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Crabs in a bucket is what us church is. Low standards and not kicking people out of every church for not abiding the word.

I commented on this two years ago; when I worked for a church (as admin guy). What I now observe is that the NT church met to edify one another; where all contribute to the assembly (in an orderly manner). 1 Cor 11-14 sets this all out. We meet to learn and teach, not to spectate at a concert! We engage each other's lives. We learn how to talk the gospel to others, to encourage each other. Not just to be the stage hand at a womens' club.

Great insights, but I have to laugh at the title-how many guys go to church with David Murrow, and why are there so many who don't like attending with him? 😉 In all seriousness, as I've seen as a lay minister it's hard enough to get the men to attend regularly, let alone look up from their phones. Keep the faith, help your fellow brothers feel welcome and needed, and trust in Him!

I’ll say for single men like me never been married no kids it makes him like. What do I have too offer in their church building when majority of your sermons are geared to wife and kids sermons?

Calling some boys low testosterone isn’t helping the church.

This was an excellent video and very accurate from my experience also. I’m a musician on the worship team but fortunately we aren’t a bunch of touchy, feely wimps and simps. As a younger person I hated youth groups and lock ins because it was too geared towards emotions and females. I stopped going and would never recommend anyone go to these

Church suckd😊

I bet the handicap people really appreciated that joke you silly guy ( they blocked the word I tried to use🤬).

Honestly, as a manly man,, I get more from my daily walk and devotion with and to Jesus throughout the week than I do from attending church. I get more prepping for my men’s Bible study that I lead every Saturday morning. I get more out of my prayer time. Pretty much the only reason I go to church is to encourage other men and to show my face. I can’t be a leader and not attend my church. It just don’t look good. Honestly, I’d rather be at the gym or cutting the grass than be at church on Sunday morning.

I know in my heart that there is only one true God and Jesus Christ is his son and he is my Lord and Savior. I have read my bible back to front each year for at least 15 years, prayed over people, helped when needed, but when my ex wife left me for a married youth pastor, the church turned their back on me. They did nothing to help ease my pain. I can't go to a church in my area without her prints all over it due to her "ministries" or book signings ect ect. She can preach forgiveness but cannot treat me with respect. I thought I was the only one, then I discovered this content and judging from the comments, so many more of you are heartbroken. I am sick of hearing on how men need to man up, only to go home to a woman who stifles any form of manliness and leaves when you hold her accountable for her own sins. I am sick of women being treated like hero victims while I see them sleeping around with multiple men in the church. I have never seen a pastor call out the women of the church for dressing like pole dancers on the front row. I didn't leave the church, the church left me.

We need a divorced men's support group. I have seen a ton of divorced men who need the love of God,especially as they have went through an experience which destroys men. These are men who need some comforting,but also,discipleship and guidance,to help them get through this experience

This is not a problem that began in the 19th century. It’s as old as Genesis 3:16, but it began to encroach seriously on the European Christian mindset about nine centuries ago. The courtly love associated with medieval chivalry had the effect of divinizing a knight’s mistress, so that earthly sexual urges were replaced with a pseudo-spiritual abasement and obedience to her wishes, transferring the worship of God to the worship of femininity, which was (and unfortunately still is) assumed to be more righteous than masculinity, thereby sanctifying acts of war. The troubadour poets of 11th-century France, inspired by Arabic sources, began the practice of celibate adultery and the love of women as an ennobling moral force. It’s no coincidence that Marian pilgrimages and French cathedrals dedicated to “Our Lady” began to explode in growth in the 12th century. The mystics Catherine of Siena in the 14th century, who claimed that Jesus gave his foreskin to her as a wedding ring, and Teresa of Ávila in the 15th century, used the concept of courtly love to express their devotion to Christ.[1. The English Order of the Garter and the Burgundian Order of the Golden Fleece were formed in the 14th and 15th centuries, respectively.] Even Francis of Assisi called himself “a knight for Lady Poverty.” As Christians mainstreamed this devious philosophy, it came to be seen as the means of transforming marriage into the perfection of love by spiritualizing it. In Romeo and Juliet, Shakespeare shows how seeking “love” that is disconnected from family and familial obligations turns into a sociopathic horror that ends in death. In the prologue to Don Quixote, the stated purpose of the book is “to destroy the authority and influence that books of chivalry have in the world,” and in the text Don Quixote tells Sancho Panza, “Religión es la caballería” (“Chivalry is a religion”). Thus, the framework for feminism was erected. The path from there to here is fascinating to trace. It began with Christian men, superior over home, church, and state, seeking to baptize their efforts in allegedly unsullied womanhood, as though this was a blessing from God himself. Christians replaced procreation with romance as the template for marriage. A happy home became the evidence of a man’s faithful obedience to God, and an unhappy home became the evidence of his disobedience to God. God’s law was replaced with a woman’s feelings. It’s important to realize that women demanded social and political equality with men after it had long been established in many churches, contrary to what Christians had always believed, that women are the judges of their husbands, and society is obliged to accept their judgment. This was helped along by men’s natural desire to protect, defend, and support women, and due to their own ignorance, the Bible became less of a guide to them than consensus. Feminism infected the North during the 19th century and worked its way south. Today, distinct sexual roles are considered by the average urbanite to be as valid as a belief in alchemy. At the movies, leather-clad, cross-dressing women with perfect hair easily defeat seasoned warriors. We witness now the comedy of drag queens being banned from sodomite pride parades for fear of offending “transsexuals”! Soon, female scholarships and business subsidies will be treated as a binary assault on civil rights. Unfaithful churches have this foul wind in their sails and are fanatically equalizing sexual roles, having long since abdicated authority in the home and civil realm. Christian leaders patronize the masses, preaching that wives are moral barometers for their hapless husbands. The mania to ordain women is now matched only by that of inventing racial sins committed by departed white men and proudly and loudly repenting of them. The boundaries of race, nation, and sex are being obliterated in the name of “love,” defined not as our Christian ancestors defined love but as the Communist Party, Democratic National Committee, and Anti-Defamation League want it defined. And just as unrequited lust was considered ennobling by French medievals, “gay” Christians (but not pedophiles?) are honored members of godless churches today, so long as they don’t act upon their desires. And if they do, well, don’t-ask-don’t-tell. Chivalry subordinates marriage to romance by teaching that women are inherently moral and the arbiters of manners, and that the wife is superior to her husband. Chivalry requires that after a man pursues a woman[2. Yet the only two books of the Bible that are named after women, Ruth and Esther, are about women who pursued their husbands.] and she judges his merit as a husband, his virtue must continue to be judged by his wife’s emotional state after marriage. This leads to cuckoldry, frivorce, and a host of ills.

Mega churches are full and will not grow anymore than it is now. (Not with men) The current model of praise and worship is the problem. Bands, coffee, hands up high swinging. The message is sometimes good. But guys don't want to hold hands and put them up high for all to see. And this video was 8 years ago!!!

Church just hasn’t been the same since we stopped crusading :(

I'm not a big fan of people it's just me being autistic

I don't attend church because it's all mythology and bull💩

1. We are the Church. The institutions are not. 2. Start meeting together in each other’s homes. 3. Stop trying to get 501c3’s and start doing what the first church did with their money: make sure no one in the congregation has any need. 4. Stop acting like the lifeblood of Christianity is MONEY. It’s the Holy Spirit. 5. Start looking to each other as family instead of “members.” You will be spending the rest of eternity together, so act like it. Men aren’t leaving the Church, they’re leaving religious institutions. There’s no need to go get them and bring them back, they’re already the Church.

Homosexuality is not a lifestyle, not about sex, not given by any satan. Homosexuality is a natural healthy born orientation with an evolutionary meaning. This man-made religion with their false man-made morals will disappear one day with those who believe in it. Homosexuals then will still go on existing. I wish to every homosexual, that he/she finds a loving partner , marries and raises kinds in responsibility. As a Deist I send you a lot human love :)

8 years later and the only thing that has changed is churches are splitting because of various sicknesses. I have watched alot of videos on the subject and none of them identity the real reasons men dont attend church. Sad and pathetic

Women saying there are no dateable men in church. what they really mean is the men in church don't make the money or have the title that the women like. Because they are unwilling to date or marry someone who may not make as much money as they want. They will remain single . But did God call women to marry the rich man? nooo! Our jobs in the kingdom of God are to preach the gospel,not to have a comfortable life.

The church system is no different than the secular school system.

Modern churches have the Jezebel spirit. And the men in supposed leadership have the Ahab spirit the men are not willing to put their women under submission for fear of the woman's backlash. Most men in the church fear the woman's nagging and complaining at home if I've seen it once I've seen it a thousand times

It is misleading to say men do not like going to church. It is based on the false premise that "going to church" is a legitimate phrase that describes a reality that can actually happen. We are part of the church. We are part of our marriage. We are part of our friendships. You can go meet with friends, but you cannot go to your friendship. You can go to lunch with your wife, but you cannot go to your marriage. You can attend believers' meetings, but you cannot go to church. Now, with that out of the way, the question needs to be recrafted like this: Why men hate going to feminized, religious social club meetings.

I live in a small town qith really only one church. The " worshipteam" are all young ladies, the church board has 5 women and one man,and the pastor selected a young woman to be assistant pastor about a year ago. I rarely attend now.

The reason why no real men will ever go back to church, is because the church is wussified (with a P). All the men in those churches (to include the pastors) are a bunch of wussies (with a P). As a former Marine, I don't want to associate nor have community with a bunch of pusillanimous LGBT+ born-again wussies.

“The Jesus is my boyfriend gospel” has to stop for sure. One time me and my wife attempted to join a house church and in one occasion a sister in Christ had a problem with the idea of a men always being the head of the church. All men had to pretend like the Bible doesn’t already address that 😑 annoying

Because the modern church worships g overnment instead of God.

We had woman in the 80-90’s were dating Jesus I had a gal in the early 1990’s came to my house every Sunday after church for lunch after 6 months she would not return calls avoided me at church she and paster falsely accused me of all kinds of stuff they called me fat ect few months latter she Marie’s another man who was 4” shorter and 50 lbs heaven than me found out latter he was making 150 k a year it was about money

Great conversation.

Man, this guy finally calls out Joshua Harris' bullcrap!! Hero!!!

I remember being a kid and watching all the members of my church during worship, raising their hands and singing and couldn't help thinking how stupid this was, I couldn't make myself go back as an adult

This is why clergy and all leadership positions should only be male. This is why all important decisions of running a church, doctrine, theology etc should be male. This is why churches that are not openly patriarchal, heirarchacal and deeply traditional have nothing to offer their flock except slow decline and death. It's why I feel a closer connection to God at a Latin mass than any praise and worship pop concert church full of unveiled women....and why those churches are full every week, often several times a week.

modern churches are to gyncentriuc,

These fellows sound like they had been listening to Rush Limbaugh ranting about “feminazis.”

True

Wow Joe Biden on that time have had a lot of red flags, Christians should've known about!

What's the point, if you're a single average bro you'll never meet your future wifey there, they all seem to want Mr Church Chad and his long guitar neck.

Thanks for calling out Joshua Harris who turned out to be a false convert

This was made 8 years ago, and this attitude eventually degenerated into white male grievance, which is killing Christianity and democracy.

I love how they have such a serious setting but come up with the funniest lines.

Same sex marriage is only fought for so they have the same rights as heterosexual couples. If you did away with marriage than the world would go to hell in a handbasket. No more children and life would cease to exist. Main reason is God says it's a heinous practice.

Need a little lighting. :)

the denomination churches are "pastor-ruled" thus the falling away of Men (not) Christianity !!!

Men are held to traditional roles and values. The Church doesn't know what to do with modern women's roles, so there's no BALANCED accountability. The Church is also struggling to balance a merciful/ graceful God and a feared and just God. Although He's our heavenly father, God is a lot less warm and fuzzy than many think He is. ... also, y'all need to pay the light bill. 💡

While there are things that the church can do to delay the inevitable, there is nothing that can be done to stop the demise of Christianity, and the reason is quite simple, it's all bullshit.

Men dont need jesus, they can live a good life without any religion, even a spiritual life if they so desire

7:09 "when I was a kid, praise and worship was a couple of songs (...) and then we'd get back to the pizza" It sounds like what he wanted was a club and not religion.

The music thing is a big reason why I went back to a traditional Catholic Mass. If I see electric guitars and drums, I'm outta there. I don't like singing traditional hymns, much less the love songs to Jesus that so many churches are into now. The best word to describe it for a man is "Cringe".

No... I was never a knucklehead:) Inexperienced yes. Very mature for my age in certain areas. And immature in others, yes. But the big thing was Jesus. Coming to Him. With all of my faults, all of my sins. And realizing that I was a good man, as I am now. I’m just not sinless or faultless. And that’s why I need Him so much! I wish the church would just let me alone sometimes in pointing out, not my faults, but my potential faults. That is enough.

I believe our country’s destroying the middle class also affects the Church. More and more young men can’t support a wife and children, house , car, etc. Maybe the new question should be is it really okay to be poor and a Christian. Step away from the Bobby and Suzy success store of having white teeth and rich.