn't stop bothering me and that's what made me attracted to you!". By automatically incorporating her methods, I was able to stand out and shine. Shera, I don't know how many times I can THANK you because this is the knowledge that I will also instil in my future daughters. THANK YOU!!!! Ladies, please TRUST what she teaches us because it really does work on these men. By doing the opposite of what they expect from you, standing firm in your views, and believing in yourself is how you attract high-quality men.
💯 absolutely right
This right here I couldn't have said it better myself. I feel so grateful that I'm still young and have managed to learn first hand the life lesson you just explained!
Every time I'm feeling bad about myself, I watch your videos. You keep me going Shera! You have no idea how much you have changed my life since I started watching you this year. I am a completely different better, wiser, and more confident lady because of you! Please keep this up! Love you Shera! 👠💄
Suzie I feel absolutely the same way
Same here
@@EstellaRose l feel the same way Suzie, men think am high maintenance
@@maureenlesa3785 only dusties will ever think we high maintenance for the right man, he will understand the price
Suzie is
I’m not super sure but I think my special little seasoning is that I’m light hearted and carefree. I’m not a nag, I’m not super aggressive and I give men the illusion they are in control.
U gets it. We LOVE that
Illusion
Shera teaches selflove. It actually attract the kind of love men are born to give naturally . self love makes you become a reciever and eventually you become the femenine women you are. Ive been incorporating everything she teaches. Ive tweeked it a bit to my situation. And my boyfriend has change or ive change to be able to let him lead finally I feel happy and secure about myself
I read this book Delusion of Love and women stay in relationships for years where the man is toxic don't even like them... Unbelievable ...but true. I'm with you I will not waste time with a man that don't like me
Who's the author?
I see what you're doing. You're re-teaching the art of femininity and hypergamy that seems to be lost in a lot of women today. I definitely will be watching more of these videos from you! Thank you for making them!
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beware of insecure and narcissistic men I had one splurgin money everytime he seen me which made me stick around longer than needed but then strangled me because he saw me talking to a male friend! Not all men are worth keeping and no matter how beautiful you are for some if they are not right within they will be damagingthis is good but please know not all men are worth staying just because he gives money etc
Omg thats terrible. Im so sorry you had to go through that. Did u see any signs of that prior or did he just randomly become aggressive?
@@user-lb3up4rq2i He showed signs of manipulation but because I wasnt interested in being really serious I brushed it off but nothing major..he's like the life of the party, knows alot of people and someone would probably think I'll be lying if I told them unless they dated him and seen that side but no he just flipped out in rage it was just scary and thank you, I honestly glad i atleast got compensated but I'm definitely weary when a guy seems to just give money for no reason, he told me he was insecure and honestly he seemed very intimidated..the money was as if he was trying to buy my love or have control and when he felt he couldnt control me he went to the extreme route of physically hurting me
@@MaiaGodiva thats scary..i swear you gotta observe people real good these days you just never know!
my mom would always say watch out for the guys that are really nice, the usually have another side, iam going threw now, he's very nice and wanna sling money around but iam aware of every tactic, that's why you dont let him no everything about you like your place of residence..because men love to control and manipulate when they wanna keep you around, but some men are not like this...just be careful
I'm sorry he hurt you! So glad you're okay. 💓
He’s never met a Fifth Dimension chick until he met ME and he’s loving every minute of it. He’s also 14 years older than me ❤️
What's a fifth dimetnion chick? I need to know.
Play with his mind❤️🙌🏽,
Seduction is powerful
She gives me “ Fairy God Mother” vibes 😂❤️. Saying sprinkle sprinkle is like her waving her wand over your head and glitter falls, birds chirp and magic start happening lol
The other day I was in the grocery store. A handsome black man was in front of me. The cashier assumed he and I were together. He said, no we are not together (rightfully so). Then he turned to me and said, “you can pay for my groceries.” He was trying to flirt. I left my wedding ring at home because it was a quick grocery run. I started watching SheRaSeven1 videos 2 days prior to this incident. Anyways, I said, “hell no.” He then turned around and proceeded to check out. I laughed in my head and said some “pick me girl,” would have fell for that foolishness. Then he turns around at me again,I kid you not, and said “my offer still stand.” And I looked at him dead in his eyes and said , “I said hell no.” Then I started up a conversation with the cashier about her hair. Granted I’m married . But the guy was drop dead. Normally, I would have been nicer and say, “I’m married, blah blah blah...” But the fact that he started a conversation, “you can pay for my groceries.” I was like negro please. 😂🤣. Also, that day I was not looking my best because I did a photoshoot for 120 kids. And a quick grocery run meant just that. However, this man made me a believer in SheRaSeven1 methods. Is shallow at times but I hate to say it she is right. I’m now 1 week into her program and my HUSBAND is buying me a new SUV. Said he is just going to park it in the drive way. Soooooo yeah there is method to the madness. Also, I am a working professional, I have my MBA, and I’m a business owner. Now I’m like I wish I met this lady years ago. Men find the money. By hook or crook the find it when they are trying to please a woman that is considered worthy. Been married for almost 20 years and I’m only 37. Sooooo yeah. Still young and this creepy method works.
Teneice Permission how did you get him to buy you a car doll
I've been married now a little over 17 years and I say It's NEVER too late...and there's always room for improvement so even if all is comfortable or very well, maximize the potential. SWITCH THINGS UP and let the past be the past and the present work for you to have an even better present life AND future. That's what I've learned during my years of marriage.
@@travelfoodielove Hey: I am almost a full week into the program. So please take what I say lightly.
1) I leveled up my outfits to look more classy.
2) did my nails, hair, etc, etc.
3) Started compliment the hell out of everything his does and bought and did.
4) I compliment him several times in front of his friends and my friends.
5) I started to wear the bags and jewelry he bought me that I said was too expensive. Looking back I was dumb for saying that. I am a heavy saver so spending over $300 makes my ill. But , I am working on that mentality.
6) I started flirting again and heavy.
7) I set a goal. SheRaSeven1 is right. Set goals and focus on that and not your BF/Spouses behavior. Because I was focused on getting something big, it made it a little bit easier not to get upset at things. Once the goal is complete I actually have another big purchase goal. Something more practical though that will benefit the family and generations to come.
8) I tied my goal to a bigger picture like safety (protect your family). She is right men want to protect. I take the highway everyday with our 2 year old son and driving a small car is just not as safe as a big Real SUV. I want an but you know what baby lets look at a Tahoe (he was the one that suggested the Tahoe).
9) I try not to lie to my husband. And since starting this program, I have not lied. The SUV is a necessity because I say it is. I just never thought to push for it. :/ Because I am a saver by nature.
At the end of the day, a man want to do everything he can to protect his family. if you are married, aim higher than a GF. Make them work.
10) Sexual rewards. Forgot to mention that. I reward behaviors now. and he is doing way more around the house. LOL :) I wish i knew this before hand.
@@osamaiyanneadajan7403 CONGRATS....!!! Do you have another big goal once he delivers this one? I wrote out several to focus on. Even some long term ones.
Update. My hubby bought the SUV...!!! I came home from work and it was sitting in the front of my house...!!!! Tears.
"Don't be mind the other women, they're there so you don't have to put out" 🤣🤣🤣 ❤❤❤
Sherra have you considered teaching your information to schools worldwide? It's golden.
It's Gold! We found gold!! #archeologyiseethelight
😞Schools here in UK just be teaching children things they won't even use in real life
This IS the worldwide school right here 😁
When the student is ready the teacher will appear. So TH-cam is just fine.
I feel like you are suppose to stand out even if there is still a lot of feminine and beautiful women around that’s the point of standing out, standing out in the midst of masculine women and men is way too easy. You should be able to work on yourself to the extent that even If there is a lot of feminine and beautiful women around you still STAND OUT!
I totally agree. I guess that advise is for women who aren't sure of themselves and need a little confidence boost.
Is there a mirror you constantly looking at.....love your facial exoressions....
Abbie Saltzman Facts💡
but how? this is my problem...
@@yk-who-it-is by knowing yourself inside and out accepting your flaws but working still on your insecurities. Everyone is different so get to know yourself and accept yourself thatno one can tell you anything
"Always double what you want that way when they give you less, its still more than you need"
She’s a fucking genius .
Where does it say that again
This is one real ass woman I don’t care what anybody says
That car dealership analogy was great!
You are so spot on right!!! How do you know all this shera? Everyone else always gives us the same politically correct answers but girl you keep it ALL THE WAY REAL!
Fell out with the red in church. Hilarious😂😂😂😂😂. Shera is such a smart woman and I have nothing but respect for her. Thanks Shera.
Shera you are a beautiful woman, you are the light that everyone needs🌹 keep shining dont ever stop making these videos
It really is all about looks when it comes to men. Sad but true.
@Queen Of Scotts yes!!!! We love nasty ....u should too
85%
I see attractive men with women who really aren't that attractive. It baffles me.
@@caitlinsoliman1658 Those women might have something else going for them.
“You can’t get that attitude ya got with brokey “ 🤣🤣🤣
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My whole problem lmao
Shera! He crossed the room for me!!! Just now!!! OMG! I'm still in shock!!! He smells sooo good...
Voice by Layla Please update. How did it turn out?
Umm.....that man was ME....how u doin " in my Wendy williams voice "...
Thank you Shera for all your sound advice. I’ve Never been the type to fall in love or have sex but at the same time I never got anything other than dinner and maybe a concert ticket. But since I’ve taken your advice I’ve been looking top notch and become more feminine. My confidence has skyrocketed, I get way more from guys than just dinner date and overall get better service out in public.
Drop something pick it up, drop it again oh I should’ve got a cart lmaooooo
Don’t choose something that’s not well recieved. You need to have something special plus know that you’re special and raise your self confidence. You can’t be replaced including your looks. You can’t be duplicated. You are wanted by many duplicates by none. Men don’t marry generic woman, add spice to yourself, be feminine about your passions. Work on your glow + special something by doing something that makes you happy, helping other people, your style, your communication, your voice, outlook on life, how spontaneous you are in both looks and personality - should be well recieved by others. There’s something different about eccentric people. Study those people. Not caring what people think cuz they barely think of you. Be confident in not caring about others. It should be a seasoning of that confidence that creates the glow. It should be a dash of glow. When you know you’re special already, you have to create it so everyone says it, not just him! You know you’re going to get the best man as a provider is the belief you gotta walk with. Make his jaws drop! Men only care about what you look like and how you make them feel.
Go somewhere where there aren’t a lot of gorgeous women so you stand out even more. You’re in a room full of masculine men or masculine women, you’ll stand out automatically! Golf courses in daytime..
Focus on getting gifts, give you something, give you money. Level up, look good in his arms, not replaceable, makes them look good out in public.
17:20 don’t help grown men. Don’t fix people. Enjoy life & be attracted to nice things in life.
Impress his friends, don’t overtalk about your education, some thing extra about you, have no fear, be exact opposite of what you can find in corporate world or club.
22:10 look the opposite of the place you go to. Sit elegantly in a club and don’t dance but observe from a corner with sipping your drink. Never try to fit in all the way! Stand out.
26:10 33:00 don’t be funny as it’s masculine who’s supposed to be the clown and cheer you. No curse words. 42:00
you are such a saint
I have this until u get to “no clowning around” “no curse words” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 #WorkingOnIt
I'm telling you, guilty as hell, will stop that now@@thisismyprivateaccount6546
Even if I'm naturally funny sometimes lol? Darn
Word
Get upset and make him start all over 😂😂😂
girl thats what i am doing :P hit reset !
Trying to do this
You are the mother we never had,thank you so much 🙏
"Use your brain in your twenties". When I was in my 20s I asked myself what benefit do I have from being young? I didn't know the answer until I met you Shera in my 30s. I'm 34 now but I am lucky that I don't have wrinkles yet and look much younger. Even the boys in their 20s approach me because they thought I was younger 😅 I know the answer now and more and more I'm educating myself with your wonderful videos. This coming summer is my time. My goal in the next 4 to 5 months is to lose a little weight and I'm ready to freestyle 🎉❤
😅 ma'am what should I be doing in my 20s?help a sister out , before I finish these 20s
@brighterwithnzu392 In my case I found my destination with Sheras advice. That's what I want to do - dating older sugardaddys. What is your passion? Whatever you can do in your 20s you can also do in your 40s. But if you want to benefit from older men it's best to do it when you're in your 20s. If it's not for you, you could study and educate yourself for your passion. My passion is photography, I will use the financial advantage of older men to pay for courses and the best equipment to gain a additional income with my photography work
I want a provider man, I want family towards my 30s, I already have an education so I could either do a new course for fun or do creative courses like makeup that Will also enhance me in the long run. I'm really looking to get nails courses plus practice paid for by someone else.
There’s a saying! People will forget what you say but not how you make them “feel” ❤
Besides you, I also see Maria Felix she used to be elegant, and she used to say everyone can be pretty, but to be a beauty, it requires more things such as bejng feminine, the way you walk, how you express yourself, the way you move your hands, etc. A pretty face disappears with time, but a strong personality and being feminine never disappear. Every place I go to, I dress elegantly, and I notice how many stares from people (women and men) are focused on me. One of those women stared at my husband, and it was funny how my husband never placed his eyes on her, but her man did and even opened the door for me and my husband and I said thank you sir!
Sheraseven is the smartest woman I have ever seen
In the club, looking way different from Sharkeisha n them 😂😂😂😂
That’s right! 💯😁
A video on feminine walking, especially in heels would be helpful as well! Some women do NOT do heels well!
Mamma Kush like me 👠
You don't need heels to be beautiful or feminine, but if you really like them.. I'd recommend starting out with short/ kitten heels or wedges.. that's what helped me progress to high heels!
The biggest mistake I see women make with heels is they attempt to walk at the same speed and stride as they would when wearing flats. You MUST slow down and shorten your stride while maintaining good posture (head up, abs tight, knees gently bent). If you rush, it throws off posture and your head rolls forward for balance. This creates a clumsy graceless walk.
Its definetly an art form. Theres almost a mathematical rhythm to it!
Mamma Kush : a good way to practice walking correctly and help break in your heels is to go grocery shopping in them. Bring comfortable shoes with you in case you get tired. Use a shopping cart for balance.
I always over talk. I'm too friendly...always laughing and making jokes. Hard to pull back and be mysterious. I'm a great flirt, but probably need to shut up.
Opposites attract in that fashion.. If he's not so out going some of your uniqueness may be needed. M as the tone it down a little, be feminine and enjoy life.
Skin regimen please. Flawless
I listen to you everyday now. YOU are the truth and love your lipstick. You ROCK EVERYTHING!
These videos have been life saving. Thank you Ashera for all that you do :)
She is on point with Atlanta. Don’t do it. I had to move back to LA
I'm here. The energy is a daily challenge to combat. No dating.
Atlanta is one of the worst places!
Who wants to move to Houston with me 😂😂. I thought new york was the worst place
@@xeniastephenson8076 Waxachie just 26 miles outside of Dallas or Austin you have a moving partner.
@@vegewoman let's text off here hun😂😂
Some pickmeshas give advice based off their dusty experience so
Ladies when you ask a question don’t take heed to all comments only some are leveled up and were never picks mes
Lucky', I'm in my 20s, to be blessed to attract Shera's profound wisdom.
I discovered her last year when I was 20 as well! I’m 21 now and she has given me the wisdom and strength to change my mindset/lifestyle SO MUCH! She is truly changing the future of women!
I don’t know where to begin, but I am so glad that I found you. I’ve been informed by men themselves that I make them feel special. I used to be so uncomfortable that they would stare at me (the dustys no longer approach me 👌🏿 they see how I carry myself and respect me, but don’t ever approach).
I’ve started people watching even more and this woman I know is living a fantastic life. Her guy pays for everything, he compliments her all of the time, whenever he speaks to her - I can see his eyes light up, and he doesn’t stop staring at her. She even does little things that have him feeling special (the way she caresses his arm, she allows him to be the man, she’s always fabulously dressed, DOESNT try to be his equal). He’s glued to her, it’s mind blowing.
Not that I doubted you, but wow! I’m starting to get more of my action 🥳🎊🎯✨❤️❤️❤️💎
"what you look like and how you make them feel" 💎
I'm watching you more than meeting with my man 😂
Sam see lol
This is ya man..... Now I know what your up to..
I've always walked away from things that don't serve me well... Its not just men, it's relationships, jobs, etc.
I had to adjust my belt along the way..40 and over "I AIN'T GOT TIME FOR IT !"
I was with my guy the other night we were being silly and singing an old tune together I know the tune well in the end he was like I’ve never gone that with anyone before, I thought yes am a different vibe 😝
Thank you so much Sheera.. my lifestyle has changed so much and now I have a provider boyfriend.
Yaaaaaay ❤ the bangs!!!
Yes thank you for this video shera! You’re the big sister/mentor I never knew I’d have in my life, so happy to have found your channel! 👏🏽🙏🏽
Gurl you’re great..so inspiring..please talk about online dating..the do’s and don’ts
Had to watch this one again. Reeducating myself before quarantine is over
this topic is everything shera
Amazing advice as always! But personally I feel like someone either has that affect or they just don’t. Growing up men were always referring to me as “different” and “being hard to let go of” I don’t think every woman has that trait. 🤷🏾♀️
Everywoman has what mks dem unique. Some already developed it others let it go to waste
You just want to feel special😂😂 every women is special. They just need to find it
Me checking to see your photo . Indeed!
@@TrudyGivyan It's not only about beauty.
" Men are going to tell you Your special reguardless!!!!!!"
SheRa, Question: can u please do a video about table etiquette or feminine eating! I went to etiquette school growing up. But I have 3 beautiful friends that r not the best eaters. I've been helping them out, but I just think about how many women (especially in America [no offense to anyone... it's just its not a common training here!] ) dont have that kind of guidance. If u have the time we would really appreciate some feminine table etiquette. Or how to act on dinner dates. Thank u for ur videos, always!
Emily Post's Etiquette book is great (even if it's quite a long read)
Yes please
Emily Post
@Belletaina does the school of affluence lady have a husband that supports her and their children so she doesn't have to work?
Style: The modern lady's guide to elegance and charm. - Eliza Chamber ( It is a great book and talk about how to be classy in your manners and psychologically and physically)
"touch his shoulder ✋🏽 or something" 🤦🏽♀️😩🤣
You get more & more Gorgeous in EVERY video I swear ❣️ thank you for everything💜
You said go somewhere where you stand out! Well I definitely stand out in Europe!! The guys(*girls too) love it 1:31:56
Real Talk with Tina boom. Same I stand out in Asia.
My special qualities is that I'm extremely caring. I've always been caring.
Roxanne Cosmotology I’m funny as Hell. 😂😂😂
bklyn 2Miami Same 😂😂
i always march to the beat of my own drum and ppl say i have that je neus se quoi
Roxanne Cosmotology that’s not a quality that’s a doormat ....
Roxanne Cosmotology please find something else that is more appealing
Wanted by many duplicated by none
At 31 there’s no way I’m dating or dealing with a 52 year old man. I’m not about to play geriatric nurse in 10 years. Old men have worms and make old babies. Heck no 🤢
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I don't think you should follow everything she says. I'm not into super old men either but I've learnt a lot from her and appreciate her advice a lot.
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂, hopeful he is still continent of bladder and bowel. 🤦♂️ 🤦♂️ 🤦♂️ 🤦♂️
🤓😂 At 31 you could date a young man like yourself I don't see why you'd need an old one honestly, there r some younger men who have it together
Worms 🐛?? 😩😩😂😂😂😂
NGL some of you're advice works for men 2.
.level up
Halfway through. Shes right. This even works on younger working guys an even dusties wit a lil change. They invest more in you even when they have sides bc they do the things you don't.
Beyond your time mam. Thank you.
When i used to think about dating older men i thought about big daddy movie with Adam Sandler his gf left him for a older man because he had no ambition lol and then she was working at hooters he was an old dusty smh lol
I just love your Expresions... 💯🤣 real talk ( new subscriber) 🥰
Omg I'm re watching this and I realized I do attract more men when I'm looking like I don't belong to the club (when I'm bored there, looking cute) than when I'm doing the most (cause I'm in a good mood). So true. Even when I was in a "bad" mood men approached me to see if something happened and asked stuff. I was not even trying.
there some ppl going live on TH-cam talking about u and magickal lady duchess saying you guys are fake n I just want 2 say I watch u both n love u both n u can really tell you guys know your stuff an have both really helped me I'm young n growing an learning more from you both
Why is she saying she's fake? What she says makes sense, not sure where the fakeness is coming from.
The Men is here lady's and we watching and learning please share💯
Always beautiful and thank u always for you're advice.
This is one of the best videos I’ve seen yet
Yup... for me it's my style of dress from the office to the social scene.
Literally the guy I’ve been ignoring is double and now TRIPLE texting 😂 I’m shocked. Where’s the ego now? What happened boo? Btw, he called me “hot stuff.” Do I say I don’t like that word or play dumb and be like “heheh, 👋🏼 hey.”
Don't you like that fussy when the tables get turned in your favor😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
"wanted by many, duplicated by none"
Youre evil i love it ❤
Me too!!! Bwah Ha Ha😂
shera's energy is very calming
Great my sweet big sister, I have subscribed and been watching your videos for some time now . They are awesome videos and have helped me a lot. Thank you .
You are changing my life ❤️❤️
Love you!👸🏽😈😇
Another great video. So looking forward for your book about how to get in his mind lol you mentioned it in another video and can’t wait for it.
This video is hella gooood👏🏼👏🏼 ...even for self development 💋
I love it when you take a sip😭😭😭😭😻😻😻🥰
I am tired of being the funny one 🧐
You look so good with bangs !
It works! if a man can work the game, I know a lady able to. It works lol
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As much as I hate this game it's only the damn truth! It is FACT... FOOD FOR THOUGHT IF BEYONCE CAN'T KEEP A MAN I DON'T THINK ANYBODY CAN. . WITHOUT PLAYING THIS GAME... GAME GAME....
😂😂😂 keeping appearances cost money is plain and easy to spot one.
He will suggest you what you should buy but won’t go out of his way to give you it.
I love your new lips Goddess! The red makes them pop even more 💕💕💕
"don't deserve you , because they deserve better" 😩🤦🏽♀️ 💣
Shera can you make a video about dusties that come in all colors? A lot of women say that only black men are dusties and white men are better providers. I personally had great experiences with black AND white men. You also have a wonderful black man that provides for you.
Ashley Private i say the same thing, how about asian men? Because asian men are not like the black men, once they love u they will fully provide for u
They come in all colors and all shapes and sizes
@@Jane5720 exactly....
I love you..."wear red"
Shera I'm miss this wig.. Its looking so fresh on you!
Definitely do not try to fix”/ help these men
No
No
No
someone in the live feed said - Shera is their Shero -- lolol
The main thing is Confidence
You are amazing... love your enlightening chats😍
Shera said start crying and grab your keys 😂
It’s a lot of Nigerians in Houston. I wouldn’t dare move from anywhere to Atlanta.
Jamie Montgomery would you recommend someone move there after the flooding? I heard there was flooding in non flood zones as well
I think I should travel to this destination for 10days haha