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What kind of desperate loser would degrade oneself & go to a "speed" f****ng dating to enter a swirl of cheepness, humiliations & point blank stupidity ????

This is surprising. I have been told over and over again that if a man is good, kind, and attentive to a woman, she will lose interest very quickly and will want a divorce or breakup. She will join dating apps, looking for a handsome man who has a wicked & selfish side. A man must be unkind to his woman in order to keep her interested and attracted. But perhaps this applies only to young women.

I don't get why he asked you on a date/matched at speed dating if he was then going to be disappointed it was you that showed up...? 🤔

Excellent video!!!! Everyone seeking companionship with others should listen to this hard learned wisdom. Learn from others errors so you recognize your own quicker....

This video looks and feels like an AI made it.

It's not all about what a man can give you, we're not just commodities with internally built check lists. It's 50 per cent what you, yes you, can bring to the table. Women need to stop this attitude that they are the ultimate prize; because they're not. Peace and contentment is the ultimate prize in life, woman or no woman.

I hope you find your way, but women do not pick men, men pick women. I am wealthy 6ft2 tall and in great shape. In 2016 I moved to El Paso Texas to find a traditional woman from a traditional family. I went on over 300 dates before I found my wife. I proposed to her in front of her mother. Here are the caveat/s, my wife is very good looking, she has no children (which if they do have children it is always a deal breaker) and my wife is much younger than I am. After vetting her, she was required to sign a prenup, she was/is required to pay half of every bill we have together, which she does. She had to pass a credit check, and a physical, all of this prior to my proposal. When she accepted my terms for marriage I then bought her the home she picked out, and a new car, she furnished the home by buying all appliance and all furniture. Men like myself are not going to settle, because I do not have to settle. Lastly my wife is one of the directors of our local hospital. Over 90% of women and it is higher the older they get are delusional about finding a man period, and after 40 the women are not worth the effort. Best of luck to you because your going to need it. Without vetting a woman and making sure she signs a prenup/paying her fair share there is NO reason for any man to date, or ever get married. Lastly there are far fewer men than women, and even less than that who are like me. We do not play games and we do not settle.

Ok, from a man who's dated many women over many years with many different types of women (socio-economic status and races; however, this is important they were usually very attractive as that is unfortunately for me the ones that usually were interested in dating me (average/below attractiveness wanted sex but not a relationship); more conservative or less attractive women whom I was interested in (although they were physically attracted to me) always said I was 'out of their league, too smooth, pretty boy, player' etc. who would hurt them in the end (fair enough) although that is furthest thing from who I am 'as an individual' (chubby kid who was bullied up to 16 years of age for context, I understand empathy & compassion and not feeling wanted). I can say this when 'some' men (everyone is different) say 'I want to take it slow' it is very important to take a stance to be objective and see where this may be coming from. He obviously has sexual attraction as would the women or else the chemistry would not be there so that is a given. However, dependent upon his past experiences with women & relationships he may wish to actually want to take it slow so that he may build a fulfilling, meaningful, intimate relationship because in the past (such as myself) he has had whirlwind romances or encounters that have not turned out well. From my past experiences I've always ended up having sex on the first date even though I wanted to get to actually know the woman as in to create a bond and be with them in a long term substantial relationship. I agree that physical/emotional bonding at a consistent pace would be ideal; however, in many instances attraction runs rampant and out of control and physical intimacy happens despite our best intentions to 'go slow'. Men just as women have different histories and it's imperative to ask why they want to take it slow. If their reason makes sense after discussion then you may either accept it or decide to not engage in the relationship. The alternative is to find a middle ground as that would be the best of both worlds. I believe that 'sex' on the first date is a long term relationship killer (unless that is specifically what you are seeking) but physical intimacy (kissing, touching and affection) are essential components to building a bond as otherwise you may end up just as good friends. Your friends can emotionally be there and support you, but a lover or romantic partner prerequisite is attraction & desire resulting in physical, emotional & psychological closeness & intimacy. Honesty and communication even if you are afraid to ask is the cornerstone of a successful relationship, no games, no drama and working towards a common goal of wanting to share your life with someone. Just my 'male' perspective. For context I am in this exact situation wherein a woman I am extremely attracted to and vice versa have a date for next Friday. We flirted and there has been instant chemistry since the 1st time we met. We do not text or speak on the phone ( I dislike text due to impersonal nature & opportunity for misunderstandings due to subjective interpretation lacking tone in them) and she is an introvert with social anxiety that will not speak on the phone. However, we have no problems whatsoever in person, it's sparks flying. Now the reason I bring this up is for months we chatted never wanting the conversation to end, but due to professional reasons that would create awkwardness we have not pursued one another. She did give me the 'green light' upon our 1st chat saying I should take her out to do an activity I enjoy (archery). However, I did not ask her out at that time, nor many times after that as the sexual marketplace and allegations of harassment loom over me as a male (its happened to me a few times derailing my career and I was the one who would not reciprocate the woman's advances resulting in retaliation). So finally I did not want to lead her on, although I constantly thought about her (daily) as I passed by her each day, I actively avoided her so as to not hurt her or myself. However, a few days ago she walked into my business office and struck up a conversation asking where I have been, in the end she said I should call her and asked for my number. I had finally caved as I realize how much courage it takes for a woman to approach and also could not deny my own desire to get to know her in a romantic sense (the final straw). The first thing I said to her after we arranged a date is that I wanted to take it slow. So she doesn't get hurt or feel used and also so I don't feel that way. She's been hurt in the past very badly and is scared but although I don't show it I am too, but I've done a lot of work on myself while she is fairly recently out of a relationship. Slow and steady I hope will allow her and I to succeed where we both have failed in the past. If it means no sex for days, weeks (I don't think I could last months as I am very attracted to her) then so be it, for the greater good. Great video and hopefully everyone here finds their 'one', I've been engaged (4) times, married (1) time and this time I'm taking 'slow' and perhaps going 'fast' ruined those loves of my life. This one is so different from all the others (next door type of girl, tomboy) and so into her that it scares me, I'm 12 years her senior (just turned 50) and even told her my age to which she said I was lying and full of sh*t that there was no way, despite that she and I are being cautious... I'm taking it slow as I think we both want and deserve a fair shot at love....

This video comes from a good place, but it’s not the absolute greatest. Yes, it’s true that some of the best relationships come from first, have a strong friendship and then gradually introducing physicality, but it’s also perfectly OK if it works the other way around. You and another person can start out as just cuddle buddies (or more than cuddling, whatever 🤷🏻‍♂️), and then gradually introduce an emotional bond. It doesn’t matter if things start out physical or emotional. It only matters that both are eventually there, regardless, of which one comes first.

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I was taking a bath and this just clicked in my mind. Why are we made to believe that feeling butterflies is a good thing? I liked 4 guys until now and I felt butterflies around them. At the same time I was able to point out why they are not good for me and I was just avoiding them.

I asked him and never got a response so I moved on.

Wow, this video is music to my ears. Just last night, I opened up and he reassured me that he was there listening. I expressed how I struggle with receiving healthy love and that it causes some walls to come up. He’s one of the best things to ever happen to me. I just get in my head. He said he understood, and let’s take things slow. And that he really likes being with me. It’s worth it to bring up this convo because the men that are serious will want you to open up. Our 3rd date is this weekend, Im really lucky.

It means that i know it takes a while to get to know someone. I dont want to put someone on a pedestal. I want to select a partner based on who they truly are and not the fake version you get in the beginning. Going slow keeps the emotions and fantasy out of it so you can clearly see the person and make a good decision

Not sure if you will see this but thank you. I am smiling through my tears as i write these letters. I hope this works…

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I don't agree with what you said at all. I think physical intimacy does not come at the same time as emotional intimacy does. I would put physical intimacy on the back burner until you've known the person and their mask has fallen off usually two years. Some people can't wait that long and that's their prerogative, but once the man has gotten that physical intimacy he's more likely to dump you if the emotional connection is not there. So take your time building that emotional connection and do not give into those physical urges right away or even too soon. Keep your options open and date as many Gentlemen as meet your standards until one asks you to be exclusive and you decide to agree.

Wow. Unrecognizable. And she added 'Blum'?

yes and if he can’t understand your question asking then hes not the man youre looking for

I found you through a TinyBuddha article you wrote. Thankyou for your videos! They are exactly what I have been looking for❤

Thank you for an inspiring dialogue! Negative thoughts and self love are challenges for me as well. I like the idea of approaching moments of weakness with kindness and curiosity instead of self condemnation. Every success story felt the same way I do on Day 1-LOVE that!!

I’m always saying yes smh #sayNo

Thank you for the video

We've been seeing each other doing activities each day for a Yr now. Not sex. We have told each other that we do have feelings for each other. But he says he doesn't want a relationship? I panicked and told him I want 2 move because I can't keep waiting. He absolutely panicked. We r both still friends. I was going to ask you? Is a Yr friendship too long to wait whist building a lovely friendship? Please

I had an 8 year long relationship and was happy and contented never felt the butterflies just plain peace and calmness. This butterflies/anxiety is what i felt with my connections with narcissists. Seeking validations, not knowing where you stand, and overall manipulation.

Somebody broke my heart this year this is why I don't want a relationship or date again fuck this!

Can fear cause the butterfly feelings too, the butterfly feelings I’ve felt in the past were more like excitement like when you like or have a “crush” on someone but this butterfly hurts my stomach I’m wondering if it’s fear.

Thanks 🙏🏽

He said he is trying to build puzzle for us and he said he have trust issues he got hurt before . Mmm

It usually means he's not really into you and leading you to the friend zone. It's a nice way of letting you go but then leading you on at the same time.

Wise words even though we don’t like to hear it

I like this guy and I decided to be bold and text him that I had feelings and he said that he felt the same way but wanted to take things slow and get to know me more which I totally understand but i feel like he doesn’t actually like me as much as I like him ( I have looked at a lot of psychology and body language videos that all have said that he realllllly likes me but I don’t think he wants a relationship when I currently am looking for a relationship)

Love your advice 💕

I will give this a listen. Plus, I will need to come back to listen again and take notes.

How far is addicted to my ex territory totally because I was so in love but he wasn’t with me but now I found a wonderful sorry man Lego movie fine to wait

Definitely ask and definitely take control ask a lot of questions and like she said believe what they say you cannot change force someone to fall in love with you if they say they’re not ready right after you talk to him and they say that they’re just not ready because they’re not over whatever call me when you are

I'm a widow I just moved here I'm lonely and he took full advantage of the situation..now I developed feelings for him but I've stopped he doesn't know yet but he will the next time I will tell him no relationship no more

Physical intimacy for me should come last. Like in marriage. Thankfully I found a guy who believes the same. We are having a blast getting to know each other as friends first.

How about if this was his response; ah that is a long message hmm of course i enjoy being your friend. i enjoy being silly with you. i will have chat and talks with you as long as may be willing to communicate. of course i understand what you are saying as well. i guess i take things slowly and not the type of person to make false promises. i can only be myself is all. hmm I already asked him frankly what’s taking it slow , and he told me a week ago that he got broke up from last relationship a several months ago.they were 7 years

Your absolutely right… thank you

Problely got a few on the go sadly

I ask and he says he doesn't really know right now

I am starting a new relationship. We both said let's take time to get to know each other, before we get really physical. Are we wrong?.

This was so his response. Life is bit hard these days ("How u started thinking so much already..? I mean, i m still haven’t feel u all yet. Take it slow and understand…. Let’s just be open to each other and see if it really meant for us. If yes, then it will automatically be visible to us. Or else it’s totally upto u😊 No pressure regarding anything from my side. 😋"")

I can see that you're coming from a real place of care & concern & I have to admit, it's the most sound advice I've received all day regarding this topic. While you did mention that "guys don't say this to girls they're excited about" in general, you've reminded me to go with my initial gut on this one & "just ask him" so thank you 😘