This! That comment at the end was insane. It was giving tip your landlord energy. I will take my days if I have them, I will take off if I have to. Unless you own a small business you are replaceable. Having the mentality that you need to give your blood, sweat and tears for a company as an employee is dumb af.
Inself that your business, but usualy you have to annonce it egnouh time before (to validate and for the business to organise this absence), if for any reason you need that vacation day in quiker time that became a favor and it's normal to ask why give you this favor.
@@4Star18 a request for PTO can be denied, bereavment days can not be denied and don't cost vacation hours for the workers. So taking bereavment days for not direct family is basicly screwing your co workers and stealing from your boss. The comment at the end was a cold one, but deffenitly correct.
That commenter is pathetic. I can understand not allowing a bereavement day for those funerals, since most places I've worked at only give them for immediate family. It is impossible to write rules that could somehow define you who are/aren't close with to cover, too. That said, if OP was fine using a vacation day for it, and it sounds like they were, I see zero problem with it.
That commenter has clearly never cared about another human being outside his or her immediate family. I do understand them not counting it as a bereavement day, but the commenter clearly likes the taste of leather because they come off as a bootlicking lapdog who's happy to take whatever bullshit a boss dishes out.
Typical useful idiot from USA. The exact kind of person to vote fascist (MAGA). The amount of success the oligarch US propaganda has had, in combination with dismantling of education, that actually make people like that THINK they are correct is mindblowing for me as a european, and really scary. +70 million people in USA just voted for a nazi...
That one commenter on the warehouse story... Dude, who hurt you?! No wonder you can't understand that people may habe people they consider family aside their mum & dad, with that attitude!
@ashblossomandjoyoussprung.9917 and depending on how your family dynamics work, your cousins may be as close as siblings, your grandparents may be your acting parents, your mum's best friend who always babysat you when you were little may feel like a second mum... Found family is a thing.
My former babysitter was like a second mom to me. We lived in a townhouse and she was literally on the other side of the wall. 😂 She was and always will be a part of my family even tho she's since passed.
Not to mention the fact that names frequently change when they marry into another family so even if their last name doesn't match yours doesn't mean they're not your Close Relatives...
The commenter probably was Bob, and even if they weren't; they didn't take into account that this may have been the straw that broke the camel's back. At the beginning of the post, OP mentioned the guy's sexism, racism, etc. So after a long period of abuse only to be topped by that rant during a particularly vulnerable time during her life; its no wonder she decided to nope out of the position.
I guarantee you that in virtually any shop, using someone else's tools without permission is a fighting offense. Not unusual for a mechanic's tool box to run upwards of $25-30k.
Yupp. I work in the gun industry and keep my tools secured so they don’t get damaged by other people trying to use them. I have a handful of tools I designed and machined myself that are extremely valuable. It’s one thing to ask to use them but to just use them without permission is definitely fightable.
when snap-on has your kids college fund locked up in tools to have to have to put food on the table NO ONE AND I MEAN NO ONE touches them boss or not hell any boss worth having in a shop like that has his OWN tool box there and it is usually locked ...so yeah yell at me on how I keep MY tools is none of anyone's business
Worked in a boiler room and my toolbox after just a few years was $35k easy. My dad's toolbox in the same job weighed in well over $50k with specialized tools for machines that him and like five other people in the country knew how to work on. I was his son and if I had touched his toolbox he would have stomped a mudhole in me.
Story #2: vacation days are a right enshrined in OPs employment contract: you can use them for whatever you want, or for nothing at all if that is your desire. OP's boss is insane.
Unless there's a requirement for informing about the vacation in good time, you cant just come in on a busy day and say "I'm taking tomorrow off suckers"
I don't know what country you live in but in the USA that is not the case. Vacation days can be declined by the employer for any reason and are not required to be given by law.
@@Silver_wind_1987_ prepare to ask to get your aft kissed a lot then, no boss will allow you vacation with 4 days notice during a busy period especially multiple weeks in a row
Who is that commenter and OP's former boss to decide how close OP is to those people? OP probably adored said cousins and grandmothers. Families like that usually try ti get together and talk with each other as MUCH as possible. This commenter probably would've bullied the crap out of me for taking bereavement leave for my Grandma's sister's funeral cause "Oh it's not like you're close" as if they know how crap works in MY family.
There is a difference between PTO and bereavment days. PTO can be denied by the boss and goes of the free hours of the worker. Bereavment days can not be denied and don't cost hours for the worker. That is why bereavment days are only for first line family(parents, brothers/sisters, children) Emotions and feelings change nothing to that no matter how close you are.
@@robbertbaart1499 that is dependent on state and company. It is not a one size fits all. Some companies even allow bereavement leave for close friends. If OPs company did not allow such leave for anyone outside of immediate family than that would be one thing. But they weren't denied on that basis. They were denied cause OP's boss did not believe the funeral was even real. Which is an entirely DIFFERENT issue.
Story 2: that last comment the person left doesn't know anything about the girl. They don't know how close she is with her family. There large family units that are close, so that person can f off with calling OP entitled for wanting to grieve family members
Honestly!!! It could've been a friends mom's cousin and if she was close with them it wouldn't matter!!!! Like who are you to tell me who i should and shouldn't grieve
@@LL-wg3oq also they said cousin's grandmother. Wouldn't that make them OP's grandmother too? Like even if they're from the inlaws it's still technically her grandma
Yeah, I'm Brazilian and Latinos are known for having big families, I have cousins galore and I'm closer to my cousin's cousins (we're related by our mothers, these cousins are related to her by her father) than to some of my own blood relatives. How close you are by blood doesn't determine how close you are by love.
10:35 the person who made that comment is a total jackass. That's the type of person that says stuff like that to people but then they're the first ones to take a hundred days off because their neighbor they never spoke to died.
Yes, we had an administrator, Dianne, who got hired by knowing the Director. We had to teach her the job because she had no experience or related skills. She was forever taking PTO or leaving early for shit like taking her kid to the mall to choose birthday gifts. Then she refused to hire a well qualified young woman because the candidate had a toddler. According to Dianne, she didn't want to hire her because the person would 'probably call out all the time'. The audacity!
@@fdm2155 oh my God I'm so freaking annoyed just reading this! This is one of the few things that I can read or hear about that doesn't surprise me, but I still get furious every time!
That commentor is the kind of person who doesn't understand the difference between a close friend and a chosen family circle. I had a cat that died when I was in middle school and a bunch of kids made fun of me for still being shaken up about it when I got back after a few days off for grief. I just turned it back on them asking if they had any pets, they had a puppy, but lo-and-behold it's fine to cry over a puppy you had for a couple month but not the feline you remember having for nearly 13 years. Some people just can't sympathize with others or think of things different than their own life and experience.
7:54 Even if the names are different, does the boss not know how married life works? Sometimes you take the last name of your spouse, which to no ones surprise, may be different! Now applying that to other people in the family-- In short, boss is an idiot. 🤦
Yeah, a female relative whose maiden name is that same as your's typically will have taken their husband's last name when they married. So by his ignorance of how things worked for the older relative, my mom's sister couldn't possibly have been my aunt after she married my uncle. Some people are just too stupid to be permitted out in public without a handler.
@@tinydancer7426 Yeah, my brothers Hip and Hop (aka Lemmy and Iggy) were voiced by one Tara Lyn Charendoff back in the day. By an amazing coincidence, she sounds almost _exactly_ like the current voice actress Tara Lyn Strong, of Twilight Sparkle and Timmy Turner fame! I just can't figure it out? Also, what's even _stranger..._ did you know that _both_ of them voiced the character Bubbles? What are the chances of two different women, with identical voices, and _near_ identical names applying for, and getting the role as the same character? I haven't seen anything that eerie since Lou Gehrig died of Lou Gehrig's disease... like just imagine the odds on _that!_ Since it is a well known fact that no married woman has _ever_ taken the last name of her spouse for literally _any_ circumstance throughout all of history, I guess we shall never figure this mystery out. /s
I was my mother's live-in caregiver for the last seven years of her life. We were very close. When she died I was gutted and I took three weeks off. My employer marked it all as bereavement leave and it didn't affect my vacation days. This organization also didn't have a set number of allowable sick days. If you were sick, you stayed home. Their generosity and trust were never abused. They did have a bit of a heads-up. When I interviewed for the job a year earlier, I was very clear that I had an elderly mother at home and that she was my priority. I told them that I might need to leave suddenly if she needed something and I would need time to take her to all her doctor appointments, etc. Knowing all this, they still hired me and I was with that organization for over ten years until I retired.
She asked to use her vacation days once she realized beriefment was for immediate relatives. Also, what kind of warehouse only has 3 workers?! Don't blame her for management's failure!
Story 2 - Good on OP for quitting that job because of that Ahole boss. Also serves him right for losing his job after the company was ran by someone new.
I bet that "commenter" in story 2 is one of the former boss' flying monkeys, or a relative. If not that, then they're probably an old jerk who thinks like that former boss.
If I had an account, I would track them down and say something like, "You must have grown up in a very abusive household or are an orphan to think like that." My granduncle died and 3 days after his funeral his wife died and we held her a week after his. My boss let me have those 2 days off because she is a kind person who understands what it's like to use a loved one. She even showed up to both funerals on her lunch break since it was only 2 blocks from work. Even told me to take an extra day, if I needed it.
i don't see the reason why the comment needed to be included in the 2nd story. it's not really constructive at all, it's just vitriolic and dismissive of op's feelings. i have a feeling op's boss wrote that
@@annnichols3091 Except he was. Play stupid games, when stupid prizes. You treat a worker like shit, and you don't get to complain when that worker decides that if you want to be a disrespectful ahole then they don't want to work for you.
I can't count the number of times my own mother has complained about the state of my house. I like a little clutter adn always have. It is just part of having ASD. Plus, it isn't her house. Honestly, I love my mother, but having her visit in my house was always a bit irritating. My father, on the other hand,...
Over 40 years ago, someone set the neighbors' house on fire. It killed a family of 3. They never found the arsonist and have no idea as to why it was done. I knew the family all my life. Their son was a year younger than I was. When I got to work the next day, I was a wreck. My boss offered to let me go home, but I knew that would be even worse. They had to block the street off because of all the traffic that came to see where the fire was. 😢 That's how a boss should act.
Story 1 - You’re right he was definitely on a power trip. What bothers me is that the boss blatantly tells OP that he’s using his tools without his permission while complaining that his tool box is messy. Yeah Hell No! Hopefully OP found a new job, with better people, better pay, and a boss who’ll appreciate his hard work.
As a professional mechanic for 18 years now, the unwritten rule of all mechanics, it doesn’t matter if you’re an automotive, diesel, aircraft, marine, or rocket mechanic, is YOU DO NOT TOUCH ANOTHER MECHANIC’S TOOLS unless you ask each time. That first boss is going to make enemies very fast in the industry. Now, if the company supplies the tools, that’s different.
As a person from a large family, the funeral comment made me so angry I nearly threw my phone at the wall. It isn’t OP’s fault the commenter’s family doesn’t like them. And for good reason, clearly. Some of us are in fact close with our extended family and don’t just like see them once every four years.
I also have a heartless boss story. When my horse died, I had raised her from 2 weeks old, and she was 17 when I had to put her down due to unbearable pain. I came into work, and my boss met me at the time clock and asked if I had turned her into glue. I spent the next 1/2 hour in the back room crying my eyes out.
Story 1: The tools are not provided by the company, they are provided for by the mechanic. As such no one including the boss should be touching those tools without express permission. Keeping your work area clean is one thing, this is something else completely.
Also what idiot is going to mass with a car trained car mechanic? That is a good way to have them walkout to the competition. There is always a demand for then anywhere.
Tools neat and organized. Sounds like a good time for the OP to keep the tool chest locked when not in use. What, is the boss going to write them up for not leaving it unlocked for him to steal tools?
11:25 the comment that was read out got OP’s family down as Italian but she was Irish, and I for one wouldn’t want to cross paths with an angry Irish woman ! Italians, I can cope with !
Story 3: I had a boss like that who didn't think that coming in late or taking a day off to take care of a dead pet was justified. I informed her that as a person who has accrued leave, it didn't matter WHY I took it nor was it her place to question how I took it.
I'm glad my company is very generous with bereavement time, giving 10 days for spouse, parent, or child, and 5 days for any other family or extended family member, including inlaws.
Story 3: I had the EXACT thing happen to me. I was working at a thrift store and we had to put our cat down (she was sickly). I'd had this cat since I was 8 and she was my constant friend. I called my job and asked for the night off. We'd just buried her in the backyard and I was hot, sweaty and crying. The assistant manager, Tibby, told me I had to come in. I said okay but I wasn't working register. She tried to get me to work it anyway and the women who worked in the back going through donations apparently heard the whole thing and told the big boos, Janice, the next day. She gave me a paid day off and made Tibby apologize to be because in Janice's words, "Pets ARE family."
About 8 years ago I had a really bad boss. I had been abused by a co-worker when I told my boss he punished me and the coworker got nothing. Then a while later I was raped by my step grandfather. J worked the next day. When I came into work I told my boss that we had a bad family emergency/trauma and that I would need a lot of help that day because I was having panic attacks from it. Then when I was having a really bad panic attack due to so many triggers from people in the dive throu (which I was running alone at lunch rush) he just stood there and stared. Did not say anything or make a move to help. I walked out early that day and quit.
The inventory one. Yeah, no, when you're doing inventory, you have to be exact with everything. Make sure everything is what it is. Make sure stuff is where and what it is. You can not rush it and should not rush it.
Story 2: As someone who's lost several relatives before, it really is tragic and infuriating to see OP's boss treating her like this when there were SEVERAL alternatives available other than just claiming she's committing Wage Theft. And shame on that commenter, I bet he's as much of a clown as the old boss for saying this.
People’s lives are not about inconvenience. Someone died. You don’t get to decide whose lives matter. That comment was unhinged. She must be the manager.
In the shops I worked at. "Borrowing" tools from a mechanic was grounds for termination at the least, a black eye is not unusual. Every minute a mechanic looks for a tool means he's not making money.
First Story: This boss is asking for trouble. Most mechanics own their own tools, and have spent a lot of their money on high quality tools that can make their work more efficient. These tools are usually very expensive compared to the tools that most home mechanics use, and professional mechanics do not like people "borrowing" their tools without express permission. OP must be very chill because rifling through the average mechanic's toolbox could be seen as asking to get a severe beatdown.
Story 1. The main issue is the boss touching his tools. Each of those tools is a minimum of $20 that O. P purchased with his own money and someone thinks they have the right to not only touch, but use and possibly break or lose or take home? Hell no
Story 6: Wait a minute, she gave the boss _almost exactly a full month_ of notice, and on top of that the days requested weren't even at a particularly busy time or likely to be high-demand for vacations (not near a holiday, etc), and that _still_ somehow wasn't good enough? That is absolutely ridiculous. I would bet that that "September 10" cutoff date was just something the boss pulled out of her ass and didn't even actually exist until the moment she read the request. She was clearly just determined to not allow any vacation time at all, regardless of when, why, or how much notice was given... If you can't fill a single empty spot in the schedule and are "left short handed" even when you're given _an entire month_ of advance notice, you must be the most incompetent manager I've ever heard of.
My uncle died and my company’s HR person told me I got 3 bereavement days. The next day, my manager said they were wrong and that I only got 1 and had to take PTO for the rest. A year later, another coworker’s ex-mother-in-law (they’d been separated for 10 years) died and they gave her 2 weeks of bereavement to “help her children” who were grown adults (the same age as me).
Story 4: It's better to be thorough than be fast, even if it takes quite a while. You never know when you miss something until it's too late if you're not thorough
sadly too many managers/bosses don't know the difference and will keep pushing good workers away and going thru useless replacements and never realized that they are the problem and not everybody is replaceable by anybody
dog story... i once worked at a company where my senior colleague (lets call him Kevin) was a complete psycho. Kevin was the nephew of the owner of the company, and thought he was the best thing to ever happened on Earth. One day, shortly before lunch, i got a call from my GF in tears: our dog Pebbles was dead. She begged me to come home, and take care of things -- because she was too emotional to handle it. I excused myself from work, and took a taxi home -- sulking the entire way home. I found Pebbles laying on the floor, dead, covered her with one of her blankets, and took her body to a vet clinic. All my colleagues knew how attached my gf and i were to that dog. So the following day they were all trying to cheer me up as best they could. Not Kevin. Kevin started making fun of me, asking if the death of a dog was a good enough excuse to skip work. People were telling him to shut up, but it would only fuel his vitrol even more. ... until the owner showed up, listened to Kevin's mockery, while i was sulking on my terminal. The owner asked me to go home, that i had another day to mourn the loss my dog. As i was told --once i left, he asked Kevin to go to his office, where he started to TEAR KEVIN's ASS APART in front of everybody. Asking how he could be so calous to someone when Kevin's mother got into severe depression after losing KEVIN's dog! How he could be so cold towards someone griving the loss of a loved pet! The verbal beatdown was so loud everybody in the office could hear! Kevin was a complete delight the following days. He tried to be the most pleasant person an asshole like him could be. Fuck you Kevin. Miss you Pebbles D:
I buried a cat a few years back and frankly it was not easy. I held the poor thing for quite a while after she died. Poor cat actually came and lay down in the doorway to my bedroom just so I could know she loved me. I'm glad you were able to morn the loss of your beloved pet.
Story 2 Troll: blood doesn’t determine how close someone is. Mourning is mourning. MORE importantly, someone’s day off is their business and their business alone. It’s a job, not a damned cult.
I once had a supervisor who sent me to get a doctor's note because I had injured my left hand (it was so swollen that my doctor was surprised the x-ray didn't show it was broken) and was typing with only my right. I could easily keep it with my work, but she insisted. The doctor's note had me off a week. When I came back, I was counselled -- in writing -- for taking excessive sick leave.
Story 1: People don't leave crappy jobs. They leave crappy bosses. Story 2: Why does the boss need a copy of an obituary if OP requests a vacation day to go to a funeral? If somebody asks for a vacation day, it is nobody else's business what is done on said vacation day. Bob is a first class AH and a crappy boss to boot. Story 3: Another crappy boss. Story 4: Sarah's corner cutting came back to bite her in the arse. Story 5: Crappy boss did himself out of OP's labour. Story 6: Yet another crappy boss.
Yeah when I saw the response to the funeral story, I thought it might have been the petty boss, myself, or someone who was kissing his ass. We live in a world where bosses set the rules, can treat workers like garbage if they want to, they don't also need the right to interrogate someone about the death of someone they care about. If they want to accuse someone of lying about a death in the family, the burden of proof should be on THEM, not the worker. Also, I had an instructor in my old college who, despite not having included this in the syllabus, demanded obituaries to take a day off for funerals, or you would risk failing the entire course. People in positions of authority should not have this power in addition to the countless other abuses they are allowed to get away with.
I remember when I was in 6th grade or so. My Aunt Mabel (Granddad's maternal aunt to be specific) passed away. She lived in town, and we saw her all the time. She was the first of my relatives to pass away that I remember, and it was going to be the first funeral I went to. When I brought in a note to be let out of school for the funeral, the idiot Vice-Principal gave me the third degree. Who died? How well did I know her? How often did I see her? Was a funeral really more important than my schoolwork? After that last question, I was literally speechless. I just stood there a while, with the Vice-Principal staring down his nose at me. Finally he said, in a VERY condescending tone, "Well, if it's THAT important, I GUESS you can be excused."
For Story #2, OP did the right thing quitting b/c working for a jerk boss isn't worth it. And the commenter must be an "old fashioned" old guy to think that OP is entitled.
Speed Story: If I was OP, Id have looked Sarah in the eyes and say "Do you want this done fast or do you want this done right? Pick one and put it in writing." and then, unless she actually puts it in writing that she want's me to to it fast instead of right, I'd continue doing it RIGHT and at my earliest opportunity, file a Formal Complaint with Sarah's Boss... 😄😁😆😅😂🤣
Story 2: As a former people manager, the boss was right that she isn’t entitled to bereavement leave. It is only for immediate family. That’s it! Everything else was wrong. The only time she’d be denied vacation would be if there were too many people off that day due to pre-booked vacations, which wasn’t the case. It was also how he handled it which made him a giant A-hole. So, I’m on OP’s side.
That random sounds like they have no one in their life who's not forced to be there but family. I can only say that I hope they get what they put out into the world.
Story 5: So, funny story. The summer after my freshman year in high school, I twisted my right foot playing Ultimate Frisbee. Everyone, including my mom (who is a Registered Nurse (RN)), just told me I had sprained it and we never went to a doctor. It did heal to the point in could walk normally again, but it never quite got better and would hurt if a stretched it. The next year, I twisted my right foot again at school in a club meeting just by walking (I don’t even know how, one minute I was walking fine and then the next it somehow twisted under me). I didn’t go to the hospital because I didn’t want to upset my mom over nothing, but walking REALLY freaking hurt. I still remember one of the girls turning to me and saying “Buck up, Artimis.” in response to me whimpering and gasping in pain while slowly walking behind them. One again, everyone said it was just a sprain, but thankfully my mom took me to a Walk-In clinic a few days later because it was still so painful to walk. The doctor who saw me said “Oh, you probably just sprained it but we’ll X-ray it anyway.” He came in a bit later with this awkward “I effed up” smile on his face, and Mom and I both knew at once it was broken. He tried to save face by saying it was probably just an artery showing up on the X-ray, but he’d send it to an orthopedic surgeon to look at just in case. Mom called me the next day while I was in class and said “Yep, your foot is broken and I’m coming to pick you up from school to see the specialist.” This new doctor made the comment that it looked like I had broken my foot before and it hadn’t quite healed. So it turns out, I never sprained my foot, I actually broke the damn thing TWICE. And then I broke AND sprained it a year later!
I would never hire a 22 year old to be a boss over mechanics. That is the kind of job where you should know everything about the job and do every piece of the job before becoming a boss. It doesn't matter what OP is doing on their time off. If any boss ever talked to me like that, I would never work for him again. I bet that that commentor is Bob. I hate people who come in as a new boss and make crap worse. They need to learn that egos should be checked at the door.
Similar thing happened with me and my dog. He didn't pass away in the house. We had to take him to get him put to sleep cause he had cancer and it was incurable. I was sobbing going into work, but I was made to work from when I started till the time my shift ended. I spent most of that day in the staff toilets bawling my eyes out. It was like my boss couldn't care less that I had him for 18 years.
‘They’re old” while they’re racist, homophobic, sexiest, and cruel towards is a shitty excuse. Respect your elders when they are respectful towards you.
My mechanic son has for decades declared his tools to be not ‘borrowable’, as he paid top dollar for them, and breakage or losing them can cut into his work. Always joked that Snapon owns half the mechanics tools they are still paying for.
That commentor was most likely the boss. They did not demand bereavement. They asked if they could and asked asked for time off instead. The issue was the boss basically insulting a beloved relative's death. If they were so better without her, why did the business fail and the boss fired!?
That comment at the end of the Bereavement story must be a supervisor who thinks no one’s death or life matters. I had a coworker who had to got a funeral 1 to 2 times a month because of their huge family our boss never got upset we just adapted. At one job I was extremely sick and called to say I was unable to come unfortunately this was so close to my shift and told her that I would only miss this one day she got upset and said “bring me a doctors note or you will not be scheduled” i was like ok bet. Mind you I was the 40 hour a week graveyard employee that was the only one who knew how to keep everything going at night. I also worked alone. When I brought the doctors note the next day she was fuming. The doctor gave me 3 weeks off because I was actually in worst shape then I realized. I explained to her that I said I was only going to miss one day but she asked for the note. Suffice to say I never returned. She was not worth my health.
She didn't ask for bereavement after being told the rules, she asked for a vacation day that she had EARNED. Just because a family member isn't close in the scheme of the family doesn't mean that they weren't close emotionally. And nobody needs an excuse or reason given for a vacation day. That last commenter would have been the kind who'd work the day of their parents and childs funeral
Speedy Sarah story: an old story: two teams tasked to write software to do the same job. Preliminary test: team 1's punch cards whiz thru the reader. Team 2 describes the design of the software, but has no pack of cards to go thru the reader. The boss is inclined to go with Team 1, until the Team 2 lead says, it's easy to make a batch of cards that run thru the reader real fast, but don't actually do anything.
11:00 Story 2 commenter is the ultimate loyal company drone, who doesn't understand that many people have very close relationships with others they rightfully consider family. The reason Opie quit was clearly due to the massive disrespect from her old boss. I'm sorry for that commenter not having anyone special in their life who isn't approved by their employer.
Nothing seems to make a doctor more happy to maliciously comply than hearing the words "My boss says I need a doctor's note to get the time off to recover."
At most employers I have worked for bereavement days do not count against vacation days, but are for immediate family (siblings, parents, grandparents, children, grandchildren). You can use vacation for extended family, and have never known of it every being denied even in the busiest times of the year.
Why does he need an obituary for a vacation day? That would barely pass as an excuse to grant a bereavement day. As far as a vacation day goes, saying you plan to spend it all day on the couch in your underwear is fine because its YOUR vacation day, so eff off and be happy you're not getting sued for forcing me to use a vacation day instead of a bereavement.
Story 2: If I was you I’d contact a lawyer. What your boss is saying and doing is 100% illegal. I come from an Irish Catholic family and none of my cousins and I share the same last name. Contact the Employment Development Department and sue for discrimination. If you’ve been employed with a company over a year’s time, you are entitled to attend a funeral, but the funeral has to be more than 100 miles away. If you’ve been employed for the company and your relative lives in the same county, you’re eligible for as little as three days. Hope this information is helpful?
Not all states have the same rules, unfortunately. Vacation time and sick leave are not even mandatory benefits, which is so infurating to think a rich, developed country like the U.S. treats employees worse than a third-world country.
I'm just now noticing the Santa hat on Fluff, and I'm wondering why there wasn't a Turkey tail on him last month? or something somewhat scary on him in October? Let me guess, there won't be a St. Paddy's day hat on him for that month either? Let me talk to your manager! kidding... but seriously, no turkey tail?
Story 1: as a mechanic,NOBODY, and I mean NOBODY! -Even your boss, have no business, touching even a single screwdriver! 99% of all mechanics purchase and OWN not just their toolbox, but every single tool that is inside it as well. I was a mechanic for about 15 years, and I have only seen a couple examples of a mechanic working with tools that they do not own. Most of the time if you’re working at a shop/garage, the company may purchase certain specialty/expensive tools that are specific for their fleet of vehicles. However, nine out of 10 times even these tools are stored in the companies shop area and they’re usually kept locked up. When OP’s boss told them that they need to organize their tools better, that’s basically like going up to somebody’s office and opening their desk, drawers and telling them that they need to get it organized and- 12:04 the way I want it organized so I can find what I want to use out of their desk. 🤣🤣🤦♂️ Some people just should not be given any position with any authority.
Story 1. Don't mess in a tradesman's toolbox. Those are personal property and really expensive. And using a tradesman's tools without permission is tantamount to going into someone's underwear drawer and stealing his favorite boxers, then wearing them.
When our old lady cat died we went into mourning for ages. I knew that cat for 23 years and she was an intrinsic member of our family. As anybody who have had pets will agree, sometimes pets are more important than relatives.
The commenter who insulted OP over bereavement leave, if not former old fart boss, Bob, is another just like him. The idea that people only deserve to grieve family if they are mom, dad, sibling, spouse, or child, is dehumanizing and ignores the reality that not everyone's family/family dynamic is stereotypical. People should be allowed a certain number of bereavement days a year and they should be allowed to use them for whoever they need to. I hope that commenter learns some human decency someday.
Wow that comment on the funeral story really upsets me. They must have a very small insular family, when it comes to big family’s distant relatives or even family friends can be just as close as immediate. OP even talked about how much time she spent with her aunt and how she was more of a grandmother to her. And as others said she accepted the bereavement rule sand was going to just use vacation. She didn’t quit because she “felt entitled” to the leave, she quit because her boss verbally abused her and called her a liar while dealing with the loss of a woman she viewed as a grandmother. People like that do not deserve loyalty, and saying “but you’ll hurt the other employee’s” is BS used to make works feel guilty and obligated to stay in toxic workplaces. If companies don’t want people up and leaving causing staff issues they need to make environments people want to stay at.
Hmmm, usually I joke about holidays by making them sound like christmas. Hmmm, happy thanksgetting? Happy merryween? I'm gonna try to think of some more.
As far as I know, ALL 50 States have a Law on the books stating a single Sick Day does NOT require a Doctor's Note and the Employer MUST pay the Sick Time Off for that one day... OP could have filed a Formal Complaint with the Department of Labor for his Bosses Harassment... If I was OP, I'd have filed a Complaint with HR stating if I'm not paid for that Sick Day, I WILL file a DoL Complaint...
I don't know of any law like that in SC. Sick days, unfortunately, are not mandatory benefits. I do have sick days at work and only require a note if more than 3 consecutive days.
So all seven of my late paternal aunts weren't my aunts because their married surnames were not the same as mine? What about my mother's five sisters? None of them or mom married men with the same last name. What a twit!
Funeral or not, it is your business what you do with your time on a vacation day. You owe him no explanation at all.
This! That comment at the end was insane. It was giving tip your landlord energy. I will take my days if I have them, I will take off if I have to. Unless you own a small business you are replaceable. Having the mentality that you need to give your blood, sweat and tears for a company as an employee is dumb af.
Inself that your business, but usualy you have to annonce it egnouh time before (to validate and for the business to organise this absence), if for any reason you need that vacation day in quiker time that became a favor and it's normal to ask why give you this favor.
@@petinonclement7872and still not required to give an explanation.
@@4Star18 If you ask for a favor but don't anwer why it legit to just get a "NO"
@@4Star18 a request for PTO can be denied, bereavment days can not be denied and don't cost vacation hours for the workers. So taking bereavment days for not direct family is basicly screwing your co workers and stealing from your boss. The comment at the end was a cold one, but deffenitly correct.
That commenter is pathetic. I can understand not allowing a bereavement day for those funerals, since most places I've worked at only give them for immediate family. It is impossible to write rules that could somehow define you who are/aren't close with to cover, too. That said, if OP was fine using a vacation day for it, and it sounds like they were, I see zero problem with it.
I'm pretty sure the comment came from OP's former Boss.
Probably her former boss.
That commenter has clearly never cared about another human being outside his or her immediate family. I do understand them not counting it as a bereavement day, but the commenter clearly likes the taste of leather because they come off as a bootlicking lapdog who's happy to take whatever bullshit a boss dishes out.
@jlessien3826 What makes you think boomer knows how to reddit?
Typical useful idiot from USA. The exact kind of person to vote fascist (MAGA).
The amount of success the oligarch US propaganda has had, in combination with dismantling of education, that actually make people like that THINK they are correct is mindblowing for me as a european, and really scary.
+70 million people in USA just voted for a nazi...
That one commenter on the warehouse story... Dude, who hurt you?! No wonder you can't understand that people may habe people they consider family aside their mum & dad, with that attitude!
Yep. Brothers, sisters, aunts, and uncles also count as family, not just moms and dads.
@ashblossomandjoyoussprung.9917 and depending on how your family dynamics work, your cousins may be as close as siblings, your grandparents may be your acting parents, your mum's best friend who always babysat you when you were little may feel like a second mum... Found family is a thing.
My former babysitter was like a second mom to me. We lived in a townhouse and she was literally on the other side of the wall. 😂 She was and always will be a part of my family even tho she's since passed.
Not to mention the fact that names frequently change when they marry into another family so even if their last name doesn't match yours doesn't mean they're not your Close Relatives...
The commenter probably was Bob, and even if they weren't; they didn't take into account that this may have been the straw that broke the camel's back. At the beginning of the post, OP mentioned the guy's sexism, racism, etc. So after a long period of abuse only to be topped by that rant during a particularly vulnerable time during her life; its no wonder she decided to nope out of the position.
I guarantee you that in virtually any shop, using someone else's tools without permission is a fighting offense. Not unusual for a mechanic's tool box to run upwards of $25-30k.
Yupp. I work in the gun industry and keep my tools secured so they don’t get damaged by other people trying to use them. I have a handful of tools I designed and machined myself that are extremely valuable.
It’s one thing to ask to use them but to just use them without permission is definitely fightable.
when snap-on has your kids college fund locked up in tools to have to have to put food on the table NO ONE AND I MEAN NO ONE touches them boss or not hell any boss worth having in a shop like that has his OWN tool box there and it is usually locked ...so yeah yell at me on how I keep MY tools is none of anyone's business
Some people have that much just in the toolbox, not even the tools. I think some of those massive ones that semi mechanics have are 50k or more
For real! My husbands a contractor,and his tools are really expensive,and me&the kids don't touch them at all, without his permission...
Worked in a boiler room and my toolbox after just a few years was $35k easy. My dad's toolbox in the same job weighed in well over $50k with specialized tools for machines that him and like five other people in the country knew how to work on. I was his son and if I had touched his toolbox he would have stomped a mudhole in me.
Story #2: vacation days are a right enshrined in OPs employment contract: you can use them for whatever you want, or for nothing at all if that is your desire. OP's boss is insane.
Unless there's a requirement for informing about the vacation in good time, you cant just come in on a busy day and say "I'm taking tomorrow off suckers"
I don't know what country you live in but in the USA that is not the case. Vacation days can be declined by the employer for any reason and are not required to be given by law.
@@in4theride75id proceed to tell that boss to kiss my sorry aft and quit. Because no one needs that toxicity!
@@Silver_wind_1987_ prepare to ask to get your aft kissed a lot then, no boss will allow you vacation with 4 days notice during a busy period especially multiple weeks in a row
@@MadsMadsen837your bosses don’t do that? Couldn’t be me.
Who is that commenter and OP's former boss to decide how close OP is to those people? OP probably adored said cousins and grandmothers. Families like that usually try ti get together and talk with each other as MUCH as possible. This commenter probably would've bullied the crap out of me for taking bereavement leave for my Grandma's sister's funeral cause "Oh it's not like you're close" as if they know how crap works in MY family.
Yep my family is large and close. That boss and commenter are horrible
There is a difference between PTO and bereavment days. PTO can be denied by the boss and goes of the free hours of the worker. Bereavment days can not be denied and don't cost hours for the worker. That is why bereavment days are only for first line family(parents, brothers/sisters, children) Emotions and feelings change nothing to that no matter how close you are.
@@robbertbaart1499 that is dependent on state and company. It is not a one size fits all. Some companies even allow bereavement leave for close friends. If OPs company did not allow such leave for anyone outside of immediate family than that would be one thing. But they weren't denied on that basis. They were denied cause OP's boss did not believe the funeral was even real. Which is an entirely DIFFERENT issue.
@@robbertbaart1499 Please stop trying to shoehorn YOUR experience into everyone else's life.
Story 2: that last comment the person left doesn't know anything about the girl. They don't know how close she is with her family. There large family units that are close, so that person can f off with calling OP entitled for wanting to grieve family members
Honestly!!! It could've been a friends mom's cousin and if she was close with them it wouldn't matter!!!! Like who are you to tell me who i should and shouldn't grieve
Well that person can really fxxk off, as family isn't always blood, it's the people in your life who want you in theirs by Maya angelou
@@LL-wg3oq also they said cousin's grandmother. Wouldn't that make them OP's grandmother too? Like even if they're from the inlaws it's still technically her grandma
@catnoir1333 no it would be more like a great aunt.
Yeah, I'm Brazilian and Latinos are known for having big families, I have cousins galore and I'm closer to my cousin's cousins (we're related by our mothers, these cousins are related to her by her father) than to some of my own blood relatives.
How close you are by blood doesn't determine how close you are by love.
First story: "YOU don't use my tools EVER! My tools are my own an for MY use ONLY." Is the only response needed for that asshole boss.
For real. Getting in a man’s toolbox is crossing a line.
10:35 the person who made that comment is a total jackass. That's the type of person that says stuff like that to people but then they're the first ones to take a hundred days off because their neighbor they never spoke to died.
Yes, we had an administrator, Dianne, who got hired by knowing the Director. We had to teach her the job because she had no experience or related skills. She was forever taking PTO or leaving early for shit like taking her kid to the mall to choose birthday gifts. Then she refused to hire a well qualified young woman because the candidate had a toddler. According to Dianne, she didn't want to hire her because the person would 'probably call out all the time'. The audacity!
imo, I think that was the ex-boss who uses Reddit and found the post.
@tonyroca5383 lol, that's a damn good point! I think you're right!
@@fdm2155 oh my God I'm so freaking annoyed just reading this! This is one of the few things that I can read or hear about that doesn't surprise me, but I still get furious every time!
That commentor is the kind of person who doesn't understand the difference between a close friend and a chosen family circle. I had a cat that died when I was in middle school and a bunch of kids made fun of me for still being shaken up about it when I got back after a few days off for grief. I just turned it back on them asking if they had any pets, they had a puppy, but lo-and-behold it's fine to cry over a puppy you had for a couple month but not the feline you remember having for nearly 13 years. Some people just can't sympathize with others or think of things different than their own life and experience.
7:54
Even if the names are different, does the boss not know how married life works? Sometimes you take the last name of your spouse, which to no ones surprise, may be different! Now applying that to other people in the family--
In short, boss is an idiot. 🤦
Yeah, a female relative whose maiden name is that same as your's typically will have taken their husband's last name when they married. So by his ignorance of how things worked for the older relative, my mom's sister couldn't possibly have been my aunt after she married my uncle. Some people are just too stupid to be permitted out in public without a handler.
@@tinydancer7426 Yeah, my brothers Hip and Hop (aka Lemmy and Iggy) were voiced by one Tara Lyn Charendoff back in the day. By an amazing coincidence, she sounds almost _exactly_ like the current voice actress Tara Lyn Strong, of Twilight Sparkle and Timmy Turner fame! I just can't figure it out? Also, what's even _stranger..._ did you know that _both_ of them voiced the character Bubbles? What are the chances of two different women, with identical voices, and _near_ identical names applying for, and getting the role as the same character? I haven't seen anything that eerie since Lou Gehrig died of Lou Gehrig's disease... like just imagine the odds on _that!_
Since it is a well known fact that no married woman has _ever_ taken the last name of her spouse for literally _any_ circumstance throughout all of history, I guess we shall never figure this mystery out. /s
@@Wendy_O._Koopa 😆
I was my mother's live-in caregiver for the last seven years of her life. We were very close. When she died I was gutted and I took three weeks off. My employer marked it all as bereavement leave and it didn't affect my vacation days. This organization also didn't have a set number of allowable sick days. If you were sick, you stayed home. Their generosity and trust were never abused.
They did have a bit of a heads-up. When I interviewed for the job a year earlier, I was very clear that I had an elderly mother at home and that she was my priority. I told them that I might need to leave suddenly if she needed something and I would need time to take her to all her doctor appointments, etc. Knowing all this, they still hired me and I was with that organization for over ten years until I retired.
She asked to use her vacation days once she realized beriefment was for immediate relatives. Also, what kind of warehouse only has 3 workers?! Don't blame her for management's failure!
Story 2 - Good on OP for quitting that job because of that Ahole boss. Also serves him right for losing his job after the company was ran by someone new.
I bet that "commenter" in story 2 is one of the former boss' flying monkeys, or a relative.
If not that, then they're probably an old jerk who thinks like that former boss.
They could also be a troll who has nothing better to do than be a contrarian dbag
@nathanhinman9069 Ahh, true, true.
Definitely a jerk or a troll given that it took 2 people to replace OP and begged her to come back. They clearly missed her.
If I had an account, I would track them down and say something like, "You must have grown up in a very abusive household or are an orphan to think like that."
My granduncle died and 3 days after his funeral his wife died and we held her a week after his. My boss let me have those 2 days off because she is a kind person who understands what it's like to use a loved one. She even showed up to both funerals on her lunch break since it was only 2 blocks from work. Even told me to take an extra day, if I needed it.
The person who made that comment is a cold one, but he does have a verry good point.
i don't see the reason why the comment needed to be included in the 2nd story. it's not really constructive at all, it's just vitriolic and dismissive of op's feelings. i have a feeling op's boss wrote that
I agree, it didnt have anything to offer and detracted from the listening experience
@@ayceinquisitor190i skipped the rest after I heard the gist of it.
It was included to show that the boss wasn't the only A-hole?
@@annnichols3091 Except he was. Play stupid games, when stupid prizes. You treat a worker like shit, and you don't get to complain when that worker decides that if you want to be a disrespectful ahole then they don't want to work for you.
For that second story I wouldn’t have included the comments they are horrible.
Don't mess with someone's stuff in general for story 1! Moreso for ADHD/ASD, as the organized chaos is like a dragon's hoard and the person WILL KNOW.
I can't count the number of times my own mother has complained about the state of my house. I like a little clutter adn always have. It is just part of having ASD. Plus, it isn't her house. Honestly, I love my mother, but having her visit in my house was always a bit irritating. My father, on the other hand,...
Over 40 years ago, someone set the neighbors' house on fire. It killed a family of 3. They never found the arsonist and have no idea as to why it was done.
I knew the family all my life. Their son was a year younger than I was.
When I got to work the next day, I was a wreck. My boss offered to let me go home, but I knew that would be even worse. They had to block the street off because of all the traffic that came to see where the fire was. 😢
That's how a boss should act.
Story 1 - You’re right he was definitely on a power trip. What bothers me is that the boss blatantly tells OP that he’s using his tools without his permission while complaining that his tool box is messy. Yeah Hell No!
Hopefully OP found a new job, with better people, better pay, and a boss who’ll appreciate his hard work.
I don't think the issue is that the boss expected his work station to be clean, it's that he was using his tools.
@@ashblossomandjoyoussprung.9917I uploaded that wrong comment and fixed it.
As a professional mechanic for 18 years now, the unwritten rule of all mechanics, it doesn’t matter if you’re an automotive, diesel, aircraft, marine, or rocket mechanic, is YOU DO NOT TOUCH ANOTHER MECHANIC’S TOOLS unless you ask each time. That first boss is going to make enemies very fast in the industry. Now, if the company supplies the tools, that’s different.
As a person from a large family, the funeral comment made me so angry I nearly threw my phone at the wall. It isn’t OP’s fault the commenter’s family doesn’t like them. And for good reason, clearly. Some of us are in fact close with our extended family and don’t just like see them once every four years.
I also have a heartless boss story. When my horse died, I had raised her from 2 weeks old, and she was 17 when I had to put her down due to unbearable pain. I came into work, and my boss met me at the time clock and asked if I had turned her into glue. I spent the next 1/2 hour in the back room crying my eyes out.
Holy shit! I would have reported him immediately to HR. Like holy crap that is not in any way shape or form okay.
Story 1: The tools are not provided by the company, they are provided for by the mechanic. As such no one including the boss should be touching those tools without express permission. Keeping your work area clean is one thing, this is something else completely.
Also what idiot is going to mass with a car trained car mechanic? That is a good way to have them walkout to the competition. There is always a demand for then anywhere.
Tools neat and organized. Sounds like a good time for the OP to keep the tool chest locked when not in use.
What, is the boss going to write them up for not leaving it unlocked for him to steal tools?
I've had jobs where I'm using my own tools. I would be livid if someone used my stuff without asking. If they broke it, I have to replace it
11:25 the comment that was read out got OP’s family down as Italian but she was Irish, and I for one wouldn’t want to cross paths with an angry Irish woman ! Italians, I can cope with !
Story 3: I had a boss like that who didn't think that coming in late or taking a day off to take care of a dead pet was justified. I informed her that as a person who has accrued leave, it didn't matter WHY I took it nor was it her place to question how I took it.
"You should be sadder."
Everyone deals with bereavement differently.
I'm glad my company is very generous with bereavement time, giving 10 days for spouse, parent, or child, and 5 days for any other family or extended family member, including inlaws.
Story 3: I had the EXACT thing happen to me. I was working at a thrift store and we had to put our cat down (she was sickly). I'd had this cat since I was 8 and she was my constant friend. I called my job and asked for the night off. We'd just buried her in the backyard and I was hot, sweaty and crying. The assistant manager, Tibby, told me I had to come in. I said okay but I wasn't working register. She tried to get me to work it anyway and the women who worked in the back going through donations apparently heard the whole thing and told the big boos, Janice, the next day. She gave me a paid day off and made Tibby apologize to be because in Janice's words, "Pets ARE family."
That commentor (and OP's boss) pissed me off. No one get's to decide how someone else should grieve, or how they spend their vacation time.
About 8 years ago I had a really bad boss. I had been abused by a co-worker when I told my boss he punished me and the coworker got nothing. Then a while later I was raped by my step grandfather. J worked the next day. When I came into work I told my boss that we had a bad family emergency/trauma and that I would need a lot of help that day because I was having panic attacks from it. Then when I was having a really bad panic attack due to so many triggers from people in the dive throu (which I was running alone at lunch rush) he just stood there and stared. Did not say anything or make a move to help. I walked out early that day and quit.
Im sorry to hear that, that boss deserves to be sued, fired, and/or blacklisted
@marmot418 I totally agree with you.
I'm so very sorry that happened to you! My prayers are with you! ❤
The inventory one. Yeah, no, when you're doing inventory, you have to be exact with everything. Make sure everything is what it is. Make sure stuff is where and what it is. You can not rush it and should not rush it.
2nd story is a lawsuit waiting to happen
Story 2: As someone who's lost several relatives before, it really is tragic and infuriating to see OP's boss treating her like this when there were SEVERAL alternatives available other than just claiming she's committing Wage Theft.
And shame on that commenter, I bet he's as much of a clown as the old boss for saying this.
He might be the old boss still holding a grudge against OP
Nah, nah, I don't believe he was a clown
A clown at least tries to make a joke out of it
As a mechanic for nearly 30years. My number 1 rule is I never loan my tools to anyone!
People’s lives are not about inconvenience. Someone died. You don’t get to decide whose lives matter. That comment was unhinged. She must be the manager.
That first story has an update. Owner yelled at manager and manager apologized to worker and payed him as though he worked that day.
In the shops I worked at. "Borrowing" tools from a mechanic was grounds for termination at the least, a black eye is not unusual. Every minute a mechanic looks for a tool means he's not making money.
First Story: This boss is asking for trouble. Most mechanics own their own tools, and have spent a lot of their money on high quality tools that can make their work more efficient. These tools are usually very expensive compared to the tools that most home mechanics use, and professional mechanics do not like people "borrowing" their tools without express permission. OP must be very chill because rifling through the average mechanic's toolbox could be seen as asking to get a severe beatdown.
Story 1. The main issue is the boss touching his tools. Each of those tools is a minimum of $20 that O. P purchased with his own money and someone thinks they have the right to not only touch, but use and possibly break or lose or take home? Hell no
Story 6: Wait a minute, she gave the boss _almost exactly a full month_ of notice, and on top of that the days requested weren't even at a particularly busy time or likely to be high-demand for vacations (not near a holiday, etc), and that _still_ somehow wasn't good enough? That is absolutely ridiculous. I would bet that that "September 10" cutoff date was just something the boss pulled out of her ass and didn't even actually exist until the moment she read the request. She was clearly just determined to not allow any vacation time at all, regardless of when, why, or how much notice was given...
If you can't fill a single empty spot in the schedule and are "left short handed" even when you're given _an entire month_ of advance notice, you must be the most incompetent manager I've ever heard of.
Story 4 - Never sacrifice quality for speed. Trying to get things done faster means you overlook a lot of things and make mistakes.
My uncle died and my company’s HR person told me I got 3 bereavement days. The next day, my manager said they were wrong and that I only got 1 and had to take PTO for the rest. A year later, another coworker’s ex-mother-in-law (they’d been separated for 10 years) died and they gave her 2 weeks of bereavement to “help her children” who were grown adults (the same age as me).
Definitely some favoritism going on in that company. Won't be long before they face some lawsuits for unfair practices
@ in the 9 years since I left it, they basically collapsed. Last I heard, they’re down to 4 employees (we were at 50 when I left).
Story 4: It's better to be thorough than be fast, even if it takes quite a while. You never know when you miss something until it's too late if you're not thorough
sadly too many managers/bosses don't know the difference and will keep pushing good workers away and going thru useless replacements and never realized that they are the problem and not everybody is replaceable by anybody
Sounds like OP's ex manager was in the thread.
That's what I'm thinking. A purely evil, vindictive AH!
The only people who can use your tools in a workshop environment is your apprentice, until they have their own of course.
dog story... i once worked at a company where my senior colleague (lets call him Kevin) was a complete psycho.
Kevin was the nephew of the owner of the company, and thought he was the best thing to ever happened on Earth.
One day, shortly before lunch, i got a call from my GF in tears: our dog Pebbles was dead.
She begged me to come home, and take care of things -- because she was too emotional to handle it.
I excused myself from work, and took a taxi home -- sulking the entire way home.
I found Pebbles laying on the floor, dead, covered her with one of her blankets, and took her body to a vet clinic.
All my colleagues knew how attached my gf and i were to that dog. So the following day they were all trying to cheer me up as best they could.
Not Kevin. Kevin started making fun of me, asking if the death of a dog was a good enough excuse to skip work.
People were telling him to shut up, but it would only fuel his vitrol even more.
... until the owner showed up, listened to Kevin's mockery, while i was sulking on my terminal. The owner asked me to go home, that i had another day to mourn the loss my dog.
As i was told --once i left, he asked Kevin to go to his office, where he started to TEAR KEVIN's ASS APART in front of everybody. Asking how he could be so calous to someone when Kevin's mother got into severe depression after losing KEVIN's dog! How he could be so cold towards someone griving the loss of a loved pet!
The verbal beatdown was so loud everybody in the office could hear!
Kevin was a complete delight the following days. He tried to be the most pleasant person an asshole like him could be.
Fuck you Kevin.
Miss you Pebbles D:
I buried a cat a few years back and frankly it was not easy. I held the poor thing for quite a while after she died. Poor cat actually came and lay down in the doorway to my bedroom just so I could know she loved me.
I'm glad you were able to morn the loss of your beloved pet.
11:56 OP said ok after discovering they can't get berievement and took a vacation day.
Story 2 Troll: blood doesn’t determine how close someone is. Mourning is mourning. MORE importantly, someone’s day off is their business and their business alone. It’s a job, not a damned cult.
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I once had a supervisor who sent me to get a doctor's note because I had injured my left hand (it was so swollen that my doctor was surprised the x-ray didn't show it was broken) and was typing with only my right. I could easily keep it with my work, but she insisted. The doctor's note had me off a week. When I came back, I was counselled -- in writing -- for taking excessive sick leave.
2nd story: OP is NOT the a-hole but that obvious Karen comment calling her one is obviously the a-hole here.
It’s op’s former boss or one of his flying monkeys.
Story 1: People don't leave crappy jobs. They leave crappy bosses.
Story 2: Why does the boss need a copy of an obituary if OP requests a vacation day to go to a funeral? If somebody asks for a vacation day, it is nobody else's business what is done on said vacation day. Bob is a first class AH and a crappy boss to boot.
Story 3: Another crappy boss.
Story 4: Sarah's corner cutting came back to bite her in the arse.
Story 5: Crappy boss did himself out of OP's labour.
Story 6: Yet another crappy boss.
Story 2, boss was an asshole, and even more so that comment barating the OP
Yeah when I saw the response to the funeral story, I thought it might have been the petty boss, myself, or someone who was kissing his ass. We live in a world where bosses set the rules, can treat workers like garbage if they want to, they don't also need the right to interrogate someone about the death of someone they care about. If they want to accuse someone of lying about a death in the family, the burden of proof should be on THEM, not the worker. Also, I had an instructor in my old college who, despite not having included this in the syllabus, demanded obituaries to take a day off for funerals, or you would risk failing the entire course. People in positions of authority should not have this power in addition to the countless other abuses they are allowed to get away with.
I remember when I was in 6th grade or so. My Aunt Mabel (Granddad's maternal aunt to be specific) passed away. She lived in town, and we saw her all the time. She was the first of my relatives to pass away that I remember, and it was going to be the first funeral I went to. When I brought in a note to be let out of school for the funeral, the idiot Vice-Principal gave me the third degree. Who died? How well did I know her? How often did I see her? Was a funeral really more important than my schoolwork? After that last question, I was literally speechless. I just stood there a while, with the Vice-Principal staring down his nose at me. Finally he said, in a VERY condescending tone, "Well, if it's THAT important, I GUESS you can be excused."
For Story #2, OP did the right thing quitting b/c working for a jerk boss isn't worth it. And the commenter must be an "old fashioned" old guy to think that OP is entitled.
That or it was OP's ex-boss.
Speed Story: If I was OP, Id have looked Sarah in the eyes and say "Do you want this done fast or do you want this done right? Pick one and put it in writing." and then, unless she actually puts it in writing that she want's me to to it fast instead of right, I'd continue doing it RIGHT and at my earliest opportunity, file a Formal Complaint with Sarah's Boss...
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Story 2: As a former people manager, the boss was right that she isn’t entitled to bereavement leave. It is only for immediate family. That’s it! Everything else was wrong. The only time she’d be denied vacation would be if there were too many people off that day due to pre-booked vacations, which wasn’t the case. It was also how he handled it which made him a giant A-hole. So, I’m on OP’s side.
Although it's been said many times, many ways: "People don't quit bad jobs as much as they quit bad bosses."
O and screw you Rick. O wait wrong channel.
That random sounds like they have no one in their life who's not forced to be there but family. I can only say that I hope they get what they put out into the world.
Story 5: So, funny story. The summer after my freshman year in high school, I twisted my right foot playing Ultimate Frisbee. Everyone, including my mom (who is a Registered Nurse (RN)), just told me I had sprained it and we never went to a doctor. It did heal to the point in could walk normally again, but it never quite got better and would hurt if a stretched it. The next year, I twisted my right foot again at school in a club meeting just by walking (I don’t even know how, one minute I was walking fine and then the next it somehow twisted under me). I didn’t go to the hospital because I didn’t want to upset my mom over nothing, but walking REALLY freaking hurt. I still remember one of the girls turning to me and saying “Buck up, Artimis.” in response to me whimpering and gasping in pain while slowly walking behind them.
One again, everyone said it was just a sprain, but thankfully my mom took me to a Walk-In clinic a few days later because it was still so painful to walk. The doctor who saw me said “Oh, you probably just sprained it but we’ll X-ray it anyway.” He came in a bit later with this awkward “I effed up” smile on his face, and Mom and I both knew at once it was broken.
He tried to save face by saying it was probably just an artery showing up on the X-ray, but he’d send it to an orthopedic surgeon to look at just in case. Mom called me the next day while I was in class and said “Yep, your foot is broken and I’m coming to pick you up from school to see the specialist.” This new doctor made the comment that it looked like I had broken my foot before and it hadn’t quite healed. So it turns out, I never sprained my foot, I actually broke the damn thing TWICE.
And then I broke AND sprained it a year later!
I would never hire a 22 year old to be a boss over mechanics. That is the kind of job where you should know everything about the job and do every piece of the job before becoming a boss.
It doesn't matter what OP is doing on their time off. If any boss ever talked to me like that, I would never work for him again. I bet that that commentor is Bob.
I hate people who come in as a new boss and make crap worse. They need to learn that egos should be checked at the door.
Similar thing happened with me and my dog. He didn't pass away in the house. We had to take him to get him put to sleep cause he had cancer and it was incurable. I was sobbing going into work, but I was made to work from when I started till the time my shift ended. I spent most of that day in the staff toilets bawling my eyes out. It was like my boss couldn't care less that I had him for 18 years.
‘They’re old” while they’re racist, homophobic, sexiest, and cruel towards is a shitty excuse. Respect your elders when they are respectful towards you.
My mechanic son has for decades declared his tools to be not ‘borrowable’, as he paid top dollar for them, and breakage or losing them can cut into his work. Always joked that Snapon owns half the mechanics tools they are still paying for.
That commentor was most likely the boss. They did not demand bereavement. They asked if they could and asked asked for time off instead.
The issue was the boss basically insulting a beloved relative's death.
If they were so better without her, why did the business fail and the boss fired!?
That comment at the end of the Bereavement story must be a supervisor who thinks no one’s death or life matters. I had a coworker who had to got a funeral 1 to 2 times a month because of their huge family our boss never got upset we just adapted.
At one job I was extremely sick and called to say I was unable to come unfortunately this was so close to my shift and told her that I would only miss this one day she got upset and said “bring me a doctors note or you will not be scheduled” i was like ok bet. Mind you I was the 40 hour a week graveyard employee that was the only one who knew how to keep everything going at night. I also worked alone. When I brought the doctors note the next day she was fuming. The doctor gave me 3 weeks off because I was actually in worst shape then I realized. I explained to her that I said I was only going to miss one day but she asked for the note. Suffice to say I never returned. She was not worth my health.
She didn't ask for bereavement after being told the rules, she asked for a vacation day that she had EARNED. Just because a family member isn't close in the scheme of the family doesn't mean that they weren't close emotionally. And nobody needs an excuse or reason given for a vacation day. That last commenter would have been the kind who'd work the day of their parents and childs funeral
Speedy Sarah story: an old story: two teams tasked to write software to do the same job. Preliminary test: team 1's punch cards whiz thru the reader. Team 2 describes the design of the software, but has no pack of cards to go thru the reader. The boss is inclined to go with Team 1, until the Team 2 lead says, it's easy to make a batch of cards that run thru the reader real fast, but don't actually do anything.
11:00 Story 2 commenter is the ultimate loyal company drone, who doesn't understand that many people have very close relationships with others they rightfully consider family.
The reason Opie quit was clearly due to the massive disrespect from her old boss.
I'm sorry for that commenter not having anyone special in their life who isn't approved by their employer.
Story 2: I guess we see what happened to the old boss, and he's still bitter. 😂😂😂
Nothing seems to make a doctor more happy to maliciously comply than hearing the words "My boss says I need a doctor's note to get the time off to recover."
At most employers I have worked for bereavement days do not count against vacation days, but are for immediate family (siblings, parents, grandparents, children, grandchildren). You can use vacation for extended family, and have never known of it every being denied even in the busiest times of the year.
Why does he need an obituary for a vacation day? That would barely pass as an excuse to grant a bereavement day. As far as a vacation day goes, saying you plan to spend it all day on the couch in your underwear is fine because its YOUR vacation day, so eff off and be happy you're not getting sued for forcing me to use a vacation day instead of a bereavement.
Story 2: If I was you I’d contact a lawyer. What your boss is saying and doing is 100% illegal.
I come from an Irish Catholic family and none of my cousins and I share the same last name.
Contact the Employment Development Department and sue for discrimination.
If you’ve been employed with a company over a year’s time, you are entitled to attend a funeral, but the funeral has to be more than 100 miles away.
If you’ve been employed for the company and your relative lives in the same county, you’re eligible for as little as three days.
Hope this information is helpful?
Not all states have the same rules, unfortunately. Vacation time and sick leave are not even mandatory benefits, which is so infurating to think a rich, developed country like the U.S. treats employees worse than a third-world country.
@ I’m speaking from my experiences in California
Oh look! Dark Fluff was wearing a Christmas hat! How so stinking cute!
I'm just now noticing the Santa hat on Fluff, and I'm wondering why there wasn't a Turkey tail on him last month? or something somewhat scary on him in October? Let me guess, there won't be a St. Paddy's day hat on him for that month either? Let me talk to your manager!
kidding... but seriously, no turkey tail?
22:14 jesus christ
"I used 2 sick days"...
How can anyone allow sick days to be finite, america truly is an alien world
Story 1: as a mechanic,NOBODY, and I mean NOBODY! -Even your boss, have no business, touching even a single screwdriver! 99% of all mechanics purchase and OWN not just their toolbox, but every single tool that is inside it as well. I was a mechanic for about 15 years, and I have only seen a couple examples of a mechanic working with tools that they do not own. Most of the time if you’re working at a shop/garage, the company may purchase certain specialty/expensive tools that are specific for their fleet of vehicles. However, nine out of 10 times even these tools are stored in the companies shop area and they’re usually kept locked up. When OP’s boss told them that they need to organize their tools better, that’s basically like going up to somebody’s office and opening their desk, drawers and telling them that they need to get it organized and- 12:04 the way I want it organized so I can find what I want to use out of their desk. 🤣🤣🤦♂️
Some people just should not be given any position with any authority.
Story 1. Don't mess in a tradesman's toolbox.
Those are personal property and really expensive.
And using a tradesman's tools without permission is tantamount to going into someone's underwear drawer and stealing his favorite boxers, then wearing them.
I've never been expected to share my tools, at any shop. They are extremely expensive and when you can't find said tools...🤬
[Story 5] That's why you don't drive off employees
Saying something snarky always feels good in the moment, but often has consequences.
[Story 1] Yup definitely on a power trip. Like seriously if the job is getting done who cares?
My grandpa passed and it took 3 weeks for it to hit me. Had to leave school because I had a breakdown.
Commenter on Story 2 was definitely Bob with nothing to do after being given the boot
I liked that silhouette of Santa and reindeer flying past the full moon in the background.
When our old lady cat died we went into mourning for ages. I knew that cat for 23 years and she was an intrinsic member of our family. As anybody who have had pets will agree, sometimes pets are more important than relatives.
That commenter in the second story has to be a troll or the boss himself (or one of his flying monkeys) using a fake account.
The commenter who insulted OP over bereavement leave, if not former old fart boss, Bob, is another just like him. The idea that people only deserve to grieve family if they are mom, dad, sibling, spouse, or child, is dehumanizing and ignores the reality that not everyone's family/family dynamic is stereotypical. People should be allowed a certain number of bereavement days a year and they should be allowed to use them for whoever they need to. I hope that commenter learns some human decency someday.
Wow that comment on the funeral story really upsets me. They must have a very small insular family, when it comes to big family’s distant relatives or even family friends can be just as close as immediate. OP even talked about how much time she spent with her aunt and how she was more of a grandmother to her. And as others said she accepted the bereavement rule sand was going to just use vacation. She didn’t quit because she “felt entitled” to the leave, she quit because her boss verbally abused her and called her a liar while dealing with the loss of a woman she viewed as a grandmother. People like that do not deserve loyalty, and saying “but you’ll hurt the other employee’s” is BS used to make works feel guilty and obligated to stay in toxic workplaces. If companies don’t want people up and leaving causing staff issues they need to make environments people want to stay at.
[Story 2-A] Yeah definitely heartless
Hmmm, usually I joke about holidays by making them sound like christmas. Hmmm, happy thanksgetting? Happy merryween? I'm gonna try to think of some more.
[Story 3] Yeah you don't need to cut corners
9:05 Gotta say, sometimes less is more. So, I think it is probably for the best to have lost the steam.
As far as I know, ALL 50 States have a Law on the books stating a single Sick Day does NOT require a Doctor's Note and the Employer MUST pay the Sick Time Off for that one day...
OP could have filed a Formal Complaint with the Department of Labor for his Bosses Harassment...
If I was OP, I'd have filed a Complaint with HR stating if I'm not paid for that Sick Day, I WILL file a DoL Complaint...
I don't know of any law like that in SC. Sick days, unfortunately, are not mandatory benefits. I do have sick days at work and only require a note if more than 3 consecutive days.
So all seven of my late paternal aunts weren't my aunts because their married surnames were not the same as mine? What about my mother's five sisters? None of them or mom married men with the same last name. What a twit!
Story #2: That person with the nasty comments on her post must be the former boss!! NOBODY LIKES WHINERS !!