I have to say regarding the INFP crying stereotype, I agree with these ladies. I was married to an INFP female for 8 years and then had another INFP girlfriend for 8 years after that and am still very close to both of them and I have literally only seen each of them cry exactly ONCE and they were over EXTREMELY important things. But you can FEEEEEL the emotions coming off of them so I KNOW they cried more than they showed. It's palpable. INFPs are probably more likely to cry when alone since the feeling is introverted. I can really relate to Mallory on the crying too. I can cry pretty easily when it comes to other people. My empathy (when it's not being obscured by Te) can be off the charts! I cry way more for others than myself, either in a positive, good-feeling happy cry (like even a Hallmark commercial or watching a bird in nature) or a sad, angry or protective cry (like seeing someone being mistreated or seeing a homeless person suffering, being cold). AND both the INFPs I'm close with are VERY hard-working, professional, successful women! NOT weak at all. In fact I've always admired their core of inner gentle strength.
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I love INFPs so much. They are such sweet, gentle, interesting, honest souls. And you are so cute how you think you can be mean. You guys are the most kind mean people I've even known. I think also having Fi as my child function, I am so drawn to their Fi. I feel ALL those same things they mentioned, every bit of it! So it's soooooo gratifying and comforting, almost like a feeling of being ensconced in protection and acceptance to be around INFPs because they relate so well and are so mutually-protective of MY/OUR (as INTJs) cherished things and values and identity and desires and hobbies and dreams. INFPs bring me out of my Te and into my warmth. Thank you INFPs.
Are you kidding? Don’t get an INFP mad. Sometimes my INFP friend says, “I just WISH someone would make my day.” - like Clint Eastwood. And she means it! 🤣. She would kick anyone’s butt for me (ENFP). She scares me on her, tired of the world, days.
Thank you 😊🥰 You should see the inside rage in our minds though - at least in mine...I have been in fist fights countless of times in my head, but always keep my cool outwardly and uphold my principles and standards for interaction.
There was some talk about male INFPs... here's my thoughts being as one in today's society. From childhood, I've always been sensitive, perhaps more than others. And my emotions being strong, I was taught that it wasn't appropriate to get upset over "such minor things", and basically I was lead to believe that my feelings were too much, or somehow wrong. When I started to reach puberty, I really began to repress my emotions and my authentic self, to protect myself from the environment. I was always a pretty naive kid, and when people or kids my age would be deceitful or mean, I had a hard time understanding why they would want to do that (lying etc) I remember when I was like 11-12, I started to put walls around my heart and to hide myself from others. I didn't want to be seen or acknowledged by anyone and I didn't even care about myself, because it would just make me anxious and I guess I was afraid of being judged. And so, I was losing touch to who I was as an empathic person, I started using self-deprecation as a tool to lower everyone's expectations of me so that I could be their friend and not be seen as an opponent or challenging to anyone. I would be very sarcastic and even mean, because that's what society taught me. Boys have to have a tough skin, they've got to be the "alpha-male" and always be the one on top in arguments etc. And I freaking hated conflict, so I just pretended like nothing hurt me, when in actuality it did. I don't know if anyone could see, but I have an extreme dislike for "hatred" or conflict between people--even when it's supposed to be "jokes". Anyway. Now that I'm in my 20's (turning 25 in July), I've began the journey of coming back to who I am. I'm tired of hiding behind fake images and projecting myself as something I am not. I've repressed my Self for so long, that it's time to surrender back to who I am. It's still hard sometimes, because I can sense the Te structures in who I should be as a male and what society expects from me. Getting a partner for example, I should be overly confident (even arrogant maybe) and "cheat" girls into liking me and to get them into having sex. That's not who I am at all, I don't want that. It can be kind of distressing, to be afraid that, girls see me as too feminine, and they'd rather want some emotionless rock who doesn't show their feelings and are unwavering in their ways. I'm masculine in my own way, I just don't see the point in portraying myself as a chad, who I am clearly not, and to later be revealed that I've been lying to my partner or friends about who I am as a person. So yeah, I hate that I'm seen (or could be seen) as inferior in the eyes of society, just because I'm not like the generic stereotype of a male. Sometimes when I'm really in a depressive state, which doesn't happen often thank god, I can feel really dumb or kinda hate myself for being emotional or delving long and deep in my emotions, "men aren't supposed to be this emotional". I hope there are women who aren't only looking for the stereotypical man, as I don't know if I could ever be that, and I wish that perhaps my nature---my authentic self will be one day appreciated, and that I can live as who I am with confidence.
🤗 Thanks for sharing! So proud of you (even though I don't know you) for doing the 'untangling work'. Even though I'm a female INFP (or INFJ - not entirely clear about that) I've dealt with some of the same feelings. But that's also because I grew up in a dysfunctional family, where you werent allowed to talk about emotions (along with other kinds of psychological abuse and voilence as well) - it is only now in my 30s (and from the help of therapy) that I can begin to allow myself to be me. I have pushed myself in all sort of wrong directions based on my parents wishes to the point where I am 35 with no use of my engineering degree...(I come from a country where education is free). So I really get the sort of "self attack" that you can do in order to try to live up to societal expectations...
The are definitely women who are looking for more sensitive men - sensitive women for instance. Highly Sensitive people make up 20% of the population, so there should be a fair chance 😊.
YAY! :) So happy when I saw this! Thanks, Joyce for putting this together! I'm a female INFP and it's really cool to see other fellow INFP women out there! Also, can definitely validate that Fi users love to collect specifically themed items, lol.
I can't relate to impulsive buying as an INFP! Maybe it's Fi value thing. I like to think it through first and I try and want to be somewhat sustainable. It's almost like I get more satisfaction when I abstain from buying. But! Maybe the act of not buying is just another way of expressing one's individuality!!! Also maybe that plays a part in attachment. The less objects I have the less I need to declutter and the more I'm allowed to attach.
Oh, that makes me so sad on behalf of the INFP men. We as a society needs to fight the battle for men - to be able to express feelings, be vulnerable, etc.
It's always so hard to leave a comment on your videos Joyce, they are always chock full of so many great insights and moments - I don't even know where to begin! Haha. But let me just say I thoroughly enjoyed the lovely conversation with these amazing INFP ladies! Watched throughout the day while working. I will say though I appreciate what Eve says at 10:36. Walking in nature, alone, as she mentions, is SO vitally important for INFPs (and probably all NFs). I don't think we realize how much emotional baggage we keep pent up inside...UNTIL you can release it in nature. Great health and mental benefits as we all know, but certainly INFPs have got to spend copious amounts of time in nature. I've been in and out of fairly severe depression the last 3 years, and walking is quite simply a miracle drug. It just improves every aspect of your being. Too many just don't do it for various reasons, and I understand. But everyone can manage it at least once a week. Even if you have to drive 20 minutes to get somewhere in nature alone....DO IT!!
Awe, love your videos! Almost wish I had my own MBTI channel so I could have an opportunity to dialogue with you! The dynamic between INFP and infj is so fun! Infj make me feel seen, heard, and understood…in a world where I often feel so misunderstood!
Yay for INFP’s! Eve, your mug is so cute! Makes me want to brew a cup of Chai tea! House plants are great for absorbing negative energy and replacing it with good energy, btw!
Incubus rocks. Weird coming from an ESTP but I used the song "Love Hurts" helped me process a breakup. I didnt realize I had super strong connection and feeling for someone and I didnt realize it till was too late. Thats where FI polar can wreck you. I did too much damage. The song came out around the same time. I listned to a lot of Coldplay around that time too lol.
Those were such sweet closing remarks Joyce, so very true and very insightful of you. And I just have to say that I always sit and listen to your Nic Stride outro music for a few minutes afterwards pondering the ending of your videos and just enjoying the music. It's soooo good.
Yaay 3 INFPs women! Now I'll FOR SURE know if my thought of a girl-friend to me is INFP or not! Feels pretty sure by now but I seem to never be "sure enough" about things hehe!!
Thanks Joyce, for the INFP female panel. And thanks for asking the specific question I was wanting to ask, about their perception of the difference between INFP female and Males. Something I wouldn't mind digging a tiny bit deeper into. But I think they hit the major nail on the head. 👍
Excellent :) It brings me joy to know that, @Mentos jones!! I will be making a dedicated panel to hash out the differences between male and female INFPs one day, as well. Since that topic seems to interest you!
Fi user INTJ here also loving elephants, with a small marble elephant and a HUGE mixed media elephant "painting". They are soulful creatures. You can see the marble elephant in my videos to the left on the little table by the window if you look closely, right next to the dolphin. And I LOVE those plants! Beautiful pots Mallory!
Yes!!! He’s my best guy. We’re both very protective of each other and make it a point to prioritize our friendship/closeness as siblings. No matter what we both know we will have each other’s backs. It’s truly a unique bond that I’m thankful for every day. He’s the reason INTJs have had a special place in my heart from the beginning. Lol
20:52 Yessss Mallory!! Sameee..Fi trash cans 🤣 22:04 sameeee.. Joyce, is that specifically an Fi user thing...needing "a higher purpose"...I'm wondering bc my mom makes it seem like having a family should be the only purpose people need to get them out of bed and to work....I told her I need to feel fulfilled and like I'm growing and getting up to work to only pay bills and support my family would make me depressed...
I have seal stuff everywhere lol. Poster, stuffed animal, reed case, water bottle, figurines... and profile picture xD. I relate to them because they are friendly, clumsy, lazy, and make funny, loud noises :3 My brother’s girlfriend also has elephant stuff e v e r y w h e r e, and I’m certain she’s an Fi dom. Too cool! I love all the random stuff I learn from this channel lol
Buying something and getting a package is like Christmas, oh dear, I know all of the staff at the post office by first name! Sweet girls but I would love to see maybe a more mature INFP (partly because I am one), we aren't all into unicorns and bunnies.
A great insightful video! I did believe I was INFP but now I’m not sure, maybe I’m a Fe user instead.. In regards to crying, I’m quite open with crying even though I feel bad and awkward afterwards effecting others and worry I was imposing on them (or looking unprofessional if I’m at work). I cry if things happen to others and if they’ve happened to me; usually tears of frustration and fear. I’ll cry in front of the tv watching The Green Mile, seeing a baby chick be born, hearing a story about someone with a physical or mental limitation overcome the odds, if I’ve been ignored by someone I felt close too...ah yes a lot! And vibe wise, I have been told and would say too that I come across as quite soft and not wanting to shake up the status quo as such and fighting it, but more like I try to subtly change it and work with it to progress it, if that makes sense?
Interesting! A lot of the INFPs I invite on have a Enneagram type 4 slant, making their Fi more pronounced than it would be in an Enneagram type 9 INFP! So that could factor in as well. :)
Objects: i am now addicted to crystals and stones I have Never had addiction before!😄 I am older now so i thought i was immune to it. Nope! Lol😄... I'm finding its very difficult not to purchase them!💎📿👑💍💫💣⛏⛰🌋🗻🏔🗺🧲🔬 👏👏😅💕❤💞
Can Kelsey dominate the conversation anymore... she kept tagging herself on everyone else’s input/turn, interrupting, and redirecting the attention to herself... is that typical of INFPs? I would have liked to hear a bit more from the other ladies. She speaks painfully slow and takes up a lot of time. She has great points to add but really...
I have to say regarding the INFP crying stereotype, I agree with these ladies. I was married to an INFP female for 8 years and then had another INFP girlfriend for 8 years after that and am still very close to both of them and I have literally only seen each of them cry exactly ONCE and they were over EXTREMELY important things. But you can FEEEEEL the emotions coming off of them so I KNOW they cried more than they showed. It's palpable. INFPs are probably more likely to cry when alone since the feeling is introverted. I can really relate to Mallory on the crying too. I can cry pretty easily when it comes to other people. My empathy (when it's not being obscured by Te) can be off the charts! I cry way more for others than myself, either in a positive, good-feeling happy cry (like even a Hallmark commercial or watching a bird in nature) or a sad, angry or protective cry (like seeing someone being mistreated or seeing a homeless person suffering, being cold).
AND both the INFPs I'm close with are VERY hard-working, professional, successful women! NOT weak at all. In fact I've always admired their core of inner gentle strength.
This comment made me so happy. 😌
@@sokelso :-)
Wow. Ty
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So precious when the INFPs talked about sunsets! The INFPs shined their internal beauty. INFPS are so special, deep, & beautiful!! 💗💗
I love INFPs so much. They are such sweet, gentle, interesting, honest souls. And you are so cute how you think you can be mean. You guys are the most kind mean people I've even known. I think also having Fi as my child function, I am so drawn to their Fi. I feel ALL those same things they mentioned, every bit of it! So it's soooooo gratifying and comforting, almost like a feeling of being ensconced in protection and acceptance to be around INFPs because they relate so well and are so mutually-protective of MY/OUR (as INTJs) cherished things and values and identity and desires and hobbies and dreams. INFPs bring me out of my Te and into my warmth. Thank you INFPs.
Are you kidding? Don’t get an INFP mad. Sometimes my INFP friend says, “I just WISH someone would make my day.” - like Clint Eastwood. And she means it! 🤣. She would kick anyone’s butt for me (ENFP). She scares me on her, tired of the world, days.
Thank you 😊🥰
You should see the inside rage in our minds though - at least in mine...I have been in fist fights countless of times in my head, but always keep my cool outwardly and uphold my principles and standards for interaction.
Yes finally a female INFP Panel
Was waiting for this :]
There was some talk about male INFPs... here's my thoughts being as one in today's society.
From childhood, I've always been sensitive, perhaps more than others. And my emotions being strong, I was taught that it wasn't appropriate to get upset over "such minor things", and basically I was lead to believe that my feelings were too much, or somehow wrong. When I started to reach puberty, I really began to repress my emotions and my authentic self, to protect myself from the environment. I was always a pretty naive kid, and when people or kids my age would be deceitful or mean, I had a hard time understanding why they would want to do that (lying etc)
I remember when I was like 11-12, I started to put walls around my heart and to hide myself from others. I didn't want to be seen or acknowledged by anyone and I didn't even care about myself, because it would just make me anxious and I guess I was afraid of being judged. And so, I was losing touch to who I was as an empathic person, I started using self-deprecation as a tool to lower everyone's expectations of me so that I could be their friend and not be seen as an opponent or challenging to anyone. I would be very sarcastic and even mean, because that's what society taught me. Boys have to have a tough skin, they've got to be the "alpha-male" and always be the one on top in arguments etc. And I freaking hated conflict, so I just pretended like nothing hurt me, when in actuality it did. I don't know if anyone could see, but I have an extreme dislike for "hatred" or conflict between people--even when it's supposed to be "jokes".
Anyway. Now that I'm in my 20's (turning 25 in July), I've began the journey of coming back to who I am. I'm tired of hiding behind fake images and projecting myself as something I am not. I've repressed my Self for so long, that it's time to surrender back to who I am. It's still hard sometimes, because I can sense the Te structures in who I should be as a male and what society expects from me. Getting a partner for example, I should be overly confident (even arrogant maybe) and "cheat" girls into liking me and to get them into having sex. That's not who I am at all, I don't want that. It can be kind of distressing, to be afraid that, girls see me as too feminine, and they'd rather want some emotionless rock who doesn't show their feelings and are unwavering in their ways.
I'm masculine in my own way, I just don't see the point in portraying myself as a chad, who I am clearly not, and to later be revealed that I've been lying to my partner or friends about who I am as a person.
So yeah, I hate that I'm seen (or could be seen) as inferior in the eyes of society, just because I'm not like the generic stereotype of a male. Sometimes when I'm really in a depressive state, which doesn't happen often thank god, I can feel really dumb or kinda hate myself for being emotional or delving long and deep in my emotions, "men aren't supposed to be this emotional". I hope there are women who aren't only looking for the stereotypical man, as I don't know if I could ever be that, and I wish that perhaps my nature---my authentic self will be one day appreciated, and that I can live as who I am with confidence.
@Mallory Bedney And I appreciate you! Thank you for being who you are :)
🤗 Thanks for sharing! So proud of you (even though I don't know you) for doing the 'untangling work'. Even though I'm a female INFP (or INFJ - not entirely clear about that) I've dealt with some of the same feelings. But that's also because I grew up in a dysfunctional family, where you werent allowed to talk about emotions (along with other kinds of psychological abuse and voilence as well) - it is only now in my 30s (and from the help of therapy) that I can begin to allow myself to be me. I have pushed myself in all sort of wrong directions based on my parents wishes to the point where I am 35 with no use of my engineering degree...(I come from a country where education is free).
So I really get the sort of "self attack" that you can do in order to try to live up to societal expectations...
The are definitely women who are looking for more sensitive men - sensitive women for instance. Highly Sensitive people make up 20% of the population, so there should be a fair chance 😊.
YAY! :) So happy when I saw this! Thanks, Joyce for putting this together! I'm a female INFP and it's really cool to see other fellow INFP women out there! Also, can definitely validate that Fi users love to collect specifically themed items, lol.
Happy to liked the panel, Victoria!! :) Thanks for watching!
I can't relate to impulsive buying as an INFP! Maybe it's Fi value thing. I like to think it through first and I try and want to be somewhat sustainable. It's almost like I get more satisfaction when I abstain from buying. But! Maybe the act of not buying is just another way of expressing one's individuality!!!
Also maybe that plays a part in attachment. The less objects I have the less I need to declutter and the more I'm allowed to attach.
Oh, that makes me so sad on behalf of the INFP men. We as a society needs to fight the battle for men - to be able to express feelings, be vulnerable, etc.
It's always so hard to leave a comment on your videos Joyce, they are always chock full of so many great insights and moments - I don't even know where to begin! Haha. But let me just say I thoroughly enjoyed the lovely conversation with these amazing INFP ladies! Watched throughout the day while working. I will say though I appreciate what Eve says at 10:36. Walking in nature, alone, as she mentions, is SO vitally important for INFPs (and probably all NFs). I don't think we realize how much emotional baggage we keep pent up inside...UNTIL you can release it in nature. Great health and mental benefits as we all know, but certainly INFPs have got to spend copious amounts of time in nature. I've been in and out of fairly severe depression the last 3 years, and walking is quite simply a miracle drug. It just improves every aspect of your being. Too many just don't do it for various reasons, and I understand. But everyone can manage it at least once a week. Even if you have to drive 20 minutes to get somewhere in nature alone....DO IT!!
Awe, love your videos! Almost wish I had my own MBTI channel so I could have an opportunity to dialogue with you! The dynamic between INFP and infj is so fun! Infj make me feel seen, heard, and understood…in a world where I often feel so misunderstood!
Having Fi, I related a lot to what these INFPs shared. Loved it...thanks Joyce & INFPs! ✌️
Happy to hear, Mo Poppins!
Yay for INFP’s! Eve, your mug is so cute! Makes me want to brew a cup of Chai tea! House plants are great for absorbing negative energy and replacing it with good energy, btw!
Thank you Joyce! I enjoyed the male INFP panels very much and was so excited to see the female discussion today!
Incubus rocks. Weird coming from an ESTP but I used the song "Love Hurts" helped me process a breakup. I didnt realize I had super strong connection and feeling for someone and I didnt realize it till was too late. Thats where FI polar can wreck you. I did too much damage. The song came out around the same time. I listned to a lot of Coldplay around that time too lol.
@29:40 infps really have deep insights that are very beautiful and heart warming
Those were such sweet closing remarks Joyce, so very true and very insightful of you.
And I just have to say that I always sit and listen to your Nic Stride outro music for a few minutes afterwards pondering the ending of your videos and just enjoying the music. It's soooo good.
Yaay 3 INFPs women! Now I'll FOR SURE know if my thought of a girl-friend to me is INFP or not! Feels pretty sure by now but I seem to never be "sure enough" about things hehe!!
If she’s pretty than she’s INFP lol
Not a scientific observation tho😉
@@hirsch4155 Hahah!! They typically are!
The burning bridges is so true. Exactly! I will give them lots of chances but once they hit that threshold, it’s over forever
My ENFP mom collects elephants too! That's so cute
That's so cute!! :D the synchronicity is real strong here
I am an Infp and Elephants are my favorite Animals 🥺🥺
They are so sweet 😇 and the flowers and garden! 💕💕💕
I’m here for this ❤️
Thanks Joyce, for the INFP female panel. And thanks for asking the specific question I was wanting to ask, about their perception of the difference between INFP female and Males. Something I wouldn't mind digging a tiny bit deeper into. But I think they hit the major nail on the head. 👍
Excellent :) It brings me joy to know that, @Mentos jones!! I will be making a dedicated panel to hash out the differences between male and female INFPs one day, as well. Since that topic seems to interest you!
@@JoyceMeng22 that would be great. No rush.
Looking forward to this!
Fi user INTJ here also loving elephants, with a small marble elephant and a HUGE mixed media elephant "painting". They are soulful creatures. You can see the marble elephant in my videos to the left on the little table by the window if you look closely, right next to the dolphin. And I LOVE those plants! Beautiful pots Mallory!
Oh my goodness!! Holly, we’re gonna have to show each other our elephant collections sometime!! 🐘💛 Thank you so much for watching btw 😊
@@sokelso 🥰👍🏼 Of course! And thank you for letting me know you were going to be on Joyce's channel!
OMG! Kelsey has an INTJ brother!! That's so cool! I bet he ADORES you so much girl. No wonder y'all are so close.
Yes!!! He’s my best guy. We’re both very protective of each other and make it a point to prioritize our friendship/closeness as siblings. No matter what we both know we will have each other’s backs. It’s truly a unique bond that I’m thankful for every day. He’s the reason INTJs have had a special place in my heart from the beginning. Lol
Oh my god, I feel Eve's face expression is exactly the same as mine. I am an INFP female as well.
20:52 Yessss Mallory!! Sameee..Fi trash cans 🤣
22:04 sameeee..
Joyce, is that specifically an Fi user thing...needing "a higher purpose"...I'm wondering bc my mom makes it seem like having a family should be the only purpose people need to get them out of bed and to work....I told her I need to feel fulfilled and like I'm growing and getting up to work to only pay bills and support my family would make me depressed...
I have seal stuff everywhere lol. Poster, stuffed animal, reed case, water bottle, figurines... and profile picture xD. I relate to them because they are friendly, clumsy, lazy, and make funny, loud noises :3
My brother’s girlfriend also has elephant stuff e v e r y w h e r e, and I’m certain she’s an Fi dom. Too cool! I love all the random stuff I learn from this channel lol
My INFP bestie has Sloth stuff
Buying something and getting a package is like Christmas, oh dear, I know all of the staff at the post office by first name! Sweet girls but I would love to see maybe a more mature INFP (partly because I am one), we aren't all into unicorns and bunnies.
Oh no, it was asked whether INFP is narcissistic, but to be affirmed by seeing someone like you satisfies the social inclusion needs so much 😩
A great insightful video! I did believe I was INFP but now I’m not sure, maybe I’m a Fe user instead..
In regards to crying, I’m quite open with crying even though I feel bad and awkward afterwards effecting others and worry I was imposing on them (or looking unprofessional if I’m at work). I cry if things happen to others and if they’ve happened to me; usually tears of frustration and fear. I’ll cry in front of the tv watching The Green Mile, seeing a baby chick be born, hearing a story about someone with a physical or mental limitation overcome the odds, if I’ve been ignored by someone I felt close too...ah yes a lot!
And vibe wise, I have been told and would say too that I come across as quite soft and not wanting to shake up the status quo as such and fighting it, but more like I try to subtly change it and work with it to progress it, if that makes sense?
Interesting! A lot of the INFPs I invite on have a Enneagram type 4 slant, making their Fi more pronounced than it would be in an Enneagram type 9 INFP! So that could factor in as well. :)
Fi has earrings that rock individuality.
Objects: i am now addicted to crystals and stones
I have Never had addiction before!😄 I am older now so i thought i was immune to it. Nope! Lol😄... I'm finding its very difficult not to purchase them!💎📿👑💍💫💣⛏⛰🌋🗻🏔🗺🧲🔬 👏👏😅💕❤💞
I thought I was an infj but no hahaha I am this ladies
P shakes the status quo 🤠
Ne & Se are quick-witted with jokes
4w3 left the chat..🥴🥲
Can Kelsey dominate the conversation anymore... she kept tagging herself on everyone else’s input/turn, interrupting, and redirecting the attention to herself... is that typical of INFPs? I would have liked to hear a bit more from the other ladies. She speaks painfully slow and takes up a lot of time. She has great points to add but really...
I don't agree with this.