Hey friend! Thanks so much for sharing. It's such a gift when we find a song that can lift even an ounce of the suffering we are experiencing. I'm so glad this song helped. It sounds like it's been a rough period for you where it feels like bricks are just being stacked on top of your chest, and you can't move or breathe and you don't know where to turn. I'm glad this song could even lift one brick for you. This community is here for you if you'd like to share more. Sending love
If you like this you should check out Love & Death (Head from Korn side project) ft Lacey Sturm... they cover Justin Beiber's "Let Me Love You" and they use it as an Anti-Suicide song... would love to hear your breakdown.
I'm struggling hard for half my life with my BPD and addiction... Music is the greatest thing for me and really the only thing that really helps me without being harmful to my health. Lacey and Flyleaf have been with me since 2005 and their music has always had a big impact on me. It's the lyrics and her emotional voice that always pick me up so much. 🖤 Greetings from germany Nico (Sorry for my bad english ^^)
From ThriceTheThird: Hello Nico! Thank you for sharing your experience. I also have BPD. I'm glad music has been helping you to cope with the things you are going through. Mental Health and Addiction can be very hard, and if you ever need to share more, feel free to let it out. <3
From Wings: I felt that way for much of my growing up years. Sadly, quite often, my perceptions were accurate. I was very sensitive and reactive, therefore my peers just loved to tease me so they could watch me get upset. I didn't feel hated so much as totally disrespected. It's also true that sometimes I would be approached in a friendly way, then taking advantage of. I never felt genuinely cared about in my family. Later, I came to realize that one of my brothers did care, but I was so messed up emotionally that I was unable to understand that. I was 20 years old before I came to realize that there was such a thing as genuine sincerity and compassion. Long story short, my lens was very negative for 20 years until I discovered that there was in fact genuinely decent people who didn't have hidden agendas or ulterior motives. Having finally grasped that reality, I was more able to discern between descent and honest people and those who were not. It's very wise to understand as you do, that your perceptions are filtered by a negative lens. That indicates a growing awareness that there is more to life than the negativity that you are perceiving. It might be good to reevaluate how you perceive those around you. There may well be some who have negative feelings towards you or have an agenda with you. However, because of your long timelines of negativity, there's a very good chance that you have overlooked at least a few good people or have judged them unfairly because of that negative lens. I think every human has in imperfect lens through which they see the world. Therefore, it's always good to challenge our own perceptions. That's not to suggest that you need to live with self-doubt. Instead it means you have actually evaluated the evidence to the best of your ability before assigning something or someone with a positive or negative perception. Of course everybody is a mixture of positive and negative. Also, negative people are known to do positive things and vice versa. Anyway, be open to the possibility of meeting genuinely decent people. Consider that something else is going on during those times that you feel that someone is hating you. There might be other reasons for it to seem that way, for example if a person is feeling shy or awkward, it may feel as though they are rejecting you when instead, like you, they are perceiving people through a negative lens, or they simply have a hard time meeting new people.
From Micro: Yea, it's hard to connect with others and move beyond this kind of perception/narrative that keeps running in our mind almost constantly. It feels like you just can't trust anyone because no matter how hard you would try you would only end up being hurt or disappointed. It's about setting an intention on someone else - an intention they may not have, but feels very real on *your* end. It makes sense to have a hard time with trusting others when you live with a fear of being hurt. We can't control others, we can't predict what they would do or say, and somehow trusting someone is offering them something they could turn against us. It's taking a risk that feels very real. I surely walk with you on this journey - it's a real challenge to put this voice away and to embrace the moment we share with someone. Something very strong in this, is that you are aware of it, of how it's affecting you and your relationships. When we live in our mind with this kind of scenario, bringing *perspective* to the table is fundamental. Then it takes time, surely, to rebuild that trust within ourselves. But at the very least, you are not letting it take over absolutely everything. You also know how to acknowledge it, observe it and see how it can affect you. I wish with all my heart that, little by little, you will give yourself all the time and care needed to rebuild confidence within. Even though you may not be able to control someone's reaction or thoughts towards you, you can absolutely grow in learning to be confident with who *you* are - regardless of what others may think of you. <3
Lacey is amazing and a beast! When she was in high school she had a plan to commit suicide. But her grandmother intervened and she encountered Jesus at a mid week church service. Much of her music is about that struggle and the hope she found. Would love for you to check out more of her music!!
@heartsupport I have struggled with emetophobia, PTSD, and OCD for decades, ever since I was a little kid after multiple traumatic experiences. In my teens and 20s I became suicidal after trying to self-medicate through drugs, alcohol, and partying. But I was saved from that life, which would have almost certainly ended in death, by calling out to Jesus Christ. I am a new creation! The old life is gone, and a new life has begun. The phobia is still a struggle sometimes, but Jesus is helping me lean on Truth. I think my ego had built up lies to protect itself. But believing in those lies only made it worse. Please pray that the lies are supplanted by Truth in this battle.
From Wings: Congratulations for taking such huge steps towards healing. The worst is behind you now. You know how to survive and I believe you're becoming happier by the day. Thoughts can be troublesome, but thoughts are not who you are. Let your heart guide you.
From Micro: So powerful to hear about your second life, how you managed to be born again. There is no doubt that there's a before and after in your own journey, and you are growing stronger each step of the way. Definitely rooting for you from here. :heart:
Yes. I am going through something that I am struggling with. Something that feels difficult to see the point in. We have human beings who are pathological liars who are PEDOPHILES in this country...and it's almost like a good majority of the people out there in America, right now, still want to be willfully ignorant to this abominable decadence. 🤔I don't get why people do not want to solve this problem. I absolutely do not get it and sometimes I feel as if my head is going to explode due to all of this incomprehensible inaction in our world. 🤯 ❤🔥#heartsupport❤🔥
Great angel of angry violin,just breath into, some difference in the same only more,just get it pure, remove the next negative thought into the pages of your greatest attribute being home wherever your are
I've been struggling with PTSD over my exs abortion for almost 9 years now. I'm afraid to seek help because I don't think I'll be able to find a pro-life therapist, or a therapist who at least understands how I feel.
From ManekiNeko: We all express and filter grief in our own ways. One thing I’d like to encourage you is that seeing a therapist means that this person is there to listen to you, not to debate with you. Their personal views should be on the side as what is important is finding ways for assist you work through this heaviness in your heart.
From Lisalovesfeathers: Hi Friend, I am sorry you have had to live with PTSD for 9years especially having lived with the fear of getting help. Therapist are not allowed to voice their opinions about you, your life, your beliefs or anything else. They are there to do a job and that is to help you. If you wish to see a therapist and you feel it will help please make an appointment and go and see one. I hope that it will help you to come to terms with the past. Lisa x
From Mystrose: Hi Friend, I'm sorry you've been struggling so long with PTSD because of your ex's abortion. It must have been really hard all these years dealing with this, I feel for you. If you wanted to, you could ask your mental heath dept specifically for a pro-life therapist and they would probably be able to find someone for you. I'm sure they will be able to find someone for you who can help you get thru this. You matter!
I go to a Christian place for therapy. It's great to all be on the same page. I can't imagine going to a therapist who isn't. That's me paying them for service but really I'd spend my time helping them.
From Micro: It's okay to ask a therapist if they are equipped to support you on that matter before scheduling an appointment with them. Oftentimes there's a possibility to either call or email them, and that could be a possibility for you. However, a traditional/talk-therapist is not going to impose their vision of life on you. If they are fully professional in the way they handle conversations, they are going to listen and understand your pain without having their own beliefs interfering - whether they are pro-life or not. Personally, my therapist has different beliefs than I do on several things we already discussed, but that has never reduced the quality of the support I received from her, because she knows how to separate her personal views from the space that we share during our meetings. She has never tried to argue or debate something that stemmed from personal convictions or beliefs with me. Therapy is this third space where neutrality of the professional is essential. Thankfully they don't need to *agree* with you on something in order to be able to provide you with the help you need. They are, actually, fully trained to actively listen - which allows them to be present for you beyond their own views. You absolutely deserve to be supported through this grief of yours. Trauma leaves such a mark that can feel like breaking our heart into pieces over and over. I can only imagine the pain you've been through for 9 years, and you deserve to have this pain out, heard, expressed in safe spaces. I hope with all my heart that you'll give therapy a try if you feel like your heart lean towards it. It can be scary to find the right match, although it is a process that is absolutely worth it as it's about supporting yourself. You deserve to receive the support that you would ask for. <3
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It’s been a rough month for me and it felt like everything was suffocating and overwhelming. Then I heard this song and it brought me so much relief
Hey friend! Thanks so much for sharing. It's such a gift when we find a song that can lift even an ounce of the suffering we are experiencing. I'm so glad this song helped. It sounds like it's been a rough period for you where it feels like bricks are just being stacked on top of your chest, and you can't move or breathe and you don't know where to turn. I'm glad this song could even lift one brick for you. This community is here for you if you'd like to share more. Sending love
This song is perfect. Beautiful message of hope and perseverance. I needed that.
Thanks for sharing the incredible song. Two amazing women in this collaboration.
If you like this you should check out Love & Death (Head from Korn side project) ft Lacey Sturm... they cover Justin Beiber's "Let Me Love You" and they use it as an Anti-Suicide song... would love to hear your breakdown.
I'm struggling hard for half my life with my BPD and addiction... Music is the greatest thing for me and really the only thing that really helps me without being harmful to my health. Lacey and Flyleaf have been with me since 2005 and their music has always had a big impact on me. It's the lyrics and her emotional voice that always pick me up so much. 🖤
Greetings from germany
Nico
(Sorry for my bad english ^^)
From ThriceTheThird: Hello Nico! Thank you for sharing your experience. I also have BPD. I'm glad music has been helping you to cope with the things you are going through. Mental Health and Addiction can be very hard, and if you ever need to share more, feel free to let it out. <3
I tend not to trust anyone because in my negative lens it feels like people either hate me or that they have ulterior motives.
From Wings: I felt that way for much of my growing up years. Sadly, quite often, my perceptions were accurate. I was very sensitive and reactive, therefore my peers just loved to tease me so they could watch me get upset. I didn't feel hated so much as totally disrespected. It's also true that sometimes I would be approached in a friendly way, then taking advantage of.
I never felt genuinely cared about in my family. Later, I came to realize that one of my brothers did care, but I was so messed up emotionally that I was unable to understand that. I was 20 years old before I came to realize that there was such a thing as genuine sincerity and compassion.
Long story short, my lens was very negative for 20 years until I discovered that there was in fact genuinely decent people who didn't have hidden agendas or ulterior motives. Having finally grasped that reality, I was more able to discern between descent and honest people and those who were not.
It's very wise to understand as you do, that your perceptions are filtered by a negative lens. That indicates a growing awareness that there is more to life than the negativity that you are perceiving. It might be good to reevaluate how you perceive those around you. There may well be some who have negative feelings towards you or have an agenda with you. However, because of your long timelines of negativity, there's a very good chance that you have overlooked at least a few good people or have judged them unfairly because of that negative lens.
I think every human has in imperfect lens through which they see the world. Therefore, it's always good to challenge our own perceptions. That's not to suggest that you need to live with self-doubt. Instead it means you have actually evaluated the evidence to the best of your ability before assigning something or someone with a positive or negative perception. Of course everybody is a mixture of positive and negative. Also, negative people are known to do positive things and vice versa.
Anyway, be open to the possibility of meeting genuinely decent people. Consider that something else is going on during those times that you feel that someone is hating you. There might be other reasons for it to seem that way, for example if a person is feeling shy or awkward, it may feel as though they are rejecting you when instead, like you, they are perceiving people through a negative lens, or they simply have a hard time meeting new people.
From Micro: Yea, it's hard to connect with others and move beyond this kind of perception/narrative that keeps running in our mind almost constantly. It feels like you just can't trust anyone because no matter how hard you would try you would only end up being hurt or disappointed. It's about setting an intention on someone else - an intention they may not have, but feels very real on *your* end. It makes sense to have a hard time with trusting others when you live with a fear of being hurt. We can't control others, we can't predict what they would do or say, and somehow trusting someone is offering them something they could turn against us. It's taking a risk that feels very real. I surely walk with you on this journey - it's a real challenge to put this voice away and to embrace the moment we share with someone. Something very strong in this, is that you are aware of it, of how it's affecting you and your relationships. When we live in our mind with this kind of scenario, bringing *perspective* to the table is fundamental. Then it takes time, surely, to rebuild that trust within ourselves. But at the very least, you are not letting it take over absolutely everything. You also know how to acknowledge it, observe it and see how it can affect you. I wish with all my heart that, little by little, you will give yourself all the time and care needed to rebuild confidence within. Even though you may not be able to control someone's reaction or thoughts towards you, you can absolutely grow in learning to be confident with who *you* are - regardless of what others may think of you. <3
Thank you so much.
Lacey is amazing and a beast! When she was in high school she had a plan to commit suicide. But her grandmother intervened and she encountered Jesus at a mid week church service. Much of her music is about that struggle and the hope she found. Would love for you to check out more of her music!!
@heartsupport I have struggled with emetophobia, PTSD, and OCD for decades, ever since I was a little kid after multiple traumatic experiences. In my teens and 20s I became suicidal after trying to self-medicate through drugs, alcohol, and partying. But I was saved from that life, which would have almost certainly ended in death, by calling out to Jesus Christ. I am a new creation! The old life is gone, and a new life has begun. The phobia is still a struggle sometimes, but Jesus is helping me lean on Truth. I think my ego had built up lies to protect itself. But believing in those lies only made it worse. Please pray that the lies are supplanted by Truth in this battle.
From Wings: Congratulations for taking such huge steps towards healing. The worst is behind you now. You know how to survive and I believe you're becoming happier by the day.
Thoughts can be troublesome, but thoughts are not who you are. Let your heart guide you.
From Micro: So powerful to hear about your second life, how you managed to be born again. There is no doubt that there's a before and after in your own journey, and you are growing stronger each step of the way. Definitely rooting for you from here. :heart:
Yes. I am going through something that I am struggling with. Something that feels difficult to see the point in. We have human beings who are pathological liars who are PEDOPHILES in this country...and it's almost like a good majority of the people out there in America, right now, still want to be willfully ignorant to this abominable decadence. 🤔I don't get why people do not want to solve this problem. I absolutely do not get it and sometimes I feel as if my head is going to explode due to all of this incomprehensible inaction in our world. 🤯
❤🔥#heartsupport❤🔥
Great angel of angry violin,just breath into, some difference in the same only more,just get it pure, remove the next negative thought into the pages of your greatest attribute being home wherever your are
Please react to Space Dye Vest by Dream Theater
I've been struggling with PTSD over my exs abortion for almost 9 years now. I'm afraid to seek help because I don't think I'll be able to find a pro-life therapist, or a therapist who at least understands how I feel.
From ManekiNeko: We all express and filter grief in our own ways. One thing I’d like to encourage you is that seeing a therapist means that this person is there to listen to you, not to debate with you. Their personal views should be on the side as what is important is finding ways for assist you work through this heaviness in your heart.
From Lisalovesfeathers: Hi Friend, I am sorry you have had to live with PTSD for 9years especially having lived with the fear of getting help. Therapist are not allowed to voice their opinions about you, your life, your beliefs or anything else. They are there to do a job and that is to help you. If you wish to see a therapist and you feel it will help please make an appointment and go and see one. I hope that it will help you to come to terms with the past. Lisa x
From Mystrose: Hi Friend, I'm sorry you've been struggling so long with PTSD because of your ex's abortion. It must have been really hard all these years dealing with this, I feel for you. If you wanted to, you could ask your mental heath dept specifically for a pro-life therapist and they would probably be able to find someone for you. I'm sure they will be able to find someone for you who can help you get thru this. You matter!
I go to a Christian place for therapy. It's great to all be on the same page. I can't imagine going to a therapist who isn't. That's me paying them for service but really I'd spend my time helping them.
From Micro: It's okay to ask a therapist if they are equipped to support you on that matter before scheduling an appointment with them. Oftentimes there's a possibility to either call or email them, and that could be a possibility for you.
However, a traditional/talk-therapist is not going to impose their vision of life on you. If they are fully professional in the way they handle conversations, they are going to listen and understand your pain without having their own beliefs interfering - whether they are pro-life or not. Personally, my therapist has different beliefs than I do on several things we already discussed, but that has never reduced the quality of the support I received from her, because she knows how to separate her personal views from the space that we share during our meetings. She has never tried to argue or debate something that stemmed from personal convictions or beliefs with me. Therapy is this third space where neutrality of the professional is essential. Thankfully they don't need to *agree* with you on something in order to be able to provide you with the help you need. They are, actually, fully trained to actively listen - which allows them to be present for you beyond their own views.
You absolutely deserve to be supported through this grief of yours. Trauma leaves such a mark that can feel like breaking our heart into pieces over and over. I can only imagine the pain you've been through for 9 years, and you deserve to have this pain out, heard, expressed in safe spaces. I hope with all my heart that you'll give therapy a try if you feel like your heart lean towards it. It can be scary to find the right match, although it is a process that is absolutely worth it as it's about supporting yourself. You deserve to receive the support that you would ask for. <3