So glad i found this out year's ago my daughter is now 6. From birth she has listened to positive affirmations. I tell her she is a genius she can read so well with little effort because we believe this. She has positive beliefs about money and would like to be an author. I am reprogramming my mind & programming hers also. ❤
That’s amazing! When my daughter was a baby I used to show her art catalogs now she’s an amazing artist in her 30’s. No one else in the family has a lick of art talent.
I think what a lot of people who talk about ‘attachment styles’ utterly FAIL to realise is that many of these styles arise because of the treatment of you by your peer group when you first enter school - how the other pupils see/treat you, wether or not they accept you, and how the teachers treat you. These can be EVEN MORE DEVASTATING to your self image that your guardian’s treatment of you.
You are right. There are many influences that effect the image we have of ourselves. It's most pronounced with the primary attachment.. and perhaps if there is no one there for attachment that in itself lowers self image defenses of the cruel things that others will say from school.. either way, reclaiming our own self image is the key to making sustainable change in my opinion and experience and I believe once someone knows how to do it, they can do it!
Agreed. But your sense of self and your identity to this attachments form by your caregivers before you get to school and peer group interaction. Our sense of self begins to develop by around age 3…so our attachment styles are already in place by the time we get to school/groups and we are already seeing our environment based on how we have been programmed. We already see the “duck” or the “bunny” and those perspectives create our experiences.😢
@@StripperPhysics LOVE the way you say you either see the duck or rabbit as you go into the world. I 100% agree no matter what our primary attachment was, that influenced how we see the world, and, according to the book I'm reading, even what you can process from what you take it. That CAN be changed, but only with new experiences! If you had mean and cruel classmates, i would imagine that is echoing a critical or mean/cold caretaker. Not always the case, but highly likely. Esp if no adult around you too the time and attention to make sure you were safe.. it would be repeating the same failed dynamic the caregiver originally created.. they were suppose to be a source of protection and were instead a source of threat or pain.
Love your style. Some of these people doing this work scare me by appearances with lots of make up and over drive hair but you just look like a really cool natural person.
Right!!!! It blew my mind when I read it! Bonnie Bainbridge Cohen is a must follow! She has a lot of free content here on TH-cam and also her instagram page is 🔥🔥
This is so amazing Abby, I found on on YT today & I just feel everything is falling into place for me, I really want to learn about myself & break the past generational chains & I believe we need to get to the root if we really want abundance. I love listening to Joe & Neville. New sub & tysm for all your videos.
YESSS!!! SO happy to have you here! I love your perspective! We've got to Get to the roots to cut all the energies that have never actually been us! That is what frees us to step into expressing the beauty of our soul that's been there the whole time! May we all free ourselves ❤️🥳
Abby, you are such a great teacher. Each time I watch your videos I truly feel like a child again receiving all of this information with an open mind. Also your energy and excitement radiates through the screen - super fun! Thank you for enlightening us and sharing your wisdom.
I can not put into the words how much exceptional you are, your great knowledge, your kindness your generosity all make you a great coach that I had been looking for in my entire life ,,your 1on 1 sessions are absolutely life changing ,, Thank you Abby
I think a lot of the adults in my life didn’t get me. They saw me as “odd” (actual quote), or maybe slow, or perhaps even disobedient at times. But that’s their perception. It was never the truth about me.
Absolutely Shea. You offer so much to the world and your voice and message matter. It is SO unfortunate you had such ignorant and small minded people as "teachers" I think in the reality of the situation, you were the teacher to them. Also I totally resonate with the idea of being called "disobedient" for being yourself. Most times I think that obsession has more to do with their lack of having their own power in their life and they feel threatened if others don't do exactly as they say.. taking it VERY personal.. which also shows lack of confidence. I also think that they were acting out their own distorted views of how THEY had to act as a child.. and when others kids did it differently, they judged them as they had judged themselves as a kid. I am SO happy you are freeing yourself from this and finding the true beauty and wonder of yourself!! 🥳🥳❤️
I am here for my positive brain washing. Dude this can help me not feel like my wife thinks i am here child or something just cause she acts like that no makes it true it is just her version of true... 😂❤
You are right. People can treat us different ways and it doens't define us. When in that moment, try to breathe and connect to what you feel. It could make you feel like a child and make you nervous or that you have to abide which would be perhaps something from your past. Either way, the more you can breathe, stay calm and understand your need in that moment, the more you can be in your highest expression! You got this!!!
@AbbyRuston Yes it is like that gap is where YOU vibrate or resonate from. If someone feels toxic it doesn't make them bad they are only being who they know to be. BUT it does mean that you have to stop tuning into that level of vibes to not be affected by it. Then I think if they are an okay person the two of you can be in same room with ecahother even if not on the same wavelength.
Hey Abby, I am procrastinating and not taking actions towards my goal even after knowing that it is beneficial for my career. I have an exam coming up that I need to clear to get a job. But I am not preparing as I should. Things come up like health issues etc. that lead me to procrastinate. I don't feel good. I am aware of it but don't know why this is happening. Please share if you have any idea why this is happening. How can I stop this? Thank you❤
Hi Abby. I'm new to your channel and feel a stong sense of what you are teaching is what I need right now. I have 2 questions. 1 what format do you do coaching with? ( Zoom? Phone? Other?) 2 the teaching in this video, is it found in one of dr Joe's books? If so, which one? Thank you
Welcome to the community! So glad you are here! 1) the format is zoom 2) What I share in this video is a blending of different teachers I've read or watched as well as what i've learned from my inner work so thus far it's not in a book as the way I share, but it will be one day when I write the book 😊 Let me know if you have any other questions!
Yes, go back in your mind to where you have HAD that Before... that past gap or that present gap.... change to positive brain wash.... like doing ur brain laundry...😂❤
Omg I love the idea of brain laundry!! You are right. We are all just doing our brain laundry and upgrading it so we can move into the version of ourselves we were born to be!
Hi Abby! Is that normal that when you are trying to change your self concept the external environment seems to be against you? Kind of like someone says or does something that triggers you? And you kind of lose hope that you can change...
Great video! The only thing that doesn't resonate is the brainwashing word. Our past programmed us for sure. Its whats hiding in our subconscious and we are building a new version of ourselves. For me, i like the term training ground. Our past experiences and childhood were our training ground for what we have come for. Process how you felt / feel. Feelings are the secret. 😉 To blame is to b-lame. Getting curious, why do i feel this way? What is my opportunity? (Heals victim thinking by empowering you with choices) What is the root AND what did it give me? The golden nuggets thst help me now? Ty Abby! You are a gem and an earth angel 🤗
I totally agree that what we went through gives us incredible power once we learn to unlearn the meaning. When we alchemize, we tap into using that past as wisdom. I can understand the resistance to the word. I think about brainwashing more so as the method of enforcing ideas rather than something we are stuck in. Once we realize how it works, we step into the power to change it! Thanks so much for sharing your perspective and insight!
Im gonna play devils advocate here for a second. I listen to a lot of coaches on you tube and even used to be one myself as a manifesting coach. These videos are well presented and the teachings are good. HOWEVER These people should all be multi millionaires with perfect partner's and circumstances I see people making manifest money videos making these videos from there basements😅 So its kind of ironic really. You should have millions of views no?
But they arent perfect. I had a coach and i have a better money dynamic than he did. We all have our strong points. They are only human and are still learning and sharing. Chill out on them ❤
That is so interesting!! I was totally the opposite!! Only drives home the point of what we see isn't necessarily all there is to see! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for sharing! The duck felt so easy and I felt i had to get the magnifier to find the rabbit... i actually had to reveal the answer before i could see the rabbit 😂😂
@@AbbyRuston i saw the duck first! I feel like it's easier to see first since the bunny is pictured more sideways I feel like. Also, I wanted to say I loved your video. I'll be implementing your advice (at least trying lol) it's just so much work to reframe stories you've been telling yourself for years. And also feels kind of scary to step outside of that familiar reality - anways, I'll stop rambling. 🫣 Thank you for the value you provide. I hope your channel grows more and more, I got your videos recommended yesterday for the first time and hope they'll show up for many more people. 🤍
Im gonna play devils advocate here for a second. I listen to a lot of coaches on you tube and even used to be one myself as a manifesting coach. These videos are well presented and the teachings are good. HOWEVER These people should all be multi millionaires with perfect partner's and circumstances I see people making manifest money videos making these videos from there basements😅 So its kind of ironic really. You should have millions of views no?
I hear you and valid points. I appreciate them 1) What I share in this video are the exact things I used to get the changes I've had.. first in going from a failed athlete to making a world championship team.. secondly from repeated rejection and emotionally unfulfilling relationships to a deep and loving relationship. A relationship so special I didn't even know that it existed... My relationship wound is my biggest wound and the most focus has always been on that my entire life so this was HUGE for me. 2) It's important to know what ppl's wounds are.. bc if someone is making millions and they never had any issues making money bc their real wound is love and they are telling you to use the strategy for what made them money(no wound) for your romantic life(where a wound may be) it's not going to be the same... and then from what i've seen, they blame you bc "it worked for them" bc it's apples to oranges. So I always encourage people to be aware of that aspect. Bc when they can change the area of life where they have struggled the most, that is when you can trust more what they say and how to transform 3) Even if someone hasn't been able to fully execute, what they say could hold some truth. Discernment is a must in this case. 4) As i said before, love has always been the highest on my priorities. Only recently has that been realized and now my focus is shifting into how i'm seen in the world. I've been doing a lot of work releasing old wounds. bc I also have wounds fully being seen when I'm sharing my deep and heartfelt words which I do in these video's. I had a lot of rejection in the past.. if you look at my video's a year ago compared to today, you can see i've changed my energy and confidence. If you look at my last year's video average compared to significant changes I've made since Oct, you can also see the difference in video performance. It is all a process. LIke a staircase, and I'm making my way up that staircase and I do know that views and other success will reflect those changes in the future. I hope this helps! Always be curious and keep strengthening that discernment!! Thanks for your question🥳
I'm glad I wasn't the only one who could only see the duck for a bit... until i used the cheat code to find out what in the world the other image was 😂😂
So glad i found this out year's ago my daughter is now 6. From birth she has listened to positive affirmations. I tell her she is a genius she can read so well with little effort because we believe this. She has positive beliefs about money and would like to be an author. I am reprogramming my mind & programming hers also. ❤
Me too xx ❤ xx
That’s amazing!
When my daughter was a baby I used to show her art catalogs now she’s an amazing artist in her 30’s. No one else in the family has a lick of art talent.
I think what a lot of people who talk about ‘attachment styles’ utterly FAIL to realise is that many of these styles arise because of the treatment of you by your peer group when you first enter school - how the other pupils see/treat you, wether or not they accept you, and how the teachers treat you. These can be EVEN MORE DEVASTATING to your self image that your guardian’s treatment of you.
You are right. There are many influences that effect the image we have of ourselves. It's most pronounced with the primary attachment.. and perhaps if there is no one there for attachment that in itself lowers self image defenses of the cruel things that others will say from school.. either way, reclaiming our own self image is the key to making sustainable change in my opinion and experience and I believe once someone knows how to do it, they can do it!
Agreed. But your sense of self and your identity to this attachments form by your caregivers before you get to school and peer group interaction. Our sense of self begins to develop by around age 3…so our attachment styles are already in place by the time we get to school/groups and we are already seeing our environment based on how we have been programmed. We already see the “duck” or the “bunny” and those perspectives create our experiences.😢
@@StripperPhysics LOVE the way you say you either see the duck or rabbit as you go into the world. I 100% agree no matter what our primary attachment was, that influenced how we see the world, and, according to the book I'm reading, even what you can process from what you take it. That CAN be changed, but only with new experiences! If you had mean and cruel classmates, i would imagine that is echoing a critical or mean/cold caretaker. Not always the case, but highly likely. Esp if no adult around you too the time and attention to make sure you were safe.. it would be repeating the same failed dynamic the caregiver originally created.. they were suppose to be a source of protection and were instead a source of threat or pain.
@@AbbyRuston It seems so cruel to have to unlearn and “un-traumatize” ourselves when all we wanted was to be loved and accepted.😥
Love your style. Some of these people doing this work scare me by appearances with lots of make up and over drive hair but you just look like a really cool natural person.
organ of perception is nervous system. wow thank u
Right!!!! It blew my mind when I read it! Bonnie Bainbridge Cohen is a must follow! She has a lot of free content here on TH-cam and also her instagram page is 🔥🔥
This is so amazing Abby, I found on on YT today & I just feel everything is falling into place for me, I really want to learn about myself & break the past generational chains & I believe we need to get to the root if we really want abundance. I love listening to Joe & Neville. New sub & tysm for all your videos.
YESSS!!! SO happy to have you here! I love your perspective! We've got to Get to the roots to cut all the energies that have never actually been us! That is what frees us to step into expressing the beauty of our soul that's been there the whole time! May we all free ourselves ❤️🥳
Abby, you are such a great teacher. Each time I watch your videos I truly feel like a child again receiving all of this information with an open mind. Also your energy and excitement radiates through the screen - super fun! Thank you for enlightening us and sharing your wisdom.
I saw the duck and then the rabbit ! Love your videos ! Thank you for your work
I can not put into the words how much exceptional you are, your great knowledge, your kindness your generosity all make you a great coach that I had been looking for in my entire life ,,your 1on 1 sessions are absolutely life changing ,, Thank you Abby
Thanks Abby.
Absolutely! Good to hear from you!
We love you, Abby♥️
Thank you🙏🏽
🥹🥹🥹❤️❤️❤️❤️ I love you too! Thanks so much being here and showing up! We are all growing together! 🥳🥳
Thank you! Short, sweet, and to the point. Amazing video, really helpful ❤
Thanks so much for taking the time to share this with me! So glad it helped! 🙌🏼🥹🥳
I think a lot of the adults in my life didn’t get me. They saw me as “odd” (actual quote), or maybe slow, or perhaps even disobedient at times. But that’s their perception. It was never the truth about me.
Absolutely Shea. You offer so much to the world and your voice and message matter. It is SO unfortunate you had such ignorant and small minded people as "teachers" I think in the reality of the situation, you were the teacher to them. Also I totally resonate with the idea of being called "disobedient" for being yourself. Most times I think that obsession has more to do with their lack of having their own power in their life and they feel threatened if others don't do exactly as they say.. taking it VERY personal.. which also shows lack of confidence. I also think that they were acting out their own distorted views of how THEY had to act as a child.. and when others kids did it differently, they judged them as they had judged themselves as a kid. I am SO happy you are freeing yourself from this and finding the true beauty and wonder of yourself!! 🥳🥳❤️
@@AbbyRuston, thanks so much. ☺️
Thanks Abby, this is an awesome video
🙏 Thanks so much for your kind words and support! I'm grateful to have you here and thank you so much for watching!
I am here for my positive brain washing. Dude this can help me not feel like my wife thinks i am here child or something just cause she acts like that no makes it true it is just her version of true... 😂❤
You are right. People can treat us different ways and it doens't define us. When in that moment, try to breathe and connect to what you feel. It could make you feel like a child and make you nervous or that you have to abide which would be perhaps something from your past. Either way, the more you can breathe, stay calm and understand your need in that moment, the more you can be in your highest expression! You got this!!!
@AbbyRuston Yes it is like that gap is where YOU vibrate or resonate from. If someone feels toxic it doesn't make them bad they are only being who they know to be. BUT it does mean that you have to stop tuning into that level of vibes to not be affected by it. Then I think if they are an okay person the two of you can be in same room with ecahother even if not on the same wavelength.
This is an EXCELLENT VIDEO!
Thanks so much for the love and for watching! So glad to have you here!
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your support and generosity. It really means a lot to me 🙏❤️
Hey Abby, I am procrastinating and not taking actions towards my goal even after knowing that it is beneficial for my career. I have an exam coming up that I need to clear to get a job. But I am not preparing as I should. Things come up like health issues etc. that lead me to procrastinate. I don't feel good. I am aware of it but don't know why this is happening.
Please share if you have any idea why this is happening. How can I stop this?
Thank you❤
Hi Abby. I'm new to your channel and feel a stong sense of what you are teaching is what I need right now. I have 2 questions.
1 what format do you do coaching with? ( Zoom? Phone? Other?)
2 the teaching in this video, is it found in one of dr Joe's books? If so, which one?
Thank you
Welcome to the community! So glad you are here! 1) the format is zoom 2) What I share in this video is a blending of different teachers I've read or watched as well as what i've learned from my inner work so thus far it's not in a book as the way I share, but it will be one day when I write the book 😊 Let me know if you have any other questions!
@@AbbyRuston thank you
Yes, go back in your mind to where you have HAD that Before... that past gap or that present gap.... change to positive brain wash.... like doing ur brain laundry...😂❤
Omg I love the idea of brain laundry!! You are right. We are all just doing our brain laundry and upgrading it so we can move into the version of ourselves we were born to be!
Duck n bunny😊
Well done!!
Bird 1st rabbit 2nd
Same... but That rabbit was a hard fight to find for me😂😂
Hi Abby!
Is that normal that when you are trying to change your self concept the external environment seems to be against you? Kind of like someone says or does something that triggers you? And you kind of lose hope that you can change...
Abby I want to contact you for a 1 to 1 session. Where is the form you are referring to contact you.
Wonderful! Here is the link forms.gle/vHhiWah8iavm3xWY9
Great video!
The only thing that doesn't resonate is the brainwashing word. Our past programmed us for sure. Its whats hiding in our subconscious and we are building a new version of ourselves. For me, i like the term training ground. Our past experiences and childhood were our training ground for what we have come for.
Process how you felt / feel. Feelings are the secret. 😉
To blame is to b-lame. Getting curious, why do i feel this way? What is my opportunity? (Heals victim thinking by empowering you with choices) What is the root AND what did it give me? The golden nuggets thst help me now?
Ty Abby! You are a gem and an earth angel 🤗
I totally agree that what we went through gives us incredible power once we learn to unlearn the meaning. When we alchemize, we tap into using that past as wisdom. I can understand the resistance to the word. I think about brainwashing more so as the method of enforcing ideas rather than something we are stuck in. Once we realize how it works, we step into the power to change it! Thanks so much for sharing your perspective and insight!
@@AbbyRuston thank you for your response. I get it 😻💃🤗
I see Abby Ruston and Neville Goddard 😊
😂 You got the bonus answer!! 🏆
Im gonna play devils advocate here for a second. I listen to a lot of coaches on you tube and even used to be one myself as a manifesting coach. These videos are well presented and the teachings are good.
HOWEVER
These people should all be multi millionaires with perfect partner's and circumstances
I see people making manifest money videos making these videos from there basements😅
So its kind of ironic really.
You should have millions of views no?
Shelly Bullard is a millionaire
But they arent perfect. I had a coach and i have a better money dynamic than he did. We all have our strong points. They are only human and are still learning and sharing. Chill out on them ❤
First bunny then duck.
That is so interesting!! I was totally the opposite!! Only drives home the point of what we see isn't necessarily all there is to see! Thanks for sharing!
Duck first... then bunny
Same! It took me forever to find the bunny 😂
Duck and then a rabbit
Same! It was hard for me to find the rabbit 😂
Rabbit and duck
Well done! It' took me a bit to find the rabbit 😂
@@AbbyRuston me tooo 🤣
Duck
Thanks for sharing! The duck felt so easy and I felt i had to get the magnifier to find the rabbit... i actually had to reveal the answer before i could see the rabbit 😂😂
I saw a duck first
I see a duck head and a rabbit
Well done! It took me a bit to see the rabbit!
I see a duck first.
I was waiting for this! 🫶
🥳🥳🥳 Yay!! Which image did you see first? I'm so curious what it was like for everyone!
@@AbbyRuston i saw the duck first! I feel like it's easier to see first since the bunny is pictured more sideways I feel like. Also, I wanted to say I loved your video. I'll be implementing your advice (at least trying lol) it's just so much work to reframe stories you've been telling yourself for years. And also feels kind of scary to step outside of that familiar reality - anways, I'll stop rambling. 🫣
Thank you for the value you provide. I hope your channel grows more and more, I got your videos recommended yesterday for the first time and hope they'll show up for many more people. 🤍
Im gonna play devils advocate here for a second. I listen to a lot of coaches on you tube and even used to be one myself as a manifesting coach. These videos are well presented and the teachings are good.
HOWEVER
These people should all be multi millionaires with perfect partner's and circumstances
I see people making manifest money videos making these videos from there basements😅
So its kind of ironic really.
You should have millions of views no?
I hear you and valid points. I appreciate them 1) What I share in this video are the exact things I used to get the changes I've had.. first in going from a failed athlete to making a world championship team.. secondly from repeated rejection and emotionally unfulfilling relationships to a deep and loving relationship. A relationship so special I didn't even know that it existed... My relationship wound is my biggest wound and the most focus has always been on that my entire life so this was HUGE for me. 2) It's important to know what ppl's wounds are.. bc if someone is making millions and they never had any issues making money bc their real wound is love and they are telling you to use the strategy for what made them money(no wound) for your romantic life(where a wound may be) it's not going to be the same... and then from what i've seen, they blame you bc "it worked for them" bc it's apples to oranges. So I always encourage people to be aware of that aspect. Bc when they can change the area of life where they have struggled the most, that is when you can trust more what they say and how to transform 3) Even if someone hasn't been able to fully execute, what they say could hold some truth. Discernment is a must in this case. 4) As i said before, love has always been the highest on my priorities. Only recently has that been realized and now my focus is shifting into how i'm seen in the world. I've been doing a lot of work releasing old wounds. bc I also have wounds fully being seen when I'm sharing my deep and heartfelt words which I do in these video's. I had a lot of rejection in the past.. if you look at my video's a year ago compared to today, you can see i've changed my energy and confidence. If you look at my last year's video average compared to significant changes I've made since Oct, you can also see the difference in video performance. It is all a process. LIke a staircase, and I'm making my way up that staircase and I do know that views and other success will reflect those changes in the future. I hope this helps! Always be curious and keep strengthening that discernment!! Thanks for your question🥳
@@AbbyRuston great answer.
Do you offer 1 on 1 and how much
Duck
I'm glad I wasn't the only one who could only see the duck for a bit... until i used the cheat code to find out what in the world the other image was 😂😂