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Thank you, that was helpful 😊

Brilliant explanation!!! ❤❤❤

4:45 It's important to point out that when we are rationalizing our actions, we aren't coming up with logical reasons why we did something, but logical reasons why we imagine we did something. It's very subtle but an important difference.

Thank you so much ❤❤

Thank you for your beautiful and clear explanation.

Thank you for sharing this. I'm practised in Focusing, as I was blessed to work with an Emotion Focused therapist. I am sharing your videos with the clients I'm working with now, as a meditation teacher. Namaste - the highest in me bows to and thanks the highest in you. 🙂❤️

Thank you💚

Thanks for making this series. It's been really enlightening to watch, and very interesting. I'd be keen to know if you have written up this process, and if it is available anywhere? 😊

Bless you for sharing as such. Such a gift. And Helpful. Thank you! I actually processed with you with a parallel-type situation and had a great process with insight and more.

excellent

Amazing! My felt sense was abandonedment of self and anger/rage about it!

There are tons of classes in Focusing through the Focusing Institute, btw. Many are quite inexpensive.

Hi, thank you for this. Focusing is the best! I just feel a need to point out something quite crucial: Gendlin and his fellow researchers did NOT find that it was important that the THERAPIST listen to the client. That was exactly what was so disturbing and shocking to them at first, because that was the assumption which was shattered by the research. That assumption was the whole basis of Carl Rogers' work. The research revealed that IT DIDN'T MATTER what the therapist did, but that successful CLIENTS already came into therapy with a certain skill. It was devastating, but Rogers told Gendlin "The truth is always friendly." So Gendlin studied what the CLIENTS who were successful were doing. It was the CLIENT'S skill that Gendlin named Focusing (originally he called it Experiential Focusing) and he began to teach that to people (not to therapists particularly, since they aren't actually needed) in the 70's. That was what was revolutionary. Focusing doesn't require a therapist at all, although every therapist needs it.

Thank you for sharing this deeply personal demonstration. It was extremely helpful.

I'd like more by Melissa on Focusing and somatics in general

I've watched the first two videos and am happy to find these--I was introduced to Focusing many years ago and your demo brings it home. I'd like to see more of what you're doing as a therapist and more on focusing. thanks!!

Good job. Really helpful in tandem with the book. Now the book instructions make more sense.

This is such a great description of how to drop in with focusing. I like the process of sitting with the sensation and then asking the body if it agrees.

Synchronicity that they texted :)

Hello, just wanted to express my gratitude to you both for this and your other series I’ve recently come across. This is beautiful work, a d beautifully delivered. Thankyou so much for this welcoming and educative space 👏🏼

So Excited to see this page go up! Your Friend from Georgetown, KY

Just finish my EMDR training and this information was a great intro to couple EMDR therapy. Thank you. Would love more content about this topic.

Thank you 🙏 you discuss here so much that is really interesting :)

That’s a very clear and detailed description. Thank you

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Beautiful ❤

It's helpful to see you track your situation in real time. When you say you sit with certain reactions or thoughts, what technique are you doing to keep focused on it?

Hi I have been into focusing for a while. At the beginning you start with gendlins research which discovered that certain " clients" seemed to be more in touch etcetc not the " master clinician"!!! Sorry just making a point

I can watch this video over and over and always learn something new. Thank you!

I’ve been doing focusing a few years, and this is amongst the best and most concise tutorials I’ve found so far Thanks 🙏🏼

very good thank you

Is there a demo we can watch and see how this works please?

Thank you! Very "layered" painful, a lot of shifting, ending with a very "expanding" sensation. I will continue to practice.😁

What is with the talking over one another?

I could feel this in my own body even though virtual. It's not as strong as it would be in the room and yet, it demonstrates that it is possible to experience another person's energy through cyber space.

I am a licensed CPC-INT and just finished the first half of my EMDR Basic training. I am just amazed by this process, Thank you so much for doing this episode on couples it was extremely informative and helpful for me and I am sorry not more people have commented on it. I am grateful to you all for putting this together and look forward to more EDMR content.

Thank you for the discussion about whether a person can make another person "feel" a certain way. I, too, have always felt something was "off" about the phrase, "No one can make you feel anything." It happened just this morning. My reaction was yeah, " that's psychobabble that I didn't really believe." So, thank you for making neuroceptive meaning and affirming the fact that my body felt the discomfort of my interactions with another human. Now, I have an answer for that much taught and used phrase. There are other things that have just felt "off" to me as a therapist. I'm learning there are more whole-brain answers that often fill in the gap.

What is the article that Caleb mentions?

Thanks for sharing about your shoulder, Melissa. I’m asking myself some of those questions now.

Fascinating. I did feel it in my own body.

Like the new intro music❤

Hi! I love BHC :) been an avid listener/viewer since discovering Notice That a few months ago. Can I push for bi-monthly releases pleeeease?!?! My patience is lacking. My hunger for knowledge is intense 😅Thanks!

A month of EMDR training at BHC?? Duh, no brainer!

I have been listening to this podcast for about a year, and it’s really impacted my work with clients using EMDR. I did my EMDR basic training with Annie and Anne - and I was so excited to see them on one of my favorite podcasts. I’m so grateful for these resources.

Very interesting. Thank you

Thank you Jen and Ryan for sharing yourselves. Tremendous heartfelt conversation.

Love this. Expecting a specific intervention or modality seems to be the antithesis of SIP. And that frustration of not having one that some may feel also could be a strategy. 😊love all that you guys are doing!!

I have heard of microphenomenology and have experienced it once but without knowing the procedure. The unfolding is very helpful. I loved Melissa's hypothesis at the end and how this had deeper resonance with Caleb. Amazing how the body communicated a lifetime within one moment. Oh! To have that nugget to reflect on as a metaphor for experiences. Thank you for being willing to share your experience, Caleb. I love these visual lessons!! Nice to SEE you too!😊

Haha I think there is a British detective show called Hinterlands 😂😂

These visuals are so helpful. The ice cream and dog story (from previous video) help to illustrated what left brain "story" sounds like vs. right brain sensory/somatic/embodied experiencing. I just watched these today and started using the concepts as I listened to story vs. state. I could literally see that Time Line as a client was fixed on the top layer of story. I began to look for the lines under the story. I also saw the loops in my head. I'm not new to this rodeo either. This series is making concepts come to life for me. Thanks Melissa and Caleb. #1 Fan here!😊