"I have never struggled with self esteem" spoken like a true Leo 😆 I just wanna say I love your videos so much, you're like the mom friend I don't have lol
Thanks for keeping it so real. Been binging your new and older vids, 39 weeks pregnant now. I think you are such a great and inspiring woman. Lots of love
Just a friendly reminder that depression doesn't have to mean sad, it can also be irritated, frustrated or anger. Of course it can be sadness but just as each person is different so is their depression
As someone with bad anxiety, before having my baby and now it being more at 4 months PP, being extremely tired and moody does come with anxiety. Hormones being off will definitely increase anxiety too which will cause the irritability and mood swings to worsen. So it could be a combination of both. Even when you (the anxiety) are controlled and don’t notice it as prevalent your mind is still fighting against it.
Omg I feel what she is going through and what you’re saying having anxiety beforehand and then now 3 months pp, being a first time mom in this pandemic is crazy. I am scared to go on bc because I don’t even know how worse my anxiety would get from the hormones.
Thanks for sharing that! Yea I definitely feel like there’s plenty going on with me right now. Hopefully I can figure it out and get it treated so I feel better!
I have 4 babies but man with my 3rd..you totally reminded me of the anxiety I had when he would cry (didn’t happen with any of my other) I tried to explain it to people it was like his cry would set off this ringing in my brain like a loud alarm that wouldn’t stop beeping and my heart would race and I’d get like angry..no one understand so I felt crazy..my youngest is 7 weeks and thank the lord I don’t have it with her but man I’m sorry you’re dealing with that, I feel like what happens with very needy whiny babies is we start to associate their cry with our inability to make them feel better and as a mom when we can’t help our kid it stresses us out like nothing else so our immediate reaction is frustration..I read somewhere that it’s ok for our babies to want to be close to us all the time and idk that just made it better for me this time around like ok I’m not doing anything wrong she just wants momma and that’s ok. Anyway that’s a long message lol I guess I’m just saying I can relate!!
Exactly the same happened to me! My baby was crying literally all the time for the first year of her life. Drove me crazy! Felt like I can't help my own baby, nothing worked, noone would understand why I was furious because of it, caused me ppd, and PPA after 6months of listening of crying, everyone always just said, well babies Cry, it's normal. Noone would understand that she was only crying never happy for a year! It changed suddenly after she turned one and started to express herself better, and I attended a parenting course to get myself together for momming, I am not sure what worked but she is very happy now 99 percent of the time, my ppd and PPA went away and I am a happy mom finally!
My sister went on the mini pill briefly after her daughter was born and it caused her to have extreme anxiety and depression that improved almost immediately after she stopped taking it. Not sure if that is contributing to your anxiety/panic attack but just thought I’d share the information💕
Yessss I definitely think that’s been a huge factor! I found an ob gyn and made an apt in September so I’m def talking to her about taking me off of that! Hate it!
Motherhood is such an unspoken hell sometimes. It’s the hardest job you will ever love ❤️ Remember to give yourself grace. You are doing amazing and you deserve to get this anxiety addressed. Meds and therapy have saved me! My daughter is now 3 and still I am working on myself as a mom and as myself. You got this ❤️
You are such an inspiration. God bless you. Some less talked about symptoms of anxiety and depression are: exhaustion, foggy headed, noise sensitivity, stomach aches, headaches, difficulty concentrating.
Been a subscriber for a long time now and I always will tune in! Love your rawness and honesty. I’ve struggled and still struggle with anxiety to the point where my heart races so fast... 200 bpm. Ran all tests possible, nothing wrong with the heart, just anxiety that causes it. I’ve learned to control it by not thinking about it. Letting it consume me and worry about the next episode would only cause me to experience the panic attacks more often.
I'm glad you are having your heart checked out. Yes, you're right, hormones can play havoc with your mental health. My daughter is 33 now, but I still remember it all. You are an intelligent, strong woman. I know you will be ok.
Going through a lot of postpartum anxiety as well I know how you feel. Keep strong your such a great mom ❤️❤️ I love watching your videos !! did you try letting Jackson play in a pack and play ?
Thanks for being so open to sharing your journey and experiences. It helps me as a mama of a 6 month old little guy. I feel like I’m getting tips and stories from one of my bffs. Laughing, crying and feeling with you 💛
Depression and anxiety has been a problem for me for a long time, and after my 4th baby was born in February, it’s been much worse. Depression doesn’t always mean sadness and crying. For me, a big part of it is irritability and anger and being extremely tired a lot of the time. I’d suggest talking to your doctor about those symptoms as well.
I’m 21 years old i love your videos but I’m seriously struggling seeing you handle all of that, i don’t know how you do all of that, anyway, you’re amazing 💪🏽 it’s so inspiring !! all of this seriously makes me think twice before having kids 😪 so many fears tbh!
I love your videos . This August 29 I'm going to be 29 years old and I have two girls, one two and a half years old and one 3 months old My days are very difficult with the two girls But I love her with all my heart, she is the best thing that has happened to me in my whole life and for them I try to be better every day.
I actually went through anaphylactic shock got allergies tested wasn’t allergic to anything It happened again and they said it was a panic attack and that panic attacks give realistic physical symptoms it was crazy they even had to give me an epi pen which stop it but once I started Zoloft it never happened again Sooo crazy!!
So around 2 months ago, when my baby was 3 months old, I began experiencing postpartum hair loss. You're telling me you're 8 months in and it's just NOW getting better...... 😭😭😭
if u have no access to meds when this is happening breathe in deeply thru your nose and then out thru your mouth- it helps to slow down everything..........
I just stumbled upon your page searching for postpartum panic attacks. I think this is what I might be going through. February I had an episode where I felt like I couldn’t breathe, I started panicking and had to go to the er. This has happened 4 more times since February. I’ve had blood test, ekg, chest x ray and they dont find anything wrong. I do have high blood pressure and I’m on Labetalol for that. My primary care doctor is sending me to a cardiologist and ent specialist. I have an appointment end of this month. I’m worried 24/7 that I’m going to die. It’s terrifying. Will be following and watching the rest of your videos !!!!
I watched you for a while now and I have to say that your story is pretty similar to mine. My daughter was born in november 2017 and my son in december 2019. My second pregnency wasn‘t easy at all and after his birth I got enxiety as well and I was afraid of leaving my house. I was tired like all the time and when my hair loss began, i was sure something is off with my body. I went to the doctor to get a check-up. Thank god everything is fine but in my head I was like: „really? I don‘t think that this is right“ I went to the doctor again and she told me that my hormones are just all over the place and every body is different and all I need is patience and time. Now after 8 month I feel better and more like myself. A lot of preyer and going back to a „normal“ life helped me and not letting my enxiety stop me from doing things. It‘s not easy but you will get better. You gave me strength, because your story reminded me so much of mine and now I wanted to give you something back. Sometimes to hear that you are not alone that someone else struggles with the same symptoms as you do, can help. I hope you get better soon. ❤️
I completely understand everything you said about the panic attacks and anxiety. I’ve had panic attacks at night as well and they are terrifying. I went through menopause super early… I started the process around 30 and ended at 37. Personally I believe that panic and anxiety happen more frequently when you’re going through fluctuating hormones!
For sure we have days where we don't want to play with our kids. We're only human! My "me time to do list" always includes watching your videos! I look forward to your videos all the time🤗
I love how honest you are! I am a mom of 2. A 5 year old boy and a 11 month old girl. I would definitely agree that a larger age gap has made it easier to adjust. I wouldn’t have been able to cope with two really little ones for sure! And postpartum anxiety is really but mine has improved as my kids get older!
I used olive oil everyday on my belly during pregnancy and of course not scratching and thankfully I did not get any stretch marks on my belly, I highly recommend it it work better than those fancy creams, plus its way cheaper.
Watching this while having 30 mins to myself. Feeling the whole hormonal thing in my soul! My partner is just pissing me off by existing this evening bless him. Hopefully I feel more sane after my bath, poor man.
I hope this doesn’t come off wrong but I truly think sitting in 4 walls all day every day contributes to our craziness. Esp with COVID. Anxiety and panic in 4 walls 7 days a week for months is EXPECTED if that’s all you guys do. i think you and Riley and Jackson would greatly benefit from going on a walk! Incorporating that. No need for masks if there is no one around. Also no need to hold your breathe under a mask at target LOL. Vitamin D is amazing for mood and for health :) ♥️
I absolutely love your videos. I can relate so much to you and your son. I have a 6 month old. So I often look at your videos for help to deal with him. Really helpful.
This exact same thing happened to me during my first week postpartum. Tests and all. Never had physical symptoms with anxiety before either. And it freaked me out severely. Praise God it's not your heart. Not sure if this helps. Just wanted you to know you're not alone.
I often think the first child is a shock because most do not anticipate how it will change their marriage, how much stuff a wee human needs, and how exhausted you will be all the time. But the second child's arrival brings levels of chaos that are unanticipated because it feels more like you suddenly have four, not merely two, and you now have to deal with sibling issues and timing everyone's schedules and the second child is rarely the same as the first. So, everything you learned with the first may or may not apply with the new baby. And our pregnancies and postpartum adjustments are seldom the same for us physically. Frankly, people pamper their children so much that huge numbers do not grow up with any clue at all what it took for their parents to accomplish what they did with them and their own siblings. Sociologists et al think that children were way better off in many ways when they were the offspring of the baker and they lived above the bakery and they went to school in the mornings and came home in the afternoon to work in the bakery and help in the household along with any homework and playing. They had a more realistic understanding of real life and they respected their parents and heritage more because it wasn't all the superficial "Let's have fun!" bullcrap and total superficiality that expends way more effort and money on nonsense than on true learning about cooperation within the home and respect for all parties who have earned it and courtesy for all strangers encountered. If not in a town's bakery shop or the like, the country example would be the farm where everyone had their chores and kids et al pulled their weight as part of the household without bearing the full responsibility of it, when you were not one of the parents/founders of the homestead. The researchers have observed that many problems arose when the father had to leave the home to go to town for a factory job and then things got worse again centuries later when the mother had to leave the home to work to make ends meet for the family. This, of course, is not to say that parents should not do what they must to earn a living. The point being we have gotten better at some things, but are not rearing our children as helpfully for their futures as we might be in other ways. So, parenthood comes as quite a shock to those who did not help their mothers around the house or their fathers in the yard or take care of their siblings much. So many never had to run a household even briefly or change a diaper or feed a crying baby or walk the floors with a small, ill child or tend to a sick grandparent. And we humans love patterns, so as soon as we've had one pregnancy and baby it is something of a surprise that the next set of albeit similar circumstances do not follow the same pattern we were mentally prepared for. LOL. Even our hormones do not respond in the exact same fashion. It's good that your headaches are gone post-caffeine, but you may need some supplement to help with energy or just wait until the children are grown for your energy to return. LOL. There really is no cure for parenthood. You are doing well and so are the kids.
I have one kid and I am tired so I can only imagine how tired you are with 2 yessss mom guilt is real my sister has 2 kids and she said she has mom guilt over the same things u do
I experienced two panic attacks. Both times I believe the cause was... I was so exhausted and sleep deprived. I also got checked and everything was fine but it was really scary. I try to sleep more and stress less and that has helped me ... and am not taking any medication.
I've been watching your videos and loving them for a while! I just wanted to touch on the birth control subject. I can not recommend enough looking into getting a copper IUD. I know it doesn't work for everyone, but you won't know until you try it. It's changed my life not taking hormonal birth control anymore!!
Have you heard of the midnight mom prayers? They have a nightly prayer and I think it would help you. They also have a book on the anxious mom. I wish I could send it to you, but please look them up❤
Its the worst feeling.. I suffer from anxiety too just like you, and I experience that same kinda thing about a month ago when I was like 7 months pregnant, I went to the ER and they checked everything out and I was ok..but must have been a panic attack and I had never really experienced that kind before, it was very scary. I feel your pain mama! And I feel the same anxiety right now, that my 5 year old son wants to play but being 8 months pregnant I am so exhausted right now and I feel so bad that I don’t want to 😩... Sending love & prayers 🙏💕
Thank you so much for sharing!! Sending you lots of strength and prayers too! I can’t even imagine being pregnant on top of having this anxiety! You’re a warrior!
Hey Kayla! I’ve experienced PPA with both my girls and have since been put on anti anxiety meds, it really sucks but medication has defiantly saved my life! (3 years taking now!) Would you be able to maybe do a tips for how you grew your TH-cam channel?? I’ve just started my own and have always seen you as a mummy channel I particularly aspire to! Xx
I’ve been having panic attacks like that since I was 14 years old. It’s difficult. Now that I’m a mom they’re more stressful because I can’t just take time off to relax. Before my menstrual it always spikes my attacks.
I’m not sure if you are speaking to a therapist, because you haven’t mentioned it, but I highly recommend starting with therapy before going straight to medication. Medication is a bandaid that won’t actually solve the anxiety problem. Working through all this in therapy will be the best way to address this!!
Mini pill can cause extreme exhaustion and all kinds of other things they can make you absolutely miserable. I would definitely try to get off of that soon. Lots of love💕
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Question to the ladies in this group, did anyone have mood swings after doing the mirena iud, if so how long after did it start. I've been a really anger mommy lately and I feel that might be the cause. PS I Love my child I do everything to keep him safe and never to hurt him but I am not doing so well emotionally.
I have had bad mood swings on any kind of hormonal birth control I've been on. I finally quit and I have felt like a whole new person after getting all of that out of my system!
I am a mom of 3 my youngest is 7 months now. I am fine physically but emotionally I haven't been in a good place lately I don't know why but my emotions are just all over the place
I've had severe PPA & PPD and I felt like what I'm imagining you feel recently.... I started my period lol I genuinely thought I was dying because my body was out of whack and I was EXHAUSTED but sleeping like 8 hours total. It was like that for a few weeks before I actually got it and now I feel a little better. (Just finished my first period)
Have you had your vitamin B12 tested? I was severely fatigued after I had my son 2 years ago and I started taking a B vitamin complex, a B12 spray and also vitamin D. All these vitamins can help with energy levels. Thank you for sharing your journey 💕
My friend is treating anxiety. She goes to a therapist , what's she told me about her case ( bcz I have some anxiety too) is that she wished she never took the medications bcz it made her not functioning well . Now she is off them . Just something to keep in mind
Yea I’ve always been a little hesitant about taking medication so we’ll see. I want to discuss my options and make sure that if I do take anything it’s very low dose bc I still need to function!
@@KaylaBuell yeah of course and doctors are different . Some will recommend certain drugs at certain dosage and some will recommend therapy or working on your mind ... I've been blessed to be able to meditate each evening ( after putting my baby to sleep) and it helped me greately . I also saw the things I wasn't comfortable with ( like driving) as a challenge so I was trying to do it just around the block just 3-5 min( with my husband following me ) and now I feel I am in great place ... May Allah help you get through it ❤️❤️❤️
my daughter does time out for her kids- one min.per year of age on a chair facing away from the action- she sets the microwave to beep when the time is finished.......
Your not alone I too have 2 kids! My oldest is 3 and my youngest is also 8 months who I breastfeed!🤱 I recently experienced something similar to you which I believe was a panic attack, your symptoms sound so similar to mine.
I can relate to everything you've said in this video 100%. Also, I've never been on birth control but was thinking about starting (even though the possible side effects have always scared me). My doctor prescribed Slynd, and after looking up reviews I'm pretty sure I want to stay far away from the stuff. I'll never know how it'll affect me personally unless I try it, but I have a bad feeling that it'll make me go crazy. My husband and kids do not need monster lady. But more children would also turn me into a monster, so what to do...
Hey Kayla, I’m thinking if sending your kids to playgroup or infant care can help? So u can have some me time to yourself? I’m sending mine to a 4 hours playgroup and planning to transit him to a 8 to 9 hours playgroup after a few months bec He gets to learn n I get me time.
If they just tested your TSH for your thyroid then that’s not an accurate indication if your thyroid is working well. In order to thoroughly check your thyroid you need to get Free T4, Free T3, TPOab and TgAb levels checked. Many moms struggle from thyroid issues untreated for year because doctors don’t do enough testing. Very frustrating!
I had the same thing happened to me with then tingling and numbness ! I just posted a vlog yesterday regarding my anxiety too ! It’s tough . I just subbed ! 💕
That's happened to me before, I've always thought it was because I'm so sedentary. I'm working from home so I'm not moving much. I'm sorry you had a panic attack.
Being a mother is really hard ...I gat u gal, I have a 5 month old baby girl can't imagine having two kids at the same tym ...am kinda going to wait till shez like 4 to get another baby
It's nice the ultrasound tech told you it looked fine, ours here refuse to say anything at all, they can get in trouble. I have a heart problem so I get echos a lot (every year for 11 years). One time one of them said they thought it looked okay (for me okay means no change, basically.... stable, lol) but usually they refuse to say anything at all.
Do you struggle with the “baby strike” from the boob? I’m breastfeeding and my almost 9 month old baby has been rejecting the boob recently but she’s always been a good eater. I’m also pregnant with #2 so idk if that has anything to do with it
So having two kids within 2 years, nursing on demand, taking hormones/birth control, having anxiety etc just SOUNDS LIKE A LOT.... Do you have someone you can talk to? Like a coach or therapist? If not I would totally recommend it for ALL moms that can afford it:)
Anxiety is seriously the worst lol. I used to have it so bad, but meditation helped me oddly enough. But yeah, the crying triggers it sometimes for sure! Also why do moms think the only way our kids will be close is if they are really close together?? Lemme tell you, my son is 11 years old and my daughter is 7 months old and they are obsessed with eachother! lol😊 I’m one of 5 kids and I’m 33 years old and I’m actully the closest to my younger sisters who are 7+ years younger.
You're an amazing mamma! I totally get not always feeling like entertaining your child 24/7- its exhausting. Does Riley ever ask to play with other kids her age? I'm going to assume you have anxiety about allowing her to play with other kids during a global pandemic but does she ever express missing out? just asking cuz I'm not sure I want to go through the whole pregnancy/L&D/ and juggling another child- although I do absolutely adore my LO, I'm already having mom guilt about having an only child. Riley seems to be quite happy playing on her own!
Hmm, what you described at the beginning sounds a lot like tetany - I have it too. The symptoms may vary but there are some which are pretty common. Try to Google it and see if you find anything useful. Some symptoms really may look like you have a panic attack. I got diagnosed after a serious "panic attack" I was covered in cold sweat, I couldnt breathe and I felt cramps and tingeling in my hand. I have had EMG done and this confirmed tetany. Sorry for my English - I am from Slovakia 🇸🇰. Copying some symptoms from healthline : What does tetany look like? Overly stimulated nerves cause involuntary muscle cramps and contractions, most often in the hands and feet. But these spasms can extend throughout the body, and even into the larynx, or voice box, causing breathing problems. Severe episodes can result in: vomiting convulsions serious pain seizures heart dysfunction
"I have never struggled with self esteem" spoken like a true Leo 😆 I just wanna say I love your videos so much, you're like the mom friend I don't have lol
Hahahaha 😂 it is what it is lol and thank you!!!!! Virtual mom besties 👯♀️
Thanks for keeping it so real. Been binging your new and older vids, 39 weeks pregnant now. I think you are such a great and inspiring woman. Lots of love
Thank you for being so honest about the difficulties of mom-hood. It’s so refreshing and relatable. God bless!
Omg of course!! It’s rough, but also beautiful. But also rough. Lol 😂
Just a friendly reminder that depression doesn't have to mean sad, it can also be irritated, frustrated or anger. Of course it can be sadness but just as each person is different so is their depression
Haz Jajjada 🙋🏻♀️
Being a mother is the HARDEST thing to do.Be strong
It really is!!
From a mom who goes through the same thing. I use vitamins for postpartum mood support. It helps. Yes My hormones are out of wack 4 months postpartum.
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As someone with bad anxiety, before having my baby and now it being more at 4 months PP, being extremely tired and moody does come with anxiety. Hormones being off will definitely increase anxiety too which will cause the irritability and mood swings to worsen. So it could be a combination of both. Even when you (the anxiety) are controlled and don’t notice it as prevalent your mind is still fighting against it.
Omg I feel what she is going through and what you’re saying having anxiety beforehand and then now 3 months pp, being a first time mom in this pandemic is crazy. I am scared to go on bc because I don’t even know how worse my anxiety would get from the hormones.
Thanks for sharing that! Yea I definitely feel like there’s plenty going on with me right now. Hopefully I can figure it out and get it treated so I feel better!
I have 4 babies but man with my 3rd..you totally reminded me of the anxiety I had when he would cry (didn’t happen with any of my other) I tried to explain it to people it was like his cry would set off this ringing in my brain like a loud alarm that wouldn’t stop beeping and my heart would race and I’d get like angry..no one understand so I felt crazy..my youngest is 7 weeks and thank the lord I don’t have it with her but man I’m sorry you’re dealing with that, I feel like what happens with very needy whiny babies is we start to associate their cry with our inability to make them feel better and as a mom when we can’t help our kid it stresses us out like nothing else so our immediate reaction is frustration..I read somewhere that it’s ok for our babies to want to be close to us all the time and idk that just made it better for me this time around like ok I’m not doing anything wrong she just wants momma and that’s ok. Anyway that’s a long message lol I guess I’m just saying I can relate!!
Exactly the same happened to me! My baby was crying literally all the time for the first year of her life. Drove me crazy! Felt like I can't help my own baby, nothing worked, noone would understand why I was furious because of it, caused me ppd, and PPA after 6months of listening of crying, everyone always just said, well babies Cry, it's normal. Noone would understand that she was only crying never happy for a year! It changed suddenly after she turned one and started to express herself better, and I attended a parenting course to get myself together for momming, I am not sure what worked but she is very happy now 99 percent of the time, my ppd and PPA went away and I am a happy mom finally!
Brigitta Bottlik oh man!! I’m so sorry you went through all that! Sounds horrible but I’m so happy to hear you’re doing better now!
Thanks:)
My sister went on the mini pill briefly after her daughter was born and it caused her to have extreme anxiety and depression that improved almost immediately after she stopped taking it. Not sure if that is contributing to your anxiety/panic attack but just thought I’d share the information💕
Yessss I definitely think that’s been a huge factor! I found an ob gyn and made an apt in September so I’m def talking to her about taking me off of that! Hate it!
Watching this while pumping 😁
Winnie Joie same!😂💕
Me too 😬
Same!
Me too 🙌
“now it’s like gone, it’s like paper” 😂😩😩
Lol rip Cuban butt 😂
Motherhood is such an unspoken hell sometimes. It’s the hardest job you will ever love ❤️
Remember to give yourself grace. You are doing amazing and you deserve to get this anxiety addressed. Meds and therapy have saved me! My daughter is now 3 and still I am working on myself as a mom and as myself. You got this ❤️
You are such an inspiration. God bless you.
Some less talked about symptoms of anxiety and depression are: exhaustion, foggy headed, noise sensitivity, stomach aches, headaches, difficulty concentrating.
Thank you for your videos Kayla, you have no idea how much you've helped me ♥️💯 Appreciate how real and honest you are.
Been a subscriber for a long time now and I always will tune in! Love your rawness and honesty.
I’ve struggled and still struggle with anxiety to the point where my heart races so fast... 200 bpm. Ran all tests possible, nothing wrong with the heart, just anxiety that causes it.
I’ve learned to control it by not thinking about it. Letting it consume me and worry about the next episode would only cause me to experience the panic attacks more often.
I'm glad you are having your heart checked out. Yes, you're right, hormones can play havoc with your mental health. My daughter is 33 now, but I still remember it all. You are an intelligent, strong woman. I know you will be ok.
Thank you so much, Margaret!
Being a momma is so hard! But I love how you just keep going! ❤️❤️
You are the most honest mumma on here! So refreshing xxx
You’re amazing. Stay strong mama !!!🤍😍
Medication for anxiety is life changing. 10/10 would recommend!
Going through a lot of postpartum anxiety as well I know how you feel. Keep strong your such a great mom ❤️❤️ I love watching your videos !! did you try letting Jackson play in a pack and play ?
Thanks for being so open to sharing your journey and experiences. It helps me as a mama of a 6 month old little guy. I feel like I’m getting tips and stories from one of my bffs. Laughing, crying and feeling with you 💛
Depression and anxiety has been a problem for me for a long time, and after my 4th baby was born in February, it’s been much worse. Depression doesn’t always mean sadness and crying. For me, a big part of it is irritability and anger and being extremely tired a lot of the time. I’d suggest talking to your doctor about those symptoms as well.
I’m 21 years old i love your videos but I’m seriously struggling seeing you handle all of that, i don’t know how you do all of that, anyway, you’re amazing 💪🏽 it’s so inspiring !! all of this seriously makes me think twice before having kids 😪 so many fears tbh!
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I love your videos .
This August 29 I'm going to be 29 years old and I have two girls, one two and a half years old and one 3 months old My days are very difficult with the two girls But I love her with all my heart, she is the best thing that has happened to me in my whole life and for them I try to be better every day.
I love your videos so much, they really help me as a new mom and I look forward to every video! You are awesome, keep it up!
I actually went through anaphylactic shock got allergies tested wasn’t allergic to anything
It happened again and they said it was a panic attack and that panic attacks give realistic physical symptoms it was crazy they even had to give me an epi pen which stop it but once I started Zoloft it never happened again
Sooo crazy!!
Omg that’s crazy! I had no idea that could happen! Glad you’re feeling better!
So around 2 months ago, when my baby was 3 months old, I began experiencing postpartum hair loss. You're telling me you're 8 months in and it's just NOW getting better...... 😭😭😭
It started to improve drastically for me at 5-6 months!
if u have no access to meds when this is happening breathe in deeply thru your nose and then out thru your mouth- it helps to slow down everything..........
Finally a honest mom !!
I just stumbled upon your page searching for postpartum panic attacks. I think this is what I might be going through. February I had an episode where I felt like I couldn’t breathe, I started panicking and had to go to the er. This has happened 4 more times since February. I’ve had blood test, ekg, chest x ray and they dont find anything wrong. I do have high blood pressure and I’m on Labetalol for that.
My primary care doctor is sending me to a cardiologist and ent specialist. I have an appointment end of this month. I’m worried 24/7 that I’m going to die. It’s terrifying.
Will be following and watching the rest of your videos !!!!
Love your videos, so relatable, it's like talking to a friend. My son is 1 week younger than Jackson. Hugs to you.
I feel like you went inside my head and heart and spilled it ALL!!!!
I watched you for a while now and I have to say that your story is pretty similar to mine. My daughter was born in november 2017 and my son in december 2019. My second pregnency wasn‘t easy at all and after his birth I got enxiety as well and I was afraid of leaving my house. I was tired like all the time and when my hair loss began, i was sure something is off with my body. I went to the doctor to get a check-up. Thank god everything is fine but in my head I was like: „really? I don‘t think that this is right“ I went to the doctor again and she told me that my hormones are just all over the place and every body is different and all I need is patience and time. Now after 8 month I feel better and more like myself. A lot of preyer and going back to a „normal“ life helped me and not letting my enxiety stop me from doing things. It‘s not easy but you will get better. You gave me strength, because your story reminded me so much of mine and now I wanted to give you something back. Sometimes to hear that you are not alone that someone else struggles with the same symptoms as you do, can help. I hope you get better soon. ❤️
Mom guilt is SOOOO real LOL, I feel it between my 2.5 year old and my 5 month old! You're doing great
I completely understand everything you said about the panic attacks and anxiety. I’ve had panic attacks at night as well and they are terrifying. I went through menopause super early… I started the process around 30 and ended at 37. Personally I believe that panic and anxiety happen more frequently when you’re going through fluctuating hormones!
For sure we have days where we don't want to play with our kids. We're only human!
My "me time to do list" always includes watching your videos! I look forward to your videos all the time🤗
“I’ve never struggled with self esteem”
..so that’s where Ry gets it from 🤣
I love how honest you are! I am a mom of 2. A 5 year old boy and a 11 month old girl. I would definitely agree that a larger age gap has made it easier to adjust. I wouldn’t have been able to cope with two really little ones for sure! And postpartum anxiety is really but mine has improved as my kids get older!
I used olive oil everyday on my belly during pregnancy and of course not scratching and thankfully I did not get any stretch marks on my belly, I highly recommend it it work better than those fancy creams, plus its way cheaper.
Thank you for your honesty. Love your videos!
Watching this while having 30 mins to myself. Feeling the whole hormonal thing in my soul! My partner is just pissing me off by existing this evening bless him. Hopefully I feel more sane after my bath, poor man.
I hope this doesn’t come off wrong but I truly think sitting in 4 walls all day every day contributes to our craziness. Esp with COVID. Anxiety and panic in 4 walls 7 days a week for months is EXPECTED if that’s all you guys do. i think you and Riley and Jackson would greatly benefit from going on a walk! Incorporating that. No need for masks if there is no one around. Also no need to hold your breathe under a mask at target LOL. Vitamin D is amazing for mood and for health :) ♥️
I absolutely love your videos. I can relate so much to you and your son. I have a 6 month old. So I often look at your videos for help to deal with him. Really helpful.
This exact same thing happened to me during my first week postpartum. Tests and all. Never had physical symptoms with anxiety before either. And it freaked me out severely. Praise God it's not your heart. Not sure if this helps. Just wanted you to know you're not alone.
I often think the first child is a shock because most do not anticipate how it will change their marriage, how much stuff a wee human needs, and how exhausted you will be all the time. But the second child's arrival brings levels of chaos that are unanticipated because it feels more like you suddenly have four, not merely two, and you now have to deal with sibling issues and timing everyone's schedules and the second child is rarely the same as the first. So, everything you learned with the first may or may not apply with the new baby. And our pregnancies and postpartum adjustments are seldom the same for us physically. Frankly, people pamper their children so much that huge numbers do not grow up with any clue at all what it took for their parents to accomplish what they did with them and their own siblings. Sociologists et al think that children were way better off in many ways when they were the offspring of the baker and they lived above the bakery and they went to school in the mornings and came home in the afternoon to work in the bakery and help in the household along with any homework and playing. They had a more realistic understanding of real life and they respected their parents and heritage more because it wasn't all the superficial "Let's have fun!" bullcrap and total superficiality that expends way more effort and money on nonsense than on true learning about cooperation within the home and respect for all parties who have earned it and courtesy for all strangers encountered. If not in a town's bakery shop or the like, the country example would be the farm where everyone had their chores and kids et al pulled their weight as part of the household without bearing the full responsibility of it, when you were not one of the parents/founders of the homestead. The researchers have observed that many problems arose when the father had to leave the home to go to town for a factory job and then things got worse again centuries later when the mother had to leave the home to work to make ends meet for the family. This, of course, is not to say that parents should not do what they must to earn a living. The point being we have gotten better at some things, but are not rearing our children as helpfully for their futures as we might be in other ways. So, parenthood comes as quite a shock to those who did not help their mothers around the house or their fathers in the yard or take care of their siblings much. So many never had to run a household even briefly or change a diaper or feed a crying baby or walk the floors with a small, ill child or tend to a sick grandparent. And we humans love patterns, so as soon as we've had one pregnancy and baby it is something of a surprise that the next set of albeit similar circumstances do not follow the same pattern we were mentally prepared for. LOL. Even our hormones do not respond in the exact same fashion. It's good that your headaches are gone post-caffeine, but you may need some supplement to help with energy or just wait until the children are grown for your energy to return. LOL. There really is no cure for parenthood. You are doing well and so are the kids.
I have one kid and I am tired so I can only imagine how tired you are with 2 yessss mom guilt is real my sister has 2 kids and she said she has mom guilt over the same things u do
I love your videos, and how real you are with us. Thank you so mucha for your advice.
I experienced two panic attacks. Both times I believe the cause was... I was so exhausted and sleep deprived. I also got checked and everything was fine but it was really scary. I try to sleep more and stress less and that has helped me ... and am not taking any medication.
I've been watching your videos and loving them for a while! I just wanted to touch on the birth control subject. I can not recommend enough looking into getting a copper IUD. I know it doesn't work for everyone, but you won't know until you try it. It's changed my life not taking hormonal birth control anymore!!
Have you heard of the midnight mom prayers? They have a nightly prayer and I think it would help you. They also have a book on the anxious mom. I wish I could send it to you, but please look them up❤
Can you do a detailed "starting solids" video?
Its the worst feeling.. I suffer from anxiety too just like you, and I experience that same kinda thing about a month ago when I was like 7 months pregnant, I went to the ER and they checked everything out and I was ok..but must have been a panic attack and I had never really experienced that kind before, it was very scary. I feel your pain mama! And I feel the same anxiety right now, that my 5 year old son wants to play but being 8 months pregnant I am so exhausted right now and I feel so bad that I don’t want to 😩... Sending love & prayers 🙏💕
Thank you so much for sharing!! Sending you lots of strength and prayers too! I can’t even imagine being pregnant on top of having this anxiety! You’re a warrior!
Hey Kayla! I’ve experienced PPA with both my girls and have since been put on anti anxiety meds, it really sucks but medication has defiantly saved my life! (3 years taking now!)
Would you be able to maybe do a tips for how you grew your TH-cam channel?? I’ve just started my own and have always seen you as a mummy channel I particularly aspire to!
Xx
Omg thank you for sharing! I just gave birth to my 3rd baby and ended up with anxiety. I thought I was having a mental breakdown.
You’re an awesome mom and human. You got this. Thanks for sharing 💜
I am sorry to hear this chuck, I hope you will get better soon, it is not a nice feeling. I am thinking of you, be strong, and try and relax. xx 💜💗
I’ve been having panic attacks like that since I was 14 years old. It’s difficult. Now that I’m a mom they’re more stressful because I can’t just take time off to relax. Before my menstrual it always spikes my attacks.
I’m not sure if you are speaking to a therapist, because you haven’t mentioned it, but I highly recommend starting with therapy before going straight to medication. Medication is a bandaid that won’t actually solve the anxiety problem. Working through all this in therapy will be the best way to address this!!
Mini pill can cause extreme exhaustion and all kinds of other things they can make you absolutely miserable. I would definitely try to get off of that soon. Lots of love💕
Love your top. Where’s it from?
I was wondering that too! I think I found it here www.amazon.com/Elimay-Henley-Fitting-Sleeve-Blouse/dp/B07RL16MCK/ref=sr_1_12?dchild=1&keywords=waffle%2Bknit%2Btop%2Bshort%2Bsleeve&qid=1598554315&sr=8-12&th=1&psc=1
kristen thank you! This is the one!
:) I ordered one lol
Question to the ladies in this group, did anyone have mood swings after doing the mirena iud, if so how long after did it start. I've been a really anger mommy lately and I feel that might be the cause. PS I Love my child I do everything to keep him safe and never to hurt him but I am not doing so well emotionally.
I have had bad mood swings on any kind of hormonal birth control I've been on. I finally quit and I have felt like a whole new person after getting all of that out of my system!
@@Kpachm hummmm I'm seriously thinking of removing it, I have a feeling it might be causing some of my impatience and anger
I am a mom of 3 my youngest is 7 months now. I am fine physically but emotionally I haven't been in a good place lately I don't know why but my emotions are just all over the place
make sure u r not dehydrated too- watch the caffeine intake.........also maybe have some ativan at home for emergencies- for panic attacks...........
I've had severe PPA & PPD and I felt like what I'm imagining you feel recently.... I started my period lol
I genuinely thought I was dying because my body was out of whack and I was EXHAUSTED but sleeping like 8 hours total. It was like that for a few weeks before I actually got it and now I feel a little better. (Just finished my first period)
Have you had your vitamin B12 tested? I was severely fatigued after I had my son 2 years ago and I started taking a B vitamin complex, a B12 spray and also vitamin D. All these vitamins can help with energy levels. Thank you for sharing your journey 💕
My friend is treating anxiety. She goes to a therapist , what's she told me about her case ( bcz I have some anxiety too) is that she wished she never took the medications bcz it made her not functioning well . Now she is off them . Just something to keep in mind
Yea I’ve always been a little hesitant about taking medication so we’ll see. I want to discuss my options and make sure that if I do take anything it’s very low dose bc I still need to function!
@@KaylaBuell yeah of course and doctors are different . Some will recommend certain drugs at certain dosage and some will recommend therapy or working on your mind ... I've been blessed to be able to meditate each evening ( after putting my baby to sleep) and it helped me greately . I also saw the things I wasn't comfortable with ( like driving) as a challenge so I was trying to do it just around the block just 3-5 min( with my husband following me ) and now I feel I am in great place ... May Allah help you get through it ❤️❤️❤️
my daughter does time out for her kids- one min.per year of age on a chair facing away from the action- she sets the microwave to beep when the time is finished.......
Your not alone I too have 2 kids! My oldest is 3 and my youngest is also 8 months who I breastfeed!🤱 I recently experienced something similar to you which I believe was a panic attack, your symptoms sound so similar to mine.
I just read about being low in magnesium- can cause numbness and cardiac arythmias...............
I can relate to everything you've said in this video 100%. Also, I've never been on birth control but was thinking about starting (even though the possible side effects have always scared me). My doctor prescribed Slynd, and after looking up reviews I'm pretty sure I want to stay far away from the stuff. I'll never know how it'll affect me personally unless I try it, but I have a bad feeling that it'll make me go crazy. My husband and kids do not need monster lady. But more children would also turn me into a monster, so what to do...
Hey Kayla, I’m thinking if sending your kids to playgroup or infant care can help? So u can have some me time to yourself? I’m sending mine to a 4 hours playgroup and planning to transit him to a 8 to 9 hours playgroup after a few months bec He gets to learn n I get me time.
Video idea or question for future Q&A - what's the best and worst advice you've gotten?
If they just tested your TSH for your thyroid then that’s not an accurate indication if your thyroid is working well. In order to thoroughly check your thyroid you need to get Free T4, Free T3, TPOab and TgAb levels checked. Many moms struggle from thyroid issues untreated for year because doctors don’t do enough testing. Very frustrating!
Hi Kayla, can you perhaps do a how you are getting in shape after birth? Losing weight as of now and your figure is life goals👌🏼
I relate so much with you!! Thanks for sharing! I have a 18mo daughter and am expecting a boy in 2 weeks.
I had the same thing happened to me with then tingling and numbness ! I just posted a vlog yesterday regarding my anxiety too ! It’s tough . I just subbed ! 💕
Love you Kayla and your channel
That's happened to me before, I've always thought it was because I'm so sedentary. I'm working from home so I'm not moving much. I'm sorry you had a panic attack.
Your a great mama !
If you need an OB recommendation in Eastern VA, I can recommend mine, they have a few doctors in the office and they’re an amazing practice.
What are some podcasts that you listen to?? You're amazing as a person and mother :) Love all of your videos
Haha! That was so funny! Welcome to 30 , here is an anxiety workbook. That is so true. Great video!
Being a mother is really hard ...I gat u gal, I have a 5 month old baby girl can't imagine having two kids at the same tym ...am kinda going to wait till shez like 4 to get another baby
aww, i bet she is a cutie little girl, i love babies!!
It's nice the ultrasound tech told you it looked fine, ours here refuse to say anything at all, they can get in trouble. I have a heart problem so I get echos a lot (every year for 11 years). One time one of them said they thought it looked okay (for me okay means no change, basically.... stable, lol) but usually they refuse to say anything at all.
When did your little one start sleeping through the night?
Do you struggle with the “baby strike” from the boob? I’m breastfeeding and my almost 9 month old baby has been rejecting the boob recently but she’s always been a good eater. I’m also pregnant with #2 so idk if that has anything to do with it
What app do u use on you I pad for to do list
not a question but riley and jackson are the cutest, i dont have kids but i love your videos keep it up🥰🥰😂
I am having such bad mom guilt... I'm going back to full time now... And feel like I'm missing out so much with my baby... 😭😭
So having two kids within 2 years, nursing on demand, taking hormones/birth control, having anxiety etc just SOUNDS LIKE A LOT.... Do you have someone you can talk to? Like a coach or therapist? If not I would totally recommend it for ALL moms that can afford it:)
I love these videos
Does your family watch your content? BTW love the content ❤️
I dont know if this helps you but watching ASMR videos kinda helps with relaxation and anxiety
Anxiety is seriously the worst lol. I used to have it so bad, but meditation helped me oddly enough. But yeah, the crying triggers it sometimes for sure! Also why do moms think the only way our kids will be close is if they are really close together?? Lemme tell you, my son is 11 years old and my daughter is 7 months old and they are obsessed with eachother! lol😊 I’m one of 5 kids and I’m 33 years old and I’m actully the closest to my younger sisters who are 7+ years younger.
I have had this exact thing.........
You're an amazing mamma! I totally get not always feeling like entertaining your child 24/7- its exhausting. Does Riley ever ask to play with other kids her age? I'm going to assume you have anxiety about allowing her to play with other kids during a global pandemic but does she ever express missing out? just asking cuz I'm not sure I want to go through the whole pregnancy/L&D/ and juggling another child- although I do absolutely adore my LO, I'm already having mom guilt about having an only child. Riley seems to be quite happy playing on her own!
I am not a mum but I feel out off wack as well so if you find out what going on with you let me know because I am lost
Hmm, what you described at the beginning sounds a lot like tetany - I have it too. The symptoms may vary but there are some which are pretty common. Try to Google it and see if you find anything useful. Some symptoms really may look like you have a panic attack. I got diagnosed after a serious "panic attack" I was covered in cold sweat, I couldnt breathe and I felt cramps and tingeling in my hand. I have had EMG done and this confirmed tetany. Sorry for my English - I am from Slovakia 🇸🇰. Copying some symptoms from healthline :
What does tetany look like?
Overly stimulated nerves cause involuntary muscle cramps and contractions, most often in the hands and feet. But these spasms can extend throughout the body, and even into the larynx, or voice box, causing breathing problems.
Severe episodes can result in:
vomiting
convulsions
serious pain
seizures
heart dysfunction
I am from Slovakia too 🇸🇰 and your English is better than you think ☺️
@@dominikam5141 jej, ďakujem, ahoj 🤗
@@Suzilicious81 ahoj ☺️