I live in the Deep South. I feel like I’m living an entirely different life to myself. I’m out but nobody acknowledges it. I’m still dead named every day and the people who gave an effort in the beginning ended a little after a year. The last time I tried to correct my boss, she said “that’s too hard to remember” (I just asked if she would use they/them pronouns)The only person that has actually put effort into making me feel accepted was my hair dresser. I accidentally put my chosen name in online and when they found out they made it permanent and they called me that every time they see me.
I'm really sorry the support around you isn't too great, your hairdresser sounds lovely though! It'll get better, unfortunately sometimes it has to take some resistence and standing up for yourself (of course only if it's safe to do so). I definitely had some people who "gave up" and it hurts a lot, you're allowed to push them though, you can correct them or not answer to your deadname/incorrect pronouns. Some people have to be told "no, that isn't my name" or "don't call me that". They may come around or they may not, but I know you will find people who respect you for who you are and stay that way. I hope you get some more support and acceptance soon, everyone deserves to feel that. 🫂
@@TobiVA I come back to this message whenever things get hard. Thank you for being so kind. It’s an extra push that keeps me going through the bad days.
throwback to when my father bought me a nonbinary flag and proceeded to misgender me 😗✌ saw the label and everything, I still have it on my door, I'm very open about it 🙃 whatever, only 156 days until I'm 18 and can legally change my name and gender marker HA I'm gonna be walking graduation with my real name!! Oh gods!! I'm gonna walk graduation with my real name!! :D edit, 22 May '23: Guess who just changed their legal name and gender marker~ :D edit, 16 June '23: Little bit late but guess who graduated~
I wish there were more people in my life like this I have always wanted to come out and this made me very happy knowing that there are supporting people out there so thank you
You're very welcome, I hope one day that you're able to come out and properly be yourself. But remember that being closeted doesn't make you any less valid. Have a good day :)
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This genuinely had me with tears streaming down my face. I've been super nervous thinking about the future when I will have to come out, and this really helped a lot.
This right here is what i needed to hear for 3years because my dad is homophonic so I can’t tell him so this I just what I needed so thx And keep up the amazing work thxxxx🥲🥹🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I remember when I came out I told was my mom and she said she loved me unconditionally but the look on her face said she was sad then I told my father and he asked if I could speak to my mom alone I went up the stairs and he asked if I was being serious nobody other than my best friend and Antie has had a good reaction to me telling them thank you so much I wish someone was there to react like this
This is amazing bc I can’t come out due to having a homophobic family I can come out to my friends but I could never come out to my parents bc I might start going by she/they pronouns as well as that I’m bisexual 💗💙💜🤍
I chose for my name at school and other places to be may I’ve also changed my pronouns to they/them/theirs or it/its And my friends also have preferred names
Them: by you coda Me: pulls out the subtitles, only bc the letter c instead of k, lol thats literally the name I go by to most people I know, absolute panic for a sec
Ok as a non binary person i can fully say i love this and that i would be expecting a negative because my parents dont really believe in non binary people being alive and i am forced to act like a girl around them and if i said anything about it they would send me to a hospital to get find or scold me hard for wanting to be non binary
I live in the Deep South. I feel like I’m living an entirely different life to myself. I’m out but nobody acknowledges it. I’m still dead named every day and the people who gave an effort in the beginning ended a little after a year. The last time I tried to correct my boss, she said “that’s too hard to remember” (I just asked if she would use they/them pronouns)The only person that has actually put effort into making me feel accepted was my hair dresser. I accidentally put my chosen name in online and when they found out they made it permanent and they called me that every time they see me.
I'm really sorry the support around you isn't too great, your hairdresser sounds lovely though! It'll get better, unfortunately sometimes it has to take some resistence and standing up for yourself (of course only if it's safe to do so). I definitely had some people who "gave up" and it hurts a lot, you're allowed to push them though, you can correct them or not answer to your deadname/incorrect pronouns. Some people have to be told "no, that isn't my name" or "don't call me that". They may come around or they may not, but I know you will find people who respect you for who you are and stay that way. I hope you get some more support and acceptance soon, everyone deserves to feel that. 🫂
@@TobiVA I come back to this message whenever things get hard. Thank you for being so kind. It’s an extra push that keeps me going through the bad days.
The world needs more people like you
Aw that's so sweet of you to say. Thank youu :,)
I agree
YO A NON BINARY ACE WITH PURPLE AND YELLOW COLOR SCHEME?! are we twins???
I'm NoT cRYinG You ArEeeEe
sHut uPpPpP It’s Not ME It’s THe CaT!
yeah i am
Running around giggling
throwback to when my father bought me a nonbinary flag and proceeded to misgender me 😗✌ saw the label and everything, I still have it on my door, I'm very open about it 🙃 whatever, only 156 days until I'm 18 and can legally change my name and gender marker
HA I'm gonna be walking graduation with my real name!! Oh gods!! I'm gonna walk graduation with my real name!! :D
edit, 22 May '23: Guess who just changed their legal name and gender marker~ :D
edit, 16 June '23: Little bit late but guess who graduated~
you dont understand how happy this made me
Congrats on graduating, changing your name AND your gender marker! Very big steps, I'm so happy for you! (sorry this was so late lmao)
YAY 👏👏👏👏
GREAT GOING KEEP IT UP BOO!! ik I’m so late but this comment made me happi and i am happi for u 🫶
"Im not crying u are!"
My goofy ahh non binary sibling listening to this
I'm non binary and that's what I did
this was so sweet it made me cry a little bit (in a good way ofc)
thank you for making this video
Glad you enjoyed it!
I wish there were more people in my life like this I have always wanted to come out and this made me very happy knowing that there are supporting people out there so thank you
You're very welcome, I hope one day that you're able to come out and properly be yourself. But remember that being closeted doesn't make you any less valid. Have a good day :)
@@TobiVA maybe someday but have a great day or night as well , but I will tell you a little secret I plain to tell my parents when I turn 18 next year
I wish you the best of luck!
@@TobiVA thank you
GEICO APPROVES🦎!!
-Remember fifteen minutes could save your big head 15% or more on car insurance. (Stop asking if i can give you insurance for free the answer is no, broke ass)
-Remember to not overwork yourself, eat and stay hydrated.YOU’RE LOVED
haha not my TH-cam recommendations being vids of how to come out after watching this 😃👍.
I wanna figure myself out before I choose the come out.
when u said kota i’m like “MY DOG??” (my dogs name is Dakota but we call him kota💀”
Thats even better. This fits even closer to reality for u
@@SleepySome1 he’s dead now x
This genuinely had me with tears streaming down my face. I've been super nervous thinking about the future when I will have to come out, and this really helped a lot.
I like the bird sounds in the background, it sounds peaceful :)
This is great, this makes me feel so happy :) I literally smiled at my phone
It’s funny because I have the same name as you so hearing “I don’t recognize this name” was hilarious
This right here is what i needed to hear for 3years because my dad is homophonic so I can’t tell him so this I just what I needed so thx And keep up the amazing work thxxxx🥲🥹🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I remember when I came out I told was my mom and she said she loved me unconditionally but the look on her face said she was sad then I told my father and he asked if I could speak to my mom alone I went up the stairs and he asked if I was being serious nobody other than my best friend and Antie has had a good reaction to me telling them thank you so much I wish someone was there to react like this
This is amazing like always!
Holy shit that scared me when you said my name dude💀💀💀
This is amazing bc I can’t come out due to having a homophobic family I can come out to my friends but I could never come out to my parents bc I might start going by she/they pronouns as well as that I’m bisexual 💗💙💜🤍
I chose for my name at school and other places to be may I’ve also changed my pronouns to they/them/theirs or it/its
And my friends also have preferred names
Hello fellow human, I see you have a fizzaroli pfp.
Have a good day/night fellow non-binary,
Them: by you coda
Me: pulls out the subtitles, only bc the letter c instead of k, lol thats literally the name I go by to most people I know, absolute panic for a sec
Hearing that someone was proud of me made me feel good inside, thanks for this audio
Hello! I’m nonbinary and my roommate has a dog who does this- his name is Charlie! Goodest boy yet he outed me to my roommate as well 😵💫
Ok as a non binary person i can fully say i love this and that i would be expecting a negative because my parents dont really believe in non binary people being alive and i am forced to act like a girl around them and if i said anything about it they would send me to a hospital to get find or scold me hard for wanting to be non binary
omg this is so nice
Part 2
*laughs in genderfluid*
Listen I'm not non-binary (I'm ftm!) But this is honestly adorable
Good for you!!
i rewatch this daily
I’m early
I'm still deminonbinary. Seriously!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Did he say DAY or DATE at 6:41 ?
I said "day". I do understand the confusion though, I kinda mushed "day" and "today" together. 😅
@@TobiVA Thanks for making things clear
… can you do asexual…? Please. Needed.
I really want to, I'm working on it :)
@@TobiVA thank you sm 🥹
:D