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Tbh there’s a TON of good reasons why I don’t want kids ever.

So genuine question guys why do people get with people who don't want kids are okay with it in the beginning and then change their mind did you even love the person to begin with cuz it's obvious you didn't and then you try to guilt them into thinking they have to have a kid with you that's wrong

We got divorced he didnt even help with the baby he kept whining wantinf another baby ahh men

Just tell your partner, you were kid once. Who take care of you when you were kid?

Thank you

FYI: The music is fine, but I think you need to "duck" it, which means add an equalizer effect on the music track and drop the frequency that your voice is on, so your narration can poke through. Lots of TH-cam tutorials on audio/music ducking! Changed my music game when I learned how to do this. Anyway thanks for the useful stat in the beginning!

The information is useful, but the music is a distraction.

This is a no compromise issue! It needs to be talked about before you even develop an emotional bond with one another! I would almost say it should be discussed on the first date so that time isn't wasted!

I never cared either way. My wife is infertile she wants to have a baby with my sperm and another woman's egg. I was shocked and replied we already have one of those. I have a kid from an ex, my wife is a good mom. The problem is she is 46 and I'm 50😮. WTH

Get rid of the music, it is hard to listen to this due to it!

Moment of silence for those whose partner doesn't want a kid

This is a valid reason to break up. Best not to keep hanging on. The partner should not be pressured, either, otherwise they will not be in it with their heart.

Looking for somw advice. Me and boyfriend have beem together 4 years, both 19. I love kids and am pretty sure I want them but not an absolute yes. Boyfriend is totally on the fence but leaning towards nor wanting kids. Not interested in breaking up and we are in committed relationship, at same college, met the famil, etc. I don't know what to do if he decides in a few years that he doesn't want kids after all.

I’m 41 and I have two daughters, 12 and 2 years old. My husband and I wanted also a boy but it didn’t happen. I had a second very bad pregnancy with cervix incompetence and was in the hospital for 3 month because of preterm birth danger for the child. Thank God she made it till 36+2 weeks and is healthy. But I saw so many other women who had not that much luck. All the mothers their suffering traumatised me and I can’t risk another pregnancy.

I am pregnant now and he left me without asking or letting me know He went to his country in algeria and left me here in dubai and in from Philippines now i ask him that i should go with him he keeps saying his done

I'm 24, husband is 34. We have been married for over 2 years, been together for 4. When we were dating he said he wanted 2 kids but now he says he doesn't want any. Now what?

I decided to finish two relationship because of that. Please men if you don't want kids don't waste the time. Also if you wanted and later said that a child it is expensive don't waste my time.

that first question really gets me. I see three kids and fun family time! I have two now and afraid to have a third. This was very helpful thank you.

My partner already has a child from previous relationship and I don’t. I’m in a stage in my life where I desperately want a baby and he says he’s not ready. I’m 30yrs and I feel like my life is on hold. I want to move on but I love him

Then you should either accept that he does not want children and live childless or leave him because what you both want in incompatible. I tend to be flexible with the idea of children but would prefer not to have them as they are expensive and mean no more wild random adventures at last minute,

Kind of just seems like you're pushing folks toward considering having another child. This isn't super neutral. It would've been helpful to offer considerations for years into the future that don't involve children to counter some of the language. "who do you see sitting around your Thanksgiving table" is difficult to envision if you don't have an additional child yet. It would've been helpful to consider, "What kind of gatherings do you see yourself being happiest at in the future, large full fun family gatherings or intimate cozy get togethers."

Yes samething my husband doesn’t want to have a baby so I don’t because all i want us to have a baby I’m just felt bad because he doesn’t want a baby!! I don’t want us break up but I have to do something

A traumatic birth experience is one of those things that holds one back from going down that road again 😢

Birth control has completely messed everything up. It has destroyed everything.

I wanna date but as time goes on there’s that talk about kids and I do not want anymore. Whoever I date, I’ll do whatever I can for her, be there, be loyal etc.. but having kids is where I draw the line.

It so helpful.

I have 1 daughter. I don't know whether I want another one or not. When you said how do I see myself 20 years later. I don't see family or children. I see myself at the top of my career. Nothing else. I feel sorry that I see this way. I guess I shouldn't have anymore babies 😭

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Finally a good explanation thank you

Most people are just bad at choosing a partner. For both women and men, it really comes down to what you want from a relationship. You have to make your intentions clear from the start.

Break up. Not only are you putting your partners in danger your putting your kids in danger too thinking they’re gonna save your marriage but that’s not their job there’s 8 billion people in the world anyway it’s not like they’re the only one. Be smart about this don’t get your feelings in the way.

Love this video helps alot

My partner and I both started as "maybes" when we first started dating four years ago. Unfortunately we have both gradually moved to complete opposite positions on this topic. It's heartbreaking because I think we have to end the relationship over it. Everything else in the relationship is great and she is the most amazing woman.... But I fear resentment on both sides.

I'm currently in the opposite situation my husband wants another child and I'm not so keen on having another one yet it's not that I don't want another child I do but I want to be able to give our first all the attention

I am a rainbow baby

I currently have a 16 year old and a 3 year old. Big age gap right? And I'm really wanting one more precious blessing. My husband and I are 35. But I just think the bigger the family, the better. But then I have wants to my own private time. I'm so torn.

When my partner and I met we both had kids and neither of us ever thought we would want more kids. As Our relationship grew and became stronger I found myself wanting to have another child. It took me too long to express my feelings about it. Originally he said he wasn’t open to it but over the last year he has said he is considering it and finds himself “theoretically” wanting to have another child. Now that I see the option may be possible I have found the yearning to have a baby with him becoming more and more strong. I think he’s only like 60/40 70/30 about it but I am like 90/10. I don’t know what to do with my feelings during this period of time. I get so emotional and feel such a longing and I can’t set it aside. I know I want to be with my partner more than this longing (I think I know this). I am so confused.

I am so grateful to have found your channel

Am 49, shes 40 we just met 6 months ago. Both of us have grown up kids. She wants a baby from me and thats like a non stop night mare.

This issue has really brought my dating life to a halt. I strongly believe that I never want kids.. my last 3 serious relationships have all ended due to the fact that the women couldn't see a life with me without starting a family.. I'm starting to feel like I have to either live My life alone or I will have to put my views aside and have a child because the person I love wants one as Im feeling like I won't really find someone that shares my views.

People who make the decision to have sex which should between a husband and a wife should be wise enough to understand the possibility of becoming a parent and be open to that . Not everything in our lives can be controlled and there are severe consequences to our decisions .

I am in the middle of my heart breaking abortion. I keep weeping. I don’t even want to be with my partner anymore. Just because he didnt own up and became a protector of our purest love. To me that has been completely uncomforting. I don’t feel like I love this person anymore. And now my dream of marrying him has vanished. I really regret not having my baby right now. I am also regreting being in this relationship. I didnt think I was wasting my time. And I thought aborting was going to make us happy, but now I feel so bad. I don’t want to be in this. I am so hurt. I feel rejected and like a piece of meat. This man is not for me.

Your the best giving advices, thank you very much

That’s why I left my partner’s they didn’t like kids and I love kids I can’t be with someone that doesn’t want the same thing as me, I am married to a amazing man that loves kids like me and before I met him I never really wanted kids because of how toxic my ex partners were, but now that I’m married to someone that loves children and isn’t toxic towards me I want a kid and want to start a beautiful family but for now I only want (1) child ❤️and in the future 2, after 2 I think I’ll be done ❤️

this is one of those bitch until i get what i want , and women call it counseling things.

I'm 35 now and we were together since I was in my 20s. It was always later later later. Now he has accomplished little and still has a grand future. My dad is dying and won't see his grandchildren. I don't want a damaged child bc of my maternal age. This has destroyed me and he doesn't understand. I have nothing. I feel like I'm going to die.

I want to have a baby but I'm concerned about money 😭 I'm 23 and have been married for 2 years with my hubby. I was thinking maybe we should wait after our vow renewal ceremony and honey moon, but now I'm thinking different because I want a big family. Soo do I start now? But I have no money ? Help.

If you disagree on progeny, you need to break up. Simple.

I feel hopeless been with my girlfriend since 2016 until know and nothing yet I feel like she don't want nothing with me seriously I want at least 1 child get married and be a good dad and good provider to them be happy but I dought that will ever happen idk what's going through her mind she just works works and we hardly see each other unless it's a Friday and she doesn't work.. I feel like loser I really love her with all my heart but idk I don't want to leave her and look again and start over again tired of that.. she's a good women and loves me well I hope so but idk I want a child and be happy I can't force her to anything she don't want to do.. Al keep trying with her hopefully god sends us a baby if not then I won't try anymore real simple

I can’t say this enough guys, if you don’t know you want kids get a vasectomy. Better then her using birth control and it’s reversible. Otherwise you are highly at risk of getting into something you don’t want. kids don’t come with a return policy.