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Because he's TRASH, that's why he does it.

Summary/ Overview: Key ideas in Set Boundaries, Find Peace 00:00 Introduction 01:27 1 Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries. 02:31 1 Healthy relationships need healthy boundaries. Boundaries, 6st -Physical - body and personal space. -Sexual - limiting inappropriate conversation topics, sexually charged jokes. -Intellectural - opinions -Emotional - feelings -Material - -Time - 04:37 2 Most relationship problems are caused by boundaries that are either too porous or too rigid. Porous - people pleasing, codependence, enmeshment. Reclaim your autonomy insteed. Rigid - inability vulnerability. 07:47 3 Setting healthy boundaries requires clear communication and consistent action. Assertive, forego with/ be 'modelling'. 10:49 4 Dealing with boundary violations means issuing a consequence. 13:44 5 Healthy boundaries are also about having a good relationship with yourself. Ex: how you spend your money and eat. Self-care, authenticity. Say no when you dont have time, and things you dont like so you have more time to say yes to things you 'like'. 16:44 6 Setting boundaries with family is part of the process of becoming an adult. Distance, how often you see and phone eachother, emotional distance, distance intimate details and personal life. Practice asserting your will, solve your own problems, make own decisions, express your opinion, self-autonomy. Both ways. 19:43 7 Setting boundaries in the office is essential for enjoying your work and doing a good job. 22:31 8 Setting romantic boundaries means clearly communicating your needs and your expectations for the future. 25:50 Summary, steps: 1 identify the areas in your relationsships where you feel you need clearer boundaries 2 assert your needs to the person as confidently and straightforwardly as possible 3 deal maturely with whatever discomfort ensues from setting your boundary. it will only be awkward if you make it awkward. 4 back up your boundary if necessary by restating it or issues a consequence. -plan what you want to say in advance. 27:12 Exercise: 3 columns, 3x1 1st boundaries you want to implement 2nd polite but assertive statements expressing your boundary 3rd consequences that you could realistically enact if your boundary isnt honored www.blinkist.com/en/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-en

I hope this will help me go. He’s in the other room after kicking me out my sanctuary ‘the bathroom’ as no lock after kicking it off. ‘The shower being switched on was your queue to get TF out’. Yeah, been tormenting me for 48 hours now after I paid £2400 for car repairs. ME. Like HE paid it! (He don’t work). Anyway, I’ll be buying this book now.

I've seen my mother date this type of man when i was a young boy. It was mostly emotional abuse but no abuse should be tolerated. Please find a way to leave if you can.

Was recommended by a narcissist even though I'm a Straight guy apparently only real men are narcissists

Just finished the book today and this 30 minute summary helps to compress the contents to some extend thanks.

In summary: the British Empire was 'neither entirely bad, nor entirely good', but left the world much better off in nearly every respect than if it had never existed. Its failings were the failings of all other contemporaneous empires with which it competed, while its achievements in medicine, science, technology, education, finance & economics, law & justice, incorruptible administration, and in developing concepts like individual rights, representative government, and rule of law, constituted a significant leap forward in human civilisation.

This guy is a shill.

Why does SHE do that ?

This is what my wife says I am. She’s even listening to this audiobook. I wonder why though. I keep to myself. We barely talk. Or speak to each other. We’re like ghosts in a house. So I don’t know why she says I’m this. I’m not abusive at all. I’d love to love her but she keeps my at a distance. I feel some women who do something wrong in the relationship will tend to make the man out to be a narcissist to make the wrong doing justifiable. I think she’s actually the narcissist for acting like nothing happened. And continuing to throw shade at me. Crazy thing she’s listening to this! Most likely brainwashed by her other wrong doing wife friends.

It was validating to hear this from a male voice. So many just tell us we're garbage.

WOW!! Thank you very much for preparing this video on such advanced scientific theories. Truly helpful. Greatly appreciated!

I've just finished the book 15 min ago. I think it's a very good book, very well written and entertaining. It gives you a general overview of economic thinking history, so you won't see any charts or formulas here. It is not economic history, so you won't find why certain civilizations collapsed. Great for both students in economics and curious outsiders.

just grateful I was able to see the abuse clearly before I married him

Thank you very much ❤

Niall Ferguson is one of my favorite authors, I’m enthralled that this is one of his books.

Plagiarism from Blinkist.

Are you in an abusive relationship? Early warning signs. If you’re an adult, then tolerating tiny abuses WILL damage your soul. BUYER BEWARE. Abuse at first sight…RUN.

😮safely exit ladies, atleast those of you who has options i dont yet anyway

Good explanation on the family business. Not only did they make money in banking but it’s important to note that the most profitable part of their business was loaning money to governments to finance wars and imperialism. It’s not a myth but a FACT that they strongly influenced politicians and European politics.

I think most men are abusers and the cycle will continue because they don’t have any good role models

My abusive ex used this book to abuse me, took trained therapists to save me from it

Just ordered.

Well done

Considering the sheer amount of information this book holds, this 30 minute summary isn't half bad. Gets the biggest ideas at least.

Very easy to read any time of day you can pick it up and open to any page. Lundy has heard the same stories over and over from counseling abusive men each page tells a story similar to your circumstances. It's like a devotional.

You narrate so good I don't even have to read them 😂 Joking, I might actually read some of these that I find really interesting.

This book helped break me out of the "I can fix him, he's a good guy deep down I swear" spell that my abusive ex-husband had me under. I wish I had read it sooner, but I'm glad I have the knowledge now.

This book is 100% trash. Absolutely terrible. Do not recommend!

I hate the most the mood swings they have.

The title says 30 minutes. The video is 19 minutes. You have first lied.

All the talk of blinks. Leads me to a certain this is ripped, Otherwise known as stolen from blinkest

I am interested in your comparison of this book vs "Help for High-Conflict Couples."

I was excited to watch but the voices are annoying 😑. Next...

Right it’s not because you’re not the dream girl it’s because he is entitled me wants power over you.

Jordan B. Peterson ... NOT D. !!!!!!!!!! watch your steps

My ex got jealous when he saw me talking to my cousin.

So basically….sounds like Lundy is describing an addict and that abuse is a lifelong addiction. They are addicted to abusing. Functioning drug addicts/functioning alcoholics = do their best to conceal their addiction. Same goes with abusers= Mr good guy into everyone outside the house but a terror at home. street angels, home devils. So to conclude, addicts cannot be helped unless they kick the addiction which is unlikely.

I’ve read this book along with Dragonslippers (Rosalind B. Penfold). Both are very compelling and informative.

I just came across your channel and finished listening to a couple of videos. I've got no idea how you have less than 4K subs. These are really high quality summaries.

I don't know how to read

I will read this later

I wish I would have read this book 45 years ago.

Incredible how they can compress a 30 minute summary into less than 20 minutes!

Oh my goodness, this was my wife and my ex and my mum. Crikeys, I even recognize it in my sister. Thinking about it, it's no wonder so many more men are on the streets, failing school, losing their kids and committing suicide .. no support and being falsely accused as the abuser, which I reckon would make anyone look angry (men tend not to use the tears). It's a terrible thing to promote 'abuse' as a gender issue .. that is antiquated and damaging. Research shows, as men knew anyway, that women are more abusive and instigate physical abuse.

This guy is pretty self-absorbed lol

This book helped me soooo much after my divorce and has helped me recognize red flags quickly. ❤

excellent presentation and very informative, thank you

In Hayek's Constitution of Liberty 🗽 the very first thing he talks about in chapter 1 is coercion and restraint. How would he feel about mental health services being used for social control by central government under the guise of medicine to fool people?