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ADHD and PTSD brains actually look very similar, so yeah! There is a huge overlap here, such as: Executive functioning issues, attention, anxiety, etc.

Much love! 🥰

Right back at you!

Think of the 9 suggestions like a buffet- Take what works, leave the rest. If your inner critic voice is very strong, I would recommend the stepping stone affirmation first!

@@bygloriazhang will try that, thanks for replying 🥰

@@stellachong2517 You’re most welcome bestie 🙏💜

@@juliaklimentowski4976 Right back at you bestie 💜

Yesss!! So many of us blame ourselves, and forget that we exist in a bigger ecosystem. Thanks for taking the time to drop some love, bestie!

You're welcome bestie!

Hugs~ We can learn from every experience, best wishes to you bestie and thanks for your kind words!

Much love to you!

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There's no "one size fits all" for everyone unfortunately, we are all different humans and have different things that work for us. So your experience is valid too. That being said, therapy/coaching CAN be helpful for many people who have benefitted- Especially when you find the right fit (which is the hardest part!)

@@favorite_angel90 I prefer heels when going out at night, and sandals during the day 💜 No need to sacrifice glam and comfort/ you can have both!

@bygloriazhang I do the same but I was laughing at myself because healed and unhealed are totally different from heeled and unheeled 🤣😂

@@favorite_angel90 Oh LOL… I totally misunderstood your comment 😂😂😂 That’s so funny though!

You know that people can see this dynamic with their parents and make an effort to change??

So because the dad left his child the child doesn't deserve love?

@@freyathewolf hmmmmm. In America, slightly over half ofmarriages end in divorce. Most people know that statistic. Here’s the one no one wants to talk about. 80% of divorces are initiated by women. “Irreconcilable differences“. There is the very occasional case of abuse. Or extreme narcissism. Although you would never know it, the way those words get thrown around on the Internet. Society expectation is that men will sacrifice their happiness in order to take care of their family. I think we can agree on that. Slightly more uncomfortable to agree on the fact that society not only expects but pretty much encourages women to destroy their families and significantly impact the life of their children, if they’re unhappy. Basically, a lot of marriages out there are failing because women think they have better options and they decide to try and exercise them. What happens afterwards? Not so good by any measure.

@@freyathewolf more than 80% of divorces are initiated by women. Men aren’t leaving their children… Women are taking them away from fathers. That’s not your feelings. That is just plain math.

@@freyathewolf most divorces are initiated by women. Men aren’t the one leaving families. It’s the other way around.

Of course. An absent father can cause feelings of worthlessness (because as a child, it feels like 'if I was better my dad would be here') and then when guys DO give you attention it can make you feel like that means you are not worthless. Some people will get attention from as many people as possible just so they can feel like they are valuable. But usually the wrong types of guys take advantage of that unfortunately

@@eevee2411well said!

YES 100%… In my earliest podcast episode I talk about “Father Wounds” (also known as “daddy issues”). You can find it on The inner child podcast on Spotify/Apple- since I don’t have my season 1 episodes on TH-cam!

@@no_thank_you_o7763 happily married over here 💍 If this doesn’t apply to you specifically that’s a great thing 😍 My audience however, struggles with emotionally unavailable men and this one is for them!

@@bygloriazhang being married doesn’t really mean much in my book. I would not have an issue if you’re advice was tailored to a specific situation but it isn’t, you are presenting your advice as a guide for relationships and even worse making it seem like idk a way to “own” the other party. Real life situations are never as simple as this and presenting it as such is misleading at best. Lots of advice you can give that can help a lot of people but this isn’t that.

@@no_thank_you_o7763 Again, if this isn’t for you then you’re welcome to move on 💜 There’s only so much context we can include in a 30 second clip… For full context, you can explore the full podcast

@@bygloriazhang okay let me be more clear since you don’t seem to understand my issue. You are simplifying the complex reality of relationships to the point where you’re “advice” is completely useless for actually navigating relationships. This advice doesn’t apply to me because I don’t do romantic relationships in the first place but I still think this just hurts people who actually want a healthy relationship.

I think what she's showing in this video here is that if you are looking for a relationship and someone says they're not ready, you can't change their mind by being the 'perfect girlfriend'. You should believe them when they say they don't want a relationship. And maybe if they change your mind and let you know they're ready now, you will still be open to it. But you can't change their mind by your actions, so it's better in that moment to say 'hey so I'm looking for a relationship, you aren't, so I guess we are not on the same page right now'.

@@destinychan1055 Sorry!! 🙏🙏💜

@@waad116 enjoy it 💜

For real, girl!! The worst feeling in the world... When the person says everything you've always wanted to hear... But then the voice inside your head says ".. It's a lie". This is exactly that "unlovable" feeling I love helping people change!

@@claudinecocos5749 My pleasure bestie! What did you take away from this? 💜

@@christywinegarden281 Glad it hit home 💕💕

Thanks Claudine, glad it was helpful ❤❤ I’m a big fan of you bestie!

@@bygloriazhang your podcast is such a big help! I will continue supporting you, always! 🩷

@@claudinecocos5749 Gracias 🥹🥹 Any special requests I can create for a future episode?

@@bygloriazhang I wanna learn how to trust people again after being disappointed with almost everyone. I am so scared to be in a relationship and I feel like I don’t know how to convey my real feelings towards people. I am scared to open up and just bottle up everything🥹

Hey bestie!! Thanks Michelle- It's such a fun topic, and we should definite make some more episodes on the "bad bitch". What exactly do you want to learn more about though?

Thanks for taking the time to c leave a comment, and I’m so glad it was helpful ❤❤

Your comment made ME cry girl ❤❤ I’m so glad you’re here, and welcome to the community ❤❤

Right back at you bestie ❤❤ welcome to the community!!

Just saw this now ❤❤ thanks for being here since basically the beginning!! Welcome to the bestie club

@@bygloriazhang I had a beautiful moment Monday night. It relates to thee radiolab podcast Emergence. I’ll Finish this story another time. I gotta go. Goodnight.

@@bygloriazhang​​⁠I love the hearts you be dropping on my comments. Thank you. I just wanted to finish up my story about Monday. I was feeling down Monday. I’d explain more but that feels more like a one on one session. Found This zoom meeting, about enduring thru crisis. We talked about roles in an emergency. I have been in a mental breakdown emergency for several years now, including a 6 month situationship. I remembered the radiolab episode about emergence. The sudden alignment of a society to do the right thing, like ants finding the best path to a food source. Humans also do it to. But I realized in an emergency I get the adrenaline rush and focus and become like a super hero, like many of our hard working nurses and firefighters. To clarify I fix semi trucks. What got me was learning that I Other people said they freeze up in an emergency. I realized I’ve been in a mental emergency situation for several years. and have had tremendous anxiety about wanting to get something done and it’s been exhausting myself as there isnt an easy obvious physical solution. I put two and two together and realized I could just relax and freeze up to help me from downing in anxiety. My brain can be my best friend or worst enemy. The other thing I wanted to point out. I was entirely spooked out Friday night. I Was in Chicagos Humboldt park at Esmeralda’s as their guest abstract artist. I bummed a lighter across the street to smoke some CBD. And in the crowd I met a man recovered from 25 years of jail time from a faulty accusation. I’m always up for ideas to paint and his idea was an utter shock to my system. I struggle with suicidal idealizations. And I heard your episode recently #140 I stopped people pleasing. This guy suggested a painting of him as a paladin night killing his old self a balor Daemond from lord of the rings. I am always up for ideas to paint, but I’m an abstract artist so whatever rhythm I get into my hands just create. I made a beautiful vase painting that was supposed to be Mickey Mouse. I stupidly sold my golden goose for $100. Anyway, sometimes Daemons show up in my paintings and they spook me out when I’m looking at them later. Most of the time I find lovers, fish and birds. But yeah, someone said paint me a daemon and I’m like ok, cringe, oh of you killing yourself, cringe cringe. I should have taken your advice and just said no. But I thrive to live in my uncomfort zone so I did it. And it’s beautiful. Anyway, I’d love to meet you one day. As I’m an overachiever and you are so cool and I’d love love love to get a suggestion of something to paint. I’ve already made, from suggestions, a dragon, “Mickey mouse” and daemon. My instagram has my art if you wanna take a look it’s kyle_isle_art. Ok bye!

Hiya! What do you mean by longer timeline?

OMG Gloria, thank you so much for your live answer, I loved it, a thousand thank yous, it makes a lot of sense <3

@@claudiadias7800You’re welcome Claudia, hope it gave you some clarity! And thank YOU for inspiring a great conversation ❤

I’m glad to hear my dear ❤❤

I’m glad you’re receiving a different kind of love now ❤❤

Wowza, thank you so much for the kind words ❤❤ I hope you enjoy the latest episodes!

May the force be with you sis ❤❤❤❤

My pleasure!

You got it, bestie ✨

Much love to you too, bestie! Thanks for the lovely message

Thanks for the feedback Valencia, our animator is totally awesome!

Hey Gerafina! What does what start? Let me know and I hope I can answer your question!

@@bygloriazhang when do you start answering your question: is he love bombing or is he a nice person? The intro is so long I give up before you start answering...

@@gerafinali4384 The entire episode provides really important base information since podcasts are in-depth content, but that's what the timestamp chapters are there for :) Skip to 09:56

Ending a 15 year marriage, broken leg, job shift after failed career shift, being a father, caring for my 94 year old grandpa, currently retreated back at my seperated wife’s house. I’m draining all my resources to stay positive. But, it feels like jolts of deep dark reality seep thru about 10% of the time. But when I broke my leg 3 weeks ago, that’s changed to about 95% darkness. Not working or caring for my grandpa. I’m just shut down, glued to my phone. Or listening to music. I don’t wanna talk about it at all. The fear of boring someone. Or obliged to have to pay them to hear me out, feels wasteful. 24:44.

Welcome my love, thanks for being here!