Surviving Forced Mariage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- Welcome back to Unfiltered Stories! Rubie Marie, today's guest, will share her dreadful experience with an arranged marriage that ended happily. Marie got pregnant at age 15 and gave birth to a disabled kid while being raped during her whole marriage. Her story does not end here, so listen to find out how she survived this.
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Lesson : A woman does not need a man to liv a peacefull life. Being alone is better than putting up with abuse. Be strong ladies 🙏
Totally
Yesss I agree 💯%
Amen
...so true. 💯
I hope every woman in a bad situation will have the strength to leave like she did 🖤
There's no way this woman is also 40! What an amazing, strong and beautiful lady
imagine if her parents had cared about her and her sister more than what other Bangladeshi people had thought, how things could've turned out differently
I dont want to be hard ok .. i dont want none of this anymore..
All that stuff about the family's "reputation" (honor killings) is an excuse to abuse daughters. What family would send their daughter to BANGLADESH from England???!!!
Exactly! Herd mentality and culture.
It breaks my heart knowing there’s people in communities like this. It’s so sad that they put children through it
Her uncle was more of a father to her then her actual father.
Exactly
Why do you keep razzing me with these videos .. why do yous want to do this?
Brave lady,glad she got her life back.
Heartbreaking 💔 I'm glad this beautiful woman was able to overcome those struggles. Her positive energy is beautiful!
It boggles my mind that in modern society this happens in free countries. It's bad enough in their countries, but in the UK?! It's a wonder all the teenage girls don't run away. I'm so sorry you suffered through this 😔
The live in a bubble while in the UK, it’s like they’re still in their country because the customs are in their heads.
But why am i penning bad? Its not my fault
Unfortunately south Asian women are more likely to kills themselves than runaway. They have a very high suicide rate in the UK. Very tragic when you look into it. However, I did see a show about a forced marriage patrol that goes around trying to rescue women and girls and sometimes even men.
@sparkle do you remember what the show was
Poor baby. I’m SO Happy you made it out 😢❤ What you’ve done is so incredibly hard. So proud of your accomplishments! 🥰🤗
What family and culture, frankly. I know not all Bangladeshi people or society is like this but WOW it's sad. Meanwhile, I'm so happy Rubie is doing so well. She looks amazing. Go girl.
Love this woman! What an inspiration she is 👏 thank you so much for showing her. She us a perfect example to follow 👏👏
I’m so happy she happy has her kids with her. What a terrible experience in life.
Thank you. Strong strong woman
As a fellow welshie, I am so sorry to hear your story. It’s so sad to think that you may be my neighbour, and that I would never have known. I’m also so sorry that you suffered from so much racism. You are so strong, and such an inspiration ❤
So incredibly sad but also brave to be so open and hones. I have so much respect for her
God Bless You and your children! And may you have many happy years with them full of joy and peace! Thank you for using your power for the good of all the girls and women that are enduring the pain of forced marriage. You are a hero! ❤
No its nof now yes get off my phone!
I never understood why people would leave their country and traditions and move their family some place Western and still want to keep their old traditions - stay in your own country if you want to keep tradition. It's not fair to the children who want to conform to what you brought them to.
That opposes liberal values
Exactly. And then they'd complain how Westerners are bad and spoiled and will go to "hell".
I mean wait a second?
If I were a religios person, I think I'd ask myself at some point: "why are these sinful westerners were blessed with such comfortable countries, and we, following all these painfull traditions, live in absolute sh*t?"
Thank you for sharing. Your story is important! It’s amazing how many are unaware of this sort of thing. The perpetrator’s want to keep this aspect of the culture concealed, so they can keep abusing & controlling women!
You're one strong lady!!
Well said you are a strong woman now and a good mother. You will save many and educate a lot if women who have been conditioned to be subservient domestic violence is not allowed. God bless you your are very intelligent.
Courageous and brave. You’re amazing. Also, thank god for that uncle!
i wish you were brave enough to disrupt the apple cart....hope you muster the courage for ya kids n their kids.
These stories absolutely break my heart. Rock on lovely lady and live the best life you can.
Listening to this woman's story made me sit and smile at the screen. Strong beautiful and Absolutely amazing 👏 xx
Praying for you my dear sister! Thank you for your courage! There is deep pain and evil in this world. But there is also light and life. I thank God for you, and for the light and life you bring. God bless and call you by name to His peace, comfort and Joy!! Xo
Thank you for telling your story. It will help so many people.
I applaud you for not going through with the abortion 👏👏👏👏👏👏
What a strong and beautiful woman you are.
I am from Bangladesh. I feel really sorry for her.now a days things has changed a lot in our country.force marriage and child marriage happens in rural areas more often.but honnor killing is very rare in Bangladesh.it is getting better.
This woman lived through hell 😢
Wow, she Overcame a Lot!
Incredible story!
Its so sad that 'communities ' have so much influence over everything we do. We need 'greater education' of all the different 'cultures' living in society. May you know that people 'care' for you. Families and traditions need to be understood by 'all' in society. Abusive behaviour needs to be dealt with sensitivity and the victims must be listened to and abusers brought to account. The evil of people is hard to understand. Evil upon evil. May we have 'proper' justice for the victims of domestic abuse. May you be strong and know that there 'are' caring people out there. Your trauma will heal and you will grow even stronger day by day.
What are you saying cos theres so many stories now yous chose this story? Its true i wasnt no mac i never caused no trouble anywhere i went .. yous are trying to pin other peoples lives on me and thats not true.. get off my phone you tossers
This use to happen a lot in the Bangladeshi community but we are changing I have a sister she fell in love and we got her married to that man and many of my female cousins have been in similarly situations over the past 5-6 years and all got married to a person of their choice with minimal resistance from the family I’m so glad things are changing
There are small towns in Mexico where this still happens, I remember going to my aunt's house on the country every summer, one year I couldn't find a friend I did over the years on the field my aunt worked at. Later she told me her mom had her hidden (with my aunt's help) bc his father was trying to sell her since she turned 13 and according to their culture if someone saw a girl they liked the deal could be done right there. This family wasn't from my state, they traveled to work on different parts of the country depending on the season and it's a common practice were they are from. Luckily they found my aunt and she was able to help the family escape from that man.
And that's what happens on the Mexican fields while your pecan nuts are growing
Hi i just want to say thank you for telling your story its truly inspiring ,knowing that you survived so make abuse and came up from under it all its remarkable to see someone so resilient you realy went through a lot . You are so brave 💪wow truly inspiring and i love what you said about you learning to love your bad day's and acknowledging that they will always be there i never saw it that way .I came from a some what similar background and is still recovering from my childhood trauma and knowing that you went through far more that really gives me hope !
Hi Marie I'm sorry to hear about all the pain and grief you went through it's not your fault thanks for sharing your story 💔💔💔😇😇😇😇🌹
You are a powerhouse! So honored you survived & shared your story. I wish you all the best!❤😊❤❤
You are a very strong person. Keep going and don't look back. Your kids are Your world.
This is the biggest problem with some Asian parents. They take their families to Western countries and want them to behave like the people of the countries they come from.
You are amazing. May Allah guide you and bless you and your children. Live your life and be happy.
I very strong sister, may she blessed with the best and only happiness
Damn. I know you love your family. But family is supposed to protect and nurture.
You're a very strong woman Ruby. Hugs!
Aww darling well done for helping and protecting yourself when the people that should have didn't. ❤
So brave👏👏👏
God Bless & Protect You and your family forever.
amazing woman.. all glories to you 💓
Well done gal , keep up the good work. You will save a lot of lives in this world.🙏🙏❤️
I'm no one to say this to a person who's been through so much their entire life but to any other person going through it, please please try to be self independent first before getting into relationships again. The world is too cruel, you can't trust no one. The only way out is the self independence, to see the world around before sticking to a person. And get to know them before committing. It's so much harder in the third world countries but I hope that woman get access to education more. Knowledge is the only way to strive in today's world.
Thank you Rubie, and thanks to her family for doing better after their initial mistakes.
I am a dirty prostitute according to my family. I remember that everyday. I am away and set myself up from scratch, from nothing to some great things today.The struggle never goes away. I applaud you for speaking up.
תודה🙏❤️
Brave🙏
Please can I say you are a very brave and lovey lady ,I when was a kid I had a friend she's was a year older than me very careing and funny , I remember the last time we were together it was in my garden and we were eating ice cream that was the last time she had an oider bother and twin sisters I'm not sure what happened to her but the family had gone I often think about her ,how she is doing and hope that if she is married that she's safe and happy, we both lived in a town call redditch, her sisters were only baby's at the time her mom was also young but very nice, sharfa was my friends name I'm not sure if I split it right, but if anyone picks this up and knows her tell her I never forgot her over 30years go ❤️
Funny my name is Ruby too and I went through something very similar
I can't even finish this video right now, it makes me so angry😢
My learning from listening to Rubie story and others like that, is that we should be paying attention to sharing of others and look for signs. Just be simply caring and curious.
We all, every individual have to become the social support for all humanity.
Especially teachers, people who get to interact with kids, but also encourage our own kinds to make friends with other children, especially the ones who act differently than others. Invite them as parents for visits, dinner and just be present.
Maybe we could be able to help those children earlier.
I’m so sorry you went through this
So sad ❤ beautiful woman ❤
God bless u my child
NO Adult...No Matter What their Profession...
NO matter what title they hold...
NO Matter What economic Status,...
NO Matter What their Culture...
NO Matter what race, Creed, or Color...
NO ADULT wheather, they are a Adult Caretaker of children, teacher, parents, aunts, uncles, or anyone else, should have any sexual attraction to children, this is very disturbing to me, Very Strange, Odd, Demented, Sick, Weird, and Outrageous to me.
*THERE IS NOTHING about a child, male, or female is attractive sexually, Nothing
*Children are children as should be treated as such.
*They are NOT mature
*They have NO COMPREHENSION of Sex.
They have NO COMPREHENSION of Romance
*Sex and intimacy is in nature biologically is designed for Adults,
NOT CHILDREN.
I Cannot Comprehend any Adult thinking of a child a such a inappropriate manner.
*This is a previous response I wrote to an article on Child Marriage;
I don't understand why anyone would attempt to marry a child, this is unthinkable, children are not capable of Romantic Relationships, they cannot process adult Relationship lifestyles.
*They are children and function as children, they are being placed, and forced in adult Relationship situations, and they cannot process nor understand it until they are Adults.
*Nothing about a child is capable of handling a Romantic Relationships, Physical Relationships, Mentality handling Adult Relationships, and Lifestyles and financial matters.
*A Child cannot understand the Deeper Matters of the Hearts, or
Deep involved Love connections etc.
*So, it baffles me to think any man would be interested in a relationship with a child.
*Why not choose an Adult Woman who is matured in Mind, Body, and Spirit, intelligence...?
*I could NEVER be attracted to s child.
*(I have NEVER, NEVER BEEN attracted to a child nor teenager male or female)
*Children need to be focused on getting their early childhood education, and growing up around other children and playing with other children.
*I cannot fathom why a man would be interested in a Child as a Bride,( or any intimate sexual manner whatsoever)
Sexual attraction towards a child is Madness, and Unnatural, and Demented thinking
*A Child could NEVER appreciate Romance, Poems, Dinning, or a Dinner date etc.
Really! marry a child...this makes No sense to me!
(I have NEVER, NEVER IN MY LIFE BEEN attracted to a child nor teenager male or female)
This is beyond my comprehension.......
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I so sad this, glad to see that you are now safe of that, you not need a man to live a hood life, remember that, you and the other women, and the same for the men with the women or with the persons of other sexualities, y'all are fine! But even with that i hope y'all to experiment abtrue love if you want to!
Your perents completely destroyed you, THIS IS ALL THEIR FAULT
Arranged Marriage needs to become more flexible, especially in the Pakistani community , where 1st cousin marriages, have been practised for generations. I'm white Scots/Irish and my husband is actually my 3rd cousin, who was introduced to me , by his elder brother. Funnily enough, we absolutely fell in love quickly, under his persistent watchful eye!! Uk Asians should consider this option - grandparents related and even Great Grandparents related, even if it's another sibling's line. It would also maybe help with domestic violence (a hidden scourge)
Right. But i think it's important to distinguish between arranged marriages and forced marriages, in the former the girl can say 'no', in the latter she can't, and had to follow her parents (father/male relatives) wishes.
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You are very strong and beautiful
Girls, know your rights. Forced marriage isnt prohibited in islam, for the damage we saw it causes. If your parents are forcing you, tell them islam doesn't allow it.
What a life 😓. I just dont understand parents who claim to love their children but harm them in this unspeakable manner. They will always use religion to control women, they- at the same - time even have the audicity to say that women should be treated special and with honour and that they should respect their rights- which islam does demand- but these are only words that do not come in practise, they ruin her instead. Ive seen it happen many many times. Even the mothers who might have gone through the same exact thing will not hesitate to put their daughters through hell.
Relatable
Poor girl but I am not happy that here in the uk we are having to deal with such an alien culture
Why disprespect a culture you might disagree with it fine its also down to the person themselves
Sympathy for the young females. The Parents shouldn't have come to the UK. Return to their Sh . Pit.
OMG
She's from wales, but sounds like manchester
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Millions need help
Wow thank you so much for
Sharing your story
It was really the Lord Jesus him's performd His meracel in your life
Call apon Jesus and He will always be there for you wan you need Him
What disease causes that?
rubella or herpes simplex virus
it happens to little boys too
arranged marriage for land
It does. But something like 6 times more girls are married, and the consequences of child marriage (ie underage childbirth) have more serious impacts on girls since a significant portion of underage mothers die in childbirth or suffer permanent damage
It's culture thing not a UK thing? Saying two different things... Coming from another cultures ways, then to US is two different things... It's acceptable practice probably for centuries and centuries so who are we to judge
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No matter how you slice it or dice it or justify it but Daci arrange marriages are forced marriages
HE R DAUGHTER'S 23????$&?#) SHE LOOKS 23 💀💀💀
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So why move to uk if you don’t want to be with us and learn from each other?
You missed the whole point
Did you miss the racism
Part
Attempting to overdose could be a possibility as to ehy the baby was handicapped but I'm not too sure
Okay just take the blame off of daddy dearest Virus more likely the cause
I've heard that sentiment before, but I always wonder...but your children have a different dialect than you...the influence is already there.
a different dialect? What does that mean?
@@saism4570 she has a British Dialect, she doesn't sound like her parents. Thus the influence has already happened.
Girlllll. My Twin’s are “rape children” and it’s so worth it. They are a part of you and sooo precious
Islam.
Actually I juat found out that Islam does not approve of forced marriages. Its a cultural thing not religion
Nah mate culture
Yo I’m Muslim the Quran says a marriage is only valid if both the people getting married WILLINGLY AGREE to it.
@@faristasairuv5143 but a man can have multiple wives even if she disagrees, as long as he can provide the same for all of them, its only up to his consent on this...
It’s not though. It’s a massive sin to be forced to marry someone. Your whole marriage wouldn’t count if it was false
You scared the kids to following western life. They should see how south east asia Muslim especially in Indonesia and Malaysia. They have a lot a lot of freedom.
She didn't force her kids to do anything