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MaryTabor's unimaginable lightness of being
When I read anything by Mary Tabor, I do it slowly. Deliberately. I liken the experience to being deeply engrossed in a 5000 piece, handcrafted jigsaw puzzle, each piece just as important and gorgeous as the final image. But there’s more. Solving this puzzle will reveal something I’ve never known about life, so while I must go slowly, there’s also an urgency. I know I speak in metaphor but I’ve spent days trying to find the exact words to describe the incomparable experience of reading Mary. It will change you. You will make discoveries. You will feel her own necessary vulnerability hand-in-hand with your own. Her words will guide you along the vertiginous cliff of love, loss and uncertainty with an assured hand that says “It’s painful, but that very pain will save you.”
Mary’s Substack Only Connect is a confluence of her spanning knowledge and experience as an author, professor, radio show host, and columnist, where she shares her serialized memoir (Re)Making Love, fiction, and essays about the arts, books, movies, and all things literary. “Only Connect” is the epigraph to E.M. Forster’s Howard's End and she claims it’s the best advice she ever got, living this truism not only through nurturing intimacy with writers on Substack but also through her staggering ability to weave together stories of her own pain and seemingly disparate subjects and literary forms. Mary is a one-woman light show of synaptic connections and it was an honor to join the shimmering display for an hour to learn more about her creative process, why she believes writing is a journey of self-discovery and how to find levity in the face of heartbreak and the unknown.
Mary is also “accidentally funny,” and in between Mary’s poised, wisdom-sharing, we burst into fits of laughter, so get ready to learn, feel inspired, and smile.
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Alisa Kennedy Jones Sings the Brain Electric
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Alisa is one smart, witty, electrifying cookie. I started reading her two columns The Empress and Gotham Girl early last year and learned very quickly to not have liquids nearby while reading. She is a one woman, laugh-out-loud, tragicomedy act and infuses her work with infectious, tinkering curiosity, humility and self-compassion that might just be the #1 super-smoothie to getting through life...
Chloe Hope's Sacred Everything
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Sharing time with Chloe this past month felt like a forest bath, a Maranasti “death awareness” meditation, and an expanse of dancing fireflies. I found myself numerous times throughout our conversations wanting to reach into the computer screen and bear hug her beautiful existence as she discussed her work as an end-of-life doula, a baby bird carer, and the way these two extremes demand the gif...
Troy Ford's Inclusive and Inviting Nest
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Windows and mirrors are often used to describe the diversity, or lack of, found in media and how stories can portray social group characteristics like culture, race, religion, disability, gender, or sexual orientation. After spending a much-too-short hour last week with Mr. Troy Ford exploring everything from writer’s block and mental health to toxic masculinity and creating inclusive narrative...
Bertus' Beautiful Brain
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Interviews aren’t supposed to be this fun. My conversation with Bertus felt more like hanging out in a sandbox with an old friend, making castles and then destroying them with just as much delight. But describing my sandbox mate is a bit of a challenge, and I think he prefers it this way. Bertus Meijer is an imaginative, free-spirited, deeply intelligent polymath whose spanning creativity is bo...
Ben Wakeman's Memory of My Shadow
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Today’s interview is with author Ben Wakeman, a brilliant and stirring author and musician whose songs, short stories, essays, novels, and immersive audio, to name a few, explore deeply thought-provoking themes. For the sake of our Unfixed audience, in this interview I explore his serialized speculative fiction novel Memory of My Shadow, a gripping tale of technological advancement, human emoti...
Unfixed Mind - trailer
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In 2023, Unfixed Media and Health Story Collaborative, created a four-part, limited series, The Unfixed Mind: Navigating Mental Health Today, chronicling the real-life stories of six people living with mental health conditions. The mini-series aimed to provide these individuals an opportunity to authentically share their experiences and capture the humanity and genuine complexity of navigating ...
Unfixed Mind: Facing Tomorrow
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In episode 4, Ava, Jacob, Dior, Kyle, Ricky, and Cissy reflect on where they have been and where they are going. They share about what their “rock bottom” looked like, and about coping tools they have developed along the way. They share their thoughts on what living “better” feels like, and on what they hope for in the future. How do we live our “best” lives in the face of inevitable struggle? ...
Unfixed Mind: Relationships and Mental Health
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In episode 3, cast members Jacob, Ava, Dior, Cissy, Kyle, and Ricky talk with honesty about relationships, and specifically about navigating them while living with a mental health condition. They touch on topics such as disclosing a diagnosis to a new friend or partner, and about learning who is truly there for us and who isn’t. They reflect on fear, vulnerability, trust, boundaries, loving and...
Unfixed Mind: Facing and Transforming Stigma
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In episode 2, Facing and Transforming Stigma, cast members Ava, Jacob, Ricky, Kyle, and Dior address the stigma of mental illness. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal misperceptions about mental health-the pain, the loneliness, the shame and the importance of learning how to embrace our personal stories and feel proud of who we are despite such challenges. An Unfixed and Health S...
Unfixed Mind: Living with Mental Health Challenges
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In the first episode of Unfixed Mind: Living with Mental Health Challenges, six individuals-Cissy, Ava, Ricky, Kyle, Dior and Jacob-share their experiences with mental health diagnoses. They explore how it feels to live with their unique challenges and reflect on identity, growing up, diagnostic labels and self-acceptance. An Unfixed and Health Story Collaborative co-production The 988 Lifeline...
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Unfixed Mind - Cissy
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Sex, Hugs, and the Chronic Toll
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Life & Leah - part 4
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Why We Matter - Brian N.
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  • @TeresaRoquemore-l2m
    @TeresaRoquemore-l2m 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes that is what I am seeking education

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Powerful story - especially love hearing the perspective and support of Rene's kids. 💛

  • @kimlec3592
    @kimlec3592 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Relationship starvation is real. It is a cause of anxiety, depression & loneliness. See Abraham Maslow. When humans have unmet needs for love & belonging, health suffers. No one is mentally ill. The circumstances of their life can cause all sorts of havoc when the human needs for relationship & emotional safety are not met. It is actually very difficult to find people who are safe to talk to. Even some therapists put the blame on the relationally starved person. It is very hard to keep reaching out when you have the expectation you'll just be attacked again in the form of judgement or being labelled or being verbally abused.

  • @mrs.georgeglass3997
    @mrs.georgeglass3997 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    more like living with mental illness challenges, ending the mental illness stigma, maybe end the ideals of a man made standards of what mentally healthys expectations are, and how individuals aren't going to compartmentalize with blanket and text book definitions, its not logical, reasonable, or rational uncommon sense even!!! Saddest face ever how they're educated and deciding the best for what i know I've had more meaningful encounters with strangers, drunk in the dark then I've ever had with a paid professional.

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh my goodness, what a funny guy - love how he has forged forward with his art in the face of the challenges.

  • @WonderfulTruck-fi8lo
    @WonderfulTruck-fi8lo หลายเดือนก่อน

    fantastic!! Good video

  • @lovingnature1151
    @lovingnature1151 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your strength is Beautiful 🌻

  • @lovingnature1151
    @lovingnature1151 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where are the empathetic people at? ❤

  • @brotherjackkingjamesbible1611
    @brotherjackkingjamesbible1611 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is valuable!! if you were to turn off, or turn way down the music it would be better.

  • @janetohanesian7985
    @janetohanesian7985 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Brian has the best sense of humor !!! What a guy!!!!!

  • @SarahSodaPop
    @SarahSodaPop 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's so hard to live in a society where showing vulnerability is seen as a weakness and/or something to be ashamed of. Until we change how we view our own natural feelings and emotions, there will always be stigma/ judgment and shame when it comes to mental health or mental wellness and therefore people will continue to suffer in silence and alone. A lot lf people who are apparently educated in mental health don't even understand how isolating and debilitating it can be to struggle mentally.

    • @UnfixedCommunity
      @UnfixedCommunity 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're so right Sarah. Thank you for watching and chiming in.

    • @SarahSodaPop
      @SarahSodaPop 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@UnfixedCommunity you're welcome 💓

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Two of the most wonderful women I have the honor to call friends - great conversation, thank you! ❤❤💜💜💙💙

    • @UnfixedCommunity
      @UnfixedCommunity 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awww, thank you Troy!!!!!

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this metaphor of kintsugi and unfixed for people reclaiming their voices and their lives under such challenging circumstances. Rachelle's dancing is so beautiful - it was a wonderful to experience this.

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ha! I didn't know this was up here... :) xo

  • @Albort9121
    @Albort9121 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My friends don’t get it. I say I’m having a bad day with my pain and then they go “oh well I feel sick to but I’m at school” a cold and chronic stomach pain is extremely different

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Always so moving to me, especially suffering around the shame "What did I do to deserve this?" I know the feeling, it's terrible that anyone should carry that.

  • @alonakimhi5171
    @alonakimhi5171 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have so much to say to you guys after watching this, but all I can do is cry because of this deep sense of sisterhood/brotherhood you transact to me. I love you all and feel such specific mysterious details in common with each one of - my ‘memento mori’ tattoo, the death of my mother which slaughtered my life into ‘before’ and ‘after’. I’m a writer, a rather successful novelist here in Israel. At the time I started writing, it was against all odds - I was a struggling young actress with a reputation of someone with a psychiatric condition and suicidal cloud floating above her crazy blond hairdo. The writing though didn’t come easy as I (still you) like things to come and go, Therefore I suspect that there were some serious star constellations involved. But what can I say about all this ‘recovery’ trend today, from which I can’t figure out the practical actions one should take to get things going. Each time there’s this slogan jumps like jack on the box - saying that recovery means different things to different people, and I thought we wanted to minimize or even completely get rid of them and be free to love, make art, record music, write novels,have careers and make money for the rent, but also for an occasional pair of funky shoes. I listen to you guys carefully and I totally trust the experience you share with us, as well as giving us tips and directions how to save ourselves. I want to share with you that I always reached out for help, I’ve used the cervices of many good and less good psych doctors and even more cervices of all kinds of therapists, in which I invested all my faith and hope, and at this point of summing up my path through mental condition, I came to the conclusion that talking about your emotions, your pain, your helplessness, your privet fiery inferno in which you abide, brings no interesting wisdom or insight but definitely brings up a lot of useless distress and unsolvable and overused memories . I know I’m perceiving my ability to see things the way they are, in a slightly arrogant manner, but let’s face it guys - when push come to shove - no one can make a serious enquiry of your psyche. And often enough I discover that I’m coming to detest all the recommended activities that are supposed to ‘manage’ your condition. what does it even mean? I’m going now trough a severe depressive episode, and I’m holding my self not to start screaming so hard they’ll hear me at the Antarctica - all this ‘coping skills’ one can find in any old lifestyle magazine at your dentist’s waiting room. Fitness? Yoga? Heathy eating? Spending time in nature? Meeting with friends? Helpppppp! However, if all this resonates on any level, and if any of you has some thoughts on this matter, I shall be more grateful and to hear your ideas ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @alonakimhi5171
    @alonakimhi5171 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    P.S. I love the part about meeting the other clients of the therapist instead the therapist herself! Such a perfect idea❤

  • @alonakimhi5171
    @alonakimhi5171 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this incredible channel. Now that I’ve subscribed, I’m looking forward to your important and consoling content.

  • @micgarn3331
    @micgarn3331 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just came across channel thank you you spoke for me my feelings i couldn't accept re my health

  • @micgarn3331
    @micgarn3331 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    God bless you from eire❤

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such moving statements, in new ways we haven't seen before from the Unfixed members - there's a a kind of intimacy in speaking directly to their personified conditions.

  • @misterg2201
    @misterg2201 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🙏🙏🙏

  • @deannelehnertz-hansen2100
    @deannelehnertz-hansen2100 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing your stories 🕊💞

  • @deannelehnertz-hansen2100
    @deannelehnertz-hansen2100 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Having Love For Ourselves For Who We Are And The journey we've gone through is a blessing in our story to find inner peace and love🕊💞🙏

  • @fauna3989
    @fauna3989 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was very well put together and I appreciate hearing all of their stories. We are all out there in the world just trying to make it. ❤️👏

  • @louisetaylor6611
    @louisetaylor6611 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When I was in a wheelchair for only 6 weeks, I mourned who I use to be and was angry at myself for my accident. I wanted to be the person with energy, who can get things done and I missed it. Now I am better and no longer in a wheelchair. Whether it is a big accident or a temporary one it still changes you to understand more.

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Really powerful, brave souls. ⭐⭐💛💛⭐⭐

  • @b.bailey8244
    @b.bailey8244 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am so profoundly moved by this and look forward to the movie and to more from the unfixed community. My challenges are mental health ones. But when I see these beautiful people, my struggles disappear because you are all beacons of light, masters of living unfixed. Thank you from my heart. This is so different from the toxic positivity movement. This is real. It's what I've looked for my whole life; the courage and love of life here is so uplifting. Bless you all. Thank you from my heart and soul. You all give me hope that a different and kinder world is possible.

    • @UnfixedCommunity
      @UnfixedCommunity 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh bless you for sharing!!! Your comment brings tears to my eyes. I am so glad these voices bring you peace, they do me as well. We just wrapped a limited series on mental health specifically, you may want to check it out. If you scroll down through the playlists, you'll see a series titled Unfixed Mind. I think you'll find a lot of solidarity in the sharings. Wishing you much peace and gentle days ahead.

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂 This is lovely *and* poor cows/potato flakes!❤💚❤

  • @shilaba80
    @shilaba80 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am a chronically ill special needs mama with HSD, Dysautonomia, and MCAS with multiple more diagnoses! My son is medically complex with non verbal autism. I try not to even worry if people say anything. People are trying to be kind and if they say the wromg thing in the nocest way I try to educate if it is a high flare day I just say thank you and ignore it lol today os a reallh bad day! Feel guilt for calling my husband home from work because I am so sick today! 😢

  • @nancewarner5799
    @nancewarner5799 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So raw, so real! Thank you for putting it all together and offering it to the public…

  • @janinestreeter2477
    @janinestreeter2477 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had to embrace Brocolli. LOVE THAT ❤️

  • @micahkhanye
    @micahkhanye 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is that Ava's song at the end?

  • @micahkhanye
    @micahkhanye 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ah my heart - I love this series ❤

  • @guillaumetailly
    @guillaumetailly 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you. 🧡

  • @guillaumetailly
    @guillaumetailly 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Really good episode. Thank you! 🧡

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, yes, yes - so many moments in their stories resonate.

  • @nancewarner5799
    @nancewarner5799 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is definitely an enlightening episode! Thanks to each of you for your vulnerability and emotional honesty. Hopefully your courage will encourage others who are suffering from mental health issues.

  • @micahkhanye
    @micahkhanye 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loving this series 💙

    • @UnfixedCommunity
      @UnfixedCommunity 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So happy to hear this! Thank you for tuning in.

    • @micahkhanye
      @micahkhanye 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@UnfixedCommunitylooking forward to the next one 😊

  • @user-kd6or3md7z
    @user-kd6or3md7z 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    SO powerful. Thank you!

  • @micahkhanye
    @micahkhanye 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🧡💛🧡

  • @guillaumetailly
    @guillaumetailly 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for this first episode. 🧡

  • @TroyFord-author
    @TroyFord-author 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love what Cissy says: if these are normal responses to abnormal situations, why am I the one that ends up with the label?

  • @wainwrightwingerd6617
    @wainwrightwingerd6617 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    'Promosm' 😣

  • @BlessedKarma10
    @BlessedKarma10 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm hearing you. I'm nearing 12 months😢

  • @misterpolytech
    @misterpolytech 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm unfixed; I finally have to admit that to myself...I am a type 01 diabetic & was diagnosed w/ Dermatomyositis & resulting interstitial lung disease complication 17 years ago...Going into remission and then relapsing about every 3-4 years on average. Been on prednisone daily for the last 17 years, along w/ monoclonal antibody infusion therapy & IVIG infusion therapy. Praying & hoping for a miracle healing/ recovery that it seems I get to the edge of, & then it all comes crashing down w/ another relapse. I went from a trail runner, weightlifter & kayaking free climber; now I can barely walk after 17 years of this crap. Current diagnosis is now polymyositis w/ ILD along w/ severe Rueumatoid Arthritis...Blamed myself for years for my health problems; I don't know why, it's not my fault. It's just the issue of being disabled & at my age not being able to function as I used to before. I finally have to admit that I'm unfixable. I've pretty much given up hope for ever living a somewhat 'normal' life, ever again.

  • @dougger42
    @dougger42 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You make the world so much better.

  • @janinestreeter2477
    @janinestreeter2477 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Rachelle! Aw there you are my friend ❤

  • @janinestreeter2477
    @janinestreeter2477 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I fully agree it taught me so much it made me completely change my life & I'm convinced that if I carried on that way without chronic illness hitting me I'd not be here today my chronic illness did save me in a way. Dylan omg yes on our Soul too, wow amazing, every one of you are an inspiration