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I hope your doing okay my brother n i would love to talk to you one day about some things i need help with

Yesterday I had a panic attack due to my anxiety. It was horrible. 😢it feels real

I had a friend of mine who has horrible anxiety and panic attacks. When I first met her in 2017 at our cognitive group therapy, she would tell stories about how hard it has been to cope with her anxieties and at that moment, she got so emotional about telling her story. After she finished her story, we all got her permission to give her positive feedback and I was the first to ask her to give her a hug which she said yes and I was crying with her because I was showing compassion and empathy towards her. I genuinely felt her pain. For I too, struggled with anxiety and depression. Then a year later after being laid off from my first job for over a year, I have autism and I was struggling to find employment, anxiety and depression. One day, I’d reached out to her by text and we texted each other back and forth about how we got to see the Grinch 2018 in theatres and what we thought of it. Plus we then, opened up about our struggles with feelings of insecurity, depression, anxiety, worthlessness, etc and I told her how I feel like I never get a chance to help people with their struggles because I feel like they don’t give me a chance to try and she said that I help more people than I realized and that at group therapy, I legitimately helped her through her hard times. And over the next couple of years, we started getting to know each other more and more and become very close friends, plus I’ve helped to encourage her to take her new anti anxiety pills even though she was very scared to take them for fear of overdosing on them. So I offered to come over to her house for emotional support and I told her that I still care about her, that I love her, that I support her and that I want to make her feel safe and loved and just cheered and encourage her on. She got up the courage to take the pills and she was so overwhelmed that she ran into my arms in a panic and just cried her eyes out. I comforted her, telling her how very proud I was of her and that everything’s going to be okay and she started to calm down. I will never forget the words she said to me were “I really don’t know what I would do without you” and it made me cried happy tears because I’ve been waiting to hear those words from someone for so long and that for the very first time, I felt like I’ve actually helped someone I loved who really needed me for support and comfort and it meant A LOT to me. Now these days, I don’t get to hear much from her or get texts from her much these days due to her busy job as a ultrasound technician and other things but she knows that if she ever needed me for some comforting words and positive reassurance, I’m always a text away even she doesn’t always text me back 100% of the time. Despite her lack of texts and lack of replies, I’ll always be her friend and I’ll always love and care about her no matter what. And even if we are going our separate ways, I’ll never forget how much of a positive impact she had in my life and how she inspired me to learn how to love myself and be a better friend. So I have absolutely no regrets about my friendship with her because I love her more like a sister and I owe her my life for how she gave me a chance to help her. 😊

Thanks man. This was something I really wanted to learn because there is someone who I care about and I want to have this knowledge for.

Sorry for being awkward but you are a very kissable person 🙃 I mean you are hot.... but its the warmth and kindness that compels to just kiss you out of love .... Keep doing what you do brother ❤

One interesting counter-note: when my wife feels overwhelmed by anxiety, she actually *hates* being asked "What do you need?" Instead, she just wants to be held and told, "I'm here with you." I suspect there's a clear reason for this: in general in life, she's already keenly aware of what she needs in every situation, and trusts herself to articulate it. In moments of anxiety, she just wants to feel like she doesn't have to think or articulate anything, but rather just wants to be 100% taken care of. She will articulate if she needs something different. In a way though, this is also a form of answering the question, "What do they need?" but just by knowing the person ahead of time :)

Caleb Hoffman video

Really practical, clear & useful. Thank you!

Amazing session brother ❤

Very helpful, I wanted to help out my friend that's going through a lot, Thanks!

Irie

Someone who gets it. Thank you.

By the way, I love your background.❤

I’m sorry, I don’t think by labeling problems is a good idea at all. The person who is trying to help a person with anxiety should just listen. Labeling makes it worse. My sister labeled one thing that I love to do, might be the cause for my anxiety, and that made me even more upset.

My favorite sister was trying to help me bringing all sorts of reasons why I had anxiety, instead of helping me, she became one of my problem. She kept calling me once I told her I feel fine and enjoying my time vacationing with my husband and kids. She kept calling me, and I told her off not to ever mention anxiety and even not to send me videos. She took it hard and send me not nice note, and w don’t talk ever since. I don’t care!

This is such a helpful video when trying to help someone with depression or anxiety.Asking them what happened is a brilliant question because of course for every effect there is a cause. So in a lot of cases it will get to the root of the problem I would think .Well done

Thank you so much Reuben. I found this so helpful and I've subscribed :) Blessings from New Zealand :)

His little acknowledgment at the end 😭 thank you so much for the whole video!

*Watches to support wife* “Hey not bad, this is very insightful! Maybe this’ll give my oblivious mind an edge in not being useless to my partner during the next attack 👍” *I want to take a moment to acknowledge you* 10:05 “Aye man *wipes tear back* you don’t have to do me like that let’s focus up here...” 😂

Since my one and only big brother died… my mom is having panic attacks at night and i want to help her with it

If u don’t wanna watch the video, just distract the person, try to get them not to think about it, that simple

Thank you ❤

My sister’s anxiety has been really acting up lately. Sometimes She won’t talk to people, hug people or try to express it with anyone. I don’t know what has been going on with her, but I know she’s not ok. this video was very helpful though!!

My partner suffers with severe anxiety and panic attacks and it gets to the point she needs to be hospitalised and I try to comfort and be there for her as best I can but most of the time I don't even know what to do, I always seem to say or do the wrong things to help her through it and it sets her off off worse sometimes when all I want to do is be there for her so I appreciate this information and I will try and apply these techniques next time it happens thank you!!!

Ok but why did your acknowledgment at 10:10 make me tear up? 🥹

Superb advice.

This is such an incredible video, I am shocked it doesn't have more views. Showing this to my partner tonight! It's so hard to explain what to do & what not to do when you're in the middle of an anxiety spiral or panic attack. Thank you so much!

I have anxiety .i need your help

Hello! How can i reach to speak about a new very social media special platform that does exactly what are you saying in this video 1:1?

This is very helpful

Next time include sub captions as not everyone understands the English you speak due to different accents

My grandfather had copd and enpazema. He is close to the end of this life and he is scared. This causes major anxiety and panic attacks. I'm looking for a good way to help and care for him.

This was huge man. Thank you so much.

Such a awesome channel Reuben! I’d really like some more info about what anxiety is and how to manage it, if possible at some point ☺️

Great vedio ,very helpful , thanks for sharing the vedio.

Thank you for this. What you do is very important. I have a new friend who struggles with anxiety and panic attacks, and I want to be able to help them as much as I can because I’ve never done this before. This helped a lot!

just gonna leve this here: 1 hug goes a long way

thank you! My friend is going through really bad anxiety lately and I hope I can help a bit

My partner takes it personal when I’m having a panic attack he thinks Im not happy with him then gets mad at me while I’m having one.

My friend had a panic attack or anxiety attack today at school and I didn't know what to do and just tried to ask what was wrong and listen to what they were saying. So I wanted to learn what I should do when that happens and this helped a lot thank you:)

My daughter has anxiety attack when I want to manke her understand that ur first priority to focus on ur studies and career and limit socialising with friends in this pandemic and she don't want to inform me in advance or take my permission and suddenly did thinks & plan with informing me when I tell her why u did this she is reacting that I m restricting her

I care for somebody a lot but they’re panic attacks freak me out a lot and I feel so panicked myself even tho they say that me being there helps them. And now all my other friends are telling me to back off such a stressful place to be in

Thank u so much for caring i hope that can help my best friend

This is for my girlfriend

Thank you 🙏

Over the past week I've had three panic attacks and I'm trying to get information so that if I have one at school and can get ahold of one of my friends they can come help me. All of mine this week have been mostly at home, but they start with this feeling of something bad and next thing I know I'm crying and trying to work through it

I'm glad to have found your channel. Got a nice little chuckle in the deal too, because the next person to subscribe after me will be sub #666. Or maybe that's me, I dunno how fast it updates.