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@@putnam120 then don’t miss this week’s video drop on Tuesday because he’s PAW-ll over it!

@@jenniferbates2811 yes, a comprehensive understanding of our past informs our present, as does the absence of it

@@CRA404462 this channel promotes discovering and building your ideal relationship structure that will support you and your partner(s)’ greatest happiness and fulfillment with the highest probability of longevity 💗 Why love off the rack, when you can have a designer relationship? One size fits all rarely does.

Not sure what you mean? I do not have an OF account, nor is this video talking about OF.

@@DiegoRodriguez-hc8pc what did you learn from watching the full video? So long as you’re paying attention!

@@rambo6048 so long as you’re paying attention. What did you learn from watching the full video?

@@eddiebaby22 haha thanks! I love this dress💗

@@emotionalsuccess thank you so much! 💗 What was your biggest takeaway from this video?

@@DroidSpeaker-b5f I’d love to better understand what you mean by that. Mind sharing?

@@Passport2Pleasure Non-Manogamy? This is Poly correct? Just sounds like bad news overall. Different hormones are released by the different genders Oxytocin being the prominent one for women. To many partners equals higher likelihood of leaving a partner. Are Jews now open to poly like the Catholics are open to abortion now?

@@DroidSpeaker-b5f you may be interested in my video exploring the chemical reaction known as pair bonding: th-cam.com/video/Pm8pY_gYf1s/w-d-xo.htmlsi=mpnjGTDZYfyDt_ER

@@DroidSpeaker-b5f I’m not able to speak for all people who are Jewish, but consensual non-monogamy is not specific to any religious group or faith.

@@Piratebreadstick 😂😂oh dear😂

@@GarysTales thank you so much for saying so! 💗 What’s been your favorite so far? It’s okay if it’s more than one😉

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@@GarysTales Thank you for the kind words. Not sure what the comments are about titles.

@@bikernieks you just went for the eyes? There are so many other things about me that are so much more fun to make fun of, but thanks for chiming in!

@@ianstarks419 check out the full video to find out! th-cam.com/video/5Dp9ffdhKKI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=ZTuiiM1UFrJ1GCOr

@@Josef-k5s indeed! Have you been surprised by jealousy before?

@@Catloverplayer beautiful! I love it! Is SIMs your first experience trying consensual non-monogamy?

@@Passport2Pleasure Yes in the game without mods.

@@Catloverplayer that’s amazing 💗 do you feel like you’ve learned something or that this gameplay has opened up your mind and heart to something new being possible?

Here's the true test I've found: Anyone can say they want to be polyamorous so as to have access to additional partners for themselves. The real test is whether they're also cool with seeing/knowing their partner is getting other partners too. If they suddenly get weird about that, you know they're just selfish, not poly.

@@AndrewZhilenkoI’d never recommend ‘testing’ anyone but rather educating yourself on what to look out for. My previous video about the ‘Top 5 Poly Red Flags’ is a great place to start, and I’ll have one about the top green flags coming out next month! th-cam.com/video/Hr5TiEIBsWk/w-d-xo.htmlsi=7esz-quouqsuD8jj

@@kenofken9458 speaking/thinking in absolutes or generalities can prevent you from experiencing all the beauty available in life as most of life is gray, not black and white.

@@Passport2Pleasure There is truth in that, but in my experience in ENM spanning nearly 30 years, I've found there are some very reliable behavioral clues. People who obviously want a one-sided open relationship are not poly. Not in any way that is healthy and sustainable. I've seen this play out countless times where the male of the couple insists on a "one penis policy", or where one partner exercises "veto power" more or less anytime their partner gains interests from someone or demands to close up the relationship when they perceive their partner is having more fun than they are etc. That's not to say there cannot be situations where both partners truly want a one-sided situation like cuckolding, but as a general matter when the instinct is clearly to deny your partner the freedom you demand for yourself, that's not a healthy dynamic and it's not going to lead to happiness or stability.

@@kenofken9458then we agree, because what you’re describing isn’t polyamory. It’s because of patterns like this that I made an entire video about poly red flags! th-cam.com/video/Hr5TiEIBsWk/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JTka2vGZo7zWmIYR

@@Passport2Pleasure I only pay for stuff that has a ROI

@@DroidSpeaker-b5f not sure what this comment means. My TH-cam educational content is free. Are you open to elaborate?

I'm sorry your experiences haven't been positive for you.

@@ianstarks419 Me too - any relationship can be a positive, negative orneutral experience. The structure itself is inconsequential.

I'm sorry to hear that has been your experience. Statistically speaking, mono relationships aren't doing well. The more we actually learn about and understand relationship dynamics and communication skills, the better chance we have at net-positive relationships of ANY structure. I hope that possibility for you.

The people who "know" ENM can't work are inevitably the people who can't even make one relationship work.

Probably controlling and/or stalkerish behavior. In the dark ages long ago before I went down the ENM path, one woman I dated, very early on in the relationship started keeping tabs on me. Like having her friends follow me throughout the day. She would then confront me about "why were you speaking to (name)? I usually couldn't answer because the conversations were so completely mundane and insignificant and with people I had zero romantic interest in. It turned out that while she was more or less accusing me of constantly cheating, that was projection of what she was actually doing. That was one of the things that helped convince me to give up monogamy forever.

@@ARomashchenko well done! Which type did you figure out you were dealing with?

​@@Passport2Pleasure competitive. I'm pretty confident overall, so I don't deal with the first one much, and the last two are just yucky. try not to associate with people that have that much baggage if I can help it.

@@ARomashchenko great specificity! What new tools do you use to work with it?

@@Passport2Pleasure could you give an example of tools?

@@ARomashchenko body scan, R.A.I.N. Meditation, and the like.

@@Iknowthings-i5u fantastic!

@@CornerG we don’t have to agree to live in harmony. Your choices are yours and mine are mine - as long as they’re choices, we’re aligned💗

@@NewyJon7787 it sounds like you’ve had some rough experiences with avoidant behavior. How have you managed to learn and heal from it?

@@Passport2Pleasure - Definitely, One of those relationships that was great until it suddenly ended. Initially my confidence with women took a massive hit. I had to see a therapist to get my head around what happened. I had no knowledge of attachment styles until it was too late. Getting back to focusing on myself, gym, therapy and work helped a lot. Confidence is back and as a result, getting dates with women is a lot easier/ more frequent. No idea when i will consider myself ready for a commitment again, but i am probably closer to ready now that i don't think about my ex partner every hour of every day anymore. She discussed the option of being non-monogamous at one point, but as you talk about, for her it was a way of remaining emotionally distant from me rather than anything else.

@@NewyJon7787 thank you so much for sharing that and I’m sorry to hear you had to go through it. Also want to acknowledge you for taking care of yourself and creating value out of it for yourself. It’s hard not to generalize and think/speak in absolutes (all women, all men, etc.) when something like that happens.

@@kenofken9458 closing a relationship doesn’t have to be permanent. Any number of things can occur where it may be necessary for a time depending on the relationship agreements. One size doesn’t fit all, across the board. How do you arrive at your relationship agreements with your partners?

@@Passport2Pleasure It's true any relationship has to be tailored by the people within it. For many years I have only lived ENM/poly. I make it clear to anyone I get involved with or may that that fact is non-negotiable with me. It's generally not an issue because I really only date within circles of people who themselves are highly experienced and poly by nature themselves. Within that framework, there is much that is open to negotiation such as the specific dynamic. Do they want a relationship where we talk or at least text every day? Do they want to see me as often as possible or just a see-you-when-I-see you FWB situation? Do they mostly want our time to be one on one or do they want to go to lifestyle clubs or events together? Do they want us to meet each other's families or metas or just keep all that separate?

@@kenofken9458 Thank you for sharing your relational dynamics as a beautiful example of what's possible when we know what's available to us! How did you first discover ENM and that it was right for you?

@@Passport2Pleasure I think I first figured out that I had some kind of ENM orientation long before any of this stuff was in the mainstream. In my early 20s I, like of course every other guy ever born, fantasized about a threesome. Of course with most men, the fantasy breaks down if their girlfriend wants another guy too. As I though about it, that didn't bother me at all. I kept subconsciously attracting partners who also didn't want monogamy but in those days it wasn't acceptable to admit it, so there was lots of cheating etc. Then I figured out if I don't want monogamy and none of the people drawn to me do, why keep trying to fake it for societal approval or whatever? I first discovered swinging and then after a dozen or more years in that, polyamory. The latter was a harder transition because emotional involvement was a huge taboo in the swinging lifestyle at that time. It took some more years to figure out what kinds of relationships and dynamics worked for me.

@@kenofken9458 beautifully handled and articulated! Thank you so much for sharing 💗

@@TheLunarSystemWrites I’m so glad it resonated with you 💗 blame never gets us very far.

@@jasongadbois4338 which part? The open communication?

@@Passport2Pleasure communication is always the key good or Bad 🤷🏼‍♂️. I just personally never seen any of those relationships end well.. always someone just jaded usually a male partner

@@jasongadbois4338 that can happen in any relationship dynamic. Monogamy doesn’t have a great track record these days either. Regardless of the relational dynamics chosen, we all could do with improving our relational skills, no?

@@jasongadbois4338my stats enjoying heart aches at how you say it *always* fails and then say *”personally* I never see” as if your experience means all experiences are the same or will end up the same 😭