Txhua yam tsav hais muaj tseeb. Poj hmoob us tau zoo kawg. Hlub tu tus kheej kom zoo tshaj bawb. Zog tag, mob aws, nyiaj tdi muaj, kawg los zoo tsev. Hlub tus keej mog poj hmoob
This MIL sounds like mine, 20 years ago, I took my husband and moved 20 hours away, and blocked her calls. My husband can talk to his mamma all he want on the phone, she don’t exist in my world. This is how you dealt with evil MIL.
Likewise! My MIL is no longer a part of my life. My hubby calls and texts her all the time. I don't have a problem with it. She finally stopped meddling about 2-3 years ago after she became a homewrecker and had her bf move in with her. LOVE not having to play tug-a-war for my hubby with her.
You're a beautiful person and a beautiful soul. Keep doing you because your hard work and love will go unnoticed. 9 out of 10 will not see it but 1 of them will. Believe it or not nowadays there's still monster in laws like this. I pray everyday that our new generation/ or younger generation does not treat our daughter/ son in laws this way. Only those who have been through this will really feel what this lady went through.
You learn to love yourself when you leave a toxic relationship. If you are still with him, that means you haven’t learned yet. Quit lying to yourself, lady!
Tus me ntxhais koj ua yog lawm thaum yus mob txaus lawm ces yus yeej siab tawv taus zoo kawg koj txiav txim never be to late. Keep up your good work, tus txiv neej no tsis deserve koj ntxov mus ntxov zoo txhob tos niag txiv zoo li no. I am so proud of you
I'm so glad u didn't let him walk all over u now.....love yourself...live for u and your childrens...let him do whatever he do cause he ain't getting younger he will come crawling back to u but when he do dont give him the satisfaction he just a roomy buddy....dont let him come and ruin you anymore.....good luck to u and your kids.....be safe be free be happy!!!!!
Idk. She sounds so strong, independent, and badass towards the end, but she's still married to that jerk/cheater and horrible family. So i don't think you're that strong. I think it's all talk and show only. Deep down you're still that soft weak woman.
It's so true. Why do you care so much and do so much just to gain their love and care. Might as well just let them hate you and you do what you do. As long as you know you're good enough. That's all that matters.
Tus poj niam twg yog mus ua neej es tau ib tsev neeg ntxub tsis nyiam hos niag txiv los tsis hlub tseem ua hluas vim nws mus mloog nws tsev neeg hais ma tu siab tshaj plawv li. Tus txiv nrog tag nrov nws tsev neeg ua phem rau nws ma xyov yuav ua cas nyob. Ntshe sib nrauj nyias mus nyias lawm xwb ntshe yuav zoo dua. Zoo li tus niam tsev no yuav tuag los tuag tsis taus yuav ciaj los mob siab nyuaj siab ua luaj. Ceeb laj ua neej thiab tu siab tshaj plawv li.
She gave everyone benefit of the doubt in hopes one day her good deeds will be recognized and I am glad she woke up and realized her inlaws are just a bunch of bullies and her husband is trash. Only opinion that matters is your children because they are the ones who love you unconditionally.
I believe she still has a good heart even though she complained about her marriage and still stayed. You’re damn if you do, damn if you don’t. So she can complain about all she wants. At the end, some of you are still living in your miserable life. It’s easy to say you’re going to leave but harder than you think.
Someone said, put the oxygen mask on yourself first and then help others. The life in the story is doing the opposite. Now she does it the correct way. The oxygen mask always works if put on correctly. Time is all we have. If we use time wisely, we can have a comfortable life. Someone said, last time I tried to make someone else happy. It almost kills me. That's impossible. How true. I never do that again. One important lesson I learned. Waiting for someone else to take care of things is my problem. As I wait no longer, my problem goes away. That is simple enough so I do that every day. I take great care of life. It takes great care of me. Now you live your life with lots of experience behind you. Your beautiful days are ahead of you.. Thanks for sharing your story.
Me niam laus aw koj ma nco ntsoov hlub koj tus kheej li ko ces yog qhov nab npawb 1 lawm txiv neej ces nyuam qhuav ntxim cia rau luag tus sab nraum tsim nws mog
Tus mes vivncaus aw nrog koj tus siab tias you did not get any support from your own family to help make your life easier. But zoo siab that you finally realized your worthiness and can live a life with or without your husband and his family.
Tus niam tsev, nyias muaj nyias kev xav yom. Hais txog hmoob ces tus niam tsev no nws yog tus ntse. Tam sim no tab tom yog tus txiv thiab niam pog lawv zeeg mob li thaum nws ntag.
Kuv ces taug kiag koj tus hneev taw thiab tiag koj mas uv tau ntev tiag2 li os kuv es uv tau 10 xwb kuv tawm plaws lawm yam tus noog uas tuaj ti ya plho rau tim qab ntuj kaj siab lug lawm os koj es tseem pheej xav qhov qub thiaj pheej nyob qhov qub rau luag tsim koj hlub2 yus tus kheej yus thiaj muaj nqi mog
Honestly, you don’t love yourself enough to leave, but you were in the era of 1975 so thats why you stayed, typical, here to complain but still with him 🤦🏻♀️
This is a story of a wife who is so heartbroken that she can careless and has no love left. Such a sad life. I hope you start loving yourself again so you can be happy and start smiling again. Best wishes.
Sister, even though you have learned to love, respect, and take good care of yourself but you still have him in your life to remind the suffering and headaches all those years. Women like you still show that the men have the right to cheat and the wives still going to stay waiting for them no matter how much cheating they do. If you feel like you can leave or be bother by him a hundred percent but yet you can not DIVORCE him. DIVORCE him so you be free!!!
Plase respact our sister here. Sister, its not your fault. Listen to your marriage is that your inl doesn't love you at first. That why your husband doesn't love you too. You need to love yourself. The only medicine that can heal you is yourself. May god bless you and your family.
Neb sib yuav yuam kev lawm ne tus niam tsev? Tej niam txiv twb sib sib nyiam mam sib yuav thaum tus txiv ua siab phem lawm tus txiv thiab tsev neeg twb tseem ua saib tsis taus yus. Lawv qhia kom koj ntse xwb thaum yus ntse lawm yus tsis txhawj lawm os mog. Tu siab tshaj plaws peb cov poj niam hmoob raug tej teeb meem li no ntau tshaj qhov ntau suav tsis txheeb li lawm.
As a man, this story makes me sick, starting with the cheating husband and his horrible mother. Why are you still with this disgusting family. Listen to your sons and move on. Some other man who appreciate a loyal and hard working wife will love you. Move on and never look back. I am happy you are going to move on. What a disgusting mother inlaw and husband.
Tiam 21 no lawm ces tsis k li lawm os lawv aww....noj li noj xwb! Tus tuaj tau Los tuaj, tus tuaj tsis tau Los tsis ua Cas li! Plain n simple as that!!
Sister I'm glad you finally realized your worth. I hope you do what's best for you and your mental health. You don't need that cheater husband. Best wishes to you
There is no need to give people who don't appreciate you the benefit of the doubt, when they disrespect you they don't care for you no matter what you do for them. Only time they will see your value is when you start to respect yourself!
I wished we Hmong women Would learn how to love ourselves. Many stay for the "sake of their kids". But what are you teaching your kids? That's its ok that their dad has little respect for you...that being cheated on and abuse is ok for them to go through and endure? We need go do better as a whole community.
It’s so complicated being a Hmong woman isn’t it? But hey, this is America not Laos! You can do way better than that and be independent if you choose a happier stress free life than that one. Maybe it’s just you who could endure that pain but if it were another woman she’d left a long time ago.
Yog lawm os vim yug tau tej me nyuam coob 2, thiab nkim yus neej tas lawm ces yuav tau hlub yus tus kheej rau yav laus es nyob nrog yus tej me nyuam xwb mog. Nco ntsoov tias tshaib plab thiab muaj mob muaj nkeeg thiaj tuag xwb yog tshaib tus txiv neej xwb yeej tsis tuag no nawb. Txhais khau koj rau ko yog leej twg tau rau lawm ces thiaj li paub xwb os mog.
Kuv xav tias kuv thiab li xav thiab ruam2 li no cas tseem muaj koj thiab na....kuv ces nyob zoo kiag li koj ntag os thaum kuv ua tau ib siab thiab mob txaus ces twb laus tag lawm os. Koj txhob ruam2 li kuv nawb mog es nyob nyob laus tag es mas li mus nawb. Right now kuv laus tag lawm los kuv kuj nrhiav tau tus hlub hlub kuv mas li paub tias tus neeg hlub yus yeej tsis ua rau yus mob siab ib sib li os. God bless koj os sis
nco ntsoov txhob hlub yus tus txiv tas tas yam yus tsis nco hlub yus tus kheej. never go above and beyond if that in laws or someone havent done anything in return after you have done for them. they will not see your effort you put in for them.
Yup when you’re so hurt nothing anyone says or do no longer hurts you. Sad she’s still part of this marriage through all. I hope you have the courage to find your happiness sister.
Omg! I was just so 🤬🤬at this woman and her behaviors. What is she trying to prove? I hate women who plays the victim but does nothing about it. Plus cheating and abuse? What the hell!!!
Might as well file for divorce!! You are already independent living for your children. The children are grown so they can choose to see their Dad or have a relationship. Move on you deserve a good champion partner so you are not too lonely..
A lot of these comments are degrading to this woman but yet its possible many of these same individuals are in a similar situation and cannot get out of an abusive relationship. To say that she brought this on herself is despicable. There are other ways of uplifting this woman than downplaying her experiences.
You are entitled to your own belief but to say that she has only herself to blame is far fetched. I think what’s wrong with the culture is the blame is easily shifted to the victim and not the perpetrator. That they brought about their own misery. I don’t think for a second that she is asking to be treated this way at all. I don’t think anyone would wish to be treated this way in fact. There could be multiple factors as to why she is still in the relationship especially in the Hmong culture/community where it is heavily looked down upon to be a divorcee. Leaving a relationship after multiple years of abuse can take time for people and it sounds like she’s taking steps to realize her importance/self worth. It might not happen overnight but who’s to say she won’t muster the courage to leave?
@Kimora Lee Yes I agree that she may have been groomed to think this was her only option. She made it known that when she went to her family all they did was blame her for choosing the route she did and there was no actual real support from them. I feel like that was her first cry for help and it was not reciprocated. When we don’t familiarize and empathize with victims of abuse but instead tell them to sow what they reap we are sending the message that it was their fault and that only adds to victim blaming. Which can do real harm to an already deteriorating mental health and in turns makes them feel like they have no other option hence the normalization and prolonged stay in an abusive relationship. But sadly we see this recurring issue present itself time and again. All in all I am hoping this woman can escape the cycle of abuse and find happiness with herself.
Niam ntsuab teev a.kv xav pb tia ntsuab teev neb pua yog niam nkj txhav qaib txiv nraug txhav noog na ná.ca kv hnov lawv tia kj yog tub vwj poj niam yav tag lo no e pua yog nạ.
Yeah! We Hmong women need to be strong for ourselves and our children, who needs that asshole ain't going to benefit us in anyway anyhow. I personally am proud of you for being strong and have dignity in yourself, I too used to be married for 21.5 years good thing I only have 2 kids with my ex husband, a man who never love, respect, and have any kind of dignity for me. His family too disrespect me because I am the DIL they don't like just that they happen to want my help so they have no choice but to asked for my help. You can't change anyone if they don't change themselves and they can't change you if you don't want to change yourself. Gets to the point where I have had it so I make a decision with my life move on don't wait for someone else any longer. I am happy for myself and for you too, be strong, love, and respect yourself especially self dignity most importantly to all Hmong women out there.
Tus niam tais aw cas koj cas koj pheej nyob zov nws lub npe ua dab tsi koj zov koj laus tag koj tau dab tsis naj qhov koj tau ces yog kev mob thiab qhov nws ntaus koj xwb ne txhob tos es kav tsij muab pov tseg koj yog neeg zoo2 lawm koj yeej yuav mus nrhiav tau tus hlub2 koj xwb txhob nyob lawm yuav Los tsis sov siab lawm ces nyob Los tsis ntxiv dab tsis tab Los rau koj tu nws rau yav laus xwb yog kuv ces tsis ntsia txog lawm txhob ruam 2lawm m'as tus niam tsev
Txhua yam tsav hais muaj tseeb. Poj hmoob us tau zoo kawg. Hlub tu tus kheej kom zoo tshaj bawb. Zog tag, mob aws, nyiaj tdi muaj, kawg los zoo tsev. Hlub tus keej mog poj hmoob
Txob hais kab mob heev peb cia duav koj lawm thiab o peb twb nyiam mloog koj hais ua zoo hais txob ua ntej ua qab o😁
Txhob tu siab os menkauj hmoob u tej menyuam thiaj li yog u txoj sia os thiab me nyuam thiaj li hlub tiag thiab tej menyuam thiaj li hlub koj tshaj os
This MIL sounds like mine, 20 years ago, I took my husband and moved 20 hours away, and blocked her calls. My husband can talk to his mamma all he want on the phone, she don’t exist in my world. This is how you dealt with evil MIL.
🤣 👏👏👏👏 good job!
Likewise! My MIL is no longer a part of my life. My hubby calls and texts her all the time. I don't have a problem with it. She finally stopped meddling about 2-3 years ago after she became a homewrecker and had her bf move in with her.
LOVE not having to play tug-a-war for my hubby with her.
Mloog ua kev kawm mog peb cov poj niam mus ua nyab tau txij nkawm tsis hlub thiab tsev neeg los phem na.
Luag hlub yus li cas ces yus hlub luag li ntawv xwb mas
Me viv ncaus kuv thiab koj lub neej ces zoo ib yam li os koj hais koj zaj ces yog ib yam li kuv xaj thiav ua tsaug os
Yus tau ib tsev neeg tsis hlub yus mas nyuam siab tshaj os lawv.
Txhob tus siab os. Muaj ib hnub tsis muaj neeg so nws quav mam nco txog yus. Nws xav tias nws lub zog yuav muaj ib sim neej txog ntua hnub nws nkag hauv qhov ntxas. Txiv neej ces 50 xyoo rov saum lawm ces nws lub zog pib ntaug zuj zus. Thaum nws tsis taus lawm nws mam hu nws cov hluas nkauj tuaj so nws quav zis xwb. Lub neej tiam 21 no nyob nrog cai xwb thiaj tsis khib2 rau tus poj niam thiab. Tsoom pojniam nej hais puas yog? Tsoom txiv neej yuav hais tias tsis yog!
Tus me viv ncaus cas koj lub me neej yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj li pab hlub koj heev os
Cov neej es tau niam pog tsis nyiam yus mas tu siab tshaj os
Cas koj zaj dab neeg yuav raug kuv ua luaj li os tu siab tshaj plaws li os lawv aw
You're a beautiful person and a beautiful soul. Keep doing you because your hard work and love will go unnoticed. 9 out of 10 will not see it but 1 of them will.
Believe it or not nowadays there's still monster in laws like this. I pray everyday that our new generation/ or younger generation does not treat our daughter/ son in laws this way. Only those who have been through this will really feel what this lady went through.
Yep!
Yog kawg lawm nawb yog peb cov poj niam hmoob coj tau li koj lawm ces peb cov txiv neej hmoob yuav xyaum ua tau ib co txiv zoo rau peb cov poj niam hmoob lub neej nawb.
You learn to love yourself when you leave a toxic relationship. If you are still with him, that means you haven’t learned yet. Quit lying to yourself, lady!
3 saib 3 muaj nqis, hlub tus kheej, pab tus kheej, hlub menyuam, npaj klm tau noj musj nyiaj mad luagbthuaj ssib 3 muaj nqis thisb ntshai thiab ntshaw os hmoob
3 sawv daws ces yeej Raug li no tiag os lawv
Tus me ntxhais koj ua yog lawm thaum yus mob txaus lawm ces yus yeej siab tawv taus zoo kawg koj txiav txim never be to late.
Keep up your good work, tus txiv neej no tsis deserve koj ntxov mus ntxov zoo txhob tos niag txiv zoo li no. I am so proud of you
Niam Ntsuab Teev. Thov qhia neb Zaj Neej Neeg rau peb mloog thiab seb puas tu siab.🙏🍺🙏
I'm so glad u didn't let him walk all over u now.....love yourself...live for u and your childrens...let him do whatever he do cause he ain't getting younger he will come crawling back to u but when he do dont give him the satisfaction he just a roomy buddy....dont let him come and ruin you anymore.....good luck to u and your kids.....be safe be free be happy!!!!!
Sister I’m so proud of you. Although it took you awhile to love yourself..but you eventually learned to love yourself. I wish you the best.
Tu siab kawg li yg kiag kuv lub neej o niam laus aw
yog lawm ua li koj ua thiaj tsis mob mob yus os yus yuav tau hlub yus tus Khej ua ntej tso nawb
Idk. She sounds so strong, independent, and badass towards the end, but she's still married to that jerk/cheater and horrible family. So i don't think you're that strong. I think it's all talk and show only. Deep down you're still that soft weak woman.
Agree. If you're all good and independent you leave that toxic relationship. I would've if I was her.
Nrauj koj tus txiv es kuv mam hlub koj
It's so true. Why do you care so much and do so much just to gain their love and care. Might as well just let them hate you and you do what you do. As long as you know you're good enough. That's all that matters.
Tej lub neej zoo li no mas tu siab tshaj plaws li os🥲🥲
Txoj kev ua uv yug tus txiv mug tham hlua nkauj mas mob siab tu siab ntshaj 😭😭😭
Tus poj niam twg yog mus ua neej es tau ib tsev neeg ntxub tsis nyiam hos niag txiv los tsis hlub tseem ua hluas vim nws mus mloog nws tsev neeg hais ma tu siab tshaj plawv li. Tus txiv nrog tag nrov nws tsev neeg ua phem rau nws ma xyov yuav ua cas nyob. Ntshe sib nrauj nyias mus nyias lawm xwb ntshe yuav zoo dua. Zoo li tus niam tsev no yuav tuag los tuag tsis taus yuav ciaj los mob siab nyuaj siab ua luaj. Ceeb laj ua neej thiab tu siab tshaj plawv li.
Ib tsoom niam tsoom txiv tiam 21st, thov hais rau s/d peb yuav tau qhia peb tej tub ki tseem ceeb peb cov ntxhais ua lub neej nyob yus yuav tau hlub yus txhob tos luag hlub yus. Cov niam cov txiv 75 qhuab ntuas kom hlub2 luag xwb. Lawv tsis qhia tias tseg ib qho kev hlub rau yus tus kheej thiab. Thaum mus yuav txiv ces ntxhais cia siab tus txij nkawm yuav hlub tabsi muaj qee tus tsis yog li ntawd. Thaum no txoj kev hlub rais los hlais peb mas mob tiag2. Thov tseg kev hlub rau yus tus kheej mog. Tsis hais txiv neej vim lawv hais tias lawv yeej muaj cai ua txhia yam. Hais raws kev xa xwb tsis tau tuav leej twg npe nawj.
Txoj kev tsi mloog niam hmloog txiv lus niaj hnub tawm mus ua poj laib niaj hnub mus sib ua nrog txiv neej ces vim yus xaiv yus txoj hauv Thaum pib ces yus Txhob rau txim rau lwm tus yus kav tsij hlub yus tus kheej xwb os mog yus xaiv yus txoj hauv kev os
Lub neej lo raug tsim rau thaum lau ca yuav mob siab ua luaj o law aw
She gave everyone benefit of the doubt in hopes one day her good deeds will be recognized and I am glad she woke up and realized her inlaws are just a bunch of bullies and her husband is trash. Only opinion that matters is your children because they are the ones who love you unconditionally.
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True, some people will try to do good thing their whole life and still not gain the other people live.
I believe she still has a good heart even though she complained about her marriage and still stayed. You’re damn if you do, damn if you don’t. So she can complain about all she wants. At the end, some of you are still living in your miserable life. It’s easy to say you’re going to leave but harder than you think.
Koj hais yog lawm os tus me niam hluas yus kav tsij hlub yus xwb tus txiv zoo li koj tus ko ces pob tseg kiag zoo dua rau koj mog
Do good things and receive better place in life for the souls 😊
☹️ cas yuav tu siab ua luaj li os
❤️ to the sister of this story. Love yourself and your children xws os. MIL and the txiv dev - karma is real.
Txaus tu siab tiag tiag cas yuav muaj ib co hmoob phem ua luaj li thiab na
Yog vim li cas peb cov me poj niam hmoob no yuav raug tsim txom ua luaj li os me viv ncaus
Strong lady, feel bad for your bad experiences. Yes love yourself and move on.
Uv txaus txaus lawm ces tso lawm thiaj li tso tau tiag tiag mas
Someone said, put the oxygen mask on yourself first and then help others. The life in the story is doing the opposite. Now she does it the correct way. The oxygen mask always works if put on correctly. Time is all we have. If we use time wisely, we can have a comfortable life. Someone said, last time I tried to make someone else happy. It almost kills me. That's impossible. How true. I never do that again. One important lesson I learned. Waiting for someone else to take care of things is my problem. As I wait no longer, my problem goes away. That is simple enough so I do that every day. I take great care of life. It takes great care of me. Now you live your life with lots of experience behind you. Your beautiful days are ahead of you.. Thanks for sharing your story.
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Exactly! Love and take care of yourself first! When you are healthy and happy you can be a much more better person!
Me niam laus aw koj ma nco ntsoov hlub koj tus kheej li ko ces yog qhov nab npawb 1 lawm txiv neej ces nyuam qhuav ntxim cia rau luag tus sab nraum tsim nws mog
For all u women who listen to this story don’t let it b too late leave live you life
Nrauj txaus lawm os .. you deserve a happy life.,
Tus mes vivncaus aw nrog koj tus siab tias you did not get any support from your own family to help make your life easier. But zoo siab that you finally realized your worthiness and can live a life with or without your husband and his family.
It’s so sad when Hmong women like this one think she has “won” But she really is still losing bc she is still with him.
Lub neej ce yeej lwj siab ntshaj li o tau tu txiv siab phem
Thov qhua koj txoj kev zoo thiab muaj peev xwm os niam laus.
Kuv xa kom kuv muaj peevxwm thiab siab zoo npaum koj xwb ces zoo lawm.
Tus niam tsev, nyias muaj nyias kev xav yom. Hais txog hmoob ces tus niam tsev no nws yog tus ntse. Tam sim no tab tom yog tus txiv thiab niam pog lawv zeeg mob li thaum nws ntag.
Kuv ces taug kiag koj tus hneev taw thiab tiag koj mas uv tau ntev tiag2 li os kuv es uv tau 10 xwb kuv tawm plaws lawm yam tus noog uas tuaj ti ya plho rau tim qab ntuj kaj siab lug lawm os koj es tseem pheej xav qhov qub thiaj pheej nyob qhov qub rau luag tsim koj hlub2 yus tus kheej yus thiaj muaj nqi mog
Me nkauj moob cas koj yuav yuam kev tus neeg hlwb tswj es me nkauj moob thiaj tsi tau txoj kev hlub li os nkauj moob
Zoo tshav plaw li tub niam tsev no ua tau ib saib g yeej swb rau tub txiv deg
Honestly, you don’t love yourself enough to leave, but you were in the era of 1975 so thats why you stayed, typical, here to complain but still with him 🤦🏻♀️
This is a story of a wife who is so heartbroken that she can careless and has no love left. Such a sad life. I hope you start loving yourself again so you can be happy and start smiling again. Best wishes.
Immm
She’s too young and too stupid. This is why I love about Hmong women. No matter how much you fucked up she’ll always forgive you🤣🤣.
Sister, even though you have learned to love, respect, and take good care of yourself but you still have him in your life to remind the suffering and headaches all those years. Women like you still show that the men have the right to cheat and the wives still going to stay waiting for them no matter how much cheating they do. If you feel like you can leave or be bother by him a hundred percent but yet you can not DIVORCE him. DIVORCE him so you be free!!!
Plase respact our sister here. Sister, its not your fault. Listen to your marriage is that your inl doesn't love you at first. That why your husband doesn't love you too. You need to love yourself. The only medicine that can heal you is yourself. May god bless you and your family.
Neb sib yuav yuam kev lawm ne tus niam tsev? Tej niam txiv twb sib sib nyiam mam sib yuav thaum tus txiv ua siab phem lawm tus txiv thiab tsev neeg twb tseem ua saib tsis taus yus. Lawv qhia kom koj ntse xwb thaum yus ntse lawm yus tsis txhawj lawm os mog. Tu siab tshaj plaws peb cov poj niam hmoob raug tej teeb meem li no ntau tshaj qhov ntau suav tsis txheeb li lawm.
Me viv ncau yog kuv nyob ze koj ma kuv yuav nrog koj ntau tes 3 teg kiag😁
It's bit too late for you to do for yourself. You should do that long time ago. Love yourself first
Leej twg tu txiv ua hlua ce yog yuav to kom nw tig lo hlub yu ce yog thaum nw twb yuav tuag lawm xwb os
Cov txiv dev zoo li no ces cov niam tsev ruam ruam thiaj tseem yuav xwb nawb lawv aw...
As a man, this story makes me sick, starting with the cheating husband and his horrible mother. Why are you still with this disgusting family. Listen to your sons and move on. Some other man who appreciate a loyal and hard working wife will love you. Move on and never look back. I am happy you are going to move on. What a disgusting mother inlaw and husband.
I almost 🤮🤮 listening to her pretend she's so good and everyone around her is bad. At the end of the day, actions speak louder than words.
Illlpip
Tiam 21 no lawm ces tsis k li lawm os lawv aww....noj li noj xwb! Tus tuaj tau Los tuaj, tus tuaj tsis tau Los tsis ua Cas li! Plain n simple as that!!
Niag poj ruam, txawm yog ruam li koj es koj thiaj tau txais txojkev mob siab yog tim yus tus kheej xwb.
Niag txiv🐕 mus ua zejzog txiv 20+ xyoo zog twb tag, kev twv mam rov los ces nqi tag thiab.
I agreed…most Hmong men are like this…
Nej nyob tim nej e lawv g yuav nej lo nej muaj hauj lwm ua peb nyob nplog teb e lawv g yuav peb ce peb kawg ua teb xwb e txom2 nyem kawg li o lawv aw
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Sister I'm glad you finally realized your worth. I hope you do what's best for you and your mental health. You don't need that cheater husband. Best wishes to you
There is no need to give people who don't appreciate you the benefit of the doubt, when they disrespect you they don't care for you no matter what you do for them. Only time they will see your value is when you start to respect yourself!
Don’t feel bad if they don’t help you. So you don’t have to feel that you own them anything.
This story is related to mine so much, I feel your broken heart and remember you're not alone.
Ne ne ne tsis xyaum ua txiv tsev zoo xyaum mus ua niag txiv dev xwb ces zaum no poj niam ua tuaj ces tsis muaj chaw nyob lau.
I wished we Hmong women Would learn how to love ourselves. Many stay for the "sake of their kids". But what are you teaching your kids? That's its ok that their dad has little respect for you...that being cheated on and abuse is ok for them to go through and endure? We need go do better as a whole community.
Good 4 u sister, finally u love yourself.
It’s so complicated being a Hmong woman isn’t it? But hey, this is America not Laos! You can do way better than that and be independent if you choose a happier stress free life than that one. Maybe it’s just you who could endure that pain but if it were another woman she’d left a long time ago.
Yog lawm os vim yug tau tej me nyuam coob 2, thiab nkim yus neej tas lawm ces yuav tau hlub yus tus kheej rau yav laus es nyob nrog yus tej me nyuam xwb mog. Nco ntsoov tias tshaib plab thiab muaj mob muaj nkeeg thiaj tuag xwb yog tshaib tus txiv neej xwb yeej tsis tuag no nawb. Txhais khau koj rau ko yog leej twg tau rau lawm ces thiaj li paub xwb os mog.
Yus tsua nro yus ruam es pheej ntshaw ntshaw luag xav xav nrog luag nyob es luag thiaj tsis hlub yus los kav tsij uv xwb los mas. Yog cov muaj hlwb ces nyob txog 3 xyoo xwb luag yeej nrauj lawm muab cuam thoob khib nyiab puag ntxov mus nrhiav tus tshiab ua neej kheem nws tshav ntuj nrig.
Kuv xav tias kuv thiab li xav thiab ruam2 li no cas tseem muaj koj thiab na....kuv ces nyob zoo kiag li koj ntag os thaum kuv ua tau ib siab thiab mob txaus ces twb laus tag lawm os. Koj txhob ruam2 li kuv nawb mog es nyob nyob laus tag es mas li mus nawb. Right now kuv laus tag lawm los kuv kuj nrhiav tau tus hlub hlub kuv mas li paub tias tus neeg hlub yus yeej tsis ua rau yus mob siab ib sib li os. God bless koj os sis
Ua zoo tau phem cais ua kiag phem los as tsis thawj lawv noj li os mi nyab aw yus muaj tes muaj taw naj txhob ntsia lawm nawb
Peb cov poj niam hmoob tuaj nyob teb chaws no 30 feem pua txoj kev cov txiv tsis hlub yus cov niam tub peb hmoob txoj kev txom nyem nyiaj tawg ib txoj kev tsis yog koj xwb mog peb sawv daws yeej taug tag los lawm tu siab tshaj tus tsis tau taug tsis paub mog taug tag thiaj li paub yeej yog peb nyob meskas laj maj tab sis ua tsis yooj yeem li ib co neeg hais rau hauv no that's not true
Tus niam tsev qhuas koj os, you so strong
nco ntsoov txhob hlub yus tus txiv tas tas yam yus tsis nco hlub yus tus kheej. never go above and beyond if that in laws or someone havent done anything in return after you have done for them. they will not see your effort you put in for them.
Yup when you’re so hurt nothing anyone says or do no longer hurts you. Sad she’s still part of this marriage through all. I hope you have the courage to find your happiness sister.
What a frustrating story. Woman, you did it to yourself!
Omg! I was just so 🤬🤬at this woman and her behaviors. What is she trying to prove? I hate women who plays the victim but does nothing about it. Plus cheating and abuse? What the hell!!!
Right, leave already
Exactly. She married in 1999… not 1975. We’ve come further than this as women. Do better.
Might as well file for divorce!! You are already independent living for your children. The children are grown so they can choose to see their Dad or have a relationship.
Move on you deserve a good champion partner so you are not too lonely..
Kom niampog mus xaiv 1 tug nyab uas nws nyiam2 los tsim niampog rau yav laus no.
Hnub no kuv hnov tias muaj tej tug poj niam hmoob kawm tiav kiag kev ua niam tsev lawm nawb.
Yog twb npaum ko lawm e cas tsi nrauj kiag na pog ruam aws yus ruamyus xwb os
A lot of these comments are degrading to this woman but yet its possible many of these same individuals are in a similar situation and cannot get out of an abusive relationship. To say that she brought this on herself is despicable. There are other ways of uplifting this woman than downplaying her experiences.
You are entitled to your own belief but to say that she has only herself to blame is far fetched. I think what’s wrong with the culture is the blame is easily shifted to the victim and not the perpetrator. That they brought about their own misery. I don’t think for a second that she is asking to be treated this way at all. I don’t think anyone would wish to be treated this way in fact. There could be multiple factors as to why she is still in the relationship especially in the Hmong culture/community where it is heavily looked down upon to be a divorcee. Leaving a relationship after multiple years of abuse can take time for people and it sounds like she’s taking steps to realize her importance/self worth. It might not happen overnight but who’s to say she won’t muster the courage to leave?
@Kimora Lee Yes I agree that she may have been groomed to think this was her only option. She made it known that when she went to her family all they did was blame her for choosing the route she did and there was no actual real support from them. I feel like that was her first cry for help and it was not reciprocated. When we don’t familiarize and empathize with victims of abuse but instead tell them to sow what they reap we are sending the message that it was their fault and that only adds to victim blaming. Which can do real harm to an already deteriorating mental health and in turns makes them feel like they have no other option hence the normalization and prolonged stay in an abusive relationship. But sadly we see this recurring issue present itself time and again. All in all I am hoping this woman can escape the cycle of abuse and find happiness with herself.
Txojkev tsis mloog niam thiab txiv lus.... tau niampog txivyawg cob tub kom tsim yus.... yug tubki coob....thaum kawg tus txiv tsis hlub...tubki los tsis hlub thiab. Txhob ntshaw yuav txiv los tsim yus. Txhob ntshaw yug menyuam los tsim yus rau yav laus. Yus nyob yus... nyob txij tws ces mus txij ntawd xwb thiaj tsis txomnyem li nawb. Yog yus hlub yus tus kheej thiaj tsimnyog yug los ua neeg ib zaug xwb. Txhob ntshaw leejtws kev hlub hauv ntiajteb no vim tias yeej tsis muaj leejtwg hlub yus hlo li os. Yus rov hlub yus tus kheej nkaus xwb nawb.
Zaj dab neeg no phim kuv heev og
Hais tau ntxim ntxub thiab mob taub haus dhau lawm os lawv aws
Niam ntsuab teev a.kv xav pb tia ntsuab teev neb pua yog niam nkj txhav qaib txiv nraug txhav noog na ná.ca kv hnov lawv tia kj yog tub vwj poj niam yav tag lo no e pua yog nạ.
this y i don’t love any one
i love my self
i don’t help any one or get money to anyone
Yeah! We Hmong women need to be strong for ourselves and our children, who needs that asshole ain't going to benefit us in anyway anyhow. I personally am proud of you for being strong and have dignity in yourself, I too used to be married for 21.5 years good thing I only have 2 kids with my ex husband, a man who never love, respect, and have any kind of dignity for me. His family too disrespect me because I am the DIL they don't like just that they happen to want my help so they have no choice but to asked for my help. You can't change anyone if they don't change themselves and they can't change you if you don't want to change yourself. Gets to the point where I have had it so I make a decision with my life move on don't wait for someone else any longer. I am happy for myself and for you too, be strong, love, and respect yourself especially self dignity most importantly to all Hmong women out there.
Tus niam tais aw cas koj cas koj pheej nyob zov nws lub npe ua dab tsi koj zov koj laus tag koj tau dab tsis naj qhov koj tau ces yog kev mob thiab qhov nws ntaus koj xwb ne txhob tos es kav tsij muab pov tseg koj yog neeg zoo2 lawm koj yeej yuav mus nrhiav tau tus hlub2 koj xwb txhob nyob lawm yuav Los tsis sov siab lawm ces nyob Los tsis ntxiv dab tsis tab Los rau koj tu nws rau yav laus xwb yog kuv ces tsis ntsia txog lawm txhob ruam 2lawm m'as tus niam tsev
Koj tus txiv thiab Nws tsev neeg tsis hlub koj los koj cov menyuam twb hlub koj kuv lub neej twb zoo li koj lub thiab tab sis kuv cov menyuam tsis hlub kuv lawv tseem nrog lawv txiv cem kuv xwb
Tus me niam tsev cas koj yuav khwv ib yam kuv thiab os
Vim koj ruam dhau lawm os tus vivncau .
Yog kawg, tsis tshob tus siab vim yus ruam ruam maj yus tsis hlub yus leeg tus yuav hlub yus nawb
Koj tus thaunb ces cia nws mus zoo nyob los tsis so siab lawm menkauj hmoob ua li u ua tau xwb txhob xav ntaws